Telling mother-in-law to not feed the baby chocolate but she doesn't stop [Part 2] | K-DOC

[@92Kandee]

The mother-in-law needs to start listening to her daughter & son-in-law; that baby is her grandchild, NOT her child. She needs to respect how the parents want to raise their child.

[@penrhyngirl9444]

So rude and so disheartening. She doesn't even care, keep the baby away from her.

[@cloverclo6329]

But when the grandparents don’t listen it’s the parents responsibility to step in and enforce their own rules and guidance according to how they want their child raised

[@mijnschatvita]

Kinna different culture.. Because sometime the grandmother though she is more experiance raise kid that the mother of kids

[@92Kandee]

@@user-qy4hc8uw4p not sure why where I'm from matters but no, I'm not.

[@92Kandee]

@@mijnschatvita she has more experience raising kids yet she gives an infant unhealthy foods & doesn't listen nor seem to respect the individuals who brought this child into the world. Mhmm

[@tracydo6869]

I’m a parent and totally understand and I’m on his sides. No one should feed your kids anything without the parents permission

[@MrFARHY]

Its ASIA, not EUROPE. Kids matter is also part of big family matter

[@Cincelia]

@@MrFARHY I am asian and I still want to know want my child eats especially at 1 years old, I had to take my friends baby to the emergency room because their grandma was giving something to the baby secretly and it caused a huge allergic reaction, so bad the neck swelled up so fast my friend was in tears

[@sammylee5474]

@@MrFARHY The country doesn't matter

[@lalavienrose953]

@@MrFARHY i am Asian. And I would be angry if my mom would feed my child something that I don't want to feed my child. Let us not try to seperate asiana nd western culture, okay? What is unhealthy is still unhealthy. Asian or not.

[@victoriousvic23]

I never allowed my kids to eat junk food and I get so mad when in laws give them chips and candies. Once when one of my son was 8 months old, his dumb grandma gave him hot Cheetos. The one time she held him she did something stupid.

[@sammylee5474]

The grandma could seriously hurt the baby with too much sugar and food. Sometimes the fathers have to learn to take care of their kids without all that interruption. I honestly hope their next baby is born safely and healthy, and they get to a point where they're financially secure and are able to maintain their health.

[@sammylee5474]

Lol 69 likes

[@agungprasetyo2665]

Its typical indonesian mom does..

[@Lilly-leaf]

Pls stop,she's not going to hurt her Grandchild

[@sammylee5474]

@@Lilly-leaf Pointing out the problem makes others aware that it is actually a problem. Diabetes as a child is a horrible thing to have. Unfortunately, in low income families they are exposed to obesity, diabetes and vitamin deficiency, no matter the country. They aren't aware of the dangers of just feeding your child anything at anytime because they like it. I too was subject to such harmful eating habits. As a child I didn't realize it, but my parents did and they did nothing until later on, but by then I had stopped. Nothing wrong with enjoying special things like sweets and candies, but it's best to take everything in moderation.

[@slee2695]

Lmao but the child abuse in the form of veganism is ok

[@tayazsweetluv]

I know everyone is laughing, but this is a really serious issue and could case a major strife in their marriage. Sure, my in laws and I don’t always agree on things when it comes to my baby, but in all fairness, they have respected and done everything I have asked them to do. Babies should be taught healthy eating habits from a young age - no need for sweets in the first year!

[@mattsy9087]

my parents always give into my little brothers pickiness so now he doesn't eat anything but bread and cheese- like he's literally obese for his age (he's one smh). i'm so concerned for his health

[@Eeeelllleee]

Exactly! My cousin used to eat fish and vegetables only but his mother keeps on feeding him sweets but don’t force him in eating healthy foods. It’s sad that he doesn’t even eat fruits and prefers ice cream and anything sweets than eating a banana or an apple. It always starts with “it’s just a small bite just for them to try” but kids ended up eating unhealthy foods because it’s different than what they’re used to.

[@nicolelewis6312]

Agreed. There are so many ways to enjoy a sweet food without using refined sugar. You can't feed a baby what you enjoy because we have an acquired taste as adults that may not be healthy for toddlers.

[@penrhyngirl9444]

My niece lost most of her teeth to drinking coke all by the age of 5

[@seekittycat]

My friend is a dentist and tells me so many toddlers have horrible teeth because they just eat sugar all day and then suck on their pacifier. Imagine needing surgery by 2-3 years old because all your teeth are rotten. And it hurts everytime you chew. As a child :(

[@delphinea.2848]

I would unapologetically take away my child from anyone that would put its health in danger. Intentionally or unintentionally, good intentions or not, there really is NO excuse here. If the parents say no, it's no.

