Jordan Peterson - Bad Relationships in a Nutshell

original source: • 2015 Maps of Meaning 0...
Predicting marital happiness and stability from daily interactions.
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[@jeffhughes7104]

The beginning is how I imagine how he sleeps and then he just instantly wakes up and starts talking about this stuff.

[@grrggrrg4805]

This is a fucking excellent comment

[@JordanBeagle]

It's no bloody joke!

[@MysterousBear]

Everytime I think I've finished laughing at this I start up again

[@LUR1FAX]

*Zzz Zzz* *Wakes up* O_O So lobsters, ey?

[@JeanTheDweller]

HAHAHA fuck man, he just sits up like a robot and educates. Still got his suit on and everything

[@mrlozano]

Bad relationships in a nutshell 00:00 - 00:02

[@leslieannew3414]

lol this literally looks like my boyfriend when he's over arguing!

[@kevinking9804]

😭😂

[@MilkPudding]

HAHAHHAHA brilliant

[@ananastea]

Henry Lozano hahaha

[@TheLeevoy]

JBP pays all kinds of dividends!

[@roddydykes7053]

Someone should add the Windows Start-Up theme to the beginning

[@drkskwlkr]

Roddy Dykes When I read your comment I suddenly thought of this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eYbEhIR4fcx7Y5I

[@Nina-fp3jv]

lol

[@MrVee24]

Wicked 😂

[@moonsidejazz2957]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/fp7YanmEbaZgb6c here you go

[@SolitaireZeta]

@@moonsidejazz2957 No Windows 95 startup theme? :-(

[@kikrinman1450]

I like to imagine he's just in an empty room.

[@crackerjack6454]

hahah pretty much what I do from time to time, speaking to a room full of people, (who aren't there, while giving speaches/lectures all in my head)... 😂😂

[@Exitus50]

Lmfaaoooo

[@eyechi1051]

It's not your imagination ...

[@Donoho-Studios]

Haha haha

[@cap4137]

I lol’ed at this

[@EddyTritten]

Perfect starting image hahahaha

[@jungshin87]

I can totally imagine his class has 20 minutes of silent dead air in the beginning where he just silently sits like that until a thought comes to mind.

[@KlausandKlaus]

It wouldn't take 20 minutes until a thought comes to his mind. 20 seconds max ;)

[@coreycox2345]

It's a good look for contemplating bad relationships, Eddy.

[@LaffeeTaffeeGG]

You know it's gonna be a good lecture when he's already double facepalming

[@danielm5894]

my thoughts exactly hahaha

[@infortality]

This is actually video footage of a man waking up from a 50 year coma. Doctors are unsure how or why he had so much wisdom about relationships

[@MindlessWarlok]

Infortality is he an scp?

[@Walter5850]

Infortality hahahah i just had to watch the whole thing again with this perspective in mind. Laughed my ass off

[@pablopicasso4699]

That's amazing Holy shit XDDD

[@C4RL1NN]

Lllolololol

[@RussianChelovekus]

Man this is hilarious!

[@DG-mv6zw]

I've been happily married for 26 years....but then we don't have cardinal birds in the west coast of Scotland. That's probably what's contributed to our longevity.

[@Gentamoru]

lmfao never thought a bird could destroy a relationship

[@paulm6081]

@@Gentamoru idk man I had this chick on the side for 3 years and when missus found out, it all went south. Birds these days cant keep a secret

[@anon2427]

Paul M great comment

[@kaylamcintosh8210]

You got the red in you already~

[@stevetoth7136]

@@paulm6081 whatever you do....... DO NOT kill 2 birds with one stone

[@harrisonwintergreen1147]

that predator-prey thing is deep. I've sensed it in other couples but never had the words for it. there are couples that just sort of oooze low level hostility, constantly.

[@bollywongaloid]

Lost my best friend of 20 years to a relationship like this. He’s just married her this year and they behave exactly how Peterson describes it in this video.

[@hebgbz4121]

who da bruh What do you mean? Just... do it? Periodically?

[@ebolahh_same8610]

I've been around couples like this to where it's like a two headed one bodied monster 😅

[@jaymeselliot8181]

my best friends started as enemies, and my worst fall outs/enemies started as friends

[@annacroixx]

What an awful way to live. I’m glad I learned this now while I’m still unmarried.

[@ejaokay]

My ex gf used to sigh at me about stuff like that. I’ve always liked cars and when I’d point out a cool car I liked while driving she would sigh and roll her eyes, and she wasn’t joking. I know a lot people think dudes shouldn’t be so emotional but it really did hurt, especially because I never treated her that way. I would always confront everything she did like that, because I’m a firm believer in communication but she would always do exactly what Peterson mentioned, “Whaaat? I’m just sighing oh my god calm down.” She would never communicate with me. I found out after we broke up that she had been cheating on me with my brother in law (my sister’s husband) for over a year. If you’re in an unhealthy relationship get out before you marry them. I’m glad I never proposed.

[@c.1211]

Women are sneaky.

[@ejaokay]

c. 1 they can be. For the most part I was stupid. A lot of warning signs I chose to ignore because I loved her and thought she loved me. Silly me for thinking she loved me. Lol

[@c.1211]

@@ejaokay yep, I know exactly what you mean.

[@ejaokay]

sunny d I have a right to not be cheated on and lied to. Cheated on with my brother in law no less. Maybe you’re a fucking idiot. Cheating isn’t the fault of the one being cheated on. That’s a skewed sense of right and wrong you’ve got. If someone is unhappy they can fucking leave and not stick around and waste the other person’s time, which I should remind you is extremely valuable.

[@cedricduguay8492]

Well.. she was probably like "cool" the first 500 cars

[@D3vious38]

This is why I love psychoanalysis. Humans lie to themselves and others because on the surface we'd like to appear as "good" when in reality we can be very cruel monsters. Psychoanalysis sheds light on the iceberg beneath the surface.

[@saschamayer4050]

That's always true for both sides in any relationship.

[@maggiecarlos7622]

Watching JP ... I'm learning about the 12 Rules For Life and to finally again listen to my gut feeling @ 60 years of age. Lol..hello world.

[@maggiecarlos7622]

What a terrific analogy of life of the hidden iceberg. People are the Titanic, hitting the hidden iceberg and then "wam "the Titanic sinks and then comes total Kaos . Boy, alot can be analysed on the Titanic story a real mixed bag of circumstances and personalities. Says a lot about the Ruby Princess too. 😥 Take care everyone.

[@missz6496]

Peterson forgot the 5th option where the partner dismisses the comment about the bird with 'yeah cool' without taking the eyes off the phone. Much more common these days.

[@DG-hu9dz]

Ірина Захарук bruh

[@RoYalWChZ83]

Ірина Захарук exactly... definitely the most common out of them all...

[@jimbig3997]

He forgot a lot of options, and left his audience with only those options which actually will lead to unhappiness and divorce.

