Baby Number Two?? An Update With Tess ❤️

For today’s video, we are going to switch gears a bit to share a huge part of what has been going on in our lives for the past several months.
As you might remember, my cousin Tess was our gestational carrier for our sweet baby Elsie back in 2023. Moments after Elsie was born, Tess went through a very scary postpartum hemorrhage. This quickly put our plans of her carrying another baby for us on hold as we focused on what was most important - her health and recovery.
As time passed, Tess healed and we began to look at the potential of her carrying for us again. After a lot of research and conversations with multiple doctors, we ultimately decided to proceed with the medical testing process.
When we started the process of “Baby Number Two,” Brian and I decided early on that we weren’t going to tell anyone except a few very close friends and family members. We’ve put a lot of our lives out there these last few years, and anyone who has struggled with fertility issues or been through IVF will understand how much of an emotional rollercoaster the entire process is.
However, as things took a bit of a turn a few weeks ago, we started sharing with more people and ultimately, we decided to open up about it. I hope this video can make someone out there feel just a little bit less alone. And I know it will make us feel less alone to have the love of our community behind us.
Monday, February 10th will be a BIG step for us in this process, and in today’s video very special guest Tess joined me to talk about it. We would love your prayers and good vibes going into this next week.
One thing I know is that what is meant to be will be… even if it’s not exactly how we hoped things would go. After all, most of this adventure called life hasn’t really gone as planned. But here we are, stronger than ever, ready to face what’s next.
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[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

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[@CHAILIFE]

Tess has given you the biggest gift a person can give. It didn't come without risk or a personal price. Let her be and move on. She's too selfless to say no. But do something FOR her and free her.

[@Mommaslew]

Man, it brings me no joy to say that I feel as though all of the parents need to take care of the children they have. Why not adopt? All of the joy and much less risk. Seriously. Love you guys. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

I would say that adoption would be a great option and is something we might consider in the future. But we have two healthy embryos just sitting there waiting to be implanted. One boy and one girl. We feel in our souls that we have to try and give them a life. We can't just let them die without at least attempting to bring them into the world.

[@ilana423]

They are not alive, so obviously, you will not "let them die." I hope Tess's well-being matters, not to mention potentially saving a life by adoption.

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

They are alive. They are fertilized. They have cells that divide. They have their own DNA. They may not be fully formed humans, but they are alive in every definable way. And as we have said many many times, Tess' health is our number one priority. Period.

[@ilana423]

I can't argue with religion driven arguments... as far as science goes, your embryos are not considered to be alive.

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

I literally didn't use one religious argument. 😆

[@jodybyrne5261]

Control your egos. ADOPT. It's time for you two to give back in gratitude for all the blessings you have received.

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

We actually can't adopt. Cancer disqualifies us.

[@SharpLife4]

Doesn’t work that way. Getting kids is really hard unless you pay for them. It’s a sad reality.

[@Lady_Clare4]

Tess & her husband are the most unselfish couple I’ve ever come across! Stay healthy everyone!🌻🌼

[@Schatzie301]

Tess is the most incredible human being. I’m sure we are all inspired by such selfless love. I hope it works out for baby number 2. ❤❤❤

[@suewarnes9469]

100% agree!❤

[@Jorgie1944]

Seriously, it sounds like she sacrificed her uterus to give her cousin a child. That doesn't seem to be appreciated or acknowledged. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.

[@MothGirl007]

@Jorgie1944 That's exactly how I read it, too. There is nothing about any of this that is relatable, at all.

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

Usually for gestational carriers, it is preferred if they are done having children of their own first. This was true in Tess’s case. She was actually very, very close to having a uterine ablation years ago. That is a “surgical procedure that destroys or removes the endometrium, the lining of the uterus.” Then she had the thought that maybe one day she could be a surrogate / gestational carrier and decided not to go through with the ablation.

[@Lnewbury1]

Tess, you are a totally selfless woman. What a gift you’ve been to Jessica and Brian. But please don’t put your own health at stake. As Jessica stated, you’ve already given them the greatest gift ever. They are happy with Elsie. Bless you for your giving heart.

[@kristinafontaine3211]

Sometimes people are so selfless they are unable to say no. In that situation, the person asking the favor needs to show them some mercy

[@Lnewbury1]

@ I absolutely agree. There are other ways to possibly have another child and Jessica did mention that.

