Japa Nigerian Man KíIIs Wife Months After Family Relocation To UK - Taiwo Owoeye And David Abodunde

[@hawkithreesixtydegree9017]

I am doing my responsibility as the man of the house financially, yet I still clean my house, shower my kids, take them to school, and take extra classes because I work from home while my wife goes to school. If you want to be a King Kong as a man, you have the forest to live in or head to the zoo. Nigerian men have to be taught over again. This is abroad, where everyone is stressed, including your wife, so you don't sit on the couch watching football matches while she goes to work/school and still expect her to come home to cook for you. Go on the food cooking network to learn and drop all your useless and worthless pride in your pockets. I cook for my family by learning from the food network since we moved abroad with no regrets. It is my family. If I don't take care of them, who will?

[@emily_gemify123]

God bless you and take care of you in your old age.

[@faithieflame4976]

Exactly!! My husband do the same!!!! It's your family!!!!!

[@monfayekoffi1534]

God bless you for understanding that a woman is a human being. Thanks you

[@cassybello-osagie1966]

Blessings!

[@eneoloja9985]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Abusive men should stay in Nigeria abroad is not for you, here there are serious consequences for your actions.

[@Kezeth20]

No my sister, they should go abroad so that they are arrested and justice prevails

[@olabisidurojaiye]

God bless you

[@everymanisyourteacher9951]

Most of them will or are walking freely in Nigeria.

[@kehindeemiabata4032]

Facts

[@abimbolaabiodun9505]

@@kehindeemiabata4032 I wish we could start to know that the majority of so-called cultures and traditions' rules are nothing but peer pressure from the dead people who live a different life from the present life.

[@onelove4all]

He has no right to kill her! Divorce could have been better!!!!

[@menvicstudio]

You are completely spot on with the fact that the problems Nigerian women face in the hands of Nigerian men is fueled by Nigerian women because these men are encouraged mostly by their mothers, sisters, aunties etc. How wicked can people be to think that anyone has the right to take another person's life. The people making the comments you read are most likely capable of taking a life. Those who know them should be weary of them. All this I am the man nonsense, growing up in Nigeria, my mother was not the one doing all the housework. Helps and relatives were usually there to help out so I don't understand how anyone think that their wife can do all the house chores abroad. And then, to make it worse, these women are also working. If a woman has to do all the housework and still earn money for the family, then the man should be ashamed because he is useless.

[@shafd6722]

Pls Sis, get the full story before you bring the roof down... Wife killing is not a Nigerian tin

[@imeldangadzania5212]

@@shafd6722I’m starting to think that it’s. Because here in the USA, at a point it was becoming an epidemic. Especially Nigerian nurses being killed by their husbands. You rarely hear this evil deed from other groups of Africans.

[@menvicstudio]

@shafd6722 I did not say it is a Nigerian Men thing to take the life of their spouse. However, this problem of entitled and violent men is not just Nigerian but most African thing. And I repeat, our women are aiding this behaviour. Please read my comment properly before attacking. We need to identify the problem in order to come up with a solution, and like Summer rightly said, we need to raise our sons better ✌️

[@kehindeemiabata4032]

​@shafd6722 what she is speaking is the truth. There is no excuse for murder, what truth do you want?

[@ainsworth501]

Then she needs no man.

[@mariamalabaran8869]

My sister, you’re right in America too the same thing I’m a Ghanaian and married to a Ghana man. He wants to use the African mentality. Yeah from work you come home he wants you to serve him,I need to eat and l just came from work and I’m tired, I have four children to take care of and cook for them. He wants help. He’s home doing , they are heartless, they don’t have conscious they don’t think they don’t have a heart.

[@menvicstudio]

Wow! If I were you, we will discuss and it's either I work less hours (meaning the money I earn is only my pocket money, no contributing jack) or we share the housework. If he does not agree, then I might as well be single.

[@Akosua_Owuor]

Ha! This is the reason why I didn’t marry a Ghanaian. My dad used to lay on the couch whiles my step mum does everything. She will cook serve . He will eat and won’t even wash plate. Even snow he won’t plow. I said oh this won’t be me. I married a Kenyan and he knows better. The days I am tired I text him , find your food before coming o because I didn’t cook 😂😂 it’s not me that you will stress. We can’t all work the same 8 hours and you want to slave me.

