7 EARLY Signs A Guy Wants To Be COMMITTED To You

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5 Stages of a Relationship Every Couple Goes Thru
1) Honeymoon
2) Doubt/Denial of noticing differences
3) Disillusionment problems become more obvious during the winter phase (Disillusionment is when the hard truth of reality makes you lose faith in your dreams and ideals.)
4) Decision stage end the relationship and do nothing, stay and be miserable, or fix the problem
5) If you fix the problems, that is... real love.
7 EARLY Signs A Man Wants To Be COMMITTED To You
1) He makes time for you and keeps in touch (this is obvious)
2) His actions match his words
3) He's transparent about his past (it's not a secret)
4) He engages you in his life (asks for your help/opinion)
5) He asks to meet your family and friends (he wants to see if he fits in)
6) He's protective of you (not just physically but, more importantly, emotionally)
7) He understands that relationships are about the future vs. living in the moment
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[@skyangelmd1skyangelmd120]

Where is the link to donate to the fund.

[@phionxdavis729]

Omg thank you

[@dbrown2728]

Thank you, Jonathan!

[@sharonraina5023]

Next day after the divorce - you signed up for a dating app? Made me laugh. I went from court the morning "OF"... straight to work at a bank no less. It was an absurd thing to do. Yeah - should have used one of those "mental health days" they offer...

[@dianeschulofffrank]

i enjoy your style

[@monicaraybon1802]

In this day and age, I don’t trust anyone. People mask their true intentions and their past. No matter how careful you are or aware, it’s hard to find someone with integrity.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Well said.

[@dianneciresi7208]

Agree completely

[@christinaeager4418]

Then why are you here listening to this dating coach if you don't want to find someone to trust?

[@motowngirl5891]

There is no such thing, men want their freedom, it’s a fact of life Plus people are on their best behavior when you meet them

[@consciousequus]

Agreed 💯

[@LBB2622]

My husband was nearly 13 years younger than me, he wrote to me from a dating site. I tried to gently reject him, He said later on that I didn’t say no so he asked me out. He wasn’t really what I was looking for but he was everything I needed. I was 46 almost 47. He was 34 but I never felt older. He was an old soul. We had an amazing relationship. Unfortunately he passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 48 while on a run at work. Sometimes I think that’s why he always moved so fast, it’s like he knew he didn’t have much time

[@alanamcmillian5810]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences 🙏

[@marypalumbo4894]

So sorry...😢

[@joaniejoymorganministries]

I can’t imagine what it’s like when a spouse passed on. My condolences to you.

[@amazynga8868]

:(

[@jdub99]

😢

[@sylviawright720]

I'm a therapist. 3 important things that you need once the the sexual high is gone: Listening and responding, conflict resolution skills, and accepting each other for who you are.

[@naomykaukuata122]

Good presentation

[@jessenceq3250]

That last one makes me think I won't ever be in a relationship. I can't accept myself nor others as is; the imperfections are too repulsive and need to be fixed. I know how that sounds :/

[@kxp66]

Then you need to know why you aren’t embracing yourself. If there are necessary changes for you to be happy then you still have a project. I dare say the project would also include finding out why you are the way you are and that would be square one in order to even begin to make changes. The other would probably be to have patience with yourself and learn to translate that toward others. Truth be told most people are more patient with themselves than others EVEN if they tend to be harder on themselves than others. Until you have skills to know yourself for who you are and find direction to make desirable changes then you will only have desire for another on a superficial level and you won’t be vulnerable enough to truly share your life in an intimate capacity. If you can’t or won’t get to that point you really wouldn’t be a lifetime partner material because we all have flaws no matter how much growth is accomplished. We should always realize there is room for improvement with a healthy dose of patience. Sometimes it requires baby steps during some of our growth and it requires patience toward oneself and allowing others to go through the same kind of processes. There has to be a like for one another at least in friendship in a potential life partner before it turns into a commitment based on love.

[@lanakorvin2860]

YOU ARE NOT GIVING GOOD ADVICE TO OTHERS, IF THERE IS NO INTIMACY OR SEX, THERE IS NO USE IN KEEPING THE RELATIONSHIP.

[@queenbeebeth]

I'm happy being single still and unsure what I want. I do know, I don't want the fun to stop completely being single. Traveling and partying with my friends.

