7 Signs They Are "THE ONE"

How can we KNOW if someone is the right partner for us? Regardless of whether we're seriously dating someone or thinking about marriage, there are certain traits that NEED to be present in them and in ourselves in order to ever have a successful relationship. These are those traits.
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[@tinkerbell1270]

1. safety 2. trust, respect (you and your boundaries), kindness (and vulnerable sharing) 3. integrity (personal accountability, no secret keeping, apologies without excuses) 4. shared values, compatibility (religion, politics, kids, inlaws, money, sharing chores,...) 5. empathy (ability to see the world through he other's eyes) 6. interested in growth, healing and emotional maturity (open to working on it if things get tough) 7. friend

[@stevensantora2976]

Thank you.

[@Guimaster127]

Thank you so much for the summary. Very helpful

[@eadler5929]

This should be taped in every home. 😊

[@L-K-Jellyfish]

"apologies without excuses" sounds fine but some excuses are valid. I think what people mean in general when they scornfully use the word "excuse" is actually blame shifting.

[@kt.1116]

These people talk and talk instead of listing the reason they are presenting.

[@mr_queso4665]

I’m 17 and am trying to prepare myself to be a good partner for when I actually find somebody, and these videos have been so eye opening.

[@noadlor]

Good for you. I wish I had this info 40+ years ago.

[@kristinae.7084]

You are AWESOME for educating yourself about relationships when you're only 17! Most of us only start in our 40's after one or two divorces LOL. You are going to make your partner VERY LUCKY someday!

[@sissa6048]

me tooooo

[@ezracerna9104]

I'm 18!

[@sheeepl4127]

That’s so cool to hear :) I’ll share my own two cents from what I’ve learned and wished I knew when I was that age. In short: Whether you believe in ”the one” or not, the person you might spend a large bunch of your life with will have flaws. It’s important for you both to aknowledge their and your flaws, compromise, and be better. To show we care we can show effort and patience by listening and communicating around these issues, and you can’t usually make things better instantly. But keeping that in mind, know your value and stand up for yourself when you feel things could be different.

[@mousebyte94]

Sending this to my husband, not because he does anything wrong, but to tell him he's amazing and does a lot of these already. Hi husband if you see this 👋

[@williambarr5283]

Hi wife! Thank you! You're always so good to me! I love you!

[@mohamedel-noamany9090]

This is so wholesome 🤧

[@cbentler4528]

Awwww this is so sweet

[@Littleannoyed]

God bless you both ❤

[@Nobara98]

You are so cute May Allah keep your relationship good and amazing as it is

[@rorytriscuit]

“Love, love, is a *verb,* love is a _doing_ word..” - Massive Attack, Teardrop

[@harrybrown4815]

No love is a descriptor, which embodies types, actions and phycological intent. As such in the English it malpresents it's true nature friendship, charity, family, lover, husband, wife and the one that can not be translated with one word Is Agape an unconditional love. Yet in English love is abused, to tell someone that they are your friend specifies the type of love but to tell that friend that you love them can be misconstrued and make them recoil, yet it is the same thing. So love and it's type is put in a single box and only let out at specific times

[@leontanghe183]

The version of José Gonzáles is beautiful too, worth a listen.

[@minniemehak2382]

Aurora sang it soo beautifully

[@porcupethcrumpets]

Love this song :)

[@_space.pony_]

“ you’re stumbling in the dark” Teardrop

[@katherinebraithwaite3794]

This is not just romantic relationships, it also helps a lot with parent/child relationships. Listening, being empathetic, taking responsibility for behaviour , showing mutual respect- it all matters with every relationship in life.

[@awlig]

Too true, Friendships came to mind

[@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690]

I agree

[@Esterfortofay357]

Yes!

[@sevenkashtan]

❤

[@Colin-dx7hc]

I agree and after watching this video I realized my child just wasn't the one. Found him a nice foster family last weekend.

[@CupcakeChan2611]

This man just gave me a whole free therapy session 😭😭

[@SanniJo179]

Me too 🙏

[@PrincessTee-z3s]

Me too 🙏

[@berniceforever]

Love him ❤

[@Zenned.out.Studio]

Fr. Everything he said was reassuring!

[@justinaadk5081]

2:07 There is no One 4:10 Safety 6:43 Trust 9:13 Kindness 11:54 Integrity 15:05 Shared values 17:34 Empathy 20:38 Growth & Counselling

[@allib6655]

thanks so much!

[@GraceRoska]

helpful thanks 🤲

[@jenniferdaniel20]

Thank you so much!!🤗

[@hayaashraf3404]

And enjoy

[@Liednard]

Could 100% be an actual album's tracklist, probably reggae or some conscious hip hop

[@myrnaalexander2090]

As a marriage /family therapist of 52 years, I love the vital ingredients of healthy relationships of which Jimmy speaks! His message is so significant to the viability of a healthy relationship; his talk has so many pearls of wisdom! This man is so right on!

[@randomfandom2516]

Do you feel like a relationship can work if you have different political opinions?

[@nicolebelanger6692]

imo...if that are fanatical and that is a huge passion of theirs and they get upset about the opposing view...um; no and everything inbetween is highly nuanced imo two people can have opposite views on politics and respectfully agree to disagree; if that's not possible then ...um; no @@randomfandom2516

[@danicaregala8415]

I agree!

[@rileywiebe3512]

It depends how important politics are to you and how it affects your lifestyle

[@teresacarle294]

​@@randomfandom2516 😊I think it's 💯% possible to love & be in relationship with someone with wildly differing views, but it's definitely NOT the easy road to walk. It's bound to raise conflict, but it doesn't have to be deadly. Of course, differences can add a truly interesting & exciting dynamic too. Mutual respect & tolerance must remain at the heart of it to keep things in balance⚖️. The statistics show in relationships, it is our commonality or shared qualities that often impact the most toward our longevity in relationships. Our differences can attract us to someone, but they must be managed in such a way to keep them in proper perspective. We must take steps to keep any differences from driving a wedge between us〰️ particularly in times of added stress. Personally, I also find that our political views often tap into our world views. Whether or not that person holds a Godly World View (whatever their actual religious belief system) or a Secular World View. A God centered person believes in moral absolutes & that we're ultimately accountable to a higher power for our actions. A Secular World View teaches that all truth is relative. That the buck stops w/you. Truth is a matter of personal preference vs absolute truth. Your world view can impact how you respond in a crisis. When your partner holds a differing world view, it can sometimes be tricky to feel united in how you're going to respond to it. These differences can add in some additional layers of stress. When we are distressed, there's great comfort in familiarity & a shared background or belief system. 🤔Both partners must possess a great deal of tolerance & self-discipline toward differences in others. In my family, we get into loud passionate❤️‍🔥 debates. By the end of the discussion, we all quietly retreat to our respective corners of the verbal boxing ring. It works bcos we all ultimately love & are committed to each other as human beings. We've all decided to keep to certain civil rules of engagement. We don't hold it against anyone for losing their cool in the heat of the moment. We simply allow the emotional fervor to dissipate & settle. We accept that there are some things that cannot be solved in a single debate. On politics & certain sacred things, we've respectfully "agree to disagree". Hope that helps. 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)

