6 MONTHS AS FIRST TIME PARENTS: Struggles & Joys of Newborn to 6-Month-Old Baby as a Couple

[@KylieFlavell]

Thank you so much for watching.😊 For those who might comment trying to help before getting through the whole video (understandably - it’s long!), he’s no longer got digestive issues or constipation; three different doctors have said he’s healthy, happy and growing and advised us to continue as we are with the breastfeeding; he’s now eating solids three times a day, taking naps well and going to sleep at night at a regular time… so for now we’re not too worried. But thank you, as always, for your concern.😊🙏🏼

[@sonjavanwalleghem7012]

So glad to hear your son is feeling much better, he is so lucky to have such great ,loving parents. Congrats!!

[@deeoh3708]

Good to hear Kylie. Hope things settle down now for you.

[@bettygirasulo1636]

Great news! So glad to hear Giancarlo is healthy and happy🥰😍❤️

[@joannadavis6716]

So very happy to know that John Franco has matured out of his digestive problems. Such good news❣️you are to be congratulated on your parenting. I know it was a real trial for awhile. Now his maturation is stable and on track, hurrah. God bless you all three. ❤️

[@MyMerryMessyGermanLife]

Yayayayay!! 🎉 what incredible news for you all! All of my babies did so much better once they could start eating solids, too. I hope and pray for you that this will allow you to finally get a good nights’ sleep.

[@parrotheadauthor]

Kylie, I'm a bit flummoxed by all the commenters disparaging you and giving you [unsolicited] advice. Please do not get discouraged. Parenting is difficult; every baby/child is different. Only you know what's best for your family and what is or isn't working for you, Guido, and Gianfranco. Ironically, your experience---Gianfranco's stomach issues, the lack of sleep, the exclusive/exhaustive breast-feeding, the husband who needs more sleep than you do to stay pleasant, etc.----completely reflects my experience with my first child. Somehow we mothers pick ourselves up and muddle through each day, our only goal to help our babies thrive. In fact, just like the trials of pregnancy and child-birth, the sleep-deprivation, the relationship spats, the poop explosions all become distant memories and some of us start the crazy but beautiful cycle all over again (in my case, that meant 3 children under the age of 5) LOL. You and Guido are doing a marvelous job navigating these uncharted waters. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There will be mistakes and there will be victories. My three are now 23, 21, and 18 . . . some still have sleep issues, some still have stomach/digestive issues, but they are wonderful people and brilliant scholars and I am one very blessed mother . . . as are you! Carry on with confidence!!

[@KylieFlavell]

Thanks. Those people seem to be misunderstanding a lot and making some strange assumptions so it’s good to know there are some out there like you. 😊

[@tecora7419]

Thank You for saying that!!! geeze so many comments telling her and him what to do or not…the only ones I agree with including my comment is not to show the baby.

[@bonnieviolette3766]

Kylie, my heart goes out to you. My son was released from NICU after 10 days from a very traumatic birth experience, including an emergency C-section. I found myself sleep deprived because this infant that had so captured my heart was killing me with his feeding schedule of eating every 2 hours. There was a day when I heard him screaming and I couldn't go on. I knew he was safe in his crib; I turned on the shower and got under the running water so I couldn't hear him screaming. While I was showering, he cried himself to sleep. At this point, I moved his crib outside my room and stared letting him cry for a while before going in to check on him. Eventually, he learned to sleep for longer periods of time. Because of his birth experience his needs were different and greater than a more typical birth. I just want to end by encouraging you to listen to your heart regarding your sweet boy's needs. My lovely son is now nearly 34 and sleep has never been important to him. When he was little, he would stand up in his crib after a nap and call out to me, "I'm all done sleeping now." My love to you and your dear family.

[@okienana11]

I remember the sleep deprivation and feel for you. You need to do what is right for your family regarding showing your son and it does not matter what any one else thinks. You are doing amazing.

[@donnasmith3798]

Babies mature at different rates. My first two started sleeping 4-5 hrs (not always at night😂) once they reached 10 pounds. My son, who was #3, did not sleep rhe 4-5 hrs until he was 7 mos old. All 3 ate every 2 hrs while they were awake for the 1st year. It's a crap shoot! Get some sleep whenever er you can. I also did not have my babies close together. I think that's how I survived sleep deprivation.

[@Leila2023_]

my babies were both one month early and the nurse put this immense pressure on me to wake my babies up every 2 hrs to feed them. the first one I tried doing that and I almost lost my mind. the second one I just let him sleep and he was absolutely huge within days, because after his real sleeps he had a super strong sucking ability and was never satisfied... despite them being early and apparently needing feeding every two hours both were amazing sleepers and just wanted to be left alone to sleep at night... I definitely let mine cry, sometimes they'd just stop crying and sometimes not, but when you have to wash and eat and clean etc it's not possible to always pick them up.

[@soniadobricanin4831]

That is sick not to lift baby when he was crying you will burn in hell!!

[@sonnylovesfreddy340]

@@soniadobricanin4831 God is watching you, Sonia, and how you treat your fellow human beings and your hateful words. His wrath will be terrifying on judgement day. Be warned.

[@annbottelli5682]

You are perfectly right to keep your baby off camera. There's too much nastiness in the world. It must be his choice.

[@joanneboty4882]

Exactly. He might not want that exposure ever.

