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[@laurenalmeyda6916]

Her husband also thought she was incredible. That's why he married her.

[@BudgetsunTamed]

W😮W

[@jaymar1615]

But she's not....

[@LSSYLondon]

Not necessarily.

[@nadiar.4638]

Or her husband thought she had low self esteem and he could manipulate her and now she has finaly found a good guy and he is told to run...

[@elaineholm6893]

@@nadiar.4638 she has not worked on her low self-esteem or she would not be in an affair

[@Cal.1031]

“A troublesome woman will leave you the way you found her” - Granny

[@nodrama5599]

You got it right 👍

[@kintsukuroi6300]

Some men like/are addicted to DRAMA; maybe there is a vocation for writing melodrama.

[@IMOO1896]

She’s NOT in the process of going thru a separation, and then divorce. She’s in the process of cheating on her hubby and she’s looking to see if this new guy can offer her more than her hubby. This man is dilusional!

[@corneliastone1807]

@@doggletamer Both……delusional and blind to the fact that he is delusional.

[@maryrobinson7335]

Best comment! No one is in “process” of a separation then a divorce!!! That’s the language of Cheat-ese! You’ve been warned, Son!

[@lauriediandrea715]

Truth

[@noneya4444]

This woman should be ashamed! Deep down he knows she is trouble. He just needed reassurance.

[@wulfseig1864]

And then look for the next best after this guy. Hopefully he'll move on.

[@Luckychi617]

Met someone who told me he was in a 7 year relationship and broke up 12months ago. I went on a few dates with him, but found out he is still married and has a 4 month old baby. I immediately blocked him and never saw him again. Liars…are so weird.

[@isabellopes890]

And very dangerous. Well-done.

[@AffectionateSeaOtter]

They are not weird. They are Dangerous.

[@seansteel3326]

@@AffectionateSeaOtter Being horny is not necessarily dangerous. They may not have much morals, but the poor guy just wanted a quickie with her for a short while before he goes back to his family.

[@violetmoon6233]

Proud of you 🙏💪👑glad you chose yourself & your self worth . You deserve better . 🕊️

[@tammybartlett420]

AWESOME job for making the absolute correct choice!!! 👏👏👏

[@kellygreenii]

What she will do WITH you, is what she will eventually do TO you. Run.

[@luciferianjesuslover9453]

Can confirm, hooked up with a girl fresh out of a four year relationship. We ended up dating for two years and the same week we broke up, she was underneath some rando.

[@THEBESTUCUNTS]

Yeppp. Spot on. 100%

[@kellygreenii]

@@THEBESTUCUNTS Yeah. This 💩 only ends in tears….

[@buuny2233]

The Anne Bolyen effect

[@annnee6818]

We didn't hear she did anything

[@lauramckinney-wallace6853]

I told my own mother this in her 3rd of 4 marriages: Mom, if he'll cheat WITH you, he'll cheat ON you. Don't insert yourself into his life and break up his family because, I promise, he's not worth the pain and heartache you'll feel when he leaves you for someone else. And what happened? He left her for another woman less than half her age in less than 3 years time. Cheaters are cheaters are cheaters are cheaters. They don't ever fully commit because they are ALWAYS looking for the next bigger/ better thing.

[@robinhulett316]

Great advice! Sometimes the truth is hard to hear but we need to hear it.

[@weezee123456]

My cousin was going thru a divorce and he ask a coworker out, she told him ask me again when he was divorced. He did exactly that. They've now been married over 50 years.

[@LSSYLondon]

That's wonderful!

[@susango123]

Exactly 💯 He should tell her once she's divorced, and still interested, she can give him a call. Until then, no dice. I did that once, and the guy didn't come back. So, I dodged a huge bullet.

[@MsJoyce31202]

But the divorce happened first and then they got together

[@nayafacts965]

This is healthy

[@lavenderkisses9461]

This is how it’s done!

[@moblack5883]

Met a lady last summer who told me she was separated. Hooked up a few times and had a blast. It ended up coming out she was still married. Her husband filed divorce on her and called me telling about it. I quickly excused myself from that situation. Nothing good will come from dating a married person !

[@Karan-th8td]

Nothing!!!!

[@Donna-wb4ub]

Empty promises

[@pjhall1353]

You were not just dating her, you were doing her. She could have gotten pregnant, then what!

[@moblack5883]

@@pjhall1353 yeah because I was hitting raw 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@isabellopes890]

That’s true. Soon or later, you will notice that.

[@Here_Today_]

Leave her alone and let her settle her life first!

[@briannall6232]

Absolutely, get your life together.... I'll see you later.... Maybe... She's on rebound. Too soon for a new relationship.. After a separation...