[@MothGirl007]

@@kristinafontaine3211 Those are exactly the kind of people we need to be extra kind and protective towards, and they are often the ones who get taken advantage of, sadly.

[@WhimsyF-sr1ns]

Having a cousin like Tess is very special! If I were that fortunate, I would do everything to protect even the smallest hair on her head...

[@Jenna-f7c]

Agree👩‍🍼

[@valeriebrown4769]

Oh Tess, I understand that you want to help Jessica but please take care of yourself first. Your husband and children are your very first priority.

[@MothGirl007]

This!!

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@Neil-writer-author]

❤🎉

[@debbicowan2728]

I've only watched about 4 minutes into it but all I can think is when Tess delivered Elsie it literally literally just about killed her. She just about died so people need to go back and look at that video. I can't believe that Jessica and Brian are asking her to put her life on the line again. She has children. She has a husband. I cannot believe you would expect or hope or dream or anything to put this poor woman through it again. Maybe this time she won't be so lucky and then how precious will that child be knowing that delivering Elsie and what happened later was so nearly tragic. I know people die in child of birth everyday. It's a shame, but boy I can't believe you're asking her to do it again. Maybe this isn't what the video is about. Maybe she's not going to do it but based on the title, yeah, it sounds like you're going to put her through it again. Tess you are a special woman if you're willing to go through it again and risk your life again

[@cheekygrin6258]

​@debbicowan2728 it's actually a well known phenomenon in the surrogacy world.

[@safiamohamud9263]

God Almighty blessed you with an angel and a great cousin. Why put your cousin in danger. Be grateful with little Elsie and don’t endanger your bestie/cousin. Happy for you

[@MothGirl007]

This is so obvious and it's shocking to me that Brian and Jessica don't understand that.

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@verashular3116]

You should not agreed to this. Your cousin almost died. What are you and your hubby thinking? There is no way you should take a risk with your cousin's life.

[@SandraRossmann]

What a team you are! Tess, you’re an angel. And Jessica, you’re not giving up even after all you’ve been through. Elsie is a beautiful gift from your relationship.

[@lynnedavis7377]

Be content with what you have, Tess maybe pushing this but you should say NO her health matters she has a family ... and your being selfish

[@UnBoxLifeWithLori]

I have recently been really majorly screwed over by my job and angry with the world! Logging on and seeing y'all, rehearing your story, seeing the beautiful, kind angel Tess - brings back my faith that there are good people on this world. Thank you for sharing your story. Baby Else walking and she has teeth OMG she is growing up so fast - and so blessed to be loved by all!!!

[@justmejo9008]

I lost my job of 30 years a couple years ago. It was devastating mentally, physically and financially. Believe it or not the financial part cleared up quicker than the mental and the physical. I can now see light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you quick recovery from this. And absolutely abuse KZbin for happy stories, advise from other KZbinrs who have been there🙏🏼

[@UnBoxLifeWithLori]

@@justmejo9008 Thank you for sharing. We need to create a place to stick together. Having a voice, and being heard makes a difference.

[@sl4983]

Going through unbelievable harassment by a landlord, so I know how you feel 😢

[@UnBoxLifeWithLori]

@@sl4983 So sorry to hear that. I'll say a prayer for you tonight.

[@sl4983]

@@UnBoxLifeWithLori Thank you 🙏🙏😥

[@estherdavis6019]

Tess you have given far more than most people would. It really sounds like you need to think of yourself, your well being and your own family at this point. Pregnancy takes a lot out of the strongest of women and that plus the risks increase with age. From a Mom perspective, if Tess were my daughter, I would be very alarmed.

[@MothGirl007]

Same.

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@avarismimi]

@@jeffandtesssyou an angel & you don’t have to explain. Your so lovely ❤❤❤

[@jademusic1211]

It's a beautiful thing to be so selfless, but it comes at a huge price. Jess, you and Brian have been through a lot together. Why not just enjoy the baby you have as you acclimate towards healing? You've both been through such a physical and emotional journey. Another baby isn't going to fix any of the wounds from your experience, and it isn't without risk to your cousin. I understand Tess is the one "driving the train", but considering another baby with someone so selfless means they'd move Heaven and Earth to help you. Why bring up another baby so soon after Elsie and risk your cousin's life? Why not focus on getting healthy and enjoying the baby you have? Of course, you're free to do what you want (as is Tess). It just seems rather premature, and apparently, I'm not the only one who thinks so. Your cousin is a beautiful soul, there's no denying that. But why not let her off the hook and focus on yourselves?😔❤️❤️

