"This Is Why 80% Of Relationships DON'T LAST!"| Jay Shetty

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[@sd02]

Plus other reasons why Relationship don’t last; 1) no loyalty these days 2) lazy at making things work wanna move on to the next thing, knowing dam well it happen to the next too! (Pattern behaviour will repeat if u don’t break the cycle ) 3) poor communication they communicate about their issues to others than between themselves as a couple 4) don’t have a reason to why they love each other 5) everything is about lust and séx nowadays that’s why it ends so quick

[@StefanAlexandruGeogloman]

Agreed. Partially. The problem has more depth than that though. For example, loyalty is rare this day but people still want it but they don't really understand what it means and they don't offer it back. It's more about sex, but sex is still a problem since many don't have the patience to connect to each other and make this better. Love is everywhere as a word, but as an action is rarely there, being there and working to for a better you, me, us. Laziness is also true, but this is a general thing for people today - they just can't be consistent for a longer time for making something work or to get the desired results. It's a messed up world.

[@harnoorsingh2866]

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[@ankur.singhs2111]

Absolutely right.

[@margomazzeo1680]

@@StefanAlexandruGeogloman Yeah..it really is..

[@stacyanndyer5092]

So true that's y I'm single because my love language is like it makes no sense. I don't know what else to do so I walk away from it because I am only hurting myself. No I'm drowning in tears and sorrow now I don't know who to talk to and as u say these men now a days or more intrested in sex and as for me not on the top of my list. Because it will always come in place

[@LulaS]

The secret of love is to loop giving and receiving ❤❤❤. No relationship can last without reciprocity.

[@maryjanenichols6101]

damn right

[@dexterfolly304]

👍

[@margomazzeo1680]

The damn truth!

[@sumedhvyk6687]

Hey Jay love from India . Could you please share your thoughts on codependency in relationships and how to come out of those codependent patterns

[@jodi-annmowatt4686]

That is true

[@princevashisht-english7377]

"Happily ever after is not a fairy tale-it's a choice." -Fawn Weaver

[@katvond6346]

L❤ve the quote!!

[@harnoorsingh2866]

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[@jessagalpo5076]

My new fave quote

[@SN-bl6xm]

Yes, but this only works if both treat each other with respect and both let the other one be a individual person!

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

Sometimes, it is not a choice and sometimes the fairytale can become a nightmare.

[@emilyngo]

When you stop working on yourself and becoming a better version of who you are, your relationship suffers.

[@harnoorsingh2866]

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[@saiprasadpanda5288]

I highly recommend (Secrets of Sanatan Dharma must) a must read book available on Amazon and kindle

[@jessicajefferson9904]

Hello

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

Sometimes, even when you keep working on yourself and becoming a better version of who you are, your relationship can still suffer and die.

[@cjd5255]

1st you should never stop working on self. And yes sometimes we lose a relationship bc we have grown out of it. Or we have changed our values, boundaries and partner no longer fit them. It's a vibrational difference.

[@nehainthebay]

“Spending time with yourself and knowing yourself”. So true for success with almost everything in life.

[@donnadatta3857]

I believe in unconditional love. Nurturing, caring, sharing, respect, flexibility, loyalty and understanding

[@mahi-yv2or]

Yes indeed, but it is very ideal.

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

I did, until I unconditionally fell in love with the wrong man. I can't unlove him, but fortunately, I wasn't married to him - so I let him go - though it devastated us both. I have since found another man, whom I will learn to love, and I chose to only marry him and remain married to only him for the rest of my life. No other man I will allow to become my husband.

[@cjd5255]

Agreed.. my dog gets unconditional love bc that's what he gives. Every single day he is consistent. Love for a human I have learned through experience now comes with conditions.. otherwise (i feel) there are no set boundaries and no sense of self worth and value to observe. Many ppl get in realtionships and don't even have the same view of what cheating is to them. Partners are not mind readers hence why communication is so important. 💖🙏

[@guitarsz]

Good grief what a BEAUTIFUL woman. Inside and out.

[@VerenaSatriani]

The great things about Jay is that he shares his relationship experiences with us. Real experiences in what to do in relationship. He doesn't jump to things that he never been through.

[@samjones2015]

True👍

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

I recommend (Secrets of Sanatan Dharma must) a must read book available on Amazon and kindle..

[@ilovegoddoyou7003]

WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING. SO DON'T STAY ANGRY FOR TOO LONG LEARN TO FORGIVE AND LOVE WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART.DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO DONT LIKE YOU. ENJOY THE ONES WHO LOVE YOU. 💞❤🌻

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

I rejected some who love me, and I chose the man who I will remain with.

