How Do You Choose Your Outfit? Questions You Always Wanted To Know About Blindness | Honesty Box

[@ladbiblestories]

The RNIB & LADbible would like to thank Tobes for sharing his insights and being so honest.

[@elusivelectron]

Is there any way we can ask him if he enjoys going to concerts and what that experiemce is like for him?

[@vincytreasure]

Toby: nah... I don't have heightened senses Also Toby: understands speech at x5 speed

[@yianna147]

literally

[@jenniferpardue16]

and plays blind football which requires echolocation...

[@kevinsundelin8639]

You could too with some practice, it's all about adapting when you lack one of your senses and on-screen reading is very efficient for people with impaired vision.

[@xena439]

My husband's partially sighted and uses a screen reader at a super fast speed so when he plays it out loud I can't understand a single word of it and I have to tell him to translate for me lol.

[@donnadeaville7558]

I think you and ty he others who liked your comment need to sort out your moral compass if you have one, with a comment like that

[@theskilled99]

Sexually assaulting a blind person who asks you for help is about as low as it gets. If you are listening to this comment Tobes im so sorry this happened to you.

[@sjb2471]

Right? It’s honestly hard to think of something more predatory and vile

[@Mr.LevelUp.]

Honestly some sick people in this world.

[@hamsterclamper]

What a charming young man

[@susanhiggins6488]

I should imagine his mum and dad are so proud of him . I would be if he was .y son ❤

[@missygermaine]

are we not gonna talk about speaking speed of his phone translator? thats remarkable lol (and omg, he chokes when he talks about how grateful he is to be still alive, got my tears running, very inspiring.)

[@hunterG60k]

Yeah, and he jokes about not having super hero like senses lol

[@klbriceno1]

I was thinking the same thing.. our senses are the same? nu uh,. I can't understand what that reader was saying at all. lol.

[@tiger1976]

He doesn't understand how amazing he is...

[@joshstorrie9443]

Or that he's wearing a watch

[@ruelongcha]

right?? i was a nerd who spent her high school years on the debate team where we’d spend hours speaking and listening at about 2-3x rate of normal speech (put a youtube vid on 2x and you’ll hear it’s pretty quick). but the voice to text he’s able to understand so easily is still gibberish to me even after all those years of training haha

[@AlgorhythmKid]

I was in my own world a few weeks ago and I spotted from "my perception" a very confident blind women. What I observed though, was that she'd got herself turned around and started to panic slightly. I approached her and stood in between her and the road and asked if she was ok. She reached for me as people walked by. She said "I live her, but can't find my crossing!". All it was that confused her, was a construction post that's not normally there was literally a few metres before her crossing and she mistook it for the lamppost she regularly turns at. She took my arm and I walked her all the way home. We had a lovely chat. Whenever I walk by there, I always look for her.

[@fionaH101]

You're the kind of person the world needs more of. Bless you.

[@kevinsundelin8639]

It's sad construction crews are never taught how to account for this. I fear it has and sadly, will continue to, end up hurting or even killing some blind people.

[@whatintheheck4692]

When I lost my husband, he was a donor and his corneas were donated to a blind person so that they could see. He was able to help 80 people by being a donor.

[@AmazingRebel23]

Didnt even kno that was a thing. Hardcore.

[@VintageVegans]

What does that have to do with this video?

[@HenryNewbury]

That's amazing, what a great legacy ❤

[@IceTTom]

No one is going to ask the obvious? How did he help 80 people with one set of eyes?

[@VintageVegans]

@ I assume they were able to use a lot of organs and parts of his body. But that does seem extreme.

[@annazann7236]

"Are you other senses heightened? " "No" - and yet you pick up the full sentence read with super speed in no more than 2 seconds! This is surely above average. 🙂

[@keshudioo]

What an eloquent, likable man with a great sense of humor.

[@ArtiomRomanov]

You’re smart, you’re interesting, you’re handsome, you have a great sense of humor, great sense of self, you’re full of life, your disability is going to be a tiny little hiccup in your life, young man. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@spaceballsthechannel4153]

Only 23 years old and already so mindful, well spoken and intelligent. Handling life like a boss.

[@Oxenfree89]

Omg the SA story had me seething! I shouldn't be surprised anymore, but how awful. I'm so glad this young man has remained so strong.

[@kevinsundelin8639]

Absolutely, horrendous that this happens to people, let alone a disabled person, lowest of the low...I hope the assaulter didn't hurt others or have at the very least been prosecuted.

[@SEIKOAE86]

Nah it was funny he was just joking

[@kevinsundelin8639]

@@SEIKOAE86 How many times were you dropped as a baby?

