I Don't Believe A Man Should Chase A Woman | Kingsley Okonkwo

[@johngreat]

As a man, you should never push. If you push, she will form and complain for the rest of the marriage. If she wants you, her energy must match yours. If it doesn't, there are many fish in the river. If she doesn't want, do NOT push her, or there will be issues in that marriage. You pushing means you do not know your self worth, and you will later go through serious pain for it, take it or leave it.

[@jessetanko1973]

Timely message,I am in one right now, thanks

[@Reuben122]

Very correct. God bless you man of God

[@eaglesadekunle7403]

This me currently now

[@johnsolomon4606]

On point Sir 🤏

[@femikolawole4400]

Thanks bro you're very correct... There's a girl i like the energy and effort I get back is not equivalent to what I give her.... I just feel she's not interested

[@DanTheMagnusMan]

You will never see Apple or Lamborghini begging people to buy their products. They only promote their products by highlighting the value they provide, leaving it up to you to decide whether to buy them or not. When you are a person of value, you will naturally attract people..

[@elishashappinesscampaign1597]

I agree 👍

[@adekola_twelve]

Nobody marries at gunpoint...😂😂 A functional relationship outlives an emotional relationship 📌📌📌 Than you PK❤

[@wangainancy9038]

I wish I knew this several months ago,he presented himself and I thought I should be chased after.He was mature and good man. God of second chances locate me.

[@johngreat]

Just call him or send him a chat once every 2 or 3 weeks - tell him it's JUST to say hi or check up on him. Keep doing this. If he comes try and reciprocate his energy. High value men don't chase. Most ladies can't do this tho, and end up marrying someone that they will stress for the rest of his life with bad feelings...

[@wangainancy9038]

@@johngreat I would wish to have a chance with him again.

[@johngreat]

@@wangainancy9038 Try what I said and be persistent with it. If he still likes you it will work

[@faithchidinma8929]

​@wangainancy9038 go for him but do it responsibly

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

On the basis of you hearing this liberating truth , indeed may second chance be granted to you by God s grace 🙏 # When we know better we do better !!

[@edwardtamekloe7103]

I'm never pusuing a woman in my life. As I pursue God and Purpose, a godly and purposeful lady will come along. When one comes Hallelujah ❤ . If none Praise the Lord🎉

[@ntswakimodise1711]

But have you presented yourself sir 19:30

[@doriscyprain4280]

Present yourself na😊

[@aerliekalonga8831]

"A mutually beneficial relationship" 💪💪

[@Tiwas_room]

Somebody can be good and not be good for you💯💯

[@johndosa6816]

You are right and I wonder why

[@jessetanko1973]

@@Tiwas_room common knowledge that is not common

[@endtimeageda]

❤

[@Isaac-mY]

True

[@samuraiwarrior8403]

@TheRoomWithTiwa, You punched the truth there really Hard... Truly Somebody can be Good But not Good for You...

[@miriamegh]

I have told guys this and some of them argue with me a woman. I say a woman knows from Day one if you are the one or not. If she’s making you chase her, leave her. She’s not mature. It’s that simple. Show yourself, Make your intentions known, whatever she decides take it like that. If she’s interested and says no to get it to become hard for you, you have a future manipulative wife in your hand. Not worth the stress. Also ladies be careful of men hunting you down. You are just a challenge he wants to conquer and most times such men are insecure

[@nwagwuezeoha7543]

Coming from woman.Too much sense dey worry you

[@seuna.8438]

I also always tell brothers that sisters know who they want. Don't use money, gifts, talents, friends/family to persuade her. Present your case, ask her to think and seek the Lord's face about it. Don't disturb her during the process of thinking and seeking God's face. Don't ask for update. If she doesn't update you by herself in 3 weeks or a month, move on.

[@nwagwuezeoha7543]

@@seuna.8438 Exactly!!! Avoid any action that makes you seem needy!!! Guy! Your comment dey sweet me

[@celeb9348]

Wow! Pastor I completely agree with your line of thought here. I have also experienced such situation where my estranged wife told me she married me because our former Pastor persuaded her. She said the man spoke well of me and encouraged her to accept my proposal. I was shocked to hear that, after about four years into the marriage. Eventually, when I accepted an assignment to pastor one of the church branches, she got angry and said she will never be a part of it, as we did not have such agreement before we got married. So, she went to the police, cooked up an allegation against me, and packed and left with our kids. I believe if we follow your line of thought, this kind of situation is so avoidable.

