Jordan Peterson: The best relationship advice

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[@gadsdengreen5534]

"It is really hard to fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed and there are lots of people like that." So simple and so true.

[@eltyo340]

And you might be one of them. And so might I.

[@michaelturner6659]

You're not supposed to fix anybody

[@dezanease5601]

♡♡

[@BrotherTree1]

@@michaelturner6659 Only allowable for two non-negotiable reasons: 1. If the person has consented for external help, ie. To "be fixed" 2. If the person has consented for internal (self) help, ie. To "fix themselves"

[@nishanthk5306]

@@michaelturner6659 perhaps fix is a strong word but help/counsel is a better term for it. All of us are broken and clueless about things in life and we will need help from other people inevitably

[@AnotherPilot1]

When you marry, you marry three people..the one you thought you got, the one you really got, and the one that they become after they have lived with you for a number of years.

[@Darkdevil1584]

lel i feel the same way, i could never see myself being the same person i am now (single) after experiencing a relationship for such time. Experiences change who you are so maybe its all a mild gamble in the end with 'love'

[@homebrandrules]

cfi flyer very well expressed, cheers

[@Jo-yb8cl]

So an orgy of 6

[@CHANGUTHAKUR]

That was so deep. Noting this down.

[@willischirling2145]

James GRINNAN you should try dating humans.

[@sunnysmiles8211]

Bad relationships cost you your most valuable asset: your time. It’s the one thing you can’t get back.

[@jjmurphey88]

Truth!!

[@valerie721]

Yes.

[@annh1615]

Worse they can leave you traumatised and desillusioned...

[@dandojambo1176]

I'm in a relationship with someone I absolutely hate we have a 2year old son so I can't just leave her so I'm trapped it's the worst life 🤯🔫👍

[@akhtaruzzamanjoy8524]

5 years gone

[@GRRStarcraft]

"You like to think that you´re nice and easy to get along with but you´re not" This man is a roast machine.

[@DavidLinn]

this man is a truth machine. "hey! you have flaws! and don't think you don't!"

[@maggiecarlos7622]

That's meeee.

[@elvillivle]

And many people who reads that will think of it being applicable only to their partners who are oblivious to that fact but not to themselves.

[@squarepeg9484]

‘roast machine’ 😂 an oven or rotator spit? Even hotter, a ‘blast furnace cremation machine’ 🔥😀 💀

[@katchacomo]

@@DavidLinn well said

[@danielhuelsman76]

"When the rich get cold, the poor get pneumonia." That's a chilling thing to say now that it can be seen in all it glory and horror.

[@danielhuelsman76]

@Northern USA Well, if you're in fact a manifestation of a country, why didn't you heed his warnings and prepare for this?

[@danielhuelsman76]

@Northern USA I know, I just saw the joke right there in front of me and I couldn't leave it alone. But why name yourself this? Isn't there a thousand different things you could call yourself?

[@danielhuelsman76]

@@s.a.9503 I am genuinely confused by your statement, could you re-phrase that please?

[@MissYvonneX]

Northern USA I don’t think you need to explain a KZbin name...

[@danielhuelsman76]

@@MissYvonneX You're right, they don't have to, but it's up to them and they did so.

[@evansmith1668]

I like how he takes a second to collect his thoughts before he speaks

[@chromaticHermit]

Evan Smith it benefits everyone involved. He takes a second to think about what to say next and we take that second to let whatever he said sink in.

[@breakingthemasks]

100% I wonder what mbti type he is.

[@marcelbruinsma]

Yeah, we all should do that more often.

[@daniellevanaelst499]

I have to do the same thing. My brain strings together perfect arguments for debates, and my mouth immediately tries to jump in gear, but then I end up frustrating myself and lagging like a 1994 toshiba running vista while I spit out half arguments to try and hold together.

[@robertanastase558]

That's a trait of a highly intelligent person

[@PositiveMommaLife]

This man is literally the biggest truth nugget thrower, in history. Keep lobbing the truth. Humanity needs this man beyond anything else.

[@MrVee24]

him and douglas murray.

[@chrisbevan1121]

Every word he says rings true with me. He vocalises some of my deepest thoughts that I haven't even got my head around. A very wise man.

[@SweetNovember000]

We need more like him!!! 👏🏻👏🏻I’m sure there are but they don’t want to speak up.

[@supertom8552]

The world needs people like him 👍 real teachers 👌🏼

[@KtmLTU]

Well, we need to get to other planets also.

[@a.j.d.p.8619]

I love how down-to-earth Jordan is here. He talks to his class like he is having a heart-to-heart with them. I bet most of these kids aren't getting this advice from their own parents or friends.

[@deanvo503]

He's pure gold.

[@tsmith3286]

I want to take his class. Don’t care about credits. Lol

[@maxhenderson1890]

I think it’s easier to listen to a trained psychologist’s opinion in comparison to a parent or a friend as parents or friends often have a motive or could be bias against the person, whereas a psychologist won’t know the person and can’t possibly have a predisposed idea of that individual

[@bethbeebout2738]

No man is a prophet in his own home…

[@missy2543]

Jordan is my honorary dad. Hi, dad!

[@cobrakaiX]

You can disagree with him but how this guy is labeled a nazi and bigot is beyond me. Absolutely ridiculous.

[@ladyshrink22222]

That’s the Leftist aka The Establishment, they’re hysterical personality disorders.

[@Simxor]

@@ladyshrink22222 lol dumdum

[@ruiferro4160]

The accusers didn't bother to listen to him. They name call on a soundbyte basis. They're ignorants

[@ignominius3111]

Red: yes the labeling is ridiculous. But it shows the extent of the emotional injuries his insidiously malevolent agenda he really is because he hurts people’s feelings with the truth. He needs to be canceled plain and simple. World’s problems solved! Can we go out and play now?

[@realbite966]

Because you can never depend to what people say. Only you can determine the reality.

[@bdetert82]

Does your partner make you or break you, This is something i heard once that really stuck to me. If they do nothing but create a negative impact on you, leave. If you meet someone that you feel makes you a better person, well you found a keeper and you better not screw that up.

[@KayliDaShizNit]

Brian I have experienced this first hand. Couldn’t agree more.

