Deaf & Blind On The Internet with

[@MollyBurkeOfficial]

This was so fun.

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

Thanks for joining me Molly, you are a delight! I'm looking forward to doing this again xx

[@internetchocolate6733]

Love both of your channels! I’m so glad that this collab happened ♥️

[@Tara........]

Molly, are you from Toronto?

[@lisamoulton2540]

Great to see Molly on your channel again! I've been following Molly on YT and Twitter for a while and she always posts the prettiest outfits! So similar to Jess, who wears the prettiest dresses! You two make me smile. Thanks.

[@Just999Me]

Loved this. Please continue to collaborate in the future. Having both of your perspectives make it so enriching. With Molly talking about medical PTSD it made me realize that I've been experiencing it unknowingly ever since my brain tumor diagnosis. Thank you for enlightening all of us while adding much needed representation on this platform

[@speckofdignity2487]

“There’s no amount of fish oil that will revive these retinas” I want to cross-stitch that on a pillow.

[@lianereading6707]

Lol, Molly totally needs to make this into a quote and put it on her merchandise.

[@sullendragon8900]

10/10, would buy a t-shirt

[@lianereading6707]

@@sullendragon8900 me too.

[@Lighting_Desk]

Etsy ahoy!

[@jordandlugosch]

SpeckOfDignity Totally! Right! or that... "eat your carrots so you can see better in the dark" Clearly that didn't help for your IQ - just switxh on the light!!!

[@amarawebb]

Totally resonated with Molly when she said people say “You’re too pretty to be blind”. I’ve been told I’m “pretty for a black girl”, so I can see how frustrating and offensive that is. It really is NOT the compliment people think it is!!!

[@amanda8914]

Truly shows how low they think and expect of marginalized communities. Plus race and disability have nothing to do with attractiveness/beauty, no connection at all, so those statements don't make sense. A person can be of any race/have any condition AND be pretty.

[@rebeccahamm2349]

Personally as someone with PTSD, I have realized that ptsd doesn't care if its rational or not. It just cares if your safe and will make you react to your safety in ways that aren't rational as a defense mechanism.

[@elskabee]

totally, I don't have ptsd specifically but anxiety/panic disorders can be so frustrating because usually you KNOW it's irrational but it doesn't stop how your body reacts in the moment

[@MiljaHahto]

Or if it THINKS you are safe. For someone else you might seem safe, but PTSD may disagree. I have a friend whose one trigger is washing dishes by hand. It makes her ptsd + dissociation disorder kick in.

[@creativedesignation7880]

Yes, absolutely yes. I got my vaccine today and I completely over reacted. I know it's safe, I have been reading probably a book worth of information on how it works, side effects, etc etc. My subconscious however was terrified for some reason, so I have severe back cramps to the point that I can hardly walk, which started yesterday. I only ever have that as a reaction to stress, but it makes no sense on a rational level. I feel almost nothing from the vaccine btw, only my arm muscle is hurting, just like it does after every other vaccine.

[@normallyautistic50]

I had my second dose of vaccine yesterday, and today, I feel like I have flu with fever, soreness, and so on. This is the best gift the universe could come up with to uplift my spirit. Your two videos combined are almost an hour of pure gold content. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and sore bones 💙

[@rai1879]

Get well soon! 😊

[@lendocomlupa-leticiam5071]

I have the same Molly eye disease and was diagnosed when I was 6. When she talked about PTSD that made a lot of sense to me, I struggle with the same think but no one gave ever told this was actually due to all the medical stress i ve been to, thanks to talking about it, it was really important to me, definitely bring to my best therapy session haha

[@Susan0StoHelit]

I will admit several years ago when I found this channel and Molly as well I was very unexposed. I had never heard a deaf person with such a clear speaking voice or met a blind person who was into fashion. And it’s so clear now how and why these things can and do exist but they’re not shown in media, people are underexposed. As I’ve begun my own disability journey with my undiagnosed chronic pain I’ve learned how unintentionally ableist I was, and often with the best of intentions. Which is why channels like these are so valuable, not only to the people who share their experiences (as finding a community is invaluable) but to people who don’t. It’s an unfortunately rare view into real people’s lives. So thank you both so much for everything you do. Lots of love to you both and stay safe. 💚

[@madisonrudd6538]

Jessica's videos helped my sister get diagnosed with Eds.. I kept helping and pushing with her to get to the right doctor who was like 👍💯 this is eds how has no one caught this yet!

[@BreakingStubad]

That thing Molly said about her teachers' influencing in her diagnoses really got to me... as a teacher I always felt torn over mentioning things I observed in my students that I though might need attention, like a kid who never did the reading assignments, I though he might need glasses, but didn't know how to say anything... and then it turned out he needed really thick glasses

[@thebubby67833]

I really love the discussion around learning disabilities and how seriously the conversation was tackled. Often those with learning disability get watered down and not taken seriously I think it’s ablism to use the term “learning difficulties” as a difficulty is something to be fixed and this is a disability that effects everything I do my memory my temperament how I function

[@ashby7m]

You're right molly! Jessica is HILARIOUS. Honestly I love her.

