How Do I Stop Trying to Control My Husband?

[@sellmav]

“Not wanting to hear it” is how you end up with three baby daddies. That being said, GOOD FOR HER for trying to turn it around.

[@clixx13]

For the last caller, I did not hear a husband who wants desperately to force his children to love what he loves. All I really heard was a wife who hates movies so much that she cannot even bare to spend a movie's length of time enjoying how much her husband loves art, or even allow him to express that love with their kids. He is begging and pleading for emotional connection using a thing he is passionate about, and she could not care less. It's torture living with someone who thinks the things you love are a waste of time.

[@MisterNightfish]

"I don't know how to function unless my life is chaos" Avoid people like that *at all costs*. You cannot fix them. You cannot save them. You can only join them in chaos and who wants to live like that?

[@lot2196]

The poor guy.

[@haploid2k]

Yes, but at some point a man realizes they are *all* like that. It’s our job to create drama/excitement for our wives, or they will find it elsewhere. 80% of divorces are initiated by the woman, and there’s a reason for that. If she leaves you and you see her dating the local drug dealer, you’re the one who messed up. “Date Nights” are the light version of this, but you need to do much more to keep her interest.

[@mustangkurt]

@@haploid2k lol wut

[@yeseniaaa16]

Absolutely not, well I guess to each their own. I’ve been in a committed relationship for 15 years and drama is what will make me walk. Nothing in life is better than to live in peace with the one you love.

[@izzywox8246]

@@haploid2k you sound like the caller lol

[@likeDURimSmart]

I feel so much for the first caller for I lived her situation and I completely understand wanting to protect your children from your childhood and feeling triggered by your partner when they're just trying to discipline. I went to therapy for PTSD and it has really helped. My partner also has residual childhood trauma so we are both currently in counseling working on ourselves. We almost split up this year because our own issues made us turn on each other but we're on the other side of it now and things are looking much brighter for our future together. Please don't say people who grew up in chaos need to be avoided at all costs bc they're just going to bring you down, etc. Everyone should be given an opportunity to heal and if they're dedicated to it, its truly possible.

[@ryansack5198]

Our past tells a lot about who we are. Always needing a man around and rushing into moving in and having kids without really knowing them is her pattern.

[@MichelleRochner]

Agreed

[@RightSideMama]

Dr. John comin in hot with the honest, but compassionate solid advice Every. Single. Time. ♥️

[@SassyL62]

for a second there i read hot, hottest and hot 😻😹😹

[@montymython754]

Who wrote this comment? John Delony?

[@CamTooFresh]

@@montymython754😂😂

[@amandadrenter7690]

I call them "Delony Darts!"

[@mimimonster]

Bwahaha Who ever changed John’s voice to reverb like Celine Deon’s when he started singing Titanic is my FAVORITE person today!! 😂😂😂❤❤❤

[@karr1990]

The first caller definitely triggered me. The vocal fry and know-it-all attitude, gave me flash backs to the lady that trained me at work when I was 23. Made my life hell at work, all because she hated what she had become. An overweight single mom with multiple baby daddy’s. Work on yourself ladies so you don’t take out your issues on other people- including your new husband who has nothing to do with what happened to you in the past.

[@zarazen8110]

You need SERIOUS mental help.

[@leslien.552]

“Work on yourself so you don’t take out your issues on other people.” The IRONY! 😂 No, but seriously. Get therapy

[@TheJasmineProof817]

Yea this is super insensitive. You can very clearly hear the pain under her "know it all attitude". She's had to be strong it's super obvious.

[@karr1990]

@@zarazen8110 Thanks! Do you recommend Better Help? 🙃

[@karr1990]

@@TheJasmineProof817 yeah, just like all of us have had to be. At some point you have to take responsibility for your own actions, you know, like an adult.

[@MattTerrell-gc9vw]

I'm a musician, it's been a huge part of the majority of my life. My kid has no interest in it, and I'm ok with that. I made sure my kid knew I'm ok with that. That's MY thing. I get involved in HIS things and we have our things together

[@supernothing77]

My parter doesn't even love music, let alone my music or live shows. It breaks my heart honestly

[@dannydubois1712]

Man… she sounds entitled and ungrateful.. you found a good guy who takes care of kids (who are not his) and then you turn around and reprimand him when he acts like a dad… sad

[@55tmilam]

I guarantee she is a total nightmare to live with!

[@dukeduke2790]

a toyota is a reliable car..

[@JenniferAguiartampa]

I agree. Both of them need to learn how to be mature in a real relationship. I can only imagine how chaotic their house is everyday. Poor kids.

[@sefedinbegic5605]

@@JenniferAguiartampa the anger in that house is probably through the roof.

[@sandrasmith7313]

​@sefedinbegic5605 As a mom it's also your duty to ensure that your kids are not yelled at by un emotionally unstable step-dad

[@bigdaddylee2011]

The guy looks good on paper and she knows her kids need stability so she got with her husband. It looks like she has very little respect for him and unfortunately respect is a major pillar of love. Without respect there is no love. On top of that she got 2 kids that he is responsible for but has no authority over which happens when you become a step parent. At least she’s trying seek guidance but she has a lot to work on especially on herself. There will no peace in the home if you’re not at peace with yourself.

[@sueblack5794]

He has very little respect for himself is the real issue in the end. She will just move on to another person pretty easily.

[@johnnyboy13642]

She doesn't love him. When asked about her husband, she talks about what he's achieved, doesn't say "He's a great guy" or throw out any loving compliments. She simply DOES not love him, even though in her twisted mind she thinks she does.

[@Brittany138]

Caller #2, Alex. Man. I’d start walking from Saskatchewan 🇨🇦 to Nashville right now, with that offer 😩 💯

[@ryansack5198]

Uh yeah.. if you’re in your 20s with 3 kids from 3 different dads then that’s an indicator that you make bad decisions and Dr John knows it.

