How TikTok Triggers Your Insecurities

[@JessicaVianaa]

If you're a teenager reading this, mark my words - after high school is over, *no one gives a shit* . No one will remember the stupid dramas that seem so important when you're 15. No one will pick you as a romantic partner based on whether you have a thigh gap or not. But they will reject you if you are shallow and have no personality. Please preserve your identity and stay wholesome, the rest will come ❤

[@catspjs6229]

Absolutely 💯

[@minaryeon9259]

Facts

[@unrequin4805]

Not true. In college I am still being belittled for how I look, but this time I don’t have to see these people all the time. It’s random people I see on my commute to class.

[@dualfluidreactor]

@@unrequin4805 those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind

[@Biancawaker]

For sure!

[@reflectlight1368]

People are usually shocked when I tell them that I dont use social media. Ironically I feel like I am way more happier with how I am than people who are constantly on social media.

[@DeathTempler]

For real. I stopped using it year ago because the politics people kept spewing at each other was unbearable. Everyone being mad at each other for not voting for who they wanted them to vote for, or not agreeing with every little thing, it was torture to look at. I could post a video of something I worked extremely hard to make like an animatronic cosplay prop, get maybe a like. Someone posting their political opinions: that's all anyone cares about. I only use Discord now. Typically if there's anything political there, it's funny or a debate between friends. Not a public spew of insults and opinions that someone intends to win, looking only for validation. Fuck social media.

[@yourtrashtalkingbro9118]

KZbin is part of social media though.

[@RandomFandomDragon]

I use it, but all of my accounts are private, and I only accept friends/followers/whatever term when I actually know and like the person. I'm not on regularly; I typically use these more to check in on friends and family, especially those who live far away.

[@ElitaMaster125]

yes, i literally live only with youtube and pinterest and i feel the same way

[@cl5470]

KZbin is social media.

[@janette2438]

I'm so grateful that I'm too old to understand the appeal of TikTok.

[@KianaDocherty]

LOOL

[@imanenjm8066]

Me too even though im just 26yo i feel like im too old to get it, maybe if i was a teen i would have been crazy about it!

[@maniyasha134]

My young niece is on TikTok. I want to throw her phone out of the window.

[@anorginalname805]

I guess it just comes down to how you’re raised because I’m 22 and I don’t understand either, however my little cousins who are in their pre-teens are obsessed

[@whattheflimflam]

My freind has it. It's incredibly stupid content 99% of the time.

[@youfloweryoufeast]

i wish more people spoke about how much the app promotes young “successful” people too - med/law/stem and ivy league students, people in their early 20s moving to big cities/out on their own, etc. not to mention a lot of these people also tend to come from well-off backgrounds and are well-connected. idk maybe i’m just super insecure but as a regular student in their 20s still living at home and struggling to get internships/jobs it makes me feel so bad about myself. it’s gotten to the point where i don’t use the app anymore.

[@hansarah4727]

I can relate to this.

[@baby_muppy]

this!!!!!!!! im going to community college and living at home working a part time job and those kinds of people make me feel like im not doing anything right 😕

[@youfloweryoufeast]

@@baby_muppy I just wanna say you’re doing amazing and I’m rooting for you! I went to community college too and it was honestly such a formative time for me - I only remember the positives from those years. I hope you can create many good memories and I’m wishing you the best on your journey~ !! 🧡🧡

[@cl5470]

They are trying to show aspirational people. Few people aspire to live in their mom's house. I don't get how people don't understand that social media is just a platform for corporations to advertise. Corporations are the customers of social media and you are the product

[@lintang790]

Yess people need to talk about the 'success standard' on social medias too. I never really cared about beauty standard but seeing these people bragging about their academics & achievement ....

[@mistymeenor531]

My sophomore year of college, just as I was starting to gain confidence in my appearance, I had an endless stream of girls asking me how I was able to live with my roommate because she was practically a model and the nicest person in the world. I didn't feel insecure until everyone basically told me I was nothing compared to her. That wasn't even on social media.

[@mimilogan76]

Sorry that happened to you 🥺

[@iliketurtles2843]

Honestly, I would feel very jealous and insecure around her. I would probably start to resent her.

[@keyboardwarrior1350]

I hope you worked something out. Prolly best to reject those people and not that roomie.

[@serenatsukino5252]

Tbh I can relate to this. My roommate and I are best friends but there were times I felt insecure hearing people talk about how beautiful she is and I'm just meh.

[@legioparati2711]

As you should be. If you can't work for yourself might as well opt for a way out

[@Silvarret]

This is the kind of topic I never knew I wanted to hear you talk about, but now I just want more!

[@geenhaaien]

off*

[@bantyrFish]

well said friend :P

[@elh4089]

Agreed

[@ummmuurdone7805]

Oo Silvarret I love your content 😁

[@brodypenn]

I’m used to watching you make roller coaster videos on Planet Coaster this is so random lol

[@AJManol]

Beauty is a lot like money; it’s not the key to happiness, but it sure as hell helps!

[@ns1208]

It sure makes a great "First impression"..but it doesn't get you far if you have nothing inside your brain.

[@j936-n6n]

I don't know to what extent either helps. They each come with their own sets of problems. You don't want someone loving you for either your wealth or looks only. And I think what we actually long for is a sense of belonging and understanding, and neither money nor beauty provides that. I'm kind of rich but miserable, if that helps the credibility of my post lol.

[@MrCmon113]

@@j936-n6n Beauty absolutely helps with a "sense of belonging and understanding".

[@sparkles999rose2]

@@ns1208 this trope makes no sense if you’re beautiful you’re probably also smart just better genes

[@ns1208]

@@sparkles999rose2 huh?? Just because someone is beautiful based societal standards,they are smart? After 25,people look for someone to have a wholesome conversation.Being smart doesn't mean you have to be genius but perceptive..in every workfield your skill is going to help you.Your look will measure upto how you carry yourself.

[@ripwolfe]

It took me decades to figure this out, having been an overweight kid with rock-bottom self-esteem and struggling with major depression, but if you're concerned only with "attractiveness," then that's a lot of energy going towards a fantasy that could be spent elsewhere to make yourself a better human being -- which ironically will make you more attractive. Building self-confidence from near-scratch is incredibly hard to do, but it is far easier than hoping you'll become something that someone else is on a 4" screen. The results are far longer lasting, far more powerful, and far more beautiful to behold.

[@Cindy-bo7gi]

Underrated comment! ❤️❤️

[@marianalikethetrench]

My exact experience as a morbidly obese kindergartener through high schooler. Now, when people are like "you're soooo funny!" or "you're sooooooo nice!" I'm almost thankful I had that time to grow my character. (It also gave me time to learn how to spot the people to avoid once I got healthier and more conventionally attractive, especially the former classmates that crawl out of the woodwork to hit you up in the DMs)

[@pearls7272]

Beautifully said..

