A short story that has stuck with me for over thirty years. I was sent by my employer to pick up some electrical components from another business. I walked into this place and the lead shipper who greeted me had Downs Syndrome. A super pleasant young man. I noticed that there was this round table and everyone around it was disabled, mostly Downs Syndrome and they were, along with counselors, assembling these components. What struck a chord in me was how happy everyone was and the whole place resonated with joy. I’ve never, in my life, ever walked into any other business and felt like that. I truly believe what accounted for that happy place was because they were all contributing to something and playing their part in society other than just existing. I remember it like it was yesterday and changed me. Just thought I’d share that.
You can block good honest people, but all that does is expose you for what you really are, traitors. Yeah your going somewhere alright. hell
@marcl3763 Жыл бұрын
stop the clickbait thumbnails !!!!!
@FullSailDenessus7 ай бұрын
@@michaelconvery8871 I am physically disabled and have been around places like this. Many states have, or are in the process of, shutting these businesses down, because they pay next to nothing and they are taking advantage of people who don't know better for cheaper labor. It gets sold as the ability to be independent. make money, and better their lives, but unfortunately gets severely abused. I thought the same thing as you the first time I walked into one in Illinois, but something never sat right.
@burtingtune Жыл бұрын
In a school I used to teach at there was a severely disabled year 8 girl. She was in a wheelchair, had dreadfully distorted musculature and suffered bouts of crippling pain. Over the two years that I knew her she never once complained and she often had the most heart-warming smile you can imagine. She was one of the bravest people I have ever met and if I ever find myself feeling sorry for myself, I think of her and feel ashamed.
@stephenmason5682 Жыл бұрын
My late father brought me up with simple messages, such if I complained my shoes hurt, he'd met soldiers who had lost their legs in battle? He set me straight for life and I always remember him with warmth and respect!
@MsDamosmum Жыл бұрын
I see denial here
@davidswanson5669 Жыл бұрын
My sister, as disabled as she is, has been happy and loving for 40+ years now. Not only do people need to stop believing that success is dependent on being born into the right body/environment, they need to realize that joy and love comes from within you, and furthermore that it helps smooth out all the bumps in life that might otherwise cripple you.
@madwhitehare3635 Жыл бұрын
@@MsDamosmum…I see dead people.
@ianmorris5501 Жыл бұрын
Really well put, good for you.
@zaygezunt Жыл бұрын
Hats off to that young man; what a powerful and moving example of fighting victimhood.
@vikinginspace4881 Жыл бұрын
I really admire Konstantin. He is a great ambassador for how a big majority of us think and feel here in the UK. Great podcast
@rythmblood27 Жыл бұрын
I know you hear a lot of bullish!+ coming out of the U.S. but please try to understand many of us feel the same as you👍
@marializ711 ай бұрын
Konstantin is the ambassador for common-sense!! So refreshing.
@JoeyP9468 ай бұрын
idk if it's a big majority, at least not in my country. My dumb f of a brother still voted for a leftist party
@kimj5037 Жыл бұрын
What a perfect summary of social media, "It rewards ideas that sound good, but aren't true. And it punishes ideas that are true, but don't sound good." And hearing about the gentlemen clapping with his shoulder...❤. That is the type of person we need to hear more from!!
@calacestar Жыл бұрын
There's 4 kinds of people (for the sake of this discussion): Disadvantaged ones who whine about their disadvantage Privileged ones who are ignorant of their advantages and let their advantages go to waste Disadvantaged ones who work around their disadvantages Privileged ones who are aware of their advantages and make use of them We need more the latter two in our societies! Edit: Thank you for the corrections regarding my grammar
@Madonnalitta1 Жыл бұрын
*whine.
@nw8000 Жыл бұрын
@@Madonnalitta1 A nice red instead eh?