[@BeyondResist]

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli

[@anika.minx_]

Connection Proper Love Language Empathy Vulnerability Compatibility

[@LiveSmartEssentially]

Unconditional love a reciprocity

[@oppositepod]

Many times we can figure out our partners love language by paying attention to how they love us. People usually love others the way they like to be loved. If your partner buys you thoughtful gifts their love language may be gifts, if they do things for you (make you coffee in the morning, get your car washed, fill up your tank etc.) their love language may be acts of service, If your partner is very affectionate, likes holding hands their love language may be physical touch, if your partner tells you they appreciate you, gives you compliments their love language may be words of affirmation, if your partner asks you to go for walks, bike rides, go on a picnic their love language might be quality time.

[@aashisinghchandel57]

I don't know how a person can come every week with really heart touching thought😊😊

[@itsmyworld624]

It's simple.... By using his brain😊

[@harnoorsingh2866]

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[@NeerajKumar-ji3we]

Exactly... he's a salesman

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

I recommend (Secrets of Sanatan Dharma must) a must read book available on Amazon and kindle..

[@noegowego]

Relationships are not about what you can GET OUT OUT them. They are all about what you can GIVE to the other person. If we think this way we will never face relationship problems again. 1. Why would anyone have a problem with that? 2. Why doubt ourselves if we are a fundamentally ADDING value to the other person? Having this approach will make you resilient against rejection, drama, and negativity. You will radiate confidence, charisma, and abundance everywhere you go. Love you.

[@breaktheshell4486]

Never thought of if it this way. Thanks for sharing. I checked out your channel. Keep it up

[@breatheliveandthrive7404]

Love Languages don't work if your partner refuses to acknowledge their serious unresolved trauma.

[@jojoc326]

**standing ovation** 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@heylookits]

Underrated comment!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@LuvliexXJazzieXx]

AMEN !!&

[@armaninyc1212]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@lauriedelgado8395]

FACTZZZZ

[@lidiacerna9778]

“ You only learn new things about yourself when you do new things with yourself “ sheesh!!🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️

[@andresmacastillo]

Asking/discovering your partner's love language should be done during the "falling in love" stage. This should be taught to everyone. Helps massively

[@LydiaSmith-yx5jc]

So good

[@jamesangell6027]

I feel far more positive about staying single now and working on myself. You really are the most inspiring personality out there, I still feel like crap for various reasons but you’re helping me identify why, and how to change. Thank you for your inspiration Jay.

[@therealgamerofhindustanjai4717]

Bad habit don't take time to learn but bad habit take times to leave. Good habit take times to learn and good habit don't take times to leave.

[@LuvliexXJazzieXx]

💕💕💕

[@rebeccabest7766]

Her laugh!! 😂😂 made my day!

[@samjones2015]

Seriously!!!

[@samjones2015]

Am sam...can I know you?

[@ntong4952]

Same here 😂😂

[@charliewebster7726]

Acts of service, for me. Because I often feel overwhelmed, I feel really loved when somebody goes out of their way to lighten my load.

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

The KEY is the willingness to work through the issues. My mistake was marrying a man who did not have the skills (or the willingness) to compromise or come to a resolution. He blamed me for everything. Our relationship was a huge disconnect. We did not make it.

[@jojoc326]

Same, except I wasn't married.

[@angelarmicheal2926]

Hello dear I know who can help you on relationship issues. It worked for me.

[@yascantu4787]

Wow this comment 💯

[@azzandavid3219]

Thank you Jay please never stop helping us, we really need you!

[@vo6172]

I love watching the things you put out in your videos Jay Shetty! Thank you so much for being you and sharing your thoughts/experiences.

[@BeautifulDzyre]

My love language is acts of service and quality time.

[@missindie4199]

Me too

[@theuniquegrl]

So inspired right now---5,4,3,2,1..making new memories. Thank you so much Jay for sharing this.

[@alliewilliams7408]

Thank you for this video!!! I needed this!!!

[@cyerraj8267]

You have to know , grow as a person, love yourself first and foremost. Can't be afraid of true intimacy, communication is the key! You're awesome Jay , real inspiration, raw, break relationships down.❤💜🌻✨

[@asnimek]

People judge on looks and then be cheated or dumped yet they keep making the same mistakes. I don't understand some people but what I DO understand is that people make mistakes you just have to learn from them. If you never learn from your mistakes you will never grow into a better person.

