surviving your 20s! (while everything is on fire)

[@samby1015]

this was comforting to watch, i’m manifesting healthy & queer friendships/ platonic love where we radically accept and support each other to help me survive my 20s (while everything’s on fire) 🤞🏾

[@lana20173]

Same!

[@jaydenbrown3122]

I am a 22 year old college senior job hunting. What kills me is the lack of opportunity for recent college grads. Like we are genuinely in the trenches

[@itskch]

You got this friend. I’m doing the same thing

[@emmanuelle2977]

literally in the same situation as you so i relate. i hope we both find something soon! wishing you the best of luck!

[@galleryofchelle1060]

Omg🥹 i love seeing people in the same situation as me it’s so comforting because it seems like others have it together and figured out

[@makyalove988]

I’m 23 bouta be 24 and I graduated almost two years ago and I just found a job in my degree so, it’s possible you just have to be patient cause trust me I was strugglinggg thinking I would never find anything and I did so you will ❤️

[@lorainecollins]

Sza warned us about them 20 something’s 😂😮‍💨

[@asiangsus]

i still play that song when im feeling some type of way fr makes me cry

[@lorainecollins]

@@asiangsus Same here 🥲

[@jasminetorres8570]

TIME STAMPS worst year of their 20s 00:40 sponsor: 1:05 worst year of 20s continued 2:23 parent/ family situations 5:30 friend intros: 6:25 living 7:22 making money 15:30 community question 1 27:00 relationships 27:30 community question 2 32:08 community question 3/coping 37:13 the end 39:20

[@jayluverbug]

as a 23 year old turning 24 this year with adhd, trying to move out of my parents house, find a job, trying to heal wounds/better my mental, and trying to form new relationships,, this video was SO me coded 😭 i loved this. hearing this and being able to relate, and preparing myself in a way? thank you guys

[@elsiejer]

omggg jaylin🙈 hey girl…& relatable😮‍💨

[@olivelime9493]

I’m dealing with the same shit!! 😮‍💨

[@jayluverbug]

@@elsiejer ELSIEEEE 🫶🏽🫂 hi my dear!! and it’s nice to not feel alone in a way, but we gon come up bae

[@Lord_Submissive]

My twin

[@tattss]

how does it feel to be the prettiest, coolest firend group on the planet ?

[@tionne4716]

I be thinking damn how are ppl traveling this much in their 20s where are they getting this money?! 😭😭😭 I can’t save for shit. I’m not even a big spender it’s just the bills and the surviving that I have to do.

[@queenlashai2701]

Trust me they pockets be hurt after those trips too

[@mariahw.3894]

Right I wanna start traveling so bad too😭

[@ceeloqueen675]

they properly use afterpay for those trips honestly

[@Tronywin]

Turning 25 in May, have 0 friends due to cutting off toxic relationships in my 21-22 years. It’s hard and feels lonely at times, but I’m learning to be okay by myself, focusing on my art and spiritual journey.

[@sappho_yoongz039]

I'm sorry to hear that, but i'm proud of you and also rooting for you!!

[@racquelfuson6869]

“19 to 20, ass! 22 to 23 ass again” 🤣😭 felt that though I’m currently 22 going to be 23 in June! But we bounce back 🙏🏽

[@jazlynnsmith3699]

Same sis

[@JbFord2020]

I crave this authenticity in ppl around me.. Watching Kai makes me feel alive if that makes sense!!! Like I’m not the only one in this world :,)

[@kyaeshe3172]

I just turned 21 and I’ve been beating myself up because I have so much anxiety and I’m not in the place where I wanna be but everything abt this video made me feel comfy and cozy as well as seen and heard pls make more videos like this maybe make it a series of this

[@BlakaveliX]

Great discussion. The amount of coping we have to do on a daily basis is sooo real 😭

[@titilayow9580]

I agree, we needa give ourselves some grace. Especially when we're going through a transition. (Also I didn't know you watched kai tew (^: )

[@BlakaveliX]

@@titilayow9580 fax and omggg voodoo tribe outchea 😝

[@BlakaveliX]

​@@titilayow9580 fax and yoo voodoo tribe 🖤 out here

[@BlakaveliX]

​@@titilayow9580 voodoo tribe! And yes I agree. Society doesn't make it easy for young folks who aren't on that nepotism tip.

[@selfbff]

I feel like there’s no transitional period from being a young adult to being a full fledged adult especially with nobody to look up to or guide u and it’s SO SICKENINGGGG help -21 going on 22

[@nathilism]

I'm 25, I live in London (England) and I can relate so hard to the things you say. One of my biggest life goals is to build a communal living situation of some sort, mainly for queer people of colour (but anyone can come if they're chill). I'll be inviting you all if it ever happens (this will be in like 30 years though lmao).