[@EbongEka]

Amen

[@topgun213]

I think that's a little one sided. Seems like that's putting all the success or failure of the relationship on your partner. I think before you ask yourself this kind of question, you better be pretty damn sure YOU are not the one who is making or breaking yourself. Or ask yourself whether YOU are the one making or breaking the relationship. It's very difficult to discern between the two. Sure there are times when one may be with someone seriously abusive and violent, and you obviously should leave in that situation, but even then you have to ask yourself at least once "who am i that allowed me to get in to that situation in the first place," because if you don't ask yourself that it's not unlikely that you'll find yourself in that same situation again.

[@bdetert82]

Would have to disagree with you. You yourself can be a success and be brought down to fail at something because your partner creates such a negative impact on the situation. Obviously if YOU are the destructive force in the relationship then some self reflecting and changes may need to be made.

[@topgun213]

haha sounds like you agree with me not disagree with me, because you pretty much repeated what I said. I was just expanding on the idea of "does your partner make you or break you" because that statement completely excludes yourself from the equation, and it's not always self-evident that you are NOT the cause of the problem. I agree that you could be brought down by a single bad partner who is just completely mad and crazy, who wanted to bring you down from the beginning, but I would argue that is the exception and not the rule. Also I'm curious to know how you define "success"

[@brookswoodward7278]

He’s a smart man. I lost about 10 years because I didn’t stick to my own boundaries.

[@m3cvfm]

I have very low standards and often fail to meet them. I also wasted 10 years to someone who was never worth it.

[@StephanieTips]

10 years is a long time but see it as an experience that taught you something. Learn from it as much as possible to have a more successful relationship after that

[@brookswoodward7278]

@@alexatheeone2088 Boundaries are metaphoric walls.... When people start mistreating you and you allow it they keep taking... Dont take things too literal.

[@lsd938]

Everyone is in the same boat... don't worry... spend time in the nature.. it ll help you replenish... and ease your pain... I survived one year of abuse... was with a psychopath... who never took no... didn't leave me alone for a second... I ran after an year... started getting panic attacks... only if I had help... now I am trying to move on... 10 years gone for me too... #me too... however it is easier said than done... give yourself time to heal... and learn to know about relationships... my problem was that I had no support from home... none whatsoever... my father is alcoholic... mum I guess is narcissistic.. sister narc too... so I had no one... it is difficult to ask for help when you are in a shit hole... if you know that relationships are meant to build you and you find someone good.. I hope that life would be better... so I wish you best... go ahead and live...

[@1nzi]

10 years is better than 20. But now you know!

[@evenzero]

a serious, high-quality, intimate relationship means only one thing: no secrets

[@omicrondec]

"Only one thing" is a tad reductionist.

[@victoriale2792]

what about? no lying ;)

[@LEN-iy3ix]

No nuance in this statement

[@ostrichman]

Does no secrets mean revealing every truth? If so..... I call nonsense.

[@quota77]

@@ostrichman revealing all secrets- bad idea unless you know the other wont judge. but how often do you know that?

[@speedracer77]

Summary of the relationship advice: Don't make the mistakes that get you into stupid relationships to begin with. Try not to delude yourself any more than is absolutely necessary. When you're in the relationship, tell the person the truth and try to figure out what the truth is for you. Don't put up with any non-sense, and stand up for yourself. Aim towards the good. If you do all those things, then your relationship is probably going to work. If you're trying to do all those things and you have a partner that will not do that, then leave. It's a rare person who won't do that if they're stepped along the way properly and they learn how to do it. Not everyone's like that. You do run into people who are devoted towards mayhem and trouble. But usually a person is a balance of striving for the good and messing about in the hell. You're both like that when you start a relationship and you try to tilt it towards the good. And then you won't run into that problem. But you have to do that right from the beginning of the relationship. It doesn't take that much to corrupt a relationship so that it's not salvageable. 3 or 4 acts of infidelity, you're done. You're never going to come back from that because the fundamental element of trust has been removed. And then you can't communicate with the person because you don't know if they're telling you the truth. So a lot of the issue is don't get into the trouble to begin with.

[@micasilver210]

"3 or 4 acts of infidelity"(?)...bro, the first one does you in! It's a symptom of bad character, and that s not the only dysfunction it breeds.

[@DS-lq3dr]

@@micasilver210 Infidelity doesn't just mean creating. It also means lying to your partner about where you were, ot what you were doing, them catching you, and then never having the conversation about why you felt the need to lie in the first place.

[@ainashtleubayeva2678]

Thanks

[@saberxzero]

Leaving a comment so i can re read this later

[@krodiv115]

Leaving a comment so I can read this later.

[@Abhishek-vz6ud]

When things get hard in a relationship, most people want to leave. Relationships were never meant to work from the beginning. It requires consistent communication to make it work. I play couple questions games like “Lovify”, everyday with my girlfriend to build better understanding. In this game, we had to guess each other's expectations. It has helped both of us truly understand and satisfy each other's needs 💞

[@nat135nat]

“If an epidemic sweeps through a population the population dies from the poor people upward.”

[@araznaser1570]

damn, that's what's really evident in america now

[@tgeo2880]

Same in the UK

[@amyokonut]

man the Philippines is experiencing this in extreme

[@mitzycasanova9041]

Not the case in Australia as we tend to look after those who need help the most during a health crisis. Poor people in the states are dying because it's middle class and up are full of political psycophants that care about no one but themselves.

[@leeklomax7053]

@@mitzycasanova9041 doesnt help that they classify covid deaths improperly

[@sandorolah2169]

I love the way Jordan says basically how stupid everyone is. Makes you think twice about how smart you think you are.

[@allmendoubt4784]

Naive is more fair.

[@PrimusInvictus]

@@allmendoubt4784 more fair is just packing the truth so it doesn't hurt your ego that much. You are stupid, face it. I am stupid too.

[@devansh3700]

@@PrimusInvictus Yupp everyone is stupid , because wisdom comes from experience and nobody has any of that , everyone is just trying to figure out how to have less chaos in their lives

[@MissYvonneX]

techknowledge yes!!! At 40 I thought I would really have it all together. Not. So then I thought ..I will at 50. Not. I’m almost 57 and I’m having these realizations,truths,coming to terms with life~ and death...lots of deaths. A storm of chaos and now the calm after the storm ;trying to figure it all out. Self-authoring..meditation, more nature and exercise. It’s hard. I believe if you are a realist, and I think I am, you realize there is never a time you will ‘have it all together’ and you try to navigate the chaos like you said..find some peace. If you have something to add please do!

