Hello everybuddy. I've been working on the techniques in these videos for 9 months. I've learned how to love myself and stop living with labels. The thoughts are still there, yet I have become skilled at which thoughts I allow to manipulate me. I've learned about boundaries and defensive behavior. I'm 50 years old , I wish I would have learned these practices years ago .
@CC-qf6zz3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing!
@shweetiepetina1563 Жыл бұрын
👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
@mschrisfrank24203 жыл бұрын
Writing my thoughts down has greatly helped me manage them.
@ohnope_3 жыл бұрын
can't afford therapy this is a life saver thank u so much
@tiarajessy94913 жыл бұрын
Same, i live in India ,and here therapy is expensive as shit!
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Bam - glad it's helping.
@44nk963 жыл бұрын
Why aren’t more therapists like you? So many are just dead in the eyes. Sorry to be so glum, but it’s fantastic to see one that has expression! Thank you for your content.
@IM-uh5tk3 жыл бұрын
2:45 you cannot control your thoughts but you can learn how to manage them when they come in 4:34 acknowledge that your thoughts exist; do not ignore/deny them 7:00 your brain is always going to throw defeat-ful thoughts at you and that's okay 10:45 attach to the ones that are helpful and detach from ones which are not 13:13 decide which thoughts you want to be thinking
@reenasingh-id9zh3 жыл бұрын
Does this happen to everyone ,I thought I am the only one having tough times with weird thoughts.
@robertopalomo28283 жыл бұрын
Believe me , you are not the only one
@victoriastallard3 жыл бұрын
Reena Singh No, you aren't the only one that is like this.
@lttlod13 жыл бұрын
This is helpful! Therapists I've worked with in the past said thoughts are just thoughts. However, I think my thoughts relate a lot to my core beliefs about myself. So, my beliefs are the things that are hard to change for me. I see the thoughts as a symptom of what I believe to be true about myself or what others believe about me that I take on as truth. Trying to let go of that is hard. Work in progress!
@anbathanga46603 жыл бұрын
Got it! I should not ask,"Which thought is true? But which ones are helpful?" Great insight!
@jeraldbaxter35325 ай бұрын
So much helpful information in this video! Important distinction between " positive thoughts" and helpful thoughts; back in the 1950s, 60s and 70s, when "The Power of Positive Thinking" was popular, people naturally equated positive with helpful, but time has proven the error. This video helps untangled that the knotty contradictions.
@unconversantcallowincandes15403 жыл бұрын
Admitting that your thoughts do not DEFINE you darlings. We can not control anything ALL the time. When the negative thoughts arise tell yourself immediately in that moment that this thought is a BAD Habit, what I've been taught poorly, I can change my mind, I am Allowed to be whoever I want to be, and this negative habit is NOT that person. I can grow. I can learn. I can adapt. I AM capable of taking care of my needs to drive healthy behavior and mindsets.
@khyati77333 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this!
@carloshernandez.99253 жыл бұрын
THIS SHOULD GO VIRAL! Thank you so much Julia, you're awesome! So your videos and content in general
@christinapennell50733 жыл бұрын
Reframing from negative to unhelpful thoughts. And responsible thinking......I like that. Hello from Tacoma Washington.
@izawaniek25683 жыл бұрын
Thank you Julia, you are saving people’s lives by what you are doing.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Grateful it connected and good for you for showing up for yourself and doing this work.
@izawaniek25683 жыл бұрын
@@juliakristinamah Thank you.
@stoneyvowell12393 жыл бұрын
I really like that boss in a meeting analogy, especially if you use the DID or OSDD personality model.
@flosotall30413 жыл бұрын
This video is so liberating to know we are always in control of our mind. We have got to be intentional about the thoughts we choose to think . Beautiful 😍
@goodlivelive26213 жыл бұрын
It really works on me Some one did helped Visit him on wha'txpp......💪💪
@Hannah431-z5z3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your content! I just stumbled upon your channel recently - I appreciate the aesthetic your videos have, and also that you don’t edit out every single pause or breath you take... feels like you are truly speaking to me/us. ✨
@freshliving41993 жыл бұрын
Doubt ALL thought for they are not your own. Watch them come and then watch them leave…bye bye thoughts. We are not meant to live by thinking from thoughts. But by knowing from understanding. Don’t think, just know.
@bobbylincoln78693 жыл бұрын
wow this is great ,,,,, your learn something new everyday
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Hopefully! That's how we know we're growing.
@katsthoughts81713 жыл бұрын
I always really enjoy your videos and feel I always learn something. Thanks for doing what you do.
