Can Men and Women Be "Just Friends"? | Split Decision

[@jubilee]

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[@joshuataylor3550]

People can have friendships across the gender divide, but most of these people just don't want to admit they are already in relationships.

[@Unknown7821-e2s]

Hi Jubilee.. could you do a middle ground featuring intersex individuals and cis people (whose sex or gender aligns with what they were born as)??

[@bbeth4]

“neither of us are entertained, you’re crying and i’m upset” that was adorable

[@sadscientist9995]

Women mindset is it’s entertainment (drama)

[@Just_a_benchh]

@@sadscientist9995Stop generalization.

[@TheGATG0bBlin]

@@sadscientist9995That’s clearly not what she meant, don’t be weird

[@mina8495]

@@sadscientist9995 No lol

[@yamama227]

virgin alert@@sadscientist9995

[@Finity.595]

Nick and Lexi are the only ones who actually have me thinking they are just best friends.

[@Shawn-vw2sd]

seriously, even with their body language.

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

Honestly, I low key think that Nick has feelings for her. Notice the amount of times he keeps saying "I love you", but she doesn't say it back to him.

[@Gatozparty]

@@Ghostrider-ul7xnhe means it platonically, I say I love you a lot to my friends

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

@@Gatozparty i doubt it.

[@kurt4789]

@@Ghostrider-ul7xn you can love someone platonically and not be IN love with them

[@user-nc3gh9pu6j]

I feel like Ari sees Nina as a best friend to keep her around. He likes the attention she gives him. “I use my presence as appreciation” is crazy.

[@ndiaz1982]

Nah I get it. I could be around a loved one and not speak, but we are happy to be in each other's presence

[@user-nc3gh9pu6j]

I totally hear that. It’s more of that in combination with everything that he had said up to that point. Plus, he comes off as someone very self-centered. He literally ruined his supposed bff’s beach day so she could listen to a song he wrote about himself.

[@DonTrump2024]

Yeah he kept it P

[@opticaldelusions]

oh for sure

[@georgiab7490]

Ari had a lot of red flags throughout this vid but this specific quote wasn't one of them IMO, I feel the same way sometimes. it can take a lot out of me to respond to texts and call people back and arrange plans. sometimes, me just being there is the best I can offer, and even tho I wish I was capable of more, I can can only hope the ppl in my life will see that I'm trying and giving them the most I can because I love them.

[@deetv2636]

He literally said “ I can weaponize obliviousness” then turns around and says “oh no I had no idea she liked me even tho we had sex twice”🙃 LETS BFFR…. Niva needs to love on herself more and close her “open book-ness” a little

[@joxxoox]

So true

[@hislord1]

He literally does what women do, pretend they have no idea so they don't have an awkward conversation. If women can do it, so can men.

[@fahrenheit2101]

@@hislord1 Ah yes, "women". Anybody who makes such a braindead blanket statement is hard to take seriously. He's doing a terrible thing, that some women also do. Women can't do it, nobody said it was ok, and it similarly isn't ok for him. You're actually the only one normalising it to push your "women bad" narrative. Stop.

[@ginapetolicchio2684]

Nina

[@TheGATG0bBlin]

@@hislord1Since it’s an unhealthy manipulation tactic how about nobody does it? 😭 I don’t see how you went “well women do it so we can too!”

[@gyosob7265]

so basically Nick and Lexi are the only healthy and normal friendship

[@Sukinero]

LETS SEE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS

[@gyosob7265]

​@@Sukinero I would say they're pretty healthy and normal

[@pinklypinkly2220]

@@SukineroI’m going to assume that they are talking about the friends IN the video?

[@Sukinero]

@@pinklypinkly2220 yeah

[@blazenfate]

Normal? Is there a new definition or something? Uncommon is the word.

[@mnandingamondi]

If Ari or Nina get partners I feel like if their partners say they are not comfortable with them being friends I would 100% agree with them sana

[@ughmina]

The way he literally said he would sleep with her if she's down lmao I can see why

[@thulanimbatha5458]

I spot a South African🇿🇦

[@sivekhangeleni8219]

Sa ungenaphi e america

[@chefstephcooks]

Nina really said that she had to lie to her boyfriend about Ari and said he was gay when he wasn’t..

[@mnandingamondi]

@@thulanimbatha5458 😭🤣

[@AmiriHipHop]

Ari didn't even take a step to hug Nina at the very end 😭😭. All of the other friends met each other halfway for the hug, but Ari stood still and Nina ran all the way to HIM. Kinda symbolizes their friendship in a sense 😂.

[@sadscientist9995]

That’s the way to do it. Have her come to you. There’s a reason Ari is the only one who could have a chance with their “best friend”

[@jacobfschaffer]

They hooked up twice and have been “best friends for 8 months” lol they just wanted to be on Jubilee

[@Alissa-c1h]

I feel like it’s not friendship. If he made a move on her, she would take it.