[@the_bottomfragger]

Well that's a different aspect of stupid. You can be very smart and yet insufferable. What I absolutely approve of though is that he makes us aware constantly that we always think we're the ones fighting the good fight and acting in the most reasonable manner. Took me a long while to realize my mistakes of my first long relationship even when friends tell you you did nothing wrong (of course they will because they hear your side)

[@Brickcellent]

That girl never came back from the toilet

[@RideBehindVideos]

You can hear a door open a few minutes after she left, came back in through other door.

[@nikhilsrajan]

she couldn't handle the truth.

[@RegularSean]

Burrito revenge.

[@MaestroTJS]

Hope she had some Chipotlaway.

[@phillips8366]

some say she's still there to this day...

[@warnuod]

Peterson coming in hot with cutting edge laptop technology!

[@Niggipoo]

Dat Dell Inspiron 1100 tho!

[@tonyalder8037]

Haha on a card table

[@tookoko2488]

You could kill someone with that thing

[@karlm7592]

The laptop is the one that needs him

[@tGtg24689]

😆

[@harrod19]

God, I can't imagine getting to sit in a class taught by Jordan Peterson. Amazing

[@freefinancialadvice]

I think you just did

[@mikestanakis385]

Right

[@lornadonohoe7806]

I wouldn't want him marking my assignments though. Man, he's on the case!

[@b3a3n3a3n3a3s]

I wish I learned this sooner. I had a very narcissistic and immature partner and the reoccurring problem was that he wanted to hear no criticism and I never felt listened to.

[@Alienrun]

Was he actually narcissistic or did he just come off that way? Asking cause I'm curious on the details...

[@Bebolife12345]

Alienrun What exactly is a Narcissist? I can never seem to grasp a consistent or, objective definition.

[@Alienrun]

@@Bebolife12345 I wondered myself for a while, but I think its just someone who thinks about themselves over others most of the time. If you google it you probably will get a better defenition than that lol (People tend to accociate the word with Elitist, which is basically thinking your BETTER than everyone else or that your ideas are above the ideas of others or that you have more of a right to something than other people ect.)

[@Bebolife12345]

@@Alienrun The last portion sounds more like arrogance and/or pride rather than Narcissism. I dont even know. I can never seem to get a consistent objective definition on it. Sometimes its simply someone who looks out for their self-interests, even at the expense of others. But I feel like even that isn't specific enough. Is it someone who lacks empathy? That's more sociopathic right?

[@Bebolife12345]

@@CreamBootlegs Best explanation I've read so far.

[@FeonaLeeJones]

I wouldn’t say those years I was with people I eventually broke up with was wasted. I learned valuable things about myself and what I truly want in my ideal partner.

[@FriendofDorothy]

I can relate. So can Barbra Streisand; check out her song "Lessons to Be Learned". One of the songwriters attended a songwriting workshop I went to back in the '80s. Most of the songwriters got nowhere with their songs, but Dorothy did. with that song and a few other album tracks she wrote for other artists.

[@tamifinnigan4661]

Well yes.. but as he says.. we get old fast..i lost years that would have been better spent alone or searching for a real partner. We have to be honest with ourselves and pick someone that is honest also. Oh if only i we could know at 20 what we know now.

[@kelseyb5569]

I would also agree! But I think there is a big difference between being in a relationship with the intent of it working out in the long run (and it doesn't), versus staying in a relationship even though you know that it won't work out in the long run, wasting time that you could be searching for a partner that you actually see a future with.

[@LordGriebenschmalz]

The issue here is "ideal partner". You get older (and I dont want to be rude, just telling the truth) and as that, fewer men are interested in you and when you write "ideal partner" that means your expectations grow...and there lies the conflict. There is no ideal partner, there never will be. The first thing you should learn about the realationship (and only that) is where you fucked up. It helps.

[@jennyforlano345]

I couldn't agree with u more Fiona! It taught me what I would And will not EVER put up with. Life should be about learning from EVERY SINGLE MISTAKE you've ever made! Embrace the lessons and keep changing for the better

[@createwithbarbbl4125]

Married to a narcissist for almost 50 Years. Knowing what this man just said in 20 minutes, would have changed my life. Be very sure you know who you are marrying, people have a massive capacity to show you what they think you want to see, narcissists in particular, and they never change, ever. Listen to this man, he knows. I would love to see his matrix for couples.

[@KandyKoatedKrafts]

Why in the hell would you stay with a narc for 50 fricking years?!?!

[@ambrosial_ampharos8089]

How do you know if you’re a narcissist? I want to find love too but what if I’m a narcissist? What does it entail?

[@Wwim58687]

$$$

[@stephaniemitchell3572]

What made you stay so long?

[@Man.Well93]

because men only get access to women WHEN they tell them what they want to hear, otherwise women just move on, because they dont care about the man himself, just how he makes them feel and serves them.

[@chadashley2026]

“You might think that you are easy to get along with, but you’re not.” This is so trueee.

[@leslieannew3414]

"two down, three to go" the person in the crowd said

[@nijeuveklako]

Thanks

[@15cadenmitt]

Thank you 🙏 that’s what i came to the comments for

[@connerferguson3005]

"Some situations are like Humpty Dumpty.... There is no putting it back together." That one really hit hard

[@goldkhw]

Yeah. Infidelity. Hitting. Lies. Secret alcohol abuse. Leave. They don't love you. They love only themselves. It's painful to leave but you must do it. Some people are so afraid of the loss of the person they love and the terrible pain that they will feel that they stay. And they live on in misery. Moving far away is an excellent choice. Put some space between the two of you and make a new life.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

@@goldkhw I think it’s more that they aren’t loving themselves in the way that is the right way. For whatever reason they can’t see the right way or something is propelling them to do what they do out of a learned ingrained compulsion. I’m not excusing bad behavior, but many people stuck in it are wrestling with demons that you maybe can’t even imagine. It probably is very wise to not start a relationship with them, but I’m just saying you don’t have to demonize them more. They are incapable of loving... that should be pitied, not hated. Hate is the same force that created their situation and by throwing shade on them, you are guilty of keeping them there. Love doesn’t have to come in the form of sacrificing your life for them, but at least sacrifice your hatred for them, which is actually the right thing to do because God asks that of all of us at the very least to love others. Loving others does not mean being all ooey gooy fun and sweetness...it also means to be firm and tell people what they don’t want to hear.