@allanmonroe692 Жыл бұрын
There are four kinds of people for all discussions. They are at the intersection of the clever/stupid axis and the industrious/lazy axis. 1. Clever/industrious people get things done & solve problems 2. Clever/lazy people figure out the most efficient way to do things 3. Stupid/industrious people have no understanding and create problems 4. Stupid/lazy people have no understanding and whine about things while going along with the crowd. This is not a new idea & has been put forth in multiple forms at different times & locations in history, usually in reference to the military. Clausewitz mentions a version of this in On War. Yamamoto Tsunetomo mentions a version of this in The Hagakure. German general Kurt Von Hammerstein-Equord also mentions this, in reference to the four types of officers. However, you can apply this to anyone you meet.
@twelvecatsinatrenchcoat Жыл бұрын
"Privilege" is just a word that means being the benefactor of a 10,000 year long struggle by every one of your ancestors working their butts off to make their children's lives better than their own. The difference between people "with privilege" and people "without privilege" is my ancestors succeeded where theirs failed miserably and sunk into stagnation. The only thing that matters at all to any one REALLY, is power. How powerful can you be? How hard can you work? How successful can you be? That's it. That's the alpha and omega. No one responds to anything but power.
@utv5490 Жыл бұрын
There are people who watch privileged people who have nothing to offer except to themselves.
@LoisSharbel Жыл бұрын
Love that Oxford Union speech and love Konstantin Kisin's efforts to counteract the madness fringe elements have been spouting. Thanks for magnifying this heart-warming response at the end of your speech. Hurray for this young man!
@stephenmason5682 Жыл бұрын
It was a great speech that will resonate for years! I missed this young man clapping, so thanks for bringing it to my attention!
@angelaharris6577 Жыл бұрын
I watched his speech when he did it. Absolutely smashed it.❤👏
@andrewfoster883 Жыл бұрын
It truly was an incredible speech! Loved it
@scillyautomatic Жыл бұрын
Brilliant!! Thank you for sharing this piece. Now, I will never see that clip without watching to the end for that young man.
@amarbaha Жыл бұрын
Great analogy Konstantin. Love the show and keep going!
@OldSchool-om2zo Жыл бұрын
Nice job Konstantin, keep up the good work!
@muchopomposo.63947 ай бұрын
Konstain is one of the world's great thinkers and communicaters. If only GB's politicians were...
@Vent330 Жыл бұрын
Konstantin is one smart guy 😊
@Dan-yy6tt Жыл бұрын
Imagine all the other ethnic groups telling you that your ancestors were dominant and built all the cities and tamed the wilderness and created everything and then expecting you to feel bad about it.
@rey_nemaattori Жыл бұрын
Those white basterds, handing out medicine, education, infrastructure, the wheel, democracy, industry to them savages...
@theusher2893 Жыл бұрын
Now imagine those ethnic groups simply lying and saying their ancestors did it all first, despite all evidence to the contrary.
@simplygreen5832 Жыл бұрын
At the same time as they decide to 'ethnically prioritize' surgery, fml
@ohcrikey9560 Жыл бұрын
Indeed. But not only to feel bad about it, but to help tear it all down..
@careyfreeman50567 ай бұрын
Damn right Bitch!!! We ARE badass!
@ianmorris5501 Жыл бұрын
I used to be a care worker and all I can say about the clients I used to help, is that most of them wanted to live be happy, and as independent as possible. They would never make excuses and even clients who were disabled from the neck down, would be smiling in the mornings, when you went in to help them get ready, to start there day. Most of them didn't know about in justice, they were just pleased to see you. ❤️😀☮️
@edition-deluxe Жыл бұрын
That speech is freaking amazing.
@eugen35744 ай бұрын
Thanks ❤
@MS-sb9ov Жыл бұрын
My son graduated from Oxford Uni last year. Not woke in the slightest, just a caring person. Not wealthy or posh (went to a local Comp) just damn smart. He has no time for the madness going on amongst a small but very vocal group of victimhood preachers. Don’t tar them all with the same brush.
