FEELING DOWN? 6 Misconceptions About Depression

[@Katimorton]

My depression story… kzbin.info/www/bejne/q6rVfIR3oqx3qtU

[@nikkimckay860]

Kati morton hello 👋 I appreciate you and think you are amazing love what you do for mental health and you are a very good therapist and it's hard to be open and vulnerable with your own depression story ❤️❤️❤️

[@rijd2304]

Thanks for sharing your story and knowledge about this. I finished the thirty day program book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels and found out that mindfulness meditation helps. The depression/anxiety cycle is not easy to stop, it is incredibly difficult for people.

[@christophercobbett5750]

Kati, over the past couple of days, I have watched this video and your video on a narcissistic parent. You have opened my eyes to a lot. Im a 51 year old man who suffers from severe depression and anxiety. I have found your videos very helpful. Ty!!!

[@trinaq]

Thanks for the list, Kati. There's so many misconceptions about depression, so thanks for clarifying them.

[@Katimorton]

Of course!! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo

[@schrysanthemum]

I have PMDD premenstrual dysphoric disorder, the depression it causes every month is very real. Definitely not something you can think your way out of. Just because you can't see depression doesn't make it any less real

[@Dani-it5sy]

My mom had this. I know it is very hard. It's hard to believe how bad it can be if you don't have experience with this. Hang in there. One day it will be gone 😉

[@schrysanthemum]

Lol yes, I've got a long ways go go but there's that light at the end of the tunnel. Come on and hurry up menopause 🤣

[@journaling.aw.vlog.37]

I really need to get to the doctor for the same reasons thanks for saying something..

[@mylightenedlife7653]

I do Prozac for the 7 days before I take my nuva ring out, I did the same for 7-10 days before my period came before I started using the nuva ring to help manage my hormones and it has helped immensely with my pmdd. Just a low dose of 10mg/ day and it's so helpful. I don't get nearly as down overall and stop taking Prozac as soon as I feel the anxiety kick in, since for me after about a week on the med it amplifies the anxiety I normally experience during pmdd. Makes my pmdd 3 days instead of 10+which makes it more manageable.

[@schrysanthemum]

I'm glad to hear you're managing it well. For me to keep my pmdd symptoms in check I haven't used any medicine. I found lots of help with getting exercise, reducing sugar, salt, alcohol, caffeine, eating more whole foods, having less on my to do list, seeing a therapist, even just knowing I'm in the pmdd window helps to make me feel less crazy

[@Jawskillaful]

I appreciate how well you thoroughly breakdown and refute all the common misconceptions on depression, and I especially like that you pointed out the fact that many people of the older generation ignorantly believe that depression is just a state of mind that people choose for themselves. Another misconception that I noticed that the general public have of people who suffer from depression is that they are lazy and self -absorbed which is another reason that I think people tend to stay quiet and keep to themselves when they are depressed.

[@preetibaweja2673]

very clear and concise explanation...loved every word u spoke

[@theologytherapist]

So true! Depression seems to be something like a shapeshifter, especially when noting how different it looks in a plethora of individuals. It is not a "one-size-fits" experience for those who do have depression -- it is also so important to take the time to listen and learn about the effects it has.

[@stoffls]

Really great video again. As someone suffering from depression (actually bipolar 2) I can clearly differentiate between feeling down and depression. This is not the same, though it often goes hand in hand. And I learnt that one signal of a coming depressive episode is my irritability, I am easily agitated then and more likely to lash out. And I really encourage everyone who has the feeling he or she has depression to find a therapist and a good psychiatrist. Both are not easy to find and it might take time. But don't be like me and wait for years. Especially with bipolar, it seems that the symptoms go away, but they basically don't, therefore it is important to get help.