[@kkde9211]

Exactly You can have a good intentions but harm someone :D I know this isn't the best example but for example fast fashion. You might have good intentions but it brings people harm. The same way you might love the baby but feed it shit it's not supposed to eat for your own reasons lol

[@dofco3227]

Leave the granny alone

[@edith_ing]

@@dofco3227 wont

[@Bluespirit3434]

How would the father learn parenting if the mother in law keeps taking his child away? Smh

[@Bluespirit3434]

@Dah Nae i'm asian too..i can relate too you lol we should respect the elders but sometimes they take this respect for granted and they think they can just do anything

[@melt9863]

@Dah Nae .. I think the respect has to be both ways. Feels like the mother in law thinks because she’s the elder that her ways are always right and it’s not. She actually justifies feeding the little baby all that sugar by saying it’s homemade! No apology or anything!! Sugar is still sugar !! It’s horrible she’s feeding that to a little baby.

[@CarmenRodriguez-gq5gq]

@Dah Nae the first thing the in laws need to realize is that being a grandparent grants them no right to the kids. the kids are not theirs. the grandparents should respect the wishes of the parents.

[@MTCDiana]

Even though he must be ‘scary looking’ to koreans, he seems really gentle and sweet

[@CanopusLux]

This is what I thought the whole video. I bet he has to go to trough alot discrimination.

[@lin3970]

@@CanopusLux "Reverse Racism", poor white man

[@oneirodynia8863]

@@lin3970 It would just be called Racism, but it’s Prejudice in this case since ppl may think negatively of his character based on his looks not bcs of his race.

[@oneirodynia8863]

@UCEqOHMJONl5-0AxvGLDHHEw I assume you’re trying to say in that first part that when white people experience prejudice from asians it’s messed up (which I agree with) It still isn’t racism, which other races may experience, but the selectivity exists because at most the *feelings* of a white person are hurt; their lives are not threatened in any way. In your second paragraph, I’m trying to understand if it’s satire or not? It’d be extremely concerning if it wasn’t, promoting White Supremacist ideology.

[@oneirodynia8863]

@@lin3970 Did you delete your comment? Don’t see it and the @ is showing randomized lettering.

[@bryannakelly8676]

he's literally one of the best foreign dads ive seen on here

[@doyouhavevaginaldryness1130]

Isn’t he a bum tho?

[@NaomiIsSoAwesome98]

@@doyouhavevaginaldryness1130 how? He works, makes food, takes care of the baby

[@nehasaxena7046]

@@NaomiIsSoAwesome98 exactly honey that's why he is a great dad and the mother is great too.

[@veramoraa5609]

And they don't want him to also take care of his baby and even spend time yet he wants to unlike many fathers it's sad

[@boberikson1242]

What's sad is you say he's one of the best but actually he's doing the bare minimum

[@YourHotness-dc2ml]

The dad is learning and trying to keep his baby healthy. For the mother-in-law, she should know better. If she won't listen, she might not see her grand daughter again. She may be banned 😂 Feeding chocolate or any kind of sweets to babies is a "N.O". Dear mother-in-law, you ought to listen, okay?! You are making moms and dads stressful 🙄 😂 if you are my mother, I'm not letting you take care of my baby, good thing you are not 😂

[@jennyk629]

She’s also establishing an unhealthy behavior for the child, and undermining the parents. You can’t always say yes.

[@minervaowl8298]

The wife is pregnant too. She’s making her stress

[@Kaiwo983]

I would respectfully take my child away from her and let her know that I don’t appreciate her doing things I’ve explicitly asked her not to.. as a parent, you have to set boundaries

[@jamesbrowny9488]

It's the famous " Elder's Power ". The only thing you can do is respectfullytry to discuss with her.

[@Kaiwo983]

@@jamesbrowny9488 well clearly discussion isn’t working with this woman.. she wouldn’t be allowed to see my child if she couldn’t be respectful..

[@missdaii]

It’s good to teach children to eat on their own at an early age! I work at a daycare and often see 2 year olds that don’t know how to grab a spoon.

[@jakeshim8785]

ikr, i feel the mc shouldnt confront the parents just bcs they have different parenting method which wont harm the kid

[@missdaii]

@@jakeshim8785 yeah the way he was saying it was like whaaat???! I know it’s a show but they are from different cultures and obviously are going to have different parenting methods

[@idasofea9300]

2 years and don't know how to grab a spoon,and at there we can see their never use moto skills..

[@myrth1991]

troot. also it helps the development of their motor skills and senses.

[@thatgirl3960]

Children should develop at their own pace, not for your convenience!

