Get the Most Out of Therapy! | Kati Morton

I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos!
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[@tedcruzisthezodiackiller]

My last therapist just chatted and there was zero treatment plans, she never wrote anything down, didn’t give me work to do, and would usually just talk about herself as well. She was a very nice person and I liked her, but I got nothing out of sessions. :( I got discouraged for a while and stopped going, but I finally found a Dr that knows her stuff! She helps so much!

[@jackcarpenters3759]

yes this is a typical story, i hear it all the time.

[@TisMishyYoochunBish]

my first (and current) therapist is like this as well.

[@borbyWanglu]

Me too😕My first/second and current therapist is like this. I’m currently doing a free program though; I wonder if I should continue.

[@VeronicaVeeTV]

Yes yes yes!!! I loved this. Not all therapist are created equal. The gems are out there

[@Katimorton]

Agreed!!! It's worth waiting until you find the right fit :) xoxo

[@theflittingbutterfly]

Kati Morton How long does one have to wait?? And how to recognize if it is the right fit?

[@nadiacote5074]

Kati Morton o

[@youkai888]

@@theflittingbutterfly 4 session at max. For me.

[@nikkimckay860]

Thank you for this video and all the advice talked about in the video I haven't been with this channel very long but really been looking for a good therapy video I been watching a few video s already of what relates to me I get comfort from these videos thank you

[@JK-sp8vx]

I read this as “How to Get Out of Therapy” lol

[@rayhundven5920]

Jay Robert sorta seems like what the vid is lmaoo

[@aceris5874]

I meaaaan, that can be the ultimate goal of going to therapy! To get out of therapy!

[@gretagilardi4209]

Hi Katie, I finally told my therapist after 4 years about a past trauma and I was surprised of how liberating it was. Of course it was hard but she really helped and understood me, I wish I could have told her earlier but I just couldn’t. Anyway thank you for your video!

[@Katimorton]

I am SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Yay!! I know it can be so hard, but it's so worth it :) xoxo

[@GabrielDoesThings]

greta I am waiting for my appt. with my therapist and I think I’m going to tell her about my own trauma even though my insides are screaming not to... Glad it helped you! :)

[@aaymathebest4705]

Greta what happened eith you?

[@AeryelleCat]

"You might feel like you're back at square one but trust me, you're not" That teared me up the moment I heard she says it....

[@jennaswanson8650]

Y'all can I just say that her voice is so relaxing like all the time. Hearing her voice everyday makes me smile.

[@MarizaaaT]

just in time for therapy tomorrow! thank you :)

[@Katimorton]

Yay! xoxo

[@MascaraMorada]

Same here for my session Wednesday!

[@MrMelon247]

I always felt bad about always talking about myself in therapy, but now what you said makes me feel better.

[@TheFabricTeapot1]

"Are you new to my channel? Welcome" I love how you always say that. 😊

[@jembee6662]

I can't find any more words to say you're absolutely incredible and another amazing video! Thank you!

[@Katimorton]

Awe you're so welcome!! Glad you found it helpful :) xoxo

[@pickles974]

Being honest is hard sometimes but its sooo fkn important in therapy.

[@thedonkilluminati96]

Ive been going therapy recently and its what i needed in my life. From being depressed and lonely, and noone caring, i feel happy and focusing on my future

[@9Aapjes]

Love the way you say 'Welcome', it's so sweet!

[@hallwnby]

I love that you do the descriptions I know they probably take a long time but I have no energy and concentration to absorb all this but to be able to click on videos and read the desc quickly and just watch the bits that I feel I don’t understand :”) is lovely

[@stephaniemorris5588]

Thank you so much for bearing the emotional slings and arrows that come along with putting your advice out there in the digital world, your guidance is truely a priceless additional tool for those seeking progress xo

[@BRIANnj1]

I wish you were my therapist ...You seem so down to earth and straight forward!

[@moriendus]

My therapist is trying to set goals but I'm just messed up and not sure what I'm supposed to be like. I wish she would just tell me how to act and feel because I have no point of reference.