[@thecamilleshow5415]

Calm down

[@EyesWideOpen-g7e]

I hate to say this, but you two need to get yourself healthy! And, I’m speaking physically health, mental health and emotional health . I don’t know about your financial situation, but it’s very difficult raising children these days in this world. Please just concentrate right now on the child you have. With both of you having cancer, this is not a good situation for presenting a future with a family . Maybe you’re millionaires and all your needs and children’s needs can be taken care of. But another child is not going to fulfill and make your life better. If you’re going to therapy, any psychologist would look at the situation and tell you the same. If they are encouraging you to have another child and to keep going on the way you are, that’s not the answer and it’s not right. You have a lot to work on. That’s just my personal opinion.

[@Sherka55]

Tess is awesome, she really needs to take care of herself and her family. Jessica, I know you care about her and what is the best for her and her family. There are lots of children out there that need a family.

[@MothGirl007]

Totally, totally agree. I am truly concerned for Tess.

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@NLR759]

It’s not your place to judge other people’s decisions with your virtue signalling. If you are so concerned about “all the other children out there needing a parent”, then you are free to adopt one or become a foster parent. It’s very easy to sit at your keyboard telling someone else how to govern their life.

[@Sherka55]

@ it’s an opinion, this is supposed to be a free country. In my opinion, Jessica shouldn’t even asked her knowing the problems that she had afterwards you don’t ask someone to put their life on the line. Speaking of life, why don’t you get one?

[@MothGirl007]

@@Sherka55 Totally agree with you.

[@sweetcake405]

What a blessing you have in Tess, you are all in my prayers, health and happiness to all of you. Elsie is adorable

[@patteegee9506]

Wow, Tess has been through so much, pregnancy, birth, almost dying from a post-partum hemorrhage, two D&C's and left with a damaged uterus. I hope the right decision is made for Tess' health and wellbeing. Fortunately, there are other options for a surrogate.

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@patteegee9506]

After everything you have been through, I'm shocked they are agreeing. Best of luck.

[@ceruleanblue2956]

​@@jeffandtesssDear Tess, you're a special angel. I'm moved to tears with your story. As a 64 yr old never smoke, stage 4 lung cancer patient, my heart and prayers go out to you. Please don't do it. Please Jessica, don't let Tess do it. 🙏❤️

[@tammysmith1398]

Maybe asking Tess to do it again is not such a good ask.

[@debbicowan2728]

@@ceruleanblue2956 please Jessica, don't let her do it? No nope. Nope, she's the one that's pushing for it. She's like well. You know there's a possibility that there's a little room in your uterus where the stuff went the chemicals. And yeah yeah your uterus might be screwed up but there's still a little room to put a baby in there. I've never liked Jessica from the beginning. I think she's a user and Brian is a saint putting up with her. But nonetheless, Jessica is going to push push push to get that woman to carry her child. Tess commented in a previous post that they would never let her go through with it if it was dangerous. Well who? Who who foresaw what did happen when Elsie was born? You just about died and then you had to have the d&c and whatever the other procedure was. Did anybody see that coming? Did the doctors see that coming? No! So you can't say well. They won't let me do it if it's not safe because who knew that near-death situation was going to happen. And on a different vein, I think their marriage is troubled. If you watch the video from earlier this week or last week where they're actually arguing about his weight loss and how he doesn't file the program. I hope that they do not pass the psychological evaluations for IVF and go any further. Their marriage seems to be on a rocky road and I don't mean ice cream

[@TheVixen59]

That smile is 100% Brian.😂❤

[@DaniStroup]

I was gonna say she looks exactly like her dad! That smile especially!

[@TRoxanne55]

Yes I can see sone Mom, but she is a mini me of Brian

[@sl4983]

To me she looks like Dada

[@Teresa7087]

Wow, after the last 2 videos where you talk about difficulties with health issues and weight loss, and you're thinking of bringing another child into this? Of course, it's your choice, but it seems kind of premature to me.

[@bethspangler5731]

You and Tess look more like sisters. ❤ She is an amazing person and you are blessed to have her.

[@penniesfromheavon]

I’m sorry but, Getting cancer isn’t a choice, risking her life for a baby is. I hope you aren’t willing to risk her life just so you can have a second baby. It’s time to count your blessings and move on to another option.