[@LaurieGo57]

After losing my partner of decades ( this week was the second anniversary of his passing), I’m gauging how ready I am to move on. And then I found you. My marriage was not perfect but it was damn good and I started listening to you to figure out what we got right, how we did that, and what we could have done better. After hours of listening, it has been illuminating. I miss him so! But he would be right there, cheering me on. This particular video has been enormously helpful in clarifying my thoughts. I downloaded it so I can revisit it frequently. Wish me well. I have every intention of making lightening strike twice.

[@Z1nny]

❤

[@psthisiskaty]

My heartfelt condolences!!❤️‍🩹🙏❤️‍🩹 I, too, am here doing the same! My hubby has been beside me in spirit for three years, now. I'm *just* now getting to a point where I can imagine, *one day!*, being interested in letting a new person in. Lol. And I absolutely wanna be more prepared this time around. Our relationship wasn't "bad," but there were plenty of areas it could have been better. So, before I go dipping my toes in the "pool of potential parners," I wanna make damn sure I'm an *excellent* swimmer this time around! Lol. Bc, after all, we're here for a good time, not a long time.🌟💖🌟

[@annabeltheduchessofdessert7700]

So very sorry for your loss. ❤

[@ocicatrangler3902]

Sorry for your loss..It is Such a gift finding the right mindset in a partner! I finally found it, 7 yrs after getting out of a marriage with an emotionally Immature/Stunted partner. They're out there! Best of luck on your journey 🙏

[@rorytriscuit]

Those who are struck by lightning once are more likely to be struck later, compared to those who haven’t. May you get your second lucky strike.⚡️💙

[@jointedlegs]

My boyfriend and I are planning to get married but I’m increasingly frustrated with him. I realised after listening to you that he lacks kindness, empathy, and frequently blame-shifts (accusing me back when I’m upset w him until he makes me cry), becomes defensive, and gives me the silent treatment when we have a conflict. I’m increasingly getting very weary trying to teach him how to be emotionally mature. He says he’s trying to change and grow. But I’m not sure if I should continue this…so tired of this recurrent behaviour…

[@meghanviola3037]

I can promise you- all of that will get worse if you marry him.

[@suezwicker]

@@meghanviola3037 get out my friend

[@candyxoxo19]

Marrying for physical attraction is not good. It is important to have emotional, temporal and spiritual support.

[@babypistolwhip3621]

Girl, the writing is on the wall. Do not let your youth go to waste.

[@bookworm4815162342]

I came from this exact situation, and now I’m in a relationship with the exact opposite. Please leave. Yes. It’ll be painful. But you’ll have peace. You’ll heal. And that opens up space for someone who is healthy, safe, and emotionally available to come along and love you properly. Life is too short to be treated that way.

[@reneecaines9097]

The act of opening one's mouth and making noise isn't communicating- that just speech. Communicating is when both people are hearing and understanding and responding correctly.

[@PrincessTee-z3s]

Facts true story 👌

[@tainara2]

He's like the best friend we all should have found years ago but we're still grateful we found him recently

[@tainara2]

@WfweDcrf yes, why? Lol

[@searain1573]

I don't think the romantic type of love is special and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.

[@estherufuomaenejeta-eroh2147]

....Love doesn't make the difference, how you love is what makes the difference.....

[@KamalRaj-ni5hb]

Interesting video. There is a book called Charmflow Secrets and let me tell you… you won’t be the same after reading it. It’s not the usual ''game'' stuff. It’s deeper. Darker. You’ll start to see seduction in a completely different light.

[@janetttyminski7295]

Having been divorced twice, I knew there were deficits in our relationships but I thought love would see us through. Love simply is not enough. This is an exceptional video that all couples should watch before deciding to marry.

[@Portia620]

Agreed!!!

[@danaking4022]

So agree!!! Great great great video🙌👏🙏

[@glennpesti6519]

So true, been there done that😢

[@Veshrka6963]

When my husband cheated on me 3weeks post partum and blamed me for his behavior, I had a severe depression after my tough journey at the Psych unit when I was partially healing I asked him to come with me to couple counseling he said “I’ll go with you if you want but I don’t need it” I never asked him again and now we are divorced. I wish he could come across your video before he sent me down the hill. Thank you for sharing such important tips ❤

[@isabellaa.4643]

I am so so sorry you had to go through that, hope you don’t take offense but I’m glad you divorced him, seems like he was a selfish and horrible human, I’m glad you were able to see that you don’t need him. You are a beautiful person and you deserve to be loved and cared for. Wish you nothing but happiness! 💕

[@Veshrka6963]

@@isabellaa.4643 Thank you for your kind words. Happily divorced and actually doing better on all levels with my child . I wish you nothing but success and happiness ❤️

[@kathleengainor8532]

So sorry. So glad you are free from emotional abuse.

[@Veshrka6963]

@@kathleengainor8532 Thank You ❤️

[@kathleengainor8532]

Lovely lady.

[@judithvillegas4471]

Your video came in a perfect time. I’m thinking of leaving a two year relationship. He’s actually a great guy and has grown so much. I’ve even sent him some of your videos and watched them. Truth is, he still is inconsistent in making me a priority. His promises just seem empty words now. He’s a nice man, but isn’t ready for loving me how I want to be loved. Thank you for saying “how” your loved is important.

[@charlieann6321]

Same 😢 3.5 years of empty words. It’s making me feel unworthy and ashamed. I know I deserve more. But it’s so hard to walk away when promises never happen. It’s becoming mental torture and so toxic.

[@CoralBalmoral]

Do it at two years and 3.5 years, don't invest ten years ...

[@jenster29]

​@@CoralBalmoral I'm 20 years in .. i can't get out.

[@charlieann6321]

Coral I’m so sorry 😢 love can hurt beyond words! My best girlfriend died before Christmas but I know she would be screaming at me to leave him! Love should be patient, kind and gentle. Not toxic, controlling, manipulative and full of lies and broken promises.

