EP 27| Tiyiselani wanting closure after being rescued by social workers from his abusive stepmother

[@NLMBLOG]

What a conversation. Tiyi I challenge you to start a podcast and create a space for men to vent especially that you have the skills based on your profession. Please do so.....love this episode ❤

[@mapulamodiba6777]

I support you. He has a lot to offer

[@johnsonsebabi6372]

I am separated from the mother of my kids and I don't want to get married until they are over 18 so that they fight for themselves. I rather have someone looking after them than bringing a step mom to my kids. I will never bring a woman at home without my kids consent

[@pastorpauletteo7474]

My Dad did the same with us my brother.I’m the youngest of 3 girls & he elected never to remarry after he seperated from my mom. We grew feeling loved.He dated but refused to remarry.I respect my Dad for not putting us through hell at the hands of another woman.

[@lleberaikane2062]

I also put my life on hold until my son was well educated and an adult,for me to think about myself.Parents need to know that changing partners and exposing your children to those partners is traumatizing to the children,in spite their age.When u decide when your children are still young,u need to marry for your children and not for yourself,someone who will accept and love them as their own.

[@johnsonsebabi6372]

Best decision there brother ​@@lleberaikane2062

[@johnsonsebabi6372]

​@@pastorpauletteo7474he knew what was best for you guys. We must use our brains to think not our sexual feelings ahead of our children

[@nthabisengmochochoko]

This was so beautiful to read, a dad that loves his kids with all his heart. ❤

[@elsiemaluleke2479]

Madam speaker your wisdom is just from Lord. It's a calling indeed

[@HlakoDitshego]

His name being tiyiselani also speaks volumes on how God wanted him to deal with people who are in pain and teach him endurance. I'm here crying because of his story 😢

[@kgalalelolediga]

There's something so healing about this interview. I appreciate how no one is pitting men and women against each other but acknowledging that both need healing. 'A healed woman and a healed man equals a healed nation.' This is such a powerful statement. A healed society begins with healthy households. Thank you Tiyiselani for coming out and sharing your story. You have such a calm, healing aura about you. Madam Speaker, you are looking beautiful! Thank you for this interview.

[@thenjiwekhaba8752]

Indeed, Tiyi has a calm, healing aura about him. Don't cry wena boy, God has a purpose about your life, and we are witnessing that purpose through your work. Madam Speaker, our dark beauty. This face beat enhances your beauty. Do it more often.

[@MapulaRamokgopa]

Love how it turned into a Therapy session, a sermon and a whole lot of learnings. Great Job Madam.😍

[@Lebo-Aaliyah]

I Respect And Appreciate Tiyiselani’s Openness, Self-Awareness And Vulnerability.

[@jacquelinehabana2387]

🎉Tiyiselani may the Lord heal and restore you. You are such a beautiful human being.

[@DollyOliphant]

I pray that Tiyi gets closure before he gets married.

[@noncebazulu7195]

This gentleman is so gentle and what I love about him he knows God more than anything. He is too kind, you can not tell that he went through hell and back. May God protect and may everything you touch turn into gold.❤ ❤ To you madam speaker ❤ you always give us what we really need for the day. May God continue use you as he like, because wow.

[@noncebazulu7195]

For me I can not relate with abusive stepmother but I have a stepmother, that women is my mother, she is mothering me the way I need to be motherd. What I mean is there are good people out there and it doesn't matter whether you are a mother or not just be kind

[@KhalirendweKhorommbi]

Mara this is a sermon on its own!!!! m in tears because wow!!!!❤❤❤❤❤

[@ms.kayzondwa3176]

Thank you Madam for that insight...so many people are walking around with wounds that do not heal bcoz they waiting for sorry and explanations they will never receive. Thanks sisi. ❤

[@nozizwerugongo5263]

Mam speaker this has really healed me and i understand issue of forgiveness inshumayelo ivakele yangena kimi ive been healed may Almighty greatly bless and give u life for me i need someone likre u let God use u dear

[@AngelaBokaba-pb3mw]

Wow Madam Speaker, so profound. She was the catalyst that drove Tiyiselani life, to where it is today. There's a purpose for everything that happens in my life

[@madams___speaker]

Absolutely 💯

[@noluthandomkhize6542]

This episode has healed me in a way I didn’t even know I needed!! Thank you Madam for those profound words.. I felt my childhood traumas fade away, because honestly, it’s very rare that you will get a sorry or explanation from those that hurt you as a child 🙏

[@madams___speaker]

You’re most welcome 🙏🏿 ❤️

[@MatodziMash]

May the Almighty God continue to bless you more and more Tiyiselani, I was touched😢

[@growinmathschannel8575]

I am here hoping you ask him how is the little sister coping as well 😢

[@mamphetelisekantsi7926]

I love this young man to bits ❤️

[@PriscaChauke]

Madam speaker, you speak Tsonga so well I love it

[@nomsatorcida9612]

Wow madam speaker that was a deep way of looking at people who have hurt us. I am also adopting it into my life. I struggle a lot with unforgiveness and holding grudges and you have just provided an alternative way of looking at things. Thank you for sharing this 🙏.