[@PennyMeeker-j8m]

Tess how sweet of you to do this. Giving a Huge Blessing to someone who cannot have children, hope God blesses you for this. It works and you go through it healthy and no complications this time. I think it is pretty neat I will be praying for you all.

[@francinegreenway8451]

My mom had a 15 hour 😊labor with my brother and 3 weeks later hemoraged and ended up in the hospital. 4 1/2 years later I came along and I was a 3 hour labor. My mom was perfectly fine after my birth with No Hemorrhaging ❤

[@sadiebeast97]

You guys are so down-to-earth ordinary and yet so out-of-this-world extraordinary!!!

[@dianependley3193]

You can just feel the compelling desire Tess has to do this … ❤❤ but sometimes in life we have a duty to make decisions for the protection or betterment of our loved ones. Another surrogate may cost you financially but your peace of mind will be priceless! Best of Luck …

[@StancyTalk]

This is one of the big reasons why women who choose home birth should listen up and think twice. There are many many many other reasons, but this is a huge one.❤

[@cheekygrin6258]

Homebithers ate usually low risk and are well informed and know what to do in case of an emergency. Moreover, registered midwives usually carry pitocin and othe drugs to treat situations like hemorhage and are no different than what is used in the hospital. Lastly, hospitals do not automatically prevent tragedies it's a myth.

[@MothGirl007]

Tess almost died, selflessly bringing Elsie into the world. She should never be expected to risk her life again, and none of this makes any sense, at all. 😢 A video in the archives here, entitled "More About Elsie - With Special Guest Tess" makes it clear that having another baby was totally off the table because of the risks involved.

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@MothGirl007]

@@jeffandtesss Some of us are very concerned about you - we care about you and are understandably worried.

[@bonnieweston3719]

Tess my prayers are for you. What ever decisions come out of this I pray all will be safe and best for all involved ❤️

[@heatherbaldwin2099]

Jessica and Brian are not the kind of people to pressure anyone and they for sure would not be on board with this if they felt there were an unacceptable risk here, or if they thought Tess felt pressure in any way. These people are adults and have doctors who are well aware of the medical history here. I'm sure the doctors wouldn't take them as IVF patients if they felt the risks were very high. BTW people who've had a PPH are at higher risk of having another PPH compared to people who haven't, but the absolute risk of recurrence is still pretty low. It is much much more likely that it will not happen again than that it will.

[@MothGirl007]

@@heatherbaldwin2099 I don't think they pressured her - but when you love someone, you are also protective of them. No matter how much Tess wanted to do this, they could have told her no, they would not think of her risking her life again. The doctors didn't see any risk for the last pregnancy either, yet she almost died. Nothing on earth would allow me to let someone I loved risk that again.

[@gailtucker294]

❤❤❤❤❤Thank you but... NO way would I allow Tess to do this again! Tess you are wonderful....If things were different . I know you would do it. But it's not. sooo No please don't.

[@denisespurlock7869]

Take care of yourself, Tess.

[@cynthiadelpozzo4082]

I think Tess needs to do what’s right for her own family , she could have died last time and can’t believe she would take that risk again? You have a beautiful little girl so be happy with that instead of potentially putting your cousin thru another pregnancy 🤷‍♀️

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@MothGirl007]

She needs to think of her own family - they should come first and Jessica and Brian need to focus on their health and enjoying Elsie.

[@jumpinjavajane8253]

Some tough questions (forgive me for asking these but I imagine many others are wondering the same and you said go for it). 1) How does Jeff feel about this 2nd go round? He could lose his wife and mother of the children.... which brings me to question #2. Is financial compensation a motivator? NOMB I know and I don't expect an answer, but otherwise, it does not compute to me. 3) Is it responsible to bring kids into the world before the 5 year 'cancer free' status? I guess last nagging question (for me) would be: Has Tess agreed to raise these children as her own should anything happen to you or Brian and maybe visa versa as well. You are majorly blessed to have a cousin like Tess. We should all be so lucky. Wishing you all well.

[@Sharon-ov6ft]

What about your Cancer and Brian's recent Cancer surgery, barely healed! Neither if you know your long term survival future! Enjoy what you have already been blessed with! Not risking your cousin life, or your children not having parents! Stop the excuses! Face the reality! Love the Blessing Essie!

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

Unfortunately, cancer or not, none of us have any sort of guaranteed future. I assure you we are keeping Tess a priority above all else as we make these decisions.

