What Should YOU Expect From Therapy? | Kati Morton

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[@TheCutie314159265]

I really liked it when you said "Therapy is not about saying you're getting better just so that your therapist will be proud of you." I feel like I struggle with that sometimes. Anyone else?

[@nurosaka]

Now that you say that... i need to think about it...

[@HS-pm1ro]

Also, be prepared that the first session is an intake and you probably will only be able to touch surface issues, since you’ll be giving a background on your life and family medical history and such.

[@Katimorton]

Agreed!! xoxo

[@cmillspa1]

Good way to ease in, though.

[@adinabudacov9669]

Golden answers, thank you, I went in therapy some years ago and the therapyst told me one thing that changed my life :always live your life as a main character, not as a victim, nobody has the power to do anything to you unless you're letting them! Great job!

[@Katimorton]

I am so glad you found the video helpful!! And thank you so much for sharing your important insights :) xxoo

[@Rlj38823]

This was a great reminder of what the true reason for therapy is. Sometimes I find myself desperately searching for that external approval even from the therapist but it's not about them it's about me.

[@DBSG1976]

My therapist sits patiently while I do two things: get issues off my chest and more importantly see perspectives on my issues I've never even considered before. She has put forth a couple of jaw dropping theories (she always says that her observations "may not be true") and it has done wonders for my emotional growth. I hope that anyone seeking a therapist can get a great match like I found. The work has been hard, but ultimately will help in the long run. You make informative and thoughtful videos Kati, I think you are an excellent spokesperson for your profession.

[@kristidurbidge530]

My therapist is like this. It really helps doesn't it.

[@libbycatherine]

I switched therapists a few months ago and I'm so happy I did because I thought I was seeing someone "good" but now I've found a wayy better fit and I finally feel like I'm getting something out of it other than just talking:)

[@difficultyduets2066]

i’m going to start therapy this summer so yeet

[@samia6528]

Difficulty Duets Same !! Hope you'll feel better soon :)

[@sophiatucker04]

Purrr. You got this

[@abrahamcavazos1984]

Kati. I had therapy sessions with a psychologist about a month ago. But I decided not to meet with her anymore because it kinda seemed to me like she had no idea of what she was doing. There wasn't a plan really established. Also at some point I had a major temper explosion at home because some emotions that I really couldn't control really exploded. When I talked to her about this, she said that she felt embarrassed of what my mother and relatives would say about her since (according to her) instead of me improving, I did worse so it was like her being incompetent. I've seen alot psychologists over the years and I haven't really found one that actually works for me. I do have say Kati that I haven't lost faith in Psychology becuase of you. Somewhere where I live there must be a therapist just as good as you. I hope to find him/her soon. Thank you Kati you are awesome.

[@mehwishowais745]

Abraham Cavazos a psychologist and therapist are different

[@gujono.eiriksson8553]

@@mehwishowais745 -» Practicing psychologists have the professional training and clinical skills to help people learn to cope more effectively with life issues and mental health problems. After years of graduate school and supervised training, they become licensed by their states to provide a number of services, including evaluations and psychotherapy. » www.apa.org/topics/about-psychologists

[@baja1988_Texas]

Several years ago someone wrote in to Ann Landers inquiring about the chances of finding a competent therapist. She answered that it was about the same as finding a competent plumber or electrician, i.e., 50/50. Incompetent therapists need to be hounded from the profession. Please document your experience on yelp dot com, and don't be afraid to name names.

[@marynarichardson9129]

I have considered becoming a psychologist and getting my PhD in psychology. Although I am sixteen, every time I watch one of your videos it inspires to pursue this career. I have been watching your videos since I was 11 so you have really inspired me!! Thanks for the inspiration!!!

[@stillaweirdo3185]

I'm just in the process of switching therapists (which is actually pretty terrifying) and this is a really useful reminder about what to expect when I move to my new therapist! Thank you for all you do Kati, another brilliant video! X

[@Katimorton]

Yay! I am so glad this video came out at a good time for you :) So glad it was helpful!! xoxo

[@GlenHunt]

I'm dealing with a substitute substitute therapist right now, and it's super tough. I really can't wait until my regular therapist returns!

[@AUnicorn666]

Still A Weirdo. I just started therapy for 2 seccions and now I have to go to a new one

[@GlenHunt]

Even though some are difficult, I honestly love my sessions. My therapist knows me well and can keep me from being "stuck" for too long.