[@mutyaamalenge1769]

Wow, madam speaker😮 you left me in awe. Shuuu, you have so much wisdom and knowledge. May God bless you. You change my whole perspective of dealing with pain or hurt.

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much 🙏🏿❤️

[@matswatswenoseyMatlala]

The beauty of ur words has my heart warm. Thank you for being the beautiful person you are, God continue to bless u n build u to greater heights

[@mahlodinorah487]

It had to happen for the boys that he is mentoring today.. Our lives are not actually our own but fr other people n more especially fr their benefit not us. Thanks madam speaker, thank you very much. Some things we go through bcos they are God's Training College

[@SeabiTshabalala]

For me it's he says "no one told me what was going on I didn't know where my Mom was, I had to figure it out by myself"😭😭😭😭😭 parents pls let's do better!

[@madams___speaker]

We definitely need to do better 🥺🥺🥺

[@sharonshiba8460]

This statement brought tears to my eyes 😢

[@dorahmokete218]

As long as I'm alive I'll be a present mom to my kids 🙏no matter what happens

[@nonzwakazithrusmamodise3795]

Meaning childhood trauma

[@MmathapeloKatake]

Oh wow..what a powerful,inspirational conversation this was!❤

[@melaniemahalie]

Yoh madam speaker. This is evidence that you've healed. Forgiveness looks so good on you. Wow truly inspirational 🤗

[@spm9130]

Oh what a painful story, but I love his happy ending! God doesn’t waste any of our experiences at all, He has a purpose for everything that happens to and for us! Keep shining Tiyiselani, your name is a testament to your resilience and strength my son! I pray that the Lord blesses you with a beautiful woman with a good heart and a good head above her shoulders, someone who will connect with God for you, a real helper 🧑‍🍼 indeed❤❤❤

[@mmaphakamanamela5942]

Woow, Madam Speaker. I am encouraged by your forgiveness version. Thank you Sesi

[@GeminiJune0608]

God is good🙏...u turned out to be such a humble person❤️

[@LethoHali]

This has to be my favourite episode on this channel

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you 🙏🏿 ❤️

[@GiftHlatshwayo-jb4cp]

Same here. I am saving it, as a reminder of all the wisdom that were shared here. Ro livhuwa

[@JosephMosue]

Madam, Im available to work with Tiyi to get the young boys' to talk about their challenges. Specifically for boys not girls please. ❤❤❤

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much my brother 🙏🏿❤️. How do we get in touch with you?

[@bongiwelanga1706]

I love what you said about not focusing on the culprit that was used to get you to your purpose but rather, focus on the purpose and living well within it! Wow ❤

[@GracePat-g7w]

My brother we went through the same with my lil sister while my dad was in the military 😢😢😢😢😢and she instilled that fear in us that we couldn't even tell our dad when he was back from work 😢😢😢😢it was so bad to a point were one day my school transport left me so i went back to tell her only for her to tell me to walk from protea Glen ext 11 to Flamingo primary school(Lenasia) and by that time I was only in grade 04 and I arrived at school break time😢😢😢

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

Ooh strength and grace to you dear 😘

[@NokulungaPhidane]

Oh my God, where are you now? Are you now in the safe space.

[@malindimahlangu744]

Yhoo 😢

[@Jcel4786]

Madam speaker thanks sis , ur insight was very powerful. ❤ Young man I pray for your healing❤

[@DzunyB]

I'm so glad madam speaker took it there with the point of finding closure. Sometimes confrontations don't give you answers you want to hear and leave you more hurt than healed. Sometimes we have to accept apologies we never received. He needs to heal for himself and don't give her the privilege of enslaving him forever. They might meet and she might not see anything wrong with the way she treated them. I wish him healing , complete healing. For himself ❤

[@MaitisaManoko]

Strong, Very humble Tiyiselani❤.God never leaves nor forsake you.

