The Secrets of EMDR Therapy and How It Can Help You

The fundamental idea behind psychotherapy is that we tend to grow mentally unwell because we haven’t been able to think with sufficient clarity about the difficulties in our past, typically in our distant childhoods. EMDR therapy is a fascinating tool that can help us process these difficulties, move past them and continue with our adult lives.
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"The fundamental idea behind psychotherapy is that we tend to grow mentally unwell because we haven’t been able to think with sufficient clarity about the difficulties in our past, typically in our distant childhoods. Damaging incidents have been locked away, and continue to have an outsized impact on us, but we have no way of going back over them in order to liberate ourselves from their distorting influences. A sense that we are bad or disgusting, acquired in our fifth year, may ruin our chances of fulfilment in our fiftieth..."
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[@theschooloflifetv]

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[@JM-ri1em]

It has helped me, but the lingering critics from past research that had unclear conclusions is frustrating. The new scientific literature shows therapeutic effects, so much so that most reasonable skeptics have changed their tune. Dr. Andrew Huberman, the Stanford neuroscientist has an excellent perspective on this change in attitude from him personally and others in his field. Everything is pseudoscience until the evidence shows otherwise, but EMDR as a new technique that needed set practices and processes simply did not have the research yet to back the success claims. Now it does, and that’s why people are erasing prior knee jerk judgement. I hope more people will understand this and share this therapy to more people whom it can seriously help.

[@micahelliot4554]

So, now to the bottom line: EMDR ameliorates symptoms of traumatic anxiety better than doing nothing and probably better than talking to a supportive listener. Yet not a shred of good evidence exists that EMDR is superior to exposure-based treatments that behavior and cognitive-behavior therapists have been administering routinely for decades. Paraphrasing British writer and critic Samuel Johnson, Harvard University psychologist Richard McNally nicely summed up the case for EMDR: “What is effective in EMDR is not new, and what is new is not effective.” www.scientificamerican.com/article/emdr-taking-a-closer-look/ The Placebo Effect strikes again...

[@patek92]

@@micahelliot4554 www.healthline.com/health/emdr-therapy#bottom-line

[@micahelliot4554]

@@patek92 Healthline!! The scientific evaluation of Harvard psychologists and peer-reviewed studies be damned!! Oh my...

[@patek92]

@@micahelliot4554 there are studies linked in the article. did you check them out?

[@sarahdavis7646]

My partner had this therapy and when I say I met a new person after, I mean it. If you have trauma, you deserve to heal and lead a full life. Please give therapy a chance and if you are seen as a good candidate for this type of therapy, try to be brave. It's hard and takes time but so worth it

[@lostinwonderland87]

would you mind sharing what changes you saw? im getting this done soon.

[@imerwhere1195]

@@lostinwonderland87 I'd like to know from you both. I'm thinking of taking this

[@brookeboland9711]

that'd be great advice, if EMDR actually worked.

[@sarahdavis7646]

@@lostinwonderland87 I never saw.your comment, I apologize for the delay. He had to build a safe mental space to process with the therapist. Which took a while, I think it was 6-10 months before the actual EMDR sessions. He had 3-4 EMDR sessions in total and the changes were profound. He went from Stoic, emotionally unavailable and guarded to a softer human. He shared his trauma with me and was so vulnerable it was beautiful. I met a new man, I understand him better and more importantly, he can navigate his emotions better. The hyper-vigilance went way down, he sleeps better. It's been 4 years since he had the therapy and since then we have a had a son. It's been healing to raise a family in an environment we wished for ourselves. We aren't perfect, but we lean into each other instead.of shutting down or running away.

[@sarahdavis7646]

@@imerwhere1195 if you had serious trauma I highly recommend it. I have had trauma but never did EMDR, I did CBT and grief counseling to deal with my rape and parental suicide trauma. My partners trauma isn't mine to share, I will tell you that he had what I consider to be the worst kind of trauma for a human and that is why I strongly recommend it for people who have heavy trauma. Regardless, if you find your daily life is affected, you are triggered often, it's worth working with a therapist to help you get the tools to stay above water mentally. Life will trigger us but once we have tools, we create the space to respond in a healthier way for ourselves. Setting boundaries etc. You are worth your own efforts.

[@brianw.3167]

This therapy gave me my life back. Highly, highly recommended.

[@alya-8205]

Did you do this alone or with help of therapist? And based on you experience, do you think I can do it without a therapist?

[@-ahmed121]

You can say that “it gave you a new childhood" ^_^

[@lifechallengs2315]

I cant remember much about past. how do they help u with this? apart from that, could you talk about ur experience more please?

[@brianw.3167]

@@alya-8205 it's something that, based off the book Getting Past Your Past, can potentially be done alone, but I wouldn't recommend it. Especially if your past experiences were especially traumatic. I did it with a therapist.

[@brianw.3167]

@@lifechallengs2315 my experiences were so long ago that I only remembered high level details, so we focused on recent experiences that triggered those same residual feelings. From there I was able to be back in the moment enough to where they could be dealt with. We introduced the presence of a trusted loved one that was able to change the context of them... made them just another somewhat crappy childhood memory vs. the ones that had impacted me for 20+ years.