[@thefarmhouwse1551]

I mean look at the laptop I don’t think smartphones were as prominent then lol

[@DonTruman]

Same thing as the sigh, but with an added extra layer of disrespect. A sigh expresses a lack of interest. "Yeah cool" expresses a lack of interest plus sarcastic insult.

[@polar1428]

Thats one oldschool laptop

[@jonathanearley8588]

Felix's Hot Dog Boss relationship goals

[@SilverSpade92]

I like the blue. It makes the logo in the middle look like a badge. Kind of like a silver age aviatio emblem or something.

[@williamgill_esq.6487]

DE. alpha17 Looks like an old Dell Inspiron. I still have the I bought fifteen years ago.

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

if it works, why change it?

[@Emergingpker]

Its an old lecture, you people sleeping, you can even see he got some weight on him.

[@missmerbella]

Jordan “look at my damn bird and make your damn bed” Peterson

[@Stalthdan]

Do that and you'd be a top lobster

[@joaquindeoliveira5564]

CLEAN THE DAMN LOBSTER! CLEAN IT!

[@danil.6667]

LOL. The "look at my damn bird" part can be misinterpreted.

[@quantalogue]

Damnit, my girlfriend must've told him about the whole bird incident.

[@iian724]

Good comment. I laugh

[@ghost2.073]

Good comment. I laugh too

[@astroballs7]

Good comment. I laughed three

[@nuao88]

Quadruple giggle 😂

[@maureenmiaullis6427]

Add me to the list. Lol

[@martinsloan9785]

The dreaded "eye roll". The number one indicator of an impending divorce.

[@ninopayne2751]

What does the eye roll symbolize

[@tairschol6910]

Once the contempt creeps in, your relationship is in deep shit

[@Trilluminati713]

I like how he doesn't need a special made thumbnail to attract views lol

[@xbox_cheeto5338]

this one worked out anyways, it pretty much summed up the video better than click bait ever could as others here have pointed out lmao

[@blu3fan638]

@@xbox_cheeto5338 right lol

[@hubertlemay1840]

Is there really people who care about thumbnails ? If so that's kind of sad...

[@thisiswhatilike54]

Put out good enough content that stands on its own merits, people will be willing to overlook if not outright forget to notice. In this case, Jordan Peterson’s name alone is enough to garner attention, with as many thoughts he’s provoked.

[@nemesis9410]

Don't you love the times when laptops looked like kid's toys

[@YeaButCanUDoABackflp]

Well, at least there lies the newest nvidia gpu packaging in the right corner of the screen but it might have doubled the laptop size.

[@DH-og5yr]

Recent developments indicate this is a child’s laptop

[@topgun213]

i wish he did an entire lecture series on good and bad relationships

[@HiVizCamo]

I'll bet that's coming. I predict as his celebrity expands in the coming year and beyond, he'll broaden the messages in his current book to cover relationships. Right now he's taking a massive barrage of flak from media that have just discovered him. Their main straw man attack is that he addresses males only, and fosters a "troll army" of misogynistic A-holes, which of course is completely false. He's got so much to offer, and I'm sure he's got tons of material on relationships. I just hope he stays away from religion, that's probably a brick wall he doesn't want to take a run at.

[@Lightnings]

@@HiVizCamo In his first book he already addressed religion in every way.

[@ChiefSmackahoLLC]

@@Lightnings and did so in a way that even lifelong atheists can get a shit-ton out of it because it isn't advocating A religion and instead talking about belief in general.

[@Lightnings]

@@ChiefSmackahoLLC exactly!

[@PercussusResurgo]

I hope he doesn’t, it will trigger my marriage induced PTSD. I am not joking it was like a death of a thousand cuts. Although she actually ‘said’ very little I steadily discover that Passive/Aggressive people are the worse type. You start to question your sanity after a while. Stuck around for my kids but it’s a classic case of damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I hope you are lucky enough to be part of the 6% who find right partner for them.

[@tmlittle8966]

Nutshell: carrying around a boatload of resentment.

[@flufftronable]

Cartload 😂

[@lostmagicofdisney]

@@flufftronable bloody cartload

[@chriscunningham8807]

@Untitled 1 The resented party deflects communication and plays dumb to win the game. Stonewalling is the classic brick wall that blocks resolution. Nothing like the good old silent treatment to spin the wheels of the opponent.

[@red_freire]

@@chriscunningham8807 yeah if you think about it, there's virtually no reason for a couple to break up if there's no resentment from either side. Wich means to talking things through, and not ''nevermind'' things.

[@JOSEPH-vs2gc]

Resentment from what? > Entitlement. Entitlement from what? > Self-Importance > self-importance is? > A black hole of Pride. Nutshell : A boatload of Pride from both parties.

[@winterfell9990]

in a nutshell, resentment is the biggest marriage killer, anger, sadness, ect. they can all be overcome. but resentment just grows and grows and grows and you cant just sleep it off, when the resentment balloon pops so does the marriage

[@persis2223]

I've always said that *unmet expectations* is the biggest relationship killer. Resentment would be a symptom of that like anger, hostility, frustration, and everything else that comes from not having your needs met. In this example the woman had the expectation of the man coming to look at the bird and probably saying something positive to get confirmation of a human's inherent need for connection. It's not just emotional things, either. So, you have the expectation of getting help with house chores, yard work, child rearing, or some other daily task but your partner isn't meeting that for some reason then it causes negative feelings that can pile up. My man does good at exceeding expectations most of the time. He humors me when I get to talking about plants or video games. Like i do when he's on about tools or cars. He does things I ask him to do in a timely manner... A relationship is only hard if you have a hard time caring for someone's needs other than your own.

[@iammaximus614]

Persis 22 Very wise perception

[@persis2223]

@Untitled 1 I get it but it's hard a lot of the time. I'm a really anticonfrontational and often find myself getting way more upset at the prospect of bringing up stuff for fear of making things worse or starting a fight. It's something I try to work on as an individual but years of emotional abuse from my mother makes it practically impossible to talk about stuff that upsets me. Every person has their baggage and part of tending to someone else in a relationship is paying attention to the other person and their needs. Trying to understand where they're coming from and having patience where their weaknesses are. My man does a pretty good job of seeing what irritated me or seeing where I'm struggling and fixing it or trying to talk about it. I do the same for him. Sometimes all you got to do to start the flow of conversation is poke the crack in the dam.