[@Bespeon]

The thing about not being able to communicate with able bodied adults is exactly why I always listen to my daughter straight away. It took me my entire life for anyone to listen to me, so I always listen to children and advocate for them.

[@caitie226]

Molly is such a great communicator!

[@dyutibasu4541]

You're the best kind of cooky! I could hear you amazing ladies talk for a lot longer. I hope you do another one of these. ❤️❤️

[@lyndabird9401]

I’m followers of you both. I adore and are encouraged by you both with every video. You give me courage and strength when the world has me down.

[@thereal_queenk]

Molly's story at 10:47 hit me hard I had cancer when i was still an infant, and I've heard stories of some of this things that had to happen to help and I realize now that, even though I can't remember it, it probably plays a big part in my fear of doctors and medical settings. I have current disabilities(potentially also due to that) and the thought of going to a doctor to even try to get help terrifies me

[@kat_kami]

The crossover I didn't know I needed until now 💕

[@bluebutterflyofdoom]

Thanks so much for your videos. I just subscribed to Molly's channel too. I had some experiences in school similar to Molly but my diagnosis are different. I was treated like a poor student, put in lower level classes despite testing in the upper 90th percentiles in aptitude tests, told twice not to bother taking the SAT, and generally was viewed as lazy and flaky. I was finally diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder and major depressive disorder in the middle of high school. I never did take the SAT and I went to two different alternative schools for kids with severe mental illness the last two years of high school. I am on disability and I frequently deal with fears of not being believed because I don't "look disabled". I might not look disabled, but I've been admitted to the hospital 6 times since 2018, have had more EKGs than I can count, and underwent 8 rounds of ECT. I don't always want to explain or justify it to people so I normally don't say anything. When I have to meet people, like doctors or anybody doing disability services, I internally cringe because I'm young and look healthy. I fear I look like a fraud. I do have medical complications due to my mental illness, like osteoporosis, scoliosis and a history of bradycardia, (thanks eating disorder.....) but those aren't typically visible. It's kinda worse now because I'm in a place in ED recovery where I'm weight restored but still have an eating disorder. I'm always afraid to talk about it because I'm afraid someone will tell me I don't look like I have an eating disorder or something equally awful. At work (I have to work part time to supplement my income because disability in the states doesn't cover enough for me to pay bills, buy groceries, see my therapist and doctor and dietitian, etc.) I struggle because I'm uncomfortable telling my mostly neurotypical coworkers and managers about my limitations. I have told them about the scoliosis and osteoporosis because that actually affects what I'm physically able to do. But I can't imagine telling my boss I'm having an anxiety attack and can't come to work because I literally am incapable of operating a vehicle while in that state. Some of my old managers and bosses knew and were supportive of my needs. But whenever I work with a new person, it's like starting over. I'm looking into home jobs but they're hard to come by. Anyways, looooong rant. Thank you for your videos. They mean a lot to people like me. I've been planning to start my own channel for ages. I just got my own apartment (it's actually for low income disabled people), and when I'm moved in, I want to post about mental health, disability, plus a lot of other things, like being lgbtqia+, my obsession with cats, my experiences with alt modeling, artsy stuff... You know. All those other things that make me who I am. I love how you share your experiences with disability, but also share all of the other amazing things that make you you. Thanks for that.

[@cloudking2871]

Such a good video. I'm partially deaf and losing my site. I've had FMS for over 20 years and been accused of faking it so many times. Especially when I use my handicap sticker. Because I don't look like whatever they expect a disabled person to look like, I've been challenged repeatedly. It gets old really fast.

[@kristenroot2510]

Yay so glad you two finally got together! I have been subscribed to both of your for years 💜💜

[@AshleysAdvice]

This is a great video! Very educational and informative.

[@MechEboo7]

Absolutely loved this Jessica!

[@lindsaygriffin3289]

This whole conversation was GOLD! Thank you both so much for sharing and being you!

[@1addition1subtraction]

I have lived with grandparents who were blind, who had mobility issues, who had Parkinson’s, who had kidney Problems, who had cancer. Non of these illnesses are talked about non of these illnesses are very visible. I’ve seen first hand how hard it was to live with these illnesses. I have seen them being discriminated, I have seen them not being allowed to use the disable toilet, I’ve seen them being told not to touch things even though there hands were thee eyes. They lived a hard life and have given me lots to think about. I have a very opened mind about these topics. I hope disabled people get more recognized. I hope disabled people get treated better. ❤️

[@Dhor16]

Jessica, can you please tell us about your experience with lip reading regarding different accents or dialects? 🦄

[@janebarrett7719]

Jessica I found you from Molly’s video~so thrilled you are brilliant and I love your style x i am disabled too (MS)

[@lynnbrooklyn1332]

So happy you two did a collab! Made my day!

