The reign of the Slim-Thick Influencer | Khadija Mbowe

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Intro 1:40
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Part 1 What is Slim-Thick? 5:35
Part 2 Kardashians and Video Vixens 9:57
Part 3 The rise of the BBL 16:43
Part 3.5 Plastic Surgery (What's the big deal?) 27:53
Part 4 Plastic Surgery Confessions 31:03
Part 5 Final thoughts Ft. Dennis 35:42
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[@justkataclysm]

it’s all fun and games until “slim thick” isn’t “in style” anymore. Don’t change your body for anyone but yourself.

[@SquirlieMcSquirrel]

exactly! and it will happen eventually! I wonder what the ppl who got surgery will do lmao

[@Ana-ty8sl]

Yeah, keep wondering what they are going to do? When a different body type is in?

[@DM-gu9ik]

For reals… y’all with fake booties are going to look silly when they turn old. Can’t fight aging

[@justkataclysm]

@Paige Coleman being natural is almost certainly going to be a beauty standard in the near future. You can already see little signs forming into the big picture. Also, you can have plastic surgery, just don’t do it to please men.

[@tertiaritus]

Preach. My friends are crying about thigh gap while I'm craving their nonexistent butts but in the end none of that is worth shaving bone off

[@arilagomarsino9215]

It went from thigh gaps to thick thighs in a fairly short amount of time…so absurd. I try to not bog myself down with these ridiculously flippant beauty standards

[@honeyglow7781]

same here, we went from chubby being the beauty standard to skinny to slim-thick, same thing with eyebrows. thicker eyebrows are all the rage vs. the skinny ones from only decades ago

[@onemillionpercent]

exactly. BODIES freaking bodies are not trends, theyre not things to put on and take off. idk. it's absolutely crazy, and its such a ridiculous timeline rn i honestly hope this doesnt go further into the uncanny valley

[@acookie7548]

now it’s both like . two inch thigh gap but thick thighs

[@mueni8390]

Thick thighs but with a thigh gap 😅

[@lorenende7661]

@Fei Mei try not being misogynistic please

[@peachesandcream8753]

As a white girl from England I had the "slim-thick" body type in my teens, during the early 2000's when heroin-chic was still in, and I was bullied *relentlessly* for it. I was constantly called fat, and I had a both boys and girls picking apart my body at school, to the point that I had a complex about it until only recently. I tried so hard to get a thigh gap but my body isn't built for that, I wore baggy clothes to try and hide it and would comfort eat to drown out my emotions to where I did become fat. I hate how body types become "trends", it's so strange to me, but at least in the past they had undergarments to change the shape of the body under clothes (padding was all the rage) but nowadays we're expected to change our real bodies and I think that's where the issue really lies.

[@SeraphimxSins]

I'm so sorry that you experienced that. I can empathize and relate to some extent as someone who grew up in America as a non-standard looking person; I'm Lao & African American, which ended up looking more like a very slightly darker native American than anything else, but during middle school, I kind of had the typical babyface that Asian people around that age tend to have and just looked quite out of place in general in the mostly preppy Caucasian school I went to, and received various racial jokes on a fairly regular basis among other comments that pointed out how I didn't fit in. To make matters much worse, TMI but for whatever reason, I was also blessed/cursed with an absurdly huge dick (moreso length than girth, but I'm not too far away from giving a soda can a run for it's money), and puberty being the bitch that it was, I physically COULD NOT go a single day without having multiple erections that I couldn't really hide, which I could go off on a tangent about every method I tried and exactly how each one failed or just simply wasn't an option either due to size or dress code (or both), but nobody wants to hear all that. So long story short, I also dealt with a good deal of ostracization and identity confusion. It was to the point where I ended up going into homeschooling after the 7th grade, eventually taking up philosophy and an interest in human behavior in general; why things are the way they are. Speaking of, everything liked by a large enough portion of people become "trends," that applies to literally everything, just how things work. What I find strange is how trends shift from one to another while the reality is that something doesn't stop being liked by the majority just because something else has taken the spotlight. I just don't get people who only pay attention to what the current trend is. For me, I've always liked slim-thick girls, along with many other body types as well but they mostly involve some degree of thic (never really gave a single iota of a fuck about the Paris Hilton body type), and I grew up in the stick figure skinny runway model era. I was that way way before Kim Kardashian, and will still be like that way after the new "trend" inevitably hits for whatever reason, and I'm sure that this applies to most people, so exactly how does the changing of trends happen when trends themselves are do disjointed from reality despite being based on reality? ("Everything liked by a large enough portion of people become trends.")

[@xoxoYusra]

I hear ya. You are sure not the only one. I grew up really fast , i had the body of all the plastic surgery girls that exists now, but at that time it was not the standards. I thought I was fat but I wasn’t. I hated my hourglass body . I developed Bulimia in my young adulthood. I realised after a long time that when I was outcasted for my natural body type was just jealousy.Now I don’t want to be like no one I just want to be comfortable with me.

[@platosfriend]

Nowadays you need to be slim thick WITH a thigh gap, like the Kardashians have. So, have big hips, but your thighs can’t touch.

[@peachesandcream8753]

@@platosfriend You don't "have" to have anything. This is something I've realised as I've matured; the body fashion trends online, and in magazines, really aren't that important in the real world. Women are always the one's facilitating new body, fashion and beauty trends while men will like what they like regardless of what's fashionable. Just become the best version of yourself and you will attract those who find you attractive and don't chase after those who don't.

[@GreyGrim]

slim thick will always be ideal tbh, skinny mid section (the correct place) and thick(like 85% muscle) in the correct places, bitches nowadays call themselves thick when they are just 80% fat tbh, the only way to be slim thick is to have mostly muscle on your legs while having a nice layer of fat over the top. 1. be born with wide hips while also having a relatively small ribcage which gives the illusion of smaller waist(if you don't have a small ribcage/small waist you can use a waist trainer under youyr clothes, it won't get you a smaller waist but it will appear smaller under you clothes until you take it trainer off 2. be born with genetics for slightly bigger than average boobs(goodluck for these to occur at the same time) 3. go to the gym and build up your glutes(butt) and quads(thighs) (everyone can do this but if you don't have the prior genetic makeup it won't look 'slim thick/hourglass' per say.

[@alarchwen6123]

I am half Korean so ethnically I have a tendency to have very little fat on my behind and all the fat ends up on my stomach. I am the exact opposite of slim-thick. I literally never see my body type in social media ever....I wouldn't mind myself as I was brought up in a family of artists and through drawing you see everyone as interesting visually and don't judge bodies. However I've been single for many years and so started online dating. I've had ten rejections on first dates in a row so I know it's related to how I look. I'm a bit fed up that the men in their 40's that I go on dates with are nowhere near the male beauty standards themselves but expect me to have a slim thick body and the face of a caucasian 25 year old instead of a mixed race 45 year old. When I don't fit their idealised image they just reject me. It makes me angry how social media has a negative effect on my life even when I feel secure and happy about my body myself.

[@alarchwen6123]

@@jocelynoats6347 Thanks. I've stopped internet dating for the moment, started teaching myself dance and feel much better about myself. The capitalist corporate system wants us to be unhappy with ourselves so that we keep on buying beauty products and clothes to 'improve' our appearance. It's hard to overcome this conditioning.

[@yuqihuang2255]

Lol one thing tho, body fat distribution has little to do with ethnicity and more with the individual. Please just do away with the silly stereotypes of Asian women having no curves, cos I’m Chinese but I have the slim thick body type. Asian women like others come in all shape and sizes

[@alarchwen6123]

@@yuqihuang2255 I did not say that all Asians have the same body type as mine. I am allowed to talk about my own body type and I'm allowed to talk about my ethnicity. You're basically saying that my body type is undesirable, what I'm saying is that is that this is a product of a fashion obsessed media.

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

@@yuqihuang2255 body fat distribution and bone structure absolutely does depend on ethnicity/race. There’s a whole science behind why certain races and ethnicities have certain features and others don’t. Its literally not a stereotype. Asians typically are more small in stature. Blacks tend to have longer limbs and wider bone structures. Whites tend to have shorter torsos. Don’t come at her because she isn’t wrong. You’re more likely to see a thick African American than a thick Asian.

[@myrnaa1077]

@@yuqihuang2255 You are EXTREMELY wrong (And likely coping sis), its extremely well known Far East Asian Women do not live up to these Non Far East Asian Women standards of beautiful feminimity, which is Slim thick hourglass. Slim thick is having skinny thin waist (which East Asian women do have thin waist) whilst also have big beautiful feminine bra size and bottom size and hip size.. all 3 of those most of the time Far East Asian women are not born with unlike Non Far Easterners. Youre invalidating SO MANY Far East Asian womens EXPERIENCES of having Flat Tiny A cup bra size. The west antagonizes for making this beauty standard not include Asian Women

[@crankysister]

I watch a lot of historical dress KZbinrs, and they talk about how the victorian era also had the slim thick body ideal, but the difference was that they didn't create the fiction that this body type was attainable through natural means if you weren't genetically blessed with that body type. There was no, "Oh I just worked out and naturally got the shape created by your corset, bust improver, and hip and bum pads." Everyone knew it was artificial, and there was much less pressure to maintain that shape when your were clothes off.

[@krystine.lolo6]

They also edited their photos as well, which a lot of people don't realize. That whole 18 in waist thing is a myth.

[@mbasilic783]

@@krystine.lolo6 but everybody knew it ! Like when we see a weird shapes body and funky background (like doors that aren't straight), we immediately think about photoshop

[@krystine.lolo6]

@@mbasilic783 yea. People back then knew they were altered, but today a lot of people don't know the old pictures were. So we think there's something wrong with our actual bodies today.

[@lenusniq_9746]

You reminded me of a video I watched - the girl wore an historical dress for a whole year and she said that despite the fact that she had gained a bit of weight in that year, she wasn't conscious of it because the historical dress was made in a way that it would fit a lot of sizes. She said that she felt much more in peace with her body during that year.

[@TheLily97232]

Exactly. I'd rather have clothes to create the silhouette instead of beat my body into an ideal. I'd like to just have my body and take care of it PERIOD then have fun with the clothes

[@yrsforever8950]

in middle school, i would be told i had no butt too and a little later i did have one and then people were shocked and like "look at you now". gross how obsessed we can be with a person's body, especially at a young age.

[@rubyred3580]

Especially if the people saying that to you are ADULTS??? Beyond disgusting

[@greeninc.6202]

watching this a year after is interesting cuz right now people are taking out their bbls and the trend is shifting to just skinny. everyone is beautiful, just be yourself and do things only for yourself.

[@25usd94]

"not typically found in nature", how PERFECT a phrase that is to describe these influencer standards.