[@benmyers9030]

No shes a superstar! Shes worth more than this! Is she safe?

[@Lifetimelearningisbrave]

Hey Ryan, this woman is seeking help. So unless you are calling in about your secret shame making YOUR life unmanageable, know that yes this woman has TrAUMA that lead to bad choices, but also know, the bit I know about you compared to her is that she has bigger nuts in attempting to look at her failings than you. In short, don’t throw stones in glass houses.

[@brownman248]

Women don’t like to be accountable. 3 baby daddy’s? Red flags

[@jasonbornne7767]

“I’ve got a master’s too!” NOBODY CARES. Education does not equal intelligence.

[@ItsGoingDao]

That startled me lol she was talking to John like he was her dad 🫠

[@mmkvoe6342]

But for many people, it's how they expected that doing the thing that ought to ensure better job options to ensure financial stability would make them feel emotionally safe and calm and then they discover it doesn't solve all the problems and so now they don't know what will.

[@bonjoursophie]

It was clear that she inserted that facetiously. Come on now.

[@stoicqueen8557]

Hahaha.. Tell me you don't have a high education (and is hurt about it) without telling me that you don't have a high education (and is hurt about it)! One doesn't equal the other, but don't pretend thay have nothing to do with each other (unless you want people to think the above)

[@jasonbornne7767]

@@stoicqueen8557 I have a degree from Cornell University. Plenty of my fellow alumni fall into this category. SIT DOWN.

[@randolph7214]

First callers man needs to RUUUUUN. All the burden none of the authority. Shes a broken woman and its not his job to fix it. Especially when she gonna fight him every step of the way. Lifes only as hard as you make it, dont invite unnecessary drama into YOUR world.

[@haploid2k]

Yes, he needs to “run”, so the courts can transfer half his assets to her and make sure he never sees his kids again. Good plan, bro. His only reasonable course of action is to invent a time machine to prevent himself from making this mistake. As it is now, he is a slave for life, as many of us are.

[@KJ_88]

@@haploid2k that’s awful you have that outlook. Me ex and I couldn’t make it work and he left me. He certainly is no slave. He works over the road and makes his own schedule for when he sees the kids. Drives me bonkers sometimes because there’s no consistency AT ALL. Dude shows up 2 days a month sometimes. He pays $125 a week in support. I let him get away with it because I know how important it is for a child to have their dad in their life. He and I are extremely civil with each other. It is possible for a man to leave the relationship and not be a slave forever. Not all of us women treat men like garbage. Some of us let them walk all over us for the sake of the children.

[@ryanjohnson6636]

She needs to take responsibility for her actions… I know this girl she blows up everything she knows and then bitches to the next guy… she’s been through roughly a hundred and her kids are paying the price

[@onecup2bears365]

She is stunning and brave it’s all trump 2024 fault. ThNk God Jesus saved us all

[@PrimateProductions]

You articulated that extremely well! I absolutely agree.

[@Veracityseeker7]

The way she react to his questions about the kids fathers, makes me think that she's the problem. The controlling insecurity already reared his ugly head and we were not even halfway through the call. I can make some other assumptions about how she deals with men and what she uses to seduce and real them in. Because, what's up with the dude to take on woman with two kids with two other men? She lacks accountability all around in her entire life.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Yes, unfortunately that is what having your father abandon you at 12-16 year's old does to a little girl. We will be seeing a LOT more of this in the coming year's, as it is now the norm, not the exception.

[@dahliacheung6020]

I mean you can kinda tell she's the problem just from the title of the video

[@Overbill8831]

3 kids, 3 different dads - I know she acknowledged it right in the beginning, but what she hears and interprets as hate is nothing more than a warning for men attempting to be in her life. I don't hate this woman by any stretch of the word, I simply feel bad for the man in her life knowing he will never be the father of Her children. And it's clear in the call, she puts a barrier up when the man in her life attempts to be a father to those kids. That's the warning to men trying to date single mothers - those kids will never be Your kids, they will always be Her kids.

[@shalandacampbell7314]

This lady gets on MY NERVES!!!

[@actuallyterry]

Elizabeth: I talk really fast. Also Elizabeth... slowest talker ever.

[@rebekahwilson7703]

I think Dr. J needs to stop telling callers to not read the comments. I rarely see stupid comments on here, but rather some really great comments from people who know and care. Facts/Truth is huge and needs to be shared. Sharing the truth can be done in caring way.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Yeah no. The comments are WAY harsh especially when the highlight videos come out. Dr. John is 100% right. He is so much more empathetic, and kind than the people in the comment section.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@SarahConnor562 I mean Dr. John gave her the cold hard truth but he did it in a gentle, caring way. He does that with all of his callers. His empathy, and kindness is so admirable. Even in person. That’s just who Dr. John is. The most kind, empathetic, down to earth guy you will ever meet. He’s truly amazing and genuinely cares about everyone. Dr. John is the BEST!!! ❤️ Also, one of the only public figures that will actually admit when they do wrong, and make it right. He makes it very well known that he’s FAR from perfect.

[@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036]

​@@SarahConnor562 Seems the not-so-nice comments are very judgemental, pushing 'personal truth' and a self-righteous attitude rather than actual truth.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@SarahConnor562Ehhh can’t 100% say he isn’t abusive. She literally just said he spent the morning screaming at them and threatening to leave their family. I know you don’t believe in this since we’ve had this discussion several times but that absolutely could classify as emotional abuse depending on the severity. We didn’t get the full picture though so I’m not going to lay that on him but I’m also not going to just flat out say he isn’t abusive.

[@lena-mariaglouis-charles7036]

@@SarahConnor562 If You think it makes sense to read and follow the at times very offensive 'advice' of someone with a degree from Besserwisser University, that's Your prerogative. I'd rather not.