[@Katimorton]

Thank you so much for sharing Christoph.. and yes feeling down is different from depression. And we don't always talk about the irritability that can come with depression too.. so important!! xoxo

[@finleyandfriends8332]

Supporting someone who is depressed is a big thing to me… I’m over my current situation. Not understanding is one thing but not trying is a whole different thing 😢😢😢

[@nikkimckay860]

Kati morton. perfect timing with this new mental health video about depression I can completely understand and relate to everything you are talking about in this video sometimes I feel like I'm not really depressed that I'm just lazy and unmotivated and lack of energy and I'm always feeling tired even after a few hours sleep but no I still feel and believe i have depression iv been on antidepressants for the last few years now even had my dose put up higher because I felt the antidepressants dose wasn't helping it's annoying and frustrating that iv been on 2 different antidepressants I have also been having CBT therapy video call s therapy from home I am also writing in-between therapy notes so I'm tracking my mood and emotions plus thoughts thank you so much for this video Kati ❤❤❤

[@I_always_have_been_Daniel49]

What if you feel awfully but infront of others, you are the most positive person to be around? You know, avoiding bad topics, always trying to feel SAFE

[@stylegrace6980]

I just bought your book "Are u ok?" Im excited to get into it. Thank you for being so awesome. I love your channel and I watch you every single day.

[@SurferJoe1]

Bless this wonderful woman.

[@chaoskitty123]

my favorite misconception is that we can just "snap out of it"

[@keithm7087]

I always feel just a little bit better after listening Kati, thank you.

[@eloisemarie5219]

I've been dealing with depression for so many years now. Your video was so helpful.

[@sunflowerzelda45]

HI Elosid hope your better today. :) Bad day here. do you trust doctors?

[@siennaprice1351]

I don’t allow myself to sstruggle or feel down. I’ve been working on my healing for the last 3 years. I’ve found happiness, peace, joy, and laughter that I don’t have room or time for sadness, anger or anything like that. So I bottle them up and pretend they don’t exist. I want to be a new age musician. But in order to do this, I feel like I have to only be happy and at peace 24/7 with absolutely no struggles. In order to prove that I’m strong and healed, I have to block all my other emotions, because isn’t that what new age musicians do? Don’t they only compose and write happy peaceful songs? They don’t feel sad, they don’t cry, they don’t grieve. They don’t feel anger. I feel like struggling is a sin, and I feel ashamed for struggling.

[@kyliejones8827]

So how is bottling painful emotions working for you? 🤔

[@siennaprice1351]

@@kyliejones8827 you know what? That’s a very good question. I think I’ve gotten really good at it. But the only thing that kind of concerns me about it, is that I think I’ve lost some of my sympathy and empathy when doing it. It was an unintentional accident that I didn’t mean to happened. But, it could’ve been worse. At least, I’m not an asshole, and I will do all I can in my power to not become one. I just don’t feel comfortable with showing emotions. I do not like emotions.

[@schokoladenjunge1]

the older i grow the more it does feel like struggling or feeling down is a burden on others. i relate very much.

[@kyliejones8827]

​@@siennaprice1351I just wrote a long reply but it failed to post probably bc I included the word 'sue i side all'. Let's see if this gets posted... Anyhoo, in short, your reply was interesting. 😊 I'm now wondering how you'll handle painful emotions when they inevitably leak out. Also, how much effort and energy does it take to suppress/block/avoid? 🤔

[@siennaprice1351]

@@schokoladenjunge1 yeah. I totally understand. This is why I bottle my emotions up, or I use coping skills not just to deal with the emotions, but to numb them and run from them.

[@ItsLee512]

Fantastic video Kati ❤ my mental health has been terrible lately yet somehow convinced myself I had things under control - thanks for the reminder that it’s OK to ask for help

[@jessman8597]

You're not alone

[@ivanfontaine8855]

Thanks Kati for talking about this subject for thoughs of us that arent sure we should get help.

[@LeComplice]

Omg i just understood that the ringing sound is from the video and not a bike outside ringing its bell with surprising regularity lol

[@CuteCatsofIstanbul]

As common as it is with 3.8% of the world population, it is also the loneliest feeling ever. I'm grateful to be surrounded by amazing animals who keep the focus away from me, but put the focus on themselves with endless love and purrings.

[@manooshdjadali3531]

Great video! Thanks for making it. Regarding medication, while it may not be necessary for all, it may always be necessary for some, and I think that's okay. I think it's important to point that out as well.

[@MrEd-ri5kh]

I'm taking Cipralex, Mirtazepine for sleep. Mirtazepine slows down my racing stressful thoughts at night. What I noticed is I still want to cry sometimes BUT I'm so numb from meds that I can't. It doesn't feel good not being able to cry. Just saying. I needed this video. Thanks!