[@catm2454]

Truuuuu

[@grreeeeee]

"I wrote a song for you... well, actually it's about me for you... well it's for me and I want you to listen to it, but I also won't say any of this" *fuckboi laugh*

[@ChiGuyy]

No hold on. NJ and Mary anne rented a penthouse, JUST the two of them while she had a boyfriend?? 😭 LMAO

[@iswissmiss]

People literally have zero respect for committed relationships nowadays 😭

[@camronbitzer3159]

Now fiance 🤔🧐👀

[@elizacrepes]

i'm glad other people picked up on this. i was so confused when they didn't address that further, like hold on: you were in a relationship, misrepresenting the situation to your partner (meaning you knew they may not be happy with it being just the two of you) and something almost happened?? and this is the partner you're now engaged to?? I'm wondering if this is something her and her partner have since talked about and worked through; it would be wild of them to find out through a jubilee video otherwise also lmao at him talking about this in the middle of how great she was at setting boundaries 😭

[@Shawn-vw2sd]

@@elizacrepesdeadass, great at setting up boundaries that support him 😭

[@jessicaarakelian3845]

No I thought this at first too but he actually said a past girl friend didn’t bring her boyfriend (now fiance), he said Mary Anne always did and always set that boundary.

[@ndawanahamukwaya6138]

As a woman with a male best friend, most of yall are not best friends, more in-between lovers and friends. Yall just gotta figure it out for real 😂

[@mxrijx]

Situationship central

[@Random-sk6hm]

Lexi and Nick were the only friends on here. The others were all situationships.

[@Quantum_Cola]

Are you sure he doesn't like you at all ?

[@mistyydagoat]

Your "male best friend" will hit as soon as you give him the chance.

[@kunpunko]

@@Quantum_Coladamn males really cannot control themselves?? be normal

[@pmpslim5414]

Testing out your homegirls is WILD😂

[@ughmina]

Bros on a mission 💀

[@karuymaru]

Omg literally!!

[@njyazon7300]

Try it out bro.

[@haleycarson4129]

I legit was like, WHY NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THIS? Start out toxic!

[@Lily-ni2mb]

​@@haleycarson4129seriouslyy!!!

[@ema9367]

most of these aren’t actually friends these are just weird situationships 😭

[@swagvdaddy69]

‼️💯

[@AlzMarioWolfe]

Literally they’re horrible examples of actual friendships

[@trxgon]

I mean most male and female friendships are failed situationships or people who got friendzoned😂

[@AlzMarioWolfe]

@@trxgon Couldn’t be less true

[@kaykayal2821]

That’s most opposite sex friendships

[@janinejamee6303]

the way ari didnt step up to hug her says everything,

[@Kapt.Konscious]

That was crazy😭

[@georgiacabrerasuarez]

OMG I was looking for this comment!! Body language tells everything 🥲

[@111111444444444]

I felt like that was the perfect representation of their relationship. Like that relationship exists because of her

[@thuraiaj849]

and her running up to him. that's exactly what i noticed too

[@Fogbound-q8n]

Some people aren't comfortable hugging in camera

[@bobthestinky7369]

Im actually amazed half of these people are friends at all. Lot of toxicity here.

[@pencil6965]

so much, it's wild

[@Just_a_benchh]

How? People get angry…it’s a normal emotion.

[@bobthestinky7369]

@@Just_a_benchh I'm not talking about someone getting angry.

[@krithiksingh]

Welcome to life, a lot of people have toxicity

[@wondersov7615]

There’s toxicity within everyone. The whole point of a friendship is to accept the other persons and move on

[@yelvy]

not sure how you guys manage to consistently find the worst people imaginable but keep up the great work

[@fahrenheit2101]

It's representative, I'm sure. People just tend to suck more often than not, simple as that. Also, the sorts of people signing up for this are at least partially the attention seeking sort, which can skew things.

[@Krataios20]

jubilee casting representative people is a joke.

[@takemetomarz]

Fr oml

[@salmaabdullahgb]

​I think under regular circumstances people are more cool/chill than not

[@TheAlixAmanda]

I know for real 😂 every single one of these videos I’m like how are these people real?!?

[@Pou1gie1]

Ari thinks he's more interesting and cooler than he actually is. He is one of these guys who has manufactured an image that feels synthetic in an effort to draw ppl to him in an inauthentic way. Essentially, he tries very hard. He is a try-er.

[@Aubrey2004-j4k]

Tryer😂😂

[@jasminec7639]

Exaaactly

[@peeeva]

couldnt have said it better myself

[@lisib4835]

Damn 💀

[@rachelg7030]

Like the 70s fit that she's dressing to match. Just to start conversation, I doubt it's because of real interest

[@whatamidoinghere8454]

The fact that they so casually sleep with their bestfriends like it's no big deal lmao

[@vanessa_fdy]

Fr..

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

It actually happens way often tho..

[@DGen7]

Why is it a big deal ?let them do what they wanna do

[@_leivo]

Because it's not

[@Aggggghhhhhhh69]

​@@DGen7Tell me if your partner had a best friend they liked before and the past and fucked multiple times would you have the same opinion..

[@HannahHodson28]

Nick and Lexi seem so fun and genuine friends.

[@lexiuy]

We really are 🩵 grateful for his friendship

[@sumaiya-ey5zc]

Literally it’s the only acc real friends

[@JackInABeanstalk98]

@@sumaiya-ey5zc they're all "real friends". sex is human, the mindset that sex devalues their friendship is the mindset that is behind so many bad relationships, breakups, divorces.