[@persis2223]

@Untitled 1 the problem is why let it get to that point? The point where you're screaming and yelling. Why not care enough for your partner that you're aware of their problems and sensitivities? I'm not talking about thinking for them but just understanding that sometimes they physically or emotionally need something and fulfilling that need well before it becomes a point of contention. If anything they're doing *your* thinking for you instead of the other way around if you have to have them tell you everything. Also, they may be telling you and your just not listening. It takes a lot of breaths and sighs to blow a balloon to it's popping point. The shoes you leave in the doorway your SO complains about all the time, the dirty dishes all over the house, the clothes in the floor beside the hamper, the side the shower curtain is on, the comment you make about a family member, or whatever little trivial thing that they're "nagging" you over... That's them saying something. You can't be surprised when they've been filling that balloon, for however long, and you've not been paying attention. You shouldn't be surprised when it pops and you stand there all surprised pikachu "why didn't you say something? " ... when they probably already did. Hell, even just calmly asking about whatever it is (bc you were paying attention) and getting a conversation started is enough to confront the problem. Sometimes, the person with the problem, just has a hard time starting that conversation. Which is what I mean by being anticomfrontational. I have a very hard time expressing I'm irritated with how something is or something that happened. Mainly bc I grew up being punished for being anything other than perfectly happy and grateful with the way things were..... It's something I'm growing out of. It's not my man's responsibility to deal with that particular baggage but he's sensitive to it. He understandsand notices when I might beer biting my tongue and just asks. A simple question might elicit a reaction that could solve the problem well before it builds to a conflict. Sometimes people just need help. We rarely really get into big fights. By rarely I mean we've had two in the 6 years we've been together. We have our quibbles but it's a lot less stressful to just deal with it before it gets there. This isn't just romantic relationships but all relationships. I expressed my being overwhelmed with a problem and my friend just came over and helped me. She saw a need and fulfilled it. It's not hard to just pay attention. You don't need to be so self absorbed that you have to have everything spoon fed to you. You'll NEVER find someone that will put all the effort and work into a relationship and be happy with that.

[@ke7cat]

Persis 22 Perfect. I was engaged to a beautiful woman and unfortunately became disabled after a surgery. She has two kids, one 12 and 19. The 19 yo has a medical marijuana card for fibromyalgia. However neither kids have any discipline in achieving things. They were molly coddled and had zero chores. I am a damn good chef been told. My fiancé would do dishes..great trade off because they can’t boil water. But the oldest would sit in her room and smoke pot all day, come down for dinner, blow smoke in my face (which I hate) never offered to help prepare dinner or anything. Hell if her mom was sick she would not even offer to clean dishes. One of my med conditions is chronic fatigue and have very limited energy. So to help out the fiancé when she was sick I would offer to clean and did. My nature to help. Hell the youngest would be told to clean her room and three weeks later it would still not be done. It became a health hazard. The mom would relent and give the phone back after a day.. I should have saw the warning signs early on in our 5 year relationship when the oldest (age 15/16] literally walk over something on the floor, pull a few weeds or by an empty pet water bowl and she would be asked to do these things and her immediate rude response is “not my fu$king job” or I did not sign up for this. Neither one would do basic children chores. So it fell to me and my fiancé. I had literally no energy and she ran out of energy, so we had no quality time together. The past year, I pleaded for more help because I was rapidly going down hill. The fiancé says she is working on it with the girls...they had it “rough” with their bi polar dad.....the help would last one day.. I became resentful for constantly asking for help when at their ages they should do it automatically. I started to withdraw and became very irritable at times. because I felt I nothing more then a servant, at 50 years old nobody should feel that way. I busted my ass for that family and got nothing in return. Beginning of April, I did not sleep for days due to pain and this vid bs. I wanted the day off from cooking and she said no and I blew up how lazy the kids were (I rarely lose my cool) I said I was leaving for a day to rest and she permanently kicked me out. Well I am basically homeless, still waiting for social security and have zero money and started to fall into a deep despair until I read your comment. I love them very much but it may be a blessing in disguise. I started to despise the lack of basic child responsibility because it was affecting my health. I was trying to help the oldest not fall into an addiction trap by locking herself in her room. I was trying to convey the importance of getting outside and pulling a few weeds to get sunlight and have a routine to like empty the dishwasher at a certain times everyday because without those things depression will engulf you. But the mom thought I was attacking her and “parenting style” because I thought kids by the age of 10 should have responsibilities and be held accountable but I was made the bad guy for asking for help for a year... Sorry for the long version, it helped me immensely tonight and can maybe sleep.

[@timwestchester9557]

00:02 When you open your online exam and you have no idea what the fuck is going on.

[@xxxfirehuunterxxx]

Tim Westchester More or less

[@xeropunt5749]

Like Chris Rock says, when you're getting to know someone you're getting to know their representative not the real them. Don't take any notice of what they say, just watch what they do. Casually "investigate" a person without commitment so you can easily walk away when you catch crazy, aggressive & other various ego-power tripping tendencies. People are entrenched in their habits and beliefs. Learn to walk.

[@Palaecro]

Solid advice

[@stephenmoran620]

Kudos my friend. Im having to stop myself elaborate on that 'kudos' for fear of giving away how apt this is and how hard it is to walk that line when the love is already there before the shock of that reality hits you. And how complicated things become in advance. Bt I'm drunk and its late. Be well Yoda. Thanks for the clarification lol👌😁

[@justinpearson9170]

So true. No need to rush into a relationship... give yourself time to just be around a person and go from there. Reasons why relationships of long time friends tend to last I think. You put on your social personality before you walk into the world and there's only a few amount of people you'd feel free to take it off in front of. I think that's when you see more of the real person. When people get to be themselves and not trying to impress you or trying to say the right things.

[@lucygoose6237]

This would have been useful in my past

[@stephenmoran620]

Lucy Goose that's kinda what I meant. Bt I see the good in his wisdom, it will still be useful now and in your future. Its hard sometimes forcing myself to be hopeful and optimistic, it takes practice believe me :(.. :) almost everyone is hurting over someone, like we so obviously are. Stay true to yourself and know we're never alone in feeling hurt for whatever reason. I'm not saying take comfort from others misfortunes.. I'm just saying feeling like we are is not unique to us, bt rather universal and shows us how good we can be, cause we can empathise, hurt and love. Some people don't havr that luxury. Sorry for babbling, I'm a melter lol take care, peace and hugs for everyone :) ✌️🤗

[@sevski]

Dat feeling when you realize your parents' marriage/relationship is horrendously screwed up...

[@mariacastillo5625]

It's an even worse feeling when you end up in the same type of marriage as your parents.

[@kenzahora9167]

Don’t take the “fun” out of dysfunctional.

[@markflierl1624]

I realized that as a child. I didn't want what they had.

[@iammaximus614]

Stygian Eons Con Funk Shun ✌️😎 70’s R&B band

[@Alienrun]

I sometimes wonder if the reason I haven't dated anyone yet is cause my parents set up too high of a standard as to what a marriage should entail. They NEVER argue, even about little things...when they do its about something important and I can tell that both sides are trying to understand each other. (Also they don't argue in circles either, they get to the point pretty quickly...)

[@NanaMamaS]

I'm uncomfortable with how much this resonates with me...

[@p0rt3r]

When they are openly shouting at each other, they are going to be married for another 40 years.