[@goldkhw]

@@sonofhibbs4425 There was no hate. Just self-preservation. I moved thousands of miles away and it was a great sacrifice. I left all my friends, and there were many, and relatives, but I had to break that bond. It was very painful but it would have been more painful if I had stayed. I later learned that his entire early life had been filled with pain. That is why he was incapable of giving love. He had never received any during his formative years. He had been neglected. Jordan has said how very important those early years are. And those years can never be captured once they are gone. Game over. So sad.

[@wayward03]

I just really hope that is not case for me as I now realize a large part of the issues in my marriage were caused by me. No infidelity , violence or secrets but plenty of neglect and a major lack of communication. We have three young kids and she is sticking around for that in some capacity but I fear I may have caused too much damage and it pains me terribly.

[@ivorybow]

Advice from a 73-year-old grandma. When you bring home that guy/girl to meet your mom and dad, and they don't like them, you'd better listen (edit 1 yr. later. When I wrote this I was not referring to toxic parents who do not have their child's best interest at heart. I was assuming normal parents, like mine were, who want their child to grow up and have a safe and happy life, like my son does for his daughter. Tragically, not all children are so blessed)

[@iJuanGutierrez]

Carolyn Blake truth.

[@fracasopina2121]

Bruh.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

My family and friends always liked the buys I brought home and then all of the guys turned out to be nightmares. There is something wrong with my picker...

[@fracasopina2121]

@@Elizabeth-yg2mg Chill, you're practicing and getting better.

[@ravila5085]

Yeeeeah, no. What the hell do they know? Look at their own relationship(s).

[@JackJohnson214]

i would ask jordan peterson for life advice every day

[@theotheraccount4297]

"Don't get in the trouble to begin with." Solid relationship advice.

[@amandasligar9269]

I will tell you from my experience that I wished so hard for my parents to get a divorce when I was young. I hated the constant tension and being under very stressful conditions all the time I now have neurological issues.

[@jenster29]

Yeah same here. They divorced when I was in my late 20s, already married with kids. My youngest brothers were still young teens and the divorce messed them up more than them not divorcing did for me So... That's really confusing. 🤷‍♀️ Seems it's just better if you stay together as long as you can. Excluding obvious abuse, of course.

[@amandasligar9269]

@Cakesandrainbows Rainbowsandcakes Very true. My life has felt like a living nightmare too so I completely understand where you're coming from. You're right...it can make you stronger mentally, emotionally (eventually),and extremely spiritual if you have some self awareness. Take care, thank you for sharing 🙂❤

[@amandasligar9269]

@@jenster29 I can see that in some cases..and of course everyone and every situation is different. If you're unhappy in a marriage and you can't be able to be healthy enough for the children then it never works.

[@amandasligar9269]

@@jenster29 but my parents stayed together for 34 years so much crap, abuse, destruction of lives, but they still stayed together for what reason other than material things I have no idea. But 34 years of marriage they decided to get a separation and my mom died there shortly after. So I think she was finally happy when she was rid of him but it was really awful for such a long time. Thank you for sharing 🙂 take care of yourself❤

[@darlenelawson1255]

It was a very bad marriage and I begged my mom to get a divorce. Finally I said to my mother,in grade 11 that either he goes or I go. He was abusive to all of us. They separated and finally we all had some peace. Years later, she said it was terrible for her but was staying with him for the kids but none of us were treated well. He would often go in a rage. Women out there must not stay for their children unless perhaps the father is good to the family.

[@06livefast]

If you are losing more energy than you are gaining, and it's repeatedly happening; it's probably time to walk away. Relationships are rewarding, but they come with their challenges. The challenges cannot be avoided, nor should you avoid a relationship altogether, in order to avoid them. But there comes a time when our intuition is telling you, and will know without a shadow of a doubt it's time when that time comes. There's no grey area there. You are there or you are not.

[@mrshaggie810]

So what do you do if there is gray area?

[@TheAlexSGT]

@@mrshaggie810 I think the important aspect here is that there is a tipping point that you will feel.

[@anjaknatz7157]

Brilliant!

[@Sp-ck5es]

Energy NEVER lies.....relationships are no different.....

[@realtortiffytom]

Agreed. But people don’t talk about how to successfully walk away much.

[@janemariesterrett8719]

So true regarding trust. Betrayal trauma is a difficult recovery.

[@georgiaevans9978]

It is honestly the most difficult thing I have ever faced, and am still trying to deal with. It hurts more than any of the complicated chronic health i have, and that is saying something. I hope you have made progress in the time since your comment.

[@brandimorris4817]

@@georgiaevans9978 you just explained me life in a post

[@georgiaevans9978]

@@brandimorris4817 We can talk if you'd like to. That might be weird, but it's only those who have been through the same that can truly grasp the depth and despair of it all. I hope you're doing okay.x

[@starlady6154]

"It's impossible to raise children, they're expensive, they're troublesome, they're smart, and they're useless" LMFAO 🤣 As a parent of 3 kids under 5... yes it's impossible lmao

[@dadygee]

3 kids, ages 0-2-4 is a walk in the park .. 1-3-5 is easy. 3-5-7 is a toootaly different story... See you back here in 2 years? And we can compare notes? :D

[@starlady6154]

@@dadygee Lmao. We got the same age gap goin on. The question is are you at home ALONE with them. All God Damn day 🤣 But yeah it was 0-2-4 now it's 1-2-4 by the end of the month 1-2-5 and 1-3-5 is coming in September.

[@dadygee]

@@starlady6154 I was.. but decided it was a better for me to take a step back.. The oldest is in pre-school and the middle kid have autism.. and it was because all of it it became clear and I was diagnosed with adhd.. How else can you explain 3 kids with less than 2 years apart, moving to a house where everything is worn out and need a fixin´.. So to keep from being put away I started working full time after 4 years as a home-dad.. turns out my wife thought this was a great idea.. aaaand shes gon done been diagnosed with add.. So there is that.

[@jonasshahata7408]

Köij

[@GraceMusyoka]

My one is impossible.. nearly 4. can't imagine what it's like with 3.

[@andreyasa]

My ex husband used to tell me he wanted to be with me because I made him want to be a better person , but at the end I am the worst version of myself I could have ever imagined . It does really take a huge toll not to choose the right person , and childhood wounds play a huge role on that . My dad made me feel nothing I did was ever good enough , cuz his dad treated him like shit . Please befriend your kids , if people close to you tell you that guy ain’t good for you please RUN as far away as possible and build yourself up while you are single , truth is people love that you are happy , but only you can love you wholeheartedly. Choose wisely , no matter if it takes a lot of time .