[@boraleiv]

I am shocked at how the mother in law oversteps her boundaries with this child. She is the grandmother but thinks she can raise this kid however she’d like without consideration for the parents requests/rules. And the whole taking dad’s time away from the child and childrearing- that’s so sad for the new dad who wants to be hands on. I’m so mad on his behalf!

[@salve1185]

his mother-in-law is so annoying and very immature, she thinks secretly feeding the baby with chocolate is funny? grow up dear grandma! You have already raised your kids when they were little, let your grown up kid raise theirs! If i were the baby’s mom, I will immediately take away my baby from her and will seriously warn her that if she ever give my baby those adult food, I will not let her have my baby under her care again

[@TJ-id5td]

She even show hitting fist on her daughter while filming tells alot. Childish and not aware about the serious consequences on the effect on baby's health (her own grandchild is too young to take all these yet). If my mother secretly repeating not respecting the house rules, I may just not let her come in for awhile for my baby's future health sake. When child grows up find out her granny giving her 'junk' adult food, who should she blame, mother or her grandmother or both?

[@LissetteLissie]

The Grandmother has absolutely not respect for her daughter, son in law and granddaughter. She has been told many times to stop doing certain things yet she continues. If the Wife wants to save her marriage, she needs to cut ties with her mother until she learns her lesson. The Grandmother is indirectly trying to break them up. Her actions speak volumes. Many fathers are not as involved with their children and so the grandmother steps in to help. This case is different. The Father is willing to cook, bathe and feed the baby but the in law keeps interfering, not helping at all. I hope she watched herself and realized the damage all the little things she does are creating mayhem in her family's marriage. Lots of little things become one big something called divorce. The Father needs to be respected and so does the mother. The Grandmother needs to stop coming around them for a long while.

[@NzPhenomenon]

Lol. That’s a bit extreme…. you can’t just cut your own mother like that…. Especially if it’s not that serious… how can you cut out your own mother who gave you life and raised you. This is probably how she raised her children in the past. So, obviously it’s new to her. Does it condone the things that she does? no. But education is more important than punishment.

[@cheycheyfriend247]

@@NzPhenomenon dude if it persists it’s gotta stop. Education won’t do shit for her. You have absolutely no idea how damn entitled Asian elders are. They won’t change for anyone

[@NzPhenomenon]

@@cheycheyfriend247 doesn’t mean you need to cut her out… I mean, each to their own though.. I disagree. I would never do that to my mom, even if we don’t see eye to eye. Just saying. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@krshna_priya_kp]

@@NzPhenomenon Cutting people like these out of your life is the best thing you can do for yourself your marriage your husband and your child. The women is pregnant for godsake imagine the amount of stress she has because of her own mother. Undoubtedly she would've done the same thing for her daughter and that partially influences why she has slightly high blood sugar now during pregnancy. Doesn't matter if it's your mother or father if your doing things that's going to harm my baby and treat me my husband AND my child with no respect kiss my ass you ain't coming near my child again until you fix that attitude of yours. The parents are repeatedly saying their concerns and not to do it yet the reason she has is because she made the shiz from scratch. I wouldn't want my child to grow up around people with this much entitlement.

[@kairee8989]

I agree. If she really loves her daughter and son in law,she would respect them. But in this case,lack of respect means crossing boundaries.

[@cloverclo6329]

Tips to people dealing with overbearing in-laws or parents. It’s not that they don’t listen it’s that they don’t care because they’ve raised kids before and feel they know better or “it’s fine”. They hear you. It’s up to you to ENFORCE those boundaries you want to set. Yeah it’s going to cause some form of confrontation but it comes down to how important it is to you and partner to CONSISTENTLY enforce those boundaries

[@cloverclo6329]

Omg commenter is an ASS saying “ I can’t believe you leave her there to figure out what to do with it”. She’s 10 months! My son was feeding himself at 6 m0nths and he’s a great eater now. This mom and dad are doing an amazing job and no recognition.I hope they know how amazing a job they’re doing despite the lack of support, respect, and understanding

[@tokee1234567]

Blw is a very new concept in Korea. My mom was appalled when I did that with my baby lol

[@laceylingerie]

yeah i was appalled hearing the commentator saying that. i mean babies are not completely helpless. when it comes to something basic and instinctual as babies always wanting to pick up things and putting it in their mouths, this is as natural as it gets! so why not!! it’s common sense! ugh i’m so angry just watching this entire video

[@UncloudedHope06]

@@tokee1234567 same here...they were surprised my son could drink water and milk on his own from the tiny soju cup at like 7months

[@pagelee1101]

That's why my daughter is extremely picky now. I would prepare food for her and tell my mom to feed what I made her whenever she babysat, but she just kept giving my baby oatmeal and sweets only and now I have to wait till she starts understanding to enforce better eating habits. It's so infuriating and frustrating.