@MissDoreen3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Julia ❤😊I definitely recommend joining the Shift Society 😊
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Hi Shifter - really glad you're here - and there ;-)
@GeoKN3 жыл бұрын
I joined the shift society a few weeks ago and done anything 🤔 listening to this was helpful and has motivated me to join next zoom meeting on Wed
@izawaniek25683 жыл бұрын
Which thoughts are helpful and which are you intentionally willing to think, which are after consideration result in responsible action. What do you need to hear from yourself ? It is not about me but them. Julia, this video is PERFECT! A life-changer! Thank you so much! Which thought is helpful? We can manage ourselves, becoming in charge of your mind is POWER! And a path to living a REAL FULL LIFE!
@paulinepasierowski12013 жыл бұрын
I have been following Julie for several months now and I so appreciate your Teachings, thank you Julia
@mcarolinejoseph61543 жыл бұрын
Julia Kristina your awesome thanks you help me get better understanding of my situation ❤️😊 thank you
@mamabear54883 жыл бұрын
Always glad to be here! Ty gor saying you can't stop your brain!!!! 💕🎉🎉🎉
@mamabear54883 жыл бұрын
Thank you thank you thank you!❤ Love your video's you read my mind all the time!🙏
@antonboludo88863 жыл бұрын
Excellent and very helpful. Many thanks and Happy Canada Day.
@CC-qf6zz3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately people are not taught this-so many parents are not capable of teaching this and the school doesn’t teach this.
@lifecoachakramm54273 жыл бұрын
that was so nice 👌🏻 thanks Julia 🙏🏻
@maritescampo26743 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Julia,it help me a lot.take good care too
@toastrecon3 жыл бұрын
Great video, thank you! Helpful insight.
@jaxorbetter3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@inshrakhan51213 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤its so helpful and thats what my brain is saying right now
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Ha! Love it.
@NancyKnous-ez9rj Жыл бұрын
I just came across you and love every video I have watched!
@victornunag17993 жыл бұрын
Hi new subcriber here from the philippines. Your videos are very helpful please keep on uploding. God bless you and ty for this great video.
@gsakcay3 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@rsnsol24903 жыл бұрын
Can you explain what you mean exactly when yoy say "grounded". Might be a good topic for a video. Thankyou.
@chrishorbatt35043 жыл бұрын
I really like your videos, I'm just stuck getting past some parts.I see the overall reasoning but thinking thoughts that make me feel the way I want to feel seams like I might be missing some reality checks that I might need to function in the environment I'm trying to exsist in.
@dannyp29703 жыл бұрын
Your nature will still keep you grounded. You will just reprogram your brain to not overthink these topics because overthinking it also creates a false reality that is negative to your health
@MaggieWebster-o4r8 ай бұрын
Absolutely love this video so helpful thank you ❤
@coachmark823 жыл бұрын
Good information, as usual...appreciate your insight and perspective...rock on...
@raiderlove59233 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. It's very informative and helpful for me.
@bobdavis97272 жыл бұрын
Too many people whimsically assume without questioning themselves and others. Inquiry deepens the pool of meaning and increases relevance, reliance, reality,…
@varun.shenoy103 жыл бұрын
Happy Canada Day Julia 🇨🇦🤗
@patriciasantiago83573 жыл бұрын
Thanks Julia...greetings from Guadalajara, Mexico.
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Hello Patricia from Vancouver, Canada.
@AlexLopez-bz9ek3 жыл бұрын
Great stuff, going trough difficult time and your videos has helped me big time
@lindahebb4832 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting
@hunterdanielserpebecker55863 жыл бұрын
A video of responsible thinking would be helpful for me to stop overthinking
@victoriastallard3 жыл бұрын
Hunter Daniel Serpe I agree with you 💯 I too would Love to see a video on Responsible thinking 🤔 :)
@mamabear54883 жыл бұрын
Great video! Ty💕
@wandarichard18653 жыл бұрын
I'm new. Greetings to all from California!
@MariaSantos-gm7ps3 жыл бұрын
Great. Thank you”
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Maria - glad you're here
@robertpicobancroft38693 жыл бұрын
I'm back again....thank you
@zeenatbanedar75753 жыл бұрын
thank you for the video..really helpful...pls upload color videos
@annperez13 жыл бұрын
Excited to be here, and learn this 5 steps!
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Glad you're here too Ann
@chrismcevoy25032 жыл бұрын
Hello again Julia!
@Word-Smithy2 жыл бұрын
Excellent content!
@andrewhohmann86333 жыл бұрын
These negative thoughts are driving me crazy. Your right thoughts are thoughts how liberating. I tried to looking for your free guide but it’s asking me to sign up for a monthly payment.
@kidistyeshialem523 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your lessons....
@medinac76183 жыл бұрын
Good morning sunshine
@KenRuan3 жыл бұрын
We are simply vessels for incoming thoughts
@MariaSantos-gm7ps3 жыл бұрын
Hello Julia Kristina”
@timothystone37262 жыл бұрын
I think some thoughts are environmental, spiritual,intuitive or primordial.