[@rorytriscuit]

@@charlieann6321pls get your ducks in a row (quietly, don’t say anything to your partner), and pls get out. If your bestie would scream at you, you know what to do. My sister saved me. Sending love. 💙

[@justaname999]

Feeling like I found "the one" was what kept me in a very unhealthy relationship for way too long. And he would really lean into this idea of "we just are meant to be. There is no other person for me out there but you," while really not putting any effort into being a better partner. This was the single most important step of growing up for me I have ever taken. I took several years after that relationship when I just dated but didn't have a longer-term relationship. I took the time to feel better and find some sort of respect for myself that I then could take into the relationship I have now with my husband/father of my children. It was such a revelation when this relationship just seemed to "fall into place," as opposed to all the struggles before. It's not like we never fight but it's never disrespectful and ugly.

[@krystleklarity]

@10:15 100% Why my last relationship failed. He would pay attention to his phone over me then want affection after ignoring me. IF I had the audacity to mention feeling snubbed, he went into victim mode, every time. I learned not to share my feelings and he never asked about them. In the 3.5 yrs we were together I do not remember him starting a conversation 1x. It was always me, and after the first 1.5 yrs all attemps to communicate that I felt unsafe sharing my feelings, were always met with defensiveness, projection and accusation. So I stopped trying to communicate. The last 7 months were beyond toxic. "Relationships die in the conversations that were never had." So much truth. Thank you Jimmy. There is a lot of good guidance here.

[@kTorres007]

I'm sorry you went through that. I went thru similar behavior from my exhus too. Take time to heal. It's a different type of healing if you recognize that you were with a narcissist.

[@krystleklarity]

@@kTorres007 I don't believe he is a Narcissist although he was behaving like one. More DPD than NPD. In his eyes I was responsible for all his feelings and thoughts. Either way it was toxic. I am continuing to look within and hold myself accountable for the fact that I saw all the red flags and reasoned them away. I am 100% responsible for beginning every conversation. I never left him responsible for his communication because it was too uncomfortable to wait for him to address something that he never would. I am healing. Though at 56 I doubt I will ever enter into another romantic relationship. I have yet to see a benefit.

[@joetheboy04]

What made you stay in that relationship for so long?

[@krystleklarity]

#1 the first 1.5 years we're great. #2 he took a toxic job and became depressed #3 his dad died and he became further depressed. I was trying to be supportive and hold space for him during trying times for him, and decided to give it 1 more year for him to pull out of the funk. The last 7 months were when he finally got into counseling and I wanted to give it a chance.

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

@@krystleklarity it’s hard to help men who are depressed and insecure and won’t see it…

[@pauljsm]

man, I am/have been the toxic one! 😵‍💫 ... and my relationship with myself is bad, I don't take good care of myself. Instead of getting better at it, I've just stayed single for the past 10 years. I'll try harder and keep going to therapy. Thanks, Jimmy, for sharing all that wisdom.

[@amusicalartist]

Proud of you for owning it. :) Owning it is the first step for improvement-- good job :)

[@_space.pony_]

Good luck 🍀 Hope you are still having a fruitful journey with yourself. I also tell my kids, you have to be your first best friend in life, it all begins with you.

[@rolandbarnes1126]

I completely understand you there it took me getting cancer to realize I needed to stop using my past trauma as an excuse to not try again and I completely failed my first attempt it was bad timing

[@maxguntaniii5980]

Oh gosh. I didn't realize that I have so much to improve on how I treat my partner. Over the years with my partner, I've become a better person and this made me feel that it's never too late to change. I've started looking into myself more evaluating if it's me. I can attest that there's so much more to a relationship than love, and both should work to keep the relationship a safe place for both. Thank you for this wonderful video!

[@MattRio]

You and me both.

[@feurigerStern]

You are a wonderful husband. A good spouse realizes that there is room for improvement.

[@lockenkopfjulie]

May I ask what made you start looking into yourself? And how was that at the beginning? I’m super curious :) also: high fives!! Sounds like you’re on a great path :)

[@MattRio]

@@lockenkopfjulie referring to me or original comment?

[@maxguntaniii5980]

@@lockenkopfjulie I have always blamed my childhood trauma for behaving erraticly. I wasn't a monster but with that reason I thought that I can get away with having a bad mood or two. Then my partner would always say that it hurts when I act that way which I didn't understand before. My partner repeated that for a number of times and I didn't understand because I thought I should be the one hurting. Then I realized that some things should stay in the past to no longer hurt the present. I realized that with the childhood trauma going nowhere, it only hurts my partner when I have it. So I started forgiving my past and confronted my childhood trauma. I looked into my actions and evaluated them as a third person. I realized that my childhood trauma should've been only haunting me, and not my partner. It's a work on progress, on myself, and my partner gradually became happier. My partner has always been very patient and I have always asked myself how come I can't be like that.

[@juk1779]

I'm really grateful to have found your channel. As a man who just got out of a 6 year relationship since highschool, I've felt quite lost on what I want for my own future and what I want from someone else in my future as well. Your content has helped me figure out how I should be better so that it paths a path of what I want out of my next relationships and what type of man I want to be. Too often, men are introduced to super toxic styles of 'Self help' and 'Relationship' content which doesn't hold them accountable, but when I watch your videos I feel as though you cover all ends without directing blame towards the other person. Your content is not only good for romantic relationships but just relationships in general. I feel like I can much better communicate with my close friends and family with a lot of the key talking points you covered in this video. Thanks for being real and helping throughout my journey.

[@11Dreams]

This comment is so good. Sometimes people listen to the videos and feel personally attacked.

[@phoenixhires4685]

I feel you! I also just got out of a 6 year relationship, and when I found Jimmy's channel it was like a huge hug I've been needing. I don't blame my ex anymore, because I see so much of what I was doing wrong, as well. This channel makes me want to be a better partner, friend, and co-worker. So grateful other people feel the same 🙏🏼

[@kimrhea1755]

The boundaries are important and this is so spot on. I'm tired of feeling unimportant and devalued.

[@Socutensi]

I feel you. ❤ And what I have learned through these years is that boundaries has to be set from that person to whom are crossed to. We that have problems with boundaries are tend to wait people to see for themselves that they are ceossing boundaries. Well.... that's not gonna happen. WE have to set them. For us. WE have to learn how to protect US from somebody or somebodys behaviour. Rooting for you. ❤

[@SnarkasticSunny]

Yeah, me too. I set them ut enforcing is so hard! Violators have - "reasons" - excuses. What then? Without causing bigger problem that it's worth??