[@nthabisengnkabinde2518]

Thank you Madam Speaker. You are created for times like this. God bless you with more wisdom. ❤

[@madams___speaker]

Amen 🙏🏿! Thank you so much

[@bokamosomcephe2965]

Madam Speaker thank you for this view. Now that you say it I'm like I've been focusing on the people who inflicted the pain and the pain and not the purpose of it ❤❤❤. This episode blessed me so much ❤ Thank you again.

[@OnkeMasika]

Yhoo Sisi enkosi thank you yhoo the angle you are putting to this guy I can't stop crying because this is very helping me to heal on what my biological father going through now and even can't even hoping to see him again and I'm taking this with me dear thank you very much 😭😭😭😭

[@pulengphatedi8153]

I hope he does a podcast where he can just interview men.. 🙏🙏❤

[@NgwanamogaleRamadi-d6y]

Such a calm man. May God continue to strengthen you Tiyi🙏🙏

[@madams___speaker]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@khethiwemethula4977]

Oooh Lord it's unfortunate that they had to go through so much as children 💔. But I love love how both of you poured into each other from 28:08 on ward, a lot of learning there 🤌🏾. My take away, acknowledge the event, heal and love from a distance to a point that "when I see you, I see a typical image of God" Thank you ❤

[@madams___speaker]

Thank you so much!🙏🏿

[@constancefaithful1451]

Woooow madam speaker,your version of forgiveness is top notch, iam gonna apply it in my life

[@thembinkosimsaule7443]

Thank you so much Madam Speaker for allowing the Holly spirit to abide in you for His glory.Keep on planting the seed ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@karaboramatsetse7002]

Powerful statements madam speaker. I'm definitely going to use those in my life. I have a lot of healing to go through. Thank God for you and Tiyi. You've really given me therapy for the rest of my life. I can't thank you enough.

[@robbylebotha]

Name and shame the step mother, plus the people watching will help find her and maybe find her other victims then they can share their stories.

[@mythoughts9245]

This is the reason why i dnt trust anyone wt my kids. Not even baby daddy bcz i dont know how the ppl who live wt him wl treat my kids, ppl who live around him in the society, the environment,or if his lifestyle choices wl benefit my kids

[@mulangakhaarendwe5202]

Surely there's no testimony without a test.

[@madams___speaker]

Absolutely 💯

[@sharoonlungilehlatshwayo9598]

Thank you for choosing to be vulnerable and help us grow so much... man are broken and I feel no safe space is made for them to be vulnerable... Great job there, yoooooo but you got me crying bhuti weeeee

[@phindiswagxasheka3856]

So powerful madam speaker

[@bernie96316]

I relate to you saying that you cut people off. I cut ties with people who hurt me deeply that did not even apologize. I built a life outside of them, I do feel I healed a lot. Today they want to come back into my life and I don't want them in it but I am being told I am proud, bitter and unforgiving

[@spm9130]

You are not bitter, proud and unforgiving, but you are protecting yourself by creating boundaries. Let them talk, forgive them and continue to be great and grateful 🙏🏾 ❤❤❤

[@florencemnisi8760]

Joo wena mosadi, you have this softness in you, or is it anointing auwa mara gona le something hle awuna msindo man there is something very special. you are so cam and welcoming.

[@musie_mt867]

Woooooow🙌 what a beautiful episode. I love this conversation. God bless both of you, God bless this platform and God bless us the audience with prosperity & wisdom to comprehend the information shared here and going forth ❤️.

[@MphoNetshimbupfe]

Madam speaker ,indeed you are so right,in order to rich our purpose or destination we need the Faro,the Peninans in our life's, The step mother was just used as a vessel to lead my brother to where God wants him to be ..Very powerful and encouraging

[@mashrohingya9397]

What do you mean? So children should be abused in order to know God. This is the most ridiculous, stupid reasoning I have ever come across

[@khetimthembu8465]

@@mashrohingya9397i also hate this reasoning🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@growinmathschannel8575]

Treating people like they no longer exists is my coping mechanism from any hardship I experience

[@GoogoolMe]

Me as well and it's sad because it's not healthy 😔 🙃 😕

[@TintswaloMabaso-l2e]

i really don't understand why as a woman you would love a man but hate his seed. that's so wicked. this thing brings curses to the beloved children who didn't ask their mom to treat you badly. most of their kids are not even successful because of their wickedness. also as a man why would you take kids from their mom that's wicket let the kids be raised by their mom and when they grow up they can choose who they want to sty with. i have a friend who went though this, her brother even got molested in the process, she was almost raped a lot of times thank God she was not raped. ladies please let us repent from such acts. if u can't love his kids or be nice to them make sue they go to someone who will take better care of them this thing is killing families man.