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

I was talking to one of my clients today her daughter's little girl is 6 months old also it's been a huge life changing experience for her daughter and husband. I commend and admire you both for being so transparent and truthful about your experience lol. Babies are a gift from God no doubt you two are amazing parents ❤❤ Happy Mother's Day Kylie ! 🌷

[@LarissaGleissner]

I love this honest and vulnerable conversation between two partners about very sensitive and personal issues. It’s most refreshing and actually inspiring to see and hear. You two are brave to do this and setting a great example, showing that it is hard but possible to respectfully (dis)agree, learn, evolve as a person/oartner and resolve conflict, even though it takes a lot of time, patience and effort from both sides. Well done you two! 👏👏👏

[@KylieFlavell]

😊😊😊

[@irmafernandez2887]

First time parents grow together. Each pregnancy and each child is different. Stay strong, parenthood is not for the weak.❤

[@abigailsanchez9046]

As the mum of two young adults I approached this video without enthusiasm but decided to watch it anyway as I always love your work. How wrong I was! In my opinion this video is a masterpiece on how to work in a relationship not just as new parents but as a couple no matter age. Thank you Kylie and Guido for your sincerity, honesty and generosity. Blessings for your beautiful family and thanks for your work.

[@maryfrench9757]

Kylie, now that he’s more than six months old, you can start giving some solid foods, that might help him sleep longer. Knowing you, you’ll probably make your own baby foods, locally or home grown vegetables and fruits. It’s a lot of fun to see a baby start to eat their first foods, a whole new experience.

[@LAOM3423]

Happy Mother’s Day, Kylie! The first 3 years are very taxing on the parents…..Such a short period of time💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻 you guys can do it!!! Take it one day at a time. Remember your child has joined your lives and not the other way around. You both obviously love each other; you will get through this challenging part of your lives and 3-5 years it will all be forgotten. Becoming parents requires so much sacrifice but it’s so rewarding.

[@cheri-qo4sg]

If I could give you an endless amount of thumbs up, I would. I was engaged to an Italian man, whom I loved very much, and our arguments were usually cultural. I look back and wonder why we argued at all. I love Italians and the way they are, even with all their quirks. I'm so glad that you and Guido are on the same page as far as how to work out situations. You're not alone, Kylie, he is learning and he loves you. I'm 71 and you have been such an inspiration and a guide to me on how it is to be a self-confident, independent, creative and interesting woman. Thank you for what you have shown me.

[@KylieFlavell]

Thank you so much, Cheri. 🥰🥰🥰

[@debbiewright9433]

46:58 your mother raised two wonderful women. Stop reading expert advice. Hear your mother and take her advice. She will always have you and your family’s best interests uppermost in her heart. She loves you listen to her sweet girl.

[@Amy-fk5we]

Trust your gut and your instinct mama, you’ve got this! 👍🏻I learned to forget everyone’s advice and just do what feels right to me. My gut is always right. My son is now 16 months old. He also breastfed every 2 hours till past 6 months. He was chubby and I had enough milk supply for 3 babies 😂 he still has a big appetite. So don’t worry about it. For sleeping, he started sleeping through some nights at 12 months, but he still doesn’t do it every night. Nothing is wrong. Exhausted mom here too but finally starting to feel like myself! Hang in there and trust your gut on EVERYTHING ❤ Happy Mother’s Day 💐

[@darlenemills3942]

Happy first Mother’s Day !! You are doing a great job 💕

[@debrabostwick1246]

The best piece of advise I can give you is that our children grow up in spite of us! You are an obvious conscientious mother who loves and wants the best for her son. Try to remember that the love your child feels from your actions and words will be more lasting than any mistakes made along the way. He is so very lucky to have parents who love him. Enjoy the journey because it will be over faster then you think!

[@srigging]

A beautiful video of two of you preparing a lasagne meal together. I love it! ❤

[@beab5850]

Thank you for protecting your child's life privacy .

[@u-turn8039]

Being consciously available parents is the hardest job and underappreciated job in the world. You both are doing wonderful.

[@connihudson1578]

In our first year, we thought we had to agree on everything! Every situation was a challenge to our relationship. After a year or so, we realized it was okay to have differences of thought. It's okay. We dont need to address every little thing. If feelings were hurt, we did address that, but every thing wasnt an issue. ❤

[@kellyw1629]

Dear Kylie, I first want to thank you. This had to be a really vulnerable video to make. Your life always seems so perfect in every way and your openness here, it’s relieving for lack of better words. In your videos I’ve sat here thinking to myself about how idyllic it would be to have a beautiful home in a beautiful area of the world with a husband perfect in every way who is going through the struggles of being a new parent. Your joy and strength in being a mama and your being so very present as a mama, woman and wife are incredible. The sleep deprivation and exhaustion from nursing is so hard and I feel for you. Be good to you and give yourself the grace you so deserve. Don’t forget your individuality as a woman, if I can give any advice. It’s so, so difficult and almost impossible as a mom…it’s counterintuitive but essential. You’re such a dear soul. As always, all the best to you and your family.

[@Lisamakes]

I remember the sleep deprivation with my first baby- it was torture, and my marriage almost didn’t survive! When she was 13 months old we found out we were pregnant again and the first thing I thought was, “oh no, I can’t go back to that sleep deprivation!” But my second baby was just so much easier. She ate better, she slept better. My husband and I were more experienced and able to deal better than the first time around. I will say that we did sleep train my first at 9 months and it was life changing. I believe it’s good for the baby because they learn to self-sooth. They learn to fall asleep on their own, and put themselves back to sleep in the night. I think that’s a gift to them- their first opportunity to have some independence.