[@danielle5360]

Absolutely spot on the most truthfully thing I've seen written in these comments so far, 👌🏻👌🏻

[@freezepops34]

That's exactly what I think when i see some of these influencers... Those bodies really don't exist in nature!

[@seenag8351]

Some people can are healthy and workout and an “influencer body” comes naturally to them. Also when has being fit become a “influencer standard?” There’s a fine line between being healthy and having a toxic motivation to have a certain body.

[@kha0s616]

This should get pinned

[@fakefake1305]

@@seenag8351 True, it’s sad that if people are healthy nowadays they’re considered an “influencer standard” or “promoting toxic body types.”

[@nekopunch9081]

I’m African too. When I was 120 pounds I was too skinny and sick looking. Now that I put on some happy weight, all the aunties do is point out that I got fat the second they see me. Toxic.

[@vichgold384]

Very toxic. I'm a Barbie Barbie body type. I started to feel better when I compared myself to the Body Mass Index. Because they are facts, science studies and not people's will in general.

[@virgoyogini5377]

My mother does this, at least once a week.

[@kellyyy1333]

Facts I truly understand how you feel

[@maschaorsomething]

Holy shit yes. My mother wouldn't stop telling me how fat I was, how I couldn't wear skirts etc. Now I've lost weight and my parents keep telling me that I look disgusting and sick, while everyone else thinks I look extremely normal and fine. I'm SERIOUSLY bordering on developing an ED at this point.

[@virgoyogini5377]

@@vichgold384 Amen, I'm great on the BMI chart. Medical science beats people's opinions.

[@lupuslongevitus]

I seriously considered surgery for a while too, but here's what stopped me: I realised that, with invasive, dangerous surgeries, what I'd be telling myself, whatever way you cut it (heh), is that my value is so tied to my appearance that it's more important than my health, my comfort and my bank balance. And that is the opposite of what I as a woman want to be telling myself, f*ck that! We're worth so much more. I took that money and invested it into therapy and a diploma, best choice I ever made.

[@CailinnNoT]

The healing process qnd my pride to say it's not natural is what stopped me

[@lilscenechick1995]

Proud of you ❤ I won't shame people for getting surgery, but they really do gamble with their health and it's a dangerous game for regular people who don't have millions or connections to find reputable surgeons. What happens when you spend thousands on surgery, almost die, and have thousands more in hospital bills (if you survive at all)? You're worse off than when you started.

[@nyxeo]

What kills me is that as a white girl who has the slim thick body type, I developed such terrible dysmorphia SOLELY because of my stomach. It’s not flat and perfect like an influencer, and it just makes me feel terrible, even though I’ve deleted all social media except for KZbin. It’s just such an issue honestly

[@AAA_NNN_DDD]

if it helps, all influencers are a) posing, b)working out and/or have cosmetic surgery and c) are taking their pictures IN THE MORNING. You're never, ever gonna have a slim waist after eating your stomach needs to expand to hold all that food

[@nyxeo]

@@AAA_NNN_DDD real. It’s been a year and believe it or not, I’ve changed so much about my lifestyle to fit my goals, and my mental state has improved a lot. My stomach still isn’t completely flat to the standards that have been set online, but it’s VERY toned compared to how it was before, and I’m really strong; the thing most people notice about me first is that I’m “buff”, because I eat cleanly and exercise ALL the time plus dance ballet. I’ve still got a slim-thick body type, definitely slimmed down a lot due to my calorie deficit, but I look great and feel even better! Deleting all my social medias besides KZbin and focusing on what I actually wanted to get helped so much in the long run. I’m glad to not be the same insecure person anymore (still insecure sometimes, but it’s about minor things and it goes away quickly).

[@AAA_NNN_DDD]

@@nyxeo that's dope :) I'm on that journey rn, I've just started getting to the gym regularly and I can feel myself getting stronger every day. I was really weak as a child, so being able to lift a 5 gallon jug like nothing is kinda crazy to me ngl

[@Geechee_Chick]

I'm lean and slim and I workout almost daily, I still have yet to develop a flat tummy. The only time I've ever had a flat tummy was when I was vegan and accidentally lost 16 lbs. My mom honestly makes me feel insecure about my tummy even more (even tho she always shouts about how small my tummy is whenever I complain about it) she'll point out how big it's becoming every time my body is preparing for a period. She does this every single month without fail If I'm eating "too much food" (mind you all of my home cook meals are low in calories and I lift a lot of heavy weight so I'm building muscle. More muscle requires more food!) she always has something to say about it.

[@ForeignManinaForeignLand]

What runs my blood hot about this phenomena is how women like Kim K get praised for tings that Sarah Baartman got caged and put on exhibition for. Rassclat, I need my tea ☕️😩

[@hithere2477]

Fr plastic surgery is basically normalised appropriation

[@ForeignManinaForeignLand]

@@hithere2477 🤯 mi nah even see that one, my yute. Excuse me while I write that down as a potential topic

[@KhadijaMbowe]

You always come through with cussing out people in patois and we love to see it

[@ForeignManinaForeignLand]

@@KhadijaMbowe one would say ya never lived till a yard man call ya a yamhead fi taking up too much space ina tram 😅

[@RoseEyed]

I know this may be a dumb question but can you compare those two things? They took place 300+ years a part and society has become a LOT more sexual since then. Kidnapping people to gawk at them isn’t something we generally do now. But we are more comfortable (relatively speaking) with sex in general. And black women can also make money owning their sexuality now. If KK NATURALLY had the body she does now back then she’d have a hard time too. I may be missing something though so I acknowledge that. Edit: Removed the “medical condition.” I got my words mixed up. She had a CONDITION (non medical. Repeat: it was NOT a medical condition, as not all conditions are medical) known as Steatopygia common in the area she lived in and DIED of something completely separate that WAS a medical condition involving an “inflammatory eruptive disease.”

[@WarriorOfStateOfMind]

A friend said: "You either have a really big butt or you have lean long legs. But if you're inbetween, society doesn't value your body." And it feels like, if you're not either thick with curvy proportions, or super skinny, there's really no appreciation for your body.. society is messed up

[@georgia76]

Which isn’t even a problem until you meet a partner and there idea of the ideal woman body is not possible unless you have surgery or have crazy good genetics and happen to be model esquè. They then ask you why you cant be like the girls he see on his Instagram feed and it’s like I dont have 30k for for implants and Injections for my ass to give myself hips.That has to go on mortgage and holidays and actual important things in life.

[@kelb6073]

@@georgia76 omg...no partner should be asking that.

[@ango8466]

@@georgia76 lol like he himself is a Brad Pitt look-alike

[@GabbieCh]

People will always have different opinions. Whenever you lose or gain weight, you have people liking it and some disliking it. I just understand they have different views and I don't take it personally at all. I just make sure to form my own opinion and figure things out for myself. If I like myself and want it, then it doesn't matter who dislikes that. And of course, for me at least health is in first place, so as long as I'm healthy, I don't really need to be worried.

[@MsMeeka-lr6uf]

True

[@francescaeve8776]

I feel like when the "masses" are getting BBLs the tide is going to turn to a new model of body being "in style" (ew, gross I know). The difference is the Kardashians etc will have the money to tweak their bodies again and there'll be a whole lot of people unhappy with what they have done because they never did it for themselves. I think we are heading for a skinny Bella Hadid/Kendall Jenner body being popular as low rise jeans and other Y2k trends come back in vogue

[@rollercoaster8881]

Also the rise of Kpop (I am fan so I have seen it) with extremely low weights. Dangerous times are coming 😩

[@malou1563]

@@rollercoaster8881 They’re not coming, they’re returning!

[@Lara-tm5nz]

@@rollercoaster8881 this is what I think as well. I think we will morph into twiglets with rather cute, childlike, petite facial features with big eyes. Pretty much the KPop beauty standards.

[@rollercoaster8881]

@@Lara-tm5nz omg that would be so fukin weird xd knowing the kardashians change their bodies every time, idk how they would look with those new tweaks you listed haha

[@Lara-tm5nz]

@@rollercoaster8881 😂 let's speak about this in 5 years.

[@siobhangray9898]

this is an incredible description of how being mid-size feels. especially when you grow up on the slimmer end and gain weight naturally but have no idea how to respond to our own bodies changing and how they appear.

[@TrillyThough]

Ayesha of Grapevine (may she rest) used to always say "beauty is a bad investment for women." She was spot on with that one. It's an ever moving target that you will never land on for any amount of significant time.

[@Grrranola]

YES

[@danni1231992]

She hit the nail on the head when she said that! She was brilliant-may she rest in peace.

[@jayoodyang747]

Word. To mutilate your body over a fad, for the approval of people who just wanna use you for your looks is the height of foolishness.

[@nnzulu7684]

My goodness I had no idea Ayesha is no longer with us

[@cynthiag.5048]

It’s devastating

[@letshegomancoe4481]

The greeting at an African family reunion is ALWAYS "you've gained so much weight!" or "why are you so skinny?"

[@rimun5235]

This, but I honestly don’t feel like in Africa, this is about beauty necessarily. It’s almost about well being as being fat makes it look like you’re well off. I remember the first time I heard about anorexia and bulimia, I was shocked!

[@itssarah3438]

And the fact It's especially us girls that get it everytime...

[@AM-dp9tv]

Oh wow. It is for us latinas too, my grandma went off telling the whole world how sick I looked bc I was so “skinny”. Mind you I’m 5’2 115 lbs..a healthy weight & ive never felt better. So insulting lol, hope that ends with us (this gen).

[@adelaideeverett9134]

Why is my asian household like this too TT

[@Inka_Morrisson]

Ughh tell me about this...

[@siggispiggis4256]

I’m watching this video a year later and… it’s honestly disturbing how fast the trend of the “perfect female body-type” changes. Everyday the skinny and tall model look is becoming increasingly popular, especially with Korean pop culture having a bigger influence on the western world. I’m so tired of our bodies being a trend

[@PsycheSlut]

Girl, when you said that about being 20lbs lighter or 40 lbs bigger, I cried. I feel that so so hard, I'm right in the middle, not a big big girl & definitely not small, and sometimes I really wish I could just be at an extreme cause it feels like there's less identity to be had when you're n the middle. You don't fit a box and sometimes I want to be boxed. The selflove journey is a daily one, and steps forward and back are just a part of it. Thanks for this video,and your friend Dennis was on point.

[@Ms.pee12]

Omg finally someone that understands. Like I’m not absolutely nothing but I’m not really to thick either. I’ve just been in between and it’s messed with me for years.

[@gollossalkitty]

That's really interesting because I've always wanted to be in the middle. It's crazy how people never want their own bodies ;(

[@Ms.pee12]

@@gollossalkitty it’s mainly because my weight fluctuates a lot. So one day I feel like I’m more satisfied with myself and other feel like I look 90 pounds soaking wet.