[@julieaubutgaudet4403]

This was just so wholesome and lovely!!

[@GuidedPilates]

Just found this video through Molly's channel and I have been completely obsessed and binged watched loads of your videos. Congratulation on yours and Claudia's pregnancy. So exciting! Back to binge watching now lol xx

[@waffles3629]

11:20 I really hate this. Medical professionals will tell me all the time "It's ok, I know what I'm doing, I won't hurt you, you can trust me" and then wonder why I don't stop panicking. Like yeah, that's because basically those exact words came out of a doctor's mouth minutes before she traumatized me leading to worsening PTSD. She'd also told me she would never do what my previous doc did (aka the doctor who gave me PTSD in the first place) and then proceeded to literally do the exact same thing. Hmmm, I can't imagine why I don't trust those words.

[@Tb40556]

I have strabismus and nystagmus and molly is the first person I’ve met or seen on the internet who has them too!

[@Anaonfire]

Wow I also have strabismus it's cool to see a video on it. You're both so strong beautiful women

[@emilymay3789]

I have never clicked faster! Im so happy two of my favourite youtubers are collabing!

[@undeadfrog7670]

So glad I found your channel !! I feel like I am being represented because I am queer and have EDS Thank you for sharing your experience!

[@sabinethegaydragongeek]

Raise your hand if like Molly, you want Jessica and Claudia to be on Special Books By Special Kids?

[@bookbook9495]

🙋‍♀️

[@roya8673]

I've been wishing for this for so long I love you guys

[@naynerboppers5254]

I just discovered you through Molly's channel....and am so excited to learn more about you, esp since I have a number of relatable health "stuff" that's constantly popped up as I've aged.... Including going to specialists earlier today at UCSF's Eye Clinic to figure out why I'm losing vision in my good eye. I also don't appear disabled to the average person which is another challenge because I have mobility, sensory, and visual disabilities. Anyhow, happy to be here!

[@xzonia1]

This video felt like 2 minutes long! So happy to hear both of you discuss your experiences; I feel I learned so much! I started watching Molly back when I was worried I might go blind so I could see an example of how my life would be okay if that happened, and I loved her so much I just kept watching after my eye surgery corrected my vision successfully. I started watching Jessica for her vintage style and stayed because I relate on so many levels to the topics she discusses. Much love to you both!

[@texasbadger2574]

I had a wonderful teacher who was the one to notice I couldn't see & needed glasses, We love the ones who care to notice :)

[@befumms]

i had hardly any enamel on my baby teeth, so i was at the dentist all the time, and i had really MEAN dentists one after the other. My dentists now are so kind, but I'm so fucked up now that i just immediately start crying the second i get there.

[@christinecassidy2689]

Brilliant! I've learned so much. Thank you for posting this interview.

[@Palindrome78]

My sister is an Intervention Specialist (aka a special education teacher) in an elementary school and she told me, years ago, that there was a new student who used had hearing aids and used crutches, due to clubbed feet. They put him in the special education classes but my sister and other ISes quickly realized the student did not have any learning disabilities or cognitive delays and was only placed in their class because he had hearing aids and required crutches. Automatic assumption, based on those physical things, that he needed an Intervention Specialist. He only required accommodation for his hearing issues.

[@itslissette6621]

I cringe every time someone offers a 'magical cure' for my autoimmune disease. I'm so glad you also talked about people saying 'you must not be sick because ...', it blows my mind how openly offensive people can be.

[@brynnejewell1275]

I appreciated what you said about being mindful if who you follow and why?

[@toshomni9478]

What a great collaboration. Reminds of the old days on KZbin when this type of thing seemed more common.

[@Chelletryingtosmile]

Fab collaboration. Thanks for this ❤

[@SassyWitch666]

When my daughters got sick or hurt my first rule for nurses and doctors was don't lie to them. If the treatment is going to hurt tell them it is going to hurt. I've been in and out of hospitals since I was 2 years old and those who lied to me made me distrust other doctors and nurses for a very long time. And I agree the can I pray for you to be healed is frustrating. I get they're trying to be nice but I don't see myself as broken. Or you're too pretty to be disabled. As though being disabled means ugly. It's not a compliment it's insulting.

[@ClarityTheParody]

I love both of you!!❤️❤️this was a great chat to listen to

[@librasgirl08]

oh my, finally! awesome, was waiting for this collaboration forever!