[@imcnagpc2]

Wow Tess is a true hero. Someone who does something that could be dangerous to help someone else which they don’t Have to do.

[@lorilove9790]

Adoption is a beautiful alternative that would fill your heart. Consider adoption, please. 🙏

[@kasseaboche3872]

Cancer disqualifies them from adoption.

[@sarahsidney1988]

I've been debating since yesterday whether to comment or not. I feel like this is a very personal decision between you two and Tess. I would just advise you to consider your own health concerns (no evidence of disease isn’t the same as being cured, unfortunately) as well as Tess’s health and the well being of your child and possibly future child. From my own experience, I know that when we have a strong desire for a child, we don’t always make completely rational decisions. I've been following you guys for a while now and am very impressed by how you've handled things in the past, as well as by the self-awareness and critical thinking you've demonstrated time and again. I believe you'll make the best decision for yourselves and your family.

[@SharpLife4]

But another kid would give this kid a sibling. So she has someone around

[@pattorelli3451]

What ever happened to waiting five years after cancer before having children? This is especially important in a case where both parents have a cancer history.

[@homeshows]

Amazing that you think your opinions should override what clearly has already been decided after much thought. Let people live their lives in the way they feel best and wish them well and good health.

[@jademusic1211]

​@@homeshowsHello, it's the Internet!😂 You're exhibiting your *own* opinion, too!🧐 People are allowed to express how they feel whether you agree or not, and they're not in the minority, besides. I agree that Tess shouldn't consider doing this, but she'll do whatever she wants, of course. That doesn't mean viewers can't have an opinion one way or the other.

[@karendavidson6272]

Elsie looks so much like Brian , bright shiny brown eyes and smile ❤

[@KarenShady-l4b]

Tess is such an incredible, selfless human !!! I wish you all the absolute very best with baby #2 xo

[@kati-ana]

How wonderful to have a Tess. Such a kind and generous soul.

[@PatW-k7j]

Tess is such a loving person - take it one day at a time. Keep us all updated

[@jodeming5088]

Dear Lord, I never expected to see a video for baby #2 already. Elsie is too darn cute and fast on her feet too. Jess love the haircut. Tess you are absolutely angel to do this. May God bless you all and may your dreams come true. Brian , hope we see you soon.

[@Thrower23]

Wow! Tess! You rock! To be willing to go through ALL of this is amazing besides offering to carry- initially. Of course, you will do the safest thing for YOUR health…but, really, be safe!❤

[@marlene7969]

Tess is a wonderful cousin, and a blessing from God! Such a special loving relationship you have… I am sure that you will research all the options for how to safely proceed, and I am so very touched that Tess wants so much to bless you again! I will be praying that it all works out in the best possible way for all of you. ❤

[@sandrahunt4436]

Praying that all goes well 🙏. Having someone who already loves you and your baby would be awesome ❤❤

[@RoselynHeisen]

I would love to see Elsie have a sibling but I think you need to find another serrogate for baby number 2. With Tess it is just too risky.

[@annfretz2068]

If it’s any consolation…I had PPH with 2 out of my 3 pregnancies due to retained placenta. One in the hospital and one after coming home. With my 3rd pregnancy everything went great. I was told as long has there were no underlying hematological issues I was good. Certainly consult with your OB team and go from there.

[@jeffandtesss]

Yep! That was one of the (MANY) pieces of information considered. It was the retained placenta that caused the PPH, not anything in my body that would definitely be there again.

[@thecamilleshow5415]

This Jess and tess. It's KIND of a normal complication. Serious but normal. Not guaranteed to happen again. If you are enjoying your decisions then don't let all these negative people rain on your parade

[@nancycosgrove4005]

You are so blessed to have each other! What a selfless human Tess is

[@DianaDenton-u8u]

So it is very cool that Elsie has all of ur DNA, what a blessing❤🎉💗💐🌺🌹

[@UntetheredBanshee]

Okay see now it seems like you're testing God's patience though right?! I see y'alls comments. I see you saying that everyone's making a decision clearly and it's not any more risky for anyone than anyone else (which is patently untrue in her case). Being cleared to do something by a medical establishment that doesn't care about women isn't really that impressive. But just the fact that you would even consider risking her life again, when you were so lucky to be blessed the first time safely and BARELY. Do you, But I don't think I can watch the channel anymore knowing that I might be watching a mother of her own children die to risk having another baby for two people who have already almost died in the last couple years like damn. When do you stop and just give thanks? There are a lot of parables about this you guys.