[@montanasky2253]

Jonathon…. I just want to tell you that I’ve been watching you for a couple years now. Last night, I had the opportunity to use one of the “techniques” that you preach. I asked a new guy some questions about his last relationship 😮… this felt a bit uncomfortable for me but I just kept hearing your voice cheering me on. He was totally open and vulnerable with me …. and now I have the information and need to decide my next steps 😊. I’m proud of myself and have you to thank. I’m now looking at men from the angle of “is this man a good match for me?” Versus “does he like me???” Big difference!!!!

[@JonathonAslay]

I just used this comment in a video I recorded which will air on Sunday

[@montanasky2253]

BTW, JA, I bought your book in January 2021…during the height of the aloneness of the pandemic. I also bought it for one of my staff RNs who needed to read it. I have also read many of the books you recommend…so thanks for all of that!

[@monicaraybon1802]

Yes we women turn into chameleons and become what men want us to be, instead of just being ourselves. We don’t want to rock the boat. I’m going to be authentic no matter what.

[@suzyerichsen6184]

Yes, because you are making the decision and not letting him make the decision. This is so important because it's your life and you are responsible for it.

[@lesliestrothers4055]

Agree with other posters, be yourself right from the start!

[@lauriemorales7605]

The man I am dating calls me out when he sees a red flag, and we discuss it, and it's always a misunderstanding. I have also called him out. We work on good communication. Women and men think so differently

[@Sunnysideup01]

I’m finding it a challenge in my 50s ….these mid life men don’t want anything serious…it boggles me !!! At this age and still playing the field

[@joconna]

I have finally found a man who has integrity and communicates. For example, he called me tonite and acted a little shy( not his usual demeanor), he asked If I would go with him to get tested for std's. I told him absolutely. We have been dating since February, I only see him about once a week. We have not been intimate, and we care enough about each other to get tested. I am a nurse, and am aware that seniors are the fastest growing group of HIV cases. So, although it sounds weird, I feel like he cares about ME, not using me for sex, and protecting both of us. We are going on a trip in a couple of weeks, and we both will feel better( but I will still be nervous lol , it will seem like a honeymoon).

[@vidaacheampong2563]

You're Too old for that just get married

[@christinedewitt3826]

Does anyone these days ever consider today that sex should not be in the equation as part of the dating experience goes?? Why would you give a man your most " precious gift" when you have no committment from him? Dating is a time of " getting to know each other. Sex is not a requirement. Its a time to know who you both truly are, by asking a TON of questions, to see what your and thier goals or intentions are towards each other, if you click together etc. But sex is not a requirement. And, if it is? Then, thats all they are looking for !! Take the time to get aquainted without the sex. Youll save yourselves alot of heartache this way....

[@christinedewitt3826]

I knew that statement wouldn't be so popular

[@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529]

@@christinedewitt3826 I TOTALLY CONCUR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Recognizing early signs of commitment can save us from heartache and wasted time. Let's all strive for relationships built on love, respect, and a desire for a genuine, committed future.*

[@cdejewel]

People from highly dysfunctional families don’t know how to make these kind of judgments. It sounds very logical unless you’ve been abused and brainwashed your whole life. We should endeavor to see differently.❤

[@tamaraseyhun5688]

Exactly. When I met my guy, I was ready for a relationship and I told him. I said I want to be with a snuggle bunny.i want to sleep next to My love every night. I dont want to live my life alone. Well we fell in love and have been inseparable since. We are SO. Lastly, I asked him. Was he ready for love? A relationship? A travel partner. And yes. But he was no bull shitter. He’s from a solid family background.. makes a difference. M

[@ivettea5368]

yes , i’ve experienced a broken man & have learned my lesson . if they haven’t done the healing, forgiven, learned lessons, then bound to repeat .

[@sherriflemming3218]

Indeed. Repetition compulsion.

[@lauriemorales7605]

Same

[@lauriemorales7605]

I will not live with anyone again without marriage

[@smilevids1337]

I think that is a wise decision. In my family and marriage class I’m in, statistically the relationships that begin with cohabitation first have a higher rate of divorce and physical violence as well actually. It’s totally not worth it.

[@lauriemorales7605]

@@smilevids1337 Agreed

[@fayejordan175]

If someone just wants you to live with them without marriage, they don’t really value you. There used to be stigma to that. I have been married for over 4 decades and love my husband more than ever because I’ve learned over the years what a top tier guy he is. I would never have lived with anyone when I was younger and I would have been insulted if a guy suggested that! Nowadays women just don’t value themselves.