[@jeremyspiegelman7576]

I was there too.I wanted my therapist to tell me what to do. I didn't want anything. I would sabotage the suggestions he gave me. What worked was to try behaviours and thoughts and see if the outcome was good or not good. I believe that only I can decide what I want.

[@brittanyjackman103]

Well it all depends on the person you see, so you two get along or not? What they say is not completely law though skilled,You kind of have to be your own reference

[@kmchamber]

Thank you for making this video! I feel like my therapist and myself have gotten a bit complacent in just talking about things as they come and more so focused on check ins regarding my overall mood. It's important to reconnect to my goals. 😊

[@kellyjacobs4218]

As a therapist, I fully agree with you about therapy goals and a treatment plan is so important.

[@kaethebratton5443]

Great points! Definitely making the most out of it can ensure you come out ahead! I'm glad therapists are out there doing what they can!

[@RachelPinku]

I just worked up the courage to source and contact a therapist suitable for me, I’m so glad I watched this before! I can’t afford to waste time or money, so thank you very much 💕

[@roseleber9245]

thank you so much for this video! I have my first therapy appointment ever in early October and this helped a lot!

[@iris__and_rhizomes]

Awesome video, Kati! (As per usual!) I think therapy homework is so critical. Even when my therapist doesn’t assign homework, I have found that journaling between sessions helps me guide my therapy and gain personal insight. I would add a cautionary note that my abusive husband “sent me” (the therapist’s words) to a therapist who happened to specialize in child psychology. This combination was a horrible one. The therapist had as my therapy goal to make me a more obedient housewife. I saw this therapist for many years, and he enabled the emotional abuse that was going on at home. He was a very respected therapist who used to head the adolescent unit at Menninger. Not an easy situation from which to escape. It was really only the intervention of a friend coupled with the national domestic abuse hotline that allowed me to finally see the situation for what it was. So I think I would add that as well: let people in your life know roughly what is going on. You don’t need to give all the details. But it’s good to have an objective opinion. If you’re not allowed to have friends because of the abuse at home, try to join an online support group. That’s what I did, and it saved my life.

[@Samantha2209]

Jori Church wow 😯. That’s really scary. I’m glad you were able to see the situation for what it was.

[@iris__and_rhizomes]

Samantha Khan I was not initially able to. It took my friend a while to help me understand that all that behavior wasn’t normal.

[@Lisbett_Again]

Thank goodness for that friend of yours I’m so happy you got out of that abusive situation

[@brayanpreciado14]

Its though watching your videos that I have mustered up the courage to reach out and seek therapy for the betterment of myself. Thanks for all the kind encouragement and great content! 👍

[@chinmaynaik3651]

I love it when you say "WELCOME". ❤

[@nicolewhite6557]

Thank you so much for this. I just moved to the south beach area & I've been feeling burnt out trying to get back into the swing of therapy. This video helped me settle some of my nerves about seeing new people (while providing me a solid structure!) Thank you so, so much Kati. I'm excited to get into session.

[@nextpage3535]

Oh Kati, your videos always lift my spirits! Thank you!

[@bedifferent1987]

This is so helpful! I just started therapy and I feel like I am having frustrating "why am I not better" thoughts. And I know I need to be patient, and continue to do my home work... but I am so quick to compare my situation to the rest of my family and question if it's not working while at the same time praising therapy.

[@gracemanier1362]

Thanks for making these videos!

[@h4wtf]

Thank you for listing everything out in the description 🙏

[@StandBack15]

could not have stumbled across this at a more perfect time!! literally watching this with another window open looking for therapists!

[@alexispahlman4203]

Congrats on your new book! Loved this video, and it was really helpful!💕 I agree being honest is hard, but it does pay off in the long run.💕

[@ellevs1601]

Number 3. Yep just what I needed to hear. Think I trust her enough to try and be honest about things that I have never shared with anyone. A video I needed this week.

[@RainRemnant]

My therapy is going to start next month!!! Already was diagnosed with 3 personality disorders (biggest one BPD), and was supposed to start years ago, unfortunately was in another country with the hubby when I got previous invitations, but now it's finally going to happen and I've never been more ready! Made a lot of progress on my own (hoarder house cleanup, binge watching lovely Kati, journaling), but the big work is coming. Finally. Good luck to everyone going through the same!

