Did Brother Steal Mom’s Funeral Money? | Part 1

[@jennifer_mertens]

He's not complaining about having to care for his mother, he's complaining that he had to do so on his own. Siblings don't realize that watching after an elderly parent for ANY amount of time is exhausting and mentally grueling. It's hard to see your parent change with age and even weekend visits are not adequate to understand what a hard thing that is to deal with. The Defendant is right to be upset.

[@aPumpkn]

You being upset doesn't mean you get money for it.

[@allylondon9579]

It's absolutely hard. I'm doing that and did that for thr past 15 years. My sister starting helping past 2 years and she whines all the time 😒

[@destinygatez7068]

@@allylondon9579that’s disrespectful as a daughter. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with her extra crap.

[@satiashaw1857]

Agree completely. Well said

[@Mrs.F1]

Different people same life struggles😮‍💨

[@kay22100]

The person who primarily takes care of the parent should definitely get more. If my sister did more I’d want her to have most of the inheritance

[@melissaperry584]

I take care of my mother alone but I don’t for one ce one believe that I should get more from her estate. She has 4 children and we all deserve an equal amount.

[@gail2500]

@@melissaperry584 exactly!

[@kay22100]

@@melissaperry584 We disagree and that’s fine. The caretaker typically puts in not just time but also financial assistance while the other siblings put in nothing. Some children suffer financially and sacrifice for their parents so it’s only right they receive most. If I did nothing to take care of my mother I would not take anything from the estate but then again a person who does nothing for their elderly parent probably lacks character so they’d probably want to cash in

[@xoangelicaf0523]

I agree

[@xoangelicaf0523]

@@melissaperry584I disagree bc my aunt took care of my grandmother by herself for over a decade. She had no life bc of it. She deserves to get whatever for her sacrifice.

[@NoahMcleany]

Dude got his tie from the little kids section 😂

[@reencampbell4481]

I was surprised i didn’t find more comments…. It’s definitely a clip-on tie from the kids department 🤣🤣

[@Beegeezy144]

​@@reencampbell4481 I think you're right! 😭

[@lisaluv2sing]

😂😂😮

[@dinahbrown902]

He sure did. He knows no better.

[@Heather-ml4kj]

Hahaha

[@onyeomachinyeremaka6809]

*To all beautiful souls reading this wishing alots of happiness and good health.😊*

[@dawnsparks9207]

😉

[@joshuacoleman6947]

Bless you 🙏🏿✝️🙏🏿

[@dionnehawkins9395]

Thank you and same to you 💗🙏

[@Its_Vicccc.]

Thank you wishing you the same for you and your family ❤

[@carrietezeno3040]

Thank You Same To You

[@MEGIDIOT]

I feel the defendant. I, too, am the child out of three that takes most care of my parents and every time I try to point it out to defend why I’m entitled to more, people try to shame me by saying “oh it’s your parents, you should be doing that out of love”. I’m always asked to take the high road and my siblings will get equal inheritance despite not helping out while they’re alive.

[@Kaboomboo]

Yeah it sucks and it's not fair. But it ultimately is up to the owner of the estate. And you'll save yourself a lot of grief and anger just knowing that it's out of your hands. But trust me, I feel you 100%.

[@semosancus5506]

If there was no inheritance would you have done it anyway? Best to take the high road and give freely to your parents and not expect some kind of extra money from an estate.

[@kaymusic5584]

I feel the same way lost my mom's 3 weeks ago and have to split the inheritance, and they wouldn't even take her to an appointment.

[@anndeecosita3586]

Well some children don’t do more for aging parents because they are unable to do more because they don’t live close by and the parents refuse to move. Also this isn’t about inheritance but who is responsible for funeral expenses and how much. Do you feel like you shouldn’t have to chip in if your parents die without insurance because you do more for them?

[@BeeTeePee]

​@@kaymusic5584I am so sorry for your loss. I had to split inheritance 5 ways, 2 of them didn't even pick up the phone for years or even when she passed.

