Mjolo - Different stages explained, Author - Mpiyakhe Mavimbela

[@lindokuhlemtyoki1226]

Our Landlord is so diverse, very informative conversations Sir.

[@Superiorlogic777]

We need him back. We need such Convos. Black families are breaking daily because of avoidable things.

[@lebogangsebothe2759]

Ntate Mashabela, am a young adult but trust me when I say I relate with the content you serve and I grow with every conversation, and I'll forever be greatful. I wish my peers would consume this podcast and trust me we would be a better generation.

[@sanelentshingila231]

True that if young adults of today consumed this content i would be optimistic about our future. I'm also a young adult, in my early 20s , I'm glad i was born like this unlike my peers who wouldn't even sacrifice 2hrs of their time for knowledge. Much appreciated Ntate Mashabela 🙏🏿

[@lebogangsebothe2759]

@@sanelentshingila231 Sanele my brother, this channel serves more wisdom more than knowledge because many of us might be knowledgeable but lack the wisdom of knowing which knowledge is relevant for their lives and which must be applied.

[@road2millionsubspodcastand738]

I'm also 21 but am a fan of Dav's conversations. And if you want to get profound knowledge always go for interviews of people who are not even famous 🙌🏾😊

[@sandilentimane4740]

I'm also a student of this master classes offered by Mashabela

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

I like the way this gentleman address you "Mr Mashabela" this kind of mutual respect is what I gravitate too🙏🏾❤

[@sinesiphoxalipi4898]

Loved this video so much. Very Informative. I wish it had a different title coz this one throws you off immediately and you become hesitant to watch. Maybe naming it "The different stages in a relationship/marriage" would have been better. loved it though.

[@campingwithtshidiso]

Im loving this conversations gents... my first marriage ended at stage 2, my current marriage stated at stage 2. We are living happily ever after.

[@Thabisotalks]

00:00 - intro 4:24 - how decayed relationship affect society 7:57 - stages of a relationship 10:39 - differences between ukuweshela and casual dating 14:36 - Importance of intention in a relationship 16:52 - stage 2 in dating 20:22 - no perfect relationship 23:09 - disagreements in a relationship 25:41 stage 3

[@michellemoreana1938]

As someone recovering from the disappointment of being cheated on I will respectfully pass on this episode 💔

[@sekhitlamakole]

I'm sorry for that and I think when you are feeling better just watch the episode maybe you will learn something

[@michellemoreana1938]

@@sekhitlamakole thank you ❤️

[@hlasinyanemotaung660]

Bathong, I just open my KZbin and King David on this topic and while listening I read some comments and this one makes me write and I am still listening to the podcast.

[@busidlamini5038]

I wish you healing and strength may you find peace and your match made in heaven ♥️

[@minkz002]

@@sekhitlamakoleopen i

[@malungisamaseko3155]

Mr Mavimbela sounds so wise. We need men like you Sir in our society. Thank you David for these conversations. We are growing. 🙏🙏🙏

[@nkosinathimasina608]

He is wise, I use to work with him...

[@tshwanelommutlana2465]

This session is full of wisdom and yet delivered perfectly. It unmuddied navigating this thing called relationships.

[@ditopanchachi4876]

He looks like Steve "Jola' Komphela and the pearls of wisdom that he is throwing are same as his lookalike.

[@sanelentshingila231]

True dat

[@voslosveryown]

May we unshackle ourselves from “white weddings “ Bathandekayo 🙏🏾

[@mokgadiono7531]

I have found my new Fave Podcast . Keep it up Mr Mashabela for the informative platform.

[@kingdavidstudio1]

Thank you! Will do!

[@sindi245]

M glad we are slowly getting there. Shifting away from eurocentric ideas. We hv been told many lies.....colonization messed us up. Thanks for the Education....Bakwantu go back to your roots.

[@VeryBerry481]

My cousins and her younger sister are a result of her father cheating on his wife with her mother. The father has children with his wife both older and younder than my cousins, and there is absolutely no relationship between the children (my cousins and their father's children in the marriage). There's a poor efforts of relation between the father and his daughters (my cousins). It's really a sad situation and wish people can realize the all-round hurt that comes with consequences of cheating.