[@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn]

That can be disastrous advice as well.

[@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn]

Like there are some situations where this would simply be the opposite of what you should do. Of course, you can always fix it later but it’s harder to fix things later sometimes. Harder, but not impossible. But sometimes you don’t realize the mistake until later and then you’re lucky if it’s just “harder.”

[@Here_Today_]

@@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn how is leaving a married person to settle their affairs disastrous advice. If they are married, getting involved romantically is one of the worst things a person can do. Let them be. If the other needs to separate from their spouse, they need to do that first before even thinking about getting involved with another.

[@nayafacts965]

@@Here_Today_Absolutely 💯

[@justsomerandomgirl]

My husband and I were both separated and met online. 14 years strong! He retired 3 weeks ago, I retire in June at the end of school year. We raised 4 teen daughters when we came together- all 4 college grads/ accountant, a RN, an PA and a biology teacher- I’m so blessed

[@mjphoto45]

Lucky

[@Afrinaturality]

How can you trust someone that has cheated on a person they made vows with? What makes you think they wouldn't do the same to you?

[@bakerteacher2905]

The truest statement ever made!

[@Dansyoung]

You can't, a person who isn't loyal has no value in a relationship.

[@Afrinaturality]

@@StephanieWitmer-iq5pv The cheating is the issue, not breaking off a terrible (and especially dangerous) relationship.

[@Reshme77]

How do we know better situation wasn't terribly toxic. Maybe she's divorcing her husband to get away from danger. It's rare but it happens.

[@Dansyoung]

@@Reshme77I used to be like you. Trying to justify bad behaviour with logic…. Until I realized there is just evil people who will take advantage of situations with zero thought of anyone else.

[@PoliticalWonderland]

I dated a guy for a year then found out he was separated for the past 5 years but not officially divorced. I told him I can’t be with a married man… he divorced her officially within a month. We’ve got back together after that. Set boundaries & stick to them.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

Never be that person during or after a divorce. Way too messy and can be dangerous.

[@BelovedbyAdonai]

My thoughts as well 🎯

[@selfmaderish4690]

After 😂 they eventually have to move on

[@hoodhippychick]

I learned that the hard way!

[@Cafeallday222]

I met my husband when he was separated, not divorced. Still living together. It’s been 7 years and it’s all good ☺️ we did get accused of cheating but I met him on his first night out with friends (to meet ladies) and his ex always knew about me 🤷🏻‍♀️ depends on the situation

[@texan903]

​@Cafeallday222 Mrs. McCooey cheated on her husband and had a baby with the affair partner, then divorced her husband and annulled the marriage. She then married her divorce attorney, and things went well for 10 years before the marriage fell apart. For the next 50 years, she remained divorced before dying in November, aged 90.

[@SqueekyPepper]

I really admire the way you set up an answer. Asking if someone wants to really hear the best advice, instead of what the caller 'wants' to hear, it honoring the truth and your purpose in doing this.

[@aleece4]

Even if she would never cheat on this new guy and she’s leaving someone really awful, this guy is still not giving her the time she needs to grieve and heal from her broken marriage.

[@Reshme77]

That is true It's possible she was in a terrible situation and she was just looking for relief I was that situation myself. But she needs to do it properly by getting a divorce and healing first

[@peekaboots01]

She doesn't need healing but her ex husband will. Also the caller when she's done with him.

[@InDirectDiana]

​@@Reshme77 yes, I read that domestic abuse is so damaging to the spouse that is the victim and it makes them run for relief where possible. In essence, they just need to escape their abuser by ending the marriage, then healing, then trying again. It's so sad what a victim spouse goes through. But the best option is to leave. Not have affairs, turn to drugs or alcohol. I see why they do that, I would never judge. But getting the help they need is crucial. Perhaps after healing, they can move on.

[@sparkle1949]

Wow very WISELY said ❤❤❤

[@Reshme77]

@@InDirectDiana 100

[@janewahlgren-dowell1101]

Exactly! -AND this goes for you women dating & sleeping with a married man “separated , going through a divorce” whether he’s blaming his wife for it all or not.

[@beesknees213]

Buddy, run like the wind, like the gingerbread man, like a running back, like you are trying to catch that bus, like you are late for class!!! She is MARRIED!

[@Arlene_DOTK]

👏👏👏

[@artemisappollo1491]

😂😅😅

[@Zenfullvnn]

Forealll

[@homebrew332]

Right on 👍🏽

[@MommasPeachCobbler]

Love this!! ❤👏👍

[@brycesakal3717]

I met my wife when she was like 98.9 % all the way through her divorce. She was basically waiting for some paper work to come through. She was also completely separated from her ex when we started dating. It was an abusive relationship and he was chronically cheating on her. We are now happily married with a daughter. But that dudes situations sounds a lil different.