[@edennis8578]

Not necessarily. Most marriages I've known like that last 3 years tops. The one marriage I know that lasted ended up with the old man living in an rv in the driveway because he couldn't stand the battleaxe in the house.

[@1967briano]

No.

[@SolitaireZeta]

Depends on the frequency. Every so often? Yes. Every other day or oftener? No.

[@chriscunningham8807]

@@SolitaireZeta Visit my place and listen to my neighbours. They threaten murder everyday unless one is in hospital. Over a decade later...

[@kerriwilson7732]

Jerry Stiller died today.

[@jasonbrianmerrill]

If that's the first fucking frame, do you need to see the rest of the video? haha

[@mattrefghi]

Jason Merrill lmao

[@napakamu9670]

hahahahahahhaha xD

[@val2372]

literally took a screen shot :'D

[@doubleaalanderson4571]

JM, literally my first thought lmao

[@feelsrestricted8322]

I know it’s supposed to be for romantic relationships, but this reminded me of my relationship with my mother. I resent her for so many things that I have forgotten but never forgiven. So every time we interact I immediately notice her flaws or quirks that irritate me. She picks up on it and usually gets defensive, acuses me of bullying her or mistreating her, and then I get mad because I am being accused when I haven’t even said or done anything, but I am guilty because I still hold hateful feelings towards her. I don’t know how to reset our relationship.

[@MrWackozacko]

You probably cant I unbonded from my mum when she walked out on me and my dad when i was 4 and have never been able to bond with her again

[@edennis8578]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It's true, especially if you're always rubbing each other the wrong way. Get away. If you're living with her, omg, what are you thinking?

[@feelsrestricted8322]

E Dennis I am in high school. And unemployed. We’re trying to give each other space now (as much as we can) but it’s still tough.

[@bhutanwisdom1644]

We often go back for more, even if we have not had our needs met by our parents for decades. It’s a deep hunger to finally be nurtured, seen, and loved by those who brought us into being. But it’s been my experience that those who cannot meet those needs seldom change. Not because they don’t want to, but because they just aren’t up to the task. They don’t have it in them. They are in too much pain themselves. If you are someone who keeps going back for more, you have to stop. You are holding yourself hostage. It’s no longer them- it’s now you. It’s the unconscious hope to finally feel seen and loved that is wounding you. The key to your liberation is to finally see them for who they are. Really see them, the way you want to be seen. See them in their context, their woundedness, their limitations. Once you do, you no longer imagine them as adults capable of meeting your needs. Because they aren’t. They’re lost children, stumbling over their own patterns and conditioning. They can’t meet your needs because nobody ever met theirs. Of course, reaching this stage of awareness is no easy thing, because you have to achieve this without getting what you needed from them to grow developmentally into adulthood. It’s a kind of catch 22, one that requires that you fully see them as the fractured humans that they are with no part of you imagining them as adults with something they can offer you. It’s a huge and difficult step. But it’s the only step you can take. And when you take it- I mean, really take it- you become free to get those needs met by those who can actually meet them. You become free to truly live. - Jeff Brown

[@bencarlick9874]

Wow. Never have I seen a comment describe my relationship with my parents so well.

[@alexmelkis7017]

The deep sigh is an indication of Responsibility Issues. It's like saying "I want a divorce, but I want it to be your fault, your responsibility, and I want to be the one who's right. I want you to start 'the fight'. ".

[@alexmelkis7017]

@shut up a'ya face could you elaborate on that thought?

[@donnythedealer7005]

Alex Melkis incredibly insightful

[@BygoneT]

Assuming will take you nowhere, it can also be a sign of general suffering

[@BygoneT]

@Stygian Eons Probably sleep issues in your case

[@AqierDesigns]

D4 C lol. last comment you said: "assuming will take you nowhere.." 😂

[@RobertLinthicum]

I always take a look at the damned bird.

[@cormoranuud]

Sometimes I had to do it too.

[@SnuffZen]

Just because le baguette is starting to swell in the moment, so you must have a look and seem interested to take her hand and go to bed and show her the dirty bird ;)

[@helmop936]

Human Beat Clocks you sound like a 12 year old virgin..

[@derpderpson8803]

@@SnuffZen yeah like he can fucking hear you what a chump

[@andothersmallthings2917]

i'm excited about the bird!

[@headache9867]

94% is good but can he find a way to do it before they marry. Then he’ll be godlike.

[@Koeras16]

We should start to think about marriage through a different perspective. It´s not hard to spot at what stage any relationship is. From outside it can be due to a few reasons. But when you are part of the relationship you got all the cards. Just open the eyes.Nothing godlike about it.

[@BennyGold5867]

I think the information will give you a pretty good clue.

[@iTzKneecap]

I like pancakes edgy

[@FrogFraction]

Most likely, the people that a couple consists of have had relationships before. Myself for instance, I know I'm very much not able to respond well to people's bids for attention, This probably means I'm going to have to change that if I want something stable.

[@iTzKneecap]

@Shawn Madruga yeah I agree to but it's still an edgy response. Anyway, marriage is the least of concerns when it comes to traditions that hold humanity back.

[@di3486]

I saw the image thumbnail for this video and I could hear him saying "blooooooody" 😂

[@MrPicklerwoof]

I'm convinced many bad relationships/divorces are down to young couples not properly getting to know each other in the first place. So many just sleepwalk into things and barely scratch the surface of the other's personality. Explore each other mentally early on, not just physically!

[@majurbludd]

MrPicklerwoof politics religion and life goals need to match.

[@ljones98391]

Physical intimacy too soon, before you know the person on other levels, can skew everything and keep things from developing on a more solid foundation.

[@charlesbell5500]

Exactly, it takes about 4 good years to really get to know someone. Like, to the point that you know what they're gonna say before they say it. That's the point you should be at before you marry them. God forbid people wait a few years.

[@charlesbell5500]

@@majurbludd Although it doesn't hurt for them to match, I don't think it's necessary as long as they're both ok with the other's views and goals and have boundaries.

[@swagguy1]

So basically good relationships are conscientious activities we participate in actively and with eagerness to learn.

[@olsim1730]

JB from NZ?

[@shttykitty]

A huge thing I had to get over that helped my relationship immensely was expecting what I wanted out of a relationship to come "naturally". I wanted everything in the relationship to play out perfectly like it was fate, because that would mean it was all "real". I didn't want to have to ask for anything, I wanted him to read me and listen to my implications and then give me what I wanted. Like some adventurous romantic comedy or something. I listened to Jordan Peterson about not punishing someone for something good they did, which I found myself doing a lot. Then I would straight up say what I wanted in the relationship and be extra loving and happy when he does it. Now it does come naturally and communication isn't uncomfortable anymore. It's way more realistic too, I was living in a fantasy.