[@lana20173]

I am 20 and entering my twenties I feel in limbo like I am not a kid but not fully grown either. I do school online so I can work so I didn't get to have the "college experience". With that I have to organically create my friends ships (queer and black help lol). It's like realizing how messed up the world is and trying to find joy in coping. Great vid Kai thx!!!

[@authenticvisio6]

UGHHH im sooo GLAD AND GRATEFUL i came across this VIDEOO!, about to be 22 this year lord KNOWS i NEEDED this video because im currently due for a crash out and im just moving in confusion , i just started this video and you guys make me feel at home and warm and that i’m not alone!☹️🙏🏾, i appreciate you all ☀️

[@swirlingportals]

why are we still clocking in

[@jasminetorres8570]

on the real though, this conversation was so needed for the rest of us to really feel seen and let know that we aren't alone in the struggle, much appreciated kai + friends!

[@LifeLovesLex]

This was so real as a 27 year old, thank you ❤.

[@justycet2]

Felt this all the way yall are some amazing woman . As a 23 year old who was thrust into real adulthood after losing my mom 2 years ago ive learned so much in these past 2 years that i honestly dont think I would’ve learned otherwise. Ive learned how to live with other being an only child Ive learned to value my space and time and just understanding that my life no longer is able to support some of the childish habits i had. On top of learning about politics and becoming more socially aware it feels like I’m being pulled in all directions with no real time to just stop and process it all since there’s always the “next thing”. Living in nyc doesn’t make any of this any better but I wouldn’t wanna be anywhere else ironically. Ik this was a bit all over the place but this video was pretty helpful i don’t want to say knowing I’m not the only one makes it better but it gives me hope some day we all will have gone through this for a better outcome in the future not just for ourselves but for the next generation and so on.

[@mikasiacarree6963]

I was smiling from ear to ear through the whole video; probably the most comforting video I’ve seen in a long time. As a lone-wolf AUdhd-er, these are the kinds of friendships I dream of! So very glad to know that it’s possible.

[@cazimicasino]

as a 20 y/o turning 21 next month this video made me feel so seen and less alone. Like 20s are hectic but i have hope that it won’t be that lonely and i can choose my community and growing into a sustainable mindset. We can all get there it will take time but we’re all trying to make things better for the younger gens and we’re at the forefront !!!

[@bellyboop444]

i just remembered you from 2018 and spent an hour trying to find this channel 😭💞

[@allyu274]

Whew, I’m entering my last year in my 20s this Friday and I just hope it’s more gentle than previous years

[@LiminalDoll]

I really love the energy that you’ve cultivated in your friend group. Thank you for sharing your journey. I am turning 27 this year. It’s been a ride. Ready for 30s.🎉

[@Starr_lit]

Your dreads / locs are thriving and flourishing ❤ hair tutorials plz 👏 love it Kai ❤

[@hermosaura]

the wayy all of this is resonating so deep rn, 😭

[@jasminetorres8570]

"WOMB LANDLORD" ayo, I stopped dead in my tracks ... that's insane I ain't ever heard such a phrase

[@jewlz1258]

Not in my 20s yet but just turned 18 and starting college in 4 months….Yay.

[@EB-yt5ou]

I really enjoyed the realness of this convo. Thank you for sharing, definitely know I’m not alone now. And that friendships like this are possible to make👍🏼

[@mariijada937]

The realest video I’ve watched on KZbin in a while

[@alexs5574]

All I can say is, FACTS FACTS FACTS!! I wish I had friends like this to talk about these topics. I literally just rant about these struggles with my girlfriend. Life has become so hard and it's like there has to be a change. There has to be. 😧

[@gully.or1g1ns]

"Becoming aware one step of a thousand" this is so real especially for me as a teen right now why would i wanna join if I know what will happen based on the systems

[@gully.or1g1ns]

Heavy on the community part

[@lilleeble]

the "imma keep that!" part is so real. thanks for sharing your wisdom

[@frumfirsttolast]

its challenging trying to rationalize doing things that are very uncomfortable for you on a consistent basis… work is one of those things that i philosophize about on a daily basis. i’ve definitely reconsidered a job or 2 in the past the day i was supposed to clock in and then been like.. “actually no. i am not going back there.” ive been in and out of joblessness as a result. all in an effort to discover and enforce my personal limits/boundaries. (im 24, undiagnosed)

[@zami316]

this is the first video i watched from yall and its a vibe!! as someone who is just in the beginning of their twenties i needed this!

[@Justcanary8888]

This feels like talking to a group of my friends. I’m talking to my tv and shit thinking that I’m in the room with y’all😅😅

[@mossonthenorthside]

I love this style of video, it reminded me of my evenings with my friends in college. You all are lovely humans and I'll be revisiting this one when i feel hopeless.