[@binkytube]

Funeral Homes really rake people of money at a very emotional time. It's pretty disgusting.

[@isabellavillanueva4639]

Word

[@xoangelicaf0523]

Well how can they run if they don’t get paid? Surely not off love

[@isabellavillanueva4639]

@@xoangelicaf0523 that’s true. But I feel like the process shouldn’t be so demanding at such a vulnerable and sensitive time.

[@nowirehangers2815]

@@xoangelicaf0523they will prey on your grief.

[@EnclaveColonel]

At the end of the day, it is a business, and the people working there are entitled to be paid for their time. Just like with lawyers, they don't do work 80 hours a week, so when they do work, they tend to get paid more for it.

[@kayd3021]

Taking care of a parent is so gruesome in their old age and it puts a lot of your own life on hold

[@lennellwaltonboxer]

Caring for children is also gruesome and they put their life on hold for 18 years to do it.

[@myrnajv3541]

I think the word you're looking for is grueling... gruesome means disgusting, unless you actually meant that 🤔

[@kayd3021]

@@lennellwaltonboxer children didn’t asked to be born

[@kayd3021]

@@myrnajv3541 whatever the word you get my drift

[@edwardranno7119]

Absolutely,almost killed me ,mom ,dad ,brother all died in same year,what a disaster

[@Fotosynthesis858]

Money has the potential to ruin any relationship. That’s why it’s the root of all evil

[@Dee-zy3pr]

The LOVE of money is the root of all evil.

[@yoyolo8465]

@@Dee-zy3pr Thank you for correcting this. People always get this quote wrong. Money in itself is not evil, because it's an inanimate object. It's the LOVE people have for money that's evil!

[@CandidLy1]

Greed is the root of all evil. Money is just the main way it’s brought into play.

[@yoyolo8465]

@@CandidLy1 The quote is in the Holy Bible: 1 Timothy 6:10 King James: For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

[@CandidLy1]

@yoyolo8465 I don’t care about quotes, the important thing is intentions of the heart. Greed will always find a way to exercise itself with or without money involved.

[@luna_m345]

As a person who provides and takes care of elderly parents, I do not do it out of obligation in exchange for raising me, which is what Judge Judy is implying should be the norm. It's taking care of family, not a barter system.

[@christschool]

Is the plaintiff wearing a boys clip-on tie?! Hillarious!

[@Jewlii123]

Came looking for this comment 😂😂😂 that's a tiny tie for such a big dude. Ridiculous!😂😂😂

[@kweenkay.y]

@@Jewlii123i burst out laughing! 😂😂

[@sandrawillis8966]

Maybe he has a health condition that would need tie removing fast. I think it's sensible when they are older.

[@DonGrigorianFishing]

That man's tie is distracting the heck out of me LOLL Whyyyy Why is it so short

[@garytaylor6635]

Came to the comments for this one ☝🏿🤣

[@semosancus5506]

He probably needs to go to a big and tall place to get a tie.

[@bonitaapplebum5450]

The inheritance wasn’t in full. So he couldn’t get the rest of the tie 😂

[@peacheskong2245]

​@@bonitaapplebum5450 STaaaaahppp😂😂😂😂😂

[@batybuwra87]

😩😂😂

[@domisthebomb09]

JJ has been uploaded, I can finally have my lunch. Panera (again)

[@madisonharkes226]

Panera > life

[@StrawberryHills211]

Diner here

[@Jesscoleman_420]

I’m making a ham and turkey sammich now! 😊

[@darkskinss]

😭😭😭

[@dollarmike7144]

Dinner for me 😊

[@harryrob8221]

This case doesn't need a part 2. The plaintiff has no case

[@lovingcareheatingandair6794]

Judy, parents are supposed to take care of their kids.

[@talent943]

Exactly, and he wasn't necessarily complaining about taking care of her. He was simply defending receiving the pension payout instead of the sister receiving anything.

[@Kaboomboo]

@@talent943 Yup. perfectly reasonable.