[@vagabondspirit8786]

Parenting is very difficult. Kylie I can feel your exhaustion but at the same time I hear that you do not want to pump and you are not willing to hand the responsibility to get up and feed in the middle of the night to help you. No one is good at it but you learn and adjust. I hope you can learn to share the responsibility. It easier when you can trust your partner to share the burden. You are both going through a very stressful time not only learning to parent but going through the renovation as well. Both of you are handling more then you used to. And can see that Guido wants to do the best he knows how to give you both the best he can and you are are doing the best you can. I pray you both endure and see the beauty of your lives and the blessings. Happy Mother’s Day!! ❤

[@moiragoldsmith7052]

I was either pregnant or breastfeeding continuously for five years...three babies within 3 years. My middle child was like GianFranco...I could not put him down he was so tenacious. But...I loved all of it. It was such a miracle to watch them grow and develop. You had me both crying and laughing in joy and remembrance. Keep loving and supporting each other as you do. Much love to you both... and GianFranco. 💞🙏🌞

[@sheilavidmar5984]

Keep doing what your doing for as long as you choose to do. John Franco doesn’t have to have his face out there for all to see. There are so many nut jobs out there in the world he is better off not being shown. You have said before there have been people that have scared you. Why put this innocent child in a possible precarious situation. As for me I think it’s a wise decision on both your parts by not showing his face. God Bless all of you.

[@sharynhassard1625]

The book "Save Our Sleep" worked miraculously for my daughter n child. I thought it was ridiculous but the reality was incredible. Xx

[@Sarah-zg5qs]

Happy Mother's Day Kylie, just remember Motherhood does get easier as he grows up and understands. Just wait until he asks you questions, it's so precious and so much fun.

[@loloholmes2793]

"Why? Why? Why?" 😂😂 Just wait til he hits the terrible two's and their little personality really starts to develop.😅

[@lenoxlenox9447]

Obviously you’re a first time mother and your position is understandable. However the baby needs space in terms of his digestive system to digest- every 2 hours day and night leads to constipation- which in turns leads to crying. He could be developing a type of diverticulitis even when all his taking is your own milk. Give yourself a break and start a rhythm of 3 hours to reach four. Your mother is right- this practice is not sustainable. As strong as you are- you’re aging faster than him. Try to pump one and feed the next. Then you give your husband a chance to give you a break. You’ll need it to have the strength to raise a child, especially a boy for the next 18 years. Even if at some point you need to be available for a second child, you don’t want to repeat this again. At 6 months children need fruit juice, made by boiling apples, cinnamon sticks, etc. next step clear broth, then mashed/purée veggies, fruit- etc Every one is trying to help you. You’re holding on to some thing that’s not working for any three of you. This should be a joyful time for all of you. Not only space to digest, but dream, wake up, discover, etc. your own anxiety is passed on to him through space and milk. His brain and nervous system needs more than that. Unfortunately, you had an awful experience at the hospital and he was initially fed with antibiotics in your system. Listen to your mother and sister . We ALL care for you and the welfare of your family 💕🌸🌻🍀

[@sandralevi2915]

Good point!!! 👍👍👍

[@sandralevi2915]

My sister never fed her infants at night, and they managed to sleep all night through until like 5 or 6 am… And they all in good health…

[@maureenbyrne9676]

❤

[@kyciarelli3847]

Your comment about not feeding every two hours is complete BS. While I do agree that at 6 months old, a baby should be able to go longer, some babies don’t. Breast milk is protective and pure and will not lead to diverticulosis … that is a completely unsubstantiated claim!

[@sheree76]

@@kyciarelli3847 The cons outweighs the pros in this case.

[@stacyjarvis8086]

Very honest and intimate conversation. Family support is a blessing when raising children. Can't wait until your parents return.

[@lirazdemasure936]

Kylie, I just wanted to send warm hugs. I've read here some nasty comments from people that don't know you, and think that from one video of 30 minutes per week the figured out your whole life. So first of all, just wanted to send a hug and tell you that you're doing great. Being parents for the first time is difficult. And I think that what even more difficult than dealing with the new baby, is the amount of "advise" you will get from the rest of the world. Every child is different, and you are doing your best. Thats' for sure. I think that the decision not to show his face is very smart. Most of the people who watch the videos are good hearted, but the world is full with bad people, you need to protect yourself and your loved ones. You are a smart loving mother and I'm sure you are doing what is right for your family. Btw, about the wine, living in Europe, it is perfectly normal to drink wine with food or after dinner, over a few hours on weekends as well (in fact, me and my husband are on our way to a wine tasting :D ). It's just unbelievable the level of nastiness people allow themselves to react. Much love!

[@KylieFlavell]

How sweet you are to leave me this support. Don’t worry, I’m used to nasty strangers. Fortunately, the majority are lovely souls like you. Enjoy your wine tasting! ♥️

[@pedinurse1]

Don't know how ANYONE can make nasty comments about Kylie or Guido. Gosh so many nasty people out there

[@Rayleneg1]

I have fallen more and more in love with my husband because he is so involved with every aspect of our son from day one. He cooks, cleans, and helps with everything. He is going to be a wonderful example for our son and I think it's very important that the father's demonstrate this role. When you said the bar high for each other and meet those expectations, the relationship grows and flourishes. Communication will always be first, but it should never fall completely on the mom to take care of the child.

[@trinarenae8625]

Every child is unique… as well as the dynamics of the two parents involved. The best way to do anything is to do what works for “your family”❣️ My two children were VERY different from one another. My son (my first born) simply did not sleep. He wasn’t fussy, he just didn’t sleep much (therefore I didn’t sleep much). My daughter on the other hand was a wonderful sleeper. You will find “your way” 😘❤️

[@teresacaso8355]

My daughter had to return to work after 61/2 months. She chose to sleep train as she wasn't receiving the sleep needed to function outside of baby duty. The first night aged her a few years, but the second night was more manageable. He quickly went to sleeping 10-11 hours a night, every night. He is now 13 months old and a very healthy and happy boy. He has developed good sleeping habits that provide deep rest. Mama and daddy have a couple hours of alone time every evening...an added +. I would recommend.