[@SEIKOAE86]

@ I was dropped 3 times and I lost my hearing …. He needs some milk 🥛

[@Squant]

@@SEIKOAE86 Seems more like your entire head caved in.

[@GaserBeam-hi4ez]

As a mom of 7, with a son going blind from an injury, and a husband in a wheel chair…if you want to be and are as sweet as you seem, you’ll be a fantastic dad. All my children are happy, healthy, and successful. They’ve never felt they missed out because their dad is not very mobile. He’s there for them mentally, emotionally, and financially.

[@IronMic-ee4kt]

Damn, natural selection working overtime with you guys.

[@GaserBeam-hi4ez]

@ injuries is natural selection? Also, we have 7 kids, and my husband survived an insane accident caused by someone else so I guess survival of the fittest and procreate to dominate. None of my children have ever been ill from a genetic condition or their ill health, and if they had, they’d be awesome anyway.

[@JossBailey-v5c]

@@IronMic-ee4ktjust incase you’re doing your GCSEs soon. Natural selection is the process where organisms adapt an change in response to their environment. It doesn’t relate to the statement you commented on. Good luck. You might hit that 4 if you keep studying.

[@supposedhumanmars]

​@@JossBailey-v5c Doesn't seem likely, yeah? 😂

[@kermitthefragg]

"As a mom of 7" Umm yeah thats completely irrelevant lmao.

[@dothanoodledance27]

I think he would make an amazing father. His emotional state when he talked about being a dad really choked me up. You could see in his face it was a topic he’s thought about many times. He’s so beautiful inside and out ❤.

[@allanm2064]

@dothanoodledance27 he would definitely be good at feeding babies. “Chu chu train” would be a hit. Especially changing diapers and wiping kaka out of lil vah J Js

[@cmmahone]

58yr old Canadian Woman Here. In the process of testing for RP, it's a shock. I want to be prepared, and proactive in my life. You have really helped me today. Peace

[@aidanhoneyman8544]

I have the same condition as him, Retinitis Pigmentosa. I am 31 and have zero peripheral vision so I can only seen objects in a small field in front of me which means I have kicked over more wet floor signs than I can care to count lol. Luckily I still have some vision but I did have to get cataract surgery at the grand old age of 30. I have never met another young person with RP as it is so rare. Just happened to stumble upon this video. You are doing awesome Toby!!!!

[@Den3girl]

There is a KZbin channel by a couple where one of them has that condition. I will have to look back for the channel name so you can follow along.

[@Den3girl]

The channel is Matthew and Paul.

[@sophiepellerin5517]

there's also Molly Burke who is 30 with the condition!

[@Michelle-uh7qi]

He maybe blind but we aren't, he's so handsome. Natalie is so blessed and clearly he is too. Bless them ❤

[@r-w2233]

your partner ensures you look visually amazing! kudos to them and your family x

[@danielkarmy4893]

Absolutely. This goes for everyone in general - DO NOT PARK ON THE PAVEMENT! It doesn't matter what you think your reason or justification is. DO NOT DO IT.

[@veeek8]

People do this in my neighbourhood all the time, it makes me so angry but the council won't do anything.

[@yianna147]

and stop before the crosswalk at the light

[@charlie3134]

I don’t understand. People should park on the grass? Parking lots and streets are all pavement. ?

[@thedivinemrm5832]

@@charlie3134 In English, pavement means sidewalk (presuming you're American).

[@charlie3134]

@thedivinemrm5832 ahh thank you 😊

[@ardenfuchs651]

this has got to be the sweetest, most genuine guy on earth

[@vickiwaatti1076]

I am not blind but, am in a wheelchair. I agree with you about people asking if you need help. I have had numerous people grab my chair and try and push me. I would like it if people ask me first. IT not only scares me it also can hurt me (and the person trying to help.)

[@thecolouringzone172]

What a articulate gentleman! Wise beyond your years. Your positive attitude is contagious.

[@leemcarthy4550]

You’re articulate, you’re smart, you’re an inspiration and you’ve just made me cry. I sit and stress, worrying about silly things that happen to all of us as a natural progression of life. Silly things consume me and right now I’m so angry at myself for feeling these ways. I couldn’t imagine life dealing with what you have to deal with and you seem to simply take it in your stride. I’m really proud of you mate and I feel so very humbled when sat here watching you. I have parked up curbs, without thinking, I won’t again. I’m also gonna try and worry less about things that simply do not matter. There’s not many stories or anything in general that upsets me but this one definitely has. You’re amazing

[@Empathusiast]

This is a real eye opener for me, no pun intended. But his attitude to life reminds me that I need to grow the F up. What an inspiring guy. Glad to have come across him. ✌️💜

[@abitcookie]

I’ve just started supporting a fully blind uni student so it was super helpful to get some more insight into the realities of blindness - thank you for sharing, Tobes!