[@sumaiya-ey5zc]

@@JackInABeanstalk98 you’re missing the point 🤦🏻‍♀️ It’s not about sex it’s just not normal to admit that you had attraction to a friend and then you ended up settling because they didn’t feel that way/ they were already in a relationship????

[@JackInABeanstalk98]

@@sumaiya-ey5zc completely healthy reaction respectful of your boy’s boundaries, far more mature than arbitrarily dropping off because he or she doesn’t want you back. Learn to manage it

[@sarahaluzan]

Wtf hooking up and best friends don't go together. My best friend and I are like siblings, that would be so fking weird. I only liked Nick and Lexi here.

[@Butterflyonlife]

Honestly same the only ones that are actually best friends in this videos

[@Butterflyonlife]

And I like how straightforward snd comfortable they are

[@sarahaluzan]

@@memesucuklu what 💀

[@sarahaluzan]

@@Butterflyonlife I agree

[@StoicMao]

@@memesucuklu I would say your nipples are really dark and you look a bit yerllow

[@TedIsHere2]

Nina…. that is not your best friend. Do yourself a favor and never speak to him again after this video

[@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat]

Who tf are you to say that?

[@FerretCuddles]

​​@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat A guy having PDF file facial hair, without regs forcing it, is pretty sketchy. Just noticed he's wearing womens shoes and earrings too. But on the other hand, she admitted she doesn't regulate her emotions and is getting run through. They're both equally awful, but in different ways.

[@Almond9383]

​@@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat why are u hate commenting on all the comments??? stfu.

[@DasAlena]

that is a an insane thing to say as a stranger that just watched a video on youtube

[@SallyBabyy]

That guy is a psycho future serial killer. Jeffrey Dahmer type of freak.

[@dashiamason8136]

this really isn’t helping the stigma 😭

[@honeytea1046]

fr 😭 i wish my best friend and i could’ve been on this

[@sarahaluzan]

Ikr not everyone is like that 😭

[@kurtholus]

Some stigmas are just observations of the reality

[@andiiiiiiiiii]

@@kurtholus yuppp

[@Justcatc]

😽🙏me and my pookies break the stigma

[@RPMonsta]

Ari is a MASTER MANIPULATOR he has that girl wrapped around his finger.

[@Sukinero]

And I can’t get one..

[@fahrenheit2101]

She's a bit naive herself to stay with the dude for so long.

[@pencil6965]

low self worth @@fahrenheit2101

[@s.quinery3389]

​@@Sukinero womp womp

[@ched28]

Yeah I was like Nina girl STAND UP

[@naysha323]

It's quite ironic that NJ finds it weird for his female friends not to bring their partners when hanging out with him, considering he openly confessed to hitting on friends who were already in relationships. talk about a double standard

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Just from the short bits I saw from him I feel like I know this personality type. He probably trashes and of his "friends" boyfriends but he doesn't have the balls to make a move so he just kind of sits on the sidelines and seethes. As the women get older and start dating more mature men the guys are gonna force him out of the picture because dudes with life experience know his type.

[@rianalee3138]

NJ is delusional 💀

[@Aggggghhhhhhh69]

He is such a creep after saying that I'm sorry but dude shouldn't have any female friends

[@njyazon7300]

I am what we call a hypocrite.

[@njyazon7300]

type A personality ;) @@Aaron-kj8dv

[@kayceeslove1927]

If you have a best friend it needs to be strictly platonic

[@Whirlbee]

Why?

[@hail6888]

no! 😱

[@yoggyasf6270]

exactly, you don't value the friendship if you can't separate your love for someone and your apparent urge to posssess them

[@MrFish-pm8bx]

Yeah, you eaither immediately talk about those feelings or force yourself to move on. You can't be a supportive unconditional friend if you can't cheer them on in life including their romantic relationships.

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

No! Who are you to make rules? The best relationships start from friendships because you've already established a strong emotional connection with that person. This component is what's lacking in many modern relationships today leading to breakups and divorces.

[@reetkaur_2]

This isn't the "platonic best friends" episode i was looking for

[@theprinceoffreshair1164]

This video proves and shows why people are skeptical of best friends of opposite sexes. Only Nick and Lexi didn't blur the lines. The fact that you have to tell your partner your best friend is gay knowing its a lie AND you've slept together before? Renting a penthouse and misleading you partner to think nothing is happening? I believe men and women can be friends, but once you start blurring that line, its game over. BTW, Nina still has feelings for Ari. Its clear and evident. Would you trust your partner with a friend of the opposite sex?

[@blueiris1542]

Yup! Most ppl can't state/maintain boundaries smh

[@Aubrey2004-j4k]

The nj penthouse thing has been cleared up by mary, she said that jubilee edited the video to look like she was the friend nj was talking about but she wasn’t

[@Kayla-cm4zz]

any partner saying who I can and can't be friends with will get the boot.

[@COMPUTER.SCIENCE.]

Well, it's just that the guy-Nick- didn't really find her attractive 😂 But, one day, things could change! I don't trust STRAIGHT guys who have many close female friends instead of male friends, these guys surely like all the attention the girls give them, even though they're not interested in them. Let's get real!