[@shttykitty]

@garlickman no problem haha

[@johannawilliams6784]

Thank you so much for posting this comment, I've been having trouble with my relationship because I've been behaving the same way and I really needed this wisdom right now

[@kandikisses8858]

Took me a long time to realize I’m in a bad relationship. My bf snaps at me so much and he’s rarely ever interested in anything that I talk about but he wants me to always be interested in what he’s interested in. It’s like the relationship has to revolve around him. I was so unhappy for so long.

[@charlesbell5500]

Well, you have to understand that one shouldn't impose their interests onto others, because they might not share them. And forcing them to show fake interest in the things you want feels like a chore to them, which annoys them. So, you should definitely tell him the things you're not interested in that he always talks about so he can stop, and you should do the same. Train yourselves not to bring up each other's triggers of annoyance, because that could lead to frustration, and consequently, hatred. The relationship shouldn't revolve around him because you guys should carry an equal weight of relevance. You need to think of yourselves as co-owners of a business, of which each of you are 50% owners. So, you have to make your business partner happy to run a successful business. It seems like you guys have both annoyed each other with the "bird" thing. It would behoove you guys to find common interests. You don't have to give up yet, keep going, but you have to straighten some things out. Good luck with it. I believe that, in order to maintain a healthy relationship, both parties should always look to improve it, find ways to make it better in every aspect all the time. It's extremely difficult, but it's the only way because things will always settle once you relax, so you have to keep adapting, all the time. Most people get to a level that's barely tolerable and they concede to having a sub-par relationship for the rest of their lives, and that's no way to live. I hope this helps, but just ask yourself how much you really care, and if you don't care enough to always seek to improve it, end it.

[@Dani68ABminus]

I can't count the number of times I've seen fellow Moms pull that on their own children.

[@oblivionmad82]

That a pretty big nutshell.

[@soupey]

Big walnut shell for big brain time

[@Malganis85]

As someone who is in the middle of divorce, this is right on the money.

[@majurbludd]

Getting divorced during the virus is better because you have no income

[@cameronragsdale1402]

Sorry . I hope it works out ok for you. Keep on. God bkess you.

[@gdfgdfgdsgdf]

0:50 i absolutly love his attempts in sign language each lecture. i think talking with your hands can show a lot more than just words transfertion .

[@doubleS07]

Uri Manson I talk with my hands all the time, and always felt bad about it. Reading this comment made my day

[@p_serdiuk]

doubleS07 No, it's really fine provided you mind the amount of space you have to gesture, since in cramped rooms you can easily invade someone's personal space that way. Watching someone talk with their whole body is a unique experience.

[@xxxfirehuunterxxx]

doubleS07 Don't. It's very complementing to your speech.

[@micahkessner5592]

His hand gestures get super intriquite sometimes

[@neutral3570]

He thinks visually. I do too, but I do the motions in my head.

[@josephcostello1460]

The message as I understand what he’s saying is don’t sweep things under the carpet which believe me I never do.

[@edennis8578]

No, the message is, don't ignore olive branches when they're offered. When your mate says, "Oh, look, a cardinal," that's an olive branch. If there hasn't been any hostility, it's still an offering to bond over something. A mate who ignores those offerings is destroying the relationship.

[@josephcostello1460]

E Dennis thanks I missed that part of the message. However I think we both have a point.

[@soupey]

Make sure to vacuum your carpet regularly too, otherwise you’ll have a shitty carpet that needs deep cleaning.

[@josephcostello1460]

ronnie smith I always do, thanks for the advice. Good luck 👍🏻

[@ljones98391]

@@josephcostello1460 I agree, both good points.

[@royfr8136]

Small things make a big difference whe youre dating....never forget that small things still make the difference when together.

[@terrendously]

This makes me realize I am in a bad relationship.

[@Free-SpokenMedia]

Not necessarily, don't take everything Peterson says seriously.

[@PyramidHACK]

@@Free-SpokenMedia Rather listen to the message, not the messenger.

[@Free-SpokenMedia]

@@PyramidHACK The message isn't necessarily true in this case. You can have random bad days where you scoff and sigh in response to your partner but if that is the consistent relationship dynamic then it is toxic and most likely bound to fail.

[@FuhqEwe]

@@Free-SpokenMedia I, too, frequent videos of people I dislike so I can slip in dissenting opinions about the content. No - wait, that's just you. I'm more of the sarcastic asshole that calls out other assholes.

[@Dannyjedge]

Free-Spoken Media why should he take your advice over Peterson’s?

[@Autumn_Forest_]

My fiancé doesn’t respond to my bids in a positive way most of the time. I am always the more agreeable one, and I feel lonely and like I want to end the relationship. I keep feeling like I need to marry a man who is more of a friend to me, someone who appreciates the little things in life.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Update?

[@ozymandias8523]

Nakidz you should before is too late(like kids and more responsibilities)

[@eliezeretecap]

This feeling of being unappreciated will keep growing until it turns into resentment, it will just get worse, it's better to just walk away.

[@nightfighter7452]

You _should_ be in a relationship with someone who's a friend. Please reevaluate your relationship before it's too late

[@loneranger5654]

You can't be in a bad relationship if you've never been in any relationship HAHAHAHAHA kill me pls

[@goatmcgregor8951]

Franek Kimono chin up kid, being down about it will only keep it that way. Have some pride in yourself and you’ll attract someone

[@MrKinir]

Chin up, you too will someday find a bad relationship. And then you too can be miserable and depressed, like the rest of us.

[@xxxfirehuunterxxx]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA kill me now

[@avavav1232]

Franek Kimono I envy you

[@gtafan912]

Good for you. No, seriously. Good for you. Relationships fucking suck.

[@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327]

When my husband tries that with me, I tell him "Get your a** over here and look at the damn bird!" After 20 years you learn how to communicate. 😜

[@gitman3486]

I'm sure he loves that

[@danechatani347]

Sweet Peas and Yarrow: A Ranch Diary 🤣🤣🤣

[@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327]

All joking aside, he is extremely high in disagreeableness and very low in empathy. If I ask him nicely, most of the time he will say "No, I don't care about your dumb bird." It used to really hurt my feelings. Now I stand up for myself and let him know I mean business, if I care about something. Otherwise our whole world would be only about him.

[@petrusxramulus564]

I am like your husband. If i am tired, or hungry or didnt have much sleep, i wouldnt care about the whole world. Why would i care about a god damn bird? If you would say: Move your a** over here. I would say: Leave me alone! and i really wouldnt go. If not doing so would hurt your feelings i would rather stay single than being with you. I am single btw. and i try to stay so. Now i have to listen the shaming tactics that its wrong to stay alone. But i am only protecting other people from my inner monster.

[@sweetpeasandyarrowaranchdi8327]

@@petrusxramulus564 Haha! I think it would hurt most women's feelings. Now that I'm older, I don't believe everyone was meant to get married. So good for you, knowing who you are.