[@rachelross1046]

Hearing Molly talking about not being able to explain what you can’t see as a child reminds me of what my life was like before I had glasses. It’s obviously not as severe as Molly’s situation but my coordination was terrible, I often walked into things and was slow at learning to read. My parents and teachers just thought I was a bit vague and clumsy and I wasn’t working hard until the school nurse did a routine eye test and it turned out my eyesight was quite bad. I wasn’t able to tell people that I couldn’t see well cause I had no idea I couldn’t see the same as other people.

[@ConstanceFelton]

Thanks girls for this amazing video. I've learn a lot of things ! 💚

[@charleysouth92]

I have RP. Same as my mother and my sisters. Got diagnosed well over a decade ago. I can't speak for my family, but I've never noticed any night blindess. So that's interesting. I've just assumed it's really dark 😂

[@safiremorningstar]

I love that line that you said about how people know the doctor who will cure you and all that I'll just hope the way you put that I really do. I'm using voice to text just be aware that it doesn't always work like it's supposed to first of all I have had friends who are Stone deaf and they came that way much later in life so they don't have the speech impediment that people who are often born to have secondly it all depends on how good a speech therapist you have to begin with. But people do assume oh yeah.

[@elzbthlncstr]

Man, I grew up as a really sick kid in and out of the hospital for years, and then as a teenager was assaulted by a doctor in a medical setting. Medical PTSD is so real and sucks so bad

[@gwillis01]

On the subject of representing the whole group: Jesse Owns ended up representing what a black man is to everyone who attended the 1931 Olympic games. I'm not too sure of the date. Which Olympic games did Adolf Hitler attend? Jesse Owens accepted the fact that he was going to be an oddity. He calmly accepted the burden of showing everyone what a black athlete could do. Jackie Robinson accepted the burden of being the first black man to play baseball with white people. It is an overwhelming and exhausting mental pressure. A person in this situation has to make a deliberate decision on how to deal with the mental pressure from others.

[@dylanquinn7]

my fav: when people tell me if i think positively and imagine my eyes getting better than they will. and also: "you're too young to be dealing with _____ (Fill in blank here)". SO FUN!

[@viktoriavadon2222]

Such a fun collab!

[@sydlyn4579]

I’ve had the same experience with a being referred to a nutritionist to cure my migraines. I’ve had migraines my whole life and I’ve eaten completely different at multiple stages of life and the two are not exclusively related. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@SkylerLinux]

One of my partners is Blind, from birth, He will always use things that watching a show with me. I might be describing what's happening in the show, but we watch it together.

[@irtap404]

Two very lovely people!

[@KellyBelB]

FINALLYYYYYY YAAAAAY!!!!! 💕💕💕💕💕

[@punky19761]

My dad was hoh (hard of hearing) since birth. With age, he’s probably more along the lines of being deaf. He has never “talked like a deaf person.” You would not be able to tell by the way that he talks that he is deaf.

[@robertcrabtree8835]

I'm in a similar situation. Hearing aids for a moderate loss when I was 6 years old. 30 years later, if my hearing were a house, it'd be in the same neighborhood as Marlee and Nyle. My speaking voice is clear, if varying degrees of loud, so I often "pass" among strangers.

[@Oathkeeper1992]

Watched both videos, been subscribed to both for many years now, and this was great! I feel like this went by way too quickly! I hope that you both can do more collabs together in the future!

[@jamescurfman3284]

Both of these videos were awesome!

[@laras.7670]

Molly is so wise

[@lilasleelahlemay7368]

It was fun watching you both.

[@rchhcsupernova]

OMG OM OMG OMG THIS IS THE COLLAB I WAS WAITING FOOOORR

[@SoFrec]

Hi Jessica! I have a technical question for you. Sorry if you've answered this elsewhere and I missed it. I remember seeing in other videos like on panels that you've used a BSL translator before. How does it work in virtual conversations like this? Are your hearing aids enough or do you also use other tools for communicating? As always, love your work and the positivity you bring into all your content. 💜

[@karlahabbershaw1971]

I got my first dose of the vaccine and I get very anxious about shots, its not the shot itself, I am not afraid of blood or the soreness or the possible symptoms - the hardest part of getting a shot for me is my anxiety and every time when it is over I feel 1000% better I always say "that was easy surely I won't be nervous next time" but every time I need to do anything medical especially shots I get really horrible anxiety to the point where I do melt down I can cope much better than ever before but yeah, its just a thing. The way molly described her COVID test makes me feel a bit less strange for this irrational anxiety

[@chapplepeach29]

Aaah!!! I asked for this collab!!!

[@coltjames9159]

New subscriber here! Much love!