[@Girlgonewise]

She married the clean-up guy. He’s a good guy but not what she truly wants.

[@acd1168]

She probably has a high ACE score.

[@sarahalderman3126]

She married a good one. The problem is that her father taught her what men truly are... and she's having trouble trusting this one because she knows they all run away when the going gets tough.

[@amanuknowell]

Thats what women do they choose the wrong guy and then choose they guy they think can fix the situation and give him all the problems

[@amanuknowell]

​@@sarahalderman3126no all men do t run away when things get tough just the wrong one yall gotta use more discernment

[@dannelle17]

@@SarahConnor562 Tell me you don’t know what an Aces score is without telling me….. go take it. I’m curious with your callousness.

[@cwalker6911]

Loooooove John’s response to the dad 😅so well expressed

[@doubleroti4672]

No no you read the comments. Don’t pay attention to what people say your children are the most beautiful blessings! I had my first when I was 17 and then at 34 and 38. This is from 2 men. Things happen in life and it’s ok. F those who have something to say about it. Everyone has “issues” but some people choose to point out others instead of looking at themselves and working on their own stuff. I pray you’re doing well and learn to not let negative people bother you. God bless you dear.

[@anand45671]

Hoes belong to the streets. Having a child is a CHOICE! No amount of 'ISSUES' lead you to make that choice!

[@Veracityseeker7]

How about being a blessing to your children?

[@doubleroti4672]

@@Veracityseeker7absolutely!!

[@troygess]

I felt the last caller. I love basketball. All my kids wanted to either not play sports or play soccer. It hit me hard but had to accept it. Not how I imagined raising my kids but I found the joy in their happiness.

[@royalredus]

Ugh, i had to skip that first caller. Couldn't stomach her attitude.

[@anadiahrodriguez]

Im so proud of you for trying to figure all of this out and trying to fix things. May God Bless you Elizabeth.

[@Mollydollyyyy]

Elizabeth is insufferable. She wants a clean up guy to rescue her from her mess. Her husband will NEVER be good enough for her. Nobody will. Listen to the way she described this poor man. He needs to run as fast as he can and leave her with her arrogance, degrees, annoying voice, three doomed kids and constant emotional mess.

[@karr1990]

Molly said it 👏🏼😄

[@sarahalderman3126]

Arrogance? That definitely wasn't arrogance, that is deep insecurities and self abandonment.

[@Mollydollyyyy]

@@sarahalderman3126 Until she feels she has the high ground, like a masters degree or a baby daddy who yells

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@Mollydollyyyy no, especially when she talks about that! In fact her nervous laugh about her degree was what say's it the loudest. She feels worthless, in her mind her value lies solely in her achievements. Which is why she clings so closely to them, they are her only value or worth. I honestly don't understand how ANYONE is seeing any arrogance at all here. All I see is a lonely/desperate young woman who feels just as worthless as she did when her own father walked out on her at 14. When even your own father doesn't love you... leaves right at the very moment you needed his love and attention the most... this is the result.

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@Mollydollyyyy tbh she's the flip side of these insecure male "incels". They were taught that they had no internal value, that your value lies in your achievements, your actions, your appearance... it is a false belief but one that is nearly impossible to avoid when a parent abandons you right at the transition to puberty without the necessary support.

[@richardeknormis7688]

This first woman will never be satisfied with anyone… she married a man who accepted her two children and 2 different baby daddies… something tells me she is the issue not her husband.

[@Lifetimelearningisbrave]

People meet those with EXACTLY the trauma that will trigger their childhood issues. This man has major trauma also.

[@wonder12374]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩Caller 1 - You are a walking red flag. You need to deal with your abandonment issues left by your dad. Until you figure it out get on birth control unless you want 10 kids by 10 different dads. I know this sounds harsh but the truth is not an easy pill to swallow.🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@karr1990]

Fr fr 👏🏼

[@alberttang6955]

"the truth is not an easy pill to swallow". And in her case.. neither are birth control pills.

[@Rin22730]

Birth control would probably make the problems worse

[@Vajazzle6996]

Nailed it!

[@tentrickspony8925]

No she doesn't love him and she certainly doesn't respect him. 😂😂😂

[@ana_1661]

Yeah because she shouldn't. People who yell on kids don't deserve neither love, nor respect.

[@ghoulishwastaken6020]

@@ana_1661that’s stupid logic yelling worked for me

[@ana_1661]

@@ghoulishwastaken6020 Worked in making you into worse of a person than you could've been? Yep agree.

[@candaces1290]

I want the tickets to Nashville!!! What an INCREDIBLE offer! Ths at caller clearly has NO idea what he declined!

[@theworkingmanpodcast]

She is broken. She needs therapy…

[@JP-ll8iy]

We are all broken! We need Jesus!

[@Veracityseeker7]

Big time

[@Veracityseeker7]

​@JP-ll8iy Amen

[@Veracityseeker7]

​@SarahConnor562 That's a fact

[@sueblack5794]

@@JP-ll8iy BS..... people need to be responsible for their own lives, choices, and decisions. Jesus is used as an excuse for people to take no responsibility for their own lives and decisions. You create chaos, fix it and take responsibility for your actions.

[@HorseLady1109]

I’ve always had to be the strong one that everyone relies on. It’s exhausting and it has gotten very old. The only person who ever allows me to be who I am is my husband of almost 50 years. I’m on guard with everyone else. Sad, but true.

[@ivar766]

I'm so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed my life forever,hoping to retire next year.. Investment should always be on any creative man's heart for success in life

[@Georgina705]

Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 12 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life

[@lea5898]

YES! that's exactly her name (Stacey Macken) I watched her interview on CNN News and so many people recommended her trading skills, she's an expert and I'm just starting with her....From Brisbane Australia

[@domenez]

This Woman has really change the life of many people from different countries and am a testimony of her trading platform .