[@earthfa333]

i'm so proud of you. this comment is about a year old now... I bet you've grown so much. good job. ♡ even just realizing you want better is huge, dude.

[@KaranPasi408]

I totally agree with this. I also read about this in a book 'Charmflow Secrets', and the thing is that communication and seduction isn't just expressing your needs, but also knowing how to listen to others carefully and to be assertive with your words when you communicate with other people. It can change so much if you do it properly. Really great book.

[@millypooh3996]

Thank you for this. I am engaged and this has given me a lot to consider and remember. I was in a marriage with a narcissist for 14 years and am now engaged in a healthy relationship. It’s actually kind of weird. I’m having to learn how to function in a healthy relationship and it’s all new.

[@rorytriscuit]

Blessings! You got dis.

[@joetheboy04]

If you do not figure out that the issue isn't that you were with a narcissist but that you attracted one, you will soon start seeing the same trends in your current partner when you were/are the problem all along.

[@millypooh3996]

@@joetheboy04 Oh no doubt, I have no one to blame but myself. But he was the first and only narcissist I’ve ever been in a relationship with. My first husband was nothing like that. And my current boyfriend is nothing like that. Several years of therapy has definitely helped, too. Narcissists are really good at what they do he convinced me to keep coming back for 14 years. Until he finally left me for another woman. I really feel sorry for her too. But yes, I chose to believe his lies, I chose to keep going back to him. I was the cause of my problems, because I knew it was never going to get better, no matter how convincing he was.

[@detjaggillar8081]

​@@millypooh3996DON'T EVER blame Your self to staying with the narcissist... cause as You say and that's the truth - a narcissist are MASTER's of Manipulation who-ever-they-meet 😒 I know and even the every one who is professional psycologisth knows that! Why I know it? Cause I had several normal and healthy relationships and had also been married with a healthy and normal man for 21 year - but we divorced. 1 year after the divorce I met a covert narcissist and of course I didn't understand that he was an NPD ... that he discovered at the beginning as narcs always do - they are experts of manipulation. So it took me about 10 years until I was strong enough to discard him and left that toxic relationship. But ... I did it and by myself 💥👊👍 After that it took me a couple of years to heal my self, built up my self and my boundiries (again) and today 10 years after I left him I'm in peace and harmony. I have read a lot of litterature of NPD, co-dependency (me as an empath) etc and all of Read Flags. I know today how I NOT gonna to be snared into a toxic relationship again but it isn't easy to find a normal and healthy partner... I am singel (still or should I say: yet!?) because I feel comfortable in my own company even if I do not gonna to say No to an partner. Love comes if it is ment to bee or otherwise - it isn't ment 😅 But I NEVER EVER feel that it was MY fault that HE (the narcissist) chose me or it that is MY fault that HE abused and manipulated Me. No Way. The guilt is his and only his what he did to me or too other of his victims. And it will always bee that! **Last year 2023 in february he died. 55 years old only. Alone in his flat in multiple diagnosis caused by his alcoholism. I am still aliwe - 64 years old for now.

[@homiesenatep]

@@millypooh3996no, don’t listen to him. He’s blaming you for your own problems. The husband is the narcissist, so it’s his fault not yours.

[@MissAprilMarie]

“Love doesn’t make the difference” - “How you love does.” Those are wise words my friend!👏🏼👏🏼❤️

[@janetryan4612]

The "One" to me is someone who supports me in creating a safe, loving space to express how we feel and how to help each other get our needs met to the best of our ability. Now if I could just meet my "One". 😊

[@ocicatrangler3902]

They're out there.. you concentrate on getting yourself to the level you want your partner to be at, once you're there & practicing these methods, you will feel it / notice it in others. I found it after getting out of a marriage with an emotionally immature partner. It did take some time, but I finally found a man with all of these qualities & more! So very thankful ❤

[@MillerRelationshipGuide]

This is essentially the beauty of marriage! A happy and healthy relationship doesn't come naturally... it takes lots of learning and work but that's what brings growth to you, your partner and the relationship and you can earn the bond that is irreplaceable.

[@dutchpainter602]

I liked your words:....earn the bond that is irreplaceable.

[@reventarparacrear]

Setting high value relationship standards has been one of the most difficult decisions of my entire life, but it's also the most mature and healthy decision I've made. I actually made a list and I keep it always at sight so I don't forget (because when we're learning something new we normally tend to forget). Keep doing this Jimmy, you're literally saving lives ❤

[@devankurmitra4118]

What are some of these values if you don't mind me asking?

[@lilahe5287]

What is on your list, if I may ask?

[@reventarparacrear]

I'm reporting one year after I made this comment and I must say I'm still living up to my standards within my relationships. It has been hard sometimes, especially when it comes to a life partner. But now I'm sure it's absolutely important that I keep up with myself through healthy standards and boundaries. My list is still the same and it's very personal because it's based on my own core values. Everyone has to do the work of looking inside and find out by themselves. Keep going, you're doing great ❤

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

Wow, this is so uplifting it’s truly important to stay inspired. I feel such a deep sense of emptiness. It’s been two months since Jack left, and every day feels like an eternity without him. My mind is overwhelmed with memories of our time together. The thought that I’ll never experience the little things with him again is so painful. I’ve texted him so many times, pouring out how much I miss and want him back, but he hasn’t replied. All I can do now is hold onto the memories.

[@ValerieStaten-b9y]

It’s okay to grieve, my dear. It’s clear that you’re not just missing Jack but also the part of yourself that you shared with him. Reaching out to him like that shows how much love you still carry it takes real courage to be so vulnerable. Heartbreak is painful, but don’t lose hope. I understand how you feel. My own heartbreak was devastating sudden and brutal. It left me feeling lost and shattered. In my desperation for solace and guidance, I turned to a spiritual counselor recommended by a friend.

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

That sounds interesting! What exactly does the spiritual counselor do?

[@ValerieStaten-b9y]

His name is Father Tosin Ayodele, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their exes.

[@AngelaGardner-t6c]

Thank you so much for the suggestion you have no idea how much this means to me.