[@anonymousadult]

My husband had a horrible (understatement) father when growing up. Even in his 30’s, he was trying to please him and failed. His psychiatrist recommended this therapy. Finally, in his late 40’s he has been free of past trauma! It has infinitely improved him, our 20 year marriage, and the well being of our teenaged boys. Praise God for this, I don’t know where we all would be without it.

[@TheAnnegallien]

How many sessions did he need ?

[@anonymousadult]

@@TheAnnegallien this was during Covid so all visits were virtual… he had a weekly meeting for 3 months… his depression is still bad… but I don’t think he worked the program completely and properly.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@nyx626]

Now it makes sense why I always drift off into memories every time I travel when seated at a window seat

[@stranger861]

Yeees..so true

[@IsuiGtz]

Or we can also imagine a super fast mini-super-hero jumping all obstacles in our sight.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Yes, me too.

[@lovebeamstudio4335]

This is the first time I've ever taken the time to actually comment on a youtube video but I started EMDR therapy not long ago and it has already made a huge impact on my life. I can recall traumatic events but my brain no longer has them running on replay every day. For the past 15yrs I struggled with PTSD, I had terrible panic attacks and my world became so small trying to constantly avoid triggers. I had tried so many things in that time, from counselling, meditation to medication but nothing worked until now. I felt like I was drowning and would never be able to think clearly again or get past my horrible experiences but all of a sudden I just realised that I've completely stopped thinking about them let alone having nightmares and constantly re-living them. I would highly recommend EMDR to anyone feeling stuck in the past and desperate to move on with their life!

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@Cherrycherrylady1479]

I have struggled with Panic Disorder and this was this only thing that helped me, after 7 therapists. I could finally leave my home.

[@redvelvetcakeYUM]

If you don’t mind me asking, are you diagnosed with having agoraphobia?

[@morningwithgracie7870]

Dd u do this with a coach?

[@faithlynn2083]

i have panic disorder and agoraphobia as well. emdr has been a great help to me. i’m not where i want to be yet, but i’ve made huge progress and i hope i will be one day.

[@leonardocosenza429]

@@faithlynn2083 how are you now? I struggle with pd and agoraphobia too and i’m about to start emdr and i’m kind of nervous

[@robbieanderson227]

@@leonardocosenza429 how are you getting on?

[@bedrockcounseling6845]

EMDR Therapy changed my life for the better. I’m also an EMDR therapist, and whenever I get the opportunity to do EMDR with a client, I’m always in awe at how their brain is able to heal itself while also reprocessing their irrational beliefs.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@monikad.7900]

Wow joe 🙌 Very constructive

[@estefania6953]

EMDR changed my life, it has been one of the best experiences of my life, I think it is unfair that very few people can experience it, given its effectiveness

[@morningwithgracie7870]

How dd u do it? With a therapist?

[@estefania6953]

@@morningwithgracie7870 yes with an EMDR specialist psychologist

[@pibkaveronica7622]

Mine too

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@izzomoses7994]

​@joed2444 why so upset?

[@jmc1017]

EMDR is life changing..... highly recommend to anyone who is "stuck" or has severe anxiety/panic attacks etc.

[@Lapilapinova]

I was severely depressed and got lost in the past having heavy thoughts. I started this therapy thanks to a friend’s advice, I thought it was my last chance.Last week I completed the protocol. It took 14 months to finally feel like myself again. It was not easy, I don't remember how many times I asked why do I do this to myself.Facing with your worst fears and traumas is challenging.If you're reading this and need some help and support, please seek for it. I promise it gets better🙏 You are worth it!

[@Hawkeyed943]

Thank you for the truth and recommendation. Starting this Sunday 🤞🏼🙏🏼💛

[@Lapilapinova]

@@Hawkeyed943 Good luck! I wish you the best and sending you good vibes😌 I am here if you want to share or ask anything✌️

[@Hawkeyed943]

@@Lapilapinova thank you - I already feel like I want to stay there all day lol 💝 I know it will be hard but I am definitely ready to stop feeling so negative, and having panic attacks and/or dissociating just talking or thinking about traumatic experiences 🙄😊

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@Alice_Walker]

I am a first responder and in 2011 developed PTSD after attending multiple critical incidents without adequate time between to recover my resilience. When my therapist suggested EMDR in 2012 I'd never heard of it and it sounded pretty silly to me. The process was kind of anti climactic and didn't feel like much happened, but in just a few sessions it removed all the emotional angst associated with the trauma of the critical incidents and completely stopped the nightmares and night terrors I'd been experiencing. I wouldn't go as far as to say that it was a magic bullet as I still had to work hard to completely recover from other ways it had affected me but it turned the volume of the traumas down sufficiently that I could then get on with my other coping skills. Eight years later those EMDR sessions have stuck and I have not been troubled by the trauma of those critical events since. I can recall them when I want to tell the stories, and I get an appropriate little blip of "that was an difficult and upsetting situation to have to deal with" on my emotional radar but otherwise they are out of mind. So EMDR definitely worked for me. I hope that people everywhere who might benefit from it will have access to it.

[@skram1000]

Very awesome to hear your story and process. I know that must have been rough. Glad to see people can be helped! Too many suffer.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@Alice_Walker]

@@joed2444 nope, not bullshit. I hope that you can find whatever it is you're seeking watching these videos.