[@kkde9211]

Wow I'm sorry. I know she had good intentions and I hope you can see that she didn't mean harm, however that really is infuriating. I'd suggest you build up the good eating habit. It's okay if she's picky, it doesn't last forever :)

[@edith_ing]

@@kkde9211 She’s just lazy and doesn’t respect boundaries

[@melzer1377]

I got so pissed off seeing that smirk on the mother in law's face when the hosts scolded her at the end. Her face basically says so what, i don't see anything wrong with what i am doing. From there, you just know she's never ever gonna change her ways. I just hope it does not come to a point where her daughter's husband gets so tired of the MIL poking her nose everywhere that he moves back to his home country and she won't be able to see the grandchild anymore.

[@kairee8989]

She deserves it if the son in law decides to move far away from her toxic attitude

[@lightwings346]

the daughter doesnt really care either from the looks of it. "mom! stop feeding her chocolate!" then she goes right back to her phone lol

[@tanyadev1782]

It is a very serious issue. My mother in law kept on feeding my two children lots and lots of chocolate on a regular basis. That was her way of pampering the child as she thought it - it was her right, she thought, to give chocolate to her grandchildren. And it was also her way to spite me. Because I told her NOT to give, she HAD TO give. Both my son and daughter suffered badly from carries/dental problems. It was awful. Then I had to take them for those visits to the dentist. She wasn't there then. Not physically nor financially. And dentist visits, RCTs, etc are sooooo costly. That woman was so stubborn.

[@babblebubble5467]

Did you distance yourself from your MIL?

[@theasianunicorn6469]

dang home girl preggo again ?! sheeesh. I hope things get better for this family and that they’re able to overcome cultural differences and language barriers and are soon able to communicate better with each other. Also i hope the wife’s diabetes doesn’t get worse bc it’s a very serious condition

[@Joshow313]

I heard that it’s common for pregnant women to have diabetes. Usually it resolves itself once she gives birth and also take better care of herself.

[@sammylee5474]

My mom had it, she was so obsessed with eating sweets even after having her kids. Took a while before she stopped. It was probably stress eating

[@edith_ing]

@@Joshow313 It is

[@lalavienrose953]

Oh no. Why is she feeding the infant sweets. She would develop diabetes mellitus later on or earlier. As based on the mom have gestational diabetes. Infant should have sugars from fruits or cereals nothing else. The father is trying to feed his baby a healthy meal but then the grandmother just don't respect their rules.

[@amymeir2235]

The mother in law is a complete ingredient and disrespectful!!!! Giving a 10 month old chocolate against father's will,she needs to get a doll and play house At Her Own House!!

[@sarcasmcafe9860]

Fr

[@ksuhdilla]

bro Jeff has every reason to be upset. That lady is ruining what he envisioned for his daughter. That is messed up.

[@zer0sixx]

Yes, they may live in korea, but that doesnt mean everything has to be "only the korean way of doing" things. its 2 people, which means 2 contries has to combine together and respect eachtothers contries to, no matter where you live. TRUE FACT: that mother in-law does everything just to trigger or annoy him, 100%. You can just tell that by the way shes acting.

[@haley8924]

It is absolutly NOT OK to undermine a child's mother. Moms word is the law. If she cannot respect your boundaries and be respectful of your wishes, maybe no contact until she is ready to do better.

[@teresadownes2422]

When I was a baby my granny tried to feed me sweets and my dad snatched me out of my granny grip and for the rest of the day my dad refused to let my granny hold me When I was a baby my mum would have a changing mat in the bathroom and my granny was visiting at that time my mum would lock the bathroom door so that my granny would not interfere And my granny hated it And now my granny is trying to get me to live with her but I keep telling her no I told her that I am fine where I am and i didn't allow my granny to see me on my graduation day because omg she was a nuisance when my brother graduated she kept pestering him with things like you could help me around the house your strong enough He got annoyed and stormed home

[@CanopusLux]

If the health of the baby is so important they should talk to her more serious? Everyone is laughing and sitting there because no one wants to hurt the mother in laws feelings. Its ridiculous. I wouldn't act like this

[@Molly13311]

Giving the baby chocolate, omg the sugar. It's not good for the baby, grandma.

[@benjaminvuong6792]

Dashi Singh are u the mother no😂👎👎👎

[@annuravi4369]

@@benjaminvuong6792 chocolates or sugar are not good to babies could easily lead to early diabetes or other serious condition. The chocolate even contains caffeine introducing such foods to babies at that age is bad idea

[@mynameismyname2664]

@@benjaminvuong6792 no need to be a mother to practice eat healthy. Its common senses! Sugar bring more harm than good. Especially for baby below 2. Its general knowledge.