[@kehindeemiabata4032]

99% of Nigerian women are married single women. They are married, but live like a single mother because she does all the work and childcare like a single mother. Your better off being on your own because you don't have the added stress of a manchild on your back.

[@sandraokonkwo900]

They are heartless

[@TheGreat-dh5oo]

He probably thinks you are a robot 🤖 He's out of his mind.

[@asaba81]

Forever and a day, I will support women who say they don't want to marry. I will forever support them. The rate at which women die at the hands of their supposed "husbands" or "lovers" is MUCH higher than the reverse (men dying by their woman's hand). Marriage can be the worst thing to happen to a woman, this is the truth.

[@Talesbymoonlight247-e5s]

Very true

[@nikkione9901]

Especially marriage to black men . Worst thing ever

[@violetfalana74]

Very true, there was a psychological study done about this , and it showed that married women are the most depressed sector of most societies!

[@asitis7624]

​@@violetfalana74absolutely

[@asitis7624]

We are very depressed here.

[@MamaDKing-ro7bp]

Summer you are very right, a colleague of mine at work an Indian mana nurse and his wife also a nurse, both have young children they share the duty of looking after their children without paying a childminder. This man sings most of the nursery rhymes while working and we laugh at him and then jokingly I asked him why is it always kids songs, he stated that he can’t not even watch his own channel at home,e because when he is home with the children he joins them to watch their own channels. He bath and dress them to school most days. He still respect his wife as they are colleagues. Some African men are really terrible with their own children and disrespect their wives.

[@dradaeze5947]

I feel so sad for mosts women out there. My handsome Daddy works so hard, cooks,cleans, washes, Goes shopping and prays without ceasing....I'm afraid of what people go through in marriages out there. Marriage is a beautiful ministry if both parties are bests of friends. I just Love how my parents marriage is different from what I read on sm Daily. I'm so blessed and grateful to God.

[@helenalfred840]

❤

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

You are blessed.

[@africanblondy1]

Nobody have right to end anybody life ❤

[@afolabiadedayo6558]

Helping out with house chores and school runs with the kids doesn't make us less of a man!!!

[@lizzybens]

Say it louder please😅🎉🎉

[@RDCFemmes]

It's your house,they are children,it's not helping It's being responsible. It irritates me when men say helping. Contributing to support financially, emotionally etc the family you created is not helping is doing the right thing.

[@afolabiadedayo6558]

@RDCFemmes I get where you are drifting to... I was trying to make a point from the perspective of Men that don't contribute ANYTHING in terms of house chores etc. The point I was trying to make is understood.. Call it helping or if you want to command your husband and it works for you good luck 👍 😉

[@victoriousqueen1995]

Abroad is very stressful please and that's why i quickly ran back to Nigeria and have my life back biko before i die of stress for nothing 😂😂😂😂.

[@3Dmom232]

I keep saying it, abroad is not for every married couples.

[@victoremmanuel567]

God bless you. You have said it all.

[@prettyme3150]

💯 People don't know. It involves many unknowns; sadly Nigerians only dwell on the financial gains that comes with Japa. You may gain the economic benefits (after lots of hard work), but it is incomparable to the psychological impact a different environment brings. Its mind-blowing the depressed, anxious, envious, unsettled minds I see/ hear even among supposed Christian couple. Never shown on Facebook or Instagram. But they will quickly display the mortgaged homes and expensive car. A lots of people are unhappy. After living overseas for more than a decade, I now understand the meaning of these words: "A man's life does not consist of the abundance of things he possess..." Each country has their positives. Anyone with a critical mind will quickly realise that despite the gloom and doom in Nigeria, there exists that intangible valuable stuff. Be good. Be cheerful. Be contented. Be grateful anywhere you are. For those in Nigeria, don't ever for once believe you are less blessed or less happy than people living overseas.

[@tochukwunjoku]

Why are we even questioning what a victim did? A restraining order indicates that the man was extremely abusive to her and the case was probably in court.

[@phoebeiphy9223]

My sister. God forbid am justifying d husband killing his wife. But in Nigeria, we manage our marital problems without involving police n restricting order. We should be cautious.