[@zknight4481]

As someone with a 10 year old daughter who was born totally blind with no light perception, I’d love to see a guest who was blind from both answer these same questions. It’s always interesting to see the differences and similarities based on if they’ve ever had sight or not.

[@Mayaman67]

Top bloke. I live in HCMC and I have no idea how blind people get around. Navigating the streets is hard enough with vision. There is a restaurant here called "Noir". It's pitch black in side and quite unsettling. All the staff are blind so they lead you to your seat. You say what you don't / can't eat and they serve your food. It's a strange experience. After you've eaten, they ask you what you've eaten and it's hard without the visual clues.

[@matta6806]

You're a total inspiration buddy. I couldn't imagine slowly losing my sight. Your positivity resonates.

[@sylviagerritsen7975]

I’ve had a fear of going blind for many years. One of the greatest pleasures in my life is knitting. I knit daily and can’t imagine not having that ability. I can knit with my eyes closed BUT if I make an error, I can’t fix it.

[@stuartmiller6725]

what a guy. the idea of going blind terrifies me. but Toby shows, you can still have a life. He's awesome

[@AppNetEnt]

Gorgeous man. Inside and out.

[@DelReyno]

So impressive - keep living your life Tobs; with people like you sharing your story, society will become better educated & atuned!

[@georgethirlwall-wi6gs]

I have my blindspots that I'm blind to, thank you for Toby reminding me to be grateful for physical sight.

[@FionaEm]

Have watched a lot of Toby's videos. A really decent young man. If ppl steer clear of him because he's blind, that's their loss!

[@zusamy20]

Such a likable young man 😊

[@KyleCarpenter-e2t]

The story about the man taking advantage of him broke my heart. I would be traumatize and would never feel comfortable asking for help or taking help ever again. Hats off to you, I couldn’t even imagine

[@OniSamurai_86]

You seem like a guy I would like to be friends with. You seem so chill, funny, and so freaking wise to be honest. You are amazing mate.

[@McFlurryMachineIsDown]

That's tough. Dudes tough. Having sight and then losing it no matter the age is crushing.

[@YorkshireBusGuy]

What a thoroughly interesting and honest account of life as a blind person. Toby is very erudite and a great communicator. Nice one!

[@kaynary]

He talks about how his senses aren't superpower enhanced and then proceeds to listen to the questions at auctioneer speeds. 😆

[@CzechTheKiwi]

So true 😂😂❤

[@sarahlovell2]

I thought that 😂❤

[@p.martin974]

This guy is a rockstar. Huge advocate for inclusion! Common sense and empathy are a powerful combination.

[@victorymansions]

This guy is a total gem 💎

[@reuseme1]

What a credit to the human race.

[@DanStar87]

He's handsome and well spoken! Has a great bubbly personality

[@kevinsundelin8639]

I'm happy he was honest about his experience of sexual assault, especially as a man, that takes a lot of courage, especially considering the unhealthy stigma that still surrounds it, it's important that we talk about it and that men can still very much be assaulted, unfortunate as it is.

[@PRCOM]

This was a fascinating video, Toby thank you for ur honesty my sister lost her sight through diabetes it was difficult to deal with you dont realise just how much things need to change/Adapt. Toby you would make a brilliant dad. Thanks Toby, great video

[@jpriscott1]

What an absolute champ tobes is, such a positive fella

[@StopProject2025]

His answer to if he would swap his blindness with a sighted person….wow. He interpreted the question in such a unique kind way, and said that he wouldn’t want to make another person blind for his benefit. Most people would interpret the question to mean would you rather be sighted. What a neat guy ❤

[@deborahchasteen3206]

Thank you, Tobes, for sharing your journey with us. I wish you all the best. You'll be a success in whatever you care to do, and if you choose children, they'll be lucky.

[@lisab2543]

My daughter is dating a visually impaired man who started to lose his sight at 3 and is now 23. They met at the gym in their apartment building and he is pretty independent other than he can’t drive.

[@NorthernNegatives]

One of the best videos I’ve watched in a while. Makes you remember how fortunate you are!

[@joshuagriffith7189]

Bless you brother. Total respect. I’m so grateful to have what I have and to be as fit and healthy and blessed as I am. Thanks for inspiring me man.