[@enricomahoney6617]

@@Aubrey2004-j4kshe said that probably because her fiancé discovered via this episode.

[@JessicaSmith-fw3yp]

I’m sorry three minutes into this video, Ari is just the biggest gaslighter. When you sleep with somebody don’t expect to have a platonic friendship

[@beadels9597]

!! although he denied this in the video, i feel like he already knew she had a thing for him and just pretended to be oblivious to take advantage of her feelings and fjck around..

[@BadaBadger]

Nina for the love of whoever ditch him NOW.

[@mayax2431]

The steps they took to hug each other at the end and where they ended up is so accurate.

[@deechwita]

@@memesucukluWTF ARE U ON ABOUT 😭😭

[@CMHMom23]

This is sooo true omfg

[@fahrenheit2101]

In short, Nick and Lexi are perfect, Abdullah and Kendall need work, NJ and Mary-Anne moreso, and Ari's irredeemable and it's insane that Nina hasn't totally ditched the mf, almost entirely because he makes music.

[@nellieshoals]

It sounds like she feels dependent on him for a job or smth... They mentioned playing on stage together??? Weird.@@fahrenheit2101

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

@@fahrenheit2101 Most women like toxic men, notice how he's the only one that got sex out of all the guys?

[@mariahmonteon74]

“i beLIevE tHAt fRIEndS cAN kIsS” Nina sweetie NO FRIENDS SHOULD BE KISSING 😭😭😭

[@Whirlbee]

A lot of people are fine with this kind of thing with friends

[@duanen2337]

My wife kissed her female friends a million times

[@RainbowFlowerCrow]

​@@duanen2337You ok with her kissing her male friends too though? And how do you feel about kissing your Male friends? 🤔

[@Kidassassin109]

@@RainbowFlowerCrowright. He thought he did something with that.

[@Nersius]

Why wouldn't close friends give a peck now and again, similar to a parent to a child or relatives between one another?

[@Alisewin]

Most of these friendships seem very problematic lol

[@eugenetswong]

Jubilee always seems to bring immature and toxic people on the show!

[@dakotac180]

Ari and Nina should probably leave it alone... they slept together TWICE, they not on the same page as much as the rest of these friendships. I want Nick and Lexi to stay friends forever.

[@_leivo]

why?

[@Pyroshark]

@@_leivo have you even watched the video dawg

[@_leivo]

@@PyrosharkYeahp, so, why?

[@Fogbound-q8n]

There's two type of people in this world people who see sex as whatever and some that think it's this spiritual thing. Type B usually judges type A like crazy. I agree I don't see any toxic traits from him so far. He seems straightforward.

[@blakerobertson4156]

ari is definition of insane

[@KristinaČavlović]

Best comment

[@RaidQuinncidence]

he could def be clinically diagnosed as a narcissist

[@PROVOCATEURSK]

But women go for that.

[@Angelogwala]

I wouldn't want to surround myself with someone like that, ever.

[@ConsciousApostle999]

Or he trying to scrape her off his back, but she just keeps attaching harder🤷🏿‍♂️ You can’t make something more obvious than he did.

[@m__6930]

He: Her toxic trait is time management. She: He gets angry and insults people's families.

[@christiantheissen7775]

Hahaha I thought that too Like the scale of the toxicity is just different 😂

[@philippinedard4658]

Yeah I think some people need to look up again the definition of toxic and remember that a “flaw” isn’t synonymous

[@shamanchy]

nina is definitely still in love with ari

[@fahrenheit2101]

And Ari still sticks around for the off chance of sleeping with her. Perfectly balanced, as all things should be.

[@nellieshoals]

@@fahrenheit2101 No, she is an ego boost + attention provider to him.

[@8beautylover8]

She 100% only said no to hooking up again because she thought he would say no..the way she ran to him at the end and he was standing still 😖

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

@@8beautylover8 Womp womp 😂

[@of_the_Word]

Abdullah is the embodiment of “guys and girls can’t be just friends.” He is so obviously in love with her but too pathetic to admit it so he settles to be her friend. All while claiming her boyfriends are toxic and she should choose a nice guy like him who would treat her like a princess.

[@Bielefeld123]

Maybe he is gay and was jealous cuz he wanted his bestfriend's dating partners😂

[@charky6683]

hes literally gay

[@Bielefeld123]

@@charky6683 I think it too

[@josiehouse7539]

He's definitely gay....

[@anonymous_4276]

Plus he's got a conservative family so he cannot take a stance either. He had his chance with her but he hesitates due to that as well. Overall just a confused guy.

[@mraoww]

15:43 lmao nick and lexi are so synchronized! the slap on the knee

[@adsonn8740]

How do you hook up with someone and still be best friends

[@Whirlbee]

Some friends just like to fool around

[@analece]

you can think of it as helping each other out but I suppose it really doesn’t work out, as I did this with a girl friend of mine and she went crazy saying I was hers and only hers.. 😳

[@oxy_mwro]

easily

[@dyingwaffle95]

Personally I believe with enough time apart/not hooking up setting that boundary it's possible to continue as friends

[@zootopia8440]

cuz they’re simply repressing their feelings and lying to themselves

[@marinakliueva9634]

Nick and Lexi are heartwarming to watch, so respectful and appreciative of each other's friendship

[@EveLynn-lp3gu]

Nonono

[@klara7068]

Nick and Lexi are friendship goals!!!!