[@samengelage3521]

One thing that I've learned over the years is that "perfect" is a word that literally means the unachievable. Everyone's ideas of what they see as "perfect" are often subjective. Instead, every day, I aim to simply be a little better than The day I was before. There's always something new to learn, a new level of mastery, a new skill to pick up. I may not be able to do everything, but I don't need to. I just need to do better. After gaining this perspective, I also began to understand that expecting perfection out of someone else is delusional and unrealistic. It can also be cruel, as it can lead to you wanting to force people around you to change according to your unrealistic standards. Making an effort to stay in shape/be physically healthy over a long period of time is a resonable standard. Expecting to be happy every second of svery day is not. Making some time to prioritize connection and intimacy between your partner, as well as a bit of time for yourself every once in a while is a reasonable standard. Expecting to have mind-blowing sex all the time across the course of your lives when you have kids together, you're each working a job and you're dead tired after every day is an unreasonable standard. Wanting to have your own sense of individuality even as part of a collective is reasonable and actually, very important. Expecting to have every interest you have line up perfectly with your partner's interests is an unrealistic standard. Wanting to feel loved, respected, and treasured is more than reasonable. Expecting things to always be peachy is unrealistic. Thing's will never be perfect, we can just make them as good as possible

[@mariecarlson832]

Jimmy, I am in grad school studying to be a marriage and family therapist and I feel like I could have saved all my student loan money and just watch your videos! :) You are very insightful and you bring so much material together in such a brilliant way. Your point of a couple looking at a fake fight and seeing where it goes wrong is absolutely brilliant. Tons of nuggets in each video--truly.

[@sherideman7528]

I had not been taught how to PROPERLY love myself/others, and wish that this EXTREMELY important information was a part of all schools curriculums & parenting! Considering that connection is the #1 thing that a humans life revolves around, you would think that this would be the most important part of schooling:.... MAKE IT HAPPEN❕

[@ry2yb]

I agree. This stuff should be taught in schools. Hopefully Jimmy gets an opportunity to get these videos into a school curriculum.

[@calliope6623]

Absolutely agree! It should be part of the core curriculum in public schools, along with basic life skills that many kids don't get at home.

[@janeydoe1403]

So step one, make a new friend....Thank you, Jimmy. I just recently found your channel. Five years out from a very toxic 18-year marriage. Not my first one. You're right. It all starts with me. I thought I might be ready to start dating. I think I'll just begin with baby steps and look to connect with my (brand new) community via volunteering and make some friends, instead. Blessings.

[@PrincessTee-z3s]

Yes making the right new friends is very important and healing and moving forward with your life is very important and definitely let your family know this is happening to you so you can heal even if you have to go talk to a therapist because your mental health comes first god bless you on your healing journey ❤

[@manuelacarla5352]

For me, the one is that person who I can be myself with. I don't hope that they fix me, I hope they recognize that I need help and stay with me while I cure myself. Don't know wow to explain my thoughts

[@justnastas]

Thought I'll find something about my partner in this video, but it actually showed me that I was the one not doing enough for him. Thanks for bringing that to my attention, I want to get better so I'll try my best to have an honest conversation today!

[@castherwildnote]

This is really encouraging, thank you. I want to remind everyone when these things mentioned above are not reciprocated, you are not loved. It is not you the person that they want, respect, and care for. You are either one of the following dysfunctional roles; punching bag, broken mirror, free counsellor service, mother, father, garbage bin. If you have any more examples, please share them! He is right, more love does not fix anything. If there is even a chance for change, if at all possible, it is the counterintuitive decision to move away and love from a distance so that they can reflect, have a chance to miss you if they even would, and then reflect (again if they even see a problem in them). If and when they come back, it will be with a heart of change, not with the same positions demanded or required of you as listed above.

[@AlauraJones]

“Having children with someone is a big deal.” YES. When we are choosing a spouse or even just a significant other we have to ways be asking ourselves, “Can this person help me raise children?” And even if you think they would be great at rearing children, we can’t discount how they treat us, because that is a huge factor. The best way to love your child is to love your spouse. Is this person going to be honest, faithful, loving, respectful? Because if you find out later that they are a cheater or a compulsive liar and you’re already married with a child, that will have massive implications for your children. Don’t ignore even the smallest red flag, and especially not to save the person’s feelings by not breaking up with them and allowing the relationship to turn into a marriage, because one day that red flag could turn out to be who they actually are, and could affect your children, even just through hurting you. Protect your future children, date with your eyes wide open. This video is so good and needed.

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

This👆👆👆!!! Listen to someone caught in this with 4 kids and 17 yrs of a difficult marriage… Listen to this advice above. I wish I had and not jumped into marriage and healed so I could recognize red flags and work on my issues. I grew from them. My spouse keeps going back to what feels safe on a vicious cycle. Our kids see it and I hate it.

[@Frostfern94]

The first question is IF they want children

[@AmyMariePansyMcGee]

This is amazing! I have shared it with my adult kids and my friends. There is so much truth here. This should be shown in premarital counseling.

[@ry2yb]

So true!

[@MegaAntagon]

Indeed!

[@rlwonder89]

amen I am sharing this

[@recoveringsoul755]

Should be shown in highschool. Not everyone gets any premarital counseling. And some people lie

[@kellyreid1998]

Jimmy - as a mother of two sons, I am extremely grateful for your videos that model so much that I want to instill in them. Your messages are spot on, and your humorous, frank delivery means that they will actually watch them.

[@ChristofHaemmerle]

You made my cry for exactly 31 min and 21 seconds. Your insides to relationships is amazing. 🎉😊 Thank you!

[@DipaliBag-t6t]

I agree 100%. ''Seduction is an invitation, not a demand.'' After reading Charmflow Secrets, I’ve learned that seduction is all about creating a space where people feel seen and understood. It’s about communicating with authenticity and confidence, without any pressure.

[@elleglenn]

Listened to the list and couldn't help crying. I have gotten avoidant to the point where I have given up on relationships altogether. Only the bare minimum: my mom and my daughter. And I'm alertly keeping the distance with them as well. All the beautiful things like security, respect, kindness and integrity are something out of a fairytale. I strive to make sure my family feels safe, respected and accepted with kindness for what they are, but I rarely feel these things reciprocated. And if my closest people can`t find it in them to be kind and respectful why should any other person on the planet be expected to respect my boundaries or be kind to me? Oh, well, I'm too far gone to be helped. But thank you for your videos. It's comforting to hear my feelings verbalized.

[@cecilen.c.7495]

No one is too far gone to be helped !! It's all about first working on yourself. The only person expected to respect your boundaries is you - a boundary isn't telling the other what you want them to do/change, but informing them of how you'd like to be treated and what you will do if it's not the case, and do it every time. There's so much solace to be found in working on yourself, for yourself, and not depending on others for kindness - it's about giving it to yourself first, then you can find people who will give it to you, and stop wanting it from people who don't.