[@jdd1318]

Wonderful comment

[@RamMohammadJosephKaur]

Thank you Adam for the wholesome comment 😊

[@jd5368]

I'm 40 and when I look back on pictures of myself as a teenager, I'm struck by the fact that by all conventional standards, I was very, very pretty--some might say even beautiful. But I never saw myself that way and my social experience didn't reflect that reality. I never pranced around in cute outfits; I wore a lot of oversized band t-shirts and baggy jeans that hid my body. On a Friday night I was more likely at home reading a book than partying. I had friends, but was never one of the "cool girls." I fantasized about boys I never talked to. As a teenager/young adult, I struggled to get even the most basic minimum wage job because I didn't have that bubbly personality employers were looking for. I was an introvert, and I think that limited me far more than my conventional attractiveness benefited me. It's still an issue for me when it comes to getting jobs (I can do the job, I just can't seem to nail the interview no matter how nicely I present myself.) I think people need to realize that 1. that "cool girl" lifestyle they see on social media isn't real for at least 99% of people; and 2. physical attractiveness isn't everything. Being a neurotypical extravert will get you farther in our society than looks, as long as you present yourself decently.

[@sudham757]

Well said. I am 21 now and I was always the introvert one....never presented myself to anyone and was more myself. My teens were just 2015ish and I tell you I didn't have any social media until I was 20 😂 I'm old school like that. But although I was struggling I wasn't fazed by any celebrity or something, which I can say proudly.

[@yothiga]

Agree! How open/friendly/flirty you are also taking like 95% of how people get into relationship. It’s not like everyone will flock to a good looking people.

[@davidaIano]

The hiring process gives an advantage to confident applicants, what employers tend to forget is that confidence is not the crucial skill needed to complete a task, competence is.

[@torgeist.]

Every person who wears band t-shirts is beautiful in my opinion! Hope your doing well in life!

[@Artlove8900]

Trust me i m not being narcissist but i think i have exact natural face that today's beauty standards ask for but i never got treated like that too. Like they say beautiful people do. I m introverted too and i m serious looking person thats why people dont approach me much. I really think when it comes to social relations extrovertedness and social skills are much important looks are something but not everything

[@anoni6108]

I feel like the normalisation of hating yourself plays a big role in this, when you say you're ugly or make jokes about your appearance you can get support and likes and compliments, but saying you feel pretty is almost being the epitomy of being conceited and vain

[@IAmPlaysWithSquirrel]

So much this. In online spaces especially, performing self-loathing is basically an invitation for a circlejerk.

[@juliebird8475]

I agree! Although it was like that also before social media. I'm 43 and I never understood how it's totally okay to criticize yourself to hell and back but saying that you're good at something or done something well you're arrogant.

[@sarasamaletdin4574]

I don’t think ever calling yourself pretty was a good thing. Although it’s more normal now to call yourself ugly.

[@commonunicorn1975]

Gotta be honest. All my recommended TikToks are either animals or comedy. I never see good looking people dancing on it. 😆

[@erinrose14]

Saaaaame my self esteem can't handle stuff like that 🤣

[@ettcha]

I always hear they have possibly the best algorithm out when it comes to figuring out what people like to see and serving it to them. It's an interesting layer to the discussion

[@Sulucnumoh420]

Proving that the TikTok algo isn't causing this....it's simply serving the self-effacement that these people are so tragically seeking. In my opinion that's the real issue....why do so many of us hate ourselves and seek things out that hurt us?

[@Smacy]

Me too! I'm also on body-positive TikTok which I really love but I very rarely come across model TikTok, organically. Usually what I see from it is from stitching and duets.

[@Shnozzler]

Me too. Because I got a code from my college classmate and it looks like TikTok recommends you what people who give you a code interested in

[@calicoathena]

I absolutely disagree that looking pretty or conventionally attractive doesn't come up often in real life. It affects how other people treat you. So in that way it affects literally everything.

[@sorudesarutta]

It’s not all that dictates other people’s treatment of you, being confident will go a long way as well.

[@calicoathena]

@@sorudesarutta sure but a confident ugly person and a confident pretty person are gonna be treated differently. It gives you an advantage.

[@Русские_вперед]

@@sorudesarutta Confident ugly person is viewed as arrogant and creepy. That's just how real world works.

[@user-qk5td1co9u]

i was overweight and i used to be skinny, i’ve been on both sides and i prefer being skinny.

[@megmcguireme]

@@Русские_вперед Unless they're funny. Being funny can take you pretty far.

[@amandamc6569]

I'm damn 30 years old and still can't stand the way social media makes me feel 😒

[@Awaredo]

Same here. I’m 30 and these 17 year olds look better than me lol I don’t even know how to wear makeup and it makes me feel ugly. My body isn’t what “it should be” with the standards society promotes. Smh I miss AIM/sidekick days.

[@amandamc6569]

@@Awaredo girl I feel you

[@aeoligarlic4024]

According to teens these days side parts and short haircuts aren't trendy anymore and could be considered a 'karen'. That alone makes me want to stay away from them. I just find it confusing bc we live in an era where body positivity is pushed really far yet beauty standards are still ridiculous

[@IAmPlaysWithSquirrel]

Body positivity nowadays is just fat acceptance. Jumping from one extreme to another.

[@QueenOfTheCoast]

@@IAmPlaysWithSquirrel true

[@elinat2414]

Honestly, even the people on tik tok don’t look like that in real life and are still insecure. Most of these people are just regular teenagers that know their angles, have good lighting, can do make up and apply filters on themselves. This creates the illusion of perfection, when they struggle with acne, bloating etc like everyone else. They are some of the most insecure people out there because their real selves inevitably fall short of their social media image.

[@miaomiaou_]

This is true! And the sad part is this is kinda what you have to do to excelle on the app.

[@ntatenarin]

I was never attractive and I'll admit it was tough when I was a kid. The best thing that happened to me was when I stopped caring about how I looked. Since I wasn't attractive, wearing non-stylish clothes didn't do anything to make me less or more attractive, so I wore whatever I wanted. Then I did whatever I wanted. Those people scared to admit they like something nerdy/dorky/geeky? Not me! My friends know I like weird stuff, and I don't care as I'm not trying to impress anyone or find a girlfriend. The only bad thing with my non-caring attitude is that I didn't care about my weight either, so I started to get chubby. Even though I didn't care about my looks, I did care about my health, so I started to eat right and got more active, so now I'm doing much better.

[@mstly4lg]

Glad you're doing better with your health.... attractiveness is subject

[@unknownmoonchild9970]

Thats nice

[@mstly4lg]

Subjective *

[@lizzi7128]

What you don't see as attractive could be wildly so to someone else. Trust me on that

[@ntatenarin]

@@lizzi7128 Even though I said I don't care, I'll admit I'm hopeful someone will find me attractive. Until then, I'm enjoying what I have now. 🤗

[@Awaredo]

And this is what I’ve been saying even before TikTok. I’m 30, deleted fb and Twitter 9 years ago. Never had an IG nor TikTok. I’ve been saying for yearssss that social media is very toxic. I found myself feeling ugly because I compared myself. Breaks my heart to see girls/boys going through this. Unfortunately, it’s still something that lingers and still makes me insecure.