[@CocoaHerBeansness]

That's such a perfect description! I think if you fit a specific type you can predict peoples reactions towards you. it's like a way of making how you're perceived feel like its in your control.

[@mahashrayasundararaman1562]

“Is it still okay for me to be accepting of fat bodies if I can’t accept that *my* body will gain fat?” This spoke to me so much. It’s the story of most of my anxieties.

[@nihilistteddy3]

I think all women are beautiful. All bodies are beautiful. All skin is beautiful. Except for mine. No matter how hard I try, I can't love my own body

[@mahashrayasundararaman1562]

@@nihilistteddy3 I’m sorry you feel that way - I’m sure you have a good body and it deserves love too!

[@leosunaquamoon]

@@nihilistteddy3 You might not like how your body looks like but taking care of you body is loving your body. Try body neutrality.

[@Isabel-ge1ou]

you have an amazing name.

[@mahashrayasundararaman1562]

@@Isabel-ge1ou thank you so much! It’s hard to get me mixed up with anyone else at least! I love the name Isabel too :)

[@MC-pt8kv]

Maybe the BBL is just an example of late stage body capitalism? We are reaching a point where the ideal body is so ideal, it's literally unachievable without surgery. Body commodification is reaching its peak and spinning out of control, eating itself.

[@daanger7637]

It's crazy. I wonder if we'll reach a point where average people are considered hideous and we'll just be working to get surgery so we can feel normal?

[@babymilksnatcher]

Yanks love to blame everything they don't like or don't understand on "capitalism", but unhealthy body standards have always affected women all around the world throughout history. In Europe, 1700's female aristocrats were not considered desirable if they weren't overweight, since a larger body was associated with higher social status, and of course, fertility. Ancient China also had a very huge focus on hyperfeminine and skinny beauties.

[@phormidable]

@@sophiejones3554 that's fashion though - what we're seeing these days on social media is mostly people in bikinis or underwear, so it's really all about the body and no longer about the clothes and how they can help create the illusion of a shape.

[@iheartjbgccb]

We can literally stop this right now if everyone quit social media, loved their bodies or stopped believing this unattainable lie but no here we are thank you

[@malou1563]

@@babymilksnatcher That’s literal capitalism.

[@IAMCHIDERA]

Her skin and complexion are just gorgeous

[@brosef5033]

So weird to comment that. Not saying I disagree but it is weird when people comment that on a video unrelated to skin tone. I’d be callef a racist or a white supremacist if I ever said that under a white person’s video. Both are just as weird.

[@IAMCHIDERA]

@@brosef5033 just because the video isn’t related to her complexion doesn’t mean someone can’t compliment it. So should we only complement things that a video is on? We can’t say ‘oh your hair’s nice’ in a cooking video? What? Y’all need to stop reaching for nothing. And see skin color as just that, What’s the point of walking on egg shells just because it’s skin color? And why in the world would someone say you’re a white supremacist when you compliment a white person’s skin? Compliment whoever on whatever, that’s not even what racism is about. So let’s collectively calm down

[@awtumn]

@@brosef5033 What? There is nothing wrong with complimenting someone's skin tone, even if it's unrelated to the video. Nor is it racist. The comment wasn't backhanded or mean spirited, so what was the purpose of your comment?

[@newsystem420]

As a white B I can confirm her skin is gorgeous and glowing. All shades of women are beautiful and should be appreciated imo❤️

[@CK1000ism]

I was a B cup in my twenties. Three pregnancies and thirty years later, I am a DD. The body will change in ways you would never guess as a 20 year old. Thank god I didn't have any augmentation in my 30s. I think people should really think before they do any procedures that adds to their bodies.

[@patient_zero_and_infinty2404]

I definitely agree ,

[@tohaovershell]

I think looking to your mother and grandmother is a good idea. Some peoples bodies don’t change that dramatically and some people just don’t have kids. I do think these are very important things to consider though if you are planning on getting pregnant

[@Mel-qr5ob]

@@tohaovershell same. Not weight related at all but my gran has a huge hunch back which she didn't have at all in photos of when she was younger. Purely down to posture while working. And I can see my dad getting the same. Since I'm more similar to my gran and dad than my mum, I'm really watching my posture all the time to try prevent that.

[@jarbincks6715]

so theres hope for me? I'm a c cup at 17

[@kai_fatallysapphic]

@@tohaovershell that would mean I'd likely become flat if I had a bunch of kids like my mom. I *definitely* do *not* plan on *ever* having kids, but as an agender person I'm not against the potential flatness tbh! Lol

[@AmericanThighs97]

I'm just waiting for the brick/pickle jar shape to be on trend, I'm ready for my time to shine

[@g.gonzalez6138]

🤣

[@nari.oh.356]

Same!😭

[@miriamd9990]

I’m a rectangle and I’m waiting 🥴

[@Gungirl330]

Me too

[@thereallatara]

😂😂😂

[@maryamhassan5986]

It’s so heartbreaking to see that body types are becoming trends that are constantly changing. Your body is not a piece of cloth that can be adjusted to fit a standard. Remember that!!!!!!! Edit: although body ideals have been fluctuating throughout history in response to periods of prosperity or famine the internet has played a major role in speeding up the process in the modern age. Now more than ever we are connected and are witnessing the effects this has on the younger generation with the rise in dangerous plastic surgery operations such as BBLs. If you body keeps all your organs in place and allows you to function daily it’s perfect no need to change it.

[@iniminimoshimo]

trending body types have been a thing throughout human history, there has always been an ideal.. that being said it's changing a lot faster these days. but luckily I do think people are starting to realise what bullshit this all is!

[@hkandm4s23]

The big problem is that while there have always been preferred silhouettes in fashion, since we no longer use skirts and padding and corsets there is no way to attain that fashionable silhouette without dieting, surgeries, photoshop and filters.

[@elirchi9214]

You know what would absolutely solve this problem???? Use bumrolls. Under skirts. It's the 18th century way of having bigger butts. NO ONE needs to have BBL anymore. And skirts circulate fresh air between our legs, so no more itchy hot pants. PROBLEM SOLVED

[@ambds1975]

I read a commentary years ago that pointed out how women's clothing used to be how our currency with beauty trends would be expressed. If a thin waist was in, we tightened corsets. Hemlines went up and down, hair got lengthened, shortened, powdered, hidden under wigs and a variety of hats and head coverings, etc. Make up changed. Shoes changed. Skirt widths changed. Padding padded different places. Different fabrics were preferred. But since the exercise craze of the late 20th century, the expectation is for our BODIES to match the fashionable ideal, not our clothes. Which is horrible. So horrible. EDIT - Yes, I just took way too long to say what someone else already said. It's a gift.

[@eshaepperson5945]

They’ve always been friends

[@sativadiva2389]

I've had a weight problem for all my life, but was recently diagnosed with a disability. I've lost a lot of weight after surgery, and I can feel the difference with how men treat me, and honestly? I'd kinda rather stay fat 💀

[@i10i60]

💀

[@TeaSipperEsq.]

I had to lose weight and gain muscle for fibro and pcos symptoms. Went from a size 12 to a size 2 via pilates and yes. Im a soft natural Shakira type body type. Also married. However, I did notice that the way men pay you attention is so different that I HAD to notice. I wasn't even looking for it, but you right.

[@hailyholston5010]

I was in middle school in 2014 when the thigh gap and skinny bodies were in and I just remember feeling that my body was never good enough. It makes me sad to think about how fat I felt when I was only 13 and how much I critiqued and just hated the way my body looked as a black girl occupying white spaces where all the girls my age were naturally really skinny. I literally talked to some of the older girls in my class about getting lipo. As a 13 year old. The extent of the shame I held for myself when I was a little ass kid is so sad. Then in like 2017-18 in high school I finally started wearing clothes that just fit me regularly instead of baggy clothes to hide my body and the way that I was oversexualized and given all this positive attention around the way my butt looked and how my body shaped was almost uncomfortable. To be under the body trend for a while and then to be the trend not soon after was almost traumatizing. I always come back and watch this video thank you for talking about this.

[@ActuallyAnanya]

As someone who works in the mental health sector, and probably has undiagnosed (facial) dysmorphia to some extent, I really need to stress that surgery should not be your very first step to address any physical insecurity you may have. Too many women are going to a surgeon first when they need to be going to a THERAPIST! I get the temptation, I have thought extensively about getting surgery to change some facial features, but I understand the high likelihood of doing that and still not being happy with my look afterwards. There are plenty of examples of people, including known celebrities, developing a pathological need to keep getting procedures, and frankly not enough stress is put on the physical, mental, and economic issues this can lead to.

[@sarahg2653]

Dude. I wasn't really aware that facial dysmorphia existed. I hate my face. Avoid mirrors and cameras. I worry about it constantly when meeting new people, I.e. how they must be thinking how goofy my face is, or that I have a "butter face" which means "everything's good _but_ _her_ face." This is something I've really struggled with in the last ten years. Reading your comment has blown my mind. I have just never heard this discussed before. It's always about bodies, not faces.

[@ActuallyAnanya]

@@sarahg2653 oh it's definitely a thing! It's usually lumped in with body dysmorphia and diagnosed as part of it, and a lot of people who deal with body dysmorphia or EDs also deal with facial dysmorphia, but you're right that most people don't talk about it independently - personally I've never had an issue with my body more than the occasional moment after a relative says something, but my face? Another story entirely. I can't even accept compliments on my appearance that aren't about my body or outfit, I always think my friends are just saying it to be nice, while also knowing that objectively I'm probably far better looking than I perceive myself to be. Here in the UK our slang shortened the word "butterface" to "butters" and I was actually called that once to my face as a teen by a classmate so yeah, that really did a number on me lol. I barely have any photos of myself from my teenage years aside from the ones I'd give in to my parents taking on family vacations. I think another thing that didn't help was that I was objectively an incredibly cute baby/toddler, so when I got older and people's compliments stopped coming, I could tell. I definitely think it can be worked on with therapy though, not in the positivity sense but more in the acceptance sense. Idk what access to therapy is like where you are, but if there's any free talk therapy services or helplines definitely check it out.

[@samariacaesar492]

I learned this after big chopping for the second time and feeling like I had dysmorphia for 2 years I had to seek therapy and I realized you need to be honest with yourself about how you look and what you have or you will probably never be happy

[@ActuallyAnanya]

@@samariacaesar492 yep! It's all about acceptance, not necessarily positivity, and prioritising parts of your life which can lead to emotional fulfillment rather than fixating on what you perceive as a barrier to it.

[@kelseyharden7118]

very well put, I 100% agree with your comment!