[@Lulu-Godsbeloved]

You are not too far gone. I have experienced what you have described with all those closest to me (parents, kids,marriage, friendship). For me(not necessarily for you) I had to go no contact with everyone in my life. Unfortunately they were all toxic, narcissist or one sided relationships. (I do still hope to renew a relationship with my kids). Fast forward 18 months later I have six good friends that actually are the "fairytales" you mentioned. They love me, are kind, remember my birthday. We've had tough conversations and we are still here. It's not the easiest when trauma and old unhealthy patterns have been the norm but it's possible. Prayer for you that you find the same thing in your family and in friendships 🙏.

[@elleglenn]

@@Lulu-Godsbeloved thank you so much 🌟

[@rorytriscuit]

Keep looking - there is someone out there who understands and will love you for you. You deserve reciprocity at the barest minimum. Blessings and hugs 💙

[@deeinmich1]

This is UNBELIEVABLE!!!! Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes to having the courage to get out of a toxic relationship. Yes to trust. Yes to integrity. Yes to going slow. Yes to kindness!YESSSS to empathy!!!!Thank you!! I shared this to my FB.

[@kadd4415]

Good advice: whatever is a red flag in dating will be 10x more important in marriage. Like the example used of having kids, empathy, habits, personality tendancies, etc.

[@christbeliever4407]

The end part where you said "You do not deserve to be yelled at." It was for me brother! It hit my heart hard! Thanks for the message!

[@genevievepeters1502]

Thank you Jamie for this video. I shared it with my daughter who is separated currently. For me, it really solidified some things in my marriage of 35 years. I totally believe in therapy/counseling. We are always learning and growing. Have a blessed day.

[@JimmyonRelationships]

Thank you for this!

[@VriEvolutionTarot888]

4:10 Safety 5:40 6:44 Build Trust 8:08 Respect 9:10 Consistently Kind & Selflessness 10:13 mutual admiration 11:54 Integrity & Honesty & Communication 15:05 Shared values 17:33 Empathy 20:40 when things get tough, can you get counselling together? 23:50 avoiding pain in every way = fear

[@tianiemitchell5692]

Passion attraction isn't enough to keep people together love comes with respect honor Trust compassion understanding so on and so forth that's how people build a relationship and then the passion from that love grows

[@angki20]

What made me click on this video was the curiosity of knowing which points have I ticked off with my new relationship. My partner and I have been together for 2 and almost 3 months and yet he has helped me grow way more and made me feel loved way more than my 11 years and 6 months past relationship. This video really made me feel proud of my current relationship because we tick all 7 signs and I am going to share this with him. All 7 signs really does make a difference in making the relationship fulfilling. I love this video so much and makes me more confident that my partner and I know what we are doing every day for eachother 😊 Thank you for this❤

[@JenGrice]

Haven’t found anyone who is willing to show up and put in the work to have a healthy relationship. 💜

[@BelovedbyAdonai]

This man’s insight is brilliant. The best on the subject of what healthy and toxic relationships look like. Thank you!!!

[@inspired2rv661]

I love the empathy intro!😂” if it’s so important why are you waiting till number five? I forgot OK I’m sorry”😂😂

[@grreenbeans]

I’m so sad for myself watching this. Married almost 20 years and yet very much alone. Had all the right conversations in the beginning and then it deteriorated into what I can only describe as a roommate situation.

[@MikeHalsall]

Really sorry to hear this.

[@Milamyyy]

Though it’s no reason to give up on this. Also don’t just accept a relationship with which you’re not happy and fulfilled. I wish you success and hope and power ❤

[@Trishaa_gemini]

You might want to consider that you are better off alone. I had to do this. 22 years of marriage and I left. It was so toxic in the last 10 years. I felt myself dying inside. I had physical problems from his negativity. Back surgery, double knee surgery, stomache issues, sinus trouble. Sleeping was difficult, my nerves were frazzled. 7 Months out and my stomache problems gone. I am working and going to the gym. My legs are strong and my back is strong now. I am getting mentally stronger too. I pray you can find a way to live in peace. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it. ❤❤God be with you.

[@agnesr.4664]

Maybe you try counseling? Every relationship is hard work. If you end this one without trying, believe me, you'll carry your own red flags (which you might not be aware of) into the next one... Bless you!

[@gabriellacamile530]

I’m in the same boat but been married for 12..

[@soniamokdad4023]

This is the most complete and deepest video on relationship fundamentals ever. Immensely grateful

[@ammongunnell]

Amazing insight! Been doing a lot of self reflection this last year, but this helped me understand that I have toxic traits that I need to fix and have a lot of emotional healing to get done. Thank you so much!

[@ilianamunoz4872]

I discovered your posts a little while ago and have found them to be so incredibly valuable and genuinely insightful. This video is a jewel - for serious romantic relationships, but also for any great relationships with people you care about. That includes ourselves. Please continue because this is so valuable. Thank you. 🙏👍💕

[@juliabarrow5877]

@ilianamunoz perfectly said

[@rainwoman8571]

It gives me great joy to see the younger generation working this w/these issues. While your working it out, little eyes are watching your negotiations and see this is how to IRON OUT the work out of living together to go forward in harmony.

[@PingWine]

This is the most perfect video I've ever seen on relationships. You explain things beautifully with easy to understand examples. Thank you for these videos and I sincerely hope this video/your channel blows up in views. This video is an invaluable learning resource that everyone should watch at least once.

[@texasjulia]

It is so crazy when I listen to these videos - when you HAD what he is describing, you JUST KNOW. It just is! When you lose it, and you start trying to find it again- EVERYTHING he talks about - it happens - and why do we stay in it?! WALK AWAY. Like my WWII Aunts and Uncles used to tell us, “you just know!” Amazing video!

[@Luetzsab]

I am in a relationship with the same human being for almost 16 years (4 of them married and as a parent to our child). And while there are ups and downs - and sometime heavy downs - I can really say that I have found my ONE. We can work it out everytime, no matter the hardships. Not because we are perfect, but because we aren't and we allow ourselves and the other one to simply not ahving to feel the need to be perfect. We try really hard to make the other feel heard, seen and loved. And I can see how important this is, when I see my child reproducing this behavior we model. Being loving, empthatic, understanding, kind. Oh man I love this familiy. Nevertheless I really love your videos and your channel because I can still use a lot of you insights to be a better partner and parent to my children. Thank you for your video!