[@tiny_biscuit]

I really want to but have no in life friends mum life 😢 and think I'll struggle without the communication do you do anything else for socialising?

[@Awaredo]

@@tiny_biscuit but remember, that before this, people made friends in person. I’ve even made a Reddit account and there are people all around you can meet and actually hang out with. Probably other moms who feel the same. Reach out to old friends and ask for a day to hang out. Even if it’s FaceTime or texting, it’s better than virtual friends. I’ve met people at gyms, bars, out hiking, wine and paint night, etc. go out by yourself and interact with strangers. People are scared of physical interactions as they can’t hide behind an account or make up lies of their life. It’s so much healthier off social media.

[@aeoligarlic4024]

No matter what your age is there's always this thing that will make you insecure when going to social medias. When you're a teen you'll long for model looks/bodies, in your 20s you see perfect relationship #goals plastered all over your feed, in your 30s wedding photos and cute family picture or thriving careers with lots of travelling. It never ends, so it's better to stay out of it.

[@RandomFandomDragon]

@@aeoligarlic4024 Exactly. I'm 40, and same things are compared as what you mentioned for the 30s.

[@WriteMeASong7]

@@tiny_biscuitI am a stay at home mom of 3. Very isolated. The only adult I talk to in person is my husband and other parents when I go out of the playground with my toddler. I deleted my Fb, TT, IG, Twitter 2 months ago and I’ve never felt better. Truth is, I felt lonelier when I had social media. Now I feel so happy, content and while I am alone, I hardly feel lonely. Social media didnt give me any sense of belonging. If anything, it made me feel worse. I’ll never go back to social media. Life without it so much better.

[@avalonicole]

this is why im off of social media, i encourage kids my age (teens) to also delete or limit time on the apps. so relieving getting off of it.

[@elbuki4547]

Same, since I deleted all socials my anxiety and depression decreased 75%

[@BasedOut100mil]

KZbin is social media

[@elbuki4547]

@@BasedOut100mil yes but is not as toxic

[@ddqio7774]

@@BasedOut100mil but on yt you can choose what content you want recommended to you unlike instagram, tiktok..etc

[@RandomFandomDragon]

@@BasedOut100mil - I disagree. It's more like a streaming service. You can select the exact content you want to watch, and it's really only social if you choose to interact in the comments.

[@veteranchildjas185]

It’s funny when it come to this specific topic, people will say that social media is not responsible for your insecurities. Yet social media NEEDS these people(consumers) to stay successful.

[@mikatokai3423]

Snapchat was a thing in late highschool for me. I never partook in it. Glad tik tok wasn't around when I was that age. It sounds so toxic, and people really become glued to their phones and obsessed with vapid things. I think health is where it should be at. My bf was bullied for being skinny. Wish we could find a happy medium. People will pick on you regardless of your weight it seems.

[@tatiana.gazaryan]

I'm incredibly happy, that there's been no social media yet, as I was a teen. I've been insecure enough as it is and can't imagine how much worse it would have been.

[@zalamael]

Bullying for the most part, is weak and insecure people looking for someone who is weaker and more insecure, so they can dominate them, so they can feel superior. And that is usually the knock on effect of having been bullied themselves. Most bullying tends to be verbal, and could best be described as an attack on someone else's self esteem. This is why developing self esteem is so important. If you have high self esteem, you wont need validation from other people, and more importantly, other people will have no ability to make you feel bad about yourself. You essentially become immune to both their compliments and their insults. We live in a world where most people are insecure, shallow and cowardly, so if you judge them on their personal qualities instead of their social value (due to their looks etc), you will realise their opinions aren't worth very much. Giving such people power over how you feel about yourself is a recipe for a miserable life.

[@jonferngut]

1960: How Hollywood triggers your insecurities. 1980: How MTV triggers your insecurities. 2000: How Victoria's Secret triggers your insecurities. 2010: How Instagram triggers your insecurities. 2020: How TikTok triggers your insecurities. It's almost as if your insecurities could be exploited for profit?

[@SarahWells777]

Xactly! Diet Industry,etc…

[@SarahWells777]

@@aristobrat4987 I think it comes down to a Hygiene thing.I feel gross if I don’t shave b/c hair traps in oil,dirt,etc.Not to mention the smell. I say to each their own though..

[@blondbraid7986]

@@SarahWells777 I find it funny how many women claim it's about hygiene, yet are fine being intimate with boyfriends who don't shave body hair, plus some studies actually show shaving sensitive areas can cause more pimples and cause abrasions and scrape oil and dirt into your pores. I'm not shaming people for shaving, but we as a society should be more honest about just how many things are for looks rather than hygiene, health etcetera.

[@MssLvgd]

@@SarahWells777 I think this is also a thought coming from the industry/society. If you have all your body hair or a beard you also clean them/it. Hygiene doesn't have to do anything with how many hair you've got. Its more like how you clean yourself ;)

[@xaxakun8692]

Literally capitalism and people are still surprised

[@gilbertbeilschmidt9603]

Paris Hilton mentioned in her recent documentary how bad she feels for girls and women growing up in this day in age. So much suffering.

[@jessicacook992]

"Sometimes I feel like I created a monster."

[@xalciaqx9026]

Omg hi hetalian

[@starling1226]

@@xalciaqx9026 hi did you say hetalian??

[@MrCmon113]

Being a woman in the West today is the best anyone has ever had it. You're advantaged and priviledged in every way imaginable.

[@synem6620]

@@MrCmon113 i swear it's real. As a woman, I confirm that "woman privilege" exists. We have privileges that men can't even think of.

[@xPershionx]

For the record, just want to make the point that being attractive irl DOES make a difference. Attractive people are more likely to get jobs and be paid higher than "less attractive" people. I'm not saying that tiktok doesn't make amplify the illusion that everyone is attractive and that can lead to psychology issues by messing with your perception of reality. But just wanted to point out that many studies have shown how beneficial it is to be conventional attractive in real world situations unfortunately, leaving most people struggling to keep up.

[@JohnGalt916]

Yes, but a lot of these things can be fixed by the individual. Too fat? Go to the gym. Bad skin? Wear makeup. Bad teeth? Bet braces So on and so on. You're not going to change millions of years of evolution. That makes people want to be around attractive people. Just to make a few people who put zero effort into themselves happy. I don't know if that seems cruel or not and I don't intend for it to be, but one should be realistic.

[@ericnekli7631]

@@JohnGalt916 Facial features are very crucial in the perception of attractiveness. Although I would agree, that a healthy lifestyle vastly improves the skin and being lean helps showing desirable facial features.

[@sierrasouthwell9237]

I feel like, for women at least, there's a level of attractiveness, past which your beauty actually hurts you unless you choose to be in some sort of media. I mean, look at all the female CEOs and directors. They're attractive, but not supermodel attractive. Look at all the former supermodels. If they weren't able to hop over into capitalizing on their brand like Hedi Klum or Tyra Banks, they fade into obscurity, working some low-level customer facing role. I've seen plenty of model-attractive receptionists, but not many who climb the ladder.