[@BabyFungus]

@@benjaminvuong6792 🗿you do know that giving the babies tons of sugar is bad right? Does your relatives ever teach you that? Do research before you come at someone and asking dumb questions

[@janaekelis]

Its really hard to have TWO babies at once, born months apart, i hope she is okay

[@Lilly-leaf]

I've been there and done that.My husband and I had 3 children under 3 and I ended up in hospital with exhaustion.It was tough.

[@canttrustbusdriverstoarrive]

@@Lilly-leaf yikes why didn't you take a break after each child, I hope you have someone to help with your children ❤

[@flerygorman1223]

Feel sorry for this guy. Wife and mother in law seriously need to respect him as the father.

[@ngghnkmhvdhnibvccbnktrusfa5376]

The wife is trying

[@Jace_the_mace]

I understand the french man and am completely on his side. I didn’t appreciate them making fun of him teaching independence from young. Not all countries promote complete and utter dependence. In my country we do it the french way and as soon as babies start to walk we potty train. Self independence is very important for survival because tomorrow is not promised and you can lose your parents at any time. To me there is no other way in fact, I find the asian way awkward of always having their kids rely on them even when full grown but I won’t judge it because to them it promotes strong family bond. We do as well but in a different way, if we were all meant to be the same we would be. Respect for another’s culture is very important and mother-in-law should definitely learn that lesson and be more respectful towards her son-in-law who is from a different culture and deserves to teach his daughter things from his culture because the baby is not just asian.

[@LilLadyAy]

Total disrespect, it's bad enough that she's forcing sweets in the mouth of a baby who's not even interested, but she knows it'll be an issue, it's clear in her sneakiness. Similar story, I worked with a man who's married to a Muslim woman, their children don't eat pork, his parents knew this yet would make an effort to slip it on them. Just a means of having power, the issues may differ and sweets may seem trivial in comparison, but the power trip is there non the less, no matter how sweet the granny seems, nip it in the bud parents!

[@kkde9211]

That's so weird. If someone doesn't eat pork why give it to them? My sister is a vegetarian (she does it because she stopped out of nowhere a long time ago and wants to continue, kinda like having guilt rather than saving animals or whatever) but I would never give her fish, beef, etc without her knowledge only because I understand... so what if she doesn't eat meat? It's really not an issue. I can grasp why people want others to conform to their eating rituals but it's really not hard to respect someone.

[@jen5138]

I'd be livid if my mother in law fed my baby refined sugars despite my instructions not to do so.. Most parents don't feed their babies refines sugars till they are at least toddler age. This is just blatant disrespect.

[@33-k8d]

honestly this just made me sad. i dont know them like that to be saying anything but just. it must be so hard to adjust to having a child to take care of and seeing how theres a language barrier and basically your opinions being discarded, i cant imagine. bless this family i hope things go well for them TT

[@ninozbaloney7274]

Work hard and even knows how to bathe and take care of the baby and baby food he's a keeper

[@mrssyiem]

As adult, we also need to eat less sugar...less salt... Its a baby...of course she need healthy food.. for her healthy growth... when she quite big.. she gonna eat a lot of sweet and salty food... Like chocolate, ice cream..

[@sleepystreets3394]

I know the grandmother has her best intentions set forward, but it makes me so mad that shes been told to stop so many things but shrugs it off like a joke.

[@nadeshdaamina]

He is right, health is key and important for the baby and for the rest of the family🍀

[@hi-il7ug]

Being in a relationship like that would be so suffocating

[@jaminhoney9379]

It’s good to let your baby eat by themselves, let them feel the food and experiment and it’ll help them not be picky eaters and it’ll teach them to eat by themselves. My little brother is literally 9 years old and he still expects my parents to feed him while he’s on his phone, it is disgusting and it makes me so mad that they baby him cause not to be rude but he’s gonna grow up to be useless which is why I’m the one being hard on him and disciplining him which is unfair to me because I’m still young, I don’t wanna act like a mother. So yes raise your child to not to be so dependent on you on basic human things like eating

[@moonstrike100]

that mother in law needs to leave asap, it's not her own baby, so she doesn't have a right to feed her all the unhealthy foods

[@Cindy99765]

The poor wife and husband are barely getting enough rest now because of all the work they do to make some money, and still have another baby coming. I really don't think that was a good idea at all.