[@kay22100]

@@talent943 Exactly

[@ibcheel9021]

I was just about to say that. It makes me disappointed when she states things like that or that you need to forgive your family because that’s all you’ve got. What if your family is worse than many other strangers?

[@darlenefraser3022]

First of all, it’s JUDGE Judy to the likes of you, unless you are a personal friend of hers, speaking to her privately. She has earned the respect. Secondly, adult children also owe their parents when the parents get older unless they are entitled jerks.

[@rubyjaez]

Judge Judy scolded him as if he were complaining about caring for his mom. He only wanted to let her know that his Sister did nothing to help him take care of their mother.

[@theark1000]

Their mom took care of the daughter when she was a child too…so why put that only on the son.

[@TheeUncle313]

I can't stand when JJ tries to make people feel as if they owe their parents something for raising them.

[@cay924]

Its because she's old too lmao. Children don't ask to be born.

[@notme3686]

I don't understand why siblings would sue over something like this

[@hippo-potamus]

She took care of you as a kid is a BS argument. He didn't ask to be brought into this world.

[@Crazycatlady71]

No one asked to be born. No one asked to get old either, but it's life and if you're lucky, you get to grow old.

[@hippo-potamus]

@@Crazycatlady71 She brought him into this world therefore the least a mother and father can do, if they are not a total POS, is to take care of the child until he becomes self sufficient. So Judge Judy's argument is bogus.

[@kaysense6136]

@@hippo-potamus I agree with you !

[@Crazycatlady71]

@@hippo-potamus I agree with you on that completely. As parents age and may need assistance, there's usually one of their children that step up to help an aging parent, but doing it for a hope in personal gain disgust me. I took care of my dad for years with little to no help from my brothers. They had their family life's going on. I felt I had the honor and priveledge of being dad's primary caregiver. I got to know him as a person and enjoyed him to the end. I was divorced, 3 adult children, so I was in the perfect place to be there for my dad. I was with him thru my mom's terminal illness. We leaned on each other going thru my sweet mother's last couple years. Taking care of aging parents isn't for everyone. I'm aging with medical issues and my youngest daughter helps me out.

[@peacheskong2245]

​@@hippo-potamus It's even more bogus to think that society should look after your aging parents. So we should just let them rot to die because you didn't chose to be born yet, chose to stay alive?

[@irideaunicorn1620]

Well damn at least he contributed over $1,000 to the funeral costs.

[@L.Spencer]

Well that's a short tie! 👔

[@anndeecosita3586]

I would like to hear testimony about why the mother cashed in the life insurance policy after paying the premiums for so long. That doesn’t sound like something an elderly woman would do unless she or a relative was desperate for money or they thought their funeral expenses were going to be paid through a different pot of money. Did she give him the money from the cash out? My older relatives were always concerned about not burdening their children with burial expenses.

[@shendisackett]

I agree it does sound weird to cash one of those in.

[@stephaniehowe0973]

My former Mothr in law did. She thought she was borrowing n g free money with no consequences. She had a gambling issue

[@enyang1907]

JJ says defendant lived with mom when he was growing up, well yes that’s her job and responsibility as a mother. But after defendant is 18 up he ain’t responsible for his mother

[@NotWOKEButAWAKE]

JJ is right. It's called respect for your parents.

[@sandrawilson8737]

Be quiet and get a life

[@unique2023-lr8nu]

The plaintiffs husband is TIED UP😅😅

[@unique2023-lr8nu]

Lol

[@Sfgurl415]

That’s a shame that the mother cashed out her plan. My mother had one of these plans set up and had it not been for it we would’ve had to pay so much more money out-of-pocket for her funeral expenses. Just for context my mom passed away in 2017 and at that time her funeral came out to about $21,000. That included everything from her viewing to the casket and the cemetery plot. I think after her policy there was a balance of $5,000 still owed that myself and my brothers split 4 ways. It worked out well since we’re all financially stable so there wasn’t an issue paying it upfront. This is the reason I tell people especially as they get older to have a plan for their funeral. Whether it’s a burial or cremation. It’s not morbid. It’s practical.