[@robertgreg6009]

Wow. I'm a bit perplexed seeing her been mentioned here also Didn't know she has been good to so many people too this is wonderful, I'm in my fifth trade with her and it has been super

[@benjaminocampo3359]

Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, 27thousand weekly returns has been life changing.

[@Mew__]

Spending your hard-earned resources to raise the offspring of three different men, only to be disrespected and live under the threat of having those three be taken away from you and it have been for nothing. Unparalleled level of ingratitude.

[@mrmindtrick99]

Man.. I thought my own fiancé was calling in… she is CONSTANTLY disrespecting me in front of my kid. Constantly questioning me and my decisions in front of her. It’s enraging

[@indiaandrews6996]

Run. It will get worse after you marry her.

[@jazz6711]

Woah maybe try to have that tough convo and set some new boundaries before the marriage. I hope she changes

[@benmyers9030]

Dont listen to these guys! Your fiance sounds great! Your daughter will respect you when she sees you rage out at the woman who treats you like a doormat/atm. Go to the courthouse tomorrow! Dont get a prenup!

[@boston312]

why are you marrying her?

[@nickabel8279]

Ex fiance? You're already questioning and you to wait until she'll get half of everything when it doesn't work out?

[@KyChargersFan21]

Nothing worse than a “tough” woman.

[@itspossible3381]

Actually… the circumstances that create a “tough” woman are worse. (Food for thought)

[@dahliacheung6020]

Call number three hit me right in the soul. There's three of us kids and we haven't had the privilege of a dad who will show interest in our stuff. Our mom does thankfully and that means everything but to connect with dad we have to go to dad. My sister connected to him with sports, and my brother and I who are super close in age connect with him with music and film. More so music with my brother and film and TV shows with me. I guess I'm thankful that I really do have a passion for the same shows and movies he's obsessed with. Since I've been an adult we've always found shows or movies and ended up realizing the other was watching the same thing and now we give recommendations and I'm grateful for it. Some kids don't have even that. But man if I didn't almost shed a tear when you talked about how proud you were just to show your kid how to be passionate in what they loved by being passionate with what you loved and yet you still recognized the importance of their own thing. You're a good father. Your kids are lucky to have you.

[@shsharrell9267]

Getting really excited, so close to a million subs!!! Congratulations!!!❤❤❤

[@Mochalate]

“My wife’s friend is telling her to divorce me and they can travel the world together” read my wife complains about me to her friend and the friend is encouraging her to leave and if she leaves she will go on a trip with her to take her mind off of things. John clocked it from a mile away. It isn’t her friend who is the issue. This man was about to be hit with divorce and it was going to “come out of nowhere”.

[@Nonya12608]

Everyone dunking on the first caller, try focusing the judgement you have for her, and turn it inward. EVERYONE has baggage that spills onto others. Y'all just don't have the balls to offer it up for public consumption.

[@snoozyq9576]

That's stupid, judging themselves won't help. Being less judgemental towards self and others is probably a better idea

[@BlueAlien2]

@@snoozyq9576 Yes, thank you for articulating common sense.

[@arisanz15]

Dr. John Delony is simply the BEST!!!!! He’s giving free tickets to help the second caller… He’s willing to do anything and give everything to save marriages!! ❤❤

[@lot2196]

Dont blame me for your bad life choices. This woman is insufferable.

[@MrsJFJ]

This question from the dad is so good and helpful. I think we can all find some ways our dreams and personalities might be put on our kids.

[@elsugga3736]

This one hits home, i was abandoned too by my father and I, too have this deep conviction that men don't want to be fathers and don't love their children. It's almost impossible for me to lay back and allow a man to prove me wrong

[@Alexander44665]

When men are screwed over by ex-wives or girlfriends society tells them "that's not all women." Society is correct. Yet when a man screws over a woman we invariably hear some variation of "men are pigs." Most men are not bad people nor are most women the virgin Mary. In reality both men and women are flawed. Neither is an angel nor demon-but instead everyone is somewhere in between.

[@AnitaSouthall]

Which sucks because statistically that can't be all true of them all

[@ahmorgan]

I hope some simp doesn't waste his life trying to prove you wrong. You can feel how you feel, it's the idiots who think it's worth it to change your mind that are the problem. Plenty of grateful women who don't feel the way you do, those men who are interested in you and want to be fathers should pursue those women.

[@starbucksgirl6715]

You took the time to look at and unpack your trauma and admit to your shortcomings. Please keep your head up, get the help you need and move on from people who are trying to knock you down when you've already chosen to take a seat and look at yourself. Blessings to you.

[@elsugga3736]

@@starbucksgirl6715 thank you sm

[@rchi3906]

3 kids 3 different Daddy’s , Come On , Son!!! How do u remember all those last names?

[@Somethinglikethat2023]

3 kids 3 different Dads...set up for a challenge for the current guy...What is custody like? What kind of guy takes on 3 kids by different fathers...chaos is you...

[@Jennifer-no3-Marucci]

In all fairness, he’s the third dad.

[@ryansack5198]

I’m going to challenge that “I’m don’t know how to function in my life without chaos” nah. That’s a cop out. You just enjoy chaos. There’s a difference.