[@tochukwunjoku]

@@phoebeiphy9223so you call abuse martial problems? By your name I am assuming you're a woman - right? and you believe people should die in the name of "managing our marital problems without involving the police"? Listen I use to be an IDVA and handled many many high risk cases in my career, that will make the blood in your body boil - restraining order is there for a reason - clearly it was needed! I don't know why she was not moved to a place of safety - maybe because she had no recourse to public fund. Wonder if she was failed?

[@TracyAl]

@@phoebeiphy9223do you think this is okay. So she shouldn’t call the police on an abusive man

[@faithieflame4976]

​@@phoebeiphy9223, some of you women in Nigeria is use to abuse, so I am not surprised you speak this way☹️

[@chantelbrown4752]

A lot of Nigerian women are ok with abuse in the name of being married

[@eneoloja9985]

Very well stated Summer: Nobody GIVES anyone rights. Rights are inborn. Abroad RESPECTS people's rights, not give them. That's what Nigeria does not do and Nigerians can't learn the difference.

[@ndorikeenyinkeowo7773]

I said this and will say it again. If Nigerian women living abroad comes out on television to tell the whole world what they are going thru in the hands of their husbands the whole world will be shocked.

[@swiitdoll]

My co workers husband hits her. My friend called the police on her niece’s husband, he hit her badly two weeks after childbirth. Nigerian men are very abusive.

[@delia9271]

THANK YOU MY SISTER FOR SPEAKING UP ABOUT THIS, NO WOMAN SHOULD LOSE THEIR LIFE IN THE HAND OF A MAN. MOST AFRICAN MEN SHOULD RETHINK, WOMEN ARE NOT THEIR SLAVES. THOSE WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE, PLEASE DO NOT TAKE ANOTHER PERSONS DAUGHTER AND MURDER, REMAIN SINGLE. THERE IS LAW ABROAD WOMEN, AND CHILDREN HAVE RIGHT AND THEY ARE RESPECTED, IF YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT THAT WOMEN HAVE RIGHT, DO NOT VENTURE TO LEAVE YOUR COUNTRY. STAY THERE AND PRACTICE YOUR POWER ADDICTION, EVEN THE LAW IN NIGERIA DOES NOT PROTECT ANYONE, IT IS WHO HAS MONEY WINS THE CASE, CORRUPT TO THE CORE. I HOPE HE WILL FACE JUSTICE.

[@sueschannel-morningglory4242]

SUMMER YOUR WISDOM IS OUT OF THIS WORLD, THIS IS THE WISDOM OF GOD. YOU NAILED THIS ONE.

[@olabisidurojaiye]

Summer you have nailed it. Most of the next generation hate this our African mentality.

[@tritonglobal127]

Summer, your analysis is beautiful. No matter what happened, no-one has the right to another one's life. Like you said, let's wait for the full story to emerge.

[@NgoziNgadi]

You are absolutely right Summer. You did a great in breaking it down. I have nothing else to say.

[@user-ud3mp2ex9p]

Well spoken Summer. Our mothers, aunties, sisters and all other female members in the family must help train our male children to respect females, learn to do all the household chores with their female siblings and reprimand them when they go wrong.

[@AgathaOkolie123]

The truth is that the man has been a violent husband back in Nigeria and the woman has been tolerating him, but when they relocate to abroad the man started again but the woman resisted bcos she's in a country where the law works, that is how bad the man has been to the point he killed the woman bcos he felt he doesn't have that respect again

[@tochukwunjoku]

Summer, you already have your rocking chair.....it's like you're getting ready for old age🤣

[@summeraku]

It’s just that I don’t usually film from this side of my house… I’ve actually had it for years 😝 But true, old age has some oo 😝

[@asaba81]

I believe that the man was abusive while they lived in Nigeria; it's when they got to the UK that she finally found how to "answer" his abuse through the UK system. Domestic abuse, man to woman or woman to man, is evil. It is not by force to marry or stay married. If you cannot control yourself because of anger, then you have no business being married.

[@danielakinyemi1594]

You are wise. One thing is even if she did not talk, the neighbours, their children's teachers will escalate

[@ijeomanjoku]

I saw a comment on fb the person said the woman was his colleague in Nigeria and she was the one who relocated her family abroad through her job.