[@margo3367]

How do you go through a “process” of separation. There’s no process. You just leave!

[@EnidWellness]

Tons of paperwork. I can’t afford it .

[@amyharris2121]

Back when my parents were in the process of divorce they were forced by the state to have a legal separation for 2 years before the divorce would be granted. It was a short lived law. Also they had been married to each other before divorced without a 2 year wait. They married each other again, and 4 years later went to divorce again and were forced into a prolonged divorce.

[@MissWittyWitch]

​@@amyharris2121hello, when you say they were forced into a "prolonged divorced“ Sorry what does that mean, did the courts make them divorce for the last time or made the court case take forever? Sorry probably dumbest question of the day, I need sleep that's my excuse 😂😂

[@amyharris2121]

@@MissWittyWitch The 1st time they were married, when they divorced they filed it took like 6/7 weeks because of not agreeing. The state made them stay married with a legal separation for 2 years before granting a divorce Their 2nd time being married to each other. They both wanted to be done, but the state forced them to stay legally married with a legal separation.

[@N2MyGroove]

Stay away from those “separated, going through a divorce” people. The statement or claim alone is beyond ambiguous, as is their intent for you. If you have to be a secret, or wait until? it’s a hard No. Like Taylor swift says in “Cruel Summer” 😉

[@Silverstreak7878]

A lot of times people cheat because they can’t be alone so they create a relationship with someone else before they make their move. “In the ‘process’ of a separation” is not the same as BEING SEPARATED. This guy had better be careful. He should get out of it and tell her to call him when she is divorced.

[@lisarivera4730]

Shame was the correct word

[@ninam8089]

Freudian slip!

[@kimdawcatgirl]

Yup! Make shame great again!

[@plousia]

Yep

[@juliemorrison6337]

Being in ministry I’ve known several people in these scenarios who want it to be okay to move in with someone else and as a Christian I always say “You are married until you are not married - do not make excuses or you will have regrets”.

[@snowbird1381]

As a woman, and I am telling you to run. Women know what they’re doing. She’s not “in the process of going through a divorce,” she’s cheating and she’s playing with both of you.

[@popdaskittles]

Disagree. If she is separated and they made the decision to end the marriage she is not cheating. Although we know very little of this situation from this clip. It bothers me that everyone acts like they know exactly what is going on. Shame.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

​@@popdaskittles True. Ppl always make general assumptions. We don't know the details. Who knows they only talked and mever had sx for example but it was a connection which developed and who knows this happened after she was already going through seperation. We just don't know. If ppl are still married and start flirting with an outsider yes most likely it's a toxic situation and the married person will often string along the affaire and it leads to heartbreak.

[@jennprescott2757]

@@peaceofmindofpeace1650separated isn’t divorced

[@frno1073]

She isn’t separated!

[@purrrrrrrple]

​​@@popdaskittlesoh pls nobody would buy this if it was a guy. It's not hard to get separated BEFORE you get a new partner. She wants to jump from house to house? She needs to actually separate first, it's a basic rule to date someone, DON'T LIVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND????

[@TomnKimable]

I’ve been trying to divorce my husband for 2 years. I have not dated because it’s not fair to pull anyone into my drama until it’s resolved. 🥺

[@wendybryan6071]

How do you TRY to divorce someone? Hire a lawyer to get a fair settlement and child support and do it.

[@elizabethmarie171]

I finally separated from my abusive partner in July of 2023, we are in the final stages of the divorce process, but I will not be dating until I'm officially divorced and processed everything. My next partner deserves that respect.

[@katemangos1705]

Even better, try not to date for at least a year so that you can truly heal. Spend this year on knowing, respecting and loving YOU, because your inner self needs your support more than anyone else in the world. You are so hurt, wounded and bruised that you need to only care for you for a while. Otherwise you will bring your current issues and damage into your next relationship.

[@normagordon1375]

Big respect! I waited a good seven years for various reasons but making sure you're whole mentally, emotionally, Spiritually and all is the best you can do for both parties.

[@homebrew332]

Great idea. Is way better for you mentally, and if you have kids having a gap between their father and a new man is better for them.

[@elizabethmarie171]

@@katemangos1705 yes exactly! At least a year. I am still processing emotions and my kiddos deserve my full attention

[@elizabethmarie171]

@@homebrew332 very true!

[@gemini_interests]

I was in this position. My ex was abusive, spent my inheritance in 2 months. I had no way out. My husband saved me. Together for nearly two decades now... Not the norm, but Im so grateful for him. God sent him when I needed him.