[@shaymaarefaat4729]

I am always trust on My therapist and also they aren't annoyed to ask and know more

[@DawnYarnDoll]

I really appreciate you!

[@Katimorton]

Awe thanks Dawn! I appreciate you as well :) xoxo

[@jamiesmith5391]

Thank you!

[@pedrocouto9936]

You're so amazing!! Thank you so much for doing this videos!

[@irenehernandez7035]

Great video by the way! Thank you!

[@danielhyde4383]

This was really helpful, thank you!

[@eliverman]

Great video! Your very grounded in your knowledge of therapy.

[@Therapycable]

Great assessment, Kati! You inspire us with your work!

[@Maryam7580]

You’re videos are always helpful but this video is extremely helpful.

[@Thomasina148667]

Thank you for your videos. They are helping me in my journey.

[@rosemiller8763]

Hey , Kati . 😁 you are looking cute in yellow .🌻 your videos are really helpful . THANK YOU ! ^-^ Stay blessed 🌟

[@Katimorton]

Awe thanks :) So glad you like the videos!! xoxo

[@SamW117]

Thank you so much for taking my question Kati! This was very helpful

[@oykuemek1879]

Your the best Kati,THE BEST !

[@gingertori6190]

This helped calm my nerves. thank you again for being my motivation to take back my life! Gotta love ya

[@JustMe-fz4ik]

I love your videos Kati!

[@kei0summerhayes]

Your videos helped me gain the courage to start counselling, and they have been so helpful on my journey! Thank you so much xx

[@LBell]

I like these types of your videos!

[@peach-jt9sh]

my experience with my first therapist was not ideal because i didn’t feel comfortable telling her what did and didn’t work for me. she asked me to do on the spot improvisation and other things that just made me uncomfortable and embarrassed. if i had seen this video beforehand, i would’ve been better prepared! great video as always kati

[@anabelleb9919]

Kati your videos have help me so much on say where I can’t get ahold of my personal therapist so I appreciate you and your uploads so much thank you

[@gabbiefulton8604]

Thank you Kati for this video it has help me understand more about therapy

[@florenceh5792]

Thank you for posting this! I’m actually just starting therapy for the first time and this gives me some useful knowledge. :)

[@ameliahambrook1431]

Goodness Kati, what perfect timing this video is for me. Thank you. I’m struggling so much in therapy now with so many questions about the process! Thank you!

[@brianbutlerandfriends2066]

you are awesome!!!!

[@maybeloo485]

Thanks for the information! One thing I would like to ask about goals is, what if the goal we have is too vague? My goal in therapy, personally, is to heal from my childhood physical and emotional abuse. But it seems too broad and general. If a therapist were to ask me for something more specific, I wouldn't be able think of anything concrete.

[@shopthislook]

Love you @kati you are an inspiration for me as I'm also in process of becoming a Psychologists

[@shadonseabrook3597]

Here post pandemic, very informative. Thank you!

[@DaveDavis126]

Good information , thank you

[@maxim3830]

So true! This vid should be mandatory part of every MH education.

[@HopeInfinity96]

Love your shirt!

[@kwynnriess9464]

I just wanted you to know that your channel has helped me to recover through almost all of my mental health disorders. You are very calm, validating, encouraging, and accepting in ALL of your videos. You make recovery seem encouraging and your knowledge on so many topics is very helpful.

[@aisha761]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart Kati.. 💕I'm learning so much from you and going for therapy to better myself.. Watching you from Bahrain 🇧🇭

[@JanetteBuhler]

New to your channel👋 This is AWESOME info and help!!!👍 Thank you so much!! 💖

[@anyasilka2325]

So happy discovered you!!!!!!!!😢

[@oliviaeff4154]

Thanks.

[@Rachel-dj3ip]

Loved this video, I’m in the middle of switching therapists and I’ve been quite anxious about it, this video was really useful Thankyou so much, the whole way from N.Ireland x

[@marissabergeron6127]

Thank you for the video. I have been waiting for my therapist to guide me and sometimes it feels like we go in circles even though I always have more to bring up every time.

[@gabrieltupas7667]

Thank you for this Kati!:)

[@bridgetarndt1302]

Such a great reminder!

[@Katimorton]

xoxo

[@hazelnutt999]

You're wearing my favourite colour and it looks so good on you!

[@jacobnicodemus1051]

Have been enjoying your videos!! I’ve been to various therapists over the years, on probably my 6th now. They’ve all been similar in that they mostly just sat and listened without providing feedback. It felt a bit pointless with occasional (rare) helpful moments. My current therapist, I’ve been seeing 2-3 months, and she’s amazing. For the first time, I feel like the therapist and I are collaborating to help me. We are both working towards a common goal. Much, much different than I’ve experienced.