[@betsyarnoldlmt]

Happy Mother’s Day Kylie. I work as a nanny . My boss hired a night nurse to feed the baby at night. It was very helpful and the baby was sleeping through the night after about 6 weeks. but, even if you could have one for two weeks & let the baby try some formula , it would help you get some sleep. PLEASE makes some changes to get sleep , I’m worried about you.

[@i.heart.chianti]

Agreed! I both breast and bottle fed because my first child had an unquenchable thirst. After months of feeling helpless, I finally supplemented a bottle after breastfeeding, and our world changed for the better. You're not a machine, and at times, formula is necessary.

[@MyMerryMessyGermanLife]

Oh Kylie, I feel so much for both of you. Your experience as a mother began with a super rough start with the experience you had in the hospital. Then for Gianfranco to be crying so much and not sleeping well, and the illnesses you’ve had. This has been a super tough and intense 6 months for your family. All while you’re trying to navigate being new parents. You’re trying so hard out of love for your baby. I saw a video the other day where a guy said that the time from when a woman is pregnant to when the baby is about two years old, the marriage should not be (and cannot be) 50/50. That the man must do everything he can to support his wife in healing from pregnancy and birth, breastfeeding, and giving up her entire body and soul to keep this child alive. It’s so true! We need extra care from our partners during that time as it is SO intense. We cannot do it on our own. We don’t have super powers - we’ve just had to force ourselves to do more as men traditionally did so little to support their wives. Thankfully times have changed (as women have demanded it). Anyway, being in Italy, where the patriarchy is still alive and well, I’m sure that’s a tough energy and culture to overcome. I’m just so sorry it’s been so hard for you all. I’ve been there and it can feel so dark, lonely and desperate sometimes. You are such a loving mother and it’s obvious you’re doing all you can. 💕

[@ehpeachylove]

Happy Mother’s Day Kylie. As a mother from long ago and breast fed my son, I remember the sleepless nights, walking, rocking , singing, warm baths, watching a baby sleeping at times before being able to sleep yourself. Lucky you have Guido as I did it alone and no family around. You both are doing a fine job, even in the rough patches. Marriage is not always easy, and many give up, takes work, communication and patience, compound this with a baby adds another layer. It’s always a learning process all of life. Acceptance and communication go into it. It sounds to me like your both saying some of the same things but in a different way too. Supportive and showing love, care, empathy, and communication is a must and breathe. I’ve enjoyed your talk to us today. I love your view on what a child should experience. I was a single mother who had to work but I showered a lot of love in my son and he is 47 now and thanks me for all that I gave him in love, being there for him and just so appreciative… Gian Franco and any future children will be happy with you both as parents. Some children are not as fortunate. God bless you both and your baby boy. At six months old it might be a good time to add a bit of rice cereal with the breast milk with the evening bottle. I made my own baby food too and it was amazing and rewarding . Please leave you child as private as far as showing his face in line. It’s best for his safety and yours too. Your job as parents is to protect him always . Keep doing as you are doing. ❤❤❤❤❤ Much love to you both! And Gian Franco is perfect just the way you are sharing him. Peace and love.

[@doglover7017]

My grandchildren are 10 and 7 and their parents have been very intentional about keeping them off of social media. Initially as an Oma I wished I could share images of them, but now I’m very grateful that they’ve been preserved from that world. They are not at all influenced or informed by social media and I hope they can continue to do so as long as possible. All the beautiful moments still happen and they live in our memories and my journal and that is lovely.

[@jolynnhobbs6654]

The most beautiful, sleep deprived Mother that I've ever seen. Just stunning! Wishing you some restorative naps very soon!

[@flyingcheff]

Guido: "Let's DO another child." Oh dear, I couldn't stop laughing for a long time! Oh, what a job! Fabulous daddy! You two are so delightful! Happy happy Mothers Day Kylie. ❤❤❤

[@2Sugarbears]

Me too I feared murder was imminent. No I am sure Kyle knew he was joking. But it did make me bark a laugh.

[@sallytaylor1967]

The night before our wedding weekend, we walked and talked and decided that we were invested in this marriage forever - no matter what. We agreed that we would never say “maybe we should just quit, or I want out. Divorce would not be an option. We are celebrating our 45th anniversary soon, so I think we kept these promises and they served us well. Instead of threatening to leave, our first thought would be, “ok, what can we do to solve this or help each other feel better?” Our energies immediately went to the positive, not to fear because one might leave. To us, that is fair, positive “fighting “. But honestly, we really didn’t fight much. We could always talk it through. We had a couple of very emotional conversations due to teenage behavior that was hurtful to the child and the family and left us absolutely depleted and concerned what to do next. For me, the baby years were a walk in the park compared to the teen/early college years!! But knowing you are a committed partner immediately clears those deeply hurtful threats away, and opens up positive ideas to come forth immediately. Always talk, always be kind. Never say hurtful things if you can help it. If parents have a strong, committed relationship, children will feel it and be confident in their love.

[@martinethevenau69]

I loved watching this raw, honest and vulnerable conversation about your journey with Giafranco. I appreciate you both keeping your privacy and intimacy surrounding your baby and not exposing him fully to the world. Motherhood is a gift, blessing and sacred. You are giving him the best life and he can only grow into a beautiful and balanced adult. I pray he starts a better sleep routine so you get much deserved rest. 🙏❤

[@dianam9848]

WHY WHY WHY. Every two hours, of course he's constipated, of course you can't sleep. Please say why you think he has to eat every two hours. Use a pacifier. He just wants to suck. I hate plastic too, but there are silicone pacifiers. Feeding is 4-6 hours at this age. Yes, I did have a baby, and everyone slept all the time since the first night. We had to take her to the doctor to see why she slept 20 hours a day. Now she's a tall genius teenager.