[@314joanna314]

Rihanna once said: "If you want to have a butt, then you have a gut" and I live by that wisdom everyday EDIT: Before you write a humble-brag comment about how you have a "naturally flat stomach and big booty" please realize that this is JUST a funny quote with a swing to it. OF COURSE (!) there are exceptions. I personally think Rihanna just wanted to make people feel better about having a lil gut when the world is all about slim-thickness. So take it with a grain of salt Now can we please stop commenting on this?? My notifications are going mad lol

[@jackiemaldonado7777]

I remember that lol

[@shyfairis6078]

I don't understand...

[@ineffablemars]

@@shyfairis6078 you have at least a little bit of belly fat if you have a big ass. it's just the way female bodies work. unless your ass is entirely muscle, then you're more likely to have a flat stomach.

[@Leukothea]

@@ineffablemars Thank you! I read it like "... then you have to eat to get one", which is basically the same 😁

[@jcardosa02]

well obviously……. you can’t target fat loss or fat gain for areas.

[@alecbradley7579]

Random thought I just had - when Khloe had her fitness 'glow up' it raised the bar from famous women being allowed to look like real women to needing to fit a specific standard, she went from being an individual from being unmistakably Kardashian...

[@seniri610]

To everyone who thinks about getting plastic surgery I would highly recommend to think about WHY you REALLY wanna do this. Where does that desire and/or these insecurities about particular parts of your body come from? I think it's very important to question yourself, your views on things and be really honst to yourself. At the end of the day, nobody is perfect and even those chicks on Instagram photoshop their pictures even though they had an BBL. If you're following trends, you'll never be good enough - especially not for yourself, because the next trend is just around the corner.

[@Alexis.Nicole.]

I want to add that with exercise it won’t change your body structure, you’ll just gain muscle. People who have an apple shape probably won’t get an hour glass shape from the gym; exercise will just make you have a smaller apple shape. I think that plays a role in why people obtain cosmetic surgery as well.

[@wolftownesque]

also working out will likely decrease boob size as well 😮‍💨

[@vl1180]

People really think they can spot reduce weight. Most people loose fat EVERYWHERE! Not just in the tummy. Depends on your shape where you will lose/gain. A pear shape may still retain lower body fat even if they loose weight because they had so much hip/butt to begin with. And apple will lose chest tummy but none of that will make or give you and hourglass shape

[@Alexis.Nicole.]

@@vl1180 Right! I'm a rectangle shape and now I'm fit and I'm a small rectangle. My hips bones aren't going to get bigger from working out.

[@claireobrienillustration]

This is absolutely true.

[@andeleon6838]

Truth sis

[@allieconzola]

When you were talking about your personal body insecurities and said “this is so stupid,” that really got me. Women put themselves through so much mental abuse when it comes to our bodies. We’re taught that our looks are our most powerful social currency, that our beauty is our worth. Yet we’re told that we shouldn’t care about our looks, because caring is vain. So we feel inferior when we don’t meet the impossibly high standard of beauty, and we call our feelings of inferiority vain or stupid. An invalidation double whammy. It’s so exhausting. What I’m trying to say is that it’s not stupid. ❤️

[@alejandraayala8815]

I feel you. Maybe it's because we're supposed to be "naturally beautiful", and like not realise it. I've noticed that in the subreddit r/menwritingwomen, a common trope is the woman who is drop dead gorgeous but doesn't know it, therefore not being vain (aka low self esteem so the protagonist can lift her up)

[@markigirl2757]

@@alejandraayala8815 yeah Bc guys fantasize being in control and the only one “allowed” to tell us if we are worthy Bc our worth to men is our body and looks

[@esmeraldagreengate4354]

Don't forget we are also just supposed to accept any toad of a guy whilst looking perfect for said toad lest we be labeled shallow.

[@heavenlyarianator6335]

All of this being true, i think khadija is a great example of an intellectual woman (not the first to exist) who we all value for her brains, and she is aware of that and how revealing her insecurities is "off brand" We can normalize intellectuals talking about insecurities, but i think we all know beauty standards are irrelevant to the real issues people like khadija are really publicly focused on, and those conversations are not worth having For clarity: im not saying its stupid, im saying its not worth anyones energy to focus on insecurities

[@ea7109]

@@heavenlyarianator6335 Psst....👀 They've ALL had surgeries 😬

[@siennasamuel]

I really don’t know how I feel about the normalization of PS. I believe in body autonomy, and I believe everyone should love themselves and feel beautiful. BUT would anyone *want* cosmetic surgery without all of the media and patriarchal influence? Without beauty standards being so important that if you don’t fit it you genuinely have a lesser quality of life than your conventionally attractive counterpart? If our family and friends stopped talking about our bodies like they’re all we are? Idk. Humans in general need to change how we interact with each other and that shit would move mountains

[@lauri7529]

as far as i know, cosmetic surgery is also there to rebuild things like external organs, f.ex. after people had accidents. but you probably didn't mean that aspect.

[@SkullPrism]

I think some trans or intersex people (I'm both trans & intersex) certainly would, but ye I totally get what you're saying.

[@gina2641]

Best comment I’ve seen ❤ I’m far from being called pretty, but it breaks my heart how normalized it’s become for women wanting to change what they look like to fit norms we’ve been programmed to believe in. A minuscule amount of men consider PS versus woman, we should talk about that ❤

[@louiseb5046]

Having a pear shape body myself and recently developing more stomach fat 35:27 made me feel so normal. So hard to fight back that comparative "am I normal?" anxiety when you don't see yourself represented in media.

[@vloguidice3932]

I pretty much have this body type, and I always hated it as a teenager, wanted to be slim in all areas. My sister, meaning well, introduced me to all these influencers and singers with the slim-thick/hourglass shape, but instead of improving my confidence, it made it worse. Every representation of it is sexualised. Obviously that applies no matter the shape if you're a woman, but it still hurts. "Men find this shape sexually attractive" is not the confidence booster I and most girls wanted. At the end of the day, the only thing that helped me was a) not following ANY body/beauty/cosmetics influencers on social media, and b) realising that shape literally means nothing, admire someone's actions instead.

[@elishh8173]

Wow. "Admire someone's actions instead ". 👏 💋❤❤❤❤ So true my dear netizen! Like when we go, we only take two bags with us, one with the good deeds and one with the bad. A Muslim told me that once :) Thank you for this incredibly IMPORTANT statement. Greetings:)

[@catharinazukrigl6632]

I feel this so much. 🥺 I‘m glad you put it into words I couldn’t found. It helps me to see what my body can do not what it looks like.

[@user-sp5kc5yx8s]

exactly this! i developed an ED because I didn't want my thicker lower body

[@chrono4998]

@@elishh8173 hey im exactly the same, the way I dealt with it was to use fictional characters as style inspirations over real people most of the time, and to dress more based on vibe than anything. I filled my closet with clothes that will not focus on how curvy i am (which was hard and im now extremely picky) and immersed myself in androgynous/nonbinary/queer culture, which helped change my mindset of associating curves = sexual which before was a hindrance since I'd try mostly to not look sexual and thats it whereas nowadays, with the dressing based on vibe thing, I do it to present myself in a way I want to

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

I'm naturally very skinny but have an hour glass figure with more ass and hips and some boobs. When I was a teenager lots of people gave me grief over my "weird shape" because the more straight up and down body shape was fashionable and now people get dangerous surgeries to get a body similar to mine but much more extreme. It's madness.

[@quellebeaute1]

I already can’t with the “Sir Frederick Wap” and “BT - before tiktok” 😂

[@KhadijaMbowe]

it's the detaiiillss

[@toddmaek5436]

I subbed off of THAT alone. Ive never seen this channel before

[@JulianSteve]

@@toddmaek5436 Welcome to the crew Todd👏🏾‼️

[@mysticangel192]

I DIED WHEN I SAW THAT LOL😂😂

[@toastwell6488]

“Knight Timothy Pain” lol

[@catherineelliott2856]

Body insecurity is unbelievably insidious in our society. You have always seemed to me like a hugely confident and empowered person. I've always found you beautiful and your confidence inspired me. You were genuinely one of the people online who exemplified a beautiful body to me outside of normalised beauty standards. That was powerful and impactful for me and trained my brain to see my own body as beautiful. I'm not exaggerating when I say that you look gorgeous and the fact that you have insecurities really astounded me. We're shamed for having insecurities even though those insecurities are the very way that our economy continues to function. Being secure is literally a way to stand up to capitalism. Owning your insecurities makes you both beautiful AND powerful. You should be super proud of the honesty in this video. Thank you xo

[@isabelhansen4369]

"the prettiest people do the ugliest things, on the road to riches and diamond rings" ironic that that's a Kanye line, but I think a lot about the recovery of BBLs. Like, u can't sit for up to six weeks, and one girl posted a pic of her bed being covered in blood from all the incisions they have to make to do the Liposuction. Not to mention using the bathroom dude. All the Kardashians have had to live through that recovery. I wonder what that was like for them. What went on behind the scenes of getting all this surgery. How painful was it. Did Kylie have trouble pooping after her surgery? Did Kim have blood all over her bed? They hide the painful reality. I know it's still easier for them to recover BC of all the money they have, but all of them still had to live through not being able to sit down for six weeks, doing weird squatting in order to use the bathroom/pee standing up even. Just some thoughts I have!

[@princessbabyboo]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼GIRLLL u preachin rn

[@antoniofalchi5570]

transparency is truly lacking. The same exact problem men face with the fake-natural phenomenon in the fitness industry. So sad.

[@-ucanthandledatruth01-12]

Covert psychopaths hide alot in order to be successfully minsunderstood and maybe even idolised, imitated and create distortions. I just fell sorry for the people because this is a VERY SERIOUS form of psychological warfare which manipulate so many and so much of society. Look into w.supremacy/ w.societys link to narcissism...its actually a study but not one eurocentrism would usher you into, of course. Kanye spoke alot about w.society controlling b.people for their benefit and he is right but we need the assessment out of the music industry and have deep intellectual discussions and debates, anaylsis and study groups, think tanks and more.

[@arimonroe7060]

@@antoniofalchi5570 yeah you're right even men go thru it too it's just more normalized and looks slightly different. If you have the lenses to see thru it you'd realize we all are suffering it's insane !

[@newsystem420]

I feel the same! They have gone through the most intensive surgeries and hide the possible complications from all their followers to make it look as easy as drinking tea to have that body. People are starting to see how unnatural it looks in pictures and the risks. I hate the gym but I'm gonna keep doing leg days over going under. The complications are too dangerous. The Kardashians glorified it and I am against it.

[@celestialshiii]

These topics do make me kinda weirdly sad tho cause it really just feels like the world is NEVER gonna be happy with women's bodies. If you're fat you have to lose weight, if you're skinny you have to gain weight cause "there's no meat on you" or sumn, if your butt is small you have to fix it, if your boobs aren't big you have to make them big, if your stomach ain't flat you have to work out and and go on a diet blah blah but if a woman goes ahead and gets plastic surgery she's suddenly called "fake"??? LIKE HOLY SHIT.