@wyattfamily8997 Жыл бұрын
He will go far and do much for the world, it comes from good parenting, it's just that basic.
@gaurasrspublishing Жыл бұрын
It's a very good point, there are generalisations made on both sides of this debate and KK isn't averse to doing that himself.
@mogznwaz Жыл бұрын
I’m very glad to hear it
@sirrathersplendid48257 ай бұрын
I think most people don’t realise how small the group of “victimhood preachers” really is. In my days at a uni of 7,000 students, you could probably fit every one of them into a typical British living room.
@theasianjaywalker4455 Жыл бұрын
That's actually a pretty darn amazing moment and although I'd seen the speech video and clips I never noticed that he was actually clapping his shoulder. Enthusiastically too. My wife is quite obviously disabled and from a world where you wouldn't believe how oppressed she really is, at times, by some people. It would be almost impossible to try and explain to her that a wealthy comfortable young man at a wealthy UK elite college (or any college) who's in perfectly good health BUT declares he really wants to ___ another man's wiener is "A Victim of Oppression". Actually, I don't believe this could make any sense to her. She might assume this is a kind of western comedy bit or a joke. I don't think she could comprehend how a rich privileged 25 year old Uni student at Oxford is actually in a law suit, suing the school, crying, becoming a 'Victim Star' on campus because she thought she overheard a student calling her a 'Paki'. My wife could not comprehend this as real life. Often, real life disabled people, meaning, they are actually physically disabled for real, they do NOT have a lot of patience for these stupid woke-world 'victim status' weirdos and this victim-status madness in society.
@secondchance6603 Жыл бұрын
Could you elaborate on how your wife is really oppressed?
@lufe8773 Жыл бұрын
Glad I saw this clip and your comment. Your wife deserves so much respect and so do you. If only (some) people could realize the solution to personal problems lies with you (even though in some circumstances you might need assistance). The other big lesson in life is when you help others you actually help yourself and feel good about yourself. I think that is why good families (especially mums) are successful. It's about putting others first.
@fuselpeter5393 Жыл бұрын
@@secondchance6603 I guess we lock all the disabled people behind fences and refuse them the right to vote. Who knows. Of course his wife struggles in life but that doesn't mean she is oppressed. My mom struggles too with her schizophrenia. Is she oppressed? No? Could it be better for people like that? Yes? This victim-hood-BS is stupid beyond words.
@reneemac111 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Konstantin for making that disabled man in the front a happy man with your motivational speech. Enjoy listening to you and Patrick
@robbiegerard7857 Жыл бұрын
Every student in the world should watch Konstantin 's Oxford speech, because this is what they need to know
@RaineriHakkarainen15 күн бұрын
Stupid crazy Russian Kisin blame poor countries polluting like India! India have 30 times less cars computers air planes than western world! Western world have made their wealth with oil goal natural gas! Why poor countries can get rich by using oil coal natural gas! Kisin is an awful war monger! Kisin fears that China 106IQ points nation might beat fair competition western world 100IQ points nations! Russia their milatary budjet 72 billion dollars! Russia have only 3% of world total military budjet! USA military budjet is 900 billion dollars! Kisin attacking against minorities gay trs
@simonmcintosh6565 Жыл бұрын
KK is totally smashing it!! I’m so pleased f😊r him.
@peacemaker6662 Жыл бұрын
I worked with disabled people in a Sheltered Workshop for over 25 years. All kinds of disabilities, amputees, down's, MS, Crones, blind... I could go on but you get the gist. Over that time I must have worked with well over 100 individuals. What did they want... just to be treated like everyone else, humour, banter and the respect that comes with being like everyone else. They didn't want my sympathy or patronizing pity. I maybe met one or two in my time that played the victim card and would seek sympathy but they were miserable constantly and everyone would avoid spending free time with them.
@reneemac111 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for educating the masses, people sometimes don’t know how to respond in company of disabled people
@1Mutton1 Жыл бұрын
Totally agree.