[@busidlamini5038]

I'm going through a challenge in my relationship where he claimed to be a victim when we met. Now me being a warm, honest, supportive person I made him feel good about himself and now his thinking he has arrived cause that's the power I have I am able to make you feel important and worthy someone forgets that we are leaving on earth. This is made worse because he just received sweet money and this is blinding him, the rest is unfolding cause his still feeling himself and I'm hurting by his conduct which his not intrested to see. I love him, however I know it won't be sweet for him anymore once I decide not to participate in his madness, mind you his 14yrs older when he wakes up it will be too late.

[@siphosethu222]

Thoroughly enjoyed this interview 🥺🥺❤️… Owh I love Mr Mashabela he understands the assignment… this was really amazing I don’t have to words ❤️❤️

[@faithmokubung7741]

I have learnt a lot from this Podcast, keep it up Mr Mashabela🎉

[@dontseki6730]

Taking notes because love is a sport,a career,a hobby,an art,it is virtue and mostly it is a "quality" based on the quality of your being.

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

Very essential conversation! Glad you touch on families and their role in marriage. It is unfortunate that the same families who are supposed to build become the master destructors! I implore men and women who intend to marry to be enlightened about the role their own family members can potentially play in the demise of their nucleus family; to be empowered to approach the various scenarios; and maintain a united front against that evil spirit. It's critical for the survival of marriages otherwise it's perpetual suffering for one or both parties. We need wholesome marriages; these holes must be closed not to interfere with your vision as a family. The envy, jealousy, malice and hatred is real!

[@mangoakovukeya9690]

Very true. Profound

[@ntaolengmalise]

I love listening tp conversations on relationships (of any kind), because I believe that life happens in the context of community; and as a human who desires to get married one day, I especially appreciate hearing different perspectives on marriage, so I found this Ep to be particularly interesting. I do however feel like Mister Mavimbela didn't quite get into the reason why men (or women for that matter) cheat, unless that flew over my head (will re-watch). I'm gonna conclude that there really isn't a valid reason for cheating (in my opinion). This was quite informative. Realtionships/Marriage is hard work. Over and above the things that were discussed here, I think discernment is so pivotal in finding the right mate, and building that solid foundation spoken of in the episode.

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

Im growing so much in my thinking and reasoning from these conversations bhuti Mashabela🙏🏾❤ we so brainwashed by the western ideologies

[@meluxolomaxheke1530]

I'm here im watching.... I'm always here 😅 My Alerts are always ready

[@lekis5975]

This podcast is fire!!

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

Beautiful! Thank you for the deconstruction to construction.

[@JustFrago]

Another great interview with soo much to learn. I need to get myself the book. The video title is soo misleading though...

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

The title is clickbait. To attract more viewers. Marketing.

[@busisiweyiliwe]

Thank you for an informative session

[@Sumeya.]

A Very interesting and important chat

[@sinethembagwebu1244]

What a beautiful conversation

[@Humble_Beginnings_SA]

Bra Dave the coolest LANDLORD

[@bonim3051]

Nami Im there too , ukweshelwa is necessary ukufunda umuntu. I understand that a person can hide things however during ukweshelwa kukhona okuvelayo . It may be an old school concept hoaever iyasiza.

[@NathiBlessMyeni3327]

Inkinga ekhona kulesikhathi esiphila kusona akusashelwa kepha into ekhona neyenzekayo nehamba Phambili ibhange

[@bonim3051]

@@NathiBlessMyeni3327 and that end in tears

[@mthobisi6624]

Inkinga yesikhathi Esiphila kuso ngathi asinanhloso sifuna ukuphili okwenziwa kumafilimu sizama yonke into asinazinzo if we can go back to our roots our being, family and society will forever be organized

[@lebohangfakude7391]

The "red flags" are always there but we choose not to take notice of them. Listen to what people say or what they do... the clues are always there!