[@joed2444]

I seek bullshit and I have found it

[@joed2444]

@@Alice_Walker *sniff* smell like MOOOOOOO POOOOOOOOOOOO

[@jessemavis7177]

"Crying, it's a shower for the soul" - a healer

[@jessemavis7177]

@S Han sometimes i shower to get cleaned after working, other times its for selfcare.

[@SpicyMcG]

It is! Even though shame is often brought due to crying, it’s certainly a healthy release when you let it be.

[@cookee888]

Awwwwwwwwww 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@GajanaNigade]

Aaaaaarrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhh......

[@sheerajzakir]

Yeah!! Crying isn't weak.

[@GajanaNigade]

With some much of the audience here being made aware of how important ones childhood experiences are, I hope we give it our best to raise our children with best possible experiences we can offer. Easier said than done, but we can all try.

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

There are eight phases to EMDR therapy: initial history discovery and treatment planning, preparation, assessment, desensitization, installation, body scan, closure, and then reevaluation.👍

[@micahelliot4554]

You forgot the 9th phase: Your wallet and bank account being emptied to pay for this scam.

[@marylevin9262]

@@micahelliot4554 not a scam - please do your research before your trash talk

[@micahelliot4554]

@@marylevin9262 I did: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing#Pseudoscience

[@JM-ri1em]

@@micahelliot4554 Wikipedia is not research, look up the most recent studies on it. If you’re too lazy for that watch Dr. Andrew Huberman’s opinion on the research literature.

[@micahelliot4554]

@@JM-ri1em Wikipedia is most certainly a research tool and quotes actual scientifically controlled studies and their results, which are very embarrassing, to say the least, for EMDR true believers.

[@edbl1944]

After having a bad childhood and going from depression to depression and several therapies I finaly found EMDR and now in my early 40`s I have hope.... for the first time.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@VasundharaVee]

This was really needed. My therapist uses EMDR and it has helped me so much. Yet when I speak about it to others, very few people seem to have heard of it. I'm so grateful that you put up this video.

[@marylevin9262]

same here - it's hard to explain

[@micahelliot4554]

@@marylevin9262 Not at all. Placebo effect, nothing more.

[@magnolia2]

It’s the best kind of therapy. Ignore the uneducated troll that thinks Wikipedia is a respectable research database.🤦🏽‍♀️🤣😭😭😭

[@micahelliot4554]

@@magnolia2 That's odd, the journal Nature evaluated Wikipedia favorably to the Encyclopedia Brittannica, or perhaps you regard the EB as a shoddy research tool as well?

[@itzakpoelzig330]

I'm not sure why people are so dismissive of the placebo effect. It's very poorly understood and yet extremely powerful. Just because we have a name for something doesn't mean we have any idea what it is.

[@HIXHAM]

2021 is your year. Keep going after your desires you will manifest everything you desire Wishing you all blessings, abundance, and prosperity 🙏🏾❤️

[@curbsidecheesecake9581]

🙏🏼✨💜

[@lostmillenial2381]

Same to you!

[@diegopitbull7580]

I needed your comment. Thanks.

[@garethmorgan3665]

Thanks man, you too :-)

[@janycebrown4071]

Right back at ya ❣️

[@aza.ak1ra]

It was (and still is!) a game changer for me. Also remember that we're all a bit different, our minds are differently wired and we're at different stages in our lives and we could be ready or not ready for it. If it didn't work for you, please don't discourage others, someone could miss an opportunity to save their life.

[@giulia2098]

Funny story is that when I started psycotherapy, my DR. asked me if I wanted to try Emdr and said yes. We did two session, first one worked out fine, I cried too, second one nah, I was not able to completely relax and dive deep. She said then, ok, let's go back to classic psychoanalysis. We never tried it again, and now watching this video and reading all good feedbacks, made me feel I want to try again. To connect to what you were saying, never talked badly about Emdr, always said, it did not work for me, it may work for others.

[@aza.ak1ra]

@@giulia2098 Oh yeah! I believe that EMDR is based so strongly on very subtle mind connections, that effects can strongly vary on the day, your mood, what you've been focusing on and processing in days prior to the session, serotonin levels, degree of stress and irritation. Some days it takes me minutes to get in the zone, sometimes I need more patience and effort for it to start clicking. Sometimes I just can't feel it and let it be a normal relaxation meditation. And usually I do it spontanoeusly after reading something or breaking down some content in my minds that really resonates with the idea of diving deep into the subconscious mind. And I LOVE and respect the approach of "didn't work work me, may work for others"! Psychology and human's mind are extremely complex and everybody's differently wired. If you feel like it, give it a shot again one day! Cheers :)

[@Hanna-on2wu]

Thank you and I love your profile pic! ✊

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@colinm1611]

I'm currently having EMDR therapy due to childhood trauma & it's extremely challenging, emotionally draining & affecting me physically. It's true when they say the body keeps the score as trauma is trapped in the body. I've experienced problems with my eyes, teeth & had fever ad the trauma is slowly being released. It's taking its toll but I'm certain very worthwhile.

[@aliglobiu6672]

My sister is an EMDR therapist, and i can confirm that this thing copes with PTSD excellently.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@if3581]

I also never comment on KZbin but EMDR was so amazing and helped me so much that the message needs to be shared! The sessions were very emotional and heavy but so effective. It really helped solving a big part of my PTSD and lifted such a big weight off my soul. Even my family and friends noticed the change. Can’t recommend enough! As other people mentioned, it gave me my life back. If you can, definitely give it a try (always with a trained professional!)