[@LadydogC]

They hear it a million times and never learn... It will happen to you next, you are not a keeper. You are a step stone. RUN

[@camrennik9512]

I was hooking up with this girl who had been married for only 2 months. We would meet at bars and hook up in cars. I was having drinks with my brother in law and he said, you know that’s a good way to get your wallet drained, your stuff ruined, and your throat slit. I was like dang, and ended it. He was right.

[@wendybryan6071]

Alcohol factored heavily into it, you may have noticed. Not an excuse for poor behavior, but an explanation

[@alihall676]

The way you get someone is the way you are going to lose that person.

[@rosetyler2810]

I was married to a narcissist and filed for divorce, during the process met someone special and started a relationship. I moved out, divorce paperwork went through, and I am going on a year in a loving relationship with my boyfriend, one in which I have a voice, am respected, and can communicate openly. Not all women who are separated are women that need to be run away from. Our husbands already left us, criticized us, belittled us, and maybe even abused us, most likely for years. I hope this young man on the call really did find true love in his partner and that they have a beautiful life together❤

[@stevenroshni1228]

Get back to us once your relationship has stood the test of time

[@iscavengersam]

He didn't say they were separated...yet.😅

[@KING-ZEAL]

I love when anyone tries to justify cheating. You will always crash and burn in the end. Girls love to use terms like "narcissist" and even fucking FLAT out LIE about abuse. Especially if you try to lie and come up with fake domestic violence of physical abuse accusations. Guess what .....God is watching. He sees all, He knows all. We will ALL stand before Him. And He is always present when those vows between and man and woman are made. Forever becoming "one flesh", physically, spiritually. Don't believe in God? Irrelevant. Watch what He has set forth as the holy union of marriage happen before your eyes. Always. Repent. Period.

[@twitchmania7614]

1 year is not an accomplishment. And noone believes a women that says her husband is a narcissist lol

[@owlheartmedicine]

Exactly

[@leoniea138]

Like there are so many women in the world . Look around . Leave alone the married people . They made their choices .

[@SusieQ3]

Actually, you're not wrong. There's some 90 men for every 100 women in America. Not all of us are awful or married. Go find a good single woman, and be happy with her.

[@AD-cc7bj]

@@SusieQ3 now divide these by age.

[@alicjaalvena1120]

@@SusieQ3 if you want to date old people, then yes, 90 men per 100 women.. when it comes to younger people, there are more men than women.

[@AffectionateSeaOtter]

Wonderful advice 👍

[@ladylarson12]

He’s the rebound. She will drop him when she is healed and ready for a new beginning.

[@LC-pk4zz]

Until she's been divorced for at least 2 years - you gotta leave it alone. Divorce is messy and an emotional rollercoaster... you don' t want to be in the middle of it and you don't want to be the rebound guy.

[@peng3668]

Two years is a long time… people literally start dating the week after a break up of a long term relationship. A marriage is about the same except more legal and expensive. Time is something you cannot get back. Don’t work your life around how much time you should wait to do something. That would be a waste of your life

[@Delisosrotties]

So I divorced my 1st husband and wouldn’t even consider a date with anyone until my divorce was final. I used that time for putting my life together and me, me, me. I met my husband a few years later knowing exactly what I didn’t want in a relationship. Today we have 4 kids and will be empty nesters soon. We have our retirement planned and it’s going to be awesome.

[@AffectionateSeaOtter]

If you don't mind sharing ...did you have any children from the first marriage? What was their experience like?

[@Delisosrotties]

@@AffectionateSeaOtter all my children are from my husband now. I have none with my ex. If I did have kids I never would have dated until they were 18.

[@AffectionateSeaOtter]

@@Delisosrotties Those would be my exact thoughts. However, I actually don't feel like dating at all and I don't mind that one bit. I have developed deep seated Trust issues now. The thought that runs through my head is that if my Ex husband whom I trusted and did not suspect of wrong doing can turn out to be a deceiver and hide it so well then what is the chance that other men will not turn out to be chameleons like him given the Test of Time. Betrayal Trauma is not that easy to get over. I'm going to keep trying though. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@Delisosrotties]

@@AffectionateSeaOtter remember there are good people out there. I hope you find someone that deserves your trust.

[@AffectionateSeaOtter]

@@Delisosrotties I am not looking at all 😊 but thank you for your thoughts.

[@sandraramirez6118]

Run,Run,Run,Run my friend!! As a mother of 2 sons, i approved this advice! 👍

[@mala890]

He needed to hear that. Process of a separation, divorce? Until she's doing either, yes run. Also, consider if she's cheated to be with you. She doesn't take her marriage to seriously.

[@Blueprinthealing]

So true. If a woman doesn’t take the time to heal after a divorce she is just rebounding. As someone who did this in every relationship after breaking up I destroyed my life. I never knew how broken I was and kept carrying that pain into the next relationship. Don’t do it!!!! RUN!!