[@glitterginger]

I appreciate your style! 🎉

[@mandynevels4424]

So is it necessary to discuss past relationships? He hasn't said much about anything outside of highschool. I have learned not to discuss mine because because I am filtering out the we stories with me stories. Not allowing those failures to define me. Not wanting to carry them into current moments anymore. I don't really think I will feel good about hearing about them. I still have insecurities so don't know if I will feel better after hearing about them.

[@cynthiaabada3961]

Childhood or inner child unhealed wounds I believe contribute to many individuals having difficulties with relationships. Until we work on healing our traumas we will not be good partners. Peace❤

[@lauriemorales7605]

Consistency and respect are important to me in the early dating phase. Have the "hard" conversations early on

[@missta1820]

Just be yourself Jonathon. We love you as you are.💚

[@hdragongirl7628]

If someone who has been married or through several relationships a person should know who/what they want and the list shouldn’t be exhaustive. I currently don’t date because I know that I’m focusing on myself and my career and don’t need to play the field because I know clearly what I want and I haven’t met him yet. Online dating isn’t for me.

[@claudiacarley4050]

I've been seeing someone for 3 months and this video gave me the answer...it looks like I am going to end it, it's many reasons that surfaced. Thanks Jonathan 😊

[@HillaryHarris]

Jonathon - how about the men who are STILL married AND living with his wife but considers himself separated because they are like roommates but he hasn't filed for divorce yet. YES, I came across this too. UGH! And once I learned about it, I said NO and NEXT!

[@sherriflemming3218]

Married however considers himself "separated" still living with his wife.. Not legally divorced or done any healing work. Married and attached men are kryptonite. Avoid like the plague. Ask these men if you can talk to their wives or girlfriends.

[@phillyshawol9139]

I recently left a man for exactly the same reason

[@claudieC.]

One guy stated his ex girlfriend was still living with him and I was welcome to meet her. Stating they are just friends Haha not in my life time. Passsss

[@kTorres007]

Keep on moving along. Unless there's some extreme financial difficulties, nah... Don't even deal with that nonsense

[@sherriflemming3218]

Right, that's another good one. Just "friends" or "roommates" NEXT! Where are you finding these guys?

[@gc825]

A good wife is from the Lord - biblical

[@valentinagrassi5110]

I appreciate your style. In fact, I actually like it when you get stroppy, because it gets through our thick skulls , and it shows you care ❤ love you lots 💋

[@JonathonAslay]

What is stroppy?

[@valentinagrassi5110]

@@JonathonAslay stroppy I’d Australian slang for when someone gets shitty/angry😀 I love it when you get angry, it’s so funny😂

[@sherriflemming3218]

Jonathon you're a realist! We love it! ♥️

[@phyllisgosioco9392]

Yes I always look into through rose colored glasses my marriage I thought I was in love but later I found out I was in love with the idea of love!

[@Vickster-i3h]

Interesting you bring up the number “7”. My lucky number! It’s also what I’ve seen as life stages, every 7 years I’ve gone through them and emerged in a new phase, learned a few things along the way

[@AW-xz9vc]

Be very careful with number four! A man can invite you into his personal life early in the relationship, due to a borderline personality disorder. They feel a need to secure stability right away, even if it is for all of the wrong reasons. Been there, done that one! It is a devastation of epic proportion, and a long healing process.

[@jdub99]

Just escaped this. The longer I stayed it appeared more NPD than BPD though.

[@nicolabenjamin2661]

Yup that’s what my sh!t ex did. Invited me to meet his family in Italy within a month of us meeting. Invited me on family holidays and the minute after a 2 years I mentioned marriage and children (I was 41) and he finished with me with a Shazam of ‘End of the Road’. I just found out he married a woman he’d known for less than a year. I was broken. Hurt and I didn’t understand why? He wasted my time, my love and pretended he had my best interests at heart. In the end I asked him what he’d tell his sister to do. And he immediately said leave him.

[@michelem365]

Thank you for a very interesting topic and video Jonathan. I have thought for a long time that there should be classes at high school on how to conduct oneself in relationships for successful long-term better outcomes. There are a lot of people coming from dysfunctional families these days with no knowledge on how to conduct themselves in a relationship. At this time, I choose myself over getting involved with someone who is going to cause chaos in my life.