[@wetboy72]

Great video, so true.

[@Katimorton]

Thanks!! xoxo

[@marjoleinvaningen7686]

Love the shirt!

[@marynarichardson9129]

Thanks for the clarification, I think this will be helpfull for anybody who watches regardless of if they are in therapy, thinking about attending therapy, or might never experience therapy. Also, I like that shirt, it is cute and looks good on you!!

[@raywood8187]

Thank you Kati! I would not have felt comfortable asking questions about a potential therapist before I watched this. So I did and found out the first one they suggested didn't have the specialty training I want but the second one did.

[@hannahl4748]

your hair is getting so so long woah😍😍it really suits you! you're super pretty! love this video, thank you kati. have a wonderful day xx

[@Katimorton]

Awe thanks! I have been growing it out a bit :) xoxo

[@stephenpowstinger733]

Young women today appear to not comb out their hair - to the older generation.

[@eleftheriaknd9203]

You help me so much with your videos...you are amazing...also i love your blouse 🌟🌟🌟

[@LiFEwithIvA1]

This video could not have come at a better time! I am currently looking into speaking with a therapist and I wasn't sure what questions to ask. Now I know! Thanks Kati!

[@iris__and_rhizomes]

Great topic! I’ve already shared the video. I think people are afraid of therapy. But honestly, therapists are just people like me and you and they try to help. For me, I like to journal between sessions as well as spend time before each session seriously evaluating where I am and what I need. I talk out loud to myself for at least an hour beforehand trying to work everything out. That way, by the time I get to my session, I don’t ramble as much and hopefully I’ve narrowed down what is most important to address that week. I think the thing that makes therapy the most effective is a constant re-evaluation of where I stand and what I need.

[@cmayblack9909]

Thank you for another amazing video kati, I’ve been waiting for a video like this from you x

[@Katimorton]

Oh of course!! I am so glad it was helpful :) xoxo

[@cmayblack9909]

Kati Morton it is very helpful ❤️

[@jademorgan8697]

Thanks Kati that really helped

[@Katimorton]

Of course! I am so glad :) xoxo

[@kristidurbidge530]

Perfect timing for this video as my therapist and i had a "check in" with each other this week and it was good to discover we are both very much on the same page and this video just reinforces everything i think about my therapy journey and that i think i have the right therapist for me. Im not sure if it has been asked before but it would be fantastic if you could please do a video on how to deal with family and friends "opinions" on you seeing a therapist in quite a negative way ie "why are you going?' " you don't NEED to go, DO YOU?" etc etc. Ive been experiencing this recently and i always feel like a child who's doing the wrong thing when comments are made........like im disappointing people by trying to look after my mental health (and i do have diagnosed mental health disorders). Thankyou so much.

[@molnaranna2867]

Hi Kati! Your videos are amazing! I’ve been seeing my therapist since last October. It was so hard for me to open up to her but she kept saying : ,,Don’t be so hard on yourself, give yourself time.’’ And i did what she suggested. And it was such a good advice! It took a while but after a couple months suddenly i opened up and started sharing things i’ve never thought i would ever be able to tell her. I feel like a lot of people give up on theraphy after a few sessions saying: ,,it’s not working.’’ It is so important to give the relationship some time. Sorry for the mistakes i’m watching your videos from Budapest, Hungary. :) Have a great day and thank you so much for your videos! I am more capable of speaking about mental health issues in English with my American friends because of you. Hahaha ❤️❤️

[@TheBinski5577]

I adore therapy as you know and I'm just finding for no reason I can see, the harder the things I discuss, the better I feel overall regardless of whether those things are actually getting better (they aren't yet). I'm not sure they ever will but therapy is marvellous. My psychologist is a BOSS! :)

[@shannonjaffray225]

Best decision I ever made was to get into therapy 👌🏼 Love this video Have a lovely day everyone♥️

[@evie8059]

Hi Kati i just found your channel a few week ago, I love watching your videos very helpful 😊

[@Katimorton]

Yay! Welcome to the community!! xoxo

[@warrenbradford2597]

I just need to set realistic expectations, talk about how I can recover from the abuses I have been going through, and how they have impacted me. I need to discuss the domestic violence I have been going through and witnessing in the toxic environment I am trapped in.