[@AnnafromHungarylvNW]

Why is rebounding so bad?

[@primuslaws1685]

She literally described why. Can you even read and comprehend? 😂

[@christianburrzGR3Y]

Wow I appreciate your honesty

[@michelleb1]

100% correct

[@jeremiahrod363]

How did you heal?

[@wp699]

Agreed- run. Don’t justify it in your head “but she’s gonna separate eventually, bla bla” she’s married end of story

[@Gaeliclass]

Yes, someone I know cheated with a married man, he got divorced and married her. He then cheated on her and she was furious and she raked him over the coals in the divorce. He had 4 children from his first wife, none with the second. The man was my father.

[@afterthestorm9355]

Sad for you and your family

[@Gaeliclass]

@@afterthestorm9355 Thank you.

[@redcolerealty9245]

Same story but my father didn’t make it. He passed

[@karenallhoff5086]

So sorry 💔💔💔

[@beac8238]

What was life for your father like after all was said and done?

[@ffs3840]

Truth. Don't do this to nobody, imagine someone doing that to me. The pain inflicting to someone else will bite you in the ass. She won't flinch to do it to you.

[@sparkle1949]

RUN.🏃, same for women dating ‘separated men’ lol. Separated isn’t divorced . Full stop lol RUN RUN RUDOLPH

[@nataliefaria4006]

I’m a woman and I agree 100% run!!! how emotionally ready is this woman to start another relationship when she’s not completely through with the ones she’s trying to get away from and then you, sir, Should think better of yourself there’s a lot of red flags here!!

[@jacquelinenicole6013]

Especially after a divorce. People need time. After mine, I had no interest in getting involved with someone and that lasted a year and a half. Several years later I’m now remarried and my now husband tells me he can see the trauma from that relationship coming from me sometimes. It’s important and healthy for our future relationships to really space out between getting involved. It’s out of respect for yourself and the next person.

[@petergonzalez1719]

RUN bro! People get shot over stuff like that. If she's willing to throw away her vows then you're not Mr. Right. You're Mr. Right now.

[@Pikwhip]

I learned before my ex wife filed for divorce there was a Facebook announcement about her engagement with the affair partner. I feel sorry for that man. He had no idea what he signed up for...

[@stevenroshni1228]

I would have embarrassed him in the comments

[@aimeeforAmerica]

What I've learned from dating is choose a partner with the most stable in most if not all aspects of his or her life. In the process of separation/divorce is the opposite of stability.

[@soniapetinatos6935]

I was legally separated already for 4 years and divorcing my husband who lived in a different state - when I met my now boyfriend. We’ve known each other for 2 years and have taken it extremely slow. He only recently met my kids and my extended family (within this last month) as I have officially been divorced now for a year. Only now is the relationship growing and becoming romantic and intimate. The first 2 years was a supportive friendship only, as I was going through a difficult time and my priority was my children’s safety and adjustment. Their father was physically and mentally abusive to them and I.

[@matthill2957]

Thank you for this story, takes a while to get divorced that doesnt meam that you shouldnt be able to have a partner or friend. The fact that you are taking it slow and not commiting to quickly is a very good sign and a green flag for sure. This short really rubbed me the wrong way

[@reaperundergroundexplorati2232]

@@matthill2957it really doesn’t take THAT long. Ex wife cheated in Dec, divorce was finalized by April.

[@joanarodriguez4449]

As a grown ass woman myself…I agree with him. RUN.

[@dronetrucker]

The way they come,.is the way they GO

[@vernaclevinger5716]

If she isn't already fully separated and going thru the divorce process. Your just the guy she's cheating with.

[@strawberryme08]

She can’t be they incredible if she’s spent enough time with you and pursued you as a married women. She will pursue someone else when with you 😢

[@Bike4Life231]

I am in the process of going through a divorce, and my husband is currently cheating on me with two women he met at his divorce support group. I filed almost two years ago for divorce because he was abusive to me and my kids. You tell me what kind of a person he is just from that information. I totally agree with John telling that guy to run as fast as he can. A huge reason that people who are not divorced yet run to somebody else is because they can't be alone. That is a huge red flag.

[@JDLove0820]

Imagine your wife divorcing you and another guy walking her through it

[@characteristicallyauthentic]

LMFAO happened to me. The real kicker was, he was 19 years old. She was 27. 🫠

[@stevenroshni1228]

Worse, imagine her marrying her divorce attorney

[@Helene2024]

Revolving door lol

[@atomsmasher101]

If she's going through a separation before a divorce and she's talking to you then she's just playing the field. She's for the streets. She's not worth the inevitable pain. Just wait for a faithful woman to come around.