[@shivnirajpoot4684]

really i feel deep sense of happiness in your videos

[@malakhiwebata1413]

Wow it makes so much sense why I love gifts so much... My mom used to buy me gifts a lot... Also I love words of affirmation & that's because my dad used to affirm me a lot as a kid

[@ZeroBloodGaming]

The hardest thing a small youtuber can feel is when you wake up in the morning and nothing has changed on your channel. its always been my childhood dream to become a youtuber. the videoes uploaded by this creators makes me strong and gives me motivation to make my own videos. Sadly enough i had a really hard time and ran away from home with nothing anymore . i have nothing left.I Had to build it all up again and after 5 years im back and so much more motivated.Trying to Work very hard to have my own house my own computer and a editing software and play games... I am a casual gamer.. Just being able to edit makes me feel so satisfyed and proud. Even tho i got no viewers and very low subscribers .but watching my work makes me so happy And hopefully i can make so much more people happy with my videos ! I hope one day miracle happens? I will do anything to make my childhood dream a reality ! THANKSBRO

[@ZeroBloodGaming]

@@nishtaramsamy1901 thanks bro

[@DelightedSoul130]

Love is not a temporary feeling or emotion. Emotions and feelings Change, sometime daily. But true unconditional love is everlasting ♥️

[@MotivationToMovegoal]

You become a champion by fighting one more round. When things are tough, you fight one more round.

[@AmanKumar-lg8hf]

Just beautiful explanation by Jay!

[@0104blackpearl]

This is so good!!

[@ShelTenAwesomeness]

Always some good content from Jay 👍🏽

[@apureenergyme8573]

My love language is quality time, word affirmation, then physical touch. I don’t think I got these needs because my family was giving me so much of these, I feel it is more of what I naturally desired or feel happy if I got these. As matter of fact, I grow up in a family had no any idea of these things that they need to give to their kids.

[@vishwaashah1464]

Jay you're the best motivational speaker...So much to learn from u ...Love from India❤️

[@ednaarriola4296]

Im so happy right now because this is what i need to here😍 THANK YOU SO MUCH!💞 This is what i need right now specially having progress and doing new things for myself 😊 And for the relationship advice thank youso muchi loveddd this video🤗😊😍

[@choosengeneration2470]

Jay this is really breathtaking message I ever heard. Waw i can say that thank you for sharing this video and it will heal our soul coz healing the soul and mind is what the whole world want this time .god bless you again and we love you .

[@martinibabe9616]

Dude, this was such amazing explanation.

[@ishikaahirwar9947]

The moment when he says "where are gifts?!don't you love me?? Me:jay ur book change my life nd everything i love you so much 😻😻😻

[@divyasj4951]

I ❤️ her heartful laughter in this video.. not many laugh or express there happiness so bold.. 😉

[@harnoorsingh2866]

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[@margomazzeo1680]

@@harnoorsingh2866 Stop..

[@AC-ny1di]

Why does he hate living and settling in Mangalore?

[@rhamo100]

Both of you are looking cute 😍

[@aartideosthali1454]

Go and make new memories.. one of the best advice ever❤

[@obedmuanliannaulak5705]

Love is about understanding our misunderstanding.. Sailing through the storms...

[@ReemaAtHome]

The interviewer is gorgeous!

[@samjones2015]

Just like you😊

[@peachescastle6659]

That’s Ashley Graham the model.

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

I recommend (Secrets of Sanatan Dharma must) a must read book available on Amazon and kindle

[@vaibhavsinghchouhan7324]

We want more videos of this sort jay

[@keiheaherakiwi1611]

Trust trust trust, you have to trust.... communication is a must, be honest, ask for help from your partner, be present, listen to them no mobiles no gaming.... take time to talk. Appreciate them for the things they do, making the bed..... everything be thankful and say it.....Don’t settle if you don’t agree, don’t agree to anything unless you 💯 sure it’ll work........

[@keiheaherakiwi1611]

@@quinnmay1991 no I am in a good place with a new love ❤️ thank you tho. I’m divorcing the ex it’s been a long time coming

[@yaraviera4444]

God bless you your very inspiring you really making a change...

[@cdeanneeckles]

Thanks for sharing this video

[@missdeniza1338]

This what I really need to hear today. Thank you so much. 😘😘😘

[@themetalgardener4960]

New things with yourself...all the time. We should be always growing and learning.