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@trinaperfect5638]

That's the therapy I've been doing and it has helped me a great deal through abusive relationship recovery, grieving etc. I highly recommend this form of therapy

[@loulousworld92]

I just had my first session last week and I am struggling to connect with it. I’m not sure if it’s the therapy itself or the therapist. She has asked me to do activities such as visualise a box and me packing my feelings into the box and disposing of it however, I feel more lost than when I started because I thought I signed up for counselling but so far the therapy is centred around trying to connect sensory feelings and my traumatic experiences. I feel so confused. I want to speak to the organisation about referring me to a different service 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@VasundharaVee]

@@loulousworld92 hi ! I wanted to share my experience with the same.... in the beginning I was also taught to "contain" the unmanageable emotions in an imaginary jar or box.... I also didnt like it at first, but realized how useful it is later .... because a lot of the past might come alive and bring up very painful feelings even outside therapy. That's when the container image becomes extremely helpful.... I also noticed that the revisiting of memories was as much physical as it was mental and that body memory is a REAL thing in trauma.... sometimes I memory would show up in my body first and then slip into my mind..... this is common for many people in therapy. I really hope that this helps you and I send you love and strength as you get on this immense journey. You might like the work of Gabor Maté - his videos on youtube are great... so are his books... about the body holding past traumas and how there are therapeutic processes to release them.

[@loulousworld92]

@@VasundharaVee thank you so much for you words of encouragement. I guess I will try and stick it out and see how it goes. Many thanks

[@sophiaperez8602]

I am currently working through what might be my most difficult target. I’m creating so much art during this process, both externally and within myself. It is so hard, but reading comments like yours and others in this thread make me hopeful.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@DavidPuckArtist]

I’ve been using EMDR with my therapist, in conjunction with Internal Family Systems therapy. And it is life changing! In a very short time its managed to change things on a deep foundational level that many years of CBT and talk therapy only seemed to be able to understand and surface level change. If you have tried other forms of therapy and have reached a wall, I highly recommend something like this. I didn’t even know that it was an option until I stumbled on my current therapist who suggested it.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@giakomino1310]

As a psychologist, I feel like in many of their videos The School of Life is talking about psychotherapy like there is just one approach, for example: “the goal of psychotherapy consists in confronting traumatic memories”. I personally think that this interpretation is deceptive, as it does not show how, in reality, psychotherapy is made of many different approaches (some of which do not demand any confrontation with the past at all, but can be equally helpful). This kind of knowledge is especially important for people seeking help, who should be informed properly on what to expect from a psychotherapy.

[@heartspacerelaxations6924]

It’s time therapists became much more trauma informed. There is an organisation on the states that’s traines therapist in cutting edge approaches and lots of detail as news menthols evolve.

[@carmenneilson1960]

EMDR helped me to make a life changing decision to resign from an internship led by a Supervisor who was cold, critical, and had a dominant personality like my mother, who I felt never loved me. The EMDR sessions were few and by the third session, I was done and moved on to a different job. A door in my Past closed (The end of my painful story) and I entered the door of my Future (The beginning of a fulfilling life and a new career) And lived happily ever after.

[@bolivar1789]

Thank you for taking the time to share your story! It is very inspiring and can help many people!

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@carmenneilson1960]

Why do you say this is “bull shit”? Apparently, you have not experienced trauma in your childhood or in your life time and had it resolved in therapy. Veterans who have experienced Post Trauma Stress Disorder (PTSD) have found relief in EMDR.

[@carmenneilson1960]

@@joed2444 Why do you label Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) as “bull shit”? Repeated studies have shown that this form of psychotherapy has enabled people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are a result of disturbing life experiences.

[@joed2444]

Cite your “studies.”

[@marionmetathink3234]

I used to have night terrors, I consulted my doctor who new an EMDR practician. It opened the door for true relief from repeated and intense trauma.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@samuelrodriguez6576]

EMDR Therapy reminds me of a guided meditation. For those who lacks the courage to look inside themselves. We all need help at different points in our life. Nearly wishing this was something I could do as a child with another. Yet you have to grow as an individual. It’s one thing to know that you’re free. It’s another to accept the responsibility that you are...

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@Cococonutt]

Unfortunately, I tried EMDR and it was a humiliating and frustrating experience. I didn’t understand the purpose of it and I felt it was pushed onto me by my therapist, who was new to it. It was awkward and made no sense and I ended up leaving therapy because of it, I just felt stupid. I would love to find a new therapist that I trusted and try this with them, because this video helped me to understand it better and it seems quite different from my experience.

[@IsuiGtz]

This is true for all types of therapy sessions: you need to find the right therapist for you. Sometimes it's a journey by itself, but a necessary one.

[@CamilaFuentes0227]

I'm sorry that happened to you too. It didn't work on me neither

[@Infoseek777]

Same........mine was so excited about it, and nothing was happening.....then I felt bad and it just got uncomfortable....;/

[@sann2144]

Sounds like it didn't work because of your therapist, not because it was EMDR. I hope you find a good therapist that suits you!

[@bocah_kancil]

I am sorry to hear that, as far on my understanding all kind of therapist is impermanent, if you want to recover your mental , you need to train your perception of mind that everything on this life is impermanent , happiness and sorrow are impermanent. That's the Buddhist teaching, I hope it helps...