[@JCnordic2983]

I value a respectful tone when a partner has an issue. Not being berated a simple explanation and not a dictorial command.

[@charlieann6321]

I’m so thankful to have found your channel Jimmy! 💜 3.5 years of a relationship which has become full of broken promises and manipulation. I have moved home, job, been kept away from my grown up children, made to change my phone number, not speak to any of my male friends. He is ethnic, still lives with his parents at 35 but won’t move forward despite promising to do so. I can’t suffer anymore. I deserve more!

[@erikalouise2857]

The world needs to know you. The way you discuss about this theme makes a huge difference. You deal with it lightly and still punctual. God bless you and you’re family with abundance, love and protection 🙏🏼💖✨

[@applez247]

Thank You! This was very helpful! Peace and wellness to you and your family. God Bless Shalom 🕊

[@Ruth-vy1qj]

I’m glad he brought up we shouldn’t be hypocrite a lot of people want people to have certain characteristics but lack it themselves. He give out excellent tips not just for intimate/marriage relationships.

[@Gillithing]

It really helps when you give actual examples of the things that we should and shouldn't be doing - it might seem obvious to some, but I don't know what 'being vulnerable with my partner' looks like unless you say it's when you... Thanks so much 😊🙏 btw I love your funny videos too, I sometimes laugh out loud 😂

[@Portia620]

Agree!

[@show_me_your_kitties]

Watch his shorts. A lot of specific examples.

[@11Dreams]

They’re other videos that talk about being vulnerable with your partner.

[@horseydino]

Here is an example: being vulnerable is when you feel scared to share something because you don't know how the other person will react; but you do it anyways because they've proven they are a safe person. I didn't want to tell my partner I was worried about his health, so instead I had been making passive aggressive remarks when he would do unhealthy things. I was scared if I told him I was worried about his personal health choices he would be angry at me. But I care about him and want him to be healthy. It turns out telling him my real feelings in a direct way (being vulnerable) gave me a much better result and he was glad I told him how I feel. I hope that helps a little 😊

[@kelseymcelroy5761]

This is freaking amazing thank you so much for validating my thoughts and feelings and also verbalizing them so well! Took the words right out of my brain that I can never articulate! Much appreciation!!

[@GenXfrom75]

Together 21 years on February 18, ‘24! Married 19 in August 2023. We both came from broken families. We just decided to elope at the courthouse and do everything opposite of our divorced parents. ❤

[@grannygirlfriend]

Not planning on getting married again, or even dating, but this was straight up great advice and much to put into practice with even friends💖 Thank you for caring to share!

[@Mebh547]

Seriously, a guy with this much relationship wisdom is a new one for me! 😆 Great video!

[@yvonnemaybe2853]

I give a big shout out for you! These days I am watching your videos on a weekly basis, and take your content to sit down and reflect on my relationship, because I love my partner and I want our relationship to be strong and healthy. Thank you very much!

[@bumblebee8158]

His argument is, "You should know... I shouldn't have to tell you." Got it. 👌

[@teleportmanteau]

I hate that, completely unfair

[@cockycookie1]

You should do the research yourself. It's not on the other person to make you understand what's healthy and what isn't.

[@randommimir]

watch more of jimmys videos, he has talked about that topoc! sometimes thats an answer given when there isnt a safe space or someone is feeling neglected, verbal communication isnt the only communication available, this can be a two sided problem, but it can be solved if both are willing to express their concerns!

[@SoulGlowHealing]

This is so packed full of good points. I can see why my ex partner and I were not working. We each wanted to change one another and did not admire one another

[@meganfenton4189]

I'm really blessed that my guy and I have all of this. It doesn't mean that we won't hit bumps, but we've been building an amazing relationship thus far, and I believe our marriage will be beautiful!

[@takeller3657]

Spot on! Oceans of tears and 1/2 my adult life to catch this net. I have. It took time to evolve into the person who could deliver the goods and backbone to discern. 🎉

[@andreazavala4193]

“We have to be okay with unhealthy relationships ending” so true!! I ended it even I liked him a lot but I knew it was unhealthy and made me unhappy. I met the greatest guy a couple of months after in the wild. When I wasn’t even looking to date. He checks all the boxes

[@HelenSellars]

Thankyou … that was one of the BEST all inclusive relationship advice videos I seen … 🤩

[@sharonraboy3358]

Omg that's exactly what I always say!!! If you're gonna love somebody you gotta be OK with suffering. Not only cus it might end, but because you're gonna miss them when you're apart, you're gonna have misunderstanding or go through difficulties. But most importantly because when you tell somebody you love them, you're telling them: You matter to me. What happens to you, what you do, what you say to me will affect me.

[@erinszarban7711]

Love is respect, care, support, and thinking of someones best interests and taking consideration for their needs and wants. Sadly most people confusion attraction, infatuation, and admiration for love.

[@neszi3]

Thank you for this very informative video. I recently fell in love with someone and boy did it trigger hidden wounds I never thought I had. It's been an uphill battle for healing since I realized and faced these trauma that I have. It's the part in your reel that convinced me to check out this video. I saw a lot of people saying that "Love doesn't hurt, failed expectation does." But I did love and didn't have much expectation yet I hurt so much. Then you said in your reel that to love is to be vulberable and that opens to the risk of pain. Which is so damn true. I will take note of everything you mentioned here and keep on journey to healing.

[@jerrysusanfloyd3909]

This is GOLD - u knocked it out of the park!!

[@aka44441]

Really helpful. It is hard for love not to control us.

[@_Tine_90]

Yes. Completely. Everything. The relationship with my boyfriend is different from the ones before. We can communicate. With respect, with kindness, with an open mind and we always know, that a discussion oder an argument doesn´t touch the foundation of our love. And we ask each other, even when we are arguing, what the other one needs from us. And if we are the one asked, we take a breath and try to answer the question. It´s all about making an offer and accept, if you get one. Stay in contact :)

[@desertdog8006]

For years, love felt elusive. I would fall head over heels, and then something would raise my anxious attachment alert. My heart would feel cold, I’d initiate a break up, then try to get back together. I dated quality men, but I didn’t know how to love without fearing pain. I carry guilt for the pain I put others through.

[@desertdog8006]

I think I struggle to feel feelings. I mean I love people and find joy in bringing others joy. But I am reluctant to get into romantic relationships. I never expect people to truly love and respect me. So I am stand offish. Now I'm trying to remedy that but not yet allowing my heart to open and be vulnerable.

[@karinwetzel1773]

@@desertdog8006- am at this same stage right now!