[@monsieurpickles9230]

I see videos like this and I dont understand why he is such a polarizing figure.

[@gitman3486]

Because "FUCK YOU DAD YOU DON'T KNOW ME" basically I think

[@newbygamer]

I hate to admit it but his psychological views are really solid. He becomes polarizing when he steps into politics and philosophy where his ideas are at best problematic, and at worst unsubstantiated. Contrapoints has an excellent video particularly on his views of Western civilization and why its decaying from overt liberal ideology. If you wince at that last phrase in any say, you now know why he's polarizing.

[@majurbludd]

NickyG only marxist wince at it, people who want real truth , just understand his philosophical thoughts as common sense.

[@gaoxinglangblog]

"You go over there like a civilized human being, and your interacting with someone that you care for, and you take a look at the dam bird, and you're happy about it!"

[@ThatGuyNathan]

THE NUTSHELL: they each interact in a caring way towards each other’s communications

[@C4RL1NN]

Each example?... no they don’t..?

[@blub3rry116]

@@C4RL1NN he didn't say each example, he meant each "other" in the good example

[@kenzahora9167]

Kindness matters. Pay attention to kindness.

[@natediggitydog8]

Yes BUT that happens because they work things out and not grow bitter

[@C4RL1NN]

Lillianna Duff there are only two people in the whole speech. Multiple sample sets aka ‘examples’. I refer back to my first comment.

[@lesteralford5189]

This is real, my parents had this strange language, they separated.

[@Shearwater6]

Most people will take a bad relationship over no relationship. Ones socially acceptable. The other isn’t.

[@majurbludd]

I choose no relationship. No pointless headaches about stupid shit like cardinal birds at the window.

[@charlesbell5500]

@@soupey Exactly. I don't know why it's so hard for people to understand that relationships aren't for everyone. If you told someone you're gay today, they would be more accepting than they would be if you told them you're willingly single.

[@jer3504]

This information will help me treat my spouse much better, the sighing part makes so much sense it hurts. Thanks Dr Peterson.

[@joshcouture7005]

Peterson has aged very similarly to laptop design

[@arrianne311]

Slimmer and more lightweight.

[@C4RL1NN]

Exactly. And much more sleek and suave looking. Haircut, suit and all.

[@MrFredd38]

and his power is exponentially higher

[@0mon0zz]

Laptops aint in rehab.

[@garret1930]

@@0mon0zz apple ought to be, they're keeping their customers in a harmful relationship.

[@jaluko290791]

You have just explained in a nutshell why my relationship just ended lol

[@archlich4489]

When I came home from a week at the psychiatric hospital, my father attacked me like that. I'm really trying not to hate him. I'm dumb.

[@napakamu9670]

I wouldn't say you're dumb - it could be unconditional love.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Arch Lich hes probably scared of what your future will be. Being a parent is complex and worrisome, trust me. Just concentrate on trying to get well. When u r 18 or whatever, just move out.

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

Moving out changed my life from deep pointless depression where i could't get out of bed til 6 pm, to being able to get a crappy job and slowly get out into the world. I went on welfare to do it, knowing it was nothing more than a temporary tool to get me out of the unhealthy situation.

[@jer3504]

Your dad sounds cruel, you do not have to have those kind of people in your life. I do not live anywhere near my parents because they would do that kind of stuff. Please value yourself more than your dad, I do not think dumb people watch Jordan Peterson and I think you are much smarter than most people on earth. Much love.

[@andrewroberts5988]

i like "the 2 by 2 matrix" for the spouse's response possibilities. And later "..you feel like you're being attacked because you are!"

[@jakeizlove]

Interesting. I'd like for him to specify if the people accepting/rejecting bids are unhappy with their own internal relationships. It's easy to say the person that sighs has years of pent up frustration, anger, etc... but it seems more likely they're angry at themselves for failing to create better boundaries or not knowing how to say "enough" and preserve relationships. Generally speaking: I believe tolerance builds resentment.

[@charlesbell5500]

Exactly, although this may not seem like a crucial issue, I believe that you shouldn't be expected to let your spouse say or do things that annoy you. Everyone enjoys different things, and you can't impose your likes onto them. In this case, some people might not see the beauty in birds (I don't know how anyone could because they're fucking disgusting, but that's my opinion). It's like trying to get someone to convert to your religion just because you think it's the best, well they might not agree with you. And in that situation, you're forcing them to accept it. However, it's still the sighing spouse's fault because they've failed to tell their partner that they don't care about birds. If they did, their partner would just admire them by themselves silently, and there's nothing wrong with that. And if the "bird" spouse doesn't respect that, now they're the asshole. There are certain things you need to "train" your partner to do, which Peterson talked about before, so that you create a peaceful environment. I don't like the word "training" though because it has implications of dominance and a sense of bossing the person around. It's not that, because both partners should do it, I see it as necessary micro-adjustments for better long-term living conditions.

[@uksumo6843]

This guy is a talker, I like that, makes me thirsty and hungry for chicken.

[@heybella2867]

I don’t. If any more words come pouring out his cunt mouth, I'm gonna have to eat every fucking chicken in this room

[@boiblue2905]

Jim Bob same

[@boiblue2905]

Heybella 🙄keep crying

[@uksumo6843]

外国人说中文 I love you

[@kenzahora9167]

I need fries

[@maxis2k]

My dad explained in four minutes. And why I have learned to be overly empathetic and open about everything.

[@treehugger3615]

As a son, i learned the best solution is to cut his conversation short whenever he is complaining and sighing about everything. It tells him that I know but I don't want him to continue self victimizing.

[@edennis8578]

@@treehugger3615 I do that with my sister when she's trying to apologize for some outrageous bit of behavior she's done. I don't want to hear it. She doesn't mean it because her tone is breezy and flippant.

[@Hipppogrifff]

Sigh, can we just look at the damn hierarchy thing on the screen he’s referring to?