[@seuna.8438]

Oh, I'm sorry to hear this. I pray God restore your marriage. This is the reason I don't like recommendation, especially from Pastors. Our people respect their Pastors so much and don't want to turn them down. Pastors can shift the eyes of a brother/sister to someone, but not matching them. Give that room that will allow them make their decisions and won't feel bad.

[@deborahfriday7719]

Yes ooh marriage is a combination of two destinies coming together.

[@obinnaonuh3720]

Why I like you is that apart from being a pastor,you talk realistically and logically

[@okumagbeabbey2030]

Dear pastor I hereby write u to let you know dt I love u and ur teaching has help me .. keep doing God work sir

[@fridanjiru]

Please his wife PM.wonderful people,I love them too.

[@pelumiadewumi3879]

I wonder why men don't know this. I'm happy to see someone still thinks in this manner. Don't chase or convince someone that doesn't want to be with you. Dont chase. You've nailed it right, sir.

[@therealolaleye]

As a man, even if you don't have much. Have a vision and purpose for your life you're actively pursuing and sell it to the women you desire to marry. The key is SELF-CONFIDENCE + GOD-CONFIDENCE. Don't feel intimidated. Open your mouth and sell your vision confidently and without apologies. If she walk out, don't fret. If she accepts good for both of you. Don't let low self-esteem and inferiority complex make you think of yourself lower because you don't have certain things in place yet. I'm rooting for you

[@joelobuobiasare8334]

this encouraged me tbh 😁🏆

[@therealolaleye]

@joelobuobiasare8334 I'm glad it does. You deserved rhe best, don't settle for less.

[@EphraimSalawu-e8f]

Thanks man

[@FARABOVENAOMI]

As a woman, I AGREE sir. 💯

[@funmiolaiya2203]

It doesn't make sense sir. I even get irritated when a man starts to beg or persuade me after I've said No. I can't respect that kind of man. If a woman says No, just move on. I asked a guy once and he said they were told women play hard to get. I told him if eventually persuades a woman that way,she only agreed out of pity. Not everyone will like you and that's very ok.

[@jessetanko1973]

Nicely put

[@elishashappinesscampaign1597]

Even if she plays hard to get, it must not be a whole month talk less of a whole year they are still playing hard to get...bro, sáré

[@johndosa6816]

I asked a lady out and she said No to my request, and never bother her again because I value myself. I hate disrespect.

[@johndosa6816]

I will never beg any woman to love me because I know my worth as a man

[@emmanuelasiedu5590]

​@@johndosa6816She not accepting doesn't mean she is disrespectful. She just didn't like you period. Everyone has a choice. You just leave your dignity intact when you don't bother her

[@DannyAddyAlpha]

A functional relationship always outlives a emotional relationship

[@comsavvy_stud]

17:48 Exactly! The Bible, in Amos 3:3, asks: Can two walk together unless they agree to do so? To be honest, I was once guilty of pursuing relationships with strong energy attached but received no reciprocation. Even when I saw the red flags, I still looked for an excuse. This message is an eye-opener for me, and I believe it will be for many others as well. Realistically, presenting oneself honestly and observing how aligned that is with the other person's response, along with the energy reciprocated, will help in making better choices and accepting relationships wisely.

[@MerariOkeke]

5minutes into the video and I realize watching this earlier would have saved me from a long period chasing someone.

[@seenasyouleave]

use it for the future

[@De-Best_Fashion_Tutorials]

Sorry dear

[@akmike2902]

In my case, I keep talking but I never persuade for me, but keep telling them what the future holds and less of my current state. I remember one of them said no for 6 months, and eventually I let her go. Only to be looking for my number everywhere after 1 year and some months when I relocated to a better place.

[@bennyebubeimo7052]

Finally! I've been of this opinion all my life and I was told I'm not man enough. Thank God for putting this knowledge in your heart to share.

[@adebanjo_moyosore]

Someone finally spoke my mind 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 They said I don't know what I was saying..... It is not HUSTLE...