[@red_velvetcake1759]

THIS. This completely.

[@sydneemikumuren9812]

The problem is someone is always going to not like something. That applies to everything. If you like rock music there are people that think you have shit taste, if you like country someone somewhere thinks you have shit taste. This is just the way the world works. Nobody can be perfect. Nobody can please EVERYBODY. Trying to do so will lead to misery every time. I learned this a little while ago and am much happier for it.

[@jward498]

Exactly! It just feels like it's something else underneath it all. Like the connection between true happiness and how you see yourself gets over run by the desire to control how others see you. It's some deep stuff. Even simple things like eyebrows have done a complete 180, with thin being in for a while only to snap back to thick eyebrows that leave women drawing back on what they may have had naturally to "keep up".

[@Lee-fw5bd]

That's not really a matter of "the world". It's an issue with the validation that some people want. If you're a woman who is built like a board, society isn't going to throw rocks at you. Sure you won't get as much attention and won't be given that "hot people privilege" but that's not unique to women. That's just the plight of being not particularly attractive. The issue is that we kind of push the idea that certain types of validation are more important or desirable than others for women. There's nothing wrong with a girl wanting to get validation for her appearance but if that's what you're basing your happiness on then you kind of have to accept what comes with that. In the same way that wanting validation for some accomplishment means you have to accept the responsibility and work that comes with obtaining and maintaining that accomplishment/expertise. That and influencers that push the idea that being hot is a path to success and happiness tend to chalk it up to just buying the right stuff, being born a certain way, or any number of other things that mask how much effort and stress can go into maintaining their image. Men don't really have that issue since ideal body types for men are very clearly based on hard-work, genetics, or money and all of those factors are clearly advertised a vast majority of the time.

[@Faeriiexx]

But if you have a big butt you will still be shamed. Same with big boobs and especially thick thighs

[@sparkygirl266]

I used to have the mindset of "oh, if people want to get plastic surgery let them it's not like it's hurting anybody else" but then I realized that since these surgically enhanced bodies are so prevalent now it's considered "normal" to look like that and people's natural bodies/face are considered abnormal so you start to hate yourself for something that's not real. It also effects relationships bc men/women see these altered bodies as normal/desirable since they're so prevalent and the "natural" look becomes undesirable. Plastic surgery doesn't exist in a bubble these "trends" effect what's considered normal and that's what ends up hurting people. It doesn't let people exist peacefully as they are.

[@jaheira107]

Amen!

[@Sarawarawara-]

Still It doesn’t make It okay to berate them and call them a fake plastic Barbie like so many people do... :|

[@marytc2714]

@@Sarawarawara- oh my god you’re such a snowflake , no ones talking about berating

[@Sarawarawara-]

@@marytc2714 Yeah. Nobody’s talking about It and that’s a problem. People don’t say that they have plastic surgery because of what they’ll be called and being “all natural” Is a flex like having plastic surgery Is a horrible thing, somebody felt insecure about themselves to the point they gathered up the money and had It changed surgically. Do you think insulting them for It and calling them “fake” and “plastic” Is any better? It’s the similar thing for girly girls too! (Especially In gacha) being girly Is considered as bratty and a typical “OtHeR gIrLs!!” Being a tomboy Is thought of as cool and trendy and “nOt LikE THe OtHEr GiRlS!!” and they’re thought of as the smart girls while the former are thought of as dumb and idiotic bimbos To me your comment just reads as somebody who’s shamed somebody for plastic surgery and Is now getting upset that somebody has called that out for toxic behaviour. Well If that Is correct whether you choose to admit It or not, It’s okay. Everybody’s growing and maturing as time goes on so It’s alright.

[@marytc2714]

@@Sarawarawara- I have never and will never shame anyone no matter what they want to do , I’m just saying that your reply to the original comment has nothing to do with what was actually Said No one should berate anyone I hope my point is clearer now

[@shukuleit]

I have always been skinny fat. I also have the same thoughts as you when it comes to average body type. I see other people with almost the same body type as me except they have flat stomach. Whenever someone says I’m skinny, I tell them most fat goes to my stomach. Then they will treat it as a joke or say something along the lines that I’m still skinny 🤦🏻‍♀️. You made me realize that genetics took part of this so called struggle. The worse part is when your family point it out to you that you have a bulging stomach then wonder why I wear baggy clothes to cover it up. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s just so hard to normalize body neutrality when your family talks about your body like they own it.

[@bethinski1353]

I feel this. I don't think my mum realised what she was doing to me when as a teen she would grab my belly and say "you can still find fat even on skinny girls". I've always been self conscious of my stomach (and also dating a guy who called me fat for 2 years despite being in good shape because he had issues with his own body didn't help) has really led me to struggle now that I'm in my mid thirties and putting weight on.

[@i10i60]

I relate to this soo much.

[@moon_0207]

It's always annoying when I go over to my brother-in-law's house and he asks me why I'm so skinny (I am really not skinny at all. I'm an athlete that eats more than my beer-bellied dad and I'm fit, but I certainly don't fit the instangram slim fit look). I also just found it so weird that my brother-in-law cares about my body weight and body shape all the time. What a creep.

[@connectinspireentertain4595]

“Remember when Khadijah didn’t have a butt?!” 🤣🤣 family never fails to habitually cross all of the lines lol 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@heatherlee2967]

I read this comment at that exact point in the video

[@Goosebumps1395]

Facts. My family made me so uncomfortable by commenting on my body growing up...smh

[@n.k.i.]

@@Goosebumps1395 omg same. it's so hard to not let these things get to you. everytime I look in the mirror I remember at least one comment on my body after all this time, it sucks :(

[@omu6740]

@@Goosebumps1395 same. the main reason i dread family reunions is for this reason :/

[@Goosebumps1395]

@@omu6740 They couldn't pay me to attend a family reunion. My aunts were the worst, too much trauma to speak of. Had the nerve to compare me to their daughters.....chile.... Karma is tricky though and always comes around eventually...💅🏾

[@cynthiaperez7205]

"it is still ok for me to be accepting of fat bodies when I can't accept that my body will gain weight" is something that really resonated with me. it does got me fucked up tbh

[@poopsmagoo]

Oh it grabbed me by the shoulders and shook me til my teeth clacked

[@leilanidru7506]

@c.e. mcawsom it punched me in my right eye and stole my wallet I relate…hard

[@GothCookie]

You can change your body all you want, but in the end, if you didn't love your body in the first place, you're going to end up hating yourself regardless. It'll never be enough.

[@kissthecook9957]

Just wanted to let you know that I really appreciate you talking about internalized fatphobia, because i often feel really guilty for hating my body solely due to my weight while also preaching that big bodies arent something to be ashamed of. Its like I know i shouldnt be ashamed but i still am and its hard accepting that. So thank you for this vid ❤

[@nunpho]

Despite its popularity so few people know that bbl surgery has the highest mortality rate of all cosmetic procedures. The fat doesn't even need to be accidentally injected into an artery, it can be absorbed. So scary.

[@energizedlove4228]

Wow i didnt know the part about the fat being absorbed in the artery…

[@natasha8007]

@@energizedlove4228 Anthony Youn MD explained it on his KZbin channel a few times. It’s the most dangerous procedure and the death from it happens in a matter of seconds. So so scary.

[@berenisemendez5223]

Yes, and a lot of women are going out of the country to get it done on a cheaper and most of them die just like the ones in the U.S . That procedure is dangerous regardless where you get it done. Plus it most of them don’t even look natural which seems to be the trend these days.

[@kim7990]

@@natasha8007 whuaaaat fuuuuuu

[@katy9291]

Exactly. I know one woman who sadly passed away from this :( literally happened in second. it was even done by a licensed plastic surgeon.

[@mimim6362]

I’ll never forget I went prom dress shopping my senior year in hs (2016) and tried on a fitted mermaid dress. The associate who helped me said I had a “Kim K” body, and I was lowkey heated because at that time I was working hard af for my body just to be told I looked like Kim when she actually looked like ME.

[@NinaNeko4]

She was throwing shade. She KNEW. 🥴

[@AllieBee00]

@@NinaNeko4 facts 😬😬

[@mimim6362]

@@NinaNeko4 and did.

[@vichgold384]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 the jealousy of that girl!!

[@kmp8985]

Acting like Kim’s fake curves are the blueprint

[@silseul]

As someone heavyset, I just have to say that working out has done WONDERS to my self-esteem. I don't pay attention to the scale but I have noticed changes to my body and I'm starting to really appreciate how I look. My diet could use some work but I know that it's an ongoing process and I'm not expecting instant results (and neither should anyone).

[@shaunnarochelle]

This was thought provoking and funny. I started working out to grow a booty so I could 'fix my back pain'. Ended up working out so hard, getting addicted to the booty growth that I made the back pain 5x worse. Oops. Now I've just accepted my rear surfboard.

[@ChizobaItabor]

Also there is DEFINITELY a difference between being fat and being slim with a big bum. To say we in Black communities love thicker women as in fat women isn't true as Fatphobia is prevalent in ALL Racial groups including Black communities

[@JulianSteve]

No lies detected Chizoba. We can see how people treat Lizzo, Loni Love, Missy Elliott (throwback Missy), and other Black women entertainers who are overweight (or used to be overweight)👁👄👁

[@ChizobaItabor]

@@JulianSteve These are great examples!!! Because look at how Lizzo is being treated now with how new song

[@flowersgurl403]

@@JulianSteve saying fat instead of overweight is easier

[@wantor-yesuliamngee2569]

Bcos that is the prevalent idea, if not I don't give a damn

[@ellabiddy4741]

That’s true I’ve heard people say “it doesn’t count if she’s fat” in regards to big boobs and a big butt. The obsession is about proportions

[@FlentyOfPish]

"body types that... aren't typically found in nature" perfectly said lol

[@barbarabarbosa6921]

this is actually a nice topic to discuss, i'm from brazil so the expectations on how women's body should look here is kind of similar, the slim thick body myth has been around for ages here specially with a "corpo de violão" which means your body should basically look like an acoustic guitar, and this hurts so many women that go through plastic surgery and any of them even die after doing a liposculture surgery, in fact brazil is one of the countries that does more plastic procedures in the whole world, and most of them is to change your body not face as in other countries. also, the main problem for me is that a lot of these influencers sell that they are natural when in reality, they had procedures done, thats what´s most harmful .

[@GrowYourGroceries]

YES! THANKYOU for addressing how people can be your size with a Super flat stomach!!!! It drives me MAD! I DO NOT UNDERSTAND how all these plus size modals have big hips and buts and boobs but then have ZERO stomach. It's so damaging to see

[@mally6101]

“In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.” ― Caroline Caldwell

[@laurathepoet]

needed this today

[@fin4008]

Literally

[@brendaking8532]

Love this !