[@caroldefilippo456]

I had the best of both worlds, an adopted child and a biological child so I had the honor to bottle feed one and breast feed the other. I loved having the opportunity of doing both and was I able to bond equally with each baby and both babies were healthy !!!! That being said , You are trying to be superhuman …. Feeding every 2 hours all day and night seems to me way too much … no wonder why you’re sleep deprived. If you’re not well , the baby senses your frustration and tension ! YOU NEED SLEEP !!!! ,… Allowing help from you husband by bottle feeding ( w/ breast milk) does not mean you’re bad mother …. This not only allows Dad to have some bonding time with the baby, it will allow you time to catch up on your sleep. Honestly, the baby will not suffer from it , Sometimes I think you’re making it more difficult for yourself….. My advice to you is to try not to over think things, relax and enjoy the process.

[@lisakates7828]

I had the same experience, every two hours. I was also exhausted. I think breast feeling is an individual experience for mother and child. I have learned things have their natural conclusion. As someone said, Jean Franco will not be in bed with you when he's 10. He will also wean, and you will look back on these exhausted days with nothing but beautiful memories. After about 18 months, my husband and I went away, and left him with my mom. He did fine! You're a lovely mom.

[@janemerves7682]

You’re wise to keep him off camera. It’s your right to privacy and it’s certainly safer. You and Guido are such good and thoughtful parents. Your child is very blessed to have you as parents.

[@tamiloucks8018]

I personally loved hearing Guido speak about his respect for the importance of mothering, caregivers, and teachers. He also acknowledged that he was brought up in a chauvinistic environment which can definitely have an impact on the perceived roles of parenting. To be aware and conscious of this definitely a positive! Kudos for that Guido! I also love that he sits down with you for these discussions. He must be loving everything about what has been happening because he is happy to have another child! You two are such a great couple and are doing all the best for your beautiful baby boy! Love all of your videos and thank you for sharing such personal parts of your life experience with us!

[@blakehahn-atlantaga8510]

Wonderful conversation Kylie and Guido. As a mother of 4, I can tell you the first born rocked my world! Then I relaxed and realized God would and did give me the wisdom I needed to take care of my babies. I began to trust the instincts that were inside. You and Guido are amazing. GianFranco is blessed.

[@deannenicoloso308]

Kylie, I had eight babies, and was always either studying or working full time. Tried controlled crying with the first, now think it is inherently wrong. Ended up co-sleeping /breastfeeding all of them. If you can master breastfeeding while you sleep everything is manageable. I think post natal depression is mostly lack of sleep.

[@EmilyBoltz]

There were two points you made that were so profound to me. The point about loving your child and teaching independence. To teach your child to look at problems as a project is a wonderful way to give them the confidence they need. Instead of solving the issue the first thing that you say can be "so how would you approach this problem?" My parents were very loving but they were problem solvers and I can see where that left me more fearful and I will admit a bit lazy. My good friend shared how she taught her kids to peel away the onion and not to fear road blocks. All three of her kids are loving, well adjusted and very successful but most important, they view life's obstacles as -for lack of a better word, doable. Your stance on keeping your children out of social media was so spot on. I never thought about how he might feel reading comments no matter how old about himself or even reading about his mom and dad. This was really a wonderful conversation to get to listen to. You are both wonderful people and it shows in your parenting.

[@Ceelle2]

All the first-time parent concerns certainly have been amplified by the little one's digestive issues. I hope those issues are resolved soon or lessen so you can find some restorative sleep. My first year of motherhood was difficult, but we both got through it and she just treated me to Mother's Day lunch today! Love her so much. (Even though I am still catching up on sleep 29 years later...LOL). And yes...continue to protect your son's privacy. Good work.

[@cirelo1896]

Have you guys looked into tongue tie? After your last video I was reflecting on your difficulty with breastfeeding and colic and I happened to talk to a friend the same week who was describing similar issues as you shared. She said that releasing a tongue tie in her infant really helped with the constant nursing because he wasn't nursing efficiently and also took in a lot of air nursing.

[@rebeccazahn5299]

As a nurse, I’ve seen this many times. Thanks for recommending. In the USA it is challenging to find a physician that treats it. Typically, a holistic dentist or oral surgeon (hard to find specialist but it’s becoming more prominent).

[@cirelo1896]

Do you have any theories why it would be increasing? I have heard of it more and more in the last 5 years. Hadn't ever heard of it 15 years ago when I started having kids.

[@ingridnh1]

Happy Mother’s Day Kylie! Marriage by itself takes work and when you throw a baby into the mix things can get even more challenging. You and Guido seemingly understand how to work through conflict and finding solutions to situations, although it can be difficult. As long as you approach your arguments with love and respect for each other than all will work itself out. Really great insight into your thoughts on parenting and marriage! ❤

[@kflecha1]

I love when Kylie post a new video ❤

[@krissysacher9264]

I love your honesty in sharing your process. This is life! You are doing a fantastic job. My mother in law called these times you are going thru the “ the heavy lifting years”. Grace and true interest/curiosity, about what the other is going thru will go along way. Thank you💕

[@andreaault6215]

Guido obviously has good values, morals and intentions towards relationships. He loves you very much! ❤ 👩‍❤️‍👨 ❤

[@BeBeautyFull55]

Happy Mother's Day Kylie. I'm sending you love and encouragement on those days you feel alone. Remember, your higher self is always with you to guide always in the right direction. You are a strong, beautiful and capable couple that have taken on many challenges. I send you nothing but love and blessings.

