Keys To Self Confidence (From A Girl Who Grew Up Ugly)

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@lindsey6579 8 ай бұрын

A certain level of disagreeability is critical for high confidence.

@jenylass1521 8 ай бұрын

Can someone please deconstruct this sentence right here, i am confused.

@human_no847 8 ай бұрын

Absolutely, otherwise you're vulnerable to being pulled about by the waves of social pressures and expectations.

@lopeztopia 8 ай бұрын

@@jenylass1521 it means that you have to be able to accept the fact that, if you want to be fully confident, there are going to be people that will not like you, or that will disagree with you. Someone who is truly confident is authentic, they don't limit or diminish any part of themselves in order to fit in with what is socially acceptable or celebrated. Therefore, they know that it is impossible to be liked by everyone, so they are aware that they will find one or two individuals that will not like them, and they don't mind. That is why, in order to be confident, you have to be comfortable with disagreeability coming from people in your environment. Hope this helps! ❤

@lindsey6579 8 ай бұрын

@@jenylass1521 have you ever done a big five personality test? OCEAN? One of the parameters is agreeability (the A in OCEAN). Generally speaking, disagreeable types tend to congregate on the fringes of society, especially if they also score highly in Openness. Being over socialized, in my opinion, is just as bad as being anti social. Highly agreeable people tend to have leaky boundaries, be people pleasers, and change their opinions along with whatever is the status quo, rather than deciding as an individual. Women tend to be more agreeable, on average, than men. As a group, we're more concerned with maintaining social cohesion, and from an evolutionary perspective, that makes sense. I would say that confidence, as an attribute has a slightly masculine affect. Like, anyone can be confident but it's akin to how assertiveness tracks as a Yang quality. If you think of the most confident man (or woman) you know, (s)he's also likely to be disagreeable, willing to ruffle feathers, say no, assert boundaries, be different or individualistic from those around them.

@sweetifer 2 ай бұрын

@jenylass1521 being pleasantly all the time makes you look weak.

@scoobydoo02 8 ай бұрын

Said the most stunning women ever

@miaric-du8qm 8 ай бұрын

Literally

@LaMach420 14 күн бұрын

From a mans perspective, she has that Cleopatra allure. She may not be Adriana Lima but is sexy for a multitude of reasons, pretty but also intelligent, observant and well developed character.

@TuesdaysChild_77 8 ай бұрын

I realised I was hiding behind my hair, so I chopped it all off. Best thing I ever did.

@PlagueCabaret 8 ай бұрын

I did the same thing recently. Not only did it force me to come out of my shell, it's also quite liberating.

@user-qw7wx4kr9r 8 ай бұрын

I hid behind goth makeup. Now I have mirrors that allow me to see my profile in both sides, and with heavy makeup on I look like a 12 year old playing dress-up 😂 It's making me feel safe to go more minimal and let my exotic and strange features do the work.

@eadamic17 7 ай бұрын

I am a man, but I did the same thing lol

@dachsrottweiler 6 ай бұрын

How short did you go😮

@zmazzyhtx 6 ай бұрын

I shaved my head a few years ago because my waist long hair was definitely a hiding mechanism for me. Honestly, I don’t regret it one bit. I felt so much of myself and most people thought it was super sexy. My hair has been growing long again, but now I feel different about it.

@badgalyaya2303 8 ай бұрын

please don’t ever take this down.. the knowledge i gained from this video is like a personal national holiday for me.. i will have to download it and rewatch and analyze and draw. xxx

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

Damn! Then I definitely won't! haha always happy to help a gal out ❤️

@cocomoco24140 8 ай бұрын

I fucking love you 😭😭 I’m still on my healing and growing journey at 25, and your content is incredible and helpful :)

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

So happy to hear that love. Much luck to you

@VenusLoved 3 ай бұрын

Hey same do u havs insta ?

@katieh8186 3 ай бұрын

I took notes about this in my journal. “There is nothing to gain from cowering in front of an audience” is something I took with me after watching this, I went out in public to places I’m normally scared to go, I prioritized my excitement and interest, and it fucking worked. Thank you. This means a lot to me, I’ll listen to what you have to say for as long as you continue sharing with us.

@LotusesGalaxyOcean 8 ай бұрын

Most probably cannot make the delulu leap as she describes in the beginning. So here is an alternative approach. Begin instead to stylize your self and your oddities into charming quirks as a cohesive aesthetic. Lean into who are.