[@isabellavillanueva4639]

She prob needed the money bad

[@Jesusluvme]

You got ripped off. $21k is excessive

[@yung1717]

Why did she mention ages 2,3,4? Parents are supposed to take care of their kids. That’s why they’re parents

[@pierre0227]

I don't blame the defendant on his sister. Both my sister and I were living with my dad and I had to take off work to take care of him and lost income. She didn't help much when she could have but his case is a bit different than mine. Mind you I am the last child of 4.

[@theanchorandcrown1061]

lunchtime

[@PhoenixForceTravelAgency]

The defendant was stating that the sister hadn’t helped with the care of their mother and JJ went on some rant about the mother raising him 😒🤨

[@MegaREALdiva]

Wait, so the mother cashed in her policies for x reason only to burden her children later with paying for her funeral. She essentially left them with nothing and now look at their relationship. Crazy.

[@urmwhynot]

JJ tells parents they're responsible for their kids until they're 18. But now changes her tune cos the defendant didn't catch on her trip wire when she asked if he lived at home. Can't have it both ways JJ

[@sandrawilson8737]

Be quiet she's educated your not

[@casual35]

That nudge at 2:28 was undetected! Would have been told something harsh.

[@raimeyewens7518]

I saw that. He was saying shut up lol

[@NiqueTheSneak1]

I didn’t realize this video was just uploaded less than 20 mins ago. I’m over here complaining about “where is part 2?!” Lol hopefully its coming 👀

[@erinhamilton8918]

Same 😅

[@Crazycatlady71]

I always try wait until I see Part 2 posted before watching Part 1. I didn't check the timing on this one. I'm waiting with the rest of the lunch crew for Part 2.

[@mymotherwasright3079]

Why on earth is the plaintiff wearing a toddler's tie?

[@nichollerusso8262]

Who sueses their own family and siblings tbh just sicking

[@billmoran3219]

JJ sure is scrutinizing defendant, he seems pretty credible. Shes telling him don’t go there in regards to the care and well being of his mother, meaning she doesn’t want to hear a story that him as a son is patting himself on the back for mothers care with no help from his siblings. What will part two entail ?

[@sandrawilson8737]

Get a life you need to

[@whyanything3879]

I LOVE the boyfriends elbow nudge to tell the daughter SHUT UP

[@giftedmonster5293]

As someone who took care of their mother post-strokes, it is definitely a big imposition to care for someone versus caring for a child. Catastrophically huge.

[@takeishadeburr]

Lunch Crew!! We’re here!!

[@trinity72gp]

Dinner time 😋

[@Nameless_mixes]

Parents are supposed to take care of their children. That’s why CPS and other services exist. If a child chooses to take care of their parents, then that’s a combination of the good will of the child and the parent having done a good enough job to be deserving of that. So what if the mother took care of him an extra 5 years? If she’d lived another 6, I’m sure he would’ve taken care of her for that time too. There’s no law that obligated a child to care for their parent once they’ve moved out. Some children can’t wait to get as far away from their parents as possible. As much as I thought the defendant going on about this was unnecessary for the testimony he was given, I can understand feeling frustrated with siblings wanting more inheritance when they didn’t do much to assist in taking care of their parents.

[@aloysiuspendergast7221]

There's such a thing called APS too.

[@lizg1976]

Caring for parents is very difficult and we would all appreciate help even if it in the form of a listening ear. I have one sister who comes down periodically just to make sure I have a break from going to the assisted living. My mom is bedridden and on oxygen and has been on Hospice twice. I am fortunate not to have to do the medical care but I am a hands on participant in her care because the aides are doing the back breaking work and move on to the next room. At one point I had both my parents. I appreciate anyone who is helping in any way with their elderly parents, you are all wonderful

[@mikejewell8518]

I wonder what the repeated left shoulder bump from the Husband was key for? 🧐 🤔 😂

[@jerseygirl8499]

Give it all away when you're living. Then no one knows what she gave anyone, and it's enjoyed while they're alive.