[@weiminong302]

I remember the horror I felt when I saw my MIL feed my baby cake filled with cream when he wasn't even one year old 🥹 and my own mum giving him coffee, my dad giving him adult biscuits, etc etc UGH

[@2PMisTimeless]

I have always said it but generally speaking, not everyone knows how to raise a child, also not everyone should be allowed to raise children.

[@sharpaw523]

The grandmother is very inconsiderate. Awe that baby is freakin beautiful

[@amirasyakira4457]

Seeing her feed the baby sugary food is a torture. Infants below 2 cannot take sugary and salty food according to paeds because their kidneys are not mature yet,it cause burden to process those.

[@realDeor]

You can tell the grandmother really loves the grandchild. Its difficult situation. I think it’s cute, the child has a brilliant family. They all care soo much.

[@tianafelch4111]

my baby was hospitalized bc inlaws kept giving my 6month old sugar when i kept telling them to stop.

[@teresadownes2422]

Did you cut them off

[@Vianny_UK]

I’m Indonesian as well, but that kind of mother (grandma) is sick to the core. Why would you keep feeding those unhealthy stuff to the baby, even when the parents say no. She even hates the husband. If that’s my mom, I would’ve never let her see my baby anymore until she changed. Thankfully, I’ve never even seen anyone like that in my family. Not even my mom when she had my little brother. 😕😕

[@lin.1842]

They should definitely scold the mother. If my mother(She would never of course) continued to feed my child things I don't allow, than she won't be allowed to see her grandchild. There's a proper time and place to introduce sweets food but that child still looks too young.

[@Saiki_Jelly]

I've already made it clear with my parents that when I have kids what my husband and I say is what goes. His mother and my mother will NOT have an opinion unless asked. And if they try to take control they will not be around my kid until they can act like adults.

[@sarcasmcafe9860]

This woman (mil) remind me of my mom. They get off on the fact that they are needed. And they act like they know the right thing and will do what they wants. They will not care about your decisions or feelings. They are also incredibly good at acting as victim.

[@amandas7659]

My family in Indonesia are similar to the grandma. I think it’s a common attitude in Indonesia, and many places. Through lack of education or for whatever reason, a lot of people just aren’t aware of the effect added sugars have on our bodies. They just think it’s tasty and sugar cane is a plant, so it can’t be that bad right? 😬

[@Raphanne]

Agreed, I lived in Indonesia for one year and people eat a lot of sugar there. You can see that they have a problem with obesity compared to ther Asian countries. Too many carbs and fried food.

[@channylim8885]

I'm an Indonesian as well but I'm glad my family didn't do the same

[@catchingfeelings2691]

It is that bad…and how can you not respect the child’s parents but taking things in your own hand without their permission. Seriously, this going to be a conflict, cultural differences.

[@beezlebub9]

But I think most Indonesians are not as stubborn and a bit interfering as this grandma.

[@edith_ing]

@@catchingfeelings2691 Its the same here. I’ve seen a grandma giving a baby sticky rice etc while the parents weren’t looking. The baby ended up choking and was rushed to the hospital. And that grandma kept saying she did the same with her kids and they turned out fine and healthy. She didn’t apologise

[@FeelFree30]

When parents set boundaries or certain things like a child’s sleep routine, eating structure, bathing etc and a in law comes along and does the complete opposite it would make any parent upset and hold some type of feeling because you know when they around they will be doing things you don’t care for much.. look at that both parents were present but she still gave the baby chocolate which is very bad it’s like she is undermining them..

[@FeelFree30]

i started letting my daughter eat on her own at a young age too.. i would just put the bowl in front of her.. even if she uses her hands i don’t mind as long as she is eating .. when she gets to one I will introduce her to the baby fork and spoon.

[@ataylor3581]

I am really sorry about this. I am a grandmother and I will always respect what my son in law and my daughter want for my grandchild.

[@kkde9211]

You're great 👑✨

[@inkompetenzkompensationsko4188]

Thank you, honestly

[@chriskim7123]

남편 대존잘이다… 내가 부인이면 아마 내가 열공해서 전문직하고 남편한테 집에서 육아하고 따뜻하게만 맞아달라고 할듯 ㅜㅜ 으아…

[@sophiabeauty9997]

The baby is so young for sugar could seriously dehydrate her beyond the point of being to rehydrate her again which is fatal in babies.

[@laxman8345]

Baby dad is really so nice in taking care of his baby

[@AJ-TheGr8]

I would ban my own mother or mother in law from my house if either couldn't respect our wishes for our kid. Tf? One of the first examples I'd be giving my child is of their parents being unable to setup and maintain healthy boundaries.