[@monicacharming3123]

Ppl hate when you stand on it!!!!! 10 toes!!

[@sandrarichardson761]

👌🏾🙌🏽👏🏽👍🏽💯

[@vesislavaofficial]

Girl, your skin is glowing. Gorgeous ❤

[@HolldollMcG]

Agreed. I just stumbled upon this channel and honestly, one of the most beautiful people I've ever seen.

[@LiloRolland]

Yes..it's a property of human skin oil.

[@Bella-wp7wz]

I WAS JUST ABOUT TO COMMENT THISSS CAN I HAVE SKIN THIS SMOOTH

[@alexandriaberry1421]

Literally that’s why I clicked 😂

[@silviuflorin744]

It shows health.

[@Lenceviewz]

The dissaproving glance at “only if she’s slim thicc, Fetty?” Reminds me of a English teacher I once had

[@higeorge4060]

was he hawt?

[@east1845]

@@higeorge4060 yo wth

[@queenofcute72]

hi george is u good?

[@indebtlol9794]

@@higeorge4060 um

[@cresitonia6819]

As a trans woman. Silicone high quality hip butt pads are about 300$ for the largest and 40$ for super good bra fillers. Try those out before committing to plastic surgery.

[@mowwow2887]

giiiiirl. i am also almost thirty and for the first time in my life i am struggling with body image issues, a lot of which are associated with social media. i haven't heard someone speak about it in such a real relatable way as you did at the end. thanks for being vulnerable and opening up about this.

[@jiyah1523]

I'm 20. This “slim thick” body type expectation is even affecting women like me in India where literally nobody is born natural slim thick. I can't even imagine how insecure women must be in USA. It's so sad!

[@f41ry27]

omg same. i have like a skinny rectangular shaped body and i’m flat. Everyone is like why don’t you start eating and weird things like men like curves and all

[@jiyah1523]

@@f41ry27 ikr!? Men think that kardashians are sexy and fake at the same time.🙄 Like choose one thing dude! I think we should be happy with our bodies anyways, bc there's nothing more sexy than confidence.🌸

[@horvathreka4622]

@@f41ry27 i feel you, my favorit thing is when they act like im sick, like i must do something with it to change

[@jiyah1523]

@@amitranjan3541 I do agree with the light skin expectations. Everyone is obsessed with it which is horrible. But there are some men and even women who would call a woman ''flat" if she's thin and "fat" if she's curvy. Everyone wants the fat at the "right" places. These "slim thick" body shape expectations do exist in our country, so don't blame only women on this one. 🤷‍♀️ And yes many of us have arranged marriages but it doesn't mean that expectations don't exist in that case bc you know they do.

[@amitranjan3541]

@@jiyah1523 girls who are flat-chested or obese might be rejected a few times but average girls won't have much problems in our country.Some guys may be into big butt but majority are n't.Also one child later,girls become curvy anyway. Dowry and parents are the main decision makers in arranged marriages.

[@aliiboop]

from what I've observed, the "apple" shape or "inverted triangle" shape are the most disparaged types of bodies online and irl, with people often poking fun at women for their broad shoulders, tummy fat, narrow hips, and thin legs. even within spaces that praise body positivity, these shapes are never portrayed as "beautiful" or "stylish" and clothes are simply not made them. i hate that we must be genetically predetermined to accumulate fat in the "right" places and have specific bone structure to feel valued as women

[@MarcusM334]

Because the truth is that shape is not appealing

[@aliiboop]

@@MarcusM334 bruh u literally just proved my point

[@MarcusM334]

@@ramenaddict1676 you mad?

[@crybabyfish1647]

I guess, lets just say we (the people that are not conventionally attractive) just either hide our bodies under oversize clothing and never date/ be se*ually active or we just accept that we are not appealing and just treat this not as the end of the world but just as an "skill" that we lack. We just accept that beauty is not our strongest attribute.

[@GabbieCh]

I get what you mean. It isn't a shape that generally draws the sexual attention of men. But anyone can look good if they keep themselves in shape and try to wear something flattering. The body type is definitely important, it's your canvas, but what you do with it can change a looot. For example, if you're fat or obese with an apple-shaped body that will be very different from someone that's athletic and has worked on shaping their butt and they have an apple-shaped body.

[@emmyandboo]

Love this video - I've always been on the skinny side with a boyish body type except I have big boobs that are not super perky and I've always tried to hide them and wear tons of bras. I've tried gaining weight to add to my hips and butt but it never works. The older I get the more I'm learning to love my body just the way it is.

[@livelaughlove0209]

I know exactly how you feel. I tried gaining weight praying it would give me more of an hourglass shape, only to have the weight go to my stomach arms and face. It’s taking a long time to accept the fact that’s just not how I’m built. I have a body that’s meant to be more rectangular with big breasts and that’s okay. There are people who prefer boobs anyhow

[@samanthainwood8488]

I'm so glad you included the debrief with Dennis at the end. Sharing and discussing our insecurities with ppl who are about us is always good

[@catsalemi6606]

Internalized fatphobia is REAL. It's a lot easier to say someone else with a plus sized body looks beautiful than to feel beautiful in a plus sized body. Or not even just plus sized - just a body that has a stomach, since that's the area we seem to be most critical of in modern day Western society. I feel like even the plus sized models I do see tend to have smaller stomachs, or less "obvious" stomachs. While I do think that autonomy is important and that there's not a problem with people getting plastic surgery if they truly want it, I worry that normalizing procedures like BBLs on a general level - even if people are open about it - just makes people who don't look "slim-thick" feel like they should change themselves. After all, everyone else who looks like they do is getting one.

[@livelaughlove0209]

My friends are fat and I find them simply GORGEOUS I even have a giant crush on one. However, my body is overweight as well (5’5 and 190 lbs) and I look in the mirror and see the fattest bitch alive. It’s a cause of a lot of young women’s body dysmorphia

[@SpoookiePoookie]

this. I too believe in bodily autonomy but I'd be deluded if I believed that wanting a kind of body is entirely innocent all the time. of course I sympathize with aspiring towards a body that brings you benefits instead of staying stuck in your struggles. I get the fine line between smaller "acceptable" adjustments like braces and more controversial ones like BBLs and why it's hypocritical to make these distinctions. That said, it's useful to dig into why we want something else in the first place--there are times I'm frustrated with my body because it ties into my energy levels or causes physical discomfort or feels like it's shooting past its own regular. I see nothing wrong with working out a little harder or cutting down on bad foods in response to that. And there are times I feel/look good and fine and it's ONLY seeing an overrepresentation of flat stomachs that introduces a stab of regret. Asking people to love their bodies when society won't is condescending but surely our reaction to that can't just be "people can do what they want." Shouldn't it be "let's not make it so damn difficult for women to want to inhabit their bodies?" (admittedly a cis-centric issue, but my issue isn't with the extremity of surgery per se, just the dissatisfaction with your aesthetics induced through peer pressure. transitioning with the help of surgery but without that pressure would be so much better!). What is so criminal or undesirable about some belly fat anyway. It's so possible to be happy & healthy AND attractive with it if the social rejection weren't a thing. there's a million things factoring into attractiveness, some more valued than others but all of it effective and much of it accessible. it also changes so much across time and place and culture. it's really effing silly and obnoxious to lay down a couple of narrow standards being like "SORRY if you're not this you're unattractive." It's a whole parallel discourse online that does not match reality, doesn't help anyone, just makes people feel like shit. Like I honestly don't care about the natural/unnatural argument--there are people in the comments talking about how they're naturally slim-thick. The point is, we can do better than fuck around and rank body types and bite the latest trend after 2000+ years of human existence.

[@kiing.diimon4984]

@Melanated Princess how do u watch this video and still manage to comment the most ignorant shit possible

[@mandi3891]

Yees yes yes! The "approved plus-size women" have flat stomach, small arms, small waists and small shoulders. I remember how horrified I was when I started to have these small folds on top of my hip bones. I was the same weight, but gravity did what gravity does. Before that I just saw myself as fat, but after that I just couldn't see myself in the same way anymore. I still have trouble finding clothes that I feel comfortable in, since I always have this expectation that they are going to look the same on me like they look om the model. But the model has a flat tummy so obiviously it's not gonna fit the same!

[@mcwjes]

It's infuriating. The plus size representation is still not a good representation of what most plus size shapes look like.

[@karlyilocklear8515]

Funny how nobody knew what a bbl was when Kim did her x-ray. I think she was one of the first celebs to get a bbl

[@adeyosola414]

I knew about BBLs already: Kim doing the xray to prove her butt was real seemed so dumb to me when I watched the episode because I knew how she could have achieved such a butt without implants and I believed at least Americans would know about BBLs.(I was born and raised in Nigeria, West Africa) But I guess Kim herself took advantage of the fact that a lot of people didn't know about BBLs. I watched a lot of E back then: Dr 90210 was one of my favorite TV shows and that was where I watched surgeries of women increasing their butt sizes via fat transfers.

[@prethevoice5432]

Doubt it

[@aunty_teetee]

That's exactly what the deception was. She was very careful to say "prove that I don't have implants". I don't think most of the population at the time knew of alternative measures to achieve that look. I remember Ice T's wife Coco did the same thing on The Doctors, getting her butt x-rayed for implants as well.

[@marahcochran1654]

Lol crazy how that went over my head when that episode aired

[@marinaavaneci6668]

I don’t think people knew the term “BBL”, but I was a kid and already knew there was a fat-transfer procedure that an X-Ray wouldn’t show evidence of. So, I assumed others knew she just took fat from other parts of her body and placed it on her hips and glute area. I guess not🤷🏻‍♀️

[@emilyhutson4566]

Listening to you work through/talk through your own body self-consciousness publicly helped me process the ways I've been feeling more insecure about my own stomach. I'm not trying for body modification, but it does raise awareness so I can work to counter these unrealistic and useless expectations.

[@hannahmargaret5773]

the problem is that it’s to keep up with a standard, especially a standard from the male gaze. it’s impossible to look good enough as a woman

[@soraya.e5482]

Not everyone in africa is shaped like a coke bottle many women have 11 kids and are still shaped like skinny stick. In fact , the skinniest people on earth are in africa. So, yeah very different body shapes are up and down the continent.

[@stoodmuffinpersonal3144]

Heard there is often more diversity WITHIN the groups we call "races" than outside it. So. The fact the ENTIRE population of the continent of Africa, having one body type. Like. That would be more strange, no?

[@serena6418]

it's because people in the US & other countries love to act as if race is a valid descriptor when genes have more to do w/ the color of your skin. west africans, north africans etc. won't have the same body types/features

[@Valgef]

I disagree. Asian folks are the skinniest. Africans are the tallest.