[@cedric7751]

That's called the halo effect. People tend associate external positive traits with positive personality traits. In the US, people make on average 500 extra $ per year and per inch. Over a lifetime, tall people end up much more wealthy than short people. Also look at the average height of American presidents, almost all of them are 3-5 inches above the average in the US. Unconsciously, we fell that taller people are better leaders and protectors.

[@magicwandstudio3141]

I think it really depend on the job, if you are a model for example, obviously your look is going to matter. But if you are working behind the scene like illustrator for ef, i dont think appearances matter. Most of freelance illustrator dont even want to show their face for privacy reason and people only care about their drawing.

[@francescovultaggio2540]

The only positive thing I got from yoyo dieting is an understanding of how much one's beauty influences everyday interactions, my life at 100kg and at 70kg were two totally different lives

[@caitlinsmith8974]

Could you elaborate? Was it how others treated you?

[@cleo958]

@@caitlinsmith8974 having lost quite a bit of weight as well, I feel it's a mix between others treating you differently, and one being more confident in their body and thus projecting it.

[@wonderwoman3078]

I agree, my life at 105 kilos vs my life now at 79 are two completely different lives as well. And i still have more slimming to do , i wonder what's gonna follow . But it doesn't make me happier anymore, just shows me more and more how shallow people are. Men who didn't want to go on dates with me all of the sudden do , men want me to be their girlfriend and "parade" with me in the fkin supermarket and crazy stuff like that. Obviously i refuse everyone now, but COULD get revenge if i wanted to. But im a good person so i would never do that to anyone. Anyway ...

[@ga75]

Regardless of how people treat you,please try to put your health first!!

[@DewyDough]

My life when i was 62 kg compared to 49 kg is also drastically different so i can relate to your experience

[@vonnie4914]

Another thing that bugs me is Tiktok glorifies ED a lot. I only liked one video and the video just showed an ED survivor and she was challenging herself with different types of she was afraid of which is really praiseworthy and should be an inspiration but after a while, there was a lot concerning videos about ED. Ice coffee method, only gum and water method, excessive training and many more. They basically encourage it and really concerning. Someone can relapse or a teen might try these which is even more worse and the sad thing Tiktok does nothing about this situation.

[@Kettvnen]

What's ED

[@vonnie4914]

@@Kettvnen eating disorder

[@classymangoeater7707]

@@Kettvnen eating disorders

[@kimberlys8422]

I was in high school when Myspace was the most important thing on earth, and everyone had a digital camera. It was when internet narcissism began; at that time YT had a five star system instead of a like/ dislike button.

[@MewMewSun]

Remember when you could customize your KZbin channel as well by adding a background and rearranging panels? I miss the 5 star rating system as well

[@urbanfool1]

HA! couldn't stand MSpace from day 1. The endless animations and music all layered on top of each other made me physically ill.

[@deftmute]

This emphasis on beauty is common in Chinese culture. I've read many instances where they feel like actors or actresses are not attractive enough in imported media. And Tik Tok is a Chinese app, so those policies are not surprising.

[@embroideredragdoll]

That makes so much sense

[@xiaolongbaoenthusiaist457]

Oracle bought out tiktok years ago. At this point it’s kinda irresponsible and lowkey racist to always drag it back to “Chinese culture” as if Oracle is not an AMERICAN company that runs TikTok.

[@venzivenzivenzi]

Kiana, you always hit the nail on the head when it comes to your content. You actually have no idea how many questions I had about my BED and self esteem that you've answered. I thank you so much

[@KianaDocherty]

:') thank you for your sweet comment - so glad to be of assistance!

[@timgrootobbink]

girl what mattress did kiana recommend? i'm curious ✨

[@AnotherPCAddict]

@@timgrootobbink she meant binge eating disorder i think

[@robinaerts1216]

@@timgrootobbink This is the best comment ever. Haha... nice one! :)

[@sinafazel2050]

i'm gonna be honest, when i see people with perfect bodies it does make me wanna have that too, but it doesn't make me hate the body that i've already got, but i feel like for most people it's not like that.

[@carlolouise2304]

When i see perfect bodies, i know they're doing a good looking angle and editing skills.

[@TheDilemma76]

When I see a perfect body I always start to think of all the things they have to do to get to that point. For me the return of having a perfect body isn't worth that work. The majority of my teens and adult years I would be jealous of that body, wish that I had it, and then berate myself when I would fail on whatever diet I tried. It's taken a lot of work and a lot of time but I appreciate the body that I have and what it can do instead of just focusing on looks.

[@Ummmmmmmm841]

I feel like you too. But I still feel insecure. I don't think it is any particular individual's beauty cause my insecurity, it is how I perceive the society's bias. I don't feel insecure watching these women, I feel the most insecure when I go shopping and clothes don't fit me they way it fits them. It's like, their bodies don't intimidate me, the society that only praises one beauty standard triggers me

[@yeebler]

One of the many thousands of reasons I deleted it 2 years ago. I hope these kids can delete it and start to heal their self esteem before it gets worse

[@Danuxsy]

This isn't a TikTok problem, it derives from reality.

[@liz-js7xc]

This is why I stay off the app. Sometimes my best friend sends me TikToks of amazingly gorgeous girls and says "why can't I look like that", and I just feel so bad for her because she doesn't see how damaging it is, yet she continues to use the app. I always remind her of what you said in this video, but it doesn't really go through to her :/

[@SwissMarksman]

The amounth of bullshitery that is going on, on Social Media is insane.

[@woah3117]

I feel like they don’t realize it’s mainly filters or makeup especially on tiktok

[@Jimmy-ph8xn]

There are a lot of beautiful 21 year olds. They represent the top 1% of the population in terms of genetics. Then thousands of them compete for the top spot on Tik Tok. You can’t judge yourself by these metrics. It’s unattainable.

[@vectoralphaSec]

Yeah beautiful 18 year olds too. Theyre really sexy.

[@kawtarbk3427]

@@vectoralphaSec excuse me

[@kawtarbk3427]

@@vectoralphaSec please tell me you are not serious

[@vectoralphaSec]

@@kawtarbk3427 Why? you don't think they look sexy?

[@vectoralphaSec]

@@kawtarbk3427 What? That they look sexy? Well they do. Nothing wrong with that.

[@seekittycat]

Tiktok is instagram with even less control. I only follow cats and artist on insta so I never see anything triggering but on Tiktok I can't stop

[@siennadavid3692]

Exactly. No matter how hard you try to run away from it, it always seems to follow you.