[@neisci]

Dome people thrive in chaos. They always have to have something, some problem going on. And when they are not going through chaotic situation they create one

[@waynepolo6193]

No, it absolutely is. The stress response is a measurable physiological process influenced by what’s called the brain’s Reticular Activating System. When early childhood environments consistently lack any sense of structure, security, stability, or safety, the developing child’s nervous system adapts accordingly; it’s essentially the same process as how the brain pieces together and encodes our native language from the meaning it derives from the patterns of sounds we’re repeatedly exposed to. You don’t find speaking English particularly enjoyable, do you? It’s just something you _do._

[@alexisballard1459]

1st caller is perfect example of what Kevin Samuels talked about with women constantly in their masculine state and continuing to push good men away because they don’t have the skills to be peaceful

[@YouMissedBro]

Dad walked out too, so her mom probably was girl boss patient 0 and raised her to "don't take shiz from no man"

[@Ruffles2012]

Yeah let's not forget it was a man who started the cycle by leaving his wife and little girl

[@blueseptember2174]

​@Ruffles2012 they gloss over that part in their smooth brain 😅

[@erichchan3]

Exactly. Being a stepfather is a raw deal and its strange to me that the single mom has the highest demands out of the husband when she should be lucky to have a man come in and take care of 2 kids from 2 fathers that are not his.

[@Veracityseeker7]

But why would he marry a woman like this? Does it make any sense. This is what he signed up for. Her situation should have been a red flag for him. But we all know why he got into it.♀️ Like this control with 😻. ♂️ Need more self-control so they don't go through stuff like this. Watch my comment. Get deleted.

[@Oxaca73]

I'm one of those people that doesn't know how to exist without some chaos in my life but my chaos comes in the form of clutter in the house. Too much clutter and I shut down but I feel lost when there's no clutter at all.

[@Alexander44665]

Caller #1 is a great example of why men should be cautious about getting involved with single moms.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Well yes, along with why women need to be cautious about trusting these men. For starters neither should be having sex with anyone unless they're ready to commit for life. Kids need both parents. Men and women are equally responsible for this mess. Well aside from cases where one or the other is far older, then the older partner is obviously more responsible.

[@rolo8950]

I've got a child on the way, don't know the gender but I'm terrified. Absolutely terrified. I just want them to have as good of a childhood as I did and I'm terrified of messing that up. I had the best non toxic non chaotic childhood ever.

[@tiannanelson8986]

Then bring your baby around your parents as much as possible. Take their advice. Call them regularly. Let them be involved in your lives as much as possible. And if you moved away, move back. Healthy relationships are few and far between these days. Children need good examples of healthy relationships if they are to grow to be healthy people.

[@natasabrandt21]

First caller: "I got my masters too..."...HAHAHA....that was so cute..💛

[@Mitzi104]

CRINGE

[@G-wk4gt]

Nice voice Dr John, your Bee Gees falsetto is really good! Based on those four notes 🎶

[@liliesofthefield5310]

It doesn't matter what she has said or fine but for a grown man to say "I'm done with our family" in front of theur children?? That's unacceptable

[@kevinmclaughlin3088]

The first half of the question for this first caller is great. The second half then assumes this victimhood status. First you're going to have to let go of this.

[@undecidedtoystore3003]

What in the world makes a guy want to marry a single mom with this much chaos!?! Multiple baby daddies to boot! Loves creating chaos for herself..

[@Kivlor]

I'd wager he was raised by a single mom, who trained him early "not to judge" girls for their behavior. Many such cases.

[@benmyers9030]

He is broken also. Healthy, emotionally stable women dont want him. He took what he could get, same as her. They're perfect for each other

[@dijaworldworld3895]

Young lady married with 3 babies don’t pay attention to these mean hateful in these comments. Let those without sin cast the first stone. You can break heal and break the pattern for your children. Bless you.

[@kathirodden6109]

Delony, don’t take his word for anything- her friend is trying to protect her from him. Ya’

[@ladycsays7526]

The 1st caller, I am her. I have this masculine energy that I just can't let go. Be soft, be vulnerable? I can't. Been married 15 years and I have been tough throughout it. Always been the doer and I constantly pour from an empty cup. My Dad was in my life until I was 17. My parents divorced and I didnt have a relationship with him for 15 years. I have him now but im still dealing with the hurt.

[@mamadoom9724]

I have a controlling masculine energy in relationships too. It’s what I’ve developed out of necessity after being in relationships with men who act like children. I have to take on the role of the one running the house because I have two kids and a husband who is also a kid. I’ve never ever been in a relationship with a man who I could just trust to be responsible with money or the household.

[@ivonned32]

You all need to see your man with respect and not as a competitor to go against with. Once you learn to NOT be so self centered maybe you will take others ways of doing things into consideration

[@deusexmachina9776]

@@mamadoom9724 i mean yiu chose weak men

[@mamadoom9724]

@@deusexmachina9776 lol show me some strong ones 🙄 but this is a mentality thing. My husband is a big strong muscle man but it doesn’t mean he’s responsible with finances and making decisions

[@sameerajafri747]

​@@deusexmachina9776too bad there are a lot of them 😅

[@Dr.Elaine1]

By controlling you first.

[@SpidermanandJeny]

The second callers wife's friend sounds nothing like a friend at all. She sounds just absolutely awful! Like the worst person out there. Who does those sorts of things? She's a home wrecker and trying to wreck (in a different way) someone else's home. She's awful!!!

[@PatriciaHenson-s5l]

I'm always thinking about things that I have no control over .

[@KarinaRiv08]

I was heartbroken when my boys didn't have the love of playing and watching soccer the way I did but they found their own passion. In their case it was marching band which was very new to me and I loved it! I'm not an emotional mom that cries at everything they do but when I see them in perform... Boy, I get overfilled with emotions because you can see their love for it and I burst at the seems! lol... I am so thankful I didn't try to force something I loved on them and I do sadly see parents, who want to "pass" on their own thing they love, and kids connect it as oh this is time with mom or dad and outside of that, they don't get that. They are only seen when they are playing or doing that thing a parent wants.