[@RLaraMoore]

A marriage must not be influenced with interference. If you were married and wanted to save your marriage, you certainly would not want another person either enticing them into infidelity (emotional and/or physical), nor responding to their solicitations. The hope is that in marriage there are no other options than to always work together to restore your marriage to each other. Shame on those who lead married people away or participate with them, into infidelity.

[@songbirdy]

It still takes 2 to tango.

[@matthill2957]

They are getting divorced, its been deciced. What fairytale land do you tbink it will end up working out while your “wife” is being dicked down by other mem

[@LSSYLondon]

Most women leave a marriage only when they have already mentally emotionally and physically left for years.

[@Gabichi888]

It happened to me 😞 it’s been 2 years and he’s not allowing me to meet her. She’s the reason he left. During the whole divorce She said to me that we we’re separated to technically we were not married. I can believe there’s so evil people

[@RLaraMoore]

@@Gabichi888 We humans "justify" our sin. Eve was also deceived in the Garden to even go against God's instruction. I hurt for your hurts. My ex left for another woman too, just months after assuring me he would never do such a horrible thing as abandon his wife and marriage. But their minds get 'twisted' false hopes of something else. Then their hearts (superficial 'heart') follows. And then they are so 'lost' they do what they vowed to never do. God is good. He has a reason and plan for you. (And for me) Apparently His plan for me did not include a husband and happy marriage. Remember too that this side of Heaven is only very temporary. And in Heaven there is no marriage as we understand it here. Whatever there is, by definition and God's Word, will be even better than the best husband and wife relationship here. Go to God's Word, and stay close. Learn to forgive. And best you can do is to pray for God's Will on your ex and his adulteress. 🙏

[@luxuryuncovered4180]

Love John’s expression here. This dude is an armature. She about to devour him and he doesn’t even know it.

[@videofan1010]

Look at John's face change 😂

[@Godblessyourheart]

If someone’s marriage didn’t work out for whatever reason and they want to find someone new, that’s fine, but it’s a GIANT red flag to be dating before the divorce is even finalized. Imagine how fast they’re gonna move on from you when they’re bored.

[@roserowley911]

Thank you John! It’s complicated on a dating app is an immediate 🚩 I was this person seeking the hero ... no no no! We need to save ourselves first! The notion of find ‘Another half’ someone to complete me is trauma and Hollywood bs perpetuating it! Find someone in the healing process but DEEP in it! A month for every year of final separation is a good marker not everything but a good start ❤

[@Hallowsaw]

If a married woman can have a relationship outside her marriage, she already has no boundries. GL bud

[@vegone8894]

Nobody knows the situation. That's the tough part about asking people for advice. I had separated from my ex-husband when I met my current partner. I also got divorced during the time I was with my partner. Everything worked out. It has been 6 years later, and I am still with the guy I met during my separation. People need to stop taking advice from others and experience things for them selves, you never know what could happen.

[@jennerbug27]

No, his wording was "going through the process of separation and then a divorce" so she was married and most likely still living with her husband. That is called cheating. I know you probably don't like hearing that but it's true. I'm glad things are good for you but there are tons of cheaters who have also broken the hearts of the people they cheated with. The best evidence you have of how a person will treat you is how they treated their past partners. That's not 100% of people but it's a whole lot of them. I hope things go well for you but I wouldn't give this kind of advice.

[@vegone8894]

@jennerbug27 I understood that. Like I said, nobody knows the situation or the people involved to give advice. Most advice is one-sided. I was still living with my ex-husband when I met my current partner. Whether some consider that cheating means nothing to me, the people involved know if the relationship is over or not. If a single person is going to get involved with a married person, they themselves need to figure out the situation, not ask a random person what they should do.

[@mairedaly4926]

I think you're the exception...

[@LSSYLondon]

@@jennerbug27 Separation can take YEARS and literally be a process. It is not necessarily cheating. FYI.

[@lorireed8046]

You are correct... You never know what can happen. Come back in 10 years and read your reply again . LOL 😂

[@EvolvementEras]

My son will be 28 in May, and I am so grateful that he would never date a married woman because he would not have any respect for her. Always better to let the person go through this separation and divorce and be fully clean and free from that prior to starting anything new.

[@glowshine8102]

Dude, she z cheating on him with you. As soon as you dont meet her needs, gets bored with you , she ll do the same. Cheaters are fakers. Whatever is incredible for you is just faking it To have you. Try have problems in the relationship , to test her , can you turn your back and know she ll Wait for you? Wake up man and put some standards for yourself. Refuse to engage with her until she gets her act together or walk away

[@primadonna2819]

That's the best and only advice this guy needs. Just leave married people married and RUN!