[@elizabethmcbride222]

Tess your baby and husband come first. If you don't make it with baby #2, then your baby is without a mom. It's selfish of Jessica and Brian to ask this of you.

[@suereed3474]

Tess wanted to do it. You're being unkind.

[@tiffee333]

@KrocksInTheKitchen wow I did not realize how much your wee one looks like you! So sweet! I’m praying for your family! I have quite a bit of health problems and I also had Renal Cell Carcinoma of my right kidney. I’m doing well from that and haven’t seen in cancer in my follow-up scans. So glad you’re both doing well and I’m so happy you have your little girl. I’m not able to have children bc of my other health problems and seeing you receive your sweet blessing made my heart happy! ❤🙏🏻

[@esthercarico6640]

So much love between you two ladies. It’s wonderful to see. No matter what happens it will be ok ❤

[@Deb_BG]

Elsie is a little darling! Tess is a hero! Best wishes to all of you.

[@gowanderlustwithme]

What a beautiful unselfish woman. God bless you Tess. You've all been so blessed!❤

[@shamancarmichael5305]

I hope that whatever the outcome you are all, healthy and happy! Your bond is so precious, I'm so inspired by the support and care you have for each other! ❤

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

Thank you! We're so grateful for your kind words! ❤️

[@susanorr8348]

Some women just love being pregnant-i know i did and have 3 beautiful adult children now but my sister had offered to be a gestational carrier for me since i was a DES daughter and had many difficulties with fertility. Turns out i didnt need her -just a different partner. 10 years and a divorce later i met and married my husband, the father of my children and my life is truly blessed.

[@tammysmith1398]

You have a healthy baby girl. That should be enough.

[@ritaconnell41]

Prayers for all of you each step of the way. What an incredible story so far! May every blessing be yours!

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

Thank you ❤️

[@1_viewer]

Thank you for sharing. Tess is a dear cousin.

[@Riograndelily]

This is the order of a Christian marriage. God your Husband and then your children then every one else. Tess, your husband and children come before everyone else. Never put your child's mother at risk they need you, Tess. Blessings

[@debc3060]

You are both so blessed to have such a wonderful and special relationship.

[@petzi3108]

Oh my goodness Elsie is such an adorable Baby😍😍💗💗

[@christinelamb1167]

She's so cute, what a little angel! 🥰👼

[@Rosa-kf6yy]

Elsie is adorable. Prying for the best outcome for all involved, whatever that looks like. 💖 🙏

[@IraAltman-sz1mi]

Jessica I know how much you and Brian would love to have another baby, but please don't put your cousin's health at risk. If something bad would happen to your beautiful Tess you would never forgive yourself. Donna P.S. The picture is my husband, not me. 🤗,s

[@jeffandtesss]

I appreciate your concern. I understand from the outside this may seem risky. Pregnancy itself is always risky and IVF is riskier- no matter who carries the baby. We have all met with several doctors to be cleared to do this again. They would not let me do this again if it could not be safely done. I am 100% the one who is driving this train. Jessica and Brian would never pressure me to do this again. -Tess

[@amielawhorn3537]

@@jeffandtesssGods decision your body your decision ❤ You will do great Tess. If women stopped having babies because of higher risks.. We wouldn’t be here !!!!❤

[@amielawhorn3537]

There is a little flat balloon along the side of the catheter. After the cath is inserted (before the saline is injected in) that little balloon is filled with air to keep the solution in place while they do the test 😊. Hope that helps

[@jeffandtesss]

@@amielawhorn3537 Yep! My cervix kept spitting the balloon out 🤣

[@Cozy_T]

Keeping you all in my prayers! Such an incredible family! God bless you all!❤

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

We truly appreciate any and all prayers we get. 🙂

[@kristenahubbard3338]

She looks a lot like Brian. What a sweetheart.❤

[@narelled159]

All our fingers, paws and toes are crossed that all goes well in a few days. 💜🤗

[@celeste4356]

One of my daughters is a surrogate. Just had a boy & a girl in November for a man in Israel. It was here 4th & 5th. Wishing you all the best.

[@lizlarsen1653]

Where are the grownups? I would have hoped the doctors you consulted would have advised you against this. Being a surrogate, after nearly dying the first time, for two people who already have a very strong chance of cancer reoccurring, is not safe. Is Tess’s husband ready to raise all their kids.