[@lexiuy]

Thank you!! 🥹🤍

[@MalphasMikaelson]

You don't know them.

[@koketsomoshira1015]

Love Nick, protect Nick at all costs x

[@lexiuy]

YES

[@babymi28]

Fr he’s so sweet

[@EveLynn-lp3gu]

No the hugging his girlfriends pillow is insane

[@Blueberry-wn5fc]

“I use my presence as appreciation” is CRAZY.

[@ashbaldwn]

Ari sounds toxic tbh

[@DepthUnchecked]

He seems like a douche

[@AdanSolas]

Honestly, how?

[@danielrandon3177]

Nina is the toxic one

[@cay_cat114]

@@danielrandon3177 How is Nina toxic? She was lead on and is continuing to be lead on by Ari.

[@dabd8175]

And females love toxic

[@afrozzz5634]

I really like the friendship between Nick and Lexi. It’s real and wholesome. No comments on the rest 😂

[@v0atmygym734]

Ari low key made Heath Ledger’s Joker a personality trait of his. This dude speaks in the same mannerisms sometimes

[@ChrisPTY507]

Ari really have high level of dark triad traits.

[@PrincessLioness]

@@ChrisPTY507What does that mean?

[@ChrisPTY507]

@@PrincessLioness The term “Dark Triad” refers to a trio of negative personality traits-narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy-which share some common malevolent features. The construct was coined by researchers Delroy L. Paulhus and Kevin M. Williams in 2002.

[@Flesh_Wizard]

the jonkler

[@sayad4042]

fr i caught the joker mannerisms as well

[@c4l1n15]

bro didn't know she likes him after having sex twice💀

[@vilecandy]

The classic bro being oblivious to a girl's signs of liking him taken to an extreme

[@dieauferstehung]

no he knows, but he dont wanna have a RS with her because she is recreational use only for him, she is getting used. sad

[@stamzthehuman897]

Of course not. She could just be really sex positive. He had to make sure

[@sha.kke1]

love and sex are two separate things, it can be both or not

[@beadels9597]

!! although he denied this in the video, i feel like he already knew she had a thing for him and just pretended to be oblivious to take advantage of her feelings and fjkc around..

[@franciscoherrerarose3811]

Is Ari short for nARcIssistic?

[@buzz-wx1lh]

i giggled! and yes lol 😭 he’s gonna get worst with time

[@miguel_7515]

Lame

[@charky6683]

remember you have those three letters in your name and more

[@Natu014]

He made her miss her beach day so she could listen to a song about himself

[@nontsikelelosalimane7690]

🤣

[@shanzayshah6455]

Nina is in love with Ari. He doesn't care about her. When this friendship breaks, my girl will be heartbroken. she needs to let go. I was in a very similar friendship for 3 years. I loved him completely and truly I would've done anything for him but I just had to let it go. We don't talk anymore and it hurts sometimes when I see him but it does get better. Nina deserves more. Nina deserves better.

[@princessg8097]

Same except I don’t hurt anyone

[@jialian93]

nina sucks too. she confirmed she uses guys and dumps them

[@annaburgooo]

Do you ever see them still? Or are they completely not in your life? One of my closest friends - I used to have feelings for him or I wonder if I sometimes do. I don't think we would work out in a relationship, I could say for a few reasons but also I think probably because maybe I have stronger feelings for him than he does about me (platonic and romantic feelings). I resonate with what you said - there was a time where we were in a complicated situation, we both got hurt (though it was also partially an outside person messing with and lying about stuff that caused it) but I still came back to him - and thinking about it now, if he something happened again, my instinct would be to try and repair things because I think I just care about/love him that much. I think he loves and cares about me too, but in a different way and on a different level. I don't want to cut him out of my life because him being in my life brings me happiness, also because he's kind of at the center of a loose group of friends we're in. I have wondered if it would be for the best though, maybe not now bur after I graduate college or down the line, to distance myself from him. Do you have any advice - seems like you might've been in a similar situation?

[@shanzayshah6455]

⁠@@annaburgooohey girl I’ve been busy with exams but yeah I see him. I see him a lot. We have the same friend group so I have to see him when we r all hanging out together. He’s also class president so I see him in meetings. It used to hurt so much because being around him made me so so happy but I had to take this step. I had to confront him and I had to cut him off because I realised I loved him too much and he loved me too less. For him the friendship was convenient and to me it was everything. I wasn’t ready to believe it till I cut him off and when I did I was terrified that all the things that we did together I would have no one to do with. I made peace with it I decided my dignity was more important than my happiness and honestly it all fell into place. I found new people I started doing the things I was so afraid of doing alone. I have a chance to other people. I still miss him sometimes and I wonder if he does too. I don’t know if he does but I also don’t think how he could not. Id be lying if I said I don’t hope that he does. I don’t understand how he could not listen to Noah kahan and not think about me, how he could read Cat and not think about me, how he could look at the drawing I made him for his 17th and not think about me ? But life’s been better and brighter ever since. It’s fresh. I broke it off in feb but it hurts a lot sometimes. I hâte who i was around him. I hate how pathetic he made me. I never want to be that again. And if the cost of not hating myself is not being his best friend then I’ve made my choice. My instagrams @shanzayy_shah if you want to talk I’m always here ❤

[@_smsma_]

The frindship between Ari and Nani is a perfect example of the relationship between a narcissist and an empath ...