[@blakevalentine7990]

I was able to drive again after three sessions of EMDR therapy following a traumatic car accident!

[@ReyesvilleTheMost]

I’ve been in and out of counseling for YEARS. I’ve “failed” all the things… I’m embarking on this new journey starting Monday 🤞🏽🤞🏽

[@Bugzthestar]

That’s awesome now that it had been for month , what’s the status.? Has it helped you

[@TaquitoDeAsada]

How's it been for you?

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@ReyesvilleTheMost]

@@joed2444 so it’s been bullshit for you or you saying bullshit to my response

[@erasmus9627]

This video should explain the core process of EMDR, which is that the client is asked to recall the traumatic memory while doing bilateral movement (via eyes, tapping or sounds). The rapid left to right eye movements seem to have a similar effect to REM sleep, when experiences are processed in the brain. There are other theories to explain why EMDR works, but the point is that it really does. It is a miracle therapy really.

[@romanr7948]

There's nothing special about the eye or hand movements. The method, like many others, is based on pattern/reflex neutralization. The other aspects are analogous to those of other methods. The essence is pretty much the same. EFT, some NLP techniques, Sedona Method, etc. are about the same thing.

[@erasmus9627]

@@romanr7948 Actually, bilateral stimulation has been shown to be highly effective in breaking down the negative thought loops that keep PTSD and anxiety sufferers trapped. Numerous studies using real time brain scans show how bilateral stimulation (especially eye movements) simultaneously calm down the amygdala (the brain's fear centre) while boosting frontal cortex activity. This enables people to see their problems in a new light, with less fear, and begin to rewire their neural architecture. EMDR is now endorsed by dozens of global reputable organisations such as The American Psychiatric Association and the WHO. Conversely, there is very little empirical evidence supporting NLP, Sedona or EFT.

[@romanr7948]

@@erasmus9627, there are TONS of empirical evidence supporting NLP, Sedona Method, EFT, etc. I've been working with clients for many years. Many clients with various problems, mostly in the PTSD category. I've also observed others work with clients. I've also read other practitioners' reports and reports of their clients. Those methods, applied by skillful practitioners, produce wonderful results and do that quickly. Once one becomes aware of the principles, one breaks his enchantment with a particular technique and becomes able to create his own techniques on the spot, which I do from time to time. Knowing principles as opposed to just one technique allows one to be more flexible and adaptable. For a good demo of an NLP technique, watch a video called "NLP Techniques - Rapid Anxiety Relief with NLP - Steve Andreas demos Spinning Feelings". That's just one of many possible techniques.

[@mutiaraharinda]

I did EMDR to help me resolving my trauma. Now I can make a peace with myself and my past self. Best decision in my life, and it surely change my life.

[@ingridmattosmonteiro6935]

EMDR is changing my life for the better after years of therapy!!

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@lanagievski1540]

EMDR helped me to take my life back and move forward. Couldn’t recommend it more. I just don’t get triggered any more

[@ferrariunicorn]

Just started EMDR and just with the full understanding alone, from research with videos as such, yes I’m anxious - I know it’s gonna get real af - but I’m really optimistic! I wish The Power Of A Novelist to all!!

[@leonardocosenza429]

How was it?

[@aroundflames]

“but the idea is not to abandon our younger self in one of the most difficult moment of their lives, it to help them find a way out of their pain”. I cried.

[@david.walters]

whoever sees this, im just saying don’t get your mind all caught in the media and distractions from ourselves. all that matters is that your vibrating high and u are at peace with yourself, you just reading this comment I now send positivity and strength to whoever reads this. thank you may all of you be blessed you are loved I promise. ,❤️

[@TheDhammaHub]

Like the Buddha said, everything we do and experience has causes & effect - this is especially true when it comes to our minds! Very important to deal with past problems

[@TheDhammaHub]

@Sanningen Pretty good question - likely not, but it depends on a few factors in the end

[@theserialbunny424]

Sounds very similar to every action has equal and opposite reaction?

[@HL-hr4ox]

I’m starting this in 3 days. I’m so excited to get better. I know the work will be hard but the benefits will be enormous.

[@alexandramigueis6882]

Hey there, it's been a year! How did it go?

[@mimiteas]

EMDR helped me. I am so happy my therapist suggested it. 😊

[@MickeyDs-mp7yr]

I 100% agree. I've been doing EMDR therapy with life changing results. Go for it.

[@vsb000]

Wow I just read about this last night in my book “the body keeps score” how weird timing!

[@gearloose1100]

what a coincidence! I too read the book last night, found the video and your comment today.

[@justfine8647]

It's not coincidence. Google listens to you.

[@gearloose1100]

@@justfine8647 Google does but the coincidence is the school of life uploaded this video on the very same day and both of us were reading the same book and same topic on the same day.

[@castro_458]

hmm... I have this book on a shelve since 7 month, saying: some day I will go back to you, dear book

[@mikemyers4826]

@@castro_458 this is an excellent book. If you haven’t dusted it off in 8 months, maybe give it a shot. The neurology stuff up front and the therapy stuff in the back are sold gold IMO. Like these two, this is also where I learned about EMDR and other cool stuff like body reintegration type therapies that I’ve found helpful. Trigger warning for combat and sexual assault, so skip some stories.