[@lara9956]

i really hate that ig added reels bc now i’m getting videos like that on reels and i cant stop scrolling ugh

[@RumboMercy]

Deleting tiktok was the best decision I've ever made. Literally nothing but postive consequence like better confidence and self image came from it. Even my mental health improved (Also really looking forward to your next David Goggins video! 💕💕)

[@mgray999]

I was an 8.5 or 9 when I was younger but couldn't see it. My personality was affected by autism and I had a very abusive caretaker. I slowly stopped caring and focused on being what I thought was a good person and began building my brain. I'm 30 now, and I feel bad for those who have their whole existence and being based upon their looks. When they age, something very deep and existential will be ripped from them, leaving them broken

[@stephrashid6513]

Yes this is exactly what I've said in the past. Looks fade... You need to focus on the parts of yourself that you can control and hold onto otherwise you'll be at a loss when you reach old age. Glad to read that you focus on things that will last

[@ammalyrical5646]

@@randomytchannelhere Why? Super models are part of society. I have autism too and I never really looked at beauty either (except maybe inner beauty). I literally had no eye for what was considered beautiful and I still don't really have it. I've seen enough models I didn't think were that special and gorgeous real people since I got a bit more of an eye for it. But I still only really notice when I'm actively looking for it. Why could someone who was beautiful like a model not have missed it? Puberty causes a tonne of insecurities for many people and abusive caretakers really take your focus from the surface to the inside. That's probably the only good thing that comes from it. Focus on the lasting instead of the fleeting (and beauty is in the eye of the beholder so if you don't see your own beauty you don't see it).

[@felixoupopote]

I was never pretty but I definitely was prettier than I thought I was. Thank god I didn't realize it! I wouldn't know how to do anything.

[@mageshjohny]

I think it is no longer limited to social media. This has spilled over into real life and this is what really worries me. Anytime I go out I see all these people with perfect bodies and perfect makeup and perfect grooming walking about. Everyone trying to one up one another. It’s like an endless arms race.

[@Puchitosama]

Same here

[@fatamy8597]

literally was thinking about this the other day, you’re subconsciously drawn into the ‘ideal’ reality bubble of tiktok, but on the outside of that bubble in the real world, none of that means anything and beauty is seen completely differently.

[@LisaChenNg]

"In life, sometimes we win, sometimes we lose but in social media, our perception is skewed towards feeling like perfection is the standard" - wow, so powerful! Not beauty related, but I used to be on Instagram/Facebook a lot, and on Mother's Day particularly, I was also so envious about what other mothers were doing/receiving. I had to make myself a rule never to go on social media on Mother's Day because I had to live in my moment and know that my family appreciates me. I don't need to compare myself to other mothers.

[@Satah.2732]

At this point…I just want to be mentally healthy.

[@remoove7231]

Especially horrible when you know that TikTok uses a slimming filter without the user turning it on. As in, warping the users view of their natural face without any warning or explanation. They're legitimately pushing body dysmorphia to teenagers and it's so scary to think about.

[@itsmeliska1186]

The hardest for me to bear is when girls with naturally attractive facial features take of their make up saying ''I finally decided to show my natural self despite my insecurities, don't be ashamed how you look girls yeey!". They get a lot of comments about how brave and beautiful they are etc but all I can think of is: "Girl... your face is naturally beautiful no matter if u wear make up or not, while I have a big nose, weirdly small jaw, dark circles around my eyes, huge forehead and some acne, and if I posted myself without make up Im pretty sure people would ask me if Im ok rather than praise my bravery xd". So if you are one of those people who were lucky enough to be born with naturally attractive face features, dont look for small details that you dont like, just appreciate the beauty you got...

[@lizzieyaneli]

The pretty privilege, same as when I was obese type 2 and my friends, my naturally thin friends said in feo to of me “I ate a donut I feel so fat”, knowing that I was next to them. Also this Instagram trend that says “show a pic of yourself when you thought you were overweight” and it’s the girl in a bikini maybe not toned but definitely not fat, and people are like “you are so brave”, and justify them by saying “body dysmorphia” but if it was real that they suffer from body dysmorphia, they wouldn’t have taken a picture in a bikini in the first place.

[@vdg5346]

This is so stupid. We need to stop telling young woman they're brave for not wearing make up. We also need to stop associating women who wear make up as "women who are put together". Going to the office without make up doesn't take away from you.

[@itsmeliska1186]

​@@vdg5346I wish it was that easy, but it seems like in todays society face with make up or attractive enough face without make up is consider normal and presentable while an average face of an average woman is often considered abnormal and requiring "corrections" :/

[@wendyev310]

Everyone feels insecure. it’s easy to be bitter seeing someone u wish u looked like saying they feel ugly but just accept that everyone has insecurities

[@stormyk244]

You never know what someone is struggling with though. I know classically attractive women with terrible body dysmorphia. Some women also hate how they look without makeup, even if their dark circles and uneven skin tone might seem negligible to the viewer (thanks to good lighting and angles). Some girls might do it for the attention, but the scope of “perfection” is so narrow, and our flaws so frequently pointed out to us, that even those we see as conventionally are going to struggle with viewing themselves as less.

[@oliviaKmalus0115]

i used to have tik tok and when i deleted it, it felt like a weight lifted off my back. And now when i tell people i don’t have it they seem so surprised and this is the exact reason.

[@toekneelee3098]

Body dissatisfaction has always been a concern for younger people even going back to the the 80’s and 90’s that I can recall and even earlier since television was invented. I do think however that most people grow out of that mindset later n life especially when people become more confident in their abilities, relationships, careers. I remember even as a guy having some insecurities about my appearance in my earlier mid 20s and comparing myself to others. As we get older much of that outlook becomes very trivial to the more important things in our lives. Enjoy your videos!

[@cameronbatt873]

I have a 6 month old daughter and I have used your videos as a way to prepare myself for the struggles she will face when she starts going out into the world. You’re doing great work that does not go unnoticed, and the truth you discuss may help my little girl grow up with healthy eating habits, self confidence, and a father who cares for her mental/physical well being

[@bethanybsoprano]

This reminds me of an article I read about "Instagram Face", which is basically the phenomenon of (mostly) women getting fillers and plastic surgery not for aging (which was already problematic), but to achieve a certain face shape. You can see it a lot in the women who get cast on the Bachelor--cheeks, lip fillers, etc. People are trying to look like an Instagram filter, the shape of their face is no longer acceptable as it is. It makes me really sad.

[@liferockedmelikemotley]

I had a best friend who was an influencer, we lived together so I know how she really lived. She posted her best pics and best moments online, but when you saw her in real life she was an emotional wreck. Her dad left when she was a kid so she had abandonment issues, she was in a toxic relationship with a guy who was involved with Scientology and pressuring her to join. She was secretly hooking up with her ex while they were both in relationships. Half of her family were drug dealers and in & out of prison. I swear she couldn't have been more fake than what she put out on social media. Yes she had a bangin body, but she was starving herself. This is why I dont compare myself to ANYBODY because you will not want their life.

[@PeppaTeaPig]

Your commentaries are always on point and well put together. This phenomena both fascinates and extremely saddens me. Even as an adult (I'm 27) I have a tough time not knocking on my self esteem. I cannot imagine being a child or teen in this day and age. I model and it's tough bc they push the young, young, young narrative and if you're over 25 they treat you like you're ancient. It's so wrong.