[@Tzutopia94]

right, i can't immediately find it online.. XD

[@fupopanda]

@@Tzutopia94 Just go to the original full lecture. It is linked in the description

[@marcog.7322]

That's the only comment I saw that makes sense... The whole video is not understandable without that

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Funny, because I personally love birds and I point to them whenever out and about. They bring me joy for some reason. Moral of the story, my friend of 18 years is one of my most treasured friendships. I don't see her as often as one should (as adult friendships usually go due to family and etc), but she has literally did the "oh well, look at that!". She is not a fan of birds. Not overly disgusted with them, but has a neutral appreciation. But gosh, it sustains me and makes me happy and feel loved. She does it consistently, in almost any situation. I have many other types of friendships, but she is only one who genuinely lets the image of what I want her to see, get into her head for a couple of seconds. I notice others try, but it is a superficial glance and shared glee. Literally acknowledging what I "see", is a very simple and, yet, essential foundation for ANY relationship. It is not perfect (there is no perfect or idyllic relationship) but things are healthy and easy when something as stupid as "looking at a bird they are pointing at" comes into play. I do the same thing for her. Recently, I did this with a dating situation. He dismissed these little innocent attentions to life around me. I tried to do the same with little things he wanted me to notice. Not reciprocated. Got gruff rebuffs. Axed that. I guess this seemingly moronic and insignificant act of paying attention to what a partner, friend, or child cares about or is drawn to (even for a few seconds), is an indicator of presence and attention. These are like psychological "comfort touches" like when a child touches his mom after spending a few minutes playing with other children on the playground. Peterson is on point with saying that there is something under the surface when there is an outward manifestation of the dialogue "Honey, look at that seal on the rock!" Spouse: "Not now honey.' (even when he or she is not preoccupied enough to not pay attention). The concept of relationship is connection and metaphorically touching base with someone if they are still "here" with you or attuned to your world- even for a mere couple of seconds. This is pivotal to maintaining the "long-term" in a relationship when your mind is scattered else-where to other people, places, and issues after the novelty or romance wears off. Peterson is rare because his abstractions lead to something concrete for the masses. Many academics fail to bridge that with his style of articulation and conviction.

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

I appreciate those friendships also. Those people who can see the details of the world as you/I do are uncommon and highly valued.

[@6DarthSion9]

I would like this comment but you wtorek 'peoples'.

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Kacper Romaszko Corrected the typo. Thank you! However, could have corrected someone more graciously in my opinion. :)

[@elsagrace3893]

Kacper Romaszko what do you mean by “wtorek”? Did you happen to make an error? I do not like comments with errors by people who correct other people making errors that do not prevent easy understanding of the comment. What I am saying is Kasper, you are a picky, hypocritical piece of shit!

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

I don't want to be hard on Kacper, but I appreciate the comment Elsa Grace. :) Made my day! Yeesh, I guess people can't take KZbin comments for what they are... just comments, not thoroughly edited publications. I'm new to commenting on KZbin, so I've learned my lesson to watch out for grammar Nazis who harp on a typo as a failure of the entire message. I cannot honestly remember what happened when I typed that sentence. LOL The point was to contribute something positive, and hopefully, as humbly insightful as can be taken from strangers on an internet forum. I, also, was taken aback by such attention to a petty detail. I don't think Peterson was talking about grammar. LOL However, I was embarrassed. Noted the error. Fixed it. But, it came off mean-spirited. It's hard to tell tone of these comments, hence my wordiness to promote better understanding- as you mentioned. I'm talking too much. :) Enough about feelings. We all have better things to do! Moving on. Have a good day everyone! Thanks again for calling him/her out Elsa!

[@jy5490]

This is a tough topic for some people, probably in large part because in reality people have trouble discussing their deep feelings, and certainly don't want to in every conversation. In a perfect "idealistic" world, people would be okay with discussing their feelings and desires, to the point that most people would exhaustively talk and negotiate and find that they don't want to be together within a month or so. That would be the point initially of "dating." But realistically, I think the healthiest ideal we can strive for is to relevantly communicate, just as much as we can muster. In the moments we can't, we won't. As soon as there is an open conversation that creates an agreement that a couple should break up, then each of the two can amicably know they tried their best to make it work. Through open communication, they found out that the relationship wasn't meant to be. Then, both parties can go their separate ways happily, in a timely fashion. The current reality we live in commonly ends up being, however, that us imperfect, emotional needy humans settle for a version of reality that is perhaps less accurate and even more hostile, in order to gain comforts such as the warmth of a partner. I've been there, done that. And, I may yet make the mistake again. But, as they say, you live and you learn.

[@dan..........]

I have experienced this myself, the "walking on egg shells" behaviour for some time, we didn't last very long before it blew up and caused irreparable damage

[@charlesbell5500]

He actually said 'walking on eggs', so it could have been the yolk or the whites too. I mean, you could slip and fall, that's gotta be worse than just walking on the shells.😂😂😂 But seriously though, any time you have to keep something inside, it's either because you chose the wrong person and are just putting up with it, or the communication isn't there. Well at least you learned from your experience, good luck in the future.

[@dan..........]

@@charlesbell5500 ah fair enough, haha that sounds worse. But yeah, thanks a lot, you too buddy

[@CoachDomCosta]

Appreciate all you share!!!!

[@JLydecka]

I love the opening

[@mikeconnor3602]

You really are fantastic. So many of your videos are ah ha moments for me. I have not only thought I was going crazy but have been told by my classic narcissist wife that I am. It has taken me ten years to understand myself culminating with your videos, I can't thank you enough. I started 10 years ago when I was separated on my journey when a stranger told me to read codependent no more by melody beatty, having had a mother who was an alcoholic since 5th grade, and father who was a pedophile since I was 7 ( that is when I first noticed it, in a movie theater, guns of navarrone). I survived consciously ignoring it while being aware of it and built a wall between him and I, it went on for as long as I can remember. He abused cousins on both sides and caused a nervous breakdown in one of my cousin's friends. He wasnt allowed in my grandmothers (my moms mom) house because he abused her granddaughters. He was violent too toward my mom. I became terrific at ignoring bad behavior that spanned my childhood, that no doubt caused me to be codependent. You have described me clearly in many of your videos, agreeable and nice guy haha! I went back to my wife after 18 months, she seemed so different, but I hear going back together is common with a narc. I came to understand why I am locked into a painful dance with a very nasty and unforgiving and critical narcissist. I could speak to you for hours. Thank you so much.

[@coreycox2345]

Now that you see it, dance yourself right out of there, Mike Connor. You should not allow anyone to mistreat you.

[@mikeconnor3602]

Thank you coreycox2345!

[@greenbrain8725]

Keep on keepin’ on my good man. Don’t let the narcissist bastards get you down. Peterson is such a nice guy for giving his valuable expertise up to the world for free, so to speak, via KZbin. I also read that book you mentioned and it helped me see myself better. Good luck!

[@mikeconnor3602]

Green Brain thank you!

[@caminopreacher5958]

I... I had that laptop... I no longer have that laptop because Limewire.

[@DR_socal]

Limewire was the covid-19 of technology in the previous decade haha

[@caminopreacher5958]

@@DR_socal Limewire gave my computer AIDS.😆

[@mrantone916]

Beautiful presentation thank you! 🙏

[@betterXdesign]

The world needs more content like yours. Thank you for sharing! 🌍

[@glim3mer]

My wife doesn't sigh, she straight up either says "no, I dont care about your bird" or she starts either crying because the house is not decorated how she likes or because she finds my perfectly organized desk a mess and the garage is also messy and I have too many cloths (which I dont, 3/4th of the closet is hers and she has boxes of unworn cloths in the bedroom)... and of course everything is my fault. Then once we've recovered from that argument, she complains we don't talk like we use to. And she's a butterfly, compared to her mom. So... yea /sigh

[@callan2k]

i wonder what would happen if u showed her this vid

[@glim3mer]

@@callan2k my best bet... she gets an allergic reaction

[@papi9305]

Dude thats seriously not something you will be able to put up with for long, do something quick. She already seems unable to put up with something

[@andrewroberts5988]

it's like the joke "Why do men die before their wives?" "Because we want to."