[@hfm1368]

The grandmother is acting like a child honestly. So so annoying and rude. She can show her “love” in many other ways, such as providing peace to her daughter and son in-law or help clean around the house. She is instead adding more stress to this couples life and it’s dangerous since her daughter is pregnant and they said her condition was bad. Seriously very very annoying to watch.

[@Mozmoz71]

I really don’t like the in law, feeding the baby secretly with chocolate and sugary treats? My families love their sweets or anything that is sweet but feeding the baby sugary treats/food?? I think the mother should back off little bit. So sad for the father, he seems like a very nice, gentle, responsible husband and father but his in law and the wife seem like disrespectful toward him and his opinion doesn’t really matter for them.

[@supremacy2040]

This is a massive problem with some mother in laws It’s not about “caring for the child” ..of course some snacks and sweets are not going to hurt the baby if it’s minimal…. The problem here is the mother in law doesn’t like the son in law and she’s trying to control the situation by doing the exact things he doesn’t like. When she knows it, she’s doing it anyway. That’s not “love” that’s being a bitch. Sorry. Real in laws want to keep the peace so they will comply as long as it’s the parents wishes and not dangerous. This kind of in-law will only cause trouble, even if she is right, she’s not the parent of the child. I’m sure if her mother in law did the same she wouldn’t have stood for any of it.

[@kit-nun5476]

Agreed. She's trying to project her hate on son in law by doing things he doesn't like. This lady doesn't care how it will affect her grandchild's health nor doesn't care what will happen her daughter, if he one day decides to leave them after taking too much disrespect.

[@avocadotoast0113]

Asian mother in laws are a pain in the butt. No boundaries.

[@harini_9]

As an asian I agree 💯

[@loneaddiction3636]

Cant argue with that tho

[@bencayro1]

Yup

[@shevy_shev93]

These are gon be some of the brightest babies. French, Indonesian, English and Korean? Wow.

[@surfwriter8795]

Legend, really good parents, I heart this dude. He is an inspiration for me as a dad.

[@sonh788]

Those in laws are toxic and no respectful bone in them . Wtf feeds a baby chocolate?!?!!!!! Boarder line child abuse. Bald guy was on point

[@baraclude]

A lot of old generations are like that mil. They think they are providing love for the baby. But in reality their stupidity and disrespect hurts the baby. This is across all cultures and not just Indonesia.

[@starfire4539]

That’s really disrespectful of the mother in law, and the wife needs to put her foot down, coming from a strict culture where respect to elders is a must, even I wouldn’t allow that disrespect. My step-great aunt is like this mother in law, her niece is a strict vegan and has chosen to raise her baby that way and even though I don’t agree it’s not my baby, but my aunt feeds the baby meat in secret even though the baby got sick from it because she was vegan to all of sudden eating meat.

[@LittleMissAmy1997]

all im getting from this is that their baby will be able to know 4 languages at such an early age asdfghgh

[@ireneofficial28]

I couldn’t agree more with that one Host Sugar and hidden sugar on food and beverages can cause cavity especially on baby teeth Because they are so vulnerable! Please give that grandma a special lecture about healthy food 😄😄😄

[@whatchahowsya8688]

That's a really cute baby. lol but dang. If gma is like that in front of cameras, I can completely understand why dad is upset. He's trying his best to understand and meet her but she's pretty much stepping over him.

[@DaFroBroforeal]

The mother in law is so in incredibly toxic. She is doing everything she can to spite Jeff by undermining his rules and relationship with the baby. The mother in law is also driving a wedge between her daughter and son in law’s marriage due to her overt disdain for Jeff and the fact her daughter STILL invites her over. This is terrible and it needs to stop.

[@nailily]

The Mother-in-law is pretty toxic, she doesn't respect any of Jeff's requests and she also tells her daughter that she doesn't want to go over because Jeff is there. That's some pretty toxic stuff because the mom doesn't sound like she's able to compromise and seems to be intentionally trying to piss him off. The baby didn't grab or cry for the chocolate but she fed the baby so I don't know what excuses she had besides wanting to give the baby chocolate.

[@redeye3843]

I feel that this relationship gonna end up pretty soon. There's No respect given to other person. If they don't change for the better , it would end.

[@realDeor]

It is good to have a baby learn to feed themselves at young age. Place to food on a their table and let them learn. But also help them.

[@leslieguido8857]

I'm with the Dad. The Mom some what just because she does let the grandma walk over her. I get grandparents love to feed their grandkids but maybe wait until they're a little older and they can chew solid foods better. But it's true, I know a lot of kids who ate candy and some of their teeth rot right after they barely grew out 😬

[@andromedaselene3738]

Poor Jeff, I hope things work well in the future but his wife needs a serious talk with her mother about boundaries and what would happen if she continues to behave the same

[@estermartins8466]

As a French person I totally understand him we would not give chocolate before a certain age even more if it is a first child

[@aroundtheworld1692]

This is like my mom tried to sneaked food for my baby when I’m not looking. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@gmiyadole]

The mother-in-law is crazy. Why does she laugh and smile often? What's so amusing with all the things she do to the infant? A sane person would never react that way!