[@ismaelgarcia-alvarez2247]

Be ready to take someones life or have your life taken wait till its over

[@peachluck1050]

Agree. Would add “wait till it’s over and completely cleaned up.”

[@BagznBirdz]

He's right - run. You're either falling for a cheater, a bandaid for her wounds or a placeholder until she decides to go back together with her husband. There is about 2% chance of this ending up well for him.

[@christineosullivan5061]

Wish I'd been given this advice....run run run...and I'm a woman saying it..

[@Shaara1]

I called the priest. He saidxthe same: run! This guy is not for you. He was right. I run. I'm still single but at least didn't pile up misery.

[@JDB6320]

Run, anyone man or woman that goes from one relationship to another that fast isn’t going to be a good partner.

[@11antun]

She is not a girl. she is someones wife! you can wish up on a star, but it will not change. Love from a women and a wife!

[@jamesmulholand]

My wife impulsively got married at 18, it wasn’t my favourite thing in the world and I know some may look down on us but we have two beautiful children and she is the best woman I’ve ever met in my entire life. Some people rush into things and the title of marriage sometimes doesn’t necessarily mean they’re cheating. I know exactly where John is coming from but in my case it’s the best thing that ever happened to me.

[@wendybryan6071]

What?

[@cynthialammon710]

Great advice. She doesn't really know you She needs to tend to her mess, she may not be telling the truth. Cheating? Liar? Broken? How can she involve you in this situation? Run. Listen to this man's advice!

[@ninelives56]

Whatever she is doing to him, she will do to you someday. Advice: Run. If you don't run... Advice: get ready for heartbreak.

[@starlingswallow]

I get where John is coming from, I do...but I was seperated from my extremely abusive ex husband when my now husband and I started dating. It is a miracle I met him, who's now my husband, because of how he has walked with me through my healing. Not once has he tried to do it for me, he has just been by my side, supporting me through it all, and it's messy. He holds me and prays over me when I'm having flashbacks of the abuse. , bawling my eyes out. He supports me as I'm in trauma therapy, and he has accepted me fully as a person. I finally, for the first time in my life, feel truly and unequivocally seen and heard. ❤ I know normally a person should RUN the other way. I honestly would suggest him waiting, putting everything on hold until she's actually divorced. If it's meant to be, both parties would be willing to wait. But in some rare cases, running isn't the answer. It all depends. My now husband didn't run away and neither did I, thankfully. ❤

[@LSSYLondon]

Good for you! I disagree with John. He needs to take in the whole story and not just give advice like "run" because it doesn't always work that way in life.

[@cremebrulee4759]

I'm so happy that this worked out so well for you. You deserved a good, supportive man. However, I have to say that in my experience you are the exception.

[@saturdayschild8535]

You were already separated. This doesn’t sound like she was actually separated yet.

[@Mrscheesecake1]

Same here. My experience was not as traumatic but heartbreaking. Run isn’t always the answer.

[@xxxxxxxx8903]

He's dating a married woman, not one who has separated. She's cheating on her husband with him. It's a parade of red flags and he's ignoring all of them.

[@AllynHin]

Separated is still married, and sleeping on the sofa isn't 'separated.' Keep your distance until she is actually divorced. My guess is she'll string you along for years with excuses as to why her divorce is delayed yet again. Anyone that would cheat with you will have no trouble cheating on you.

[@lilpandanesegirl]

story of my life. happily married with the new guy ❤ thank goodness.

[@lightbread201]

Never works out when relationships start this way. Starting your relationship out like this you already know 1 thing is absolutely certain about this person: they're willing to cheat on their partner

[@feelsrestricted8322]

How you got them is how they will leave you most of the time. Thing with cheaters is their usually repeat offenders

[@bethdeluca3491]

I was separated from my then husband, he left..decided one day he didn’t want to be married anymore. I did nothing to stop him bc I won’t beg anyone to stay. Met my now husband before divorcing my ex and we’ve been happily married 16 years(together for 18). So yeah, I got with someone before my divorce was final, and it worked beautifully. Not every story is the same.

[@tracylopez7125]

Facts! Such a sweet man going to get taken advantage of...

[@confusedwhynot]

I wonder why people think they are the solution to someone else's problems. If he/she is cheating on a spouse you should walk away. You cannot trust them.

[@brianbates3583]

"Take time to know her. It's not an overnight thing."

[@jselenatan9834]

As a divorcee, even I would tell him the same thing. Going through divorce took a huge toll on me and I would not want someone to be in my life just because I know I need to go through the healing process in my own. No point burdening someone with my own trauma.