[@charlesbell5500]

You have to understand you're in the wrong here. Instead of blaming her for being rude or hard to deal with, why don't you look within? Why don't you have a serious conversation with her, ask what she wants, and tell her what you want as well. Hold up your end of the bargain, namely, clean up the garage, find a way to keep your desk organized, get your own dresser. Sharing a closet with a woman is a death wish. That way, she can't complain about anything you do. God forbid you come up with a system designed to prevent arguments from even happening in the first place. It can be done. Just take the time to think about it. Thinking is the key to everything. Just be open to other perspectives and put some serious work into fixing the problem. You can do it easily. It's easy! Just think.

[@lefrise5]

My girlfriend just broke up with me and I was exactly like that. She would show me something and I would be like "what now??". I realize now that I never really tried to make her happy. But I did love her. Funny how stupid someone can be.

[@soupey]

lefrise5 Sorry to hear, I hope you’re hanging in there. That’s a hard pill to swallow, but kudos to you for having the self awareness to realize that and (hopefully) take that lesson into your next relationship.

[@majurbludd]

Never try to make a women happy it’s impossible. Also know that she found another guy already, he was lined up before she officially broke it off.

[@caitlinamandastewart]

Here what a good lecturer I 100% payed attention to everything he was saying and actively imagined the experiment in my head, love that

[@sarahdeason493]

So intetesting ❣ Jordan Peterson is my Hero . I hope he is much improved and has reached or is near full recovery at this time and same for Tammy ❣❣

[@pritpalsira]

One of the greatests minds of our time.

[@joshlockie9285]

You would have to be one of the most ignorant minds of our time to believe that. He’s definitely one of the greatest scam artists of our time.

[@fupopanda]

@@joshlockie9285 You sad soul. Feel for you!

[@thomasmckenzie6339]

Josh Lockie You need help

[@robbiepeterh]

He’s wise and intelligent as hell. Only in the age of the internet, could we have access to so much footage of such intelligent presentations. KZbin is the best ✌🏼

[@gabetheanimator6768]

What a BOSS! Brilliant as always!

[@TorahObservantUnitarian]

This guy is so brilliant it must be hard to live inside his head. It's a blessing or a curse.

[@macrovigilance]

"A cartload of resentment"

[@arhabersham]

In his book "Blink" (Chapter 2) Malcolm Gladwell makes an impressive summary of this very Gottman's study. Intersting as @$#* :)

[@scotthoverman]

I was just going to say this. Interesting indeed. Either way, if it's helpful information, it will spread better with two people than with one. :)

[@Hexecutable]

Wow. I love Jordan so much he is dead on with so much.

[@seandevine5836]

Wow my mind is blown. Unhappy couples aren't nice to each other. Truly the greatest mind of our time.

[@AlanWattResistance]

dat intro

[@TroutOfOrder]

Right before the video started to be filmed Peterson said "I'm going to give my impression of a tired annoyed husband filled with contempt for his wife, followed immediately by a lecture about bad relationships."

[@catalin5275]

Bad relationships start with the proverbial drop in the bucket very few people end up dealing with, which only takes tipping it over and emptying it before it gets full enough to cause a real mess. Emotional boundaries, chains, and resentment is what's inside that turns that significant other into an inhibited predator or prey. I believe this starts as early as the first date, since it seems on a social level we've made it a key point to act "our best" in this mating ritual, which isn't a state of being that can be sustained for long periods of time. It's maddening really. This is why parents all around the world stress "just be yourself" to their children when they present themselves to a potential partner.

[@brendanlorenzo7298]

Relationships are a journey of self discovery. Love brings up demons inside of us that lay dormant until a someone captures our heart, opening the floodgate of immense joy along with the floodgate of great fear.

[@timcheng8165]

What is on the screen that he points to and refers to “it’s this.” I’m dying to know!

[@AndrewShepherdLEGO]

Tim Cheng your parents

[@57abs]

Andrew's LEGO Models Ha! nice.

[@troyziegler1312]

Babe, come look at this rare 69' Camaro with a big block, 4 speed , ac, and hideaway headlights. Her: sigh, this one ( pointing at a Honda civic)

[@conorallen100]

I'd take the civic too provided it was an early 2000s/90s type r cause I'm a jdm fag

[@majurbludd]

They think new cars are better. Old cars are too big and loud

[@8260523]

GOD BLESS YOU. You are a great speaker. Love from Oklahoma

[@victorgabrielbuena]

This is great stuff. I find it extremely disengaging when people are rolling their eyes or expressing disinterest in a passive aggressive manner, it's as if you engaging with them is a nuisance, yet they want to talk to you, yet they make it look like they don't want to hear anything you say.9

[@kiabahjoe470]

Simplified: if she breathes...

[@woopwoop60]

Then she's alive and at least you can't be convicted of necrophilia. That, or she's a THOT!!!

[@yoongitrash2699]

@@woopwoop60 legendary.

[@xervia3032]

kiabah joe 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@KB-sg7tv]

I had that same Dell laptop in like 2003. This video must be from the early 2000's lol.

[@BennyGold5867]

Eggshells verse bid acceptance. Kind of staring us in the face when you think about. Now I can articulate why my first love sucked so badly. I also know why I have the knack these days.

[@SailorGreenTea]

3:34, oh, wow. This is major. God bless Jordan Peterson.

[@qwertyuio2758]

I like to think this is how JP actually wakes up. Just immediately focused and ready to blow my mind.

[@Sandromeda.]

I wish he was part of my family:D

[@plumbervslife4812]

It'd be funny is the divorce rate in that area was 94%

[@joimumu]

mike cornew it’s getting their I think around the world it’s 55%

[@ismaelcantujr4895]

This is a bullseye very relatable.

[@airbreath]

I have read this article. It is life changing

[@gillianorley]

Who in Hell paints the door to a college classroom PINK? I mean, really. Come on.

[@JohnnyArtPavlou]

Gillian Orley, Lavender.

[@nopenadda]

Gillian Orley its the transgender bathroom

[@jenniferindy6628]

Gillian Orley Canadians. lol.

[@mrlovebone4912]

Gillian Orley Canadians..

[@DR_socal]

It compliments the goofy laptop color lol

[@donnawoodford6641]

I'm not sure anyone needs to analyze bad relationships. If you've ever been in one, you know exactly how it feels. Awful is not awesome ☹️.

[@vpdisco]

I love the part about the bids. Thats powerful stuff.

[@dimitriosfromgreece4227]

AMAZING VIDEO ❤❤❤❤