[@nellieshoals]

Yes, she is talking and putting herself down too much, I think in large part bc of this relationship..... She can and will learn to do better!!

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

I agree. It sounds like he is doing it to other women too. It was revealed he is now with someone who he won't discuss feelings with and she adviced him it would get 'messy'. She should take her own advice and run. He is emotionally void and looking for narcissistic supply

[@COMPUTER.SCIENCE.]

Which is also a typical so-called female-male close friendship 😂

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Nothing about her gives off empath. She's a narc as well

[@kalexx]

Majority of these are situationships.....💀💀 not friendships.

[@user-fx2wk6tb8c]

They don’t know what gaslighting is

[@itsmj3103]

fr, Ari is the master gaslighter, Abdullah just lying 😂😂

[@Cassinova795]

I was waiting for the example of gaslighting and it never came

[@shameekmiller4251]

In conclusion only mentally stable and mature men and women can be friends

[@charmingmagican9821]

Its a shame those are rare nowadays Eh mate ?

[@mistyydagoat]

like 1% of people

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

So nobody. All adults are grown children. Welcome to the real world.

[@novagalaxy342]

I don't know but from my experiences, having had male friends is not easy. There's always some kind of tension between us, even when I was clear about my boundaries and rules. I stopped having male friends years ago and I'm mentally free of stress and it's much better this way.

[@aidanmeyer69]

I felt kind of the same way with female friends. We just operate differently I suppose

[@DGen7]

Even today , if youre gonna ask guys if a straight guy and girl can be just friends , they'd say no , but ask any girl and she'd say it's defo possible to be just friends

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

People are going to develop feelings for each other. Its natural. Why do ya'll want to repress them?

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

Instead of chastising men and women for developing feelings, understand that this is how many people are wired. They are called demisexuals and demiromantics. So again, why try to stop it? The attitude that developing feelings for friends is somehow wrong or something to be avoided is allonormativity. It is normal and healthy for demisexuals and demiromantics, because this is how we are naturally wired. The issue is ignorant, bigoted attitudes on the part of allonormative society.

[@blueiris1542]

​@@Ghostrider-ul7xnFeelings are natural, but some don't want to feel those feelings 😂 Others know that logically those feelings don't make sense or would not work realistically

[@KASP112]

I wish they had people on here who were best friends for more than 2 to 3 years at least 5 years and up

[@futuswag593]

Yeah I guess it's hard to find women and men best friends😳

[@maxikhani235]

Kendall and Abdullah have been best friends for 7 years lol. It said in the video

[@KASP112]

@@futuswag593 it can't be that hard

[@KASP112]

@@maxikhani235 yeah I seen that but they were the only two all I was saying was they could have found people who were best friends for longer

[@The_1995_]

@@futuswag593I don’t think it’s that hard. I’m a female and i have 2 male bestfriends that I’ve been friends with for 12-15 years and nothing ever happened. They just chose people in weird situationships that have only known eachother a couple years and probably never had a relationship and always had an attraction from the start.

[@kailiochoa1058]

These are the kinds of people I never want to be around

[@brh.1892]

You've put my thoughts into words perfectly lmao

[@SlapSister]

This world doesn't understand the difference between platonic love/intimacy and romantic. It's sad and it's why we are all so starved for community and affection.

[@MartinGarden]

Facts

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Who cares. Enjoy life while it lasts :)

[@shannilove2801]

Ari looks like a '70s Fboy🤣. I think Nina really likes him romantically but this dude does not commit to anyone and just wants to have fun.

[@Business54LJ]

Watch how this video will be used as reference to why a girl and a guy can’t be just friends by the podcast bros💀💀💀

[@_file.unsuccessful._]

ari is so crazy at this part 15:26 all i could think of is “Nick, you’re gay, be gay be gay. Be gay?” 😭

[@KitCat898]

I THOUGHT THE SAME 😂😂😂

[@zyaicob]

My brain immediately went "My friends call me Gay Nick"

[@Mobius89]

Several of these friendships probably did not survive this episode lol

[@JohnyJohnatanJohnson]

Thankfully and hopefully

[@fey9915]

"best friends for 7 months" blows my mind

[@Natu014]

It’s not adding up lmao

[@marymaranan3641]

Lexi and Nick are giving me GENUINE BFF energy 😭😭😭. Not saying anyone else’s was genuine, but they just felt so healthy to me in terms of friendship.

[@dudeilikestuff]

lol ari and nina need to sort out their weird relationship

[@mel-pd8tf]

Why is no one talking about the “I like to test the waters with all of my girl friends”

[@trevandrea8909]

😭😭😭

[@sarar7363]

Best friends are like siblings almost, if it ain’t platonic its kinda odd

[@darkkforest]

My best friend is my wife, is there something wrong in that?