@steviemcintyre97183 жыл бұрын
Very helpful
@tamarafox4293 жыл бұрын
Hi Julia 👋
@stevecatanio8532 Жыл бұрын
Hey. You're awesome.
@captaindan10003 жыл бұрын
It's important to be your own brain boss because what's the alternative? Hire someone else to run it for you? They don't have temp agencies for that kind of thing. Also who else is to be the boss but you?
@khyati77333 жыл бұрын
Its about being the boss of your mind, as opposed to your mind controlling you
@monaqualunque2 жыл бұрын
This upload is a Helpful Thought. Thanks. Much of the advice folks give is Unhelpful Thought, but some of these folks are manipulative and have made them Intrusive Thoughts which are harder to avoid ruminating on. I've really been needing to become the boss of my own mind again.
@gamersroom83743 жыл бұрын
hey Julia, first of all lots of love from India.this is my first time watching your video , I have a issue and I don't know whom should I ask about it,who will be better then you, So the thing is I don't know why I can't let people raise their voice at me like I get hurt and angry if somebody shout at me , what happened is 15 days before I was hanging out with my girlfriends and one of their boyfriend was on call and he pushed us further so there's no disturbance on call and we went a bit further and started talking and suddenly out of no where he shouted at me shut up and and tears came up and I said I don't even listen to my mom's raised voice who he is ? And came back home so the my two girls friends are like my sister they are my childhood friend so I consider them my sister and she talked to her bf that it wasn't right of him to shout at me and later she called me that it was wrong of me too that I said who he is because he is also 6 year old friend he was quite close he texted me sorry too but I didn't read it and denied that I can't talk to him anymore as he disrespected me and I won't agree that it was wrong of me to say that because I think he got response against what he did , from that day she isn't talking to me and I am feeling weird like that is my boundry I can't let somebody shout at me I can't take it but then I think maybe I should have agreed that it was wrong of me to say so ,I am in selima please help me
@dkdawe13 жыл бұрын
I think I have a mixed relationship with that word ‘control’ also…. Lol
@joeoluwa653211 ай бұрын
Wow! wow!! wow!!!❤
@user-Wfkyles Жыл бұрын
William Kyles
@raymondmedina3244 Жыл бұрын
Hello everyone) a lesson learned from what was said
@SusieSundaeBubbles013 жыл бұрын
Susie here!
@tiarajessy94913 жыл бұрын
😶?
@tiarajessy94913 жыл бұрын
Oh wait ur introducing yourself! .....Hi Susie, Tiara here❤️
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
Hi Susie - glad you're here.
@TheIllerX3 жыл бұрын
Well, theoretically the advice here is reasonable, but... I have experience in trying CBT and similar techniques. I am not ruling out it might help others, but things are not so simple for me at least. You cannot expect to use logic and sort out what thoughts you want hold on to and so on. The problem is that we are not pure logical Vulcans from Star Trek. The reason tons of thoughts you don't want continue to pop into your head is emotional. And those emotions needs to be adressed before any lasting positive change can be made. Meditation is one very good way of self therapy and adressing your emotions. A healthy lifestyle and some sense of purpose in life will also help of course. So if we really could choose thoughts like in the video it would be excellent, but if you really can do that you are either not human or don't have any greater emotions behind the bad thoughts in the first place. I appreciate the effort in the video though and I hope it helps other people.
@mschrisfrank24203 жыл бұрын
She literally says you can’t choose your thoughts, that’s the whole point of the video. And often, your thoughts trigger emotions and not the other way around. So to manage your feelings, you work on managing your response to your thoughts. She’s also talking about “helpful” thoughts not “logical” thoughts.
@billgoldly39623 жыл бұрын
In fact, I think most people do …..including Julia
@raphaelmontoya2862 жыл бұрын
hi
@kennethjenkins10943 жыл бұрын
Sam Harris talks about the thoughts that just pop up into you head
@juliakristinamah3 жыл бұрын
that's right - we can't stop those from ever happening
@tanyakashyap69443 жыл бұрын
Wow ❤️🤩
@FG-zo4om3 жыл бұрын
💯
@inshrakhan51213 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@michelleharris99922 жыл бұрын
Can you email me how to handle life being Bipolar… and outbursts for no reason…Being called crazy and a clown
@JoseSantos-t5r Жыл бұрын
Y
@thomas48572 жыл бұрын
I prefer a narcissist or other owner take control of the brane
@thomas48572 жыл бұрын
Can I beg you for a favor? Can you do a podcast or message me in comment how to use your mind for strict logic strict logic. You got a taste of it when studying for your msw test. I'd be in your debt