[@mashrohingya9397]

The stepmother ill treated these kids in order for their biological mother to come and take them. She was evil 😈

[@mashrohingya9397]

What an articulate young man. God loves you and your siblings, he always protects children the way he knows how so great things awaits you and your siblings

[@pricakebaabetswe6500]

Yes, amen, truth, the purpose had to be fulfilled, that’s why some of us go through what we went thru……in order to become who we are now……..Madam speaker take your cake slice 🍰🍰🍰. That’s the truth.

[@tiyanishokane816]

Sometimes you don't need any apology from d ppl who did us wrong. For your peace of mind and sanity n Madam speaker's advice of killing ppl in your heart is great. Forgive for yourself.good luck T

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

Big ups bra Tiyi...this was brace and graceful of you yo share and well articulated. Psalm 119:71 says The suffering you sent me was good for me for it taught me yo pay attention to your ways! Im also not a fan of hardship 😊 i feel that God can still have me learn His ways without taking me through the toughest path, but heyii He is God and we are the clay in the poters hands, God always knows better. And you know it was God when you are sustained and preserved throughout the fire that you come out unburned, and no matter how long the hardships may last God will come through. Thanks Madam,keep up rhe good work!

[@hlamalanibaloyi6331]

Thank you so much , ifeel like i need a session with my son. He is okay but i fee like he needs to vent out the anger he had with his father/absent father

[@ntsakothandekanziana1976]

We try to numb the pain coz they’re not there anyway but the main question we ask ourselves is why can’t he be here… is it because he hates us? Is it because he doesn’t have money to raise us ? How come is he fine living his life not knowing how we’re doing… good luck

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

The only option is ur son getting answers from his absent father. Such a void can not be filled by you or any psychologist I was in.your sons shoes Until my mom passed n he didn't take me in after attending my mom's funeral When he passed 4years later I got my answer's just from seeing he was never broke and he adopted many kids and t

[@nozukojoseph2214]

​@@ntsakothandekanziana1976Sometimes I feel it is better for him to be "totally absent " than to be a poison (abuse etc) to his own kids.

[@TsholoMebalo-vh9lh]

I have a son with a guy from venda and I am always stressing because his dad is not interested being present and my son never met his father's family .. and now my son is growing and will ask questions about this dad and his family .. I dont know how to handle this situation

[@Thando_Khumalo]

My cousin went through abuse with the step mom and it really affected him for a long time and his relationship with his father was affected. Worse they were living with the father everyday so there's no way he did not see the abuse, he is doing better now. I am still mad at my uncle because as a parent he really failed my cousin. Tiyiselani said "He knows why it had to happen", no child should ever go through that. There's no reason that will ever make it acceptable

[@tinyikondlozi9787]

Such a horrible experience. Big up to Tiyiselani.

[@mahlakganedikeledi52]

Sesi😭😭😭😭you are chosen by God❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@patienceikombele9161]

No, Madam-speaker, you are too much today, Mommy. You preach 👏 I love everything thing about your advice in this episode.

[@PortiaGojela]

One thing about most of kids who’ve been mistreated or abused they make it in life , one would think tht she or he is abusing them ,little did they know tht they r building them for the better….i know from experience.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@aicodaweti8309]

💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 I never cry so hard

[@NomvulaIrene]

I pray that God heal Tiyiselani and his siblings physically, emotionally and spiritually

[@MargieMoyake]

I can't stop crying 😢😢😢

[@vonganirikhotso6503]

Yaa neeh life is spiritual,I cried to satisfy my anger ooh my Heaven have mercy on step moms

[@nokuthulazikalala6683]

I am so sad as a woman, that some women do such to small children. I kinda understand your pain Tiyi. Like you said, you played a role of big brother and protector to your little sisters. All of a sudden comes someone that will forcefully take that power from you as a "protector" that you saw yourself as. She than turns around and be cruel and abusive to your little sisters, at that point in time you cannot protect or save them, you powerlessly and painfully watched. You went through something really painful and I pray for your complete healing.

[@manareseakamela713]

Tiyiselani.. your situation was so painful... but lucky is your stepmom...in my case is my own biological mom...Where can i run to??..I even made peace with my situation but it hurts sometimes...

[@sheronsnethembancube2693]

What is wrong with us humans, why treat kids like this....evil

[@sibongilesibisi9440]

She really hated the kids Messiah, what kind of evil is this.

