John Gray-Dating Men-How Single Women Can Succeed In Dating!

[@BeckyJB888]

So needed to hear this! 12:59 it’s been too long ❤

[@cc1383]

Thanks for posting these videos! I always learn so much from Dr. Gray🙂

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too!

[@hana911]

I loved it ❤ may I ask u make another video about how not to be desperate emotionally for single ladies I find it quite challenging especially if you have been single for a long time and thanks alot for the amazing videos ❤

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Hana! Best wishes to you!

[@malemaline]

I tried this but just couldn't think of being with someone I'm not attracted to

[@christinaregan-ardito4559]

Excellent! As single woman I found this very helpful in entering the dating world.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Christina and for your comment too!

[@wildewildestrawberries]

Love this advice

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks so much for watching!

[@hoiliswu6070]

Men and women deeper love thank you for sharing

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Holli!

[@luzsarmiento5920]

Thank you, Dr. Gray.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for listening!

[@wendywilliams3962]

I so appreciate this. However I feel that society and even us as women have allowed men to drop the ball. I have read all the books. I feel the missing link is feminized men who no longer are in their masculine. And I feel it’s a little codependent of women to take all of this on by themselves. The men also need to ascend and do better. Please stop blaming women for being in their masculine ....toxic masculine power (which is in all of us ) is the result of the boys will be boys enabling paradigm. Leaving women to have to do it on their own. Praying for the masculines to grow up and take accountability. Porn is destroying our beautiful men. Love your work and big love to your tribe

[@wendywilliams3962]

@Cindy Lou LOVE YOUR Name!!! Thank you for your response. I am feeling so frustrated with all of the male coaches (with outdated programming).... telling women how to act... the absent masculine/toxic disrespect of feminity has led to this. We will soften when we feel safe...and yes we need to learn too..but we cannot do it alone..nor should we have too. Big LOVE to you.

[@rdthaprariedawg]

Feminized Men come from Feminine Conditioning/Training. Where do you think these Feminine boys learned how to be feminine from? It doesn’t make any sense to plant feminine seeds and be surprised when you get feminine crops as a result. “Boys will be boys” as a reason for this situation is faulty logic because: 1. Nobody lets boys “be boys” because masculinity is “toxic”, so boys have to be coached to embrace their feminine qualities 2. Nobody is harder on boys than other boys So you don’t have to “soften”...but that’s a two-way street. Men have to “feel safe” also to want to be with you. What’s happening underneath the surface is that many men are “doing the work” and are figuring this out; the result is that it leads some men to wonder if it’s really worth the effort. So you can stay hard forever - but you aren’t doing yourselves any favors presenting as hard coal if you really are gems.

[@danielcobbins9050]

@@rdthaprariedawg Boys are feminized by the schools, media, and government. That seems to be backfiring, as more young men take their red pills, and walk away from women. With the harsh gynocentric laws crafted to destroy men, is it any wonder why women are being left alone, to fend for themselves?

[@mirzabeg2274]

Wow!!!

[@dbsk06]

You should never earn a man’s love

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That's right!

[@sarahk4830]

Is there a place for women to give back ? Or would the guy feel tired in the relationship by constantly to be there for us women?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Yes, there is a place for women to give back especially in appreciation and acknowledgement for what a man provides for her. That is a big reward for him.

[@sarahk4830]

@@MichelleMarchantJohnson thx for the reply, agree👍. Gr8 channel. Do u have a podcast by any chance?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

@@sarahk4830 Thank you. I am starting a podcast in early 2021. Keep watching here for more details! :-)

[@jillthomson7219]

Question Dr Gray. Knowing porn us an addiction Can you please explain why you were willing to e the risk of trying and researching porn but not willing to try drugs like heroin etc Isn’t porn an addiction like other harmful addictions -seems like you may have found porn to be less of an addiction than other drugs? Thoughts?

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Hi ❤❤🌷🌷

[@sunny1596]

Feel desperate=> attract the wrong man Find a man and enjoy the moment

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for sharing your comments too Sunny!

[@jekalambert9412]

Michelle, you mostly post really informative videos and I really enjoy your channel - until you talk with John Gray. Pretty much every interview with Dr. Gray makes me feel like I need to ignore my feminine perspective and get with the traditional male dominator programming that doesn't honor the female perspective/way of seeing and being in the world. I want to hear interviews with the guys who balance their divine masculine perspective with my divine feminine ways of being in the world. What I mostly hear in Dr. Gray's comments is that men are a certain way and there's nothing that will change that so here are some strategies for women to deal with that. From my perspective, men are not a certain way; they have been programmed to believe that their dominating insensitive behavior is not only acceptable, it's expected and unchangeable. I don't want to hear that I have to put up with being ignored or that I have to seduce him into behaving the way I want him to behave. I'm not a manipulator and I want no part of a relationship with a man that I need to manipulate because he doesn't see me as an equal. Please Michelle, include more interviews with pro-feminist men who are transforming the standard of male expectations to embrace the divine feminine perspective, and please tell me how to find a man like that, not men who try to convince me that I need to submit to domination and who give me strategies to cope in a dominating sexist relationship in order to have a "happy" relationship. Thank you. BTW, Mr. Gray's focus on the sexual part of relationship isn't necessarily what I as a woman desire. It's what HE believes men want. I want to cite the work of the Gottman's where they found that men (and women) have happier sexual relationships when men contribute emotionally and thru partnering consciously with their partners. Sex is not a "goal", it's a byproduct of a relationship where the woman feels cared for and nurtured by her guy (and vice versa). I don't see evidence that John Gray understands this.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for the feedback and for watching too Jeka!

[@toomuchinformation]

"Sex is not a goal", but for a lot of men it is.

[@CoolKidOx]

Don’t be desperate - have high self esteem, don’t be needy On your love list add how you want to feel If you feel instantly sexually turned on, that’s the wrong man - you’re trying to please him more than he’s trying to please you 1. Mental attraction - curiosity and openness level 2. Heart attraction - affection 3. Sexual/ physical attraction - equivalent to porn 4. You should never earn a man’s love - that builds testosterone It’s a man job to provide support & happiness Success for a man is I’ve made a real difference in her life The more independent you are - the more testosterone you have - the less you can appreciate a man You need to practice things that allow your earphones to go up Dynamic is he does things for you and all you have to do is appreciate him If you’re giving more to a man, his estogen will go up and he won’t bond to you When you have higher expectations, the range of the right men becomes less and you become needy Lower your expectations- don’t look for the right person, do not look for your soul mate, ideal partner Act like you’re not going to meet your dream man in a year and find a way to enjoy dating experience Find what will make a fun time Practice your relationship skills Be busy practising relationship skills with him Create a series a positive dating experience The first interest should be mental - you feel safe and then he starts giving to you - and then he bonds to you Never blame or judge men, give him space Men can not bond when you’re on your male side “I’m open to receiving your help and support. And I need it but I’m not needy”