[@bren181]

I believe we have no right to judge!. And ppl on here can be cruel no one knows what someone's been thru or going thru,I agree totally with him

[@CYIQNCPLG-NH2]

Dr. Delony was majestic when he sang the titanic score. Best editing team ever!!!😂😂🤣😭

[@sdlorah6450]

The mindset, character qualities, and skills needed for a young woman to thrive in her roles as a wife and mother are largely not only untaught, but the opposite is communicated to them in our culture by encouraging them from childhood to focus on scholastic and/or athletic achievements in preparation for a demanding college and career path. Women, their husbands, and their children suffer as a result. If I were a young woman, I would seek out an older woman that prioritized her home, marriage, and children and ask her to share the wisdom of her years and experience for my benefit so that I could learn from her.

[@benmyers9030]

I think its better for them to be strong and independent dont need no man! Women are more happy with 60 hour workweeks, cats and sidechick status! If theyre lucky, the court will order child support for their next generation of strong independent queens! That way she can afford to pay a stranger to raise her children! She can make time for a family after she hits her stride in her 50s or 60s!

[@veronicalagor4771]

The problem is a lot of older women went into those roles unwillingly, with men they don’t truly respect out of a need to survive.

[@danastonerock]

3rd caller about the movies....john is SPOT ON ! 👏

[@jessicameyer7247]

Gladiator is the GOAT, I get the movie guy.. my mom took me to see Requiem for a Dream when I was 15.. I was traumatized but never touched hard drugs..

[@timc6427]

Are You Saved? Have you received what Jesus Christ did for you? This question should receive a “Yes” or “No” answer, but it almost never does. Some of the most common responses are: I’m doing the best I can. I prayed the sinner’s prayer. I’ve made Jesus the Lord of my life. I believe in God. I’ve been baptized. I’m a church member. I keep the commandments. I am basically a good person. I walked the aisle and prayed through. I’ve always been a Christian. I’ve never done anything really bad. None of these responses properly answer the question. People give these kinds of responses because they evidently do not understand the question. The question, “Are you saved?” asks whether or not you have trusted Christ’s shed blood on the cross as payment for your sins. It is not asking about any works that you can do. The responses listed above refer to what a person does, but salvation is only offered on the basis of what Christ has already done for us. The gospel of our salvation (Eph. 1:13) is clearly stated by the apostle Paul: 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures. (1 Cor. 15:3-4) The blood of Christ has purchased what we could not earn ourselves. In whom we have redemption through his blood, even the forgiveness of sins: (Col. 1:14) We cannot be good enough to earn salvation because “there is none righteous” (Rom. 3:10) and “all have sinned” (Rom. 3:23). The “wages of sin is death” (Rom. 6:23). Those who die lost will spend eternity in “the lake of fire” (Rev. 20:15). In order to be saved, we must stop trusting ourselves and trust the blood payment that Christ has already made on our behalf! 8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man should boast. (Eph. 2:8-9) Jesus Christ fully accomplished our salvation through His death, burial, and resurrection. Therefore, the free gift of salvation can only be received by faith alone in His finished work. It is Christ's righteousness not ours. "To declare, I day, at this time HIS (Christ) righteousness: that HE might be the just and the justifier of him which believeth in Jesus" Rom 3:26 NOT by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to HIS MERCY He saved us (Titus 3:5) Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ: (Rom. 5:1) "IN whom we HAVE redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of HIS GRACE" Eph 1:7 If you will trust Jesus Christ as your Saviour, you will receive peace with God, justification, forgiveness, eternal life in the heavenly places. You can enjoy “much assurance” (1 Thess. 1:5) that you are saved and on your way to heaven because (Eph 1:13-14) In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise. Which is the earnest of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, unto the praise of his glory. Jesus accomplished the work involved for your salvation, by faith rest in HIS finished work.

[@katiearellanes891]

She sounds so much like me, minus the kids. I always needed a man around. I always needed chaos. The longest I'd been single after the first time i dated was a year. And now that im married, with a child, and my life is the optitamy of peaceful and slow, I've struggled hard. Im just now getting to a place where im comfortable, but god was my life miserable before. She needs to find peace within herself.

[@johnnyboy13642]

She has NPD or BPD. The way she reacts when he compliments her about what she's done and comes out with "I got a masters too!" because she's being fed the "power" she craves. The reason why she can't function when there's no chaos is because she lacks self control, is impulsive, and lives for the moment. The way she talks about her husband, based on his "successes" and not what she loves about him, means this woman doesn't really care. When her husband is giving her what she wants, she's happy, when things are calm he's an absolute monster because she needs the drama. Ew... John is right though, this woman is going to be alone her whole life with men bailing over and over. She won't change, because she needs therapy and probably some DBT. Also some backstory into her impulsive, lack of control is how she said her second relationship was "OK" and still got knocked up. You don't really go having random babies with men you're just "OK" with unless you lack self-control.

[@neisci]

First caller just needs to give her husband a raod map to how she would like him to treat her children. However, that won't sort the issue because the true issue is ,she's the type of person who can only exist in chaos. When there's no drama, disturbance going on, she will create a situation. She needs to seek help so she can identify and work on her toxic ways.

[@bignickenergy723]

Absolutely not! You make it sound like she should be the all powerful dictator and have the final say on how the kids are raised. Hell no! She needs to step aside and let him be DAD. Dads are NOT mom 2.0. They are DADS. Dads parent differently for a reason. Single father homes have FAR BETTER outcomes than single mother homes. There is almost no difference between married biological parent homes and single father homes in every metric. However, 80% of the prison population was raised by single moms. Single mother homes are FAR WORSE for the outcome of kids. POINT BLANK PERIOD.

[@miawoodland1556]

A GUY CALLED BECAUSE HIS FAMILY DON'T HAVE THE SAME TASTE IN MOVIES🤨. ARE YOU SERIOUS- THAT'S YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM😠- GET OFF THE PHONE IT'S STUPID!!!

[@JenniferAguiartampa]

That wasn’t the main reason, that’s just how it was verbalized. They got to the real reason and John brought it back to the original question. I bet if you listen again, you will hear all the tiny reasons that made it into the first question.