@user-qw7wx4kr9r 8 ай бұрын

Delulu Lemon

@XZ858XZ 8 ай бұрын

Well said

@lilacmun1085 8 ай бұрын

The jingle of your bangles was quite charming 😌

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

those silver bangles are my mothers, and my fondest childhood memories of her are the sound of them on her wrists.

@ndmx1334 8 ай бұрын

DROPPED EVERYTHING WHEN I SAW THE NOTIFICATIONS, QUEEN DROPPED A NEW VIDEOOOOOOO YIPPIE

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

ya'll are sweet like cherry pie

@mult1coloured 8 ай бұрын

I wear clothes that are too comfortable, baggy pieces that hide my body - I'm trying to work on that this year. Comfort is really important to me and a lot of what i do is quite messy (gardening, time in nature) so im used to wearing old baggy clothes. And i do love them, but occasionally its nice to feel like im actually dressing up

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

imagine tighter clothes like a constant full body hug

@lisagleim1436 2 ай бұрын

Me too!! I have cute stuff but am almost afraid to wear it, and so used to wearing cleaning clothes that when i do dress up im self conscious!

@hypnoticfig6085 7 ай бұрын

I've been slipping... Losing myself and cowering, which is pretty much death for an eccentric, this video is incredibly helpful

@syntheticsilkwood2206 6 ай бұрын

Relating way too hard to this rn

@atext4969 6 ай бұрын

As a man in my 20s, I found this genuine, insightful and resonating

@FoundSheep-AN 5 ай бұрын

You are a man You have other priorities

@nillaneptune 5 ай бұрын

“Stop hiding yourself” i needed to hear that

@wildeevolution 5 ай бұрын

"Start with the thing you want, rather than you wanting it." This is a profound thought!

@FlawyClips 5 ай бұрын

I'm a man, I like to believe I'm "masculine". I'm proud of my muscular physique and frame, I'm proud of my thick facial hair and features, I'm proud of my voice and even dominance in certain situations. But I still find fascinating the female's perspective, I still find it fascinating to learn how is it that you live and everything a man can learn from a woman, despite being "masculine", I may wear makeup during certain occasions, I paint my nails black, wear high heel boots, have an outrageously long skincare routine, get pedis and manis monthly and do a few "feminine" hobbies and self-care habits. But I don't give two fucks! Your content has made me come to term with the duality of my behavior, really thank you for being such an icon.

@Star-s5e3e 6 ай бұрын

Being fearful of men regardless of how you dress Will bring you into abusive situations.., take your power back ladies!!

@scoobydoo02 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for this incredible video girl. This is the only video on self confidence that actually left me more confident…

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

GOOD! Good to know I'm doing my job right! (whatever that job is)

@scoobydoo02 7 ай бұрын

@@HeavenSentHoneybecause I grew up ugly too and it’s very dystopian to grow into the standard and navigating life in a new sense of identity and perception

@eline7214 5 ай бұрын

title made me cry. ❤ so many mental wounds from growing up ugly and still making efforts to glow up but ive definitely made progress. still, my self confidence is terrible and ive stopped myself from living life until i "glowed up" but its not possible. staying isolated is only making it harder for me to lose weight, live the life i want so i need the confidence to embody the life of the woman i want to become. even if i dont look exactly like her yet. i will, eventually. soon. but man this made me happy especially after seeing your video on how to be a muse. knowing someone incredibly intelligent and beautiful like you, basically the woman i wanna be tbh. it just feels nice knowing someone gets it.

@Shaunassie 6 ай бұрын

Thank you from the women who didn’t have a feminine woman to TEACH them how to be a woman 🙏🏼💞 learning to be kept so I can teach my girls that femininity isn’t a burden but art itself

@Palomera182 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for these videos on confidence they’re so affirming. I have the same thoughts all the time but don’t have anyone to express them with.

@HeavenSentHoney 7 ай бұрын

I'm your mouth piece babe

@weedywendy4266 6 ай бұрын

47 yr. old woman experiencing my own renaissance. the tip on wearing clothing that allows your body to move freely AND remain beautiful & artful is GOLD. i will wear my lulu’s .. with a fitted, high neck tank & big, black boots. i have feared the judgement of othes about y body & the way i dress it. MY BODY.. MY. FKKN. BODY! no longer. no. damn. longer. i adore your channel 😘🪭🖤✨

@wildeevolution 6 ай бұрын

You’re so right! I was self conscious about my big feet my entire life and now that I’m 52, people are suddenly telling me how beautiful my feet are. If one person had told me that as a 13 year old I might not have punished myself about my feet my entire life. It’s sad that we are taught to judge ourselves so harshly.