@peacemaker6662 Жыл бұрын
@@reneemac111 I understand exactly what you are saying. Yes, people are afraid of offending them. I have to say the current mantra of 'we have to do everything we can to not offend anyone' is just so wrong. It just grinds my gears because they are doing the opposite of what people with disabilities want. IMHO... and experience.
@pieteri.duplessis7 ай бұрын
So well said.
@frankfata82047 ай бұрын
Wow…..what this really screwed up world desperately needs is more people like this amazing fellow Konstantin.
@MrSpacepauls Жыл бұрын
Konstantin is a brilliant guy.
@johncarroll772 Жыл бұрын
No he's not
@beetalius Жыл бұрын
Children in the US are taught there are only 4 types of people in the world: Bullies (bad), Victims (good), Bystanders (bad) and upstanders (good). So to be a good person you either have to figure out how you were a victim or you need to find victims to run around advocating for.
@walesruels Жыл бұрын
This makes so much sense!
@justsome-guy7596 Жыл бұрын
What a powerful observation!
@maguslascivious4980 Жыл бұрын
only by liberals... and they teach you to be a victim no matter what...
@patrickholland5478 Жыл бұрын
Very well put!
@theasianjaywalker4455 Жыл бұрын
That's a pretty good summary of it. That's pretty much it yes.
@mikewilliams6086 Жыл бұрын
I think one of the best speeches I've heard! Thankyou Konstantin.
@solavita306 Жыл бұрын
Truth is all of us could be perpetual victims, we all were born with some disadvantage somewhere in our life. But we all have the right and the responsibility to choose to work to be more than where we started. Choose for yourself whether or not you will remain prey amongst predators, and live accordingly.
@lesmccracken7155 Жыл бұрын
Listen closely to this guy, because he’s telling it like it is. I was a 20yr old revolutionary who thought I knew it all. Actually as a 71yr old enlightened degenerate, I realise how I had a lot to learn from life. As they say, everyday is a school day!!
@deldridg Жыл бұрын
Nice comment and thanks! I'm only 16 years behind you and probably in a similar boat. Cheers - Dave 🙂
@I9s7lam5is-S3tu1pid Жыл бұрын
Between when you were 20 know-it-all revolutionary to a 71 enlightened degenerate, we’re you living your life as that revolutionary know-it-all in isolation the whole time, or did you influence a whole host of other know-it-all wannabes?
@careycline88527 ай бұрын
KK what a blessing to have the power to influence people like that!
@jans4636 Жыл бұрын
Wonderful detail about the man in the audience! So glad you are reaching people in your honest, wise and realistic way, K. K.!
@kaylenehousego8929 Жыл бұрын
Great clip thank you....Blessings from Australia .
@eliakimjosephsophia45427 ай бұрын
One of my clients had been 90% blind from a child and he once said to me that if I ever meet anyone that is more positive than me, I know I have more work to do. Another client was a Thalidomide, and she never complained either. She loved to laugh, joke and have fun, she had so much personality.
@mr.nilraps Жыл бұрын
True hardship builds character.
@fantastikfanatic1900 Жыл бұрын
I love this!!!!
@donelmore25407 ай бұрын
I’ve got a brother like the handicapped man Mr. Kisin met. He’s a functional quad who can only push with one leg and has spastic control of one arm. He also has severe short term memory loss. He can’t eat by mouth and is fed by a tube. He has a great attitude and is happy. It is amazing!
@rachelkingsley668 Жыл бұрын
Great work guys! Thanks x
@moxie_ST Жыл бұрын
You rock Man 🤟👍❤️
@bod3102 Жыл бұрын
Very glad I heard this
@scouticuss2121 Жыл бұрын
I'm disabled through cancer treatment. People say I'm brave. I say I went with the cards I was dealt. In the immortal words of Red in The Shawshank Redemption "We have two options. Get busy living or get busy dying". I choose life.
@stu4843 Жыл бұрын
Fabulous talk and please keep up the good work.