[@melanieb2132]

Totally disagree. Many parents let their kids watch absolute garbage. Adult men especially are desensitized to the effects of "entertainment" on little brains

[@woundedangel]

@@melanieb2132 You act like they're watching porn. Cash money says he's showing them 80's pop culture movies: Back to the Future, Ghostbusters, Flash Gordon, The Goonies. Cut it out!

[@melanieb2132]

@woundedangel that's fine. I let my little kids watch Titanic by skipping certain parts... but there is a slippery slope. Heck, I watched Goonies and thought it was pretty bad actually.. everyone has different standards, but some movies definitely are not appropriate. My husband wants to watch war movies with my 11 year old, and I'm not really cool with it. He ticks me off.

[@benmyers9030]

​@@woundedangel yeah no one should be watching back to the future, especially not children. That is a seriously sick movie

[@kimberlycraigie2443]

I struggled with my son for years bcus I didn’t want him to take meds but I decided to when he was 11 because he couldn’t do his work at school bcus he was unable to focus ! Now his on meds I wish I done it sooner !

[@michellebailey206]

18 & 21 😂 Andrew, that was awesome.

[@jessicalitzinger9729]

I would love to see a show on empty nesters life after children move out and how to move forward with your marriage

[@jasonnames]

One thing Dr bologna needs to stop doing is calling men who he doesn't talk to children. If a man wants to discipline his kid, and the mom does like it, this doesn't mean he is acting like a child. Maybe they are, but his go to when talking to women is to call the men childish. But doesn't know any context. And then women get off the phone calling their husband's childish because Dr bologna said so. Every man can't be childish. But every call, the man in the relationship is childish. It's just stupid to call every woman's husband childish.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

A man who is screaming, and yelling at his kids and then threatening his wife that he’s gonna leave the family is indeed acting like a child. Dr. John is just calling a spade a spade. Sorry you don’t like that! 🤷‍♀️

[@flashthecorgi2053]

NEWSFLASH: you can discipline your kids without yelling and screaming at them. In fact, you are shutting off their ability to think critically when you scream and yell at them. Young kids are just reacting because their body is in fight or flight. Basic psychology 101!

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@SarahConnor562 I absolutely understand. I used to train with a daycare to get my certifications for DCF so I understand the stress of little toddlers but then I also took the child abuse and neglect class and psychology classes and it’s awful how much it affects kids. Now, I’m not saying every parent that yells is abusing their kids but kids bodies do go into fight or flight when you do loose your temper!

[@jasonnames]

@@flashthecorgi2053 NEWFLASH! You didnt read what I said. So obviously you got in your feels and had to create a NEWFLASH of emotional response.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@jasonnames I read this “if a man wants to discipline a child, and the mom doesn’t like it, this doesn’t mean the dad is acting like a child” and I said in response that a man disciplining his child doesn’t take screaming and yelling. In fact, Dr. delony is pretty clear that he raises his kids without yelling in the house. And might I remind you that he was raised by a Texas cop so I did read your response I just didn’t agree with it!

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

Andrew's call was so beautiful ❤

[@55tmilam]

These women and their vocal fry! Uuugghhhhh

[@karr1990]

“Liiiiiike totalllyy” it drives me up the wall 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@nowandthennn]

Women thinks vocal fry sounds intelligent & sexy . It doesn’t!!

[@nowandthennn]

I see people that are totally tv & movie addicts. That’s all they really want to do and are not motivated to do much of anything else . I believe it starts when a person is young and the parents uses the tv as a baby sitter. So I think it’s better to just watch tv occasionally and find something else to do . I didn’t promote tv when my son was younger and now he would much rather do something else . He is also very successful and a deep thinker .

[@BastianHelena]

The only thing I think is she made the decision to have these children, rather than get abortions, and that was the right and brave thing to do.

[@finngamesknudson1457]

Slow to 1.5x? No thanks, I’m fine continuing at 2x speed. Would be fine if KZbin offered 2.5x or 3x maybe even 4x.

[@tylerwalters3072]

Pissing in the Punchbowl😂😂 I like that one I'm going to use that

[@juliananielsen1646]

Yes, love it Dr. John. Slaying with the movie buff father.

[@wendylee13]

I’m a newbie! ❤

[@RightSideMama]

Welcome! Dr. John is the absolute BEST♥️

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Welcome to the crazy gang! (As Dr. Delony would say 😂) Dr. John is AMAZING!!! ❤

[@AtlasAdratica]

Ayyy go binge, but careful some of the videos are really heavy 🐙

[@MaMaeViElle]

Man, this whole time I thought I was already subbed, but apparently not? I am now ✌️

[@Alexander44665]

Caller#1: Dr. John Deloney says "he's not a man's man if he yells at kids." WTF!? Parents yell at children all the time! Sometimes its the only way they can get their attention. This can be especially true if a man is a step-father and his wife won't let him discipline the children. What else is he supposed to do?

[@AnitaSouthall]

Try having an adult sit down conversation with both your partner and also with children. It's how you get true respect

[@Alexander44665]

@@AnitaSouthall I know plenty of stepdads that have tried and tried doing just that 😆. Spoiler-it (usually) doesn't go well. Maybe she and her babies daddies could actually discipline their children?

[@blueseptember2174]

Well there is a difference between yelling to louden your voice to get their attention to talk to them not terrify them versus yelling to yell. Not sure which one she's referring to.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@Alexander44665You do realize Dr. John doesn’t yell at his kids right? If he does, he apologizes profusely and makes it right! He doesn’t excuse loosing his temper, and he certainly doesn’t excuse yelling all morning and threatening your family that you are going to leave them so no this woman’s husband isn’t “a man’s man”

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@Alexander44665Also, screaming and yelling at a kid only sends them into fight or flight. They aren’t learning ANYTHING. They are only compliant because they don’t want to get hit, or screamed at. But you’re not teaching anything besides to be scared of their parent and most likely severing a relationship down the road with them. Especially constant screaming which is what it sounds like is happening in the first callers home.