[@jodyzeman4793]

You both are doing a great job of being parents. When the child is so young, the mother ends up doing the most for the child while the father supports her and the baby. He will grow and change and you won't remember how sleep deprived you were. Happy Mothers Day!

[@kristiecox7350]

You guys are too freaking cute!!! ❤ Happy Mother’s Day Kylie. Ps, you guys had remodeling going on when you were pregnant too. So that put extra pressure on you guys. Plus Covid You guys have gone through a lot in such a short period. Love your honestly! ❤ Guido really explains his side, I love it. It’s nice having someone who communicates, you’re a lucky gal Kylie. Although I’m sure you learned how to get people to talk because your parents are so awesome! ❤

[@KylieFlavell]

♥️♥️♥️♥️ Thanks Kristie!

[@vilmabock478]

You are wonderful parents and beautiful people. 💝

[@MadelineinFL]

Their are others on KZbin whose children's faces are not publicized either. Be true to you...never fold to the pressure. You're right. Protect your sweet baby. ❤

[@camifromri2129]

Your honesty and transparency is much appreciated. I really hope the baby starts sleeping soon.

[@louisamilani8762]

I feel for you both - my eldest suffered like this for the first 9 months. Continue staying positive and appreciative. You will look back on this oneday and perhaps help another family going through a similar thing. I had my first daughter at 22 and now she is almost 21. Time goes by so quickly. Take care and Happy Mothers Day!

[@sarahstorey8492]

How refreshing your honesty is. I had three boys in four years. I filmed the good and bad. They are now in their 20s and they can’t believe how difficult it was. We are so close and it was worth every bit of despair. My husband and I were and still are a team. ❤

[@meditatetoelevate4447]

You are taking sooooo much Kylie , please prioritize yourself

[@shannalamb3853]

I also so respect and commend you for your choice of not show your boys face on camera. More common sense and thought for his future that would not cross most people’s minds! So proud of you!

[@leonardniamh]

You two clearly love each other I can imagine it's scary but the way both your personality trees are growing is beautiful

[@vannessa7636]

Kylie! Please look up foremilk versus hind milk. My breastfeeding situation was similar. Until I had a breakthrough with a very experienced lactation consultant. What she said is that by feeding so often, the baby is used to that quick flow of the foremilk (the milk that first is expressed from the breast). They fill up with this quick flowing milk and if their latch isn’t the best they ingest air which in term gives them gas. The baby needs to get the hind milk (thicker milk that comes at the end and really drains your breast). That milk is satiating and tummy soothing. Also, consider not feeding from both breasts at each feed. Encourage one full breast per feed. This way the baby empties the entire breast (foremilk and hind milk). Feed with the other breast at the next feeding. This method changed my and my daughters nursing experience. It fixed her gas and belly issues. Lastly, I’m not sure if you eat a lot of dairy but the protein from dairy passes your breast milk and may irritate baby’s belly.

[@soniabayer578]

You are both beautiful beyond words! And an active Bambino! What a joy to listen and follow you both!! Pure joy!

[@denisetopaz1598]

If it's any consolation, Kylie, my nephew screamed bloody murder for the vast majority of his first year of life. After that, he became the most easy-going, calm child you could imagine. And he's super-intelligent. Hope this is the case for you!

[@KylieFlavell]

Thanks Denise!

[@TheBluebellMoon2]

Guido is such a dedicated father. You can see how much he loves his son. He has to handle the home renovations, work & family responsibilities. 👏👏👏👏👏👏 Happy Mother’s Day 🫶

[@g10t10]

I feel like we're listening to a counselling session. A good one filled with hope, commitment, and love.

[@flyingcheff]

I will keep paying, and I'm going back and binge watching every one of your videos from the beginning, and "liking" every one. Please take a break for 3 months or more. Burnout is dangerous. ❤

[@Canetracker92]

There may come a time when you don’t enjoy or have enough time for these videos, and that’s ok. You do what works for you.

[@tc7486]

You’re correct Kylie, women heal simply by being able to talk about their problems and feelings. To be heard. That is the thing that fixes things for them. And men do think they have to fix things. That’s straight out of the book “Men Are From Mars Women Are from Venus”.

[@rosemariedeschenes7013]

Wishing you a more peaceful 6 months with more sleep. Thank you for this truthful conversation ❤❤❤You both are wonderful parents and you will get through it. Hopefully your son’s digestive issues resolves soon. Don’t apologize for not posting a vlog. Your family and your health always,always come first. We’ll be here awaiting your next vlog whenever it appears. Beautiful filming as usual. Thanks for sharing a part of your beautiful life 😍😘

[@KylieFlavell]

Thank you very much, Rosemarie.

[@Gajdacsi61]

You are so wise with your decision not to show baby's face. We admire you all the more for not exploiting your child to get more views.

[@Comokiwi]

Good on you preparing his food yourself and pureeing it - you won’t regret this extra effort and clearly it’s bringing you a lot of joy!

[@KylieFlavell]

So much joy! 😍

[@sharronr]

Kylie, you have been doing it all. Mothering, nursing, cooking, baking, renovating and doing it all with no sleep. You are so driven but maybe you need to concentrate on your baby and getting sleep. Let the rest of it go until you have gotten through this season. I agree that adding some solid food might help.

[@judithrussell9162]

I really appreciate how principled you are about what you share, particularly Gianfranco’s face. Nothing belongs to us, it is your real life, we just observe and enjoy from time to time.