[@nicholasspence480]

Nobody: TSOL: "pssst....your childhood"

[@harshr8833]

it do be making sense everytime though ;-p

[@nicholasspence480]

@@harshr8833 I don't disagree. A good amount of our lives is getting over trauma from our childhood

[@cookee888]

I agree but sometimes I come to youtube to not think about it then Bam! TSOL

[@Talkinglife]

EMDR therapy is a phased, focused approach to treating traumatic and other symptoms by reconnecting the client in a safe and measured way to the images, self-thoughts, emotions, and body sensations associated with the trauma, and allowing the natural healing powers of the brain to move toward adaptive resolution.

[@micahelliot4554]

You forgot to add, and has no scientific basis nor any controlled empirical evidence for delivering any therapeutic results whatsoever.

[@marylevin9262]

ty for the accurate info

[@yaverito874chavez3]

@@micahelliot4554 You again?

[@micahelliot4554]

@@yaverito874chavez3 You again?

[@yaverito874chavez3]

@@micahelliot4554 I read your comments on a previous comment. Very cold!

[@tabithablalock]

I just finished my 2nd treatment and OMGGGG IT WORKS

[@jamiefleishman6236]

This gets to the heart of understanding/interacting with the world emotionally versus intellectually. The world is dull and gray understand it in the latter way...

[@dwmsmay6517]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Wonderful explanation of EMDR. I'm currently in the midst of this exact therapy & although it's not easy to "relive" the most traumatic moments of my childhood, I do see some light @ the end of the tunnel. Thank you.

[@gioconda_ros]

This therapy was a game changer for me. It doesn’t change what happened, but allows you to revisit your traumatic past experiences and came out from there with a different perspective and feeling. It builds bridges around the past to connect with your present in a healthier way. I was buzzing to discover the video so my family can finally understand better what was my therapy about. Also, I didn’t know myself this has its roots on Freud. Nice one!

[@romanr7948]

There's nothing special about the eye or hand movements. The method, like many others, is based on pattern/reflex modification. The other aspects are analogous to those of many effective other methods, e.g., EFT, some NLP techniques, Sedona Method, etc.

[@hello_bye708]

I’ve been in psychosis for one year and lost my entire life because of it. Lost the job that I loved, my significant other, the ability to drive, I just want my old life back. I’ve been in and out of psychiatric hospitals and gone through many therapists. I have a therapist now who is going to do EDMR on me this Friday and I just hope it helps. I’m discouraged by the fact that it doesn’t help everyone. I’m sitting here crying as I write this I just want my normal life back, I’m beginning to lose hope.

[@tatianamendoncastudio]

I guess I would need that kind of therapy, 4 years of behavioral therapy didn’t really help cure past traumas, I also didn’t trust my therapist completely. It was like telling him how my week was ditty, when in fact I should have talked about how my family was horrible to me and made me weak to deal myself with these daily struggles, instead of being down for people being ***holes.

[@abutterfly7975]

Yes I hate when I waste my whole expensive session talking About my week instead what I need to heal from in my past!

[@sanguinesoulful]

EMDR is the best kept secret in therapy which should become no longer a secret. EMDR did for me in a few sessions what more than 20 years of therepy could not: reprocess and file the memories into proper order and make the impact on me be a past experience rather than every moment of every day.

[@romanr7948]

The true mechanism used in this method has been used in other methods for a long time. The movement of eyes and hands isn't what produces the results.

[@phyllissnook]

I had done this in the 1990's as a resort to traditional therapy and it gave me a lot of insight into who I am and where I came from, etc. I have been writing a blog if you want to call it that about my life. It will probably never reach anyone else's life but myself but it is a wonderful way to get to know "You!" EMDR helped me in so many ways; after I stopped my therapy my life became whole again and it proceeded into the "who" I am today. I highly recommend this form of therapy!

[@joed2444]

Bullshit

[@duncanm90]

Thanks for another great video tackling trauma, love that you folks listen. 👂💚

[@VeReePW]

I believe that healing our trauma can be a game changer in our Society

[@bernasayrac524]

I'm going through EMDR since a couple of months and I already see the benefits. I highly recommend it.

[@robbieanderson227]

You recommend doing it yourself? It’s ok yt…

[@bernasayrac524]

@@robbieanderson227 I do it with a therapist. As far as I know you cannot do it by yourself.

[@barror1532]

I'm currently doing EMDR so it is great to learn more about its origins! Thanks so much for the video :)

[@ealkhaja]

Im undergoing treatment with talk Therapy and CBT for 6 months for PTSD after a horrible trauma of a legal case, i can say it didn’t help as much and i still suffer the fatigue, brain fog, anxiety etc.. i came across this video and i got so much encouraged to try the EMDR! i don’t think my current therapist is licensed for it as she never mentioned it to me

[@varunprakash6207]

EMDR Therapy heals our mind by giving encourage to psychology of patients more over erase pain of past & Encourage her support to heals the patient 👍👍👍👍👍

[@UnprotectedDesignFlaw]

Something deep inside me resonated with this video. And I think I might need this therapy. Anxiety attack with watery eyes, and I was perfectly fine before it played on my TV.

[@jen3722]

Highly recommend EMDR therapy. Find the right person that you can trust before you start this therapy. It relieved a lot of my traumatic experiences and helped me to sleep at night. I used to have a lot of nightmares and I no longer have them. Sleeping like a baby now.