[@missalwayswrite]

Ahh, what an exciting pair! 🥰

[@morganakkerman3812]

The music at the end of the video is so pretty

[@RagDollCookie]

When two people you already follow (to educate myself on disabilities I don't even have lol) collab it's a great feeling. Though it kinda makes the world seem small haha

[@stressedvulture]

It's so weird constantly learning what is and isn't "normal" in life. I am currently in the process of getting whatever all I have diagnosed but being you and it not being a super common just follow the basic script scenario has made it difficult to be heard. Currently the suspicion is on top of my Asthma that I got diagnosed with a few years back I most likely have something like hEDS as well as POTS but even meeting all the diagnostic criteria and the diagnosises I have gotten clearly being off and not meeting the criteria "BUT THIS IS MORE COMMON IT MUST BE THIS" I just kinda am left without treatment or options in a country that loves to brag about it's great healthcare system (finland). And don't even get me started on how they deal with disabled trans youth/people in general, I'd be better off moving to Iceland and waiting to become a citizen than to do it here as they will not allow me to as a disabled person start hormones or even the ridiculously long journey to getting them, getting top surgery or to get the correct gender on my official documents. But the latest thing I learned was that IT ISN'T NORMAL TO TEAR THE SKIN ON YOUR MOUTH UP EATING CRUNCHY FOODS?! WHAT?! MOST PEOPLE DON'T GET BITS OF SKIN HANGING OFF THE ROOF OF THEIR MOUTH AFTER HAVING A SLICE OF PIZZA?! I THOUGHT EVERYONE DID THAT!

[@Rlj38823]

I love my two worlds collided...or “collabbed”.

[@annadushenkina3512]

I's such bullshit to lie to kids. I didn't have any majour medical pricedures as a kid, but I do remember how alienating it is when adults lie to you about something and you know they are lying. I still find it difficult to trust people's words.

[@ka_ekim7277]

Hello, HOH person here, I wear two hearing aids, and have since the third grade, but I'm curious because I just found Jessica. Any OG fans out there know how deaf she is? Like, full blown deaf? HOH like me? Just curious is all! Love the vid!

[@esserbolle3004]

I think medical trauma is really important. I'm scared to get the covid vaccine. From a rational point it's totally okay and I want to get it but at the same time I know I'm going to get the worst panic attack of my life. I can handle the 'normal' everyday panic attacks but the trauma related ones are nuts.

[@HOLYtoGOD]

good

[@aquincum9482]

3:30 she listened to spice girls all the time; no wonder she became deaf

[@lilacsandobsidian]

I'm a fat person and I've definitely had strangers ask to pray for me, or offer me diet tips. It's so weird and fucked up.

[@Sunshinesparkles7817]

My two fav KZbinrs🥺

[@allymcclain119]

You should do a video with eat your kimchi. Martina has EDS. I think you two could make some good on the topic and just some fun video as well.

[@Ninjamom4]

❤️❤️❤️

[@safiremorningstar]

I'm already subscribed to Jessica I'll probably be subscribed to you (Molly) cuz I have some questions to somebody who is apparently losing their side among other things. I've already lost a lot of my hearing and I can't back it up because of Corona but actually reading lips I never realized how much I did that and how dependent I had been on it for so long I mean I knew I was losing my hearing but didn't realize just how far now the thing is my hearing is rather unusual I hear above normal human pitch in one ear and below normal human pitch in the other which means that in the normal area my hearing is often less than it should be IE I don't always hear what people are saying to me because things like the hum of antennas somebody going to the bathroom to blocks away a bee buzzing around somewhere will interfere all those very high pitch noises will interfere and all the low pitch ones will also to feel like the hum coming from out from a lot of different things can be anything from the hum of a train that hasn't yet come you know come by or a a elevator moving up and down in another building it can be evenly from the Earth itself the Earth itself does a hum itself and these low and high pitch I can still hear them but I'm losing it in the normal areas I'm also losing a little bit of the high pitch and the low pitches remaining they don't know why technically I shouldn't even be able to hear in those areas like dogs can hear them and cats can hear the minute upsets them but I shouldn't be able to hear so yep I have lots of questions to ask you one of which is how do you cope I'm having a hard time with it. I'm trying to find distractions and I'm not succeeding.

[@Xaiiiy]

MY favessss

[@Yandolito]

Okay why did I click this video and thought I had already seen it years ago? I was so sure I had seen you two collab... Mandela effect for sure 😂

[@Azzarinne]

12:21 omg... "You should see this miracle worker in Beverly Hills/NYC/India/Other Place Nowhere Near Where You Live. They'll fix you." "Have you tried yoga?" "Try a vegan diet." "Keep these crystals under your pillow." "Turmeric tea will really help." "Do these mindfulness breathing exercises." Just... Just stop...

[@KattReen]

If I were to describe Jessica's voice with one word, I think I'd go with "cozy"

[@sersastark]

Her voice is so soothing. Perfect for nature documentaries and audiobooks.

[@bestnarryever]

I was listening and just thinking about that!