[@kattekaren]

I was diagnosed with depression in 2014 and it's still very much a part of my life. I've been on medicin for a long time. But stopped last year, because we couldn't find any that worked for me. The one I was on for 7 years, stopped working, so we tried to find something else, but couldn't. So now I'm not on meds anymore. I'm starting to see a therapist next week. If that doesn't work, I really don't know what to try, because it feels like we've tried just about everything. My dad is one of those people who says "Just get over it" he really believes that I just need to get a job and that will fix everything. Not a great source of support.

[@Dani-it5sy]

What is also often a thing that causes misunderstanding is that when I simply want to warn the people around me that I am in a specially bad mood that day just so they know in case I am very unreasonable or whatever they know that it is not personal. But when I do that people always think they need to do something, give advice or walk on their tows or whatever. That is not the point. The only point is that they understand my behaviour. That's it.

[@Al3saMarie]

I always start with "I'm NOT asking you for anything..." but sometimes even that can be tiring, partly because you don't know if they still won't try to be "helpful"

[@queerantine69]

🥺🥺 yeah

[@I_always_have_been_Daniel49]

I used to ignore my feelings and do what I like, until I stopped feeling good even after the things I liked

[@musicmom2161]

Thank you so much for sharing. I have been battling depression since March after I was working through some major trauma. It has been very difficult. My family does not seem to understand why I can't snap out of it.

[@Katimorton]

I am so sorry you're going through that.. and glad this video could be a little bit helpful :) xoxo

[@musicmom2161]

@@Katimorton Thank you so much for all your videos. It makes me feel validated.

[@elainehyatt9317]

Hi, Kati. So, I have the journal, just have to write something in it. I have lots of anxiety about writing. Always is it good enough. And logically I know no one has to see it. I think somehow writing it down makes it real. Next step is to get the pen. lol

[@omarayyash3275]

Prov. 12:25 "Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes it glad."

[@Dani-it5sy]

O yes this one: In Norway they call anti-depressants for ''happy pills''. Now for me at least and I believe many this is as wrong as can be. Anti-depresants for me just take away the feelings. The bad and the good. You just get totally flat. My son gives me a spontaneous hug and I just don't feel anything. Totally blank. While even though I am very depressed at times (Bipolar) a spontaneous hug and ''I love you'' from your child always still gave me a really good feeling. So they are not happy pills. They are more like they just reduce your feelings all together.

[@hp6964]

I’m kinda looking forward to that tbh. Even if I’m not on them forever, I just wanna be able to breathe for a bit in between all the intense feelings I never stop having

[@I_always_have_been_Daniel49]

My parents only care about my physical health

[@I_always_have_been_Daniel49]

Is it possible to like, feel a short lived happiness or excitement, maybe for 5 minutes or an hour, and then for the rest feel nothing, even if the best thing happened to them? And the only feeling you feel is that you are wasting your time and you are stressed and then later the only feelings you feel are anger and sadness?

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Such an important topic! Thanks for debunking ❤️

[@wolfdreams2000]

Thanks so much, Kati!😊

[@LolitaTechnoMaster8642]

First view, like, comment thank you so much!!

[@kylekeen3497]

I suffer from chronic depression.

[@soojin7136]

My parents resort to violence and anger when I get failing grades, my mom she threatened to give me away to adoption center and anything to get rid of me cause of my failing grades, but I have autism I don’t have the eagerness to socialize and talk to people. I was scared of crowds in school, crowded classroom, students bullied me for quietness, the teacher bullied me for being quiet and yell hey hey! at me.

[@lifeisbutadream6152]

I have nobody really. I’ve already isolated myself because no one seems to care, they only kept in touch because they need something. I have nothing to give so they don’t care. They don’t even check on me now that I haven’t talked to them. The people around me now couldn’t care less, they just know I exist but I think they want me to put more effort for them. I tell them I’m struggling, they don’t care. I feel like most therapist are just like the doctors, they act like you’re wasting their time then sends you a bill for showing up.

[@sukhpalsandhu6341]

As always, you give the best advice, what does a normal person look like? maybe a list of how two people would react in certain situations.