[@vg-de3bv]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience 🙏

[@cocchinicorp4048]

I don't know what class he is teaching in any of these videos. Phycology, philosophy, sociology, metaphysics? . But I just like to collectively think of them all as a course called "Life".

[@gkswarm9265]

its strange, when i look at my teachers they are dysmally unqualified compared to this man. i have english teachers who do not understand the reasons for the gender pay gap. at 40 years old. it dperesses me to be taught by them

[@DUXALMUSIC]

Experience, basically. For a very smart person, it’s might mostly be common sense.

[@wallacehowery6414]

@@gkswarm9265 There is a reason you like listening to him speak. He's not average, he's way above average. So it's not really realistic to expect your teachers to come across like him. Some people have charisma, and become millionaires. It's rare.

[@nicford1486]

They use to call it "humanities" when they actually studied them

[@Cynastalys]

If this man could rap, the world would be fixed entirely.

[@greghight954]

Check out Akira the Don’s stuff where he adds music to JBP’s words. It’s incredible!

[@tinali8582]

What a great idea

[@sds187]

@@greghight954 absolutely

[@greghight954]

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[@melst3899]

That and break dance 🕺

[@ineffableearth2582]

I just ended a relationship. She is addicted to social media and always complaining about how bored she is. I always tried to get her out hiking or swimming but she was never in the mood. She would start arguments when I wouldn't sit around with her watching her mess around on her phone. It sucks but I can't just sit still when there are new things to experience. I tried forming agreements where we wouldn't use our phones at dinner and whatnot but she just couldn't put the damn thing down. It was beyond repair.

[@FriendofDorothy]

Of course; she won't admit it's an addiction but it's well known that social media is a compulsion and is addictive. You were right to leave her. Ironically she is the one who sounds like a bore!

[@rinagetsreal6189]

You sound like me!

[@sarelito9202]

It's called incompatibility! Can't be fixed!

[@KJ-pu8dw]

Yep I had an ex like this to. She lives for social media.

[@user-nf5px7vg6w]

Similar problem here, instead he is addicted to this one game and voice chats daily with his online friends. I'm legit thinking of leaving him when Im financially ready. Especially after this horrible pandemic.

[@lazyzombie6322]

The thing about traditional marriage roles really struck me - never occurred to me that traditional marriage roles might have aided in "happy" relationships in the past simply because you didnt have to negotiate who does what work around the house.

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

Yup, but cleaning all day long isn't much of an existence.

[@jessiccaroonie7289]

Polite Q you could say the same about a 9-5

[@Enigma_Vids]

@@Captain_MonsterFart It's not just cleaning. It's nesting and designing a comfortable home, becoming a good cook to help your family stay healthy, forming methods to initiate growth within your children. Your comment just shows your lack of understanding and it's doing a disservice to anyone that reads it.

[@heide-raquelfuss5580]

Well...when i see traditional households, the women are so exhausted all the time for decades... This women are not nice to live with anymore. Their bodies and minds are chronic stressed. Lack of sleep. Frustrated. While the males go to work, come home and relax in the sofa in front of the television. Or they go out and drink a beer with their mates. Or do other hobby they like. While the women get up before husband and children, make breakfast, coock lunch, clean, go shopping, go to doctorappointments with sick children, wash clothes, iron, collecting children from school, cook again, dishes, doing homewirk with children, talk with them. Wash them. Go to bed with them, read a story, snuggle with them...Goes up again, makes preparations for the next day, cleans up again, irons. And on and on. Husband want sex. She is exhausted and is scared of the next day and she has to get up early for husbabd and kids. I knew a wife, who got up in the morning at 4 AM and went to sleep at 1 AM. Had a part time job also. She told me, i wush i could blew my kids. Was allway walking quick and had very manly nervous body movements when she did things, was irritated all the time, frustrated, exhausted, wuth dark circkes under her sunken eyes. The husband came from wirk at 6 PM and went to the couch, watching television, until dinner time, stood up, watched television again, until he went to bed at 9 PM. She was still working in the household, cleaning, doing so much stuf, until 1 AM or 2 AM. The garden was full off wild edibles, becayse the husband did not do the garden either. So i did it ( i was a neighbour and a woman ). Very much traditional. A few family members are like that. Even when the women stay home. The women look all totally worn inside out. The men where better looking and relaxed and had better outcomes. The women where just walking atomic bombs. And had mire auto immune diseases. Hair premature falling ouy, more wrinckles. And not feminine anymore, but more manly. I do not know, if women are happy in those traditional households. I wonder even if they have intimacy or sex lives. Even cuddles i do never see. Only frustrated hard faces on the womans face. And the husbands do not look happy either, because probably they miss their wife and how they where when young and flirty. The man looked very relaxed. But women never. Is that how a traditional marriage is? I never wanted even to marry or having a relationship living together... I thought...i never want to look like this women, slaving their asses of, with no or little help from their husband. And not even being cared for or sherished? A man who does not want to do the household together and wants literal a 8 to 5 job... A woman who has to wake up even earlier then him and then goes to bed after him at 1Am? Works around the clock. Chronic extreme lack of quality sleep? Maybe having sex, so your sleep is shorter? Extreme multitasking? I never wanted that. When i see women working so many hours at home and maybe outside also, until 80 years old! While their husband has all day free, but refuses even then to do equal household together with his wife? She works around the clock non-stop, until she dies. The man...well... I never wanted, what they had. I will never...

[@Mr1966Fairlane]

@@heide-raquelfuss5580 wow that's a horrible story. Too bad it's not like that if done properly. Part of that role is Teaching those children how to function as able body humans/citizens (yes I said citizens) after the age of 6 , if those children arent being made to aid in chores around the house (mostly stuff that involves their own interests) , you've failed. It's called discipline. Having it AND instilling it in your children. I hope your story was hypothetical and you dont attempt to have any because it appears that youd suck at it and ruin them before adulthood. Stick to thinking solely of yourself.

[@Jericko427]

3:11: Peterson hits the nail on the head: don't stay or get into complicated relationships, always tell the truth (my ex lied nonstop), and avoid delusions (the person in your head was never real).

[@monalisa2662]

Jordan Peterson's students had such a gift in their professor! He would be my ideal for a professor!

[@alexandradenise7461]

This guy is mind blowing. This video brought tears to my eyes as a single mom with a toddler. I am poor. I'm trying. It sucks this is our norm caz I dont think this is the path anyone wants to choose. He speaks the truth ❤

[@D00MerJohn]

I got it wrong and it cost me 7 years worst thing the best 7 years of many people's lives from 20 to 27. Keep up your videos if you were around with this kind of knowledge when I was 20 maybe I wouldn't have made that mistake.