[@GioiaFede]

Ok, as a writer I will take this challange and try and describe Jessica's voice to her , maybe she could appreciate it. So here's how it sounds to me: her british accent is so elegant and royal, it is at times hard and "stuttering" between one word and another (not sure if i can make myself clear here) in the best of ways as standard british english sounds to me as a non english speaker, her voice is sweet and cuddly but also put together and confident, and this makes me think she will be great to listen to, when she will tell stories to her future baby, it is a bit low and throaty for a woman, and that's sexy, especially when it gets a bit raspy for a second, but it can reach very sharp notes in a singing bird very feminine way and is not as low as Claudia's, her way to speak is also very elegant and classy and i think it matches her vintage style cause it sounds like she knows bon-ton and her social place, it sounds both spontaneous (especially when she laughs) and controlled at the same time. there always an inquisitive and curious hint to it. it is formal in a way where i could imagine her talking to the manager of a luxury law firm as their secretary in chief about important metters, i could also imagine her as a tv news speaker or an old ages duchess welcoming her guests to a ball or a teacher explaining lessons to her kids in a definite, ultimate way where they can not mess it up later or say that they didn't know the rules. I love how open her vowels are, it almost feels like her throat stretches to where she can physically feel it to be tense, when she pronounces them, and i love it, very british as well. Her s and t and d to me again as a foreigner that listens to a brit, sound very sweet and glam as if t and d where a mix with the s, almost a z. I think she sounds very positive and almost thrilled when she speaks, always joyful and excited but also very calm and serene, even when she is talking about unpleasent stuff. She sounds polite, or better said: kind, cause she sounds like she really cares, and mature, someone who already knows who she is very well and you can't tell her otherwise. Sometimes I just enjoy listening to her speak, no metter if I am interested in the topic or not, just to enjoy her voice on background as a musical thing. This is my own take on this of course and my own opinion and how i personally feel it. I hope it can be a pleasent input for her.

[@MonkeyDLuffy-rr3wl]

I'd say "British polite aristocrat lady in a café"

[@_Becx]

I would say Vintage too, in the best way possible :)

[@sunnybugz]

It's so frustrating how teachers punish deaf and blind students- I'm neither, but my nephew was constantly punished for being "too loud". As it turns out, he not only struggles with tone because he's autistic, but he's also hearing impaired and DOESN'T KNOW how loud he's being. I love him so much and it's so frustrating to see that teachers are upset with him :-//

[@shellcharles3633]

Bit of a sweeping statement

[@sunnybugz]

@@shellcharles3633 sorry, could you explain what you mean by that?

[@zebedeesummers4413]

@@shellcharles3633 If you'd like a sweeping statement how about how most teachers who teach 1-5th grades often have trouble giving children the benefit of the doubt. While I recognize people are just doing their best teachers in Grade(/elementary) school have a very lasting impact. The two people in this video had the strength/support to not internalize teachers doing a bad. From my experience of having dyslexia and dysgraphia, it is very easy to believe teachers when they tell you A. you are just not trying hard enough and/or B. You are just not headed to higher education anyway.

[@absolutelynot6086]

I'm registered blind now but when I was in high school I was losing my sight and didn't have a diagnosis and wasn't really aware my sight was declining and I couldn't read the board at all from age 11 and dint get diagnosed till I was 17. I couldn't read the board and I asked to sit at the front and they said no got to stick to the seating plan no one can move because they ask. I just sat there and struggled and zoned out because i couldn't see at the front so I just spaced out and didn't pay attention because I felt ignored and I was very shy already so the teachers always seemed to place me near the back of the class and I was also bullied a lot and sat next to the bully boys and I had no one I could copy notes off. The teachers really made me suffer and I struggled in school. Teachers really aren't all that helpful. Edit: oh yeah I told my teachers I couldn't see and their response was "get some hlasses" the optician told my mum I was faking it and had nothing wrong with my sight...

[@lilbluecaboose]

My heart goes out to your nephew. I have ADHD and issues with auditory processing, and I've been scolded for being loud my entire life, when more often than not, I have literally no idea how loud I'm being; to me, it's loud enough in the room that I'd need to speak that loudly to be heard, and everyone else is speaking way too quietly!

[@mikeym1121]

Who else heard “guide dog” as “guy dog” and just rolled with it, cause yeah, that dog looks like a solid guy

[@casebeth]

Lolololol

[@michellecavalcante5883]

I heard "guy dog" and I thought she said it like it was a male dog haha

[@minwellitsanicknamebegrate2531]

Gallop her current dog in the pic is a boy but her first was a girl not pictured but yeah he is a solid dog he’s huge as well as being chill LoL

[@Rain-np7tk]

Yea gallop is a solid unit

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

Her guide dog is easily bigger than herself so he is definitely a huge solid guy on top of being a good guide dog.

[@jamieo2147]

Molly: These retinas are dead and gone. There's not enough fish oil in the world that's gunna revive these retinas. I'm in stitches.

[@Tb40556]

This is probably the first collab with Molly I’ve seen that doesn’t just call her “Blind Girl” in the video title or use her disability as clickbait. it’s so nice to see. Jessica is such a breath of fresh air.