[@OlubunmiAdaramoye]

That is what I heard too but people think it's was the man that brings her abroad. The big mistake she made was not having something to defend herself like protection 🔫 this is what woman need now enough is enough

[@damselola7719]

These abusive men have their ways when in Nigeria. He must have been abusive to her since they were together in Nigeria, moving abroad is just an escape from abuse for most of our African women which these abusive men can not handle. Speaking from past experience and including Africa friends i have around here, 90% of Nigerian men are very abusive to their wives.

[@ibaileibaomo7660]

That's a big lie! If you chose and experience abuse, then it's your choice. Many of you women in the first place like and seek idiots for partners then turn around and complain about men being irresponsible and abusive. Please isn't there a saying that "good girls like bad boys"? And is this quote not from the western world? Except you want to lie to yourself, you know you women only like responsible and gentle men as besties, you claim they don't turn you on. So deal with your choice of men.

[@kalimbaayinde25]

Yes they are and l know!! I have dated and married Nigerian men. They are not only physically abusive, but emotionally abusive. It’s not always physical. They can be very narcissistic.

[@kalimbaayinde25]

@@ibaileibaomo7660most Nigerian men are idiots and haven’t been trained to be husbands or good partners. They feel since they are an African man, they know what’s right! No, many African men are horrible partners. They dismiss BW feelings. So, as a BW, there aren’t many good BM!!

[@ibaileibaomo7660]

@@kalimbaayinde25 Wow. You dated and married them? I guess they must not have been that abusive and narcissistic as you claimed for you to have dated and married many of them. It's quite refreshing and vindicating that those exposing you women's hypocrisy as regards infidelity, abusiveness and narcissism are women bloggers on social media. You have played and fooled us for so long with the victims card but everything is now coming to light as to who the true culprits are, thanks to the conscientious women bloggers of today. By the way, who raised these men you claimed to be so bad and undesirable for you, men? This shows your level of emotional confused state. You give birth to them, you raised them, you desire and pursue them because they have and exhibit that "bad boy" characteristics that turns you on, then you turn around and blame their sisters and mothers for them turning out the way they do. Stop blaming all men for your wrong choices. Choose better next time. There are millions of women happily married to Nigerian men.

[@LadySubstance1]

​@@kalimbaayinde25veey true i experience that too

[@soinda87]

As a woman who works, I don’t overwork my self. I’ll run my house according to my energy levels. Not going to kill myself. If you’re resting I am too. Some men will not even mow grass or quick fixes around the house but wants you to be 100 punctual on your roles. No thanks

[@Veeda_Ady]

I am with you on this table. Nobody is coming to assess my house. If my partner is uncomfortable about something, he should fix it or remain silent until I have the strength to continue from where I stopped. House chores are unending.

[@soinda87]

@@Veeda_Ady yes. Most women in my country look older than their age because of overworking meanwhile men looks young. I'm not going do the same.

[@queenesther2634]

It is very unfortunate when a man believes that his wife is his property. May God deliver us from demonic partners. In some cases, nobody would even believe the woman when she cried out about the abuse. They will end up labelling the woman for protecting herself from abuse. If you enable an abuser and turn away from helping the abused, you will definitely pay for it in one way or the other.

[@sandraokonkwo900]

A big Amen

[@fa9183]

This is why I believe bride price should be abolished !!

[@DorisL-ti6yn]

Summer, thanks for your analysis. I also know an Indian man that takes care of the home and child while the wife is working. He has been doing that for many years. Few of our African men will do that.

[@duyilemary8835]

Summer na wa o.. This men matter dey tire person... I just fear for our daughter. Imagine a parent thinking they are giving their daughter's hand in marriage to a man as a 'human being' only for the same man to turn murderer overnight . It's painful.

[@CA-tq7kl]

Summer, u are very right with all u said. All Nigeria men need to listen to the advice of Neze Peperempe before coming abroad. It will help them a lot. Wives show the advice to ur husband before u japa o.

[@marveesirleaf9840]

After she has returned home from doing 12 hours, He still wants her to beat fufu and served him on a Saver plates😳.!