[@Danielle-tb9kp]

Hi Kati, I've been looking a looot for resources about jobs and careers that are good for people who struggle with mental illness and I just wanted to suggest that I think that'd be a great video idea! I think it'd be so helpful, I and I'm sure sooo many others feel super lost and intimated when it comes to work and mental health struggles. Thank you! Your channel has made my fight so much easier, you do amazing work.

[@shivanidewan6829]

Hay Kati You are a life saviour... 2nd year in clinical psychology.... and my understanding and intrest is being developed by u n ofcourse my mentors at university.... Love the insight I get from you Thnku

[@Neeshpeesh123]

Ooh nice top Katie!

[@em-ri3ph]

this is such a helpful video kati ty!!! also yellow is sooo your colour you look amazing💕

[@Katimorton]

Awe thanks :) xoxox

[@thebehaviouristguy]

That's pretty much it...Thanks

[@tonystewart123]

Amazing video! Amazing quality as well! I mean I did put in the 4k setting and it pretty much destroyed my computer!

[@Alice_Walker]

Hi Kati, great topic. I would also love to hear you talk about good questions to ask a potential new therapist to help pick the right professional for you. Both questions to ask yourself and questions to ask the therapist 🗒 ✨

[@irenehernandez7035]

My therapist never gives me homework, which I found weird at first, but now I understand it’s her approach. On another note, I believe you have already talked about this, but it would be great if you could talk more about what to do when you develop strong attachment to your therapist. How to talk about it, what to do, etc... it seems like an extra problem, often a completely different problem than what the client came to get help with.

[@nurosaka]

I got strongly attached to my previous therapist. She said some things that hurt me a lot like she suggested i shouldnt marry my husband (we were engaged back then). Our relationship was and still is tough but that's not what i wanted to hear, instead i wanted to know how to be with him that it's good for me and for us. Now i realize she was right but the wound is still there and it's more difficult for me to fully trust my current therapist, to just surrender to her and to the process.

[@paigewarren2024]

Hi Kati, This video came out at a great time. I just started the process of therapy with a registed psychotherapist last Friday. It’s been hard wanting to talk about some of the things that has happened to me.

[@ace8910eca]

i recently took a month and a half long break from seeing my therapist cause i was convinced i was doing it wrong because of my issues with speaking out loud. i had my first session back today & i managed to tell my therapist honestly about how i'd been feeling insecure about my talking during sessions and she reassured me that that was perfectly fine and also an important thing to have noticed about myself. this video also opened up a lot of perspectives for me, so thank you kati!

[@thefruitdude8001]

I like your yellow top. That looks soo good :)

[@allieandersen1051]

Hey Kati-- you should do another video on PMS and PMDD!! I enjoyed the others👍🏻. Your Instagram stories are great, love them! Love you Kati!!

[@DrifterSupremo]

Great video! Could you do a video about the differences of BPD in men and women. I hear there's a difference but haven't found much info. Thanks!

[@LanguageNerdsofia_]

Kati, can you please talk about hypochondriacs? I love your approach on bpd, it's helped me so much, now I have this friend in intense crisis and would really like to know how to deal with it. He intends to make it to a psychologist, and I think he will. He thinks he has cancer, it's been a struggle showing that I validate his emotions without joining his paranoia.

[@laurengoldman1959]

Hi Kati! Can you do a video on hypersomnia? And how do you know it’s hypersomnia vs. your body just needing a lot of sleep? If you are trying to develop a more normal or average sleep schedule, how do you go about doing that when you are used to oversleeping?

[@gabbiefulton8604]

Hey Kati please do more video on this topic

[@tonym1012]

"If your therapist is doing more work in therapy than you are..." This was my story when I first went to therapy in the 90s. I didn't know what to do, and my therapist at the time didn't tell me. I really wish, at the first appointment, that the therapist would have taken some time to teach me what it means to work, like, that I had to do the work. I've since figured out that my therapy is about working together, but it would have helped to have a lesson from day one. Thank you for sharing this video!

[@CaitlynLavelle]

I love this. ❤️ Can you do a video on ADD in adults? I know you just did one on ADHD and I saw your interview on ADD in adults, but I would love more information. My therapist and I recently discovered I have ADD (I’m choosing not to medicate) and I am wondering how my therapy sessions will change now that this is something we’re working on.

[@artemisailanthus]

Great video Kati! This also made me realise that i still have to work on accepting my mental isues. I just want to feel better, but i also have to work for it. I cant just expect therapy to fix everything right away.