[@snowmu]

molly literally labels her own videos that, it’s not click bait if it’s not misleading??? she is blind??

[@alias_peanut]

agree to disagree

[@topsyturvy1097]

@@snowmu i mean, it's click bait. Clickbait isn't always misleading

[@katherinemorelle7115]

@@snowmu I think there’s a difference between choosing to label your own videos with “blind girl”, “dead girl”, “disabled person” etc and having someone else do that to you. On your own videos you have that control. And on your channel you’re able to put more of yourself and your identity out there. But if it’s a video by another creator (especially a business), then that’s all they’re presenting about you, if that makes sense? If I had a channel and I chose to label a video with “wheelchair user does X”, then that’s a choice I could make, because I do have that control over my content, including being able to show more of myself than just being a wheelchair user. But if it’s a big business channel, and all they’re talking about is my disability, and I don’t control it, and they aren’t including more of who I am, then it is really rather reductive (hello alliteration!), and it’s a bit insulting, I think. If someone else is presenting me, then they should present me, not just my disability (or what we else the video might be about). Because it is zeroing in on just that one aspect, and it’s not wholistic, it’s not me, it’s just my disability, if that makes sense? Where’s if it were in my own channel, I have that ability to present myself as a whole person, even if I do use a title that is focused more on just my disability.

[@fidelianerina]

Molly has done a video on this. When she does collabs they come up with titles together. She allows people to put "Blind Girl" if she doesn't find it offensive, why should you?

[@lifewcockapooz8103]

Honestly, I'm not blind, I'm autistic and have pots cfs and other things, but molly's story of how she was diagnosed and teachers and ptsd and panics over 'irrational' things, not believing her and stuff is basically my story word for word. Im so close to tears now because I suddenly realised that I'm not alone, but also that others have been through what I have, so now I feel terrible for her and them

[@andressalopes599]

Me too. I was only diagnosed with autism late in life at 23 and the adults ignoring what I was saying played a big role for it

[@lifewcockapooz8103]

@@andressalopes599 1000%. I still struggle with ptsd and I can't go to college or university because of it, as if learning wasn't hard enough anyway, I'm terrified of how on earth I'm going to get a job that I can cope with and do

[@mammoneymelon]

same, my ptsd and autism are rarely taken seriously and i've had teachers trigger me despite telling all of them at the beginning of the year that i may need trigger warning or accommodations

[@lifewcockapooz8103]

@@mammoneymelon Absolutely! It makes you feel inferior and unheard doesn't it? My pe teachers decided to have a thing where quote: 'if you are well enough to be in school, then you are well enough to do everything in pe' not only stupid and damaging (especially as they didn't believe you if you'd done something that day and had no magical note from your parents saying you where telling the truth. I know because this happened to me) and also that it seemed you had to be either half dead, unconscious or sick for anyone to believe you if you were ill. If people just stopped with this ageist thing of adults are always right and children are wrong then childrens lives would be so much easier, particularly disabled ones. Literally all the forces of the world seem to be against you, and by the time you've finished, you are in one of the worst mental health conditions on top of all else you had to begin with, and a really bleak future ahead

[@lifewcockapooz8103]

Apologies, I really had a long rant on that. It really hits me in the heart these types of things

[@rebieroo99]

the talk on medical anxiety after being a disabled child, my feeling all of a sudden feel valid

[@Benni777]

Yes, me too! I have horrible medical PTSD and I was wondering if she was gonna mention it or not ☺️

[@rita9942]

Same I literally started to cry because I've never heard anyone describe the feeling I feel so well and makes me sad none of family doesn't get why I overthink and get so much anxiety when it comes to medical stuff and change

[@mammoneymelon]

yeah, i agree. people judge tf outta me when i say i don't trust doctors but when they've taken your life as expendable multiple times and refuse to listen to you over and over, you can't afford to start trusting them

[@dr.bandito60]

I’d never given this much thought before. I had a tooth-related medical issue as a child (caused by dental malpractice) that put me in the hospital for a while. The experience wasn’t bad enough to give me a trauma disorder, but there have still been effects on my attitudes towards the medical community. And I had the experience of not being believed about my pain for a while. I also remember being expected to keep up with schoolwork which felt impossible. I got out lucky, in the end, with no lasting life changes. I can definitely see how ongoing, unsolved medical issues could have a lasting impact on your experience of so many institutions and relationships. Hope y’all can find peace and support.

[@souleaterevans4589]

This! I dealt with a lot of that when I was younger from having anxiety. Simple things are scary sometimes for me and the solution was "surprise her" or be dishonest about the process. It works in the moment, but it creates traumatic stress to never feel safe in a setting that's supposed to be helping you. If people can't develop a feeling of safety when they're being treated routinely, they won't feel safe seeking out help in more serious situations

[@corvidae6773]

The "you are too pretty to be blind" is so reminiscent of "you don't look autistic", and I really wonder what on earth goes on in people's heads when they say these things.