[@thebestindewest]

#insane

[@JANE97458]

You are very right Summer! Our men really need to learn and be educated in these family issues. Every part has a role in marriage and must be accountable for their actions ❤❤❤✨✨✨✨ I pity those children! Their life have been messed by their father.

[@peacendukwe]

I can imagine the pain of her family.

[@preciousekuma7165]

That's an intelligent lady talking

[@vivianndomadu7130]

. Most Nigerian men abroad do not understand how difficult it is for their wives to work or study full time, be a wife, a mother and still massage his ego Constantly. They stubbornly refuse to adapt until it is too late.

[@emmanuelaladeloye]

I lost my banking job in my first month of marriage. My wife was the only one working for about 4- 5 years of our marriage. I would wash all the clothes , do the dishes and clean our flat. When I was done would leave the house and stay in the church till evening, around 5. Eventually the jinks was broken. I got a job in another sector from the banking which I have been doing till date. I still do most of the laundry every weekend. All this happened in Nigeria. By God's grace I overcame the hurdle of my marriage.

[@suzy_q1]

AFRICANS OF THE WORLD … pls forward this video to ALL FRIENDS AND FAMILY especially NIGERIANS who are amongst the most relocating to the western world . GOD BLESS YOU SUMMER ! true word !!!!

[@dorisenga4701]

Love you so much. You are speaking nothing but the truth

[@summeraku]

❤️💋

[@icequeen491]

Thanks for sharing this Summer ❤ This case is not gonna be the last kind we will hear about unfortunately. While we are feeling sad about this I think it’s best women begin to learn. I am Nigerian and I have never had any Nigerian man disrespect me to a great extent as I usually end all forms of communication once there’s a verbal disrespect and many are very emotional with temper issues. Now we need women to start learning how to pick husbands or better yet starts standing their ground against society pressure to be married by force. Also women need to understand that most men aren’t comfortable with women being bread winners as most men are biologically built to haunt, lead and protect. So when this biological factors are suppressed most men tend to channel this energy towards seeking extreme control from their women to feel masculine and this is where the abuse begins. Society believe all men can easily switch roles and play the house husband but I don’t believe that’s worked so far based on the deth rate statics of female partners portraying similar situations. The Law is still very lenient on these cases especially in the UK, sadly but we as women can prevent by making sure a man understands what responsibility means before getting married.

[@Avy999]

But women too are not biologically built to provide yet we rise to the occasion when the need arises.I personally think the reason men become resentful when they are not the provider s is nurture and culture.

[@icequeen491]

@@Avy999 Yes women are not Biologically built to be providers but women force themselves to take on these roles because of fear of being Single and the desire to have children. I have never met one woman who proclaims how happy she is to be the bread winner of her home. So until women begin to say No! Forget the fear of not being married and start demanding respect from men the abuse will keep on. Research all cases of DA and you will notice all victims have things in common, poor self esteem, desperation and fear. These men know how to pick their victims so well.

[@FitLifeFabless]

@Summer, the lady is a family friend of ours, I have known the family for more than 17 years, they live in Ekiti State before travelling out. I heard about her death from her twin brother 3 days ago. May her soul rest in peace.

[@Avy999]

Did he give you more details?

[@vickyadedapo5085]

May her soul rest in peace

[@evie9202]

There is no reason for someone to murder someone else. Period.

[@josiahorjiude2799]

I am the provide and protect my family ang God helped me I am married to a respectful wife. I find myself naturally doing any house chores because I don't want her stressed out, and I want her to conserve her strength so we can have time to spend together. If she wasn't respectful, would I have still want to see her happy and take over anything that will stress her despite my daily hustle? I doubt it. Many women become worse than the devil once they find themselves earning more than their husbands. I hope he wraths in jail for killing his wife, but no man can cope with a confrontational wife, it's the reaction that will different for different men

[@taiwoomoyin4168]

Personally to me it is wrong for any man to maltreat any woman not only in a marriage. The signs were there. The woman should have ended the marriage long before they even relocated abtoad. Marriage to me is not a do or die affair, if it is not working and the differences can not be resolved, kindly go your separate ways.