[@erickaahner4645]

Love you Kati! I so needed this right now. I’ve been really struggling with what I’m getting out of therapy lately and this is so helpful. Thank you so much! ❤️

[@Katimorton]

Awe yay! I am so glad it was helpful :) xxoox

[@dr.c9461]

Excellent video Kati. As a therapist in training. I am so looking forward to reading your book too. Keep up the good work.

[@kirstyhowarth5781]

Thankyou for this video Kati, it was very useful. Can’t wait for the book!!

[@Rickytastic]

You're wonderful. I'm really grateful for your KZbin videos

[@Soulgardenmel]

Thank you for this video! I am going in to my very first therapy session later this week, after years and years of struggling with my mental health. I am nervous and anxious about it, but I'm intent on getting the most out of my sessions as I can. I'm tired of not working to better myself! And your videos have relieved some of my anxiety, and made me even more sure of my decision to get help. Thanks Kati!

[@sweett4804]

Congrats on the book. That's awesome👏🏾

[@55alive8]

I just revealed to my group that I had a hard time reading the materials. I am so happy that you will have an audio that will help me a lot. Kati I think a lot of us have trouble with our reading. And remembering what we read. So that makes this process challenging. I bought a book. And then I purchased an e version on my Kendal. This help because I can choose to pay for the Audio or let Alexa read it to me. Well anyway thanks for another great video.

[@smexycici17]

I've been hoping you would post this video! I've been in and out of therapy but always felt I wasn't doing it right to get the right kind of help. Going to try and use these tips to better myself! ❤️

[@selfmademind3147]

I'm so glad to see your video. I "suffer" from Bipolar and PTSD. I used to go to therapy but I guess I've had many excuses of life and family, ever since I left the military. Listening to this makes me want to try again. Thanks for you refocusing my energy in the right direction. I hope this gets my "up" days more visible than my "down" days.

[@meghancostanzo2016]

Thank you for this video! I really struggle with being open/honest in therapy. I sometimes want to give up because I don’t feel like I know how to express exactly what I need and so I often feel like I’m not being heard or understood. This kind of gave me a basic guideline, so, thanks! ☺️

[@halesbellss]

I’m starting dbt classes today so it’s pretty cool you put this video out.

[@gabi.a]

I'd love to see another video with more tips! I noticed that taking notes on what I wanna talk about in session and writing what my therapist said helps a lot! (I forget what they say too easily... writing it down allows me to review it and implement it a lot more)

[@PalisBee]

I just booked a couple appointments with a new therapist today so this is perfect! It's been years and I think the videos u and Jack/Sean did really helped motivate me ☺

[@RipResistantPantyhose]

Ugh this is so helpful! Thank you Kati 💗

[@caroodraws]

I've started going to therapy recently (in part due to your videos-- thanks Kati!) so this is a very timely topic for me. This kind of stuff is really helpful!

[@rebeccas8054]

That moment when you want to stop the video all the time, but in the end give it a thumbs up, because you realize you've been wanting to close it because it's so true

[@olivers.5751]

Thank you so much for this video! I am about to start therapy again and it’s kind of scary. This really helped💛💛💛

[@iamaseadragon]

You are a wonderful human!

[@LiFEwithIvA1]

This was really helpful! Thank you, Kati!!!

[@jaydrago9485]

Thank you for this video, Kati!! I'm always trying to find new ways to get more out of therapy, and this reinforced many of the things I think about, and gave me a couple new ideas :)

[@jamie91995]

How can I get over losing a therapist who I was very attached to? She meant the world to me and was the single most important person in my life

[@sableward1319]

You are super amazing!!! I’ve been through several therapists. My memory is the result of an injury that caused me to even start therapy. I don’t know how to be a patient. I’m definitely going to have to reestablish my reason for therapy. Thank you!

[@AuthenticMentalHealth]

Another awesome video kati thank you❤️

[@ruwi5683]

Hi Charles

[@ruwi5683]

Is it okay to have sex with your therapist?