[@DewyDough]

I am 24 and yes this new generation treats anyone over 23 as very old and outdated. Its like your time is over and everyone wants you off of the internet. Its really not fair. 23 isnt even old... i wonder how Gen Z is going to deal with getting old and losing their youthful looks one day...

[@EchelonPandora]

@@DewyDough being 23 is weird because You are stuck between millennials and Gen Z and you don't quite fit into either group.

[@DewyDough]

@@EchelonPandora yeah we keep finding ourself in between the two group and get confused a lot we are too old for Gen Z tiktok bullshit but too young to understand millenials

[@beepbeepcasucha]

This is one of the main reasons I got rid of all my sns except for youtube. I started going crazy over small details on my face, treated them like signs of underlying medical conditions even.

[@Tanjura]

You don't need social media to be insecure, all you need is people around you that have what you want. I remember I grew insecure as a young teenager when all the girls around me grew bigger boobs and had flat tummies. This was before the age of social media. I fell early into the rabbit hole of dieting, clean eating, toning your body, workout regimes and so on and tried a variety of things but nothing worked. The girls around me still had bigger boobs, bigger butts, no cellulite and flat bellys. And it kinda really destroyed my self esteem and 15 years forward, I'm still occupied with clean eating and fitness and struggling with the same problems. I'm not saying social media has no effect. It most certainly does. I'm saying that you can get just as insecure simply by the people around you

[@amiapsychopat]

I totally agree, I never had tiktok but still felt awful about my body ever since I can remember (probably since kindergarten) because I was a bit chubbier. Not overweight, just not as skinny as the other girls. At 12-13 I started dieting and working out because I felt so ugly compared to all those perfect girls around me. It was so bad that I had several panic attacks while shopping for clothes and despised myself for so long. All without any kind of social media or bullying. Thankfully I was able to gain some confidence and now, while I'm still working to lose some weight, I have accepted my natural body type and that I will never fit into the current beauty standard.

[@nicoleallen3079]

I thank my lucky stars that my 17 yo daughter is in therapy and has a good head on her shoulders. I was the mean mom that didn’t get her a smart phone until she was 12 and isn’t allowed on social media. She has great communication skills and a wonderful friend group she is fully active with. I always taught her that everyone is their own unique individual snowflake. But when there’s a storm, all anyone sees is snow. I told her the only people that matter are the people that know you.

[@itwasnotyourworld]

please don't forget that do not allowing your child to have a smartphone until a certain ages doesn't make you a 'mean mom' ❤️ btw, that's a good idea to me. i wish beautiful things to happen to you and your daughter. hope she will get better.

[@MrCmon113]

So "despite" your tyrannical measures, she still needs therapy at 17...

[@nicoleallen3079]

@Taxtro, my daughter has medical reasons that make therapy necessary.

[@mmm_mmm4935]

@@MrCmon113 Tyrannical?? First world problems much? Why are you being a snob in all the comments here. Oii

[@HibiTeamQueso]

Well done 👏🏻

[@lewis18051]

I’m a single straight male & tik tok really puts me off dating sometimes & I worry for my teenage niece

[@lunarhealer6667]

I wish you would mention too that anyone deemed "pretty" has eurocentric beauty standard features. A chubby white girl can lose weight, but a dark skinned girl with hooded eyes and a flat nose will never be able to reach the standard.

[@milkchan202]

when ur so woke ur a racist

[@shannilove2801]

facts

[@emmamlis927]

When I was my skinniest and prettiest as a sophomore in university, living the perfect college life, I was attempting suicide once a month at least and having suicidal thoughts almost all day, everyday. Just because somebody looks good doesn’t mean they’re good.

[@keziahcadena2001]

Aww I hope you’re doing well now :)

[@yurishaa.9337]

But, if I may know, why? Like if there's any academic/other trauma issues? Also pardon me for asking this because in some people's mind 'perfect college life' might be one's the top-tier well-off popular student trope :)

[@true4585]

@@yurishaa.9337 Having gone through the same thing, it’s usually due to personal issues and insecurities. Beauty doesn’t erase everything from your life. It’s crazy bc the time I was most beautiful I was the most insecure and wasn’t even aware of it. Smh

[@approachingetterath9959]

i can assure you, people who seek validation online will never be sated of it. they will always need another hit to feel good about themselves. if you can build your own innate validation and self-love, you will never have to rely on someone else again to feel confident.

[@hgpt3084]

Thank you for this, I had to get off the app because it was triggering my ED a lot

[@jessicapare8779]

Dude I love this video! I’ve achieved what most people consider the ideal body. I lost over 100 pounds a year ago. And let me just say, even after you achieve what you think is “perfection” or something you always wanted, it won’t necessarily make you happy.

[@profe3330]

All this so true. And the worst part of social media in the Instagram/TikTok format is that it actively PRECLUDES intelligent, thoughtful, idea-based content, simply by being so ephemeral. No teen can express an innovative idea or a complicated concept in 30 seconds. Nobody can. This trains smart, insightful kids to value their own best qualities less and less, and to value those qualities less in others. No wonder our entire society is getting angrier, dumber and more oblivious over time! it could hardly do anything else.

[@lukeyg1559]

Yea this shit is real. Even as a male I find myself just being like "oh well, I was just not destined to be attractive and even be loved." And I just give it over to these people who were born attractive.

[@marilynmanson812]

I can completely relate to that feeling. But you do deserve love and don't worry about your looks. It is true that attractive people are better off, but that's not the only defining thing. Build a good character and a strong career. The rest will fall into place. Just remember that looks fade, but your personality and intelligence lasts much longer.

[@lukeyg1559]

@@marilynmanson812 i really appreciate your words of wisdom :) and you are completely right. Its something I will try to remind myself more often.

[@marilynmanson812]

@@lukeyg1559 Anytime man. Life is a confusing and stressful place. A lot of times we get into our own heads and make problems seem so much greater than they really are. Just remember if you're breathing and still have all your limbs it's a damn good day. :)

[@CorHellekin]

yes, you are! but it's an exercise. it might strain you, but you really have to practice self love and actively search for things to like in you (and trying to better yourself helps). At first is hard, but it gets easier and easier. also, do not subject yourself to judgmenets you wouldn't dare subject others to. good luck, lukey :) you deserve the world.

[@Rikapaprika]

Remember that 'attractive' and 'loved' are two different things. You can have 'loved' without 'attractive' don't let anyone tell you otherwise 🙅‍♀️

[@mambowumbo]

i never understand how social media makes people insecure. all i have from social media is the opposite, confidence. before i was really sad about how i look (skin color, skin texture, body type, weight, etc) and i see beautiful ladies with all different features on social media and progressively i have this "everybody can be beautiful and is beautiful in their own way" mentality.