[@JonathonAslay]

Great point!

[@skibunny2257]

I think you have great advice. I recently have given up on dating. I really wish I could find someone but I pick the wrong ones. I thought I met a nice guy last October but he wasn't who I thought he was. I let him go. He was a waste of my time. Not sure if I should even try anymore. It's disappointing but I'm exhausted and tired of disappointment.

[@colleencarbone2074]

I love your style! It's up front and honest. You care. Putting yourself out there, smiling, and being grateful resonated with me, thank you.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!!

[@karenoyama8950]

This was so good. Thank you! I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine losing a child. Blessings ❤

[@Hesteforstanddk]

Afraid to speak up. So true. Earlier I spent years on training myself to be silent and never ever speak my truth. Even some of my friends are still telling me that I should change. Change to a person happy with casual. Which I am not. Speaking my truth is what I am training now.

[@1ginarossi]

Love listening to you even though I'm single but not dating. I too love studying human behavior and body language. I am a widow of 6 yr. Loved my husband for 20yrs before he passed. Im enjoying life with me!❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@anneiconex1473]

The longer I’m alone the HAPPIER I AM 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@jeanfitzgerald5334]

I enjoy your vulnerability and honesty. You are frank in your comments and pull no punches. After listening to you regularly, I finally think I know what to look for in a relationship! Thank you!

[@BonaFideWildLife]

Great points, Jonathan! Thank you for looking out for us!! Ladies & gentlemen, you are loved, worthy, and so valuable!!! 1. He makes regular time for you. 2. His actions match his words, which demonstrates character i.e. emotional maturity; mindfulness of others; trustworthy - fidelity & has your best interest at heart. 3. Transparent about past relationships - has capacity for growth. 4. He engages you into his life. 5. He's engaged in your life. 6. He's protective of you - physically and emotionally 7. Understands that relationships are about the future vs. living in the moment. They must be whole and not broken because they'll use you until it's no longer fun for them.

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@wane205]

I'm u

[@OlderWomenRock]

So agree , a persons character is super important . Yes having your best interest at heart and having your back is a must in order to build trust and security . Being anxious I need consistency , reliability , thoughtfulness . If a Man is sincere He will want You to meet those He cares about .

[@bonnygoldberg5852]

I appreciate your style. Thank you for all your teachings. Blessings to you.

[@deborahlok2999]

I really enjoyed this Jonathon. I Appreciate you. I realized that I’m also Obsessed and Fascinated by human behavior and Relationships! I listen to you, Joe Dispenza, Ester Hicks, Lewis Howes, Maryanne Williamson, Jay Shetty…. Everyone you listen to from the time I wake, for4-5 hours!!!!! ….while I meditate 🧘🏻‍♀️ do my makeup 💄 dress and prep for work! That’s my PASSION!!!

[@jessicadodds562]

Yes Jonathan! I appreciate your style...don't ever change!!! You're personality is amazing ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@debrabostwick1246]

A woman of value knows her value and doesn’t settle for less

[@LoriPHarris]

I love your description of life partner, and the concrete bond as you refer to it. To me the religious aspect plays into it but i appreciate your descriptions of signs. After being in a marriage that broke up after 35 years ( and stayed 10yrs too long) it is helpful to understand all of this. Real life things that shows us a way to look at relationships and not having just that initial chemistry.

[@lindsaypodhajsky1032]

Haha you are my new favorite speaker on this topic! I am a realist too. It is what it is. :) enjoy listening to you!

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@sundisturgeon]

I appreciate your style!!

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@tinai2744]

Yes many people are prone or not necessarily immune to narcissistic tendencies

[@janetcarrier313]

This is really interesting Jonathon. Thank you for reminding women that they are the ones in control of their relationship. Too many women don't know this, and it is also easy to forget when we really like or love someone. Thank you for your work.❤

[@anettegeminiwoman3973]

I'm the Runner, looking for Mr Perfect the last 20 years. I'm so sorry for breaking my exes heart. I have met the man that was perfect , but I left him , and now I regret it .

[@dianapaloma3102]

“You have to be your own advocate. “ Thank you 🙏❤️

[@Marcarlv]

We need to go out with various people to find out exactly what we want and to know who we connect with.