[@mphozi-grace9507]

Madam speaker you look stunning...I like the hair❤

[@BabalwaSkhweyiya]

I relate a lots to your story, it's so painful

[@silindilekhethelo4421]

From tiktok I have to hear this😢 i'm also a social worker by the way😊

[@lindiwerosemary9736]

Madam speaker your words are very wise I also understand that the person was sent to do what he/she did to me to pave my jearney, it's painful though😢 I do have a burying mind also

[@sisandangonyama4153]

Yho Madam Speaker, I'm speechless 😢

[@mulaloratshilindela5650]

Another day of chopping onions with strangers 😭😭😭😭

[@ThandekaSiluma-ff9zk]

❤❤❤❤I love this, two smart and calm people ❤❤

[@reese9143]

This episode is wholesome ❤

[@fruitypopwhickle6806]

Not everybody should be a parent. It's a calling...

[@makgotsonsibande5955]

Sometimes, when these abuser give you reasons why they did what they did. You will be shocked at how inadequate the answer will be. It's totally unsatisfying.😢

[@EleanorHozeh]

Warming up to get triggered let me get tea and tissue first hope there's a good ending need me some hope and breakthrough testimonials

[@victoriamaimela3264]

Tiyiselani and perseverance ❤

[@madams___speaker]

🙏🏿❤️

[@ireen7153]

Is his dad still with his step mom?

[@felig8991]

The way I relate to this story is painful. My father knew what was going on but he stood by his wife at our expense. I now have my own child I can honestly say that I don't understand how he could allow his own blood to be treated that way for years. Don't think I will ever understand.

[@thembileluthuli1154]

Please talk to your inner self about forgiving her for your sake and healing.Try to track her down so that she can answer your questions because she is the only one who can answer you ❤

[@LesegoAnely]

Not me watching this at work n Feeling like am in a therapy session 😊

[@patsyknleya]

Honestly wish i could forgive and be at peace with all that wronged me. Especially when you know they are alive . Worse your relatives where you bound to meet somehow

[@madams___speaker]

It’s so hard hey! But doable

[@patsyknleya]

@@madams___speaker honestly wish it was easy. Left Zimbabwe came to South africa and avoided people but it didn't work. Now in England and have to be close to someone I've managed to avoid for over 25 years. All the pain started off again

[@LethoHali]

48:22 goodness that’s my experience hahah. Started writing my book the day my husband left. My breaks are months apart lol. I feel like I am probably stronger now to get back to it. Scared to bcz I am always breaking down hahha.

[@spati0809]

Tiyiselani is such a poignant name. Sorry you had to go through that.

[@tshegofatsomachitela6344]

I hope his sisters are doing good as well.

[@jabuzulu6129]

This is so sad..my brother went through the most but he always says he forgives my father's first wife😢😢😢

[@LebogangManganyi]

Powerful podcast ❤❤

[@vanessakutima107]

Let us observe ourselves, His step mom used to force them to go to church yet she was a cruel woman 😭 . We are our own worst enemies, don't throw stones just always look inside and change what isn't right in you

[@mashrohingya9397]

I don’t agree with madam speaker and some people who seem to excuse evil behavior as a tool to turn children to God.

[@nozukojoseph2214]

I hope the stepmother gets help. There is something she is not facing. The anger she has is inappropriately directed to innocent kids

[@MpolokengTsingoane]

It's very interesting podcast, some Step mother are cruel, and they forgot that the children whom they abused are the one who become successful in life .God has a purpose for their lives as their his,her children too😂😂

[@irenemayiyasi7300]

My parents separated when I was 4 yrs old my mom left us with my grandmother my dad's mother and she never look back .my young sister was only 2 yrs old .we grew up like orphans when both our parent were alive .we were called that she was died when I was grade 7 we went there as she was buried.but growing up without her gave me so much anger and hatreds towards her even though she is no more .I have lot of unanswered questions with no one to answer like why she left us and never come back

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

Oh sorry dear...may you find closure ❤

[@MpolokengTsingoane]

It's so sad Sis I just hope you get counselling, forgive her as she is no more . I wish you be the best Mom to your children 🎉

[@DzivhuluwaniPhaswana]

I fully understand what you're going through, but please find it in your heart to forgive your mom. Maybe she tried not leave you guys behind and you might find that the cause of her death was you guys meaning heart attack or stressing too much about you guys and it calls her illness . By forgive her you'll be able to pray and move on with your life❤ 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤ Time heals

[@patricianyandoro5606]

Internet slouths should find this Step-Mother . I just wonder if this Step-Mother is still with his father .

[@sontofakude7724]

Madam Speaker can i please speak to you privately