@noseycow7681 Жыл бұрын
Triggernometry is an incredible show.
@rythmblood27 Жыл бұрын
I love Konstantin Kisin. He is very bright …..he really seems able to easily see the faults/weaknesses in peoples arguments. That’s why I don’t get into those debates with people. I can’t come up with a good counter argument until an hour later 😒. It’s frustrating. Plus I’ve internalized white guilt for years….so I just shut myself up.
@TheOverlordOfProcrastination7 ай бұрын
KK slowly helping to save western civilisation, inch by inch.
@andreamiller6570 Жыл бұрын
I love this!
@daffydlwellen1270 Жыл бұрын
"Always the Victims, Never the Victors"
@DS-fk7ed7 ай бұрын
Konstantin Kisin is a hero of mine, and he has more love for his adopted country (England) than most of those spoilt, WOKE, over indulged rich kids in that audience. I grew up in a poor family. I did not have the head start these rich kids had over me. But I worked hard and went to university and after got a reasonably good job. Unlike most of these brats I thank this country for the chance it gave me to get a good education and earn enough money to buy my own home and travel the world.
@robertfurner1729 Жыл бұрын
so well put and explained and true
@davemayshow Жыл бұрын
We need this message
@stinger4712 Жыл бұрын
That talk was a banger!!!
@stevenvater2681 Жыл бұрын
That speech one of the most important ever
@paulm1162 Жыл бұрын
Excellently put
@THaggerty-MusicEd Жыл бұрын
I think the person he mentions asked a question during the Kathleen Stock interview at the Oxford Union. Worth watching that speech too.
@davehallett810 Жыл бұрын
KK is ace 👍🇬🇧
@leighmurrell5494 Жыл бұрын
Spot on!
@pattyotool9548 Жыл бұрын
Cambridge university has awesome guest speakers this dude is the reason that i keep looking them up
@odious5317 Жыл бұрын
That disabled guy is a badass. He’s exposing their weakness with his strength. 💪
@trollthedicey7 ай бұрын
Canadian news article I commented on and I was deleted and banned and my only line was "be accountable for your own actions" DELETED and BANNED
@TNothingFree Жыл бұрын
1:15 - There are lots of not "woke" people who have this mentality as well
@timsavini2585 Жыл бұрын
I was out jogging a few weeks back. I was struggling, for whatever reason and thinking of stopping, such was my 'hardship'. I was crossing a road at some traffic lights, when I saw a minibus containing a group of severely disabled kids and adults. It just occurred to me then what would any one of those folks give to be doing what I was doing? I just carried on with my run, feeling s**t, but realising how fortunate I really was.
@lufe8773 Жыл бұрын
Wow, inspirational stuff.
@shadow.banned Жыл бұрын
That guy also asked Kathleen Stock a question during her talk. I struggled to understand what he said but at least he showed up.
@jeneriss Жыл бұрын
That's awesome!
@alexpervanoglu7420 Жыл бұрын
Ha ha, students at Oxford Uni claiming to be opressed. Hilarious.
@heatchills4093 Жыл бұрын
In many ways, they are. Yes, Oxford may be able to grant it's students "a future", which many non-students are denied. But the cost of that future (in addition to the whoppingly massive financial cost) is having to kowtow to the doctrine of the reigning professors, and tell them exactly what they want to hear, on their exam papers. Evokes mental images of that photo from Nazi Germany, with the thousands of people dutifully saluting Hitler, and that one lone guy having the guts not to do likewise. A lot of terrified people, playing a game they don't want to be playing, because they dread the consequences of defying their masters. Sounds like oppression to me.
@graphguy Жыл бұрын
I approve of this video 100% true
@intmedubchosp4110 Жыл бұрын
The truth can be uncomfortable.
@OttoMatieque Жыл бұрын
victimhood is not only currency on social media. I have seen victimhood being sought after and rewarded in large corporations. Being offended is actually a position of strength.