[@BirdieHaze2207]

I love listening to you, you make me laugh. I like people who speak to the point without all the fluff and fanfare. ❤

[@staywellandstrong4199]

Fishing for the unknown... The question is: how would you like to fish, and in what type of water? How do you see yourself accomplishing and enjoying it?

[@kathyruder5301]

What I found so frustrating about meeting online--2 I met online I developed quite an interest in--they were sweet and we shared a lot in common. Both were cut short because despite the connection and compatibility--they didn't live anywhere close to me and decided to end the connection because they knew the issues with distance and found that too upsetting to even continue as friends. Admittedly, they were wise in choosing to be honest--but it still hurt that I had to lose a friend over THAT.

[@Dasani_water_drinker]

Ugh. I finally found love again after 15 years but he’s in Can. Im having my doubts about it now because of distance and cost etc. I don’t want to let go. 😢 why did he have to be so wonderful and in another country

[@hortenseweinblatt1508]

@@Dasani_water_drinker "What is unconscious must be made conscious - otherwise, it will govern you, and you will call it Fate." - Jung

[@sweetypatnett6123]

It's ok,Jonathan! Speaking your truth. I like when a person can speak the truth and not sugar coat things. 😊

[@emilyc5625]

I love when I see a man write “ life partner “ on hinge . Makes me feel so much more comfortable to go on a date

[@cupcakestupidlife]

My husband passed away 7 years ago we always seemed on our honeymoon.30 years still got butterflies. Now I find nobody compares.

[@JonathonAslay]

Each relationship is unique...

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

How beautiful

[@elisheba-batiyah7israel931]

I apreciate your style Jonathon❤

[@maristella287]

Thank you so much Jonathon for being about seeking a life partner. I won't live on bread crumbs. You are RIGHT about these standards and boundaries. When I get passionate, I find I am yelling. I totally relate.

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@jaynestarrett7779]

I am grateful for things, I'll make a list

[@michellegagne540]

As far as I'm concerned, the reason someone gives me not to see me again after a first or second date doesn't matter much. It just means he is not that into me. That is all OK and the purpose of dating isn't it. We can't click with everybody. Next....😅

[@lilliankillian7366]

He did all this and togeather for 3 and ahalf years. And then he broke it off . It broke my heart. So what happen?

[@JonathonAslay]

It's not cool to waste someone's time 😒

[@kimking3909]

@@JonathonAslayit’s not

[@jenniferl1908]

I feel the same way. There are many men I don't click with and they feel the same about me. We can't take it personally as the universe it saving you from getting involved with the wrong person.

[@mandikelley7327]

I would rather them do this then string me along. And me get attached.

[@gailfroelich9633]

As a new viewer, you have been very helpful to me.

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad to hear it!

[@hybridangel3403]

I am completely done. Just accept that not everyone is meant to be in a relationship. I've been single for 6 years and some men do not know what they want others just waste time. Not all humans but it a cruel. 44 and bound to be single so just accept it.

[@renette0506]

Ok, ok Jonathan!! I ordered the Hoffman process book.... It'll be here by Oct.25. Wish me luck. Next, I'm saving up the $5,350 to attend the week. Appreciate you.

[@JonathonAslay]

Best of luck... 🙌🙏✨️

[@JonathonAslay]

If you do attend, message me, and I'll donate $100 to your registration. Good luck 👍🏼

[@renette0506]

Oh! That's very generous of you, sir! Very motivational. I'm becoming my best...and I'm hoping to motivate others, as well. Live your best life 🙏🏼

[@denisesmith8657]

Good luck!!! After you attend, let us all know what you thought and how you were impacted. I’m curious/interested…

[@renette0506]

@@denisesmith8657 ....come with me! 😁😁😁

[@deec411]

I was breadcrumbed for over 11 years by a crummy guy. I stayed with him because I didn't wanna be alone. worst reason ever!! I finally ended it and gave up on guys, focused on myself and met Ed 3 months ago and he treats me like gold. I'm loving every minute of it. ✨💖✨

[@HelpMeFindTheseSongs]

@@deec411 Congrats! How is it going? We need an update.

[@robinpehle9723]

I am for a life long married relationship. That bond is the best and worth the work

[@avishill8613]

When they say the relationship with their wives is over and then they tell you later well I cannot leave her because she does my book keeping.😮

[@Cezzlina]

Your advice is better equipping us. I definitely feel better informed and more self-aware.