[@joshayrizzo]

Ivar Forkbeard thanks bro you just killed me .. im 28 and im just waking up .. where are my twenties gone 😂

[@joshayrizzo]

And man i feel you . I wish youtube n this shit was on the go then . I mean it was .. but in books lol

[@thewanderingrey8830]

Never regret anything even those "wasted" years. Anything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger and you will be wiser when you pick a mate later.

[@iroquoisplissken3583]

Ivar Forkbeard you didn’t waste the time, you’re just bitter still. Having previous experience with serious relationships will end up saving you way more time in future relationships. Females report their best years are 20-27, men peak later, reporting their best years at 30-35, so your best years are still in front of you. And don’t go around being bitter, girls can tell when ur not over the ex.

[@Moneyman-33]

Just remember. Kanye West didn't release College Dropout til he was 26. You got time to reach your dreams.

[@PositiveMommaLife]

This needs to be taught in all schools in high school when the Brain is starting to see the future. Senior year is probably best. This is excellent advice! Thanks father I never knew. JP IS GOLD.

[@Chronokinetic]

“If an epidemic sweeps through a population, the population dies from the poor people upwards.” - 2 years ago

[@bestfightsever9000]

J Cole said “she don’t wanna be saved don’t save her” that’s same as “it is really hard to fix someone who doesn’t want to be fixed”

[@mijuajua4820]

When your mate stops ALL intimacy, stops dating you, basically stops including you in their lives except for talking about the kids. Sleeps in another room. Then it’s time to go.

[@MsPotatobag]

that's a low bar

[@zakiyyaabubakar1613]

That's my reality right now, tho I'm the one trying to stop all intimacy because he betrayed me in the most intimate way imaginable and I just don't trust him anymore. He still wants to be intimate and I don't know what drives but I'm just sick and tired and disgusted by him. The only common ground we have are our two girls all under 4

[@janedias1501]

This has happened to me... exactly the same...felt lonely my entire married life for 20 years because he is a womanizer.

[@fredflamingo4610]

I’m in the most difficult relationship I’ve ever been in and what I’ve gathered is I need to leave this person. Easier said than done.. it’s very hard to be strong when a person has become your other half and you genuinely care and love them

[@hgzmatt]

Yeah well at least you are in control and not the one getting dumped.

[@hannahcarian8980]

I just did the same thing today. Had to leave the man I care for because we were getting nowhere. It is worse feeling the effects after doing that decision.

[@saraliburd7752]

It’s about being enmeshed and co dependent-that’s not love

[@Man.Well93]

@@saraliburd7752 how the fuck do you know? of course it hurts to leave or be dumped.

[@Johny40Se7en]

Proper good friendship first, lovers second, then you cant't go wrong. Because if two people can tolerate, care about and love each other as friends, then they don't even need to get married, they can be together forever, and never get bored or do hurtful and stupid shit to each other. There's got to be genuine mutual attraction too though.

[@h3llnite]

Johny40Se7en doesn’t always work out that way 😢

[@jefftX]

A relationship is not supposed to be a friendship. It’s supposed to be a symbiotic relationship. People are friends with those who share similar interests. Sharing similar interests has nothing to do with a good intimate relationship. For instance, women may hate sports and a man likes it, doesn’t mean they aren’t compatible in an intimate relationship. But as friends that would never work. “Let’s go to the game” “but, I don’t like sports”

[@anarcougly]

Who wants to be together forever without getting married.

[@GodWorksOut]

Lau Perez it’s better to not get the government involved. Why bring a third party into something between two people?

[@lestendsouza9395]

Didn't work for me.

[@victoriabrown8474]

"dont make the kind of mistakes that get you into such a stupid relationship to begin with..." and "when your in a relationship tell the damn person the truth..."....amazing advise by a great man!

[@firstlast2094]

(at the beginning of this video,)Jordan's smile while interacting with his class is gold.

[@CaptainChris69]

A man tells himself after presenting himself as what he thinks a woman wants, usually for a physical relationship. 'I think I've found the right woman, I hope she never changes.' A woman makes herself what she thinks a man wants in a woman, then tells herself, 'I can change him to be the man I want him to be'. I've been married 49 years, its been rough and wonderful, but my conviction is, "until death you do part". My marriage has been a success, my marriage has been a failure, but either way, my marriage is not over.

[@at752]

I can't imagine these lectures not being up on youtube. It makes me grateful for him but as well as all the viewers that acknowledge this as a topic worth considering.

[@CoachHadassah]

After viewing 4 videos of this man, I’ve decided that he is a genius. He’s on my radar.

[@Alzee74]

How true he is, I can't get back the 20 years that I allowed to be taking from me. I really wish I would have had this advice when i was 19 or the Book 12 rules for life an antidote to chaos. That book has been a real help in my 40's , Thanks Dr. Peterson

[@clubsnatcher]

Children doing better with two parents isnt necessarily because there are two.. Its probably more because they're two mature, capable people

[@susanblackston968]

Wish I had heard this decades ago. Hope you're listening. He is absolutely correct.

[@AverageAngel]

wow, our generation does the opposite of peterson's advice. Everyone values themselves like a king or queen now and thinks they have all the time in the world

[@booble1718]

It's not "our generation". People don't change generation to generation, the world in which they interact does. If everyone now thinks they are a king then why are Boomer and Gen X divorce rates higher than Y and Millenials.?

[@AverageAngel]

@@booble1718 It's predicted to be even lower marriage rates, and higher divorce rates for the millennial generation however

[@AverageAngel]

@@alexandrar.473 I wonder what is going to happen when the millennials, my generation, become of age and the baby boomers are out and the millennials are in their 40s-50s, 20 years from now. How is our generation going to manage the world, in any aspect? I find it difficult to give a optimistic answer here; the bible might be right, the end might be coming, at least in the west

[@michellerenee5028]

They were taught that they are little princess's when they were growing uo

[@AverageAngel]

@@BK-tp6jf yeah i saw that somewhere, it's not a catch all. But the social trust/situation from what i see vs my parents for example is lower than before. You can still be social and not have relationships

[@mustardsally6808]

I just discovered this guy in my recommendations and I wish I had found him 10 years ago.