[@adeyinkaajani7726]

Some of us have been in the UK fore over 18 years and we never get authority involved in our home. Even children dont know anything about police even when they see them. It's lack of mutual understanding when couple are going abroad and they don't sit each other down to understand the society they are going to.Thats why some people can blame some men or women. Treat each other with respect and don't let society change you.

[@Callmeshuga3778]

I lived in this apartment with a Nigerian couple and the lady works 16 hrs a day Monday to Saturday nonstop. The man work only 4 hrs Monday to Thursday.And after work,she comes home to meet their house dirty with the man sleeping. She has to cook,do all housework while the man sits on couch watching tv.. she sleeps at 11:30 midnight and wakes up at 4:30am.(5hrs sleep every day) Lived there for 3 yrs and never saw the man even bring the bin out.. not even once.. the woman did that. One inquisitive girl got close to the woman and asked her to take her time cos she looked sick,tired and stressed but the lady said her husband brought her here and if she dares complains,the husband will kill her.. I was so sad and concerned for that poor woman.

[@VeeOgulu]

We must train our daughters to earn their own income and not too dependent on a man. Sad

[@RA-ms3je]

Being married to an African especially Nigerian man is an extreme sport. Who said it is bad to be single,happy and alive??

[@ugoeziegwim1552]

My dear you are absolutely right, unfortunately wrong mindset and selfishness.

[@yvettewilliams5967]

Yes, tell the truth. When they marry a white woman, they do kiss the feet of the woman and her family! Why? They feel inferior to her, they carry her bag and they also COOK. The husband cooks. Books must be written about this scenario,. So very sorry re the loss of life. Tell the stories SUMMER!

[@blessinganita3162]

Oh yes I said that few days ago, women voice will be heard we will rule, Thanks Summer more wisdom 🙏

[@ADAOBIEKE]

I don't know why people can't separate in peace. No matter what she did, she doesn't deserve to be murdered. In regards to culture, thankfully I wasn't raised to patch up a marriage that is clearly not working or to bear domestic abuse. The man seems to have resented her for sometime maybe from Nigeria and in the UK, it magnified.

[@muffettwilliams4030]

Summer i swear you are in the wrong area of nursing ,you should be a therapist , you are always on point #i always respect your view points

[@olabisidurojaiye]

I have finish watching a video about abuse in Asian family. Documentary. Unlawful killing and abuse. Very sad. Seeing this video makes me sad.

[@janicerichards8959]

💯💯💯💯 Facts! You nailed it. The West Indian/Island Men are exactly the same. They take their bad behavior to the USA as well and they get Checked by the Courts they can't handle it. They were the Kings back home expecting the same abroad. Both party have to work to make ends meet. Yet they still take the wives for their slave. She must do everything. That is impossible. Respectfully! ❤❤❤

[@risetv1]

not all west indian men. my west indian dad is nothing like this. he has looked after us cooks cleans respects my mum and raised us all to do chores including the boys. they been together over 40 years. he came to england already knowing how to do chores look after a farm. maybe this younger generation are different.

[@nkimminkimmi794]

Restraining order will not stop a crazy person from acting crazy. If you can move, move far!. Japa is not the problem. It only exposes people’s true color. So many marriages in Nigeria won’t last if the Nigerian system starts respects the dignity of its people, and provides services for people to not feel the need to marry to survive. Most people in Nigeria Marry to fulfill societal expectations or to be taken care of, so people marry someone they don’t like or stay in the marriage despite maltreatment just for survival.

[@joyceadenekan5672]

Is it by force to get married?

[@Ekwy2023]

Women, please “all men are not the same,” therefore wait/look for your spec. If you make mistake, learn from your mistake, and move on to where you’ll be valued and treated right. If need be repeat the circle until you learn enough to identify your spec from the whole pack. Responsible men exist, please do not settle for less. By the way, please work on yourself, develop your skills and talents. Be smart!

[@tapangeunice7204]

I like this message "do not settle for less" work on yourself. Truth be told. You are perfectly correct 💯

[@vickyadedapo5085]

​@@tapangeunice7204👍

[@Heydeeok]

Japa does NOT break marriages. Toxic husbands and wives do! A failed marriage in Nigeria or anywhere in Africa is a failed marriage abroad. Also, a successful marriage in Africa - if all principles and practices that make it successful are continually applied - will remain successful anywhere else in the world. Period.