[@paballobutelezi5532]

Those couples "When did you buy this? ...mhmmm that day when ... " and is hubby and I 😂😂😂 Very interesting info on the book, it's a must buy

[@davidsindana282]

Let us not forget everyone has his or her individual traits personally I have read sociobiology and discovered humans have their unique biopsychosocial I mean some may be prone by their biology to be sexual addicts and of course also being magnified by their environment I mean things like culture of hip hop r&b or music that promote promiscuity

[@lindafebana7494]

Aaww man, I thoroughly enjoyed this! Thank you for such an educational, insightful and for me personally, inspiring conversation🙌🏽 One that should certainly carry on.

[@kingdavidstudio1]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you

[@nyeletishibambo362]

Great interview. Enjoyed it so much. Please also consider inviting Musa Mseleku.

[@sabelondlovu6901]

Sicela abuye ubab’Mavimbela ake agqugquzele izwi lokwakha ebudlelwaneni(building a foundation)

[@mphoneluvhola3059]

Another Great episode Empowering

[@thamsanqamashaba4515]

Where can I buy the book

[@musiqcircles3707]

i needed to hear this ,umjolo ukho nnyisa 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sbonzama7013]

The Polo is always catching stray bullets 😂

[@thabomosima715]

Mr Mashabela, I listen to your podcasts, they are quire informative I must say. The conversation held here is a summary of a book, same with the likes of Kelebogile and the ex cop. I think it is about time that when you interview a person about their book like you have done with Mpiyakhe Mavimbela, at least drop us a link in the description as to how we can get the books. With Kelebogile, I looked for her book on takealot, and it was because of the interview you had with her that I knew about the book, on her website, I really struggled getting the book to a point that I gave up. Same with Mpiyakhe, I am rushing on takealot to get the book, but I cannot find it. Meaning I cannot continue this conversation by way of his book. Please do insert the link to either their website or any platform available for us to order the books. It is merely a suggestion Ntate.

[@palesasmouse1669]

I enjoyed this!

[@bonim3051]

Stage 5 sometimes refered to Senghlalalele izingane syndrome.......which dont help and causes harm to those kids

[@gata7324]

Aiiii these cellphones are going to be the end of us. A stupid text can stir up a whirlwind in your life that'll live you deep in stage 4!!!...talking from experience.

[@ExploreLifeWithVee-eo4mp]

Agree we lost copying other cultures white dress why not umbhaco when getting married.

[@masegom4205]

i did not expect this subject matter to be discussed here, 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@lebogangsebothe2759]

That's Mdeva for you😩, a genius of note and knows exactly how to capture all of his audience through different topics they can relate to

[@sanelentshingila231]

That's me 😂😂😂🤣

[@bigthangz5489]

the thing is people are liars. ppl hv become extremely dishonest

[@moe_ramz]

This!!!!

[@kaizerpursuits7086]

Once heard a colleague whos is married in customary marriage now he's saying "Badimo ba mo file date for a White wedding" and if ever he does not do that within the date, som goetes di tlo fasa. 😅 Kanjani kodwa madlozi?! 😅

[@preciousmolepo434]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@modileshikoane8174]

he could be telling the absolute truth, depending on the significance of the marriage in the ancestral realm, continued delays can make them stagnant or even escalate to abuse and weird behavioural patterns... it's very real, but depends on ur family roots and other spiritual factors.. Not all people have these issues though, abanye just Sail through with no issues, there's no urgency or any deeper spiritual significance to ther unions...

[@kaizerpursuits7086]

@@modileshikoane8174 Nna I only had customary as for roko e mhlophe, re tla e bona ka 10 year anniversary. 😄

[@MbusoMaphumulo-t9m]

This person is probably telling the truth. Remember that these things are also discussed during lobola negotiations, so if the white wedding was agreed to in the agreement, it has to be honoured because we know amadlozi are there during the negotiations. So yes it happens but is not applicable to everyone.