[@JonathonAslay]

I'm so glad!

[@anneiconex1473]

The longer I’m alone the HAPPIER I AM 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@melissabritt3039]

40:10 I appreciate your style. You have my attention.

[@avrilrose6587]

Jonathan I’m currently talking to someone however there’s a distance between us. At the first conversation he opened up to me about his past marriages and what happened and how he dealt with the situation. I also shared my past with him. I’ve realized that he has been opening up more to me about his life and businesses and the calls have become more frequent. I now know when he travels and the dates and times that he will be doing so. He has given me one year to move in with him. I do have reservations as my past marriage did not go well. I have tried to put this behind me but I keep thinking about this . I’ve been listening to you and have been using some of the ideas that you have shared .

[@JonathonAslay]

Hope it works...

[@HillaryHarris]

I am hesitant to say all people's past determine their future in relationship. Maybe with men or most men? But those who have actually done the work and grown, there is possibility. This is true for me too - I used to be anxious attachment. Now I can happily say I am not. I am clear when it isn't right and I can cleanly let go with grace and without drama.

[@l.jennings130]

This is my first time listening. Interesting and thought provoking.

[@lauriemorales7605]

I am 53 dating a 40-year-old man. So far, we blend very well

[@Tarasyoutube]

Nice, Laurie. I liked another one of your comments alot btw. I wish you the best

[@lauriemorales7605]

Thank you! I wish you the best as well!

[@vidaacheampong2563]

40 is young

[@Krista-z4v]

I have been gradually getting to know a gentleman who lives in my apartment building, and little by little he has become really close to me. Everything is just so natural and I spent a lot of time with him in a group of friends, every one has been noticing that we are both happier and healthier together. He saw me and he said he knew that he liked me immediately. I think it is good because he keeps telling me all the things he wants to do with me and telling me about his financial situation. He wants to be together and I have known him for about a year. I would like some feedback from you, thanks

[@HelaineChersonsky]

Jonathon I really appreciate your coaching Style It's. Very straight forward and real. Thank you so much for all you do.

[@JonathonAslay]

🙏

[@SuzanneSalgado-k8u]

How you describe what you are like presently, is what women are looking for. Hopefully there are more.

[@nataliesadler5902]

I respect your style Jonathan , i don't want bull shit , i want to be told straight where I'm going wrong

[@jocelynmoffat]

Hi, went out with a guy. Got pissed off he said he didn't want a relationship with me cause I was 10 years older than him. What a waste of time. I just blocked him and won't see him again.

[@genaegeorge5932]

I absolutely love your style. If your mission is to shake people up, I’m officially shaken within less than the time it took me to watch the entire or complete video. You cannot imagine how much your obsession with studying human beings have done for another. Thank you much

[@dianapaloma3102]

I feel the same!

[@eleanormartin6923]

You are perfect. I love the psychology of people. Most men think it’s mumbo jumbo and not interested. My present guy is a history buff- it’s always history book he reads. I don’t or remember history- topped history at school but it’s past and not important. You on the other hand- I love every thing about you!! Do not change. You are fun and interesting to me and good looking- lucky guy.

[@randomreactions16]

I've always been the kind of woman that needs time before being intimate with anyone. I have trust issues (not gonna lie), and I've been hurt more by people who claimed to "love" me than anyone else in this world. So I guard my heart and my feelings with a vengeance. For me The act of sex is a a deep emotional connection that I don't take lightly. I have been in a relationship now for a few months, and we still have not had sex yet.

[@brendahart3754]

I'm the same way, without emotional feelings for someone, sex would be just going through the motions. Us women of a certain age, no longer have those raging hormones now so we can be more discerning in finding a mate.

[@tb1493]

Thank You Jonathan for being my big brother and caring at this level ❤

[@noname-jh3bd]

Oh, i am so very guilty of painting those red flags GREEN. Well said!

[@debraguerrero-tn4vp]

I'm new i love your last statement with the shotgun. I shall approach with my invisible one shotgun ..

[@carolynayala1490]

Jonathan…you are not boring and you don’t have a big nose. You are a beautiful person.

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you 😊

[@billilynnholt4131]

I met the most gorgeous man, I told him so, he had no idea. I love him to pieces but I'm staying away until he is sure.