@Brian-mb9ez Жыл бұрын
KK speaks so much truth and sense, he is refreshing in this day and age"
@Madonnalitta1 Жыл бұрын
I remember seeing him and thinking the same. He really got it. The 'oppressed' toffs didn't.
@tpowell3776 Жыл бұрын
I buy affordable fixers move into them, spend 3-5 yrs fixing them and then rent it out or sell it, I've found that many younger millennial's and Zers complain constantly about "Affordable" housing, yet refuse to buy a Fixer (at an affordable price) they feel entitled to a beautiful turn key house they can show off on social media, at a low price, they don't want to do the work needed to bridge that financial gap, so they are angry and a self proclaimed "victim" it's like a virus now
@thomasm1964 Жыл бұрын
Although an atheist I remember a phrase from my childhood: God helps those who help themselves. I also like the Jewish joke about the whiner who complains every day about his pitiful lot. Eventually God gets fed up with the man. "What about if I arranged for you to win the lottery?" God suggests. "Would you be happy then?" The man says that would make him happy and so it is agreed. That weekend, the lottery comes and goes but the man has won nothing. True to form he starts to wail and howl, cursing God for going back on His word. Suddenly, there is crack of lightning and God reveals himself before the man. "At least meet me half way," he thunders "and buy a bloody ticket!" Note to the young : nothing in life is yours by right, only by dint of effort and sometimes not even then. It was always thus.
@thomasm1964 Жыл бұрын
We call them "doer-uppers" in Britain.
@jdfree49 Жыл бұрын
They don't just refuse to do this for themselves, they blame you for their problems by asserting that you're making housing more expensive.
@ruidadgmailcanada8508 Жыл бұрын
Oh god the entitled speak. 😂 Good luck buying a fixer-upper at 600% markup for literal garbage. I flip homes and commercial properties…used to theres no point anymore it’s about to collapse one way or another. The good news is with woke distractions you may not even notice the doom Boris, Charles and Suni aigned you up for. Real estate is the least of your worries. 😂😂😂
@jayoppold33467 ай бұрын
The most determination I've ever seen in a person comes from people with cerebral palsy. Imagine having a perfectly working brain, but your body just doesn't want to listen to it and do its own thing.
@jodawson5268 Жыл бұрын
Where's the full interview
@nuqwestr Жыл бұрын
Feeling good not the same as Being good.
@mawnkey Жыл бұрын
Gaaaahdamn, respect to that dude.
@PaddyIrishman Жыл бұрын
Everyone needs to listen to the Jordan Peterson and James Lindsey interview!
@nobbytang Жыл бұрын
Konstantin is a top top Man.
@hugh-johnfleming2897 ай бұрын
Was raised well by smart parents and went to exceptional schools. Took advantage of that and would like to think I spread it around. Not for me to say...
@Jindy2 Жыл бұрын
Kudos to That Guy!
@ChRizZ087 Жыл бұрын
Keep it up!!!!
@alexbetts8291 Жыл бұрын
I met alot of poor as a church mouse millionaires as a builder , i also took a video of a man whom presumably had advanced serable pawsey in a wheelchair who had one semi working leg which he was using to push himself slightly uphill on a gravel path while he was out for a morning roll around langstone harbour, i found this to be one of the most motivational things ive ever seen , certainly no victim in his self !
@MM-yi9zn Жыл бұрын
All truth can cause discomfort to the lazy thinker.
@danescerri3297 Жыл бұрын
Inspirational
@margaretvanson3601 Жыл бұрын
Part of the problem with young people is that their parents are too busy to spend the time you need to spend with children to teach them that: life isn't fair, life has good times and bad times, as you get older you are responsible for the consequences of your actions. But, no matter what happens I will love you unconditionally.
@mechengineer4life Жыл бұрын
I'm stealing that: "the problem with social media is that it rewards ideas that sound good but aren't true, and punishes ideas that are true but they don't sound good.