[@katarinadale9532]

I heard when i was deppresed by my parents that i couldnt be deppressed because i wasnt sad and just irritable and i smiled all the time

[@Your96kidz]

My prayers to all humanity and to those innocence lil angel that are not yet born to this world yet i hope there is atleast some HAPPINESS in yourself doesnt matter in terms of physical or mentality as someone like me have when through alot of traumas and my happiness senses slowly faded itself without me knowing it, and im praying too to myself i wish dearly to have that happiness restore back to me naturally doesnt matter what form of HAPPINESS if your asking me😢

[@timothypuvogel5468]

#1 is what my therapist believes in and tells me to keep busy 😢

[@obnovas1]

Now if only I could find a therapist that both: has a slot free, and takes my insurance... having a mental illness or multiple in my case is literally just a never ending series of problems with no solutions.

[@sander6313]

Thank you, Kati!

[@I_always_have_been_Daniel49]

I only have the mental symptoms. Other than that, the physical symptoms aren’t there. I’ve had a lack of appetite for the past 3 years. And what? And what that I never feel hungry? And what’s up with “feeling tired”? I don’t feel anything.

[@_-Lucia-_]

Hey Kati Could you make a video about aromaticism? There is such little information about it and would like to learn more about it. Thank you for all that you do

[@kyliejones8827]

Aromanticism*?

[@CharlieBass5]

Years ago I found out that I'm not clinically depressed. I had a psychiatrist prescribe several different anti-depressants when I was in substance abuse treatment. They didn't affect me at all, like taking a vitamin. I'm just not a fan of me.

[@sunflowerzelda45]

I have been depressed since 1998 when my son went to prison. I isolate more now in 2023 than I did back then. Cause I had to work. I remember how hard it was to go out the door. But I did cause I had bills. Nowadays retired and yes, doctors think all my body pain is in my head. Or fibro, or lyme disease, then the doctor swore he never told me I had Lyme. That was weird. but insurance said he did. Well, I just seem really good at finding bad doctors. So have given up on doctors. I am pretty tired of being stuck in my house and yard. I wish this would all go away. Pray to God to make me better.

[@mustardcolonel3224]

I have pmdd, ibs, sinus tachycardia, an anxiety disorder (I’m undiagnosed but I’m 1000% sure I have) and a stomach that can’t digest anything anymore. My life is a living Hell that just keeps getting worse and worse. Im going slowly into depression, I feel it.

[@RosheenQuynh]

When I get depressed (and anxious), I hyper-focus on the things I have interest in. Having no interest in them is so fleeting that it lasts maybe hours because my ADHD wins out and it makes me question if I am even depressed...

[@mustardcolonel3224]

You’re anxious or depressed because of your ADHD not the other way around

[@RosheenQuynh]

@mustardcolonel3224 No, ADHD has nothing to do with it. It's caused by PTSD.

[@BlairChasteen]

I recently tried getting therapy covered by insurance. I was told before I could I need to make an appointment with my primary doctor. I was told by my primary doctor office that in wouldn't be able to see them until September before I could get the referral (it's may now) . Why does it have to take this long to even have the opportunity to get talk therapy?

[@BlairChasteen]

@@Saberdog1 I live in the USA as well and use BCBS. Half of the places I've tried don't take it.

[@positrondesign6514]

The misconception that because I am depressed that somehow I am a delicate teacup who must be shielded from feeling uncomfortable. I once had a friend tell me she liked the movie 'Black Swan'. But I wasn't allowed to see it because I would freak out watching a movie about mental illness. In a word.... Stigma.

[@heatherc7092]

As a person with bpd, mdd, gad, add, ocd, and ptsd I feel like I'm constantly drowning and will always have to be on medication

[@rachaelharper3778]

It’s hard cuz no one really understands and I feel unheard cuz I explain to people what I actually feel. I don’t know I just want to deal with things myself. I feel like I say yes to people too much like I’m doing something everyday and it’s only for a couple of hours. Nothing positive is syncing In sometimes I get suicidal but I’m not gonna act on it. Also I think it’s a very good idea to go back and read old journal entry’s. I’m paralysed rn 😢😢

[@deena3895]

Ive had therapist..all they talk about is what im wearing, do i like to travel ... How do i find one that will listen??? I would appreciate any advice