@romerobjuancarlos 4 ай бұрын

Recent arrival to the channel. For some reason YT decided to recommend your "ugliness is hurting us" video and I found myself going through the backlog and playing the uploads in succession. There is one part in this video in particular that resonated with me a lot: I fell in love in 2023 after a really long time and got my heart broken because it was an unrequited love type situation, but there is a moment that will *always* stay with me and that I treasure greatly, and it's that feeling of having stayed true to myself throughout the whole thing, a newfound sense of maturity and level-headedness, of poise and dignity. This "island" of peace during that period of heartbreak and emotional turmoil. I feel this is the type of scenario that, moving forward, will become a key element in the way I approach romantic pursuits. Not in a calculated or by the numbers thing, but a kind of muscle memory. A tone, a shade of "desire" if that makes sense. Something I can remember and almost grasp, alongside the knowledge that I don't have to warp my self in the process. I honestly don't think it was pure chance that led me here. Fellow artist signing off (I finished my debut novel recently). You have a new fan.

@brownperla 6 ай бұрын

Yk, I realized that I was being watched and harrassed by my neighbors. It was a new experience for me and it made me cower in my home. You helped me realize this, thank you so much.

@smoking_jellyfish9264 5 ай бұрын

As soon as you said to point out that feature of me that i've hated for so long i just touched my nose without a single thought, and then you just literally described my nose's shape as the very example.... This felt damn crazy for a moment. Thank you so much tho, been struggling with it for many years now.

@norma5219 6 ай бұрын

The part about dressing down to not be side eyed by men!! Ugh I still struggle with this, I know I’m hot and beautiful but idk why I hate men looking at me 😅

@christopherrobin361 4 ай бұрын

Nah. It's just the men you find undesirable. Imagine dealing with low level scorn or no attention at all.

@norma5219 4 ай бұрын

@@christopherrobin361 damn Christopher you right

@yogigoyi 3 ай бұрын

I hate women looking at me because my body is what catches their eye first😢

@mensa7190 6 ай бұрын

You give yourself so much grace, it’s so comforting to see

@lolachlih3136 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video it’s so affirming for me I have two different color eyes and felt like I was being stared at a lot growing up I hated it lol but the older I got the more I actually love that I have two different colored eyes! ❤ this video was a gem for me thanks again Celine!

@JellyOnAPancakeAyyyy 8 ай бұрын

That is so beautiful ❤ I’m happy you came into terms with it and saw the true beauty of it ❤

@lolachlih3136 8 ай бұрын

@@JellyOnAPancakeAyyyy it took me along time to recognize the beauty of my eyes now I feel so much more confident and the beauty in them ❤️

@patriciahennessy5899 3 ай бұрын

Make a decision based on desire and curiosity not ego. That’s such a courage motivator and happiness accelerator ❤

@annastone5624 8 ай бұрын

You look fantastic

@JodyDube 6 ай бұрын

Real 'cool' is absolutely not giving a shit about what others think. Confidence is made of acceptance and celebration of self. Lots of contradictions to be had, for sure.

@TheNormallyOpen 2 ай бұрын

I think class is a major obstacle to confidence, especially here in the UK.

@justiniani3585 4 ай бұрын

As a man, I gotta say, sometimes showing less skin and leaving things to the imagination can be sexier. Booty shorts and crop tops are so common nowadays that they don't do anything for me anymore. I've seen tons of female legs and bellies like that, the novelty of it is gone. What does capture my attention though is some high-heel knee boots, A long dress that amplifies their hourglass shape or even a thick turtle-neck (makes me want to hug them).

@yhvhsaves5197 5 ай бұрын

Do you fear becoming someone's obsession? What will you do if and when an individual finds that you are the most important thing that's ever happened to him?

@persephone6265 7 ай бұрын

This is the best vedio ive watched on the topic. Every single point spoke to my soul. Especially thanks for the point no. 3 , i realised i don't like being seen or being perceived even tho im conventionally attractive and that's kept me so far in life. Thank you so much for this vedio! It's my first time on your channel and I've subscribed ❤

@Sayori-cs9vp 5 ай бұрын

In days very difficult like these that I’m going through recently , I need to say that your talk has become my shelter .