[@caramelqueen89]

Ouch! Not cool at all dude! Leave that woman ALONE bro!!!! Excellent advice Mr Delony❤❤❤

[@lorencelestine3309]

Run , run , run. Find someone who can be faithful.

[@leviknight21]

Run dude to the other direction, run buddy run!

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

As a woman who went through a divorce and dated someone as I was waiting for the divorce to be finalized (I was not living with the former husband during that time), I completely agree with John. I have had my guy friends ask me if they should date a woman while she's going through a divorce, I always say no. She is being torn apart or if she says she has no feelings for her husband, then she does not know her own identity at that time. She needs to heal and even if she is the one who instituted the divorce (it's mostly women who begin divorce by the way). Don't do it to yourself. If she is the one for you, she will come back into your life... But not during this time. Shut the door.

[@Liza03V]

Just Run. Once a cheater always a cheater. Just Run.

[@pammy5260]

Shes maybe not a cheater. Maybe shes escaping an abusive partner. Maybe her partner ended it with her by cheating on her and she had enough. Maybe this guy met her after the woman already knew her relationship was done.

[@AlanWangVideos]

As I've gotten older I realize that saying is not true. People change especially if they want to change. I was not the same person I was 5 years ago let alone 10 or 15.

[@appleforever6664]

People have learned from cheating and never cheat again. You people are too sensitive!

[@matthill2957]

There is a lot of assumptions going on here. All we know is she is getting a dicorce. Lol you dont get divorced over night… takes months or years sometimes depending on the courts and lawyers.

[@jukkeo3807]

​@@pammy5260If you "escape" by cheating or looking for someone new while married, then you're the abuser yourself.

[@phastinemoon]

I heard "How do I support her" and my thought was 'As a FRIEND? Being there for her as she gets through the divorce?' and then he kept going, and I was just shaking my head -- dude... don't do that to yourself.

[@PotatoesAreNeat]

It all depends on where they’re at. You don’t fall in love with someone who’s married. I fell in love with someone that was separated with divorce being finalized. Even that was a little much for me, but I’m glad I stuck through it.

[@lauuura]

I 100% agree. If the connection is real, it can wait until she has closed the door on her marriage. However, chances are she’s just a good for nothing cheater that has him under her spell. Run, run, run! If they’ll cheat WITH you, they’ll cheat ON you.

[@deniseball7764]

Good advice - she is using you to get out of her situation ...... Wake up, she has already got you saying us !!!!! What you are doing with her now is what the next guy and her will be doing to you if you hang around.

[@allthingsaremadenew236]

Shame is definitely one of the feelings that should be felt for this situation. Even if shes incredible, she is still married and she, nor you, should even be looking at each other until eveeything is finalized AND she has time to heal OR else this wont end as well as it "should".

[@phoye3301]

Track record speak for themselves. If someone looks for the next one before ending the current one the next one will likely fail too.

[@Keepingtheroadwarm]

There is no "going through the process of a separation".... It is either she is separated or she's not. Once the divorce is final, then you know she actually followed through.... Leave her alone until then!! And vice versa. Don't let yourself be a boundary. Let her heal and then see if you're ready.... She may not be the same, unmarried as she was with you while she was married. Once a player, always a player.

[@myriahfitts6685]

"Run as fast as you can!"😂🤣😂🤣

[@WarriorWomanWaWo]

What a person can do WITH you, they can also do TO you. The way you meet a potential partner can also be the way you lose them Integrity matters!

[@NEONOIRERA]

He is right. Run.

[@mikestuhr2797]

I have to agree. Run. I lived this. Took years to get over.

[@Elizabeth-ladybug22]

I was still married when I met my now fiance,I left an abuser to another state and it took almost a year to get officially divorced,but my fiance help me get it all situated and paid for it.Not every married women is automatically a piece of sh*t 😅Sometimes getting a divorce is pricey or the other person won't sign the papers.

[@gosolvideos]

But women make excuses when they wanna leave their husband, you shouldn't have fiance while still married whatever the reason, you file divorce this is right thing to do, and loyal to your promise.

[@Elizabeth-ladybug22]

@@gosolvideos lol you sound like someone who has to get an arrangement for any women,and no I'm not staying loyal to an abuser I'm leaving and not looking back

[@javiermesa-martinez8731]

😆 so you found a codependent fool to pay for the monkey branching expenses. Well played!

[@Reallythough]

Hope the new guy doesn’t turn out abusive. That happens when people don’t heal first.

[@AnnafromHungarylvNW]

​@@ReallythoughDon't wish bad things to people

[@scrapykat3028]

I was with someone who was separated and getting divorced too! Only problem was 6 mo in… he was separated- by 600 miles. The only one who knew he was getting a divorce was him and I. He did eventually get divorced two years later. He was a rabbi, too!