[@MKV7312]

HEY KATI BABE I WAS KEEPING A JOURNAL ON MY PHONE BUT MY PHONE GOT HACKED SO INSTEAD OF REACTING AND LETTING THEM KNOW IT UPSET ME I PLASTERED IT ALL OVER GOOGLE HEHEHEHEHEHE DID IT WORK

[@seeing1111]

Very informative

[@trainwreck682]

Affording therapy is an issue. NOW WHAT ! No one what's to treat someone who has no insurance due to "PRE EXISITING" injuries. Out of pocket is not an option. I'm at my wits end. Love you Katie "mommie" say hello to Tom and Christina for me.

[@stevensawyer5924]

After seven different therapists, years of therapy and all of my money and savings, they taught me only one thing. Therapy is a business #1!!! Helping you is secondary!!! You can only rely on yourself!!!

[@Vanillababe7]

Hey Katie. I feel attracted to my therapist. I feel too ambaressed to tell him. Please I dont want to tell him. What can I do to get rid of it ? Will it interfere with my progress?? I feel like I now try to show the more atttactive sides of my personality instead of just vent there 😢

[@TarkMcCoy]

Depression may take more than walking it off. That being said, exercise isn't a bad idea!

[@kyliejones8827]

It's a tool in the toolbox, that's for sure 😊.

[@davidwhitney1171]

Yes, put on a Happy Face! Walk on the Sunny Side of the Street and let a smile be your Umprella! 🎉! Last but not least, accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and don't mess with bad old Mr. In-between! Obviously, I'm being facetious. Jesus God, I've been suffering from and dealing with chronic, persistent, unremitting depression and anxiety since my teens (I'm 65). I'll be on meds and probably in therapy for the rest of my life. I've even had to hear th above sh*t from some of my 40+ years of therapists. Also, to get a hobby (I have three classic cars, model building and cycling)- not a fixer for depression...

[@Computerskill-tc2gu]

The best way to stay happy is helping others.

[@kyliejones8827]

For some, yes. 👍 For others it can simply help them to keep going (or it doesn't help at all). Happiness is a triggering word for me. 😊

[@iLiveInHarmony]

How do you know if therapy is helpful/working? Started therapy about 2 months ago and I don’t know if it’s helping yet. I don’t really know what to expect. Talking about all these emotions has caused me to relapse in my eating disorder so part of me feels like it’s making things worse.

[@kyliejones8827]

Have you shared that with your therapist? 🤔

[@iLiveInHarmony]

@@kyliejones8827 yes

[@kyliejones8827]

@@iLiveInHarmony Are you satisfied with your therapist's response? Rapport and connection is fundamental and even more important than the mode of therapy (I say this as a retired therapist). If it's been 2 months and you're feeling it's not helping (and YOU are the expert in this, in my view) then why not try a different therapist?

[@snipsnupix]

From my own experience working with a therapist I can say that if you ask that question you aren't sure that therapy is helping you. I have worked with my previous therapist for 6 months I didn't feel much better and I also asked myself that question . Then I decided to change a therapist and I can definitely say after three sessions with her that it was the right decision.

[@kyliejones8827]

@@snipsnupix Just wanted to butt in and say that I agree with your comment. When I was a practising psychologist working within a team, in our first session with clients, we stressed the importance of changing therapist if it wasn't a good fit. As a client/consumer I've done this on a few occasions, too. 😁

[@CharlieBass5]

What I don't like about therapy is there is no fix. I can fix a car engine but not myself. I tried journaling and for the most part it just frustrated me, also it didn't make sense.

[@حنانعبدالله-ز9ص]

The number one is like (there is an elephant in the room) the more you tried to move you feel trapped by that elephant

[@Tammala-u9e]

I feel people DONT take my serious depression seriously. Including at work,even the people that SHOULD. I know they are tryen to get me out. LONG story. I am sooo serious& tired of tryen to let people know how serious I am that I just feel better off letten & friends myself of the pain be gone.

[@thatpersonyoudontknow4509]

What about if you know you're depressed because the closest people you'd tell everything are dead? I've finally figured out why I hate everything! My girlfriend from 8 years ago is dead, and she suffered before it happened. People who I used to play in a band with are either dead or a vegetable for the rest of their due to a multivehicular accident. Two of my best friends who were brothers committed suicide months apart from each other before leaving their single mother to die of a stroke later on. Everyone I could tell ANYTHING and could be myself around are gone and most of them never made it past 22 years old!