[@casneharamesh5887]

Mantra for long lasting relationship : Forget & forgive __ Forget the good done by you and forgive the harm done by your partner. If you don't forgive your loved one than who will???! Love each other more and experience divinity through it♥️ Love is life♥️

[@DwellweHser]

I love your speech 🥰

[@bintesarwar2938]

Love it... Kindly plz add the subtitles..

[@jaycorin]

Your videos are amazing,

[@agusmertajaya10]

Respect to each other and more apreciated the small thing that your partner does, it's better than anything

[@ektas2016]

True !!make new memories

[@FilipinaHustler]

I was smiling the entire time .

[@shirleymckenney-hornyak7117]

Best video. Thanks

[@alfred1573]

Thank you Jay, thanks from Slovakia 🇸🇰. :)

[@jasleenkaur7902]

As for my opinion, true love is a God gifted, it's not giving to everyone. But as for my experience a true relationship is that where v easily understand , respect &love to each other. And if ur love ur partner a lot but he or she doesn't care u, so don't leave them, one of the best idea is to go wherever he wanna go, u don't say anything bad words in the fight, but I am dam sure one day he"ll back &just say u r the only one who loves me more.Loyality, caring&love s really important in every relationship ❤

[@Simonaroundtheworld3]

Love your saying

[@thierrypapillon]

5 4 3 2 1 blew my mind, thanks Jay! 🙏

[@bharati6190]

Loved your 54321 ‘formula’ (for want of a better word!) to create new memories!

[@karennavarrete4525]

Just yesterday I did that exercise to remember in the mountain and I did it instinctively, what a surprise to know why wooo!, thanks

[@vidhikakkad4272]

It was excellent ,Really watchable video,Thank you so much.I really needed this healing video ..Thanks a ton !!

[@sarahjacks3326]

Do you need help dear

[@strangesecret4660]

Thank you

[@simplisticvlogs]

Hie Jay you videos have because a better me both in a relationship and outside thank you keep spreading the vibe

[@Revenx2]

I have edited this and put effort in it I would really appreciate you liking sharing and watch till the end Thanks

[@Recinos7]

Jay, you're the best!

[@kaustubhvatsa9879]

awsomev video jay sir

[@jasmine5711]

Thanks much for this priceless information 👌 👍 😀 I really appreciate your assistance 😀

[@jessagalpo5076]

That’s why it’s called mutual relationship, two different charges attract to make the load work. When you give, you take. You should reciprocate the amount of love the significant other has offered you. When you show some respect to your partner that’s love, and it cost $0.00.

[@BeccaL2016]

First! What Jay said about your parents or family is influenced your love language is so true. I am very much of acts of services, i feel I am cared if someone does something for me. Because my mom always did things for me when I grew up, she even did my school homeworks for me😝😛 but I am also #4 gift because my father never bought anything for us so I associate not getting a gift as not being cared

[@sunlight3638]

love love this!!!

[@jessicauwadiale262]

I use to be a very poor woman who has always not find luck when it comes to playing the lottery. I have been playing lottery since i was 21 years and now i am 45 meaning i have been playing lottery for 24 years. The biggest amount i have ever won in my life was 400 bucks. But one day my story turns to history after i find this man name on the Internet that he is the best when it comes to winning lottery. This man is a very strong voodoo doc who gives out the numbers that can never fail. After all my years of laboring and struggling to win the lottery i finally won ( $27,000,000) Dr Iyasele is the name,[e-mail] or contact him on WhatsApp now ‪+1 (931) 324‑5494‬ this is the only way to win the lottery and the best way.........,

[@samruddhithakare200]

AMAZING, every word of conversation , make a good lessons .to people.

[@jaysonwells1079]

Hey all hopes not lost I urge you to make use of the greatest relationship expert he can certainly put a smile on your face okay

[@jaysonwells1079]

Trust me he is very perfect at reuniting broken relationship I am a living testimony of the great spellcaster okay

[@abdinasirali3460]

I really enjoyed all what Jay shetty said and thank to allah that Iam Reading the Five language book for this month and it’s my month book of October 2020 and jay shetty I have learned a lot from him and I wish one day to see him in london and tell him ur blessings for many people around the world 🌎. The funny part of this interview is she is American and he is british and completely British English is the best spoken English accent on earth and I do talk british accent English . Jay shetty is great world class influencer

[@Clemslife]

This is so helpful. Thank you :)

[@jessicauwadiale262]