[@abednego8304]

u said my mind

[@derickesong9039]

You present yourself and destination, and let the woman align with you purpose 🙌🏽

[@krayonnesilva390]

Now this is truly an update of perspective on this matter that I've been waiting to see and hear from our men of God. I've always wondered why men have this idea of chasing and suffocating ladies up and down leading to dysfunctional relationships everywhere, even in churches too and sometimes i begin to wonder if I'm normal for not believing in that dynamic. In my little experience, most of the girls i actively chased didn't like me and all the ones who loved me happened naturally mostly when i wasn't even thinking about it. PK i love the fact that you've finally addressed this matter that is frustrating the lives of our gentlemen.

[@Reuben122]

@@krayonnesilva390 seriously my brother

[@elishashappinesscampaign1597]

PK, for most of us who thought they must be chased after, thinking about their hard-to-get philosophy, this is an eye opener to us men. I chased after someone and it ends up nowhere. I thought to myself, I'm I not a better person for her? Blessing PK

[@deborahfriday7719]

Yes ooh marriage is someone that buy into our ideas. And not begging.

[@abrahamchukwunwolusamuel2138]

Four years of relationship ended 3 weeks ago. What was her reason? She said she needed to go back to God and find out if I'm really the one for her. Just yesterday, I found out that she's already in another relationship. I haven't been able to find my footing ever since. But thank God I came across this video. I won't beg her anymore.

[@drjosephassi7504]

Wish you courage and restoration my Brother. May God strengthen you

[@abrahamchukwunwolusamuel2138]

@@drjosephassi7504 thank you 🙏

[@abrahamchukwunwolusamuel2138]

@@drjosephassi7504 Thank you so much 🙏🙏

[@bigboakyeschannel3218]

Sorry bro but what an excuse Ei

[@christoffeljongwa192]

If she was the one she wouldn't have left . Move on brother

[@parislekoko4412]

@kingsley Okonkwo, thank you so much for this teaching it's very profound 🙏 I suggest that you should do another teaching on how to correctly present yourself as a man that will help us a lot. Overall thank you once again for this powerful teaching ❤️

[@Official_mikkie]

Thank you Pastor Kingsley. More wisdom in Jesus' name. I have also had this mentality for years, the reason i was so quick to play this video. I believe when a shoe is your size you wouldn't have to kill yourself to be able to wear it, Even if you did, It would be so discomforting for as long as you wear. Thank you sir.

[@bigboakyeschannel3218]

True 💯

[@silverm1743]

Its painful to go through this life of guessing union sir. I saw hell with my parents because of such kind of marriage...people are dying suffocated because of lack of knowledge. God has sent you sir.

[@chiemenaprisca4260]

I am impressed on this Pst. K, there MUST be willingness, mutuality and intentionality. ❤️

[@AkachukwuPaul-u2j]

"Your own passion and faith and belief cannot carry another in this journey of marriage. It is too long> They need their own two feet." Words on marble!

[@liz9664]

I totally agree with you, Pastor K. 😊 Also, women should not chase or persuade a man to be with them. No chasing on both sides.👌🏻

[@mountzionmovingstorage687]

Hahaha remain singles hahah finally problem solved

[@chinelosynclaire7483]

@@mountzionmovingstorage687 You're a clown. She said a man should not chase or persuade, you did not have a problem with that. The part you have a problem with is adding that a woman should not chase or persuade, because it goes against the disposition you guys expect from women.

[@topeshittu]

💯 It goes both ways.

[@damilolaorebiyi9155]

Well said PK. Total waste of time, resources and emotions to choose a partner out of pity or persuasion.

[@draimeeezinne2150]

Finally I thought I was the only one who thought this way. Thank you PK

[@nazfav2757]

The key to a successful union is mutuality and partnership. This blessed me so much. God bless you Sir

[@elishashappinesscampaign1597]

Present yourself and not persuade or pursue her...

[@christianlady]

This man is Full of wisdom

[@kazimblaize7546]

Until now I thought the scripture really meant we must go search for the woman to find. Thank God for enlightenment

[@emmanueligwe8696]

You just spoke the unspoken word in the church. How forcible are seasoned words ❤

[@Newdawnfootwears]

I really love this message!!!pst Kingsley you are a blessing to our generation.God will bless you abundantly

[@olabisiabraham801]

Thank you Pastor for fulfilling your purpose! You hsve nailed it. This is paradigm shift. You ate wrth following and listening to. God bless you sir!