[@Katimorton]

I am so glad it was helpful :) xoxo

[@emilymcgee3812]

Give it time, you will get there.

[@annam9047]

Yes, it does take time, but it's worth the work. It can make a huge difference in your life, just learning to cope, or learning better ways to cope or deal with life. I'm still working on things, but I've seen so much progress and it's worth all the pain and tears to get where I am today, even though I still have a ways to go. You got this!

[@smerdopsis6092]

Hey kati can you make a video on getting foster parents? Please, and thank you sooo much

[@west8390]

My physiologist kind of just talks about music with me and sometimes i take my ukulele to play with while he plays his guitar. Its been a good three months with him and hes a great person to vent to but idk i feel like if he gave me homework to do id be doing a lot better. Thank you for this video 🙌

[@sandertlam2147]

Hey Kati you talked about when you should get in to therapy and now what to expect from therapy. Could you make a video about when you start to considder stopping with therapy. 🤔 Keep up the good work as always 😘

[@vg8332]

Like always Thank you Kati like ALOTALOTALOT ...😍😍😍 you really help people to go through their problems and there mental issues,this is so great, at least it worked for me and I'm really thankful N proud of you. 💗💔❤💚💜💙💛you mentioned therapists ain't suppose to be proud of patients or something like that... I know it maybe not make sense, but I do, I do proud of you Miss Kati😊😊😍 I mean your whole video are awesome😍👍👍👍👍

[@WoodlandT]

Hi Kati - This may sound like a really obvious question. But I’d love to hear you talk about what “doing the work” means in more detail. I’m not asking about homework. I mean the emotional work of the actual therapeutic sessions. Thx JT 😊

[@gracieafterhours988]

I’m starting therapy this week for bad anxiety and I might have to do online since COVID but I’m still excited but scared

[@adrianaavila8853]

Please let us know how it goes! Only share what you want to share. (: thanks

[@jerneja9180]

Hey Kati, I'm kinda new here but your videos helped me a lot. I'm a first year in high school and am now in the process of getting therapy. I've been feeling down for months, not eating because I don't have an appetite, not being able to sleep, losing interest in the things I loved - like drawing and painting, I've also had suicidal thought and have thought about sh. I told my mom that I want to go to therapy and told her a few of the things I struggle with for context (excluding the sh and suicidal thoughts) and she told me that it's just my hormones acting up and that it'll get better, to just deal with it. I don't know what to do. I would appreciate some feedback. Thanks ^^

[@WHOA-qh5gn]

I wish I had this knowledge before starting therapy. I really didn't know what to expect of the therapist or myself.When you don't understand the process it can be very damaging.

[@ACDBunnie]

Hey, Kati. Can you talk about what family therapy is like in general and in the first session? I've done individual, but I'm about to do my first family therapy and I'm nervous about it, particularly talking about conflict.

[@regina9756]

Hi! :) I really love your videos, you're an amazing person ❤️ Can you make a video about 13 reasons why? I mean, about the 2 season. I'd love to hear your opinion about it :)

[@regan_1o198]

i have my appointment i guess today it’s 1:36am and i am terrified but it was my idea after having a few mental days away from school and i’m terrified

[@violetmartin2986]

Me too ..xx

[@jonu5336]

My group therapy is coming to an end soon and will be moving on to another less intensive therapy.Im sad to say goodbye but I’m getting a little better every day.Hope it lasts 👍🏻✌🏻🙏

[@Caitlin12221]

Thank you for this video Kati :) I have to say I've recently had my first therapy appointment and never in my life have I felt so belittled before. The therapist basically tried to talk me into believing I felt something else than I really did, would give me advice such us: you feel anxious - try swimming! and it made me feel really awful and I never want to go back into that office again. She didn't even care about any goals that I might've had coming there, and wanted to persuade me into believing that I don't struggle with things that I struggle with. It was such a mess.

[@marynarichardson9129]

I am sorry you had such a negative experience with your first therapy session. Therapy is all about you and you need to connect with your therapist in order to get better. Sometimes that means trying out a few therapists or trying different types of therapy.

[@Caitlin12221]

Maryna Richardson thank you for the thoughtful answer :)

[@Katimorton]

Ugh that's terrible!! Unfortunately, not all therapists are good at their jobs, so know that you can find someone else who listens to you first!! xoxo

[@shmutube]

This is really great and clarifying! I really just wish there was some top 20 things to consider "working on" list so I'm not so damn overwhelmed to begin with! Ugghhh... :-/