[@jessicalt4121]

Do NOT have sex for a very long time until you are sure. This makes it easier to leave if you have to or if you get pregnant, you know you will probably stay together and the person is safe to be with. Don’t get in the trouble to begin with!!!

[@konstantindinkela4755]

All my relationships ended in the first 4 month - because there was something wrong and I could not imagine spending the next years with that person or something else went wrong, till i met my current girlfriend. Now 5 years togehter. So after 3,4,5 month you should realy think if this relationship has a future - but also to find the right one - gibt it always a fair chance

[@prodigaljess]

I wish I had seen this half a lifetime ago...

[@JuicerNation]

that laptop thicc af

[@Jonovision81]

It's from the future, Jordan brought it back with him.

[@wotanmituns33]

It's probably outdated university property.

[@adalinemarshal89]

😂😂😂

[@homebrandrules]

I need to watch this everyday, still fighting to overcome a narcissistic exp. she was easily the worst gf I,ve ever had

[@DirtBlockGames]

homebrandrules identifying that there was a problem is the biggest step. Well done mate, you can get over it. Get your life in order everyday, and prove to yourself how valuable you are ;)

[@homebrandrules]

DirtBlockGames compassionate stranger thankyou for your uplifting supportive comment you eased my torment a little and helped me to have a better day. In this same spirit I,ll also increase and reflect this attitude on others when they are in need. May we all be guided towards a kinder thoughtfulness to one another. With warm appreciation

[@DirtBlockGames]

homebrandrules no worries man. I meant everything I said. I really do hope you can work it all out, and in doing so, make the world a better place. Good luck man ;). I know we don't know each other but u can dm me if u want help with anything.

[@mchilds83]

I know all about it. So much that it would take a novel to write out. Keep moving and growing.

[@gideonMorrison]

What did she do to you?

[@danopo]

8:52 How true this is today with coronavirus. "If an epidemic sweeps through a population, the population dies from the poor people upward."

[@ventasecu-gye371]

It would be great if he also had a dating site based on all his great knowledge. Better matches towards a long lasting marriage.

[@nazarenkodenys]

Ventas ECU-GYE would never happen Do no try to transfer personal responsibility to someone’s else

[@magos2610]

It’s only up to us) no app will provide us with that.

[@NicklasNylander87]

Who in their right mind decides on purple doors?

[@AlexZinni]

JP explains in another video that he chose that color because purple represents royalty and the students are treating their minds like regals by entering his classroom.

[@sillygoose9054]

Interesting reason but wish it was a darker purple then. That’s like lavender.

[@karlm7592]

Lobsters

[@anettschneider8959]

This world is exciting in all question ability, we decide ! But the authentic joy of having gotten around child raising.thank God! .. better being creative....we are 8 billions now dddaaaahh !!! ...don't let a brainwashed society fool you. It's not the " easy way out" & you are not entitled as woman . For what ? Because grandma told you ? Ajajajaja old world please go away. it might be bitterness at the state of human development.

[@AlexZinni]

Anett Schneider exactly

[@CPTkeyes317]

TL;DR: enter a relationship with the intention to aim at the best good you can imagine, the highest truth possible. And tell the truth to your partner. If you notice that they do not match you in that desire, leave.

[@Kenyanon]

'2 down 3 to go' 0:15 hahah

[@nithinmoorthy5911]

Kenyan onymous I was wondering what he was saying. Thanks

[@thebluetwistie]

Eep, 5 down. I’m done.

[@paolamura3497]

@@nithinmoorthy5911 me too!

[@lagroad]

Paola Mura 6 down -1 to go. While I’m not bitter, I think perhaps not everyone gets a happily ever after haha

[@dovahking6514]

@@lagroad how old are you

[@Deedee0007]

"The kitchen" he spoke about at the end is very meaningful.... I think a lot of us take this for granted nowadays due to career driven attitudes or thinking we can fill this responsibility with something else. There is nothing wrong with tending to the domestic work, and having this clear cut discussion and discipline early in the relationship is important. I wish I had heard this so much sooner... People truly think they're easy to get along with but they are not, including one's self...

[@Gnasheress]

I’ve had a depressing life. Now at 29, I’ve met an incredible man who loves me. And I love him. And we help each other be better versions of ourselves. He recently encouraged me to lose weight in a nice way, but it still hurt. The truth hurts but I’m so glad he is there for me. God I love him.

[@Nothing-sn9nc]

How's it going?

[@beac8238]

❤

[@lizzyjos5038]

I'm so grateful your back and well Sir! My husband and I have been praying for you and I'm sure many of your fans as well. You're such an inspiration and such a good man! God bless you, keep you strong and healthy!

[@DesignerFromMars]

Note to self: If you’re here it’s because you already know you should leave the relationship.

[@nezabethnc5411]

Yes indeed hahahaha

[@FriskyTendervittles]

Lol nah

[@memrod667]

Some of us are just learning.

[@dumprings]

not every1 is reactive, some like to be proactive :)

[@SummerJ200]

Facts for me lol

[@alaqiol]

Absolutely love the interplay between Dr.JBP and his students being in dialogue as the void is filled with a. first of all trust that professor is well informed and knowing and b. no-tension and rigidity form either side as the continuity of information is transferred. Astonishing.

[@TC-gv3qh]

I wish I would have had this understanding and knowledge when I was twenty! It would have saved me a lifetime of pain!

[@patkelly4339]

So true! This should be taught in schools... kids should learn this reality..

[@Greg400]

Prof. Peterson gives the best relationship advice I've probably ever heard, he keeps it simple and doesn't fill it with rhetoric.

[@gbeepee9995]

8:40 savage JP.

[@TheGrapplingMonkey]

- Tell the truth - Aim upwards - Figure out what the truth is - Don't bend yourself

[@TheGrapplingMonkey]

@@alexmccarthy428 WTF is wrong with you?

[@happyozzie]

I wish I knew this 16 years ago. Narcissism can’t be fixed

[@amandawilliams4208]

Thank you for having the courage to post your thoughts and findings. I know there will always be people that can’t comprehend the points you make, but I appreciate it. 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

[@carolb3869]

I love: Avoid getting into the situation in the first place!👏 Choose well, this from a 54yr old wise critical thinker who has made a few mistakes along the way. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes, and get out before too much trouble kicks-in. Yes, belong somewhere that is happy healthy and safe. Good luck in your journey, really take care of you!!! 💙

[@mist__4974]

Amazing video. Wish i saw this 18 years ago

[@Dorumin]

That's so sad :( Your name is this close to being "Moist Holley"

[@andresvalle809]

lol

[@Summersault666]

Matt Cummings Said the guy with the last name "cumming"

[@Dorumin]

Summersault666 that's why I picked this name :D (It's not my real name, it's from a guy that worked in Steven universe, but I liked his name so I use it here)

[@shittyfattits807]

That's pretty funny.