[@debragoodschubert8226]

I’ve got the best therapist! The connection was instantly there. I had to be able to trust her. She really truly cares about people. I’m seeing her twice a week and she offers so much support.

[@wetboy72]

Great advice. Totally agree with this.

[@3rdeyemusic449]

you are so great! amazing energy

[@vivalachestnut8820]

Kati... I have been with you for a while now and you have helped me a lot amd have taught me a lot. With Jacksepticeye and now Shane may I just say... I AM SOOO PROUD. It is amazing that a youtuber with your type of content is getting the attention that is sooo important to get... You are a youtuber who everyone can benefit from watching. Keep it up, I am so proud. Love youu!!💕

[@Victoriomantic]

As a therapist and someone who worked damn hard for a year in my own personal therapy, I 100% agree with everything you've said here Kati.

[@user-mm3ry9dn3t]

Kati, thank you so much for demystifying therapy to people that are still a bit anxious about seeking out for mental health specialist.

[@HeyImJanC]

You fantastic take on everything, your just awesome!!

[@storytellerhut3488]

Love this!!! You make Mondays aMMMMMAZING!

[@Katimorton]

Awe :) xoxo

[@joiemcgrath7361]

Thank you Kati!

[@jeremyduer3098]

💕Good timing yet again for this video. 💕 I’m being assessed this Thursday for an IOP. I’ve been really struggling a lot lately and finally got the courage up to let my therapist and psychiatrist know that I need more support. Currently I’m seeing my psychiatrist once a week for an hour, but it hasn’t been enough, and have found myself texting them a lot between therapy sessions. (My therapist is on leave after having her knees replaced, but let’s me text updates). I’m super anxious about all this, but I know it’s what I need right now. 💕

[@kawaiisquish1955]

Omg ilysm your voice is so calming and I wish you were my therapist xx

[@BlueJayXO81]

This is very helpful. Thanks for the info! 😃👍💜

[@therealhanimal]

Ooh wow I got here so early! Kati I love your videos, they have given me much insight and peace of mind! Thank you!

[@Katimorton]

Of course!! I am so glad they are helpful :) xoxo

[@allisonmcandrews7484]

I just started therapy again, I was with the same therapist for 7 years because I was young and didn’t understand what to gain from those appointments. There was no homework or real gain from the conversation most of it was me venting because I was so young I really didn’t know how therapy was supposed to work. Eventually I vetted countless therapists until I found someone that genuinely cares and gives me “homework” during each visit. It’s been more constructive than any session I’ve had & this video just confirms for me that I’m on the right path. Thank you so much.

[@barnardsc4]

It can and will get better This whole video is helpful So thorough and like a good song you know the repetition of your closing remarks helps ground the new learning and feels familiar/nurturing Thank you again 🙏

[@frakbuddy]

Scary timing, thanks for this. Currently in the midst of a severe bout of depression (having suffered on and off for years) and have just been referred back to the local psychology squad. I have had a bad experience from them pushing CBT on me when it's not something I seem to mesh with and whilst on the waiting list they've signposted me back to CBT sources online. Freaking out about bashing my head off CBT again but I'm gonna try and make a list of where I'm at so when it does come up I can go in with a clear idea of where I am. Doing what I can to stop my scepticism towards CBT sabotage me (that and the voice in my head that assures me I don't deserve to not feel bad about myself) but well it's just tough as sweet hell. Love the channel, recently discovered it and definitely down for checking out the book (have thrown down a pre-order)!

[@vladislavkaras491]

Thanks for the tips!

[@liosol4570]

You are so helpful❤️ I’m enjoying the life tips🚀🌠

[@kavitadeva]

Thank you so much for this video. I just started with a new therapist last week. I am in a whole new cycle in my life I have become disabled and want to learn how to deal with it and identify who I am now. Thank you so much for the tips they're all very important and they've helped me make it clear on what I need to do to proceed to get the most out of my new therapy. Do you know in over many many years not one therapist has had a treatment plan except the one I'm seeing now. It was always just coming on in and talking about whatever. Have a great day or evening.