[@georgets6324]

Well said, Nobody is doing each other favour in a healthy relationship but what together to achieve their aims

[@ayodeleyoosuf8951]

Even in Nigeria, any man that cannot do house chores will choke the wife with duties because she's working as well. Women be wise

[@childrentoys4537]

Atleast they can easily get a Help.

[@tumerua]

Until women start training both their boys and girls while growing up, the society will be full of trained women paired with untrained men. The consequences is usually disastrous 😢😢😢😢☹️.

[@tammymakwele7850]

Indian men, clean,cook and do school run even the grand fathers, they treat their wives nicely excellent team work

[@swiitdoll]

And they don’t say they are polygamous nor have side chics with kids in India. They can be misogynistic and terrible as well sometimes too

[@user-pb4zy7yb8h]

Thank you so much for this talk.

[@thehoneydeev]

Men should drop the ego back home not just abroad to focus on what is best for the family. If the wife is working, men can take care of the household. My condolences to this lady’s family.

[@cicelysoulsojourn0101]

Thank you for doing this and making it clear that’s it is not okay under any circumstances.

[@estysheg5667]

When i told the pastor and my therapist hings hubby, they didn’t believe me because he doesn't look like it. Until i started recording it, ...pastor said maybe i nags, and i told him it's hubby that nags, and he couldn't believe. People think it's only women who nags... when I am angry, i move to another room to cool off...hubby will keep coming to get a reaction, start singing, dancing, and playing abusive songs....his favourite is ayinla omowura

[@ayodeleayodele6500]

😂😂😂😂😂! But, he doesn't do domestic.V. Very funny!!! I love Ayinla omowura! 😂😂😂

[@Avy999]

This is me exactly . I had to start recording him o.he is from Ekiti.

[@estysheg5667]

@teeooh691 mine is ekiti I think it's a family...my mum in law does the same too...she can kneel for a baby but will show you pepper

[@estysheg5667]

@ayodeleayodele6500 that is where people get it wrong....verbal abuse is the common reason for depression and suicide. Many people are sensitive and can't absorb some words. Taunting and bullying your spouse, friends with words could trigger them. A young girl jumped into a river bcos some bullies called her fat.

[@ayodeleayodele6500]

@estysheg5667 I understand ur point! And I know the difference. I never support any of it. It's only funny to me becos, what ur husband is doing is what women do to their husbands while men are known for DV. That's why the ppl u are reporting to find it difficult to believe u! But if u had said he's beating u, they will easily believe you. Either way, none of the two is good!

[@labelledujour5855]

The problem is “Bride Price”, you cannot convince me otherwise, this tradition needs to be abolished.

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

Absolutely, it had a good intention but with evil people it has now become something else

[@blessingfriday3318]

❤❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for always telling them the truth

[@micht5358]

It takes an emotionaly matured husband full of love who can do that Summer. Unfortunately we dont see that happening

[@mamajojoworld798]

This marriage was over. Her husband was abusing her and beating her in Nigeria, why would you bring a man to the United Kingdom who was unkind to you? To the man too so nobody advised you that the way your treat women in Africa will never work here? My neighbor wife is a psychologist. He took care care of his children, cleaned the house, did all the shopping while his wife completed her PhD, by the way, he graduated with an engineering degree from the university of Maryland too oo. Faithful to his one wife, dedicated. His wife just told him , if he wants to quit his job , he can. It pains me when a woman dies and leaves her children. Marriage that force. Why would any woman be with a man who treats her badly and cheats on her In America? The man has already shown you who he is? Be there suffering and smiling because of social media. I will forever remain true to myself. No faking .

[@Zeiny905]

She literally brought that man to the UK

[@ajobeo]

You’re so correct my sister. Those questions need to be made public. They forget that God visits the iniquity of the father upon the children. When their daughters start having issues in marriage they will be running up and down like lost chicken!

[@alainnnorom2929]

I think no one has any reason to kill another person no matter what happened.

[@Jynx_Vivi]

Great analysis Summer.You are very objective.

[@joyoseye2593]

Well spoken summer!! More grace!! 👌👌👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌💖💙💜

[@joshuaajayichannel5784]

Ekiti people has anger issue.