[@bksapper9334]

Thank you for addressing a serious problem in our generation. The vanity and envy amongst individuals throughout social media is creating impossible standards. I remember a time without social media and life was just all around better without it. The addiction to social media is very much real.

[@Goat.Cheese]

I'm in my late 20s and this is one of many reasons I'm glad I never downloaded TikTok. I feel so bad for kids growing up these days, so much pressure!

[@Radical_Onion]

This is so important - what you are doing is SO IMPORTANT, Kiana.

[@alessiam.2838]

I’ve deleted tiktok for this exact reason. Been much happier since.

[@irisolympia]

the beauty algorithm is sooo insidious i hate tiktok so much lmao. i’m so glad that i’ve stopped using it because it always made me feel so yucky when i did

[@urbancat]

I feel bad for kids growing up. I can only imagine how it must be like. I am still struggling with the mental aftermath as a result of living through the Tumblr thigh-gap era. Imagine that but with an algorithm that curates to your 'interest' (aka insecurities) :(

[@singularity___]

I remember this. Having a Tumblr feed full of content tailored specifically to my insecurities.

[@victoriawilliams8196]

The sad thing is, you'll never be enough. I'm naturally very thin and was as a teen-it was just a stick to beat me with. And I watched a video not that long ago about a teen girl who took her own life because she was bullied for being *too* beautiful. Women can just never win.

[@MrCmon113]

Men kill themselves way more often. So if that's your argument for women somehow having it worse, it doesn't work.

[@mekabare]

@@MrCmon113 Men kill themselves more often because they dont accept mental health help because its taboo. Idk why you were trying to one up her tho lol.

[@Rio-hg1ct]

@@mekabare Is mental help being taboo not a bad thing????

[@candied.crabapples]

Low self esteem is very profitable for a lot of businesses

[@liyre4189]

I've always grown up with pretty good self esteem, despite being a chubby and weird kid. I never downloaded tiktok but just the run off onto Instagram has hurt my self esteem and that's terrifying to me, I'm being effected and I'm not even there.

[@ES_ve]

I admire you so much! Been binging on your content the past two days, guess what? No guilt after that binge 😝

[@mmbell]

That is one of the biggest reason that I quit social media nearly 3 years ago

[@Daph112]

This is one of the many reasons why I don't want to have kids. The world is so messed up, it will mess up every kid you have. The fight to raise them into confident, decent humans will be 10x harder than it used to be for our parents (I'm 33).

[@RockNRollNews12]

Adopt?

[@Daph112]

@@RockNRollNews12 not as a single mom, never

[@JustMe-px9qy]

You have a good poin

[@shannilove2801]

facts

[@AutumnHaunts]

I’m 29 and have zero desire to make a TikTok and stopped posting on Instagram when reels became the new thing to do instead of posting pictures. I already have an eating disorder from being a preteen during the 2000’s heroine chic era, I don’t need more of that. It sticks with you for life.

[@robinaerts1216]

I love your videos Kiana. You're such a lovely person. I like the little laugh you do sometimes. Very cute. Such interesting topics. I'm a big fan! :)

[@UsagiPonPon]

I deleted Tiktok and Instagram about 2 years ago, and I really started feeling less stressed. I stopped feeling everyday like I needed more money to buy makeup or clothes to look prettier and more perfect. I was obsessed with being aesthetically perfect to show it off on instagram. I also realized how I stopped “NEEDING” a nose job because I was obsessed over a girl on twitter who had an only fans and was gorgeous, and she had had a nose job too. It’s incredible, even if you think you’re okay, that social media doesn’t affect you that much, when you leave it, you realize it actually did. I rarely feel ugly now, when I stopped having fake people to compare myself to, I started smiling at my beauty every time I look at the mirror, I’m not skinny, I have a belly, And yet I feel like I’m sexy my own way, because my attitude changed, it stopped being obstructed with impossible standards, once you clean yourself up from that toxicity, you become real beauty, you become sexy if you want to be sexy, and it is amazing. I didn’t realize how powerful this was until now that I watched this video.

[@es-gm7dw]

It's not the freakishly attractive girls on tictoc that bother me necessarily, it's the fact that my husband spends hours looking at them instead of spending time with me and the kids that bothers me. I know a lot of women are in the same situation.

[@alinamichelle2531]

That's....not normal. That type of behavior is what causes strained relationships between parents and children in adulthood. At the very least, your kids deserve better. You know what you need to do.

[@lessernine13]

hey i don't mean to pry but have you talked to him about it and the fact that it bothers you? cuz that doesn't seem normal at all and tbh you deserve better :(

[@es-gm7dw]

@@alinamichelle2531 what exactly do I need to do?

[@naffo1314]

@@es-gm7dw talk to him about this

[@girlie7502]

I’m sorry but this is not normal. You should talk to him about this. There are plenty of men who don’t do this.

[@cinnabunsy]

I grew up in the 90s and precisely because of what you discuss here, I refuse to have a TikTok and/or Instagram account. I noticed how awful I felt every time I would get on to see the things I like and enjoy because every time I got on, the suggestions were all impossibly gorgeous people looking perfect when I look like hot garbage on a scorcher of a day. Even watching you sometimes I feel like wow she is so pretty. I wish I didn’t look how I do. But as you said, we’re part of a more visual world now and I am glad I didn’t have to grow up these days. My heart is with all the beautiful young girls (and guys) whose confidence suffers because of this false perfection thrusted into their faces by apps like IG and TikTok. 💗✨

[@gia-abcd]

I found your channel not long ago and you have quickly become one of my favourite youtubers. I love how your channel discusses real issues that people can relate to, proving people with a sense of reassurance. I appreciate you

[@koredeayoka]

You hit the nail on the head with this topic! Last year during lockdown I spent a considerable amount of time on TikTok and only came to realize several months later how severely demolished my self-esteem was and how obsessed I was with external beauty and attaining validation from others. That was the moment I decided to get off of the app. Getting off TikTok was one of the best decisions I've made and my self-confidence is 10x what it was before and I feel very secure in myself. When my friends send me tik toks, I watch them but after that, I get off the app. It's so important to not base your self-worth on external validation or comparison. Wishing everyone struggling with this love and peace

[@absolutelynotellen]

Tiktok and Instagram really do filled with people with pretty face and slim thick bodies everywhere ngl it's just making me hating myself even more

[@proximacentauri3627]

The destructive capacity for envy is terrifying too. Gulag Archipelago by Alexander Solzhenitsyn is a great and dark book that shows a society tearing itself apart because of ideologically 'justified' envy. It's a stronger force than we like to admit and I can imagine how much these kids are torturing themselves. Much like David Goggin's story the best solution to extreme suffering is personal character development. Thanks for being so informative and honest, Kianna. That part about crushes took guts! Respect.