@Bits-n-Bobsss Жыл бұрын
I hope the disabled guy succeeds in every way possible! And indeed, shame shame shame on all these self-proclaimed victims.
@maplin007 Жыл бұрын
Top Man gives hope if only kids would listen.
@grwuk Жыл бұрын
Konstantin always speaks common sense a very articulate and interesting man.
@maryellenrittel77787 ай бұрын
When you are a victim, nothing can change. It is only when you become an active participant that you can choose your path.
@paulbrown4934 Жыл бұрын
Ian Dury was very disabled and never ever complained about his situation. He even had to be carried onto the stage sometimes because if his condition.
@rjflores438 Жыл бұрын
I used to deal with these students a lot on Manchester UK where I grew up. If anyone knows Manchester they know that the University is very good to some pretty economically deprived neighbourhoods in the city with a lot of lower income government housing. You would get a lot of these upper middle class activists going on protests and get radical feminists who raged on about how oppressed they were whilst living in a completely different life and in a bubble and had very little to do with ordinary folk and even to the working class students at the University of which I was one. Maybe its my class consciousness back then in the late 2000s as a student but it was just the experience I had. When you see real privilege it often cant recognise itself. The socio economic class you are brought up in is way more a marker of privilege than your gender.
@noone8418 Жыл бұрын
If you use child psychology as a template I bet it map’s really well
@surfinterf7381 Жыл бұрын
Same guy was at Kathleen Stock's Oxford Union speech and he went up and asked questions. Meantime the idiots were baying outside.
@mattoniy2840 Жыл бұрын
I live my life based on Michel angelos central tenet “criticise through creating” that’s really the message he’s pushing here and it’s brilliant. Don’t label everything wrong with the world and suggest no solution. It’s on you to create a better world, and that is the ultimate criticism or the current way of being. Elon Musk lives by this.
@pavanmangat3977 Жыл бұрын
Konstantins suit ... 👌
@mademoiselledusfonctionell1609 Жыл бұрын
The thing is, not only one thing is true. Sweden, for instance, is one of the most equal countries in the world concerning men and women. Nevertheless, my sister, who is an engineer, has quit some jobs because of how she was treated because she is a woman. Her first boss (who obviously wasn't the one who hired her) constantly said, in words as well as actions, that women have no place in engineering. And (parallell to her engineering career) large numbers of immigrants have come to Sweden from EXTREMELY patriarchal societies. Girls are murdered for the mere suspicion of having had boyfriends. In one really horrific so called honour killing (it has nothing to do with honour - quite the opposite) the girl's mother (women uphold these structures too, as is often the case also in countries where FGM is practiced) poured hot oil down the (in this case not suspected, but real) boyfriend's throat. And while murders are an extreme outcome of these patriarchal norms, large portions of young people in Sweden are limited in their daily life. They are not allowed to play football, but are expected to do chores, they are not allowed to go swimming, they are not allowed a range of things. So while a country can be very western, very liberal (in the European sense) and egalitarian, a lot of other stuff can be going on simultaneously. Such as male engineering bosses thwarting women engineers' careers and really shitty things like "honour" oppression and "honour" killings. Which - even though women perpetrate them - stem from patriarchal norms. And what one DOES need to listen to when people have been victimised (as some really are), is what this experience really feels like. If a child has been bullied, it is important both for the child to express his or her feelings and have them validated ("YES, this was painful, and YES, this was wrong, and we understand that sometimes you will experience this pain again, and if so, we will endeavour to pick you up") and for bystanders to understand, so that they might intervene the next time they witness bullying (bullies themselves are sometimes happy to hear about their victims' pain).
@humanitylane Жыл бұрын
Schooled 👏
@johnguilfoyle30732 ай бұрын
Many younger children were raised by mothers and parents who fostered a victimhood payoff system. When two kids are fighting, moms often want to know, "Who started it?" This forces the kids to come up with the best victim story and gain the sympathy so the other kid will be blamed and punished.