@noyaadven8365 18 күн бұрын

You don’t know me, but you became my best friend. Every word in every video is just accurate to what I need to hear.

@anisemccurdy Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your tools and wisdom from your own experience, It radiates from you! ✨☀🌷

@bonitas.7106 3 ай бұрын

The French do not believe in one standard of beauty. Everyone has a different type of beauty. They just make the best of what they have. They act beautiful.❤❤❤

@mysticapixi 6 ай бұрын

I love this take! ❤ Thank you. Also u look slay in that creamy silk. Relaxation and beauty are artforms

@juls182 6 ай бұрын

I just wanna say that you are amazing and I'm so glad I found your channel. I love the way you word your advices so uniquely where they just hit the spot so hard it almost makes me pause the video and rethink my whole personna. Anyways, thank you again.

@zmazzyhtx 6 ай бұрын

I just stumbled across your channel and I feel so grateful cause of how insanely I relate to you. I was also the super weird ugly kid, that awkwardly grew into beauty and now at 28, I’m in isolation for the bajillionth time. Everything you’re saying is giving me so much more awareness of how to use this period of my life. Thank you so much, seriously. 🥰

@rooboatdeer22yu51 6 ай бұрын

Unloving behavior against others is not a very effective way to create change. Ever. Love doesn't have to be quiet or meek all the time either. Love can change shape of whatever you need in the moment. You took the adversity and the rejection and you chose to do something about it. But that doesn't make other people's treatment of you to be the thing that changed you into being a more beautiful person, you just chose to be a more beautiful person. Love as a spiritual Force and in general consistently and logically helps people to be better without them experiencing the trauma and mental anguish that a lot of people think makes you stronger. That's a total illusion. You choose to be stronger, more sociable, more charismatic, more beautiful et cetera et cetera. It doesn't matter how awful you were and how deserved the rejection feels. To the eyes of the universe you just tapped into the beauty that was already there. Love isn't always comfortable for everyone

@christinarosadoni7864 6 ай бұрын

❤ your words hit my soul

@gthktty666 5 ай бұрын

i love this!!! my quote i live by is "don't let little minds infect you"

@OverKillJill 6 ай бұрын

The things that you want vs you wanting them. Separate yourself from the ego. I like that.

@stephaniea1417 8 ай бұрын

You are certainly a gem

@duh3550 6 ай бұрын

The second advice is so amazing, I’m going to start doing it!! Thank uu!!

@jakub.roszkowski 4 ай бұрын

I have watched many, many videos on confidence, but this is the one! I feel like I finally have the tools to unlock it and live my best life

@Valley__ 6 ай бұрын

This is good. Speaking on the dressing part. I enjoy High heels and dressing “up”. It can come across extra to others but it’s how I dress

@AnnaCuriousa 6 ай бұрын

I think it's the best video on self-confidence I've come across. The first advice to become your own standard has shifted something deep inside of me. It was like a lightbulb 💡Thank you so much for it ❤

@valentinaantonelli9243 3 ай бұрын

It is nice to see you CONFIDENCE IS KEY ❤

@d011p4rtz 6 ай бұрын

this is the best video about having confidence I've ever watched; these are such unique and actually useful tips. like who ever thought of using curiosity of the experience vs ego? and the part about how you wake up every day thinking "people get surgeries just to look like ✨*ME* ✨. these are all useful but those 2 stood out to me the most. and the self expression and being seen as unique; priceless🤌🏽choosing individuality over comfort; *YAAAAAAAAAAAS*

@joyireland9938 4 ай бұрын

omg i just found ur channel yesterday and everything u say resonates so deeply, thank you for your wisdom

@mandatory1561 5 ай бұрын

These are talks I imagine I should be having with my mother, if I’d had one. 🖤

@JW-mg1sk 6 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I found your channel. ❤ Almost like the hugest sigh of relief ever.

@lalulooking 7 ай бұрын

Your videos speak to something that is currently hidden deep within me. But I feel it coming to the surface more and more. This content acts like a light that illuminates the possible paths to that surface. I am very grateful for your work. Best wishes from the other side of the world.