[@jjohnson2389]

@@Valgef No some african groups are extremely tall and thin. Like the Neolities

[@jjohnson2389]

@@Valgef Aditional there are huge asians. Japanese, Korean, and Chinese aren't the only asian

[@caitlinannegrey]

Can we just stop for a minute and admire how GORGEOUS and luminous your skin is? Wow girl! 😍😍❤️

[@laurathepoet]

i think this every time i watch her videos (but never wanted to be the white lady commenting on her skin.) she just glows and I need to know her skin care routine, like yesterday. ❤️

[@veganpeace7890]

I was just thinking the same thing! Stunning!!!!

[@drunaisis9797]

Yeah, I find myself accidantaly here, stupid topic, but Im just watching her, she is so beautiful and articulative

[@GaaraFan01]

Omggg I keep staring she’s so pretty lol I’m just like 😳

[@maeve3046]

shes literallyyy glowing

[@chloemariebaker9754]

This was a really good reminder for me. After finally gaining enough weight to no longer be considered underweight (my medication was interrupting my growth) I, all of a sudden, felt self conscious about my tummy. This video really helped me to be more comfortable about my body after listening to the end of this video

[@TienTran-rl4hy]

Just found out that a friend of mine also watched this video, and we had a great conversation on the topic. I learned so much through this video. Thank you for all of your research and commentary!

[@KeikosLastSmile]

I have a medical condition called lipoedema, where abnormal amounts of diseased fat start accumulating on your butt and thighs. As a teenager, I had a flat stomach too so I had an extreme version of the ‘slim-thick’ body, and people were always complimenting me on my flat tummy and huge butt. But it’s a progressive disease and very painful because the diseased fat chokes your lymphatic system - some women in advanced stages even struggle to walk, and it can eventually destroy your lymphatic system altogether (lymphedema). I had to get surgery to relieve some of the pain. And yet apparently around 1 in 10 women have it! It really can give you for a time that extreme silhouette but hardly anyone even knows it exists and it is definitely not aspirational.

[@addictedadder8201]

Struggling with that is certainly hard and i couldn't imagine would it feels like:o( but i do struggle with something a little similar- i was born with a naturally bigger-wider body especially around my chest area and i certainly do have a stomach thighs- but the thing is that it's hard to carry all that extra weight esp since over the years ive gotten a sort of bingey eating disorder so i struggle with my relationship with food and can gain weight fast if i binge enough- another thing is that since i DO have bigger parts people do compliment me on them or heck even point it out- but what they don't realize is that i get very bad back pain and it makes me feel dysphoric sometimes since im genderfluid and have always wanted a flatter chest and smaller stomach- i mean i DO feel comfortable in my body... but do i love it? that's something i struggle with a lot and i also feel very self conscious in "feminine" or revealing clothing... another thing is that im only thirteen and the fact that i deal with all these issues sucks because i should've been able to enjoy my childhood without feeling so insecure in my body all these years...

[@lauren8627]

My grandma's cousin had it. I did not know it was so common. Her mobility was quite difficult for her in her 80's, otherwise she was really healthy.

[@me_not_me]

I have it too!

[@KangMinseok]

Most beauty standards are not healthy, look at the African tribes that stretch their necks with rings to a degree that they cannot live without the rings around their neck anymore... Humans are prone to invent unhealthy beauty standards, because "normal" is boring, and we always try to invent something new to compete about because we are a competitive species (that's why communism doesn't work).

[@Anna133199]

Sorry you have to go through that! Hope they'll find a cure. 1 in 10 is kind of hard to believe though. I mean, it must be a tiny percentage that has it as bad as you, otherwise everyone would know about this condition.

[@silvervixen007]

I feel like we as womans are constantly seeing us being looked at. In movies the camera is constantly lingering on women's bodies and when we look at ourselves we also look at us being looked at. And that's messed up

[@DiaboloMootopia]

yes, it is a cultural phenomenon called the "male gaze" that causes women to have a self-image that is an internalised version of being looked at from outside - to a much greater extent than men usually do.

[@ac4190]

Yes, Shanspeare made a wonderful video about this topic, performing like you’re under surveillance: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mZ3XZIGga8l7rc0

[@barbarapomeroy6497]

This goes for racialized folks and stereotypes as well

[@nessahelu]

I really loved this and appreciated the final thoughts with your friend too!! Very real and relatable to how my friends and I act. Def going to discuss this subject with my nieces - lil tiktok babies

[@JacquelineViana]

As a Brazilian with a really really large butt and hips and all the cultural load that this body brings to our everyday lives (such a the fat-shaming, the objetification, the sexual harassment... - not to mention that I'm mixed-race, black women here had ir waaaay worse) the concept of people trying to achieve something that I've spent most of my adolescence and early adulthood trying to come to terms with it's so freaking wild.

[@ninama7119]

I’m Asian but sis same!!! People think it’s okay to comment on women’s body and yes, at family gatherings the only questions we get asked are 1) you gained/lost weight? 2) you have a boyfriend yet? Relatable

[@IPSITAPANDAthe_ipsita]

Why the whole Asian community vibes on this shit questions bruh ?😭 Well In India the 2nd qns is a bit different, usually asking about carrier and future plans and then making you feel shit about your choice by comparing with others 🙄

[@929er13]

at this point i think that's just a woman experience because those are the only thing any older woman or uncle ask/say to me whenever there's a gathering. my family and extended family are v mixed so it's many different people from different backgrounds with that awful commonality. 😭

[@IPSITAPANDAthe_ipsita]

@@929er13 In my family these questions remain same for my brother too.

[@ninama7119]

@@IPSITAPANDAthe_ipsita for reallllll

[@ninama7119]

@@929er13 yeah I was thinking if this is a WoC experience but then I remember one of my white American friends told me that's what it's like in the South as well...

[@TheFineArtisan]

The booty booty booty booty rocking everywhere clip is hilarious to me. Lol

[@JulianSteve]

Same here. That used to be my song as a child. 2000s throwback😩🤣‼️

[@gabbym333]

Lmao it does help to get one's attention

[@FeralFelineFriend]

I cannot unhear the mashup of this song with under the sea. It works too well and I am now cursed to have it play over and over in my head.

[@ViaKane]

lmaoooo same thing I thought

[@justarandomgirllol7428]

17:53 🤣

[@mushroomocean5177]

My gosh, I’m so happy to find someone else who has such a similar feeling about your body. I also feel like I’m in some strange in-between with my body where I’m not skinny but I’m not fat. I have a tummy, and it makes me extremely self conscious, but knowing that someone else has similar feelings just helps me feel like I’m not an oddity.

[@s.jsomersartworks]

This is such a fabulous, articulate positive way to look openly at something so serious - enjoyed the hell out of it thanks!

[@mars9986]

When you feel bad about your stomach remember that the intestinal track stretches out to 22 feet long. Taller than a house. You have every right to your tummy pudge

[@joyc.e.7511]

Preach

[@Got2BOshun]

I love this

[@vennelasiri1941]

This helped me. Thank you.

[@MA-zg2pz]

Abdominal Muscles are on top of everyone’s intestines holding them in tight, but bloating can cause our abdomen to have a firm poof. Fat accumulates on top of the abdominal muscles. That’s when we have jiggly tummy and that’s okay too. It’s not your intestines causing the image of fat, unless you have a hernia peeking through.

[@Shelikem52]

Thank you for pointing that out, which is what freaks me out about tightly wrapping your intestinal organs in cloth and sticky stuff for a smaller waist...hell, what do I know? I am just a 50 year old trying to understand why bring something back to society so harmful?

[@Leah-pm1nh]

I feel the socialization as a woman meeting family, it's always "you've gained/lost weight!" Followed by "have you met anyone new recently"(intrusive) and then if we're still stuck in the same room they might ask what classes I'm taking...

[@solsthrash2603]

Yep, its exactly the same in eastern europe, my relatives probably cant even tell you what I study or what I do at work

[@safrin6121]

better just don't talk to me please

[@iheartjbgccb]

"When is the baby coming???" Instead of politely asking if that's something I would actually want. FML They literally don't know that they're fucking us up.

[@onemillionpercent]

maybe as a woman with family from the continent of Asia, classes i'm taking always takes center stage for me haha. and i dont know if it's any better 💔

[@nourishevolvethrive4164]

Our weight and if we got a man smh theres more to life then thaaaaaaaaaat lol

[@cyndere]

I think the issue with getting a cosmetic surgery (but also lying about it) is that it (1) reinforces the specific beauty standard and (2) spreads the belief that it's achievable, just naturally or with discipline.

[@saphire9823]

Yes! Thanks for putting into words what I've been trying to think to say

[@mxbones9245]

This is my first video of yours I’ve seen and I’m 2 minutes in and loving this energy. ✨10/10✨

[@therealsouthernbelles]

I hate people that get surgery and become FITNESS GURUS. Girl bye your surgeon told you if you want to keep this body you have to workout

[@aureliere]

THANK YOU!! THE LIES ARE RIDICULOUS!

[@aligt7324]

The biggest scam in history if you ask me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@jessicawilliams3849]

People on Twitter were roasting one of the Kardashians for doing this. She was like “I hate when people say they don’t like their body, but then they eat bad and don’t exercise.” Meanwhile she didn’t work to get her body either and didn’t event want a photo of her natural body surfacing on the internet.

[@lujain3436]

kim kardasian has a thing on snapchat where they showed her "amazing" personal trainer that gave her the body she has PU-LEASE 💀😂

[@jessicab331]

As a naturally “slim thick” woman ppl still say to me “ppl are paying to have bodies like yours”… and I’m like no the hell they aren’t! They want a caricature more exaggerated body…😭… even Ashanti said she wasn’t thick and didn’t have a big butt… ppl are even saying Meg doesn’t! I’m like y’all these fake bodies are waaaaaaay beyond my natural thickness! I’m 31 and goals back when I was a teenager was a flat belly! A Slim waist! And yes a long torso was everything! I blame that on all those low rise jeans…. I remember i use to do everything jus trying to get skinny. This a** has been more trouble than it’s worth. I feel sorry for these women jumping on this bandwagon when the trend ends.

[@yowwowtow]

Omg the jeans that barely had enough buttspace for pockets!!

[@TheAuroraGalore]

Literally! I "slim thick" since I was 13 but was bullied and tormented in school because the trend was having a thigh gap and being ultra skinny. People shouldn't change for a current beauty standars because it will change again. I was always called fat and now people accuse me of having surgery, like what 😭😫😅

[@GabbieCh]

You're right girl. It's all fake. And it sucks for people on all sides. Those girls who get the surgeries and get praised also suffer. At the very least, they're perceived as sex dolls and they start attracting men who only want them for sex, they get a lot of criticism, they deal with a lot of physical pain... And about the girls that actually die for putting themselves under the knife to become more attractive. It truly sucks. I don't recommend this to any fellow female. If you're so insecure that you need a surgery, your problems won't get solved with it. People like this stay insecure. Kylie Jenner changed everything about herself and she's still insecure as hell and lets guys treat her like shit.