[@dougfoster445]

Phew. Got all of these with my partner! Takes work but he’s worth it! Trust is so important. Accountability is also a huge one! When you mess up, acknowledge it! Conflict resolution is also huge.

[@sagelidik4536]

After my relationship failed without warning I was so clueless as to why they left me until I started watching jimmy and others and doing my own research and oh boy I realized how hurtful I was being with out even realizing it. It broke my heart even more when I realized I was mainly the problem but now I know what I need to work about myself in order to be a better person and partner because I never want to hurt someone like that again its worst than any physical pain I still love him with all my heart were talking a little bit again maybe one day we can try again but that foundation of safety is going to be hard to get back.

[@oyemafupresh6159]

You may never know how much you hurt someone until you see things from their views. I've made lots of mistakes due to emotional detachment and hearing Jimmy say all of this, I really feel more terrible than I did before. I wish there will be a turnaround and second chance to really make things work. I'm willing to put in the work to keep him, I wish he would too😢

[@fairyfrogs_]

i broke up with my boyfriend of three years this week. we had a very stressful and one sided relationship from the start and i knew i needed to leave for months and months, and i finally built up the courage to rip the bandaid off. your videos have shown a light on how unhealthy my relationship had been and i will forever be grateful. thank you jimmy, thank you for what you do

[@grateful7420]

“Schedule the chickens 🐓 with each other” ? Me: Wonder where I can get chickens, & what am I scheduling them for again? Rewind. Ohhhh check ins. Ya. I can do that😂

[@offtarget1758]

“Choose to be all in or choose to find someone else” ❤

[@darrelgreene7094]

Thank you for always producing such warm, caring, and insightful videos. I'm sitting here crying as I realize I've improved SO MUCH the last 15 years, but I still have a ways to go. I'm not perfect and I want to get better. I have a fiance whom I love with all of my heart, and while we hit most of these quite checklist points well, there have been some conflicts lately that I'm devastated about. I want to do better for her. Looking at this list I still feel comfortable calling her "my one". And I hope with some couples therapy and individual therapy, we can learn to be stronger and an even greater team.

[@ry2yb]

I wish you all the best as you continue to work on yourself.

[@reneelb7]

You are so funny….sooo I forgot ok…lets move on😂😂😂. Great message!!! Experienced much of this in my marriage and those topics did lead to divorce.

[@nathenewendzel7806]

Nice to see more people talking about becoming the one.

[@janamahlich6406]

This was soooo helpful. Thank you! I'm having the exact issue you mentioned where I'm afraid of being hurt in my current relationship. This man I've been speaking to is the most empathic and amazing person I've ever met. And yet I almost called it off. I've been working on ways to beat my fears but it's honestly so much harder than it seems. I've also spoken to him about this but the fears come back every now and then. I needing advice on how to beat them... I want to make this one work.

[@acousticambiance]

My friend, you have beautifully summed up hours of KZbin videos on relationship advice in one masterful presentation. Thank you very much, I will be saving and returning to this along with my partner every once in a while so that we could remember to keep our priorities in sync in our relationship.

[@ladyhdwastaken]

This is so real. There is no “the one.” No one will magically work out. All things in life require some work. My current partner I feel we are perfect for each other. We were friends for 5 years before any of this. But I saw him and knew this is the one. But not in the sense people think. We work so well together and connect amazingly in every way, but we’re both aware relationships take work and compromise and communication. They need to be tended to and nurtured. They need a strong foundation. It’s a two way street. And that’s the most beautiful thing to me ❤ I know I am a wonderful person with or without him, but he brings out the part of me that wants to take better care of myself for my sake and our sake. And I think that’s beautiful. I’m a content and happy person without him, but I don’t want to imagine things without him because he is so precious to me. Everything is out on the table. I just hope for the best. I love autonomy, independence and I love connectedness. And we both share those values amongst others. Everything is work out able unless it dips into your nonnegotiables.

[@AtpeaceMakita]

Jimmy: "go thru a fake fight, map it out, where does it go wrong? Try to re-correct it before it you go into the next one..." What a wonderful exercise! Love and appreciate your perspectives💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@Lauren-Belmont]

Thank you so much for this video. I recently got out of a 12 year abusive marriage, so I'm certainly not looking for the one, but this actually helped me recalibrate in my brain what a good, normal and HEALTHY relationship is supposed to be like. And to not feel guilty for wanting that in a partner, friend, or any close relationship really. This should be the norm! Don't settle for less. Also, you are 100% correct that empathy is the key. Thanks again for your videos! They are so helpful.

[@emcanet]

I think I struggle to feel feelings. I mean I love people and find joy in bringing others joy. But I am reluctant to get into romantic relationships. I never expect people to truly love and respect me. So I am stand offish. Now I'm trying to remedy that but not yet allowing my heart to open and be vulnerable. Hence watching these videos

[@ry2yb]

Keep working on yourself. All the best!

[@tangerpan]

I have been there too, my friend. It took several years of therapy for me to undo the suppressed feelings. It's important to feel them or else you will hit a tipping point.. I wish you the best on your journey. I know that you have what you need within you already.

[@emcanet]

Thank you for the encouragement and all the best to each of you.

[@godzdead]

might be avoidant/fearful avoidant attachment style

[@holli2437]

Felt you bud, in a new relationship and trying to be more attentive rather than avoidant and nervous. I wish you luck homie, we can do this

[@lauraostler]

I will recommend this to every single human I know. I immediately sent it to the closest people in my support system because I know how much it will help each and everyone of them. I've just listened to it and already can't wait to listen to it a couple more times to let all of it soak in. My jaw is still dropped at how relatable and helpful every aspect of this video was, and how easy it is to relate to each aspect he brings up, and fuel the value in all of the key take away tips for building the healthiest relationships moving forward. The way Jimmy presents it is so easy to listen to and makes you sit at the edge of your seat waiting for the next helpful suggestion and relatable scenario. I do wish I had listened to something like this a few decades ago, but the silver lining is that I can move forward in all of my future relationships better equipped. Thank you beyond! ❤

[@janemarlo4978]

I just love you, Jimmy! -- tell Emily 😉 Really, you speak truths that, for me, need to be spoken and heard again and again to counteract my life's relationships. I've taken relationahip classes and read books which are good, yet you're always able to take a lot of crucial knowledge and organize it clearly and simply. I've said it before: you've turned your weakness into a God-given talent... you're impacting me... you're impacting many. Thank you, and Emily for supporting you in this worthy mission 😊