[@joed2444]

Bullshit.

[@jen3722]

Only your opinion

[@joed2444]

@@jen3722 Nope

[@jen3722]

Troll? Nothing better to do than tell others EMDR doesn't work for you or anyone else? Right! Deny others their truth, hater!

[@joed2444]

@@jen3722 It's called objective reality, not what you think compared to billions of other people's hard work has suggested.

[@russneho]

This video is better than the entire mental health treatment I have ever received in my life combined.

[@ReynaSingh]

Something seemed off about this video. Then I realized the narrator changed

[@aronklein8835]

Thought I was watching psychtogo when I clicked

[@_SomyaY]

Shes nice, but i really liked hum, it was more storylike then

[@_SomyaY]

@@aronklein8835 yeah, same now that i think of it

[@SoundSeeker2024]

Another great episode. I enjoyed hearing the entire video narrated by the woman who usually closes out these School of Life videos with her calm crisp British accent.

[@jamiepaolinetti5087]

This is fascinating. Thank you. I don't know if Francine Shapiro or the people at this channel are familiar with Konstantin Stanislavski's work or not, but EMDR is just a slight tweak on one of the tools in Stanislavski's "Method" of acting, directing and producing live theatre. The tool is called Emotional Memory, and the actor and director find events and emotions in the actor's life that are synonymous with the character's in the play that the actor is portraying. By revisiting, dissecting and striving to understand these, the actor is able to better bring to life the character's struggle in the play. The larger picture goal is to present a story to the audience about any one of an unending number of social and psychological issues that are troubling our world. Stanislavski developed his "Method" in the late 1800's and early 1900's and it is no surprise that both Freud and Jung were both students of his work. He is considered the father of all acting techniques. Today Stanislavski's work is still known as "The Method" but has been highly bastardized, misquoted, and misunderstood by almost all modern day actors and teachers, as well as the mainstream media. The Method went beyond the work of the "novelist", (as described in this video) by having the playwrights story literally brought to life on the live stage by the actors and directors of the theatre. The hope was that we could as a society examine our problems and challenges and learn from them to become a better race of people. This kind of live theatre, based in realism, is now nearly dead. It is one of the oldest artforms known to man, and with the current closing of all live theatres in the big cities, it will likely be a very long time before it comes back, if ever. I have taught the Method for 25 years and directed live theatre using this process and the effect on audiences can be transformative and sublime. I would love to see The School of Life do a video on Stanislavski's work.

[@romanr7948]

The eye or hand movement is an irrelevant aspect of the method. The rest is essentially the same as in many other effective method.

[@moua0067]

EMDR helped me immensely

[@crissieasmr7765]

Wow, I literally heard about it yesterday and was considering trying it. I will

[@maxcamille1964]

I think I’d definitely consider doing this

[@aza.ak1ra]

If your intuition is telling you that it could be your thing, go for it! It's a beautiful (and also fun in creative way!) therapy that brings lots of joy, peace and self-realization!

[@thewokestoic2432]

Bro it’s fuckin amazing, I was really skeptical but it’s been huge !!

[@joed2444]

Irt's bullshit

[@Anime._.D]

Thanks i knew about Michael Hill! He was my professor in Oxford and told us FBC fund!

[@Madkalibyr]

I begin this with my therapist, next month. I’m looking forward to it

[@philipbanks9017]

Hey! How'd it work out for you?

[@iloveyoufromthedepthofmyheart]

I've tried EMDR after a traumatic incident, it worked wonders for me. As if I'd take a pill that calmed me.

[@strawberrissa2769]

Thank you for this video 💖

[@StompL7]

Ok, I just had a 1h30 chat with my grandma. The kind of chat that's really meaningful and constructive, I never spent this much quality time with her ever and at the end she spoke about EMDR. Next thing I open my youtube page and what do I see ? I often see comments from people who are saying that a video came out at the exact right time in their life, some sort of synchronicity. I always had a hard time believing those but now it's my turn haha.

[@jenniperkins4260]

ÉmDR treatment saved my life !!! It works… it’s amazing !

[@petyabor5223]

Hello! Could you share a bit more, for your experience with EMDR. I'm about to star it after 2 weeks. Thank you in advance!

[@marylevin9262]

i have done it with my therapist and on my own and it has helped tremendously

[@micahelliot4554]

Placebo effect, nothing more.

[@marylevin9262]

@@micahelliot4554 😂😂😂 well since you say so you must be right

[@micahelliot4554]

@@marylevin9262 I don't say so, the hard data says so: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing#Pseudoscience

[@micahelliot4554]

@@alexandrugheorghe5610 There you have it, take the word of a crank-written book over a Harvard psychologist and multiple peer reviewed studies in the best scientific journals. Done and dusted!!

[@sasuntiii]

@@micahelliot4554 Even if it is a placebo, if it works and helps people get their lives back, what is the problem??? People here are looking for ways to survive and live their lives as they used to, before they were traumatised, show some empathy, please.

[@yusufmohamedsalh8321]

I love her voice and wish to get more videos on same topic ♥️

[@justinael]

A friend likes their EMDR therapy. I personally don't trust people I don't know well when I open up in person, so I'm not into such sessions. But I gain a lot from videos about ACOAs, ACONs and generally traumatic childhood. I was able to feel my feelings from when I was 5, when I had felt abandoned for the first time. Wow, suddenly I cried like crazy and felt so miserable! I told this child all the things I would tell my child if I had it. It worked extremely well. So I think the technique itself may be great, but I prefer to practice it alone, with distant help of youtube psychotherapy videos.