[@bistander]

I feel like she's not understanding the dangers of sugar. Because research on it were not as robust when she was growing up. And sugar is seen as just a treat that makes the baby happy. Letting her know the research and impact of sugar can likely help her understand why this is a serious issue.

[@iamgroooooot]

Oh my, she's pregnant again. That was fast. I can't imagine the hardship while being pregnant and taking care of the little child.

[@msprettykawaii950]

The husband is so kind

[@jirehmascariola469]

Wait but that’s how I literally was bathed as a baby too tho AHAHAH😭😭

[@MK-zz1dt]

Parents, just Google & print scientific articles about chocolate effects on babies and tell your MIL to read. Some pediatricians prohibit babies under 5 years old to drink or eat chocolate products regularly due to heart palpitation concerns. That's why even infant formula milk never available in chocolate flavor.

[@luci4087]

8:05 not only does the grandmother not respect the wishes of her daughter and son-in-law, she is also blatantly lying. people who lie about things even small things irritate me. if you can’t even tell the truth about small or minor things, then how can you be trusted to tell the truth about major things/issues?

[@Pupuririi]

The mother already got diabetic at a very young age, surely it's the eating habit since she was a kid from her mother and now this grandmother is trying to make her granddaughter get diabetic too

[@vousmevoyez9946]

As Indonesian, I can relate. Sometimes Indonesian mothers, mother in-laws and grandmothers are like this. My neighbor gave her 2 month old baby a biscuit, a grandmother who give her grandchildren 1 month baby a banana🙂. And they belived coffe good for baby. My aunt is a midwife tired education them.

[@dreachoo5280]

What a beautiful baby 🥺🥺🥰

[@khulanbat-erdene1258]

My 8 months old daughter have an allergy to some friuts. But my father and mother in laws giving her a peach a non stop even I’m telling them she will sick cause of that friut. A few hours later her allergic became a worse than ever. They think that they know how to raise a kid but only parents know their child best. That time i really wanted to punch on their face.

[@vonzilla2082]

Hopefully they understand now, but if they still don't understand, maybe you can get a note from the doctor saying what she is allergic to, in order to show them something "official" to try and help them understand. Of course they should have listened to you in the first place, but since they are stubborn and don't understand they are putting her in danger, maybe seeing a doctor say it will help. I hope they finally listen!

[@Klover97]

I feel like the husband is being consider of his wife and not saying anything so in this case since that’s his mom in law, But I think the wife needs to stand up for herself and her family. The dad is doing everything he can to keep his child healthy and set her up for success only to have the mother in law disregard everything. I feel like she thinks she’s the boss in the house but honestly needs to chill

[@Abale8883]

The mother-in-law purposely going out of her way to not let the dad and baby bond, hogging the baby to herself - I find it quiet sinister. The repercussion for this in the currently and in the future would be the baby not having a healthy with the dad and negatively affecting the kid. The mother-in-law is very twisted, although it may not seem as severe but this types of things can have lasting scars. She wants to feel needed and using it as a means to destroy her own daughter's family. Such a selfish woman.

[@calitomms22]

This DAUGHTER must set BOUNDARIES for her own mother ,stick by it and be firm with her mother if she intends to be a active parent instead of letting the grandmother do whatever she likes.

[@Halcyon-kw8nj]

If you feed sweets to baby. They won't eat their own food

[@hanhaz04]

Not funny! 😒 that's her granddaughter not her baby! And the daughter not saying anything that's really annoying 🙄 the mother is just making things worse for the couple 😒 if the grandmother holds the baby too much and feeds the baby chocolate too. She's not there helping them at nights when the baby isn't sleeping.

[@Ruby-br8xr]

I don't understand why they are having a second child together when no one, including his wife, seems to like him.

[@itsNinaLeeyo]

My parents logic: I raised you like that and you turned out fine 😂😂😂

[@cherriemay528]

I remember as a kid I get fed with different types of food and snacks😂

[@ChiliKatsuRamen]

The way the grandma hold the baby with that cloth is the most indonesian thing i ve ever saw lolll

[@amand1265]

If my mother in law or my own mother did that even though I told her not to i would be so mad. Like its not your child grandma 👵 listen to her parents

[@kehidupankanada]

I dun understand the baby feed herself while the mother stood there like a fool until the host felt pissed off of the action