[@creativedesignation7880]

It's ridiculous. I always get the "But you seem too smart too be mentally ill", but that is just not how it works. I think people are just flustered when the stereotypes they use to navigate the world are challenged.

[@sarahmeyers1773]

@@creativedesignation7880 I agree. If they’ve never met someone with a specific disability, all they have to go off of is tv shows, where things are hyper exaggerated. It’s tragic that they think that’s all there is though.

[@stephaniepeth1338]

I have family members who think autism "isn't really a thing" um yes it is I am autistic I am real

[@amanda8914]

Those statements make no sense because you can be attractive AND disabled. Also, it proves that they have low expectations of people with disabilties/health conditions.

[@michellecavalcante5883]

I am a straight woman, with no disability and I don't wear vintage clothes. I don't even remember how I end up watching a random video from Jessica's chanel, but I started to find the videos interesting, so I subscribed. Watching her videos made me realise even more that you don't need to be the main audience to be engaged to the cause. It opened my mind to the world of people that I never thought existed, so I love videos like this one.

[@Philosina]

It’s exactly the same for me!

[@emilyrobinson1214]

This was the same for me, but then I got diagnosed.... it had gotten worse and then I realized I’m relating too much to this and I talked to a dr about it.

[@sarahwells9707]

Well said & the same for me!

[@FlaBulsara]

Same here. I learnt so much

[@MiljaHahto]

I remember how I ended here - vintage hair tutorial it was. But that really wasn't why I stayed. "Dealing with not enough spoons" was definitely one theme that made me stay.

[@curiousfirely]

Thank you Molly for talking about your medical anxiety. That cognitive dissonance of both being overwhelmed with anxiety, and knowing its not a logical reaction. What I find frustrating sometimes is having others (including medical personelle) trying to convince me to calm down, and that there is nothing to be anxious about. I'm like "I KNOW but this is happening anyways and you are not helping."

[@ash_rock]

I've been struggling lately because most of my coping mechanisms have been taken away due to Covid. I have an extreme phobia of needles and typically end up with panic attacks during blood draws and vaccines. I need someone there with me to calm me down and just talk to me when it starts, but because I'm not a minor and don't have a caregiver, I can't. I almost passed out my last blood draw due to panic (and the incompetence of the phlebotomist who couldn't fathom a place where I could lay down during or after the draw). I am desperately hoping that I can get the Johnson & Johnson vaccine so I don't have to deal with the massive amounts of anxiety I'd have before a second dose. Medical personelle have such a varied response to those with medical anxiety. Some are completely understanding and patient. Others don't care at all and get irritated or refuse to accommodate.

[@sleepypanda69]

💯

[@beckyakidd]

@@ash_rock I relate so hard. I recently had to go into a hospital for an exam, and I was getting stressed out bc I was lost and I couldn't read the signs. I asked a couple administrators for help and they were both so rude to me that I nearly had a panic attack five minutes before I was meant to see the doctor. If my mum had been with me, she could have read for me and helped keep me calm.

[@rebeccajesse4604]

I have a minor needle phobia. I get very anxious whenever I need a shot or blood draw. I have gotten better over the years but just last month had one of my worst episodes because the nurse refused to believe that it was a phobia for me. I am always upfront about my anxiety around needles and when I assured her that I don't pass out, she told me "there's a first time for everything. I had someone pass out on me earlier today". When I told her that I needed to think of something to distract myself she kept interrupting me to say "oh you just need to breath" I told her that wasn't good enough and she kept insisting it would be. By the end we needed to pull in a different phlebotomist who knew me and even then I was so freaked out I kept jerking my arm back involuntarily. I was almost in tears by the end of it. Also, I know it's not going to hurt. I am not afraid of the pain. I know it's not logical but just stop telling me you are using a tiny needle and it won't hurt. It doesn't help.

[@ash_rock]

@@rebeccajesse4604 "Also, I know it's not going to hurt. I am not afraid of the pain. I know it's not logical but just stop telling me you are using a tiny needle and it won't hurt. It doesn't help." This exactly! For me, the part that causes me mental distress is the knowledge that things are being added or removed from my body. I can know that it is perfectly safe and even good for me, but my brain doesn't care. It still triggers the panic response. I also had been getting significantly better... until my last blood draw as well. I really hope that experience doesn't end up setting me back on the process of reducing my phobia.

[@ZoeyRedbird]

When I was four I had my eyes dilated for the first time. I am STILL mad that no one told me that the procedure would make it so I couldn't see for awhile because when your four, you think that's forever. I thought these jerks just made everything look like it was melting forever, not for the next three hours. Lying to people just fosters mistrust regardless of age.