[@deborahhagner5508]

I have followed you for so many years .....and watched you grow into this beautiful mature mother!!.. Before you got married ..you were just this young woman finding herself ...there were tines I watched uou fior 10 minutes and then switched to another channel...but now..I watch all ur episodes to the end.. and love them all...!!!. Just showing u holding ur baby and not revealing his face.. is enough for ur viewers.. to see...let him experience the innocents of life with his parents ... Keep up the great work and congratulations to ur new life...Bravo👏👏

[@esthervonepp8908]

My motto is ...marriage IS NOT a competion sport...it is a bicycle ride..both wheels must work together in harmony...when one goes flat you repair it.Enjoyed your vlog. I believe children are not being taught the basics..respect,tolerance and manners in the way many of us were taught..its very sad.When I had my babies we were told that the most beneficial milk was produced in the first 3 months...I stopped breast feeding at 4 months and my babies thrived. There is no real harm in trying a formula or substitute perhaps in the evening to see if he sleeps better and thus you will also

[@Rayleneg1]

You are an angel Kylie. You are giving your all to child and its beautiful. Plesse make sure to get rest.

[@joannadavis6716]

John Franco has wonderful, humble parents❣️

[@danielbrunner5878]

Guido tip: you’re interrupting Kylie just before she finishes her thoughts. My wife hated when I did that so I’ve gotten much better about letting the idea out and then sharing after. Just add a smidge of patience in there to let her feel heard instead of you doing the “fixing”

[@aixariveraalicea7989]

As a retired counselor I have 2 suggestions that may help with some of the topics u have discussed. One is when a couple is trying to sort things out communicating hurt, anxiety, or frustration, the other partner can try asking that person " what do u need"? The other can then just say i just need to vent or just validation or just verbal support or i need more help around the house, etc. I think that phrase " what do you need ? " can be a life saver. And you are right about women in general there is an inclination they have in to vent and just want support and/ or validation versus a person to come fix the matter. I counseled women for over 20 years. Also regarding where to find studies i will leave you a link to a place where counselors go to look them up; however, they tend to have alot of scientific terms and may be bit difficult to understand, but anyway, i suggest you go to the end and read the part titled "discussion" which i think is better than the summary they have on the first page. Should u be very interested in one that u cannot understand feel free to send me the link to it directly and i might be able to help. Let me refresh my memory with the link to these studies and get it to u.

[@EverydayArtistStudio]

Kylie you are doing a great job. Know that the lack of sleep is causing reversible neurological damage and cut yourself some slack in your day to day. Lack of sleep shrinks the neurons so they don’t connect like they used to. This can cause depressive symptoms BUT With eventual SLEEP these will come back. Be patient and kind to yourself. This too shall pass!

[@mariab3725]

Kylie, just want to send you the warmest hug. You are the best possible mum for your son. I have two kids and both were such different but equally exhausting experiences through the first year of each. They both drain and fill up my cup every day. It’s the hardest but the best time.

[@janinar2344]

I love how you trust your instincts on the whole sleeping matter. My little boy is a few months older than Gianfranco and the first months were really hard, sleep-wise. We just knew that sleep training wasn‘t the right path for us and we kept motivating each other by saying that he‘s just giving us signs that he needs us and so we want to give him what he needs for him to feel safe and secure. And I know that with sleep-deprivation comes a lot of terrible fighting, I really felt that when you said in the worst moments you were feeling stuck in the situation, with your husband, and being a mom. I hope we’re heading in a good direction in our relationship, and I‘m sure you two can do it, especially if you keep being such a force of positivity. Sending you lots of strength, maybe you can do a video on cooking for babys ☺️ if he eats well, I‘m sure the nights are going to get better. At least I made that experience. I also just love seeing my little boy‘s huge appetite and I‘m really greatful that eating was never a problem. He never wanted formula, but when we started mixing it with cereal flakes and a little fruit he couldn’t stop eating that and I think thats when he started sleeping way better - maybe you want to try that ❤️

[@ertiebassy3612]

Yes, being sick and having a small child or baby is a very, very low point as a mother. It was for me too. Kylie, I am also someone very harmony-needy. Fighting with my partner sometimes still does affect me on a physical level (for instance immediate stomache ache). Rememer when you have child your relationship will never be 50-50 again. In addtion, your husband is of a culture where "mother expected to do everything". Great that you are examining your conflict styles and telling him what you need is very important. Equally important is that he is open to change or more self-aware. Until you are satisfied with the way you have your conflicts, no more children. Also on this point, please find a better hospital than last time. Your experiences in Italy are a real eye opener.

[@bloomingpetals9290]

The interrupting each other is not good. I’m happy you shared this part of your life. Thank you.

[@flyingcheff]

It's night and day for a mother with a young baby to not have to work (for all the livelihood), to have the support of a partner AND family....there is NOTHING like that luxury.

[@greenshp]

I so enjoyed this video. Thank you both for sharing so much of yourselves. This was just delightful. I hope Guido knows that the fans appreciate his words and thoughts as well.

[@sonnylovesfreddy340]

I'm sure that you have pressure on your to create content and keep feeding the KZbin algo, as this is an important part of your business. And while I personally love everything you put out and love the small glimpses into your life, I'm thinking talking about this online is likely not going to go well in the long term. I'm so happy to see that people are mostly positive and supportive on here but I do hope that you do not read these comments as there is such a mix of opinions and suggestions that it must be confusing and overwhelming. Yes, it is wonderful when Creators we love share their ups and downs, but this much exposure to other's opinions is not something human beings are built for -- its abnormal to have so many strangers know and comments on the most intimate parts of your life-- and the stress you are feeling is evident in all of your content. Maybe take this offline, and ask that people respectfully let you live your life and work through motherhood in privacy. There is no shortage of New Mom content online. People that share the good and the bad. If your viewers want that sort of content they can just find another channel for the particular aspect. You don't owe us that kind of access. You don't have to be one of them if it doesn't add to your life. And I can't imagine that having the internet opine endlessly on your mothering and your relationship is a positive or joyful experience -- no matter what the comments may be. The internet is typically a hell hole....maybe shut the door on it for this part of your life. I, for one, would be happy with just recipe videos or just seeing the house renos and the changing seasons of your beautiful homeland. Protect yourself. Protect your relationship .Protect your baby. Protect your motherhood. The world is not yet mature enough or kind enough to give all of us random strangers this kind of access. No matter how many comments or views it generates.