[@Alphacharlie6]

Just bought 2 of Dr John's books on Audible. I am ashamed to say I have been freeloading on this channel for faaaarrrrr tooooo loooooong🤭

[@nt3833]

Oof the first caller has a big chip on her shoulder. And when asked to describe her current husband it was strictly fact based. She is absolutely going to push this guy away if she continues this behavior. Therapy!

[@thesecretlifeofwonderwoman]

Lol Braveheart = Russel Crowe is awesome? Lol I know his name popped out because of the reference to Gladiator plus being in a live call, but thanks for the giggle Yes, I'm a nerd too hahaha

[@nickabel8279]

If your wife keeping that friend around. Bail. No ultimatums

[@theworkingmanpodcast]

John went soft on her…

[@Afterlife_Podcast]

He always goes soft on the women. That’s what happens when you leave in an egalitarian feminist society.

[@Veracityseeker7]

Because she is a woman. She needs a woman to talk to because I most certainly would not be soft on her. This is why women need to counsel. Women, and men need to counsel men.

[@Veracityseeker7]

She really needs a ♀️ To tell her the truth about herself.

[@sameerajafri747]

He wants her to get better not commit suicide. The comments on here says otherwise

[@benmyers9030]

Devorcey would tell Ted Bundy "youre worth more". Its kind of his thing

[@liliesofthefield5310]

You can't change your past but you are responsible for making better choices in the future, if you have multiple baby daddy's its no longer a mistake but a decision you're continuing to make

[@louisurbancic2206]

The 2nd guy just caused John to glitch to the point you can faintly see sparks coming out of the back of his head @21:36

[@velvetfaerie]

Oh boy...... so DAMN RELATABLE

[@anntastic1532]

Elizabeth's life....I am crying cuz it's me. Trying so hard to stop the crazy cycles my kids are exposed to...and it seems no counselor gets it, till I.hear.this. The next steps...trying figure that out, cuz my hubs is not safe and a very emotionally abusive guy, yet he doesn't see it

[@mmkvoe6342]

I had a parent like this, I am sorry for you. Work on having a strong support network for yourself outside the family, and think about what language your spouse is telling you through the behavior he's displaying.

[@anntastic1532]

@@mmkvoe6342 thank you so much❤ Praying for the right path forward

[@Kivlor]

Is he emotionally abusive, or are you--like Elizabeth--creating a chaotic, unsafe environment for your husband? Because she's definitely doing that, and if you're feeling like she's you. Most people can't sit in that environment and just take it, they're going to let the pressure off one way or another.

[@bignickenergy723]

Try shutting up and doing what you're told. SUBMIT!

[@lithopheliax61x5]

if he is abusive, you will know, so trust this instinct. if you need to leave him, do, and, you might know this already, try to live awhile without a man, to break that cycle. try to find a counselor who gets you and will help you, and yes, you need a support system around you with friends and other people, outside of a partner... wish you all the best!

[@lqboren47]

He doesn't think he is being disrespected, she is disrespecting him. My question is he screaming and yelling at them or is he discipling them and she is mad because he is not submitting to her control? Alex should maybe look into Fireproof. I had a cousin that loved Startrip Troopers he never noticed the shower scene until an adult made an arse out of themselves over it. After that my 6 year old cousin couldn't watch it again. I felt sad for his innocence being damaged. There are my random remarks on other people's lives.

[@bignickenergy723]

She's pissed he isn't submitting to her control. I'll bet the farm.

[@cathyosullivan718]

There are benefits to being step parents too. I never minded dating men who already had kids. My elderly neighbor was married for 15 years but is now divorced. She was recently telling me that the only good thing that came out of her marriage was her step daughter and step grandsons!

[@Alexander44665]

Being a step-mom is very different from being a step-father. Generally step-mothers are not around their step-children nearly as much as the step-fathers are. Of course there are exceptions. Are there happy step-fathers? Of course, but they are rare. You are not only raising another man's children, but you often cannot even discipline them. Also, in this economy taking care of her children often limits (a) what you can do for your children and (b) whether you get to have your own children and how many you can have. This is also nit helped by the fact that (after marriage-conveniently enough) the wife may decide that she doesn't want to have any more children. You are also constantly caught in the middle of drama between your wife and the father of her children-yet you really have no say. Obviously you can make the same argument for stepmothers, but at least they tend not to be around their step-children 24/7 like step-fathers are (Obviously there are exceptions). From a man's point of view, (Generally speaking-and yes there are exceptions) being a step-father is a hard, often miserable job.

[@randolph7214]

​@@Alexander44665 outstanding 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻 night and day difference.

[@RepentImmediately]

There can be benefits but usually not.

[@mamadoom9724]

My husband and I are both step parents. I have a daughter and he has a son and I was unprepared for how much we would fight about the children over the years. I’d never leave my husband but I’m advising my daughter to never ever get into a blended marriage because it’s just too hard.

[@loganjackson675]

Second caller, bro it’s either your marriage or the friend. Your wife is going to have to understand that or you have 0 chance. I’m not about controlling all friendships but I’ve been in a situation where the best friend of a S/O missed being able to do single girl activities with her friend and was willing to try to sabotage our relationship to get the single version of her friend back. It’s not about “going on more vacations,” it’s about doing single people stuff on vacations. She doesn’t want to grab drinks with your wife, she wants to go to the bar and find guys and party it up with her. If she sticks around, eventually your wife will either leave you for the temptation of fun or just cheat, I can almost guarantee it.

[@truthbetold6942]

First lady made all the stupidest mistakes possible, but doesn’t want anyone to talk about it aloud. Her family is doomed.