[@reginaafolabi4552]

The woman is Ekiti woman.

[@LyfeofNikkiLee]

Well said Summer, guys with this mentality will always meet their fate. A toxic ego will be their downfall.

[@ngozidibia7278]

You said it all.

[@justinaigwe5791]

My dear Summer, I agree with all you said, things are changing very fast in Nigeria, I believe we all we have new Nigeria that is made in Paradise in years to come. God is on our side. Thank you and God bless you.

[@bettyliciouscooks]

Blaming the victim. I am not surprised. Men responsible for killing and abusing women in Nigeria have been gotten away with it because Nigerian law protects men. They travel abroad and realise that they are no longer protected and face the full wrath of the law.

[@samston]

thats like letting a bull among your silverware, these abusive men will eventually kill you, dont marry so quickly. You could be marrying your killer. Leave them alone.

[@mrsfeliciauhunmwangho1869]

Thank Miss Summer, well said.

[@godschild4615]

Summer, God bless you for addressing these issues the way you did. I hope our men will listen. Even in Nigeria, things need to change

[@wunmiekpa8205]

Yes, Summer you have hit the nail on the head, I live in Germany,my husband can cook but whenever he cooks he calls it' Abomination ' because we are from Nigeria Cooking his own food o

[@heleneda8939]

😂😂😂

[@khadhrikhan1549]

😂😂😂

[@peuplades]

Summer may we not fall into the wrong hands.

[@lizzybens]

Most marriages nowadays are built on the wrong foundation because one or both parties come into the union as a way out of poverty. Nevertheless this does not give anyone the right the delete another.

[@debbieforareason364]

The man allegedly was responsible for the late wife’s father’s death by the pushing him down in anger when he was trying to confront him for hitting his daughter. Misogyny and narcissism at its best!

[@lizzybens]

What??? 😳😳😳😳

[@tolulopeajibode6490]

Heard something like that he hitted one of the wife's parent from a realiable source

[@swiitdoll]

And she stayed married? She died doing what she loved.

[@amos_emyblogs647]

No matter what the woman did is not enough for him to take her life, generally no one has the right to take their own life not to talk of someone else’s. I’m going through my own frustration here too doesn’t mean I should take my life.

[@olakunlebada2867]

Hi Summer I will advise you to treat matters like this on an issue by issue basis. What I have discovered is that you sometimes judge on the basis of your own past experience

[@summeraku]

Absolutely NOTHING in this video is about my personal experience. I simply addressed the narrative some people are always quick to come up with about Nigerian women abroad when ever there’s a story about a man killing his wife. I said it several times in this video that we don’t have the full details yet about this case

[@timothyobasi6269]

The UK police should be blamed for not being proactive in responding to the sos call by the woman. If they had acted proactively and restrained the murderous man away from the vicinity, the woman wouldn't have been killed.

[@snsn7251]

People need to realise that other countries won't put up withthe nonsense you get on with bk home. The lady saw her way out. Her eyes were opened. He's clearly an insecure man.

[@nitrainabee6235]

It's a pity this happened to our sister and family her family regardless what is going on as a family we all assist each other we are husband and wife which makes us [ONE] so we both do chores for our family because we are one

[@user-kn3yi1es2f]

You are hundred percent right, I don't know how people comment, that man killed his wife, I think they thought a woman is their slave.

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Na wahoo people that just got here. Village people really followed him here.

[@jongnicoline3988]

You are 100% correct about Indian men even in the USA. Don't mind those people.

[@Trendingtopics-u4i]

Very painful. May her soul rest in peace

[@vickyadedapo5085]

Men protect their own daughters but send another to grave. Its crazy how some men believe they can turn their wives to slave, eat, lie on couch, and be giving order still want to be odogwu leave to live.

[@charleschigbo3805]

In the bible wife respect your husband and husband love your wife What the problem is disrespect what men need is finish We have culture where we came from

[@florencengozi7219]

So if she does wrong, does that give him the right to kill her

[@Lady10123]

We will continue to have this problem with our mindset and mentality.

[@yvettewilliams5967]

I agree with you 100% SUMMER!!!!!!!

[@yikirujustine1159]

Amazing analysis 👏