[@tyronewilliams7556]

Same! Opening up is difficult, even to loved ones nevermind a stranger. Do you have any channel recommendations for doing it solo?

[@justinael]

@@tyronewilliams7556 Yes, I like Jerry Wise, who speaks slowly but has great content, Lisa A. Romano who concentrates on children of narcissists, their feelings and what to do in practice, dr Margaret Paul who is old, wise and has absolutely awesome podcasts and sometimes Julia Kristina who is very emotional but can nail things down. I think it's worth giving them all a chance, especially their talks, not interviews.

[@tyronewilliams7556]

@justinael Thanks a lot, I appreciate it. Will definitely check them out 🙏

[@kringlefanten]

I've never seen a psychiatrist or psychologists office with couches in them. I hate having to sit, btw. I can see how lying down would be much more useful.

[@nomeda6000]

Me too, I thought those only existed in movies!

[@IsuiGtz]

Maybe we all live in underdeveloped countries in which this is not a priority. I know this is the case for what I've seen, but I don't really know about the rest of the world, it's just an hypothesis.

[@guipoeta]

Nah, they use they couch mostly for applied Psychoanalysis that was invented by Freud around 100 years ago, like mentioned in the video. I dare say that therapy has advanced since then and lying down isn't actually important for all the modern approaches in Psychology that have sprung up

[@carolinesmith7468]

Same!!

[@geralldus]

@@guipoeta lying on a couch allows the therapist to act as a psychic prosthetic and allows the patient to internalise the voice and insight of the therapist rather than it being personalised, encouraging integration rather than dependency. That was my experience and interpretation anyway, seemed to work for me.

[@vophie]

so that's why there's couches!

[@rizzataliquig4974]

I thought its for the family members of the patient 😅🤣

[@theoisthrow4351]

I'm will make sure I get this treatment done on my son and myself ASAP

[@erintobiasz]

Incredibley well done. Thank you

[@ramilurazmanov]

Amazing video, thank you!

[@janswimwild]

There is more detailed information to be found on EMDR in the excellent The Body Keeps the Score. It has been used very successfully in the US with previously untreatable Vets with PTSD.

[@janswimwild]

@@alexandrugheorghe5610 possibly the most important book ever for understanding trauma, what it is and the developments (and otherwise) in treatments. Forty years of applied psychiatric and psychotherapy practice must count for something! I also like Bessel van der Kolk’s videos, he is an extraordinary man with huge compassion and understanding, and an excellent communicator.

[@robbieanderson227]

@@alexandrugheorghe5610 it’s a hard read!

[@sukisuzuki10]

She has a lovely voice

[@actuallybusiness1622]

The 2021 will be your year!!🔥💯

[@kanishkkun]

Love her voice ☺

[@IEMTPractitioner]

This is very interesting. I use and teach IEMT which is similar to EMDR but very different at the same time. I have lots of videos about this on my channel.

[@lj6819]

I've had somatization disorder now for 12 years being diagnosed only 6 years ago. After hundreds of doctors appointments and multiple tests like m.r.i.s, ct scans, ultrasounds over that 12 year span, nothing has been found from these symptoms that I go through. I've tried meds, cognitive behavior therapy, acupuncture and almost everything in the book these past 6 years yet I still suffer from this debilitating disease. I applied for social security disability and got it right away as I have just been crippled by this disease. Scary thing is that you don't know what's real and what's not. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer last year even though I felt no symptoms for that one particular thing. It was found as I had an m.r.i. for swelling under my jaw. My shrink said to stay away from doctors while my doctor said if i'm dealing with real symptoms, i must follow up with a doctor. I feel real painful and destressing symptoms....I've almost exhausted everything but this. Can it help?

[@seamusheaney8382]

I am finding EMDR very helpful.

[@karebu2]

Yes EDM therapy works!

[@rea9799]

Such a helpful video thankyou

[@innatebalancetherapy472]

Great work!! It’s inspired my videos on my channel ❤️❤️🙏🙏❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@smjj7038]

I’m starting EMDR therapy next week for my health anxiety. I had a severely traumatic childhood.

[@briattnybrittany6843]

what has your experience with this been like so far?

[@ScatteredFafa]

Ahhh, time for therapy by School of life.

[@anamazinglife5628]

감사합니다 🎵🎶🎼

[@lernenderzukunft]

really well explained :)

[@steijnmuller7228]

I tried it, all in all I found it to be helpful, but you should also know that it can mentally tick you off balance for some time (even after the sessions are over). This will fade away again, but I think I underestimated this before I started. Other than that, I would still recommend doing it! :) Talk to your GP about what’s best for you

[@oriel9347]

Many with trauma face a lot of adult isolation without 'supportive people' or 'loving partners' due to fear and introversion. This should not mean there is then no way out of their pain.

[@010101015467]

This came just in time .

[@mariafino2749]

I like EMDR, because I'm too rational on talking therapy, but I try very hard to find a memory that has a negative emotional trigger, so it's very hard to me to use EMDR because I recall in my mind some specific childhood episodes, but they don't have an emotional charge anymore... someone can relate to this too? How to overcome this? thank you