[@yurileam1481]

I’m 20 and I’m trying to get a full job to have that “quote and quote 5 year experience”. I’m college and I’m so got damn tired. And honestly I feel the pain because this life stuff is not easy

[@Skuekys]

this was amazing im 23 and i dont have a job i live with my bro and mom, mostly on my own on the time being but i felt like i wasn't doing enough for my age, thank you for showing me that things take time this take time to learn and adjust to

[@pottingheads]

thank you for posting, I really needed to hear women the same age feel and experience what my day to day mindset and are trying to cope and find my way and my place in this world

[@lydiayvonne3859]

us 1999 babies really are in our mid-20's and im sick of it ALL haha

[@zoebulle9102]

I miss Kai

[@catlady3024]

What a wonderful title/topic for a KZbin video! ❤

[@moriahmartin6932]

Omg the part about work definitely hit for me I graduated from college last May and took time off to just rest but also realized I don’t really like the profession I choose and now I feel lost and confused. I’m still applying to design jobs but I also hate the industry for how it fuels capitalism and overconsumption ya know? It feels like a very vapid field. So now I’m definitely gonna be thinking if I don’t want to sell my creativity what am I willing to exploit 😢 it also doesn’t help still being at home. I’m kind of at point where I’ll take what I can get but like you said these places are not hiring smh…but thank you all for discussing this it made me feel less alone! ❤❤❤

[@PhoenixRoseAshes]

It’s been a struggle I also turned 20 literally as the pandemic was starting and my relationship with money and working has become essentially non existent because I was tired of being played and playing the game, I’ve been basically using my own life as research to understand if it’s possible to live outside the system and something that you guys said that I have found in my own experience to be so critical and important for those who want to create a new way of living is having a community of like minded individuals everything works out better in numbers and shared visions,

[@thee.thabani]

Yayyy. She's back, I guess... and yet I still have to turn 19 😭

[@anyakturner]

y’all hit some great points. I love the way y’all think about things and are able to read my mind and talk about it!

[@theangelalauryn]

i truly adore this video so much, you guys touched on a lot of things i’ve been going through as a 20yr old. i have to come back and take notes, so much love to you kai 🩷✨

[@JusDrawBraw]

Great video to paint to. Thanks y'all

[@wizzytalksalot]

why did i just KNOW homie in the white was a pisces 😂 great conversation yall 💕

[@laavanyamalik4737]

EARLY and grateful to see you post! My bestie and I were just talking about your channel❤️

[@bougiepeaches5497]

I’m about to be 21 and I’m excited,but anxious.

[@sisterkamilah4373]

Love you Kai! Happy to see a new video!!!

[@SaNa-cf8xt]

Definitely do a series or a part two!!!

[@kid-ava]

nice to see you back❤

[@shatoniapresley3816]

The spiritual energy coming through my phonee 🥺🦋 This video was immaculate

[@PhoenixRoseAshes]

I’ve never felt so seen from a KZbin video

[@charmainejeff947]

This Video Came at A GREAT Time. I’m Also 25 and I’m Lost Asf Lmao.

[@ellebrookss]

WOMB LANDLORD😭❤️

[@SimplyBukky]

this was so real

[@peacefulwaters222]

Love this! Thanks so much!

[@wildnaturalista]

The only thing that highly effected me is my (still) 20s was my mom passing away at 24 and knowing my future kids won't get to see her.

[@safehaven5176]

I’m glad you posted, very relatable fun fact my cats name is Jupiter 😭

[@ce2428]

you all are beautiful ❤️

[@whentheyfighttheyfight]

thank you!

[@certifiedlovergirl6759]

Y’all are so cool

[@kiyokosrage]

I love this

[@tylerjones1113]

you definitely dont have to go into debt to have good credit ..

[@kendallb5263]

what are everyone's socials omg

[@TeenGlamBoxx]

Hello Kai can you please tell me how much to pay for the college you went to freshman year? Like after grants? Do you take out a loan or parent loan etc? I know someone that wants to attend that school and I see it is quite expensive

[@thebestofus677]

The way I’ve been praying to find a set of friends like this. I always get ppl who feel weird energy after a while w secret animosity. If y’all found each other tho im hopeful 🥲

[@authenticvisio6]

yesss!, thisss💯

[@mikeysslice531]

Right!

[@doesitmatter2654]

Yess I totally agree!

[@BlakaveliX]

Early early 🙏🏾

[@user-qh8hg8sz2z]

Seeing this at 345 likes thank y’all for sharing ❤❤❤

[@user-cv6dw4nl2g]

Kai is your twitter gone for good?

[@sayless6441]

I just wanted ot let you know that Jesus is real, he is the truth. Call out to him and find out for yourself.

[@youraverageblackgirl4621]

I’m turning 20 this month and I’m a little nervous. I have so much that I want to start doing, and I have no idea where to start. I’m just winging it fr