[@JacquesSpies]

Yes he lived there until he was 19, but so did the sister. 🙄

[@goodboydaz]

I dont like when people bring up the fact that Parents care for their kids for 18yrs or so. Like bruh thats their job haha

[@janus9824]

Who tied the Plantifs husbands tie or what child did he take it from? lol 3:40 The judge should have not tried to make him look bad with her comments. If he was the primary person taking care of their mother and his sister barely helped I understand why he feels entitled to that pension. Who knows what he had to sacrifice to take care of his mother when the sister did bare minimum now running with hands open after the death

[@sandrawilson8737]

Judge Judy is very beautiful and very intelligent and the best judge ever get a life

[@GardenOfGethsemanie]

JJ had to quickly switch her narrative when he said he didn't live at home with his mother. She knew full well she didn't mean as a child in her initial statement😏. Of course he lived with her as a child AND if he didnt then what does that mean??? He was not upset at taking care of his mother he was upset he was the only one doing it.

[@jswift8135]

Hey JJ Crew !!

[@Day-Day19]

Heyyy

[@lakeofalltrades]

Kids tie 👔 and raising your readers from your 👀 s to read is wild 😂 should we trust them lmaoooooo

[@aprilmccain3632]

I’m sorry but I wouldn’t like being the only sibling taking care of my mother.

[@bobmohk397]

Not the tie😂😂😂

[@MaseRhea]

We all have our own policies.. We just all agreed to pay a portion for the final expenses. Any of the siblings who lets their policy get canceled gets nothing from the others, but also isn’t responsible for paying anything either. That was fair to us.

[@loralubimaia2783]

What an obnoxious case. The poor woman is rolling in her grave watchijg tgese fools destroy the family over 4k

[@ibcheel9021]

So just he left home when he was 19. He took care of his mother for 14 years. Are saying that if he left home at 14 years old then he would be even with his mom? Or are you saying that she didn’t have to take care of him for the first 5 years of his life? Parents are supposed to take care of their children. Plaintiff did nothing and is now entitled to more? No I don’t agree so far…

[@sarabpreetkaur3360]

George, my cat also has the same tie as the plaintiff and also the same length. George looks dapper though.

[@Jewlii123]

Omg 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@AntoniusReginaldus]

Judge Judy made a point of refusing to tolerate his horn-tooting about how many years he had to take care of his mother without tallying up how many the daughter had done. We have no idea how much he spent during those years. Anyway. I also noticed that the plaintiff did not go "SHHH!" to Judge Judy while she was trying to read the documents and Judge Judy decided to editorialize about them.

[@Juventinos]

Can't take this case seriously with that tie.. i just can't. that tie can't be so smal, it just can't

[@christinecrites835]

My mom's services were about 5k. It was wonderful.

[@Sam123QU29]

She had to take her glasses off to read. Reality check

[@dawnsparks9207]

Early evening 19.00 London love your messages 😃 lunchtime ♥️

[@LoLLilo]

Come on guys it’s Friday atleast give us 5 episodes… please. Whose feet do I have to kiss? I’ll do it

[@Beegeezy144]

Someone get that man a longer tie, please. 😂👔

[@JudithSweeney-p1o]

Why wait 'til the very last minute and beyond? Inexplicable.

[@marshallheadchief8744]

I just feel bad for the tie. Sort of got short changed and didn't get to be used in its full capacity. Just a shame

[@Godblessed2]

Just finished my chicken parm sandwich- ready to settle in with JJ 🤗

[@patricia91923]

So just because our parents CHOSE to have kids, and did their JOB as parents of those kids they CHOSE to have...that means we HAVE to care for our parents once theyre old? Yeah, no.

[@nowirehangers2815]

Yes Patricia.

[@tayishaswain7863]

I need to see the rest

[@saige80]

Objection in the court!!!!!! I’m sorry, the first thing I noticed was the toddler tie on the plaintiff…that is it…that is all. Carry on Judge Judy!!!

[@pgppe9488]

It is sad and embarrassing that we continue to argue over money or assets at the birth of loved ones. The money in most examples is minimal.