[@ndumi-light]

I got the book 8 Dates - i wish I'd gotten it sooner. Thank you Jonathon. 🙏🏼💚

[@kimking3909]

Ok now I’m gonna get it 😊

[@pattylyons9645]

I'm in my 60's. I never wanted to get married or be a mom. I did the cohabitation thing and that's not for me either, but I do want a life partner. I believe people can have a monogamous relationship and not live under the same roof.

[@ritapeters1330]

Yes, that is possible and called true love

[@KaraKahn]

Sounds like you have an avoidant attachment style. I recognize it because I have an anxious avoidant attachment style. And I always used to think the same thing- living apart would be ideal, but that's not being committed to love and growth in a relationship.

[@sweetypatnett6123]

Thanks for sharing this video, it was very informative and helpful. Making a mental note.😊

[@lauriemorales7605]

As much as I wanted companionship and sex, I refused to date anyone for many months because I knew I wasn't ready and was honest about that with the man I am currently dating. He kept in occasional contact with me for over 6 months until I truly felt ready, lol

[@cathyarambula646]

I'm in a long distance relationship w/this man I'm falling for. I haven't physically met him... only thru the Internet. He says I'm the only one & I want to believe him but sometimes I get unsure 🤷‍♀️ Should I go w/him for the long haul? I worry he'll get bored. He's halfway around the world working. He's 10 yrs younger than me. I'm 68 he's 58

[@Dasani_water_drinker]

No.

[@Vickster-i3h]

In regards to this phase of a relationship or it’s progression, I suggest what I realized was a good thing to introduce into my life since my high school years, the “one year policy”. You cannot make a true commitment to a person without them being in your life, integrally, until after a full year. You can explore all avenues in this year. No one can hide their true nature longer beyond this time frame and you grow together or apart.

[@jenniferschaar3118]

Johnathan yes I appreciate your style ❤ Amen ❤

[@jenniferdavis9645]

I LOVE your energy!!! I laughed so hard when you were reprimanding yourself for being "passionate" about being emotionally mature. I was praying and stumbled across your video. It verifies to me that the decision I made to call it quits 2 days ago on a relationship was the right one for me. I even used the words placeholder with him. I don't think he's a bad guy. He's just not done the work to heal. I am very intrigued about human behavior and understand that there are reasons for it. However, I am also very aware of what I can and can not let into my space. I'm getting better at recognizing it sooner, though, which is helpful. Thanks for putting this info out there. So many people need it. I think it could be helpful for men as well.

[@Foxie635]

i am dating a guy now separated for 1.5 years but they are fighting over money since he’s a high earner. i am separated as well and ex is being difficult because he wants more money. we have a deep connection and sex is out of this world. but he’s casual 😢he so hot!

[@sweetypatnett6123]

Johnathan, im so sorry for your loss.❤

[@donnarichards3350]

I agree with everything you say! Spot on I appreciate your style!

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@claudieC.]

I love your candid disclosures of your past behaviors. The relationship component of everyone's idea of what that looks like is right on because we (many single people ) wait too long to ask and waste our time. Also often time the men will agree to pursuing something but the woman is doing all the work only to find out we are with a manchild or a serial dater. Waste of time.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Yes, Claudie.

[@hilynkreuning5915]

love it Jonathon you are so passionate about your advice

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@lorimcgowan8964]

Your caring and passion about your profession is clear. Thank you for every video. I learn from each. The journey is real.

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@tinasmith5213]

I think you are a great teacher! Thank you.

[@JonathonAslay]

You're very welcome!

[@kimking3909]

I love the yelling as well! You’re passionate about the human condition and I do believe you’re going to one day crack the code! 🎉❤😮🎉

[@JonathonAslay]

I hope so!

[@CarnivoreSeventyOne]

You are speaking good sense!

[@normaallen4573]

Thank you that was good advice I love you brother

[@laurathompson250]

After being burnt in not wanting to see the red flags in my ex-husband that I went into all my post-divorce dating only looking for the red flags. Worked out well as I could quickly move on from anyone not worth my time. I'm now in an over 4-year relationship with a great guy. Our conversations often turn to all the things we'll do once we're retired 😊

[@vamp8903]

Over 4 years ...😳

[@laniisavage410]

Are you guys married now since it’s been so long?

[@laurathompson250]

@@laniisavage410 no, that isn't the right choice for us because of tax and inheritance laws.

[@andrearowe4815]

What about Pre nuptials?