[@namugenyimartha]

Heyyy Nassuna dear....a Ugandan is here !❤❤

[@deborahfriday7719]

Yes ooh a mutually benefit marriage is powerful.

[@deborahfriday7719]

Yes ooh marriage is a sacrifice of destiny.

[@not-me45288]

Thank you pastor. I will bookmark this page. This is what marriage should be about. I pray the Lord will crown you with more wisdom.

[@keldaeloho1929]

I completely agree, I just had this conversation with my sister yesterday. This was exactly my take on the issue, I usually get irritated when a man chases me, it doesn't feel organic to me. I pray that i meet someone who is at this headspace.

[@abednego8304]

i have had this headspace for long and no lady. Alot of ladies like to be pursued

[@toluwalasetemitope2572]

​@@abednego8304continue ❤

[@wamalasimemba4632]

infact from what i have seen, men who chase and persuade are the men who make you suffer after they get you. Its like punishment for making them beg for you.

[@keldaeloho1929]

@@wamalasimemba4632 i agree

[@mr_deluzional]

The sad thing is deep down we all know this truth but we are stubborn. We want to wait until we are brutally hurt for us to finally apply it to our lives

[@mulumbagracia1507]

I wish I had watched it two years ago; I would not have made any mistakes.

[@davedadatsin]

👏🏽Thank you for this clarity PK. It’s a union, partnership that both parties MUST AGREE to go on the journey. It’s in tough times that you see the REAL TEAM, finally Success follows because of Mutual Forces been put in as sacrifices for each other. GOD Bless you abundantly PK This generation must understand Kingdom work mostly Christians

[@akinsikaemmanuel4686]

Thank God I watched this video today, 20th September, 2024. I'll be back here to share my testimony Pastor Kingsley. Thank for all you do for us Sir.

[@Kingdom-Doctor]

Thank you pastor K. Uhmmmmmm, I have never believed a man should be chasing and convincing a woman so much just to marry him, because it doesnt seems right. The journey is far and too serious for that. A lady once told me that I really really need to chase her and do a lot to win her over, from that moment I knew she was not for me and that was where I stopped.

[@OgbGsaintArts]

Nigerians gather here

[@Mamazone01]

😂

[@ican6401]

Find a job, nonsense

[@idhugweshulamite466]

Thank you very much sir,this came at the right time for me.God bless you

[@lolong6411]

Most times they persuade which makes them present a false self so presenting is better cos it means they are not pretending but pursuing can trigger being false

[@jessetanko1973]

@@lolong6411 good point

[@abigailtetteh5716]

Thank you Pastor. You're speaking my mind. God bless you more.

[@daughterofelohim7]

If he pushes you to be with him he's from the devil or simply lacks wisdom and self control. He should present himself and express his desires and be gracious enough to let you pray and think about it. From my personal experience, The men who overly pushed to date me were programmed from the pit of hell and we're very narcissistic and manipulative.

[@ReenelT]

You spoke facts!!

[@starzz7693]

This is the monesense you girls tell yourself because you're still single. Just because a man come for you doesn't mean you can keep the relationship going. He can chase you for 10years and still Dump you if he gets you

[@KondwaniKawerama]

A blessing big time.....marriage is an assignment not a reward😅🙌💥thank you Ps

[@matildajack3341]

Very profound teaching sir...thank you and God bless you!

[@cryptoelai4380]

I learnt this a while ago and its working, don't push just make attempt and watch.

[@Prov.23vs7]

Wow, looking at it from the perspective of presentation makes all the difference! Thank you Sir.

[@mind-set8535]

Another form of societal deliverance. Weldone Pastor.

[@franciscaoppong7894]

I agree with you a 100% Pastor Kingsley. God bless you

[@davidsoughtout]

I'm the 100th comment....hurray

[@DivineArrow]

Pastor that's very true, i have believed this school of thought before watching this video. Ity has solidified my conviction. Thank you sir

[@IfeanyiEKalu]

Hmmm, so powerful! No one chases the other. Both chases one common goal and purpose for the marriage.