[@sarar7363]

@@darkkforest Your SO is obvs your best friend but also more, if it’s just a best friend then it’s weird if you’re blurring those lines

[@tr4sh.doll_]

i also think it works a lot better if you feel almost like siblings, but friendships can take multiple form and i think there is not just one answer to what friendship look like

[@COMPUTER.SCIENCE.]

​@@darkkforest no, there's nothing wrong if you combine the 2, actually it's perfect that way, it just feels wrong if you have a WIFE, AND then you have another FEMALE BEST FRIEND, got it?

[@COMPUTER.SCIENCE.]

​@@tr4sh.doll_ well, I think it's just the matter if you're a considerate and decent person or not: knowing enough is enough, and treat others the way you want to be treated! Our greedy human tendency is that we always want more if we can, whether it's materials, friendship, people we find attractive to and want to partner with etc.., I'm sure everyone of us find MORE THAN ONE person on Earth attractive. But, should we involve with both or more of them romantically? If yes, would we feel comfortable having them also involve with other people at the same time? If you look at the whole picture, it's nothing more than a pigsty where everyone entangles like a messy cobweb! I respect/value my PRIVACY and don't want to become a pig, so I only allow myself to involve with only 1 person and learn to be loyal and respectful to that special person, becoz I love her but also becoz I want to be treated (respected) the same way! Having more experiences (be with more than one) isn't actually better than having LESS but QUALIFIED experience! That's just how I see it, if you're gonna have ambiguous relationship, expect your spouse to also have ambiguous ones, and a messy web of relationship more than dramatic!

[@evanlowell1]

Mary Anne being engaged to a guy she almost cheated on with her best friend is crazy…why is nobody saying anything about that

[@Aubrey2004-j4k]

She said it’s false editing, apparently she wasn’t the friend nj was talking about. She commented on this video

[@vt64]

@@Aubrey2004-j4komg

[@maclife2024]

⁠@@Aubrey2004-j4k thanks for speaking factsss ❤ appreciate you!

[@enricomahoney6617]

@@Aubrey2004-j4kShe probably said that because her fiancé discovered the lent house story via this episode and pu her relationship in trouble

[@whatamidoinghere8454]

Nick and lexi the only sane ones

[@Lilizzyvert_13]

Cody gonna love this one

[@DGen7]

Hope he reacts ! He skipped the last one

[@brownskinbeauty.]

Ari isn't as cute or talented as he or Nina makes him out to be. Based on the outfits he might secretly want to be her 🤷🏾‍♀️ Nick is super cute and his friendship with Lexi is authentic. They set their own boundaries and respect each other while doing so. We need more people like them in the world.

[@tekqist28]

The host not getting the barbie reference 😂

[@blueiris1542]

Unpopular opinion: Men and Women can be friends, but rarely ever best friends. If your opposite sex best friend or friend in general develops feelings, that on them, not you.

[@ZANIMusic]

Ari’s really scary, ngl

[@PROVOCATEURSK]

The women that go for him are scary too.

[@sulliandwhatnot]

Women love men like him until they realize their cooked. That’s why Nina stays around him. He could have her.

[@nellieshoals]

@@PROVOCATEURSK Nah we just have trauma (most likely childhood) so don't see it until we get burned enough that we reach a point that we can smell it a mile away. Manipulative, trauma bonding, keeping her on standby, on edge, waiting for him... He clearly has very high ego + attention needs. His behavior screams histrionic/narcissistic!

[@falconawesome]

In studies people who have been traumatized are less able to see risky situations clearly, usually because everything feels like the same current level of “this is risky”

[@Natu014]

NJ too with his anger issues

[@mrblackbond]

Ummm, that’s NOT the definition of “gaslighting” 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@zada2063]

Ari is projecting 100000%

[@Night-Shade.]

Can you bring the dilemma back? It was a great concept and keeping the person's identity hidden when they wanted is really a nice thing to do

[@carsonnelson2741]

3 out of 4 of these friendships are MESSY bruh

[@mikeokk]

Abdullah she don’t want you bro let her go💀💀💀

[@fahrenheit2101]

Idk, they seemed mutually caring, even if it's a bit of a situationship...

[@lonewaer]

I'm actually confused why he's still trying, do they not know he's on the flamboyant side ? Maybe she does, that would explain why she's not attracted. Dude has got to at least present masculine enough not to confuse people on whether or not he's gay, let alone get to the point where she could be attracted to him.

[@houssein3892]

ABDULLAH Wallahi YOU'RE GAYY! WALLAHI 💀

[@Bielefeld123]

He seems a little gay to me😂

[@216superman]

@@Bielefeld123 I JUST SEEN THIS EPISODE AND I DEFINITELY THOUGHT THE SAME THING THAT HE IS GAY AND CAN'T SAY CAUSE OF HIS RELIGION

[@abigail6394]

Cody Ko is gonna have a field day with this one

[@serenityq26]

kens will never get that allen is the true desirable persona. bad boys were never IT and never will be

[@ChrisGabeEnd02]

Dude NJ is terrifying because he seems like a harmless dude but has toxicity is on another level

[@njyazon7300]

damn ya got me.