[@ingridm4910]

I think you make a good point at the end. While I do believe beauty privilege absolutely exists I think it’s getting a little over exaggerated how important it is. The people I know in real life who I would say are 10/10 are by far my most insecure friends who constantly stress about their appearance and blow all their money to maintain the perfect image on social media. If i didn’t know them in real life I may also be fooled by the life they portray online but seeing what’s behind the curtain, I kind of feel sad for them. Being ugly kind of just allows me to life my life and be present

[@laurahoffman4388]

I'm so glad I've never jumped on the tiktok bandwagon. My peers, young women, are stuck in this constant loop of binge-watching and self-loathing. They are all absolutely gorgeous, radiant smiles, soft hair, REAL, vibrant personalities. Yet pretty much once a day I can hear them talk about their "glow up bucket lists". I've never heard the names of some procedures, and trust me I'd been irrationally obsessed with looks for almost a decade. They're willing to spend literal hundreds to distort their facial proportions. For what? To emulate some of that tiktok bubble? I don't seem to be capable of talking them out of it. It will be their choice, sure. It will also be their regret and a waste of money. Kinda scary to think 20-something women wouldn't know better. Thank you for covering this topic. Your social narrative is easy on the ear and informative.

[@captsamsung]

Part of the problem back when we were preteens in the early 2000s (im assuming you and I are around the same age) is that alot of those teen movies in the early 2000s (not all of them of course) is that they cast actors who were already in their mid to late 20s (fun fact Gabriel Union was pushing her 30s when she did the original Bring It On). So by that point thier bodies had finished growing and developed. And I think thats where we had the body image and eating issues came from. And now thats amplified thanks to social media. Im glad that im not on tic tok.

[@yasminemobley7858]

The most beautiful thing one can do is hype each other up. My friends and I do that all the time, and it's the most wholesome and healthy friendship I've ever had. Sometimes it helps when you surround yourself with healthy mannered people.

[@airtafae4718]

i remember how confused my classmates were when they realised i dont use social media like i just broke an unspoken rule.

[@AM-gw6nz]

You really hit me when you said some people don't feel like they can participate because they are not the ideal look. I have an IG, never felt like tiktok had what I was looking for. But I haven't posted a single image of myself since 2018, why? because I gained 50 pounds and don't feel like I want to mess up my profile with photos of my heavier body. I still use the app, but only to keep up with the latest memes/things. Guess I'm trying to say that you made me face something I've been avoiding, and I thank you for talking about this topic. New sub.

[@magicman205]

I had to delete Tik Tok, not because of the beauty algorithm (I have high confidence in how I look,) but because i would find myself scrolling mindlessly for hours and hours and hours on it. So much so that I found myself becoming almost reliant on it when I needed stimulation. The app is designed to be addictive and knowing that there are so many innocent souls out there addicted while simultaneously comparing themselves to models and hating themselves for it is heartbreaking.

[@gibbygibbygibby7237]

i did the same, and now i do it on youtube 😂😅 i gotta limit all this social media haha

[@laurenw3300]

I’ve avoided TikTok like the plague from the very beginning, and keep finding reasons to continue staying away. Glad you’re bringing this topic to light!

[@ambassadorvarg2167]

Also keep in mind that many of these users are using filters on their videos. There are filters out there that can be used in a moving video. From smoothing the skin, narrowing the waist, enlarging breasts and butts to slimming thighs. So please remember that the likelihood that these users actually like that are low. Watch James Welsh and Stephanie Langes videos discussing the use of such filters etc. It is eye opening.

[@cv.robert3097]

I recently started a diet and one day I was scrolling through Instagram just going through my feed. I only follow my personal interests and hobbies (crochet,art,animals,etc) but I was bored of seeing that stuff, so I decided to see the more social side of things. After going through some influencers posts and checking out some of my more attractive friend's stuff, I immediately felt horrible. So much pressure to lose weight and exercise and do this and that manifested so quickly out of thin air that I quickly realized, holy shit this is not good for me. I never realized before but seeing that kind of media immediately triggered me to think all of this crazy, unhealthy nonsense that lowered my self esteem and made feel terrible. My jealousy skyrocketed. Additionally it made me want to go out and eat because I felt like a failure that could never look like that so why try. I never realized the power of social media, but after it induced such a shocking reaction within myself, I now know to be much more mindful with the type of content I expose myself to. Those type of emotions only hold me back and they really are detrimental to my weight-loss journey and my own well-being. Your video is so eye-opening, I appreciate this channel very much

[@jomjom230]

I'm glad that I grew up too depressed by my studies to care about beauty standards

[@gklb_2xx7]

Me too. I take back all of the things I said about studies

[@qweqweqwadcsc]

The lesser of two evils Good job

[@daniellelearnsstuff]

This video was a relief to watch. I feel like I can drop my bags at this channel.

[@channel69gorlworldnews66]

This is the exact reason I DON’T have TikTok, especially recovering from an ED That’s one promise I made to myself. Never get tiktok

[@jackedmac]

My socials have been deactivated for about 2 months now and all I can say is that it improved my quality of life and focus towards my goals. As a young aspiring bodybuilder, constantly seeing guys who are bigger than me in social media gave me a fair share of dysmorphia. Getting rid/limiting social media is like getting rid of the unnecessary noise that distracts you from appreciating and focusing on your OWN PERSONAL PROGRESS. The key takeaway is to just stop comparing yourself to others. Trust me that you won't miss out on anything if you limit your social media.

[@MissCarlyJoy]

I’m 28 and so glad I was barely ahead of this stuff. I’m genuinely concerned for the kids.

[@farhanfatoni698]

Thank you for bringing this up. Even if we decided to not install TikTok at all, almost all social media now are flooded by TikTok content reuploaded there. On a good day i might enjoy these videos and even learn from them. But this doesn't happen everyday and sometimes it fuels the inadequate feelings that happened at the moment.

[@vrianawashington2599]

I see a lot of people commenting that attractive people are treated better by society, which therefore makes their life better. I disagree with that statement for a few reasons. Look at the people you really love or care about in your life and really try to scrutinize their appearance. For me that is very difficult because when I see someone I love, I don't see their physical appearance, I see a beautiful person I love and care about. That's why if you are surrounded by people you love, you won't be impacted by societal beauty standards. When it comes to getting an interview for a job, the employer only has your qualifications to go off of. Looks can probably get you the job over other people, but you will keep the job based on attitude and merit. I've also seen unconventionally attractive people become popular based on their personality and how they carry themselves versus their looks. It also depends on race, class, and personality how the world perceives you. It's pessimistic to see that everyone is shallow when most of the world probably operates like you do.

[@AshiKitsune]

I always found Tik Tok weird because of the controversies in the app as a teen, everyone I knew had it but I didn't want to bother after hearing bad things about Tik Tok. So hearing this makes me feel better knowing I didn't bother downloading the app so I could get in with the friend group I was in. Heck, I even didn't think that Tik Tok itself would think that way.

[@PeindaNiang]

We’re blessed by so much content from you recently. Thank you !

[@andyroosky]

All of this is 100% why I got off of Instagram when I was younger (couple other reasons too that are related to this but are different). I realized how it was impacting me. It was so much better without it, it wasn’t even hard to give up. I have no social media at all anymore and it was the best move ever.