[@mgolden5630]

Stellar insights into the importance of two parent households. I wanted a father for my children, a husband, and resisted anyone suggesting adoption. I know this shows the economic and cultural value of two in the household for everyone. Thanks for sharing.

[@valeriemedrano4640]

Searching for the rest of this lecture. Just discovered this intelligent man and I only wish I had heard him years ago.

[@louisemc3680]

When I listen to Jordan Peterson, I feel he tells it as it is with all the practical and realistic detail and we need that. We're too used to believing in the 'happy ever after' story sold to us by Hollywood. It seems to be more about being truthful and communicating and looking outwards in a positive direction together.

[@mbaxter22]

I love how Jordan Petersen often drops truth bombs I wasn't even thinking about. It's like he's always one step ahead of my own thought process.

[@JoJoKaat]

BEST relationship advice; EVER! Wish I had heard this as a young woman

[@vg-de3bv]

I've seen this video so many times... But each time it really touches me. He is just great

[@anderssongibbs9013]

If I was lucky enough to be in this lecture, I'd piss myself before I left the room.

[@RoboBreaker]

Andersson Gibbs yeah, when I saw that chick jam, she was polite enough about it, but geez! I'd bring a diaper.

[@robertsmith7667]

Or just watch it later on youtube.

[@RoboBreaker]

Robert Smith this assumes the hosting video site doesn't censor the content producer (JP), which it has in the past. Or put up pay walls, or fail technically (it has, rarely, but has). Or that JP leaves the content up on YT. He doesn't seem to be a fan of their policies, and may well just dump them in the future.

[@robertsmith7667]

Joseph G. Or that you may be witnessing a rare video such as this, where Peterson turns up pissed.

[@p_serdiuk]

Joseph G. JP seems to have some alright technical support and contacts in IT. His websites are good, and his next project is a collaborative writing platform. If he and YT ever have a big disagreement, he will probably either leave for something like Vimeo or will just self-host his lectures.

[@Achmed0Wurrast124]

this comment section resonates with me so much that it makes me think about how few friends i have that i can vibe together with about this topic

[@mmcalifornia8600]

I needed to see this lesson 10 years ago.

[@notadumbblond3]

My last relationship began when I was 43 with a high school crush. It lasted 2 yrs. The beginning of our relationship was great. We picked up right where we left off and I kept thinking "this is too good to be true". What I didn't know (not for sure) until he moved in with me 2 yrs later was he was bipolar (and not taking any medication for it) and an alcoholic. There were clues along the way even though we lived an hour and a half apart. Had I paid attention better we would have never lived together. My problem was that I didn't want to lose my soulmate, so I made excuses for his behavior and allowed myself to believe the lies he told me. So, some advice, if there are any red flags pay attention to them. And do not make any important decisions unless you're 100% sure they're meritless.

[@maximilianbatz2070]

Thank you for sharing this. It is fear of loss which keeps us in pain ...

[@marcilk7534]

I’m 50 and reunited with a man I fell in love with at age 17. After him love bombing me, I’m seeing some unhealthy things in him. It’s hard to come to terms with the idea that all those years of loving him from afar may be destroyed so quickly because he can’t get past arguing, refusal to listen or understand, not caring about my feelings, and now he’s started saying mild things to put me down or are just mean. It seems to get worse little by little. I was supposed to travel to see him tomorrow, and I cancelled the trip because of things he said. I needed to set boundaries. And today he started problems again.

[@notadumbblond3]

@@marcilk7534 Everything you listed sound like bright red flags for an abusive relationship. It could also be maybe a counseling session or two would help. Or taking a step back and letting him know you won't accept that kind of treatment. It's normal to argue, but what you desribe doesn't sound like normal arguing. It could also be influenced by others he may be around who act like that. My daughter's husband when he's been around his dad will start to act like him, a grown 2 year old, tantrums and all.

[@marcilk7534]

@@notadumbblond3 I want to suggest counseling, but we live in different countries. Where he lives, the internet connection is so poor when trying to do video calls. After the fight last night, I did send a text that I need a few days to think about how I want to proceed with the relationship. I also sent him a video that describes a technique where you repeat back what the other person said to their satisfaction before you can talk, and asked if he’d be willing to try. I’ll see how he responds, but it seems like he’s finding it easier and easier as the relationship progresses to say hurtful things and disregard my feelings. I’m the beginning of the relationship, he used to interrupt a lot, but he’d always excuse it that he had a thought and couldn’t remember it long enough for me to finish talking. But he swears now he can remember my exact words of something I said a month ago.

[@SophiesWorld2024]

My parents were together and I'm divorced...I didn't want to end up like them.

[@shadowwalker4633]

Dont try to give yourself a good reason on the decision you have made what if your parents divorced before had you -think about it 🤔 ,doesnt matter since its already over but get a lesson that you gonna have a hard time solo or in team find a person that does lessen the painful moments of life.

[@kim5754]

I'm good with being alone at this point in my life. Maybe that will change but right now it feels good not being in a relationship. He gives really good advice!!

[@Simplentertainments]

This is so valuable! It makes me want to go back to school. Be a therapist and cure my own problems. Thank you for sharing this, I hope there’s more!

[@cristinalacoste2062]

I have so many questions for Dr. Jordan when I watch his videos. He's absolutely brilliant. He nails it when he says it's about telling the truth. We're all blind to some extent when it comes to owning the truth about our own shortcomings. And you need to be able to do that before you can have any successful long term relationship. I have not succeeded yet. I usually figure it out, but it's years after the fact.

[@erinmcmurtry5640]

I love him. Wish I heard this when I was young.

[@CamperVan-K]

How fortunate were these students to have JP as their professor! Wonderful teachings.

[@zacknoneofyourbees6470]

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for this upload.

[@victoriaporsiempre]

harsh but realistic described, it helped me a lot in my relationships, saved me to avoid making some mistakes...eventually I realised I attract what i am so...im working in improving myself first

[@carlissaneumann8133]

I was cracking up at the end when he was saying running a kitchen in a household is unbelieveably complicated it's so true!!