@Beautifulhighpriestess 6 ай бұрын

I love ur eyes..ur eye colour is amazing 😍😍

@susanmelo1092 5 ай бұрын

I keep rewatching this video because I need to be remembered about this tips

@mads6307 6 ай бұрын

I can’t express in words how much I resonate with all you mentioned. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and glad I just discovered you

7 ай бұрын

I love watching every single video on your channel. Thank you for sharing these powerful and healing messages with us 🌹

@ThesisinSocialMediaandWe-jy3om 6 ай бұрын

Hi, such cool thoughts on beauty standards! I love it, beauty is diverse and yet society gives us the stress that there is one beauty standard only, when we all know it is not like this. thinking of the example with Comicon and the popular like Kardashians

@choche-hd3vi 6 ай бұрын

im very much for positive words about yourself that including past, present, and future and I feel like a better way to write the title instead of including from a girl who grew up ugly you can say from a girl who grew into confidence because you’re very beautiful and i’m sure younger you was just that

@NicolePdipping 7 ай бұрын

I definitely needed to hear this! I hit the like 👍 👏

@zathenhcambidestem-iliv2464 5 ай бұрын

Being seen is not about our appearance, its our vibration. When we are confident, cos we are comfortable being all of ourselves, we become more of ourselves, that is beauty. Vulnerability is beauty, Beauty is in motion. When we women come through adversity, overcome the impossible, do without there being any hope, lost their reason for living then resurrect, this is beauty. Never underestimate growth, evolution, it has nothing to do with the mirror, what is visible and all to do with the Goddess, the Divine you are honouring, the reverence for your completeness. When you respect yourself, pay homage to your passages, growth through the initiations, this is so much more than a physical form could ever express. I think insects are beautiful, gnarled, aged trees, rugged Mountains, the tapestry of clouds, are we not more than flesh and bones? Look for beauty that needs names, for has not been defined, beauty that inspires you to write, paint, sing, make rhythms for, for it has moved you.

@biancaaguerrero 4 ай бұрын

I love this channel so much💖💖💖💖 everyone needs your videos ✨🩵

@anaghas9701 Ай бұрын

celine, i found you by your vid "make your life a work of art" and ive been consuming your art ever since. trying to apply these practices into my life. (sometimes i fail , but i still persist) I've ALWAYS wanted to have guidance like this. femininity that doesn't necessarily revolve around a man, self expression and self mastery and nurturing creativity. thank you celine. you changed my perspective on life. ive also been collecting beautiful, poetic moments and noting them in my journal as you suggested. thank you 🤍

@itsvdarling 8 ай бұрын

Thank you ! ❤

@Nocturnal_Lorena 6 ай бұрын

This was so relatable! Tysm! 💖

@Timi1111 6 ай бұрын

Noticed more people staring at me these days. And its going to take some getting used to. It's just what it is. And i like the way you said 'fuck them'. Thank you for this video.

@peachiori 4 ай бұрын

I think you might save me from the voices in my head, been stuck in life and in my head since the pamdemic, maybe I'll be free, maybe

@jamielukhmanov8483 6 ай бұрын

I've changed my mind; Aquarian with a strong Venus placement.

@Justaregularoldplumbus 5 ай бұрын

Yes giving Air sign with some support from an earth sign! Similar to Hannah Louise Poston

@charlottesometimes4 4 ай бұрын

Aquarius was my first guess :)

@ХочуМолока-н6м 4 ай бұрын

Feels like in you I have a friend I was always dreamt about ❤

@callicopella2480 5 ай бұрын

you can also enjoy asking someone out

@bekahmetz1664 3 ай бұрын

This was amazing omg

@javameeks 6 ай бұрын

I needed this 🥺

@vianaeli 6 ай бұрын

thank you sooo much for this video

@breanna2408 5 ай бұрын

THANK YOU ❤

@xxamazingfruitsssxx Ай бұрын

u r a prophetic unicorn

@marianaclmnt 6 ай бұрын

I just watched you talking about muses, and something I've noticed during this video is the video is somehow a how to be a muse, and femme fatalesque. I love that, and I would love to hear your thoughts on how, as a woman, can you create despite our confidence (gateway, fuel towards creation) outcome is having our essence attempted to be absorved and encapsulated on other people's art?

@nikki88875 6 ай бұрын

I love love the colour of those pjs - where are they from pls. New fan here ✨

@opalrhudy2526 Ай бұрын

Don't let the Beast out. Fairly Hard to get it back in. Why? It Devours All. You when there's nothing left to snack on. It cannot be tamed. A Wild Horse isn't your petting pony for a reason.