[@sanbluesiq2506]

Yea I could never wear low rise jeans. My butt never fit in those, lol.

[@nursemain3174]

Megan is so curvy, her body is amazing along with any woman alive currently in the world

[@ProletariatPrince]

Victorian corsets were actually designed to creat a smaller looking waist from the front and affect a more hourglass look. They would actually force the stomach to stick out even more to achieve that look. Look at those dresses from the side. It will blow your mind.

[@Ruinwyn]

Posing is a big part of the influencer look. That flat stomach is usually a suck in. That butt is popping the hips down to create duck tail, with thighs at different heights to accentuate the effect and creating the thigh gap. The extra thin waist is a twist. On those "relaxed" sitting poses, every part of their body is tense to create the shape.

[@shinydoorknob85]

The concept of body neutrality changed my life. It gave me the freedom to just…exist in my body without needing to love it or be critical of it. I started making a habit of thanking my body for carrying me through life- climbing trees, enjoying the warmth of a good hug, singing in a choir, recovering from illness, delivering my children, etc. In the end, for me, following trends was too exhausting and unattainable. I totally understand wanting to change your body though, and if it brings you peace, more power to you.

[@AM-dp9tv]

I love this POV, thanks for sharing :)

[@jackiemaldonado7777]

😢❤️

[@anz10]

This is awesome!! Def going to attempt to do this more. I feel that men get the privilege of body neutral-ity a lot more!! They can just exist in their bodies a lot more than women can. Men are not made to analyse their body or pick it apart as much as women. Their power doesnt come from their looks but from their status and achievements a lot more. They can just be recognised as a person and not a walking body. Although there is still pressure especially in certain circles for men it's nowhere near as pervasive as it is for women .. every.. damn.. day..

[@fairy6126]

thank you for that i needed it❤️

[@gofaonemotlogelwa4925]

That's what it's called😂 okaaay I guess that's where I'm at. I have the slim thick body type but I watch my body change during the month, on my period and after...all that. I realised that, this body is doing what it needs to be done...and yeah it's in style but when the trend is over I'll still have to love this Body😂 And I tell my friends,your body has purpose, its not for aesthetic! Saggy, perky, small, big...when the time comes your boobies will get the job done😂 flat or not, your tummy area will do what needs to be done and not to mention we have uteruses to accommodate down there. The trend is gonna go away, then what? You look for new reasons to hate your body?😂 body neutrality is the word😉

[@assimpleasgravity]

Hearing you talk about the "in-between" body shape and struggling with it, rings so so true for me ... what always helps me is taking a step back and seeing the bigger picture of what a healthy body actually allows us to do.

[@iRinnda]

Girl, we are on the same boat! Can we license a name for this in-between body type? How about a gingerbread body? From side it's skinny, from front it's wide, but in the end, it's still a pretty dang sweet body. :D

[@assimpleasgravity]

@@iRinnda that's the cutest but also funniest accurate description of that body type I've ever heard. The frustration sometimes just gets to you, you know?

[@ariannamyrie9520]

Someone who has an in between body type is Tessa Thompson, if you look at her in Janelle Monae's Dirty Computer, and she looks fantastic!!

[@mollyrzr]

@@iRinnda I usually call myself ‘box type body’, but I like your name better :) Golden time for me were the ‘90, as this body type was popular and I was young and slim. Now the high raised jeans are my nemesis.

[@rexrabbitfur]

@Omni-Man People have dogged on Serena Williams for her body shape many times before and she's an athlete that's more disciplined than most regular people that are considered fit. Being healthy and fit does not solve the problem of specific body types being considered inherently more desirable.

[@saayuri12]

oh my god the way she talks is like SO ENTERTAINING i could just listen to her forever and by the way her videos are so well informed at the same time chef's kiss

[@kayla3751]

This video just popped on my feed, and it’s the first time I’ve ever seen your channel! I was sold when you made the jimmy choo/jimmy choos differentiation. Instant subscribe

[@TheSylda]

Victorian women used padding to get that effect and quite frankly bum pads are way easier on the body than BBL's.

[@nyangatagaming903]

Also people *knew* that most people weren’t shaped like that under their clothes. They knew it wasn’t real and it was fine. Obviously body shaming existed then, and there were body standards, but it was treated pretty differently.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

Man, I love a good butt pad! The only issue with them is that it doesn’t work without the layers. I wear those layers, so I wear butt pads (they’re also great cushions for when I’m sitting in my wheelchair, it’s super win/win). But if you’re taking a picture in a teeny bikini with no arse coverage, it would be difficult. And I think that’s the major difference. Losing all those layers meant that instead of modifying our clothing to get the shape we want, we had to start modifying our bodies themselves. And that sucks.

[@Imxel21]

@@nyangatagaming903 it really wasn’t

[@katherinemorelle7115]

@@Imxel21 it kinda was. Anyone could achieve the fashionable silhouette, because they only had to change their clothes, not the body itself. It was attainable for more people. There was also much more of an emphasis on shape over size. Which means that anyone really could achieve the desired shape. Which is not to say that there weren’t size ideals, just that they weren’t as important as they are today, where size matters most, and in order to achieve a specific shape and size, you have to change your body itself. Which is much more difficult (and expensive) to do, which makes it far less achievable to a larger cohort. So it kinda was different, yes. Not entirely, but there were definitely differences.

[@vichgold384]

@• ᴗ a lot makeup and plastic surgeries as well

[@Thenpai]

honestly I love this community, like everyone being able to share their stories and add on to the points you made in this video and it's so refreshing and lowkey comforting. Like everyone having a respectful and insightful voice in the comment section is just really nice.

[@KhadijaMbowe]

Right??? Even those correcting some of the things I said in the videos (re: diet culture and restrictive eating and all that) were super respectful and compassionate!

[@r8yle]

"community " its a little youtubers comment section

[@chimmy1161]

@@r8yle bruh

[@moonlit7273]

@@r8yle what are you trying to say

[@shark_kisses5153]

@@r8yle you can find a community of kindred souls anywhere. There are no rules or regulations when it comes to relating and sharing your life, that is how communities and attachments are made. No one connections would be made if everyday places and interactions were sterile, deemed ‘worthless of meaning’. Haven’t you ever been to a club’s bathroom around midnight, and found that the girl applying lipgloss beside you is your new, most beautiful BFF, then end up drunkenly exchanging compliments & cell numbers for 20 min? Lolol. You never know when your words/actions will find and truly impact someone. Be it positively or negatively, affecting their behavior & mindset. That is why we chose our words wisely, regardless of medium, avoid commenting on relatively minor things you find issue with, or speak with empathy & respect if you wish.

[@gypsypixie4566]

I return to this again and again. Thank you so much. I share it every time too. You’re amazing. Thank you for putting it into words ❤️❤️so much love❤️❤️

[@nadiachilmonik]

I love this, so refreshing to hear honest talk about insecurities that many of us share!

[@imani0nline]

The proportions of the Instagram slim thicc is just 😑 expected to be curvy have a big booty and thighs BUT have a thigh gap and an absolutely flat stomach. WILL WE KNOW NO PEACE, I don’t know why everyone is so pressed about it especially because this body will be out of style in the next decade or so.

[@siggietyrone3965]

Tbh I don't think anyone actually likes the thigh gap. Its extremely unrealistic that even most skinny people dont have.

[@MADEbySOUL]

Then we go through another body trend. My bet is on Bella Hadid figure, very very slim. That seems to be kind of body social media has been going on about.

[@thisisyouralterlife3785]

@@Rootofasphodel why bring up that she’s arab?

[@grachi0matilda]

@@MADEbySOUL we always go back to the skinny model type body

[@thisisyouralterlife3785]

@@Rootofasphodel I actually don’t care abt that, I’m not into judging people’s looks, I just thought you were being racist, which you weren’t so you do you.

[@juliaostlund9360]

Oof the sucking in stomach is so real. For me personally, I've always leaned on the side of having fat than being skinny and I got curvy when I hit puberty. For a loooong long time I'd suck in my stomach like it was second nature, and when I got to college I started taking voice lessons for MT and quickly ran into that as a roadblock, (You can't "look skinny" and have proper breath support at the same time). I have a natural voice and can sing, but every time I tried to belt it didn't go very far, because my second-nature of sucking in my stomach prevented me from taking full enough breaths. It was awkward, embarrassing, frustrating, and even a little painful at times because the sound was coming from my throat. I've since unlearned that habit and my voice has improved drastically.

[@daftlikejack]

I started sucking in at like 10 or 11. It became second nature like you said, where it felt weird to NOT constantly be squeezing those muscles. It wasnt until after i had my daughter that I finally let my stomach relax. I continued to hold my stomach in even during pregnancy because it was so uncomfortable to let it go. It was only at like 8 months that I physically could no longer hold it.. It was a weird time and even weirder to think about how I ended up that way. It's really hard to imagine any women out there don't have some semi-serious body image issues, it seems inescapable.

[@barneypaodoce]

OMG thanks, I thought it was a normal thing. I can't breathe or even speak properly. Thank you very much for letting me know it's not normal

[@Wakeupgrandowl]

🤔 I am 32 and you just partially explained to me how I slowly ruined my modest voice and it became painful to sing. I did a lot of other things that mucked it up, but I didn't even consider my 'forever engaged' stomach was contributing.

[@laurathepoet]

I feel like tummy fat is so frowned upon and it drives me nuts. I have had two babies and I carry my weight in my stomach and thighs (but my butt is... wide?) I try to dress to hide it all the time but part of me is like, fuck that I'm proud of my belly fat. because it's me.

[@anz10]

@@laurathepoet I love the character in pulp fiction who fantasies about having a round stomach! She made me question the idea of flat is best and round is ugly.. she just wants to have this perfectly round small stomach and actually it sounds kinda cute :D .. when I put on weight I have always put the weight mostly on my stomach, it's a family / genetic thing, wish the fat went more to other parts but it is what is it so I've always struggled a bit with accepting my stomach when most of my life it has not been perfectly flat and what society idealises. However in my late thirties I've staring to question this cultural conditioning, most women naturally have some belly fat and it's not a bad thing, it can be sensious, it can be human, it can be beautiful and it IS normal. Also I love my body because it can function which is more important than aesthetics !

[@izzypadilla4509]

i've never seen this talked about. i have NEVER heard people about my body type like this and relating to my struggles. thank you so much

[@alwayscuttinbutter]

Your color and tone of your skin is gorgeous!!! My goodness, love it