[@tammysmith1398]

It's really easy when you aren't the one to carry a pregnancy and a surrogate goes through all it for you. Her family and children and she takes all the risk for your joy. Seeing as though she went through all that she went through before, she has done her duty.

[@MothGirl007]

It's like there aren't any grownups and it's genuinely scary.

[@littleredbender]

Except that the doctors they consulted said it was okay to move forward. Why is your opinion of greater value than the opinion of medical professionals who actually have examined her, know her history, and have seen her test results? Tess is a competent adult who wants to do this. Who are you to judge her for that? You can't judge Jessica and Brian in this situation without also judging Tess to be unable to make good choices about her own body.

[@jademusic1211]

​​@@littleredbenderBecause this is the Internet, and just like you have an opinion, so does everyone else.🤷‍♀️ It's natural that at least half of the comments point to concern regarding Tess doing this again, and encouraging Brian and Jess to focus on getting healthy and enjoying the baby they have. If they didn't want differences of opinion, they should have kept this *very private matter* to themselves.

[@brittanyevans699]

Love the intro!! Elsie is adorable

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

Thank you ❤️

[@cathybarela4304]

Tess you are an absolute Angel here on earth, bless you and Jessica, I will be praying for the best outcome of your endeavor. Thank you both for sharing your lives. May God keep you close always.

[@ruthlundy4497]

Whew !! Quite an update thank you for sharing .Whatever happens, i wish and pray for nothing but the very best .Gidbkess you all ❤

[@cindys6683]

What an incredible act of love. 🙏

[@robynkoehler1904]

Tess, you are such an amazing person!! What a blessing you are!! ❤

[@gottagit8772]

Gee....Tess is a superwoman for doing all this for you!!!!!

[@whiteraven69]

At the end of the day it’s your choice. However, by putting your life choices on YT , you open yourself to a myriad of opinions . I actually wonder what YT channels will reveal in how people live their lives in the future… ..Because it seems that humanity wants to highlight their life on social media and put themselves out there for monetary and other reasons.. It is a different concept for those of us not born in the time of social media and internet.

[@susanalexander2916]

Loved seeing Elsie. 🩷 Prayers for clear discernment for you all.

[@suereed3474]

God bless you Tess! God bless Jessica and Brian as well. You're all walking angels!

[@kathyjones1078]

Good luck! Elsie sure is a beautiful baby!

[@tammycaballero9856]

I hope the best for you all-fingers crossed!!!

[@larrygizinski9378]

you two are really fun to watch, hope all goes well for all of you.

[@michellekelly2937]

Tess is an absolute angel.

[@ilana423]

Jessica and Brian, this is a very selfish and egoistic idea, and I am sure, or at least hope, deep down, you know it.

[@Teresa7087]

This!!!

[@thecamilleshow5415]

You suck. She almost died. She's living life to the fullest because tomorrow isn't promised. Go judge your own life

[@ilana423]

Ill start with judging yours - you are obviously too stupid to understand how YT works and a a very miserable creature. I have no interest in your idiotic observations.

[@mjking9019]

Good Luck! Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

[@TrishT1900]

Elsie is absolutely adorable ❤

[@bond.5314]

Wishing you all the best no matter what happens, and remember, things don't happen TO you, they happen FOR you

[@susanorr8348]

Elsie is so cute!

[@tamsondarland8951]

🙏🙏🙏 for hoping all upcoming test for Tess turn out positive for carrying second child. Elsie is so precious and love her beautiful smile. Love from Ky sub

[@JaTon]

Prayers for complete healing for Tess. ❤

[@rmakids]

You took me for a ride. At first, with the pretesting, I thought they found that Tess was pregnant! And then with all the "it's bad news" i thought they found cancer!!! Wow. Take care of yourselves

[@KrocksInTheKitchen]

We are so sorry for the rollercoaster of emotions in this video. 😆

[@PennyMeeker-j8m]

ElSiiiiiiii! She precious. I love babies. Peace!

[@theresadavis4885]

Keeping Tess in my prayers!!!!

[@jillGlass-z2g]

Elsie is so darn cute.. would love to c a little more of her in your videos;)))))

[@Rivi_Styx]

Fingers crossed! 🤞

[@sleepycalico]

Happiness and love just radiates from both of you. 🥰

[@aliciav7460]

Tess has such great energy!

[@Its_me--Boo_Radley]

Thanks for sharing! Fingers crossed that everything goes smoothly for all of you. PS. Tess is the best!!!!