I use to be a very poor woman who has always not find luck when it comes to playing the lottery. I have been playing lottery since i was 21 years and now i am 45 meaning i have been playing lottery for 24 years. The biggest amount i have ever won in my life was 400 bucks. But one day my story turns to history after i find this man name on the Internet that he is the best when it comes to winning lottery. This man is a very strong voodoo doc who gives out the numbers that can never fail. After all my years of laboring and struggling to win the lottery i finally won ( $27,000,000) Dr Iyasele is the name,[e-mail] or contact him on WhatsApp now ‪+1 (931) 324‑5494‬ this is the only way to win the lottery and the best way.........,

[@BeyondResist]

“The real heroes anyway aren't the people doing things; the real heroes are the people NOTICING things, paying attention.” ― John Green

[@saiprasadpanda5288]

I recommend (Secrets of Sanatan Dharma must) a must read book available on Amazon and kindle..

[@juansoriano658]

Great video

[@agusmertajaya10]

Just respected & more appreciated the little thing that your partner does And when you're together, just avoid to focus on your smart phone and makesure you spend your time with quality time

[@wendyc.aguilar7725]

Thank you this is very helpful🙏🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰

[@priyankaminz2753]

My dream is , I just wanna have a talk with you... Your words are really captivating... I really really love it Sir

[@soniahussain73]

I am so happy to see this video I send to my bf I hope he understand all this

[@chriscristah9178]

Great Advice for Widows to create new memories... so hard we find comfort in past memories.

[@abelmaharigebremedhin743]

you are Amazing man love you

[@candicegriffith8522]

I guess I have another book to read. I grew up very isolated. I didn't have family or friends for most of my life so maybe understanding what I need might help me find someone to share my life with.

[@PANKAJKUMAR-ji4rh]

Sex is the consolation you get when you cannot get love - Gabriel Garcia Marquez

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

Children can be a consolation. Look at the righteous woman Leah. She knew her husband did not love her as much as he loved her sister Rachel, and Leah suffered agonizing heartbreak, but God had compassion on her and she ended up having multiple children. Though, I do wonder, did it ever truly remove Leah's heartbreak or truly compensate for her agony of not having a husband who truly faithfully loved only her? In the end, my guess is when Leah failed to get that which she longed for, she was consoled by God and God healed her broken heart.

[@kaurkaur3100]

Marriage is all about share you sorrows and happiness together.

[@falgunijenish]

We had perfect compatibility, love, care, emotions for 4 years of into marriage. And when I had my son everything went opposite. Anything I do was never good enough. It came to a point where I lost my sleep was rushed to emergency became suicidal. It's been 11 years we are still married but I just feel emotionally with him anymore. He keeps saying forget the past move on be happy but those horrible memories keep coming and haunts me like.

[@nurhamizahhashim9361]

13.00 about Mental picture, go for 54321 rule 😊 5 things you can see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can pick/tick Which one is true ya? Relationship don't last because still haunted by old memories. So, go and create new memories guys ☺️

[@malakhiwebata1413]

I honestly appreciate people like Jay Shetty♥

[@harnoorsingh2866]

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[@humanityspeaks4654]

Jay sir!! Plz make viedo on assertion of autonomy

[@alkaseralkaserr1600]

Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t, life is too short to be anything but happy. falling down is part of life, getting back up is living. Love is worth fighting for, but sometimes you can't be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you. If they don't, you Just have to move on and realize what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you, Don't be the only one putting in effort because you will end up losing yourself trying to save everyone else.

[@stacyanndyer5092]

Love ur videos 🇯🇲

[@frankjackson8186]

Do you need help

[@AkashGhodke07]

I am from India. and it is knowledgeable Video.

[@shaalkr421]

Interesting discussion....one thing in this video caught my attention the most where Jay says express to your partner what you need from them emotionally so they can understand your emotional needs without having to play a guessing game.....what if they turn around and say they are not cut out to be that person or satisfy that emotional need of yours.....how do you react and deal with that response?

[@khs3592]

They fail when it becomes constantly one person having to go further than the other.....any and all relationships can thrive if mostly both meet each other halfway. When one part of the relationship has to constantly go 80-90% of the way to keep the relationship it falls apart and mostly it's the one giving the 10-20% effort that walks away because the majority of their effort is going elsewhere. Just my thoughts from my experiences and relationships I've witnessed. GOD bless

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[@theresachiorazzi4571]

There are so many reasons why couples don’t last There is no magic formula we were the lucky ones we lasted sixty years till he passes away five years ago I’m so glad we had that time together I wish everybody could be so lucky too just work at it the best you can true love never dies Good luck to all in love blessings

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