[@x0angelica98]

I CANT WAIT FOR YOU TO BLOW UP WHEN YOU GET FEATURED IN SHANES VIDE AHHHH IM SO HAPPY YOU DESERVE IT

[@shiznit9142]

Aaaaand she blew it.

[@alexandramae6600]

Shiznit 91 how?

[@ihatewerewolves1832]

“I can’t wait for you to blow up“ sounded like a terrorism threat for a moment there

[@vickiplatford1668]

Great video, really struggled to hear what my therapist was saying in session today, felt criticised and overwhelmed. This helped me gain some perspective Xxx

[@moehrengruen1196]

Omg omg omg KATI I JUST SAW YOU IN THE NEW SHANE SERIES IM SO EXCITEEED!!!!

[@aileenmorales1703]

Blessed to have heard this!!!

[@Jtmurph222]

Thank you. Your last point helps a lot.

[@cherryrachael4801]

Wow perfect timing, my first appointment with my new therapist is tomorrow!!

[@vickyzeng4834]

Thank you so much Kati! This is exactly what I needed

[@Katimorton]

Awesome! You’re welcome!

[@kerihaye3937]

This was very helpful!

[@TheLucyblades]

Thanks for this.

[@honor2798]

Is it weird for your psychologist not to give you any homework to do inbetween sessions? Thank you for this Kati!

[@Katimorton]

Not all of them do.. but you can definitely tell them you would like some :) xoxo

[@honor2798]

Kati Morton - Thank you Kati! I just preordered your book on Amazon UK! I cannot wait!

[@cutemess6429]

Hi Honor, to build off of Kati’s reply, it depends a lot on the model they’re using. CBT and DBT are notoriously big for homework, but frameworks like Psychodynamic therapy tend to have a large focus on what happens in the session as opposed to outside it. Of course, if you want homework, feel free to ask!

[@honor2798]

Ty Catts Thank you so much!

[@TheNormal256]

Mine does and I never do it.

[@jackromolor9634]

Thank you Ms. K.

[@oliviabishop2340]

Thank u so so much.

[@colleend80]

Unfortunately, I had many psychologists and none of them were helpful. KATI, YOU ARE SUCH A RARE PERSON. I wish there were more therapists like you 💫

[@divanext-doorcece5366]

This was helpful thank you

[@vg8332]

Thank you kati😍love your videos & helpful advices 💖💖💖👍

[@ClandestineGirl16X]

i pre-ordered your book im so excited for it!! great video

[@Katimorton]

Thank you and Thank you!!! I appreciate your support :)

[@addy290]

The treatment plan is so true though! I once saw someone who literally told me that I just come in and talk about whatever was on my mind. It didn't go anywhere and I made no progress at all!

[@shetiawilson1945]

I was just thinking about this Katie.. I said to myself that enough is enough. I will start being more open to my therapist because I’m really not making any progress...

[@KidsWithGuns1992]

I've only seen two therapists in my life, but immediately I knew the second one was right for me. I clicked with her, we had a natural syngery - not just in the way she worked, etc, but we had chemistry. It's very important you have chemistry with your therapist, otherwise it just won't work.

[@michel4music]

Hi Kati, good job making specific firm statements on what should be done or is recommended. Although saying what should be done is difficult, and should be scrupulously judged, but this clarity is badly needed in my estimation. Keep up the good work! Greetings from a Dutch fan ;)

[@paulflint6254]

Congratulations on your book ❤ will be checking it out 🙂

[@Katimorton]

Thanks!!!

[@Dizzyallaround]

I have therapy this week and I’ve seen a lot of therapists and turned down a lot. I literally feel like she’s a friend and we get passionate about things and she critiques me, and tells me like it is and what I have to do or not do(useful advice)- something a friend couldn’t give me. She pushes me and has helped me through a lot of crisis.

[@tia6746]

Congrats on your book! Keep up the good work :))

[@hannahzaccaro751]

Great video!! Could you do a video on recovering from childhood molest? Thank u so much for the videos!

[@birdiebear1500]

Yes, please, PLEASE Katie

[@user-iv8lo6xy1g]

Please!!!