[@crisnemitz1606]

Hi Kylie, I think you have found a very good balance with how much you show his face. As you both said "you're figuring this out as you go". I watch another channel who are doing exactly what you are. He is present in their videos, but we don't see his face. It's beautiful seeing you light up when you are speaking about cooking for him. Food is definitely you're love language! ❤ In regards to sleeping and self soothing. I cannot remember where I read this, but the author talked about how we as adults feel secure and comforted by having our spouse next to us in the middle of the night. How can we possibly expect these babies to not feel lost at times. You have to listen to your instincts. As his mother, you know if he's in pain or genuinely hungry. I could never have stood by if my babies were screaming alone in their crib. A few minutes fussing is one thing. Several minutes of full blown crying is completely different. I believe children feel secure when they know that you are there whenever he needs you. Babies are too young to "be spoiled" in my opinion. The bottom line is you and Guido have to do what feels right for your family. Every child is different. Each of your children will be different. You are doing a wonderful job. This is a season of your life. Every season has wonderful moments and difficult moments. The most important thing is knowing you wouldn't change a thing in the end. Sending love, peace, and sleep! 🙏❤

[@janetreed7223]

My husband is the same he always tries and fixes things but all I need is to offload. In one year I stopped work got married changed my surname, moved and had a baby 😳🙃 My life changed so much as I lived a very carefree life flying overseas as a living. My husbands life didn't change that much. I always say "my husband cut my wings but my son chopped them off" It took me a few years to find myself again as I " Doug's wife or Ian and Samantha's Mom". I love being a wife and mother but it was definitely a BIG adjustment. I thank my parents everyday for being so amazing and supportive. 🙏🏻🇬🇧🇿🇦😊

[@beccavry]

Such an interesting conversation! You all are finding your way so beautifully, exactly as it should be. What a gorgeous journey!

[@lorrainelonardo975]

My mom told us if your child is wanting to be breast fed every two hours, it’s possible he needs supplant with formula. It really works!!!

[@dianegriffith3006]

Agree-just a tiny bit of milky loose pablum or baby oatmeal lines their stomach so they feel fuller and sleep better-or so I’ve heard. I’m a 77 year old grandma but I read or heard about this. Hopefully there’s truth to this. When my son was tiny I stopped nursing him at 6 months maybe earlier. He was a fussier baby. At the time. All did work out just fine.

[@bloomingpetals9290]

💯

[@kyciarelli3847]

You may be trying to help with this comment, but telling a breastfeeding mama that she should supplement with formula without having the expertise and detailed knowledge of the situation can be extremely insulting to the mama (Kylie).

[@mariademasi1760]

I had 3 baby boys in 2 years and i totally understand what its like to not get enough sleep My husband was always supportive and helpful and with great communication our boys are very loving and healthy men that remember all the sacrifices we made for them.

[@bev-bt9lb]

You are completely correct in keeping your sweet boy’s face hidden. It’s a scary world. He will thank you in the future for protecting him.

[@auramartin7902]

thank you so much for sharing your heart, your family, and your HONESTY! I have been pregnant right alongside you, and our baby turned 10 weeks old today. It's been such a treat to share motherhood with you too! Happy Mother's Day Kylie!

[@VivianWright-sb6tn]

You guys are doing great! Communication is the key. The fact that you all are so honest and open is no doubt helping others. Well done! ❤

[@sandragoss48]

Yes, the key is stay in the present moment to truly enjoy that moment. Don’t worry about tomorrow or be overwhelmed about what happened yesterday. Learn to let things go, especially an issue that is not really important. ❤

[@AC-yg7bo]

Kylie my husband and I had the exact same experience as you and Guido. I nursed my son for a year, he nursed for an hour at a time and slept less than an hour in between. This was 24 hours for the first 4 months, then he would sleep between 2-3 hours in between. After 9 months he was sleeping at 3-4 hours in between. Everyone’s experience seems to be different. I must say if I had to hear him cry for hours that would break me, that takes iron strength I feel great empathy for your experience. The kind suggestion to pump annoyed me, as it was impossible with the feeding schedule. There were days when I hardly had time to eat and my milk supply was low and I would cry because I didn’t have enough for my son. I felt inadequate and selfish. When I was at my most deprived of energy I would burst out at my husband. I just needed someone to burp him and rock him to sleep, the only time I would have help is when I physically couldn’t get out of bed. On top of motherhood responsibilities I was working 30 hours per week from the time my son was 2 months old. My breaking point was at seven months, my energy was drained, I had to bring my son to bed with me. I didn’t have to get out of bed to nurse him. It helped me sleep a little and have just enough energy to somehow go on. My son is almost two, he’s the light of our life. Still used to sleeping with me. During the roughest first year after every argument my husband would promise he would help more, failed attempts 😂. He’s someone who needs more sleep than me to function. I accepted it as there was no energy to argue. We got through it. We have a sweet and kind loving happy two year old. It’s still difficult as life does sort of stop for at least a few years until they can communicate and are more aware. Eventually you and your partner get your groove back. Right now this time is all about the baby, your time together will come again.

[@patriciaosborne3230]

You both are such sweet parents and lovely people. It's nice to see you both relaxing in your beautiful room. You both have worked so hard to create a good life for yourselves. You are blessed.