[@mdzdigitalspace_]

Where do we get the book though? I haven’t seen any response that helps out with that question yet 🙆🏾‍♂️

[@bonim3051]

Ahhh Mdavu after Denzel , Idris is !😂

[@bongekamchunu9702]

Where or how can we buy the book?.

[@CaramelSwirl_012]

Bra Dave, when we are courting(ukushela) we use the time “transfer/recruitment budget”, Soo there always seems to be a mix up when the recruitment budget is thought to be the season budget.

[@bonganidlamini4523]

The guy's name is Lutendo Matinyatare

[@Mahlanzaa2108]

This is not rutendo 😂

[@linnangu]

Mavimbela wants to talk inside the mike... ok..

[@matsekoluhlanga5637]

Watching and learning

[@bethhlongwane1808]

I'm enjoying this 😊😊 alot

[@amandavantso9021]

My long lost brother...Charles Mavimbela

[@Lirrah_Lee]

How do we purchase the book ?

[@KalepeMoekwa]

Where can the copy of the book be found?

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

I think, you have to have a certain level of intelligence and maturity to understand this.

[@mpololuthando5416]

Tried looking for the book, where is it available?

[@vusimavuso646]

Siyithola kuphi incwadi Mnumzane

[@siphokazimayalo285]

Hey I am hoping that when I finish listening i will get that info otherwise I am going to have to DM the gentleman because hay shame i need a copy asap

[@onkabetsedisemelo6566]

where can one get the book 😢

[@jamesmodisha4573]

Where can we get the book?

[@sanelentshingila231]

One guy once said us humans are like lobsters cause with lobsters the male ones would always want to fight and the female ones would stand and watch but in the end they end up mating with a male lobster that wins whenever there are fights it's because female lobsters they are naturally built to like make lobsters that always do better and win. Same with us humans if you are of got a better status as man yu in better position of getting the hottest girls cause the eying for yu. Female want to play for the winning team, yu can't blame them for that though

[@gugulethu4155]

Enteresting comment...

[@ofentsegregorykgope8434]

This is very informative🎉

[@Sbabalwe1234]

Tight interview informing im 22 But i can fucken relate

[@Matla_a_Noko]

Thobelang. Can I get the name of the book please? Im struggling to follow what the 7 stages are because they're not named. 😔

[@Kaola730]

I am almost done watching the vodcast and I don't know what the title of the book is they are discussing. Can someone please comment with title below. Thank you

[@g4tlan]

Why do men cheat?

[@sandilentimane4740]

Thanks

[@nokuthulamakgotsodlamini2183]

"Idris Elba, the sexiest man alive" guess I'm the only woman who doesn't find that dude attractive

[@buyisiwetshabalala7261]

Me too💀

[@gugulethu4155]

Lol...there is probably another famous male u "crushing" on...have female friends who will be going to a Burna boy show this coming September just cause he is sexy🥱

[@nokuthulamakgotsodlamini2183]

@@gugulethu4155 I know about that burna name but I've never seen him

[@nokuthulamakgotsodlamini2183]

@@buyisiwetshabalala7261 bazosibulala abantu bakhe😂

[@bonganidlamini4523]

Hi David can you please invite Joshua Maponga or Lutendo(i forget his surname) but he is from Zimbabwe

[@SmartFocusprime]

Those two just talk talk nothing

[@hlonni_chelsea6711]

Are you sure you want Maponga on that chair?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Sure Sure Sure ?? Actually this is the platform he belongs to. One thing about Maponga J is that he is not autonomous, he is gonna spend 3hours saying stuff you've never him say on any of the podcasts he's been to. He is that good, and he is the master of listening, he listens to understand, not to respond.

[@sanelentshingila231]

aii kabi but we don't need a Joshua Maponga on this platform.

[@ngingunaBhuda]

Nor lutendo

[@thaborebang2663]

That's Rutendo Matinyerere

[@Mashwabade917]

Uya zhkekela u bhuti shame😊

[@Mbalings]

Is Mashabela married? 🥹 asking for myself

[@road2millionsubspodcastand738]

As far as I know, No 😂