[@everforward8651]

I watched the video up until 8:39, and I profited from it (particularly your debunking the myth that keeping busy relieves the symptoms of depression.) However, twice you indicated that older people tend to not have the correct knowledge of depression, and, thereby, have no empathy with people who have depression. That made me feel uncomfortable. I can tell you that some younger people don't an understanding of depression either, and don't have empathy with those who suffer from depression. And I wonder if you've done any videos on the depression that seniors experience, especially when they lose their partners. At any rate, last night, I watched your video on parents' gaslighting you, and how parents that can cause mental health challenges in their children. But, you have to know that it's a myth that children and teens are always the victims of, and, rarely, the perpertrators of gaslighting.

[@CharlieBass5]

Ok, first off I don't hate, other that my wife's Yorkshire Terrier who likes to pee on everything. I have gotten older and not that I look back over the landscape of my life I see mostly ruin, a few buildings that were never completed. I think of myself as a fearful and prideful which I guess makes me a perfectionist with too many regrets. I never though I would live to be in my 60s yet here I am almost 70. I do hate my mistakes, I mean you think after living this long they would at least reduce, but no they seem to have increase. I have live through drugs and alcohol and I can't seem to do better than the rest of my life. I'm not depressed jus irritated at myself. Any suggestions?

[@dabbler1166]

Depression. ASK YOUR DOCTOR: Whatever happened to: 1. Imipramine 2. Elavil 3.Amitryptaline -(spelling?) These are all tried-and-true and have been around for years with long track records. Why not use them more often? I've heard that some newer drugs (SSRI's) and Paxil can be a disaster, trying to get off of them once you've been on them. ? Again, ask your Doctor.

[@MapleMarmite]

I agree with the lower % figure for men is down to not admitting it or reporting it in the surveys. Equally the total figure for the amount of people of both sexes suffering is very likely much higher for the same reason.

[@TheBisexualRat]

“So if someone in your life reaches out, listen.” If only more people did. Some take it as a joke. Like, I just spoke out about something that actually hurts me, and you reply with, “Relatable.” And then laughed your ass off?

[@StephA21319]

I wonder if another contributing factor to statistics that more women suffer from depression could be connected to the societal "norm" for women to appear happy and smile. If you aren't smiling then it's assumed something is wrong.

[@kyliejones8827]

Do you think there are higher rates of depression and anxiety now than in the past and if so, why is this? 🤔

[@VideosOfRandomContext]

PLEASE HELP EUGENA COONEY!!!!!!!! SHES ABOUT TO DIE HELP HER ED OML

[@kevinanaks8554]

- Scientist K.E Anaekwe Treatment for all kinds of depression is to deploy preservative force reform enforcer to cause forward favour capture... - to overcome depression one can use moderate Left-kingship (or higher levels in serious cases) To knowmore read - wattpad - Book Title; WHAT DOCTORS DON'T KNOW ABOUT CANCER

[@TheBmoc214]

Early gang!

[@sukhpalsandhu6341]

I wish there was a place where I could sign up up to help folks out, for free obviosly, I hsve some free time

[@SamuelServantSon7]

Everyones depressed it's called the internet, shut it down and forget Tom cruise guy 👍

[@MKV7312]

THEN THERES KARMA

[@j0.ZEF-Who]

EVERYONE's depressed LOL first i've heard that one - don't even try me with that - i see people going out nevermind nevermind - bummer being depressed - GOTTA BE PROACTiVE in your future success not sitting there sucking even more than you already do LOL - not meant to be a buRN just some "tough LOVE" , you're OKAY walk it off and be proud of yourself - so many people struggling out here be GLad you know what's wrong with yourself and make the changes you need to BE BETTER for yourself and your future self and yes the people around you too

[@kurthanke5788]

How about the people who tell you, "You don't have any reason to be depressed" Not sure about anyone else, but I don't particularly care for it. My response: "Thank you so much for your input. The only problem is, I did not ask, nor do I want your opinion. So please, keep it to yourself"