[@xan3e]

@@njyazon7300since you were there I’d like to ask you this question: what did you think of ari and his personality? Also your thoughts on Abdullah’s situation🤔.

[@Natu014]

Toxic vibes off the chart

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

All men bad, wah!

[@ethanscott5995]

Nick and Lexi are just like me and my friend, I know too much about her to wanna date her 😭

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Yea, once you find out all the gross stuff about women, you look for a new one that you don't know too much about 😂They all have nasty pasts that would turn ANYONE off, haha

[@newserfd]

having feelings for best friend is really common

[@Taylorswiftarmpitsweat]

Stop projecting

[@musselmanmedia5236]

your suppose to marry your best friend.....many relationships fail because people dont marry their best friend

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

@@musselmanmedia5236 Exactly. Lot of people enter into marriages purely out of raw attraction (which they confuse with love) without any strong emotional connection, which should be the foundation for any long lasting relationship.

[@macarmenadoree]

its super common and really not a big deal for most people im used to being around but everyone's different

[@klutzyorangeconfetti1017]

@@Ghostrider-ul7xnI agree

[@naysha323]

3 mins in and i feel so bad for nina 😭

[@CodeDusq1]

Well, considering the landscape of friendships these days, I’d say the real philosophical question is whether anyone can be just friends, regardless of gender. It just seems that friendships these days can get pretty complicated.

[@futuswag593]

No I mean same sex of course you can be just friends, but different sex is a whole another story

[@elatafalando]

Are you ok?

[@CodeDusq1]

@@futuswag593I get what you’re saying, but I’m just talking about friendships in general, regardless of gender, as in this day and age feels like friendships are like untangling a mess of wires than a simple connection where societal pressures, heavy reliance on digital communications, and evolving dynamics are making friendships more complicated.

[@CodeDusq1]

@@elatafalandoYes. Why you ask?

[@nyronlord2425]

What are you talking about?? This has to be the most autistic comment ive seen in a while. Go out an touch some grass.

[@aencity]

nina still loves ari and ari is too self centred and just wants her there for the attention she gives him 💀

[@aproximativanonim303]

thisss he just stepped on yes at the sex question bcz he knows she still likes him, did it just to keep a false hope so she'll stick around more to boost his ego

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

He treats her like a groupie

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

@@user-kp3rc4eq8x Well, she is a groupie. Other guys tried with her, but she only wants Ari

[@Isabela-ub1fx]

Ari and Nina look like they'll fight after this

[@babymi28]

Lmao

[@tommygermi6905]

Here in Italy level 1 of anger is insulting family members 😂

[@maclife2024]

😂😂 maybe Nj is Italian lol jk

[@fandm_fun504]

Lexi and Nick’s friendship is so pure and wholesome, I loved them 😊

[@Melbean]

I LOVE LEXI AND NICK SO MUCHHH

[@YashSingh-wg2oo]

Ari is kinda rude

[@ijustwannabehappier-v4973]

hes not rude. Hes narcissistic.

[@Mayamazingg]

@@ijustwannabehappier-v4973he’s both

[@ijustwannabehappier-v4973]

well sadly for you im a clinical psychologist. And saying he is a narcissistic is not diagnosing him, its merely pointing to his alarming behavior. I didnt say he had NPD.@@soandso5058

[@user-qx8cz9yx9v]

@@Luke_2828 he literally has traits of a narcissist. how else would you describe someone whos self-centred, emotionally unavailable, has difficulty considering the other person's side of things, weaponises obliviousness and takes advantage of someone elses feelings for them? Saying someone is narcissistic isn't a diagnosis, theres a difference between someone having narcissistic traits like Ari so obviously does and having a narcissistic personality disorder

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

​@@Luke_2828 Hi Ari. People without empathy for others are indeed narcissts.

[@mrblackbond]

@22:06 “Friends can kiss” is WILD! 🤦🏽‍♂️🫣🤔

[@jackyramirez7900]

Nina was talking about herself when she told ari to talk about how he feels with the person he’s sleeping with bc it’s going to get messy 😂

[@bitterninja]

15:42 the way they Nick and Lexi both laugh exactly the same way 😋😋😋

[@deechwita]

lexi and nick are THEE pretty best friends

[@KT-ov6vd]

Nina and ari are not best friends for sure..its one sided and i find him a bit scary

[@Aubrey2004-j4k]

True, he has a weird creepy vibe

[@marieolbjrn5457]

funny how the best friends are matching, especially Ari and Nina

[@emilyboersma2440]

Ari being the only person to not meet the other person halfway during the hug prompt tells me all I need to know

[@jagrubster]

Nina and Ari are stressing me out

[@adeadratlol3516]

After watching Ari and Nina interact, I finally understand how my parents felt when I brought home horrible guys

[@Chocobaebae]

😂😂😂

[@oxy_mwro]

ari and nina give me One Day vibes

[@gojogeto2840]

yeah but in the worst way possible

[@sophiaaaaHhhh]

@@gojogeto2840 😭😭😭😭

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Except he got what he wanted on day 1 😂