[@cloud8315]

I've asked my parents for ONE thing when they pass ... NO PROBLENS W THEIR 3 OTHER OFFSPRING✌🏼

[@TortoiseJames]

People use these family fights as a form of mourning. We need to learn how to mourn with purpose. This lawsuit and whatever money is not going to bring her mother back but fighting with him somehow makes her feel better about their mom being gone.

[@valdoicon]

Need part 2

[@eddievastag7818]

captain clip-on... lol.

[@Yourock123]

Why is the husband involved? This is between the sister & the brother.

[@55hivealive3]

I'm sorry for being so petty, but I am so dead over the necktie length on the plaintiff's side

[@Kausten]

Woot!

[@ritamariealan93]

Why he got that lil ass tie on 🤣🤣🤣

[@RedPanda79]

Only because I gave birth to my kids I do not feel they owe me later in life. It will be nice but they did not ask to be here.

[@jeanprice2514]

She sounds like she was just trying to get over on her brother. Buddy trust me. Not all family is worth being around.

[@jerseygirl8499]

Two of us did everything. Our sibling barked orders from afar (same distance all of us were from our parent). When we requested compensation for doing everything, the other had his tantrum. At the end of the day, I decided not to pursue anything. He has to live with how he treated us. I sleep very soundly. And I should add none of us needed the money. It was a matter of being fair to the two of us who came to the party to work, not as a guest. Sad but true. My parents would be rolling over in their graves.

[@janetholmes733]

My mither died at age 84. Her policy was 3000. Her funeral was 8400. She had 10 children. 9 of us divided the remaining 5400 dollars... The 10th sibling who was never around paid nothing... There was no argument....or court......mother would not have wanted that... So it is...

[@drew6846]

That tie is shorter than my nephews clip on…

[@BR54niner]

Poor fella accidentally retrieved a tie out of a 12 yo’s closet by mistake. 😁🤭♥️

[@porkchopjp]

judy can be wrong so many times

[@sandrawilson8737]

Your wrong she's educated your not

[@scf7334]

2:28 the guy with the ridiculous short tie just nudged that lady big time - surprised JJ didn’t say something about it

[@TheAray6]

I feel for the defendant. All I can say is that older people even younger people need to be better about planing for their deaths. Have a funeral policy and for the love of god make a will. Death is hard to talk about it but why leave your family with making these decisions for you. Especially your children. After your gone they will need you guidance and help more than anything and you won’t be their to give it so way not guide them and make the decisions for them. Give them relief.

[@tinasung3814]

Plaintiff's husband doesn't seem to be interested in looking at any paperwork or anything....just a standing statue : ).

[@PaigeBook]

Lunch crew!!!

[@tovah8841]

No inheritance?????🤯🤯 I’m so confused…

[@hateisforlosers6116]

This is your Parent!!! Thats what we are suppose to do!!!

[@sterlingforbes3872]

His tie length 😀

[@DIDYOUSEETHAT172]

3:54 YES!! LMAO!! 😜😜😂😂👍👍⭐⭐

[@exlibrislreal]

That's a tiny tie 👔

[@alanratay4583]

So, Mr. Hutchinson, are you aware that you are wearing a child’s clip on tie?

[@ltsoul9751]

He doesn't owe her anything mothers choose to give birth, so that's her responsibility. She took care of them both, so the daughter should have helped out. He's not on the pplus side for a person doing the bare minimum.

[@nicolemonrue]

I see yall!! (lunch crew)

[@snsn7251]

These guys really have time to waste. Disgusting why take him to court when the mother left the pension to him.

[@jdona2504]

Where us part 2 please

[@takeishadeburr]

It comes at 1:30pm (CST)

[@davidmercer803]

JJ is wrong here 1) the mother was supposed to care for him at least until he was 18 she had him not the other way around. 2) he wasn’t complaining about the care, just him doing it alone. She always want to be right even when she’s not

[@sandrawilson8737]

Your wrong get a life

[@LilyBell-Beneaththecrust2023]

She took care of the other sibling as well, so what's judy's point?