[@olatinwotimileyin3874]

Beautiful backdrop! Well-done PK

[@derickesong9039]

Thank you so much Pastor K, for all the knowledge you’re constantly giving us young men. This is very beneficial since I didn’t have the opportunity to have conversations with my dad about women and marriage. Learnt allot from your channel. I think you should do a teaching on questions a man should ask a woman to know if she’s right for him. Thank you. 🙏🏽

[@DrGil_FON]

This one of the reasons for many bad marriages. Thank you Pastor K.

[@ukponoudoh8089]

This video has shifted my mindset positively 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@DrGil_FON]

Such a womderful conversation this is. I wonder where women got the idea that they must be chased. Stressing and frustrating a good man who is sincerely ready to settle down. Thank you Pastor K for this liberating message and bringing it home.

[@josephcookey7992]

A functional relationship outlast emotional ones.

[@bizyinafrica]

I completely accept this mindset

[@floquence]

And I thought I was odd to have this exact mindset of "Men of value don't chase" Who begs for partnership? And even a lifelong partnership at that!

[@AdedejiOlawumiWumytestrings]

God bless you sir for this divine message.. discovering one's purpose is the ultimate

[@mr_deluzional]

Men are meant to present and not chase📌

[@jbcre8tionz826]

Thank you Sir. This has helped me solve my worries about th women you snub. Kai. I feel released from the pains

[@ikelijohnson141]

Pst Kingsley, I'm blessed. Thank you so much

[@delight8888]

What’s funny is that.. now I understand why I have never been given the gift of the gab… the gift of toasting… not my thing.. and always been into beings friends first and foremost…..

[@starzz7693]

Your husband shouldn't be your friends if you don't want that relationship to ruin in the long run

[@castrotwum2830]

Well said pastor Kingsley❤

[@nathanielsamuel6579]

Thank you pastor Kingsley for this enlightenment, God bless you, you're really good at this sir

[@noahnodogf742]

Thank you, Pastor, Kingsley

[@damianafemikhe798]

I needed to hear this. Thank you for this teaching ❤

[@kumbukanimangwaya-b5e]

Thanks for sharing....indeed the journey is too long ...no need to pursue and persuade someone

[@princeoludareakintola5758]

Beautiful, matured and spiritually sound advise!

[@kmb_muzik]

Am glad I came across this video before getting married. God bless you Pst Kingsley❤

[@innocentani3172]

Hi...id love you to talk more on kingdom ourpose. I say this because many times, we are ckndutioned to believe marriage is achievement driven. And rather than asking organic questions to our prospective mate, we re busy asking job-interviee-type question like where do you see yourself in 10 years.

[@jessetanko1973]

@@innocentani3172 as in😂

[@micheal_nwaeziokwu]

Glory to God i came across this video, this knowledge is actual but rare. Thank you PK

[@samicfootage]

I totally agree with you sir...Love is mutual

[@edwinaampadu3487]

Pastor K how do you know if a man is presenting himself or he’s just being friendly? Because I think the clarity is needed for the lady to act accordingly

[@delight8888]

This is a most Awesome teaching my dear sir!….

[@NwekeChukwumaFrancis]

Pastor K, i greet you a million times, and I thank God for His grace upon your life and your wonderful wife, too. I'm really blessed by this message. More grace, sir.

[@iam_grant]

The key to marriage is mutuality

[@obikennedy7422]

Marriage is an assignment ❤😊

[@promiseuwannah]

This is gold. Thank you sir

[@FelixPatrick-k5j]

Pst you have nail it. God bless us.

[@legendarylinus9239]

Thank you Pastor. May God increase you in wisdom and insight.

[@damisarumi6179]

Pastor Kingsley - thank you for this teaching very powerful, crucial and timely ❤❤❤

[@chidimmalucy2754]

This has been a blessing to me. Thank you sir.

[@emmanuelagbafor2027]

Lessons well learnt Thanks for sharing PK

[@emmanuelonu1866]

Thank you so much PK for confirming my deep belief, this is a pure confirmation. My fiancé is really shocked to hear this coz this was exactly what I communicated to her

[@oyekunleoyeyinka7470]

Wonderful section. Well done sir. Guys also needs to communicate with confidence. And they should learn good approachs to communicate decently because some of them do appear as time wasters/players, who don't even know what they want.