[@digitalranger4259]

Wow. Having lost just some of the sight in one eye, I though my world was over. You have such a healthy attitude, such a healthy world view, no pun intended. You are inspiring.

[@leejones4757]

What an education I've just received. Thank you for sharing.

[@ook428]

Molly Burke has been an amazing advocate and just a enjoyable person to learn about their life. She is Canadian. This guy Toby is English. I would love to follow and support him on his cool journey. Unfortunately Molly and Toby are a 9 out of 10 in looks so still Hollywood. Love to Toby and for educating us and representing your community ❤❤❤

[@mjb6442]

They've done a video together in the past

[@christopherhawes9173]

This guy is a legend! Good on you brother

[@wyl3594]

Love his resilience and positive outlook towards life. Top lad 🙏

[@dannygallaghermisc7593]

What a great lad, great to hear his story. Wish him nothing but success hes a great role model

[@BigRett]

this fella has such a great energy! Love the honesty

[@lungaswazi9194]

Thank you so much, Tobes. You're such a gem

[@SOI-wl2lo]

That story about him being sexually assaulted was SO weird and disgusting ! 🤢- thankful he shared it though !

[@irvinsotelo9733]

I was really moved. I really wish Tobes the best in life and I thank people like him for speaking up and talking about their lives, even about their difficulties, with such candor.

[@jonnyting71]

The most impressive thing about that was him understanding that machine. Joking aside, what an inspiring young chap. Not beaten by something that could easily have ruined his life. Well done mate and good luck in your life

[@Chris.groucott]

MASSIVE RESPECT BRO, 🙏 hope you have a wonderful life, 👍

[@kevinvandijk4871]

Very interesting and informative! Thank you for this video and Toby seems like a really cool dude! 😎👌🏻

[@ljre3397]

In second grade in the 60s I had a blind classmate and he really made me think about what it might be like to be blind. One thing that’s improved markedly are the gadgets we have today. It’s great we now have devices that can make it easier to communicate. This guy has a great outlook.

[@BlueBird8925]

This was excellent and educating. I never thought about how fatigue and headaches can result from the constant need to think about everything. It was great to hear about so many aspects from his perspective. What a very positive young man.

[@matthewstubbs8343]

What an ambassador for blind people everywhere. Top chap 👍🏻

[@jackryan2135]

What a top bloke.

[@AdzaanMaiiTso]

oh, wow. he has the same thing as Paul Castle (he's an author who does videos with his husband and guide dog, Mr. Maple). i'm glad more awareness is being spread. he had such an interesting story thats so different yet similar to Paul's. i wish the best for him! ♥️

[@colinparker6275]

Awesome. Fair play Tobes. Good to know the comfortable way to help the visually impaired if they need it.

[@JahCelt]

I have RP, am 35 years old now and my pereferal vision is slowly narrowing year by year. It started when I was a child out playing in the street I would notice i would struggle playing football as sun started going down where others would be able to continue. Then I realised my eyes wouldnt ajust in darkness like everyone else's. Was diagnosed at age 15 and sight has been getting worse year by year. We can only pray for a cure one day with the advancements in technology.

[@MrsGump]

My husband & i were absolutely enthralled watching the recent Paralympics. We watched a game of footy like he was talking about & the talent it takes is amazing. If you get the chance then def watch disabled sports, its so interesting the way the diff sports are played esp compared to the regular sports we're used to watching. We were amazed at not only the large amounts of diff sports but the rules! It was mind boggling how people came up with some of the ideas of not only how to play the game/the rules of the game, but the way they make it an equal playing field across all diff types of disabilities!

[@kevinsundelin8639]

I looked into paralympic fencing when I saw it on a list of all the sports. I don't care much for the Olympics, although I do appreciate every participant's efforts and dedication, but watching paralympic fencing made me understand why people watch the Olympics. It was very fascinating to see how these already cool sports can be adapted to be just as impressive, if that makes sense.

[@BlackReshiram]

my brother has gone blind a few years ago. this really helps

[@bookaltd]

Loved this one, Toby is an absolute legend. I could listen to him all day.

[@SaraAllen-ui5wz]

Further to my earlier comment, you have enlightend my understanding of my friend's condition. This is the best thing I have heard online for weeks

[@Key3de]

Love his sense of humor 😂

[@snapdragon2441]

So glad you stuck around during the hard times, you seem a lovely young gentleman and are very attractive.

[@Milkydrummer]

What a lovely bloke. Fair play to you Toby

[@robhamilton5057]

i like to watch KZbin videos sped up so the speech sounds a bit faster... don't know why its just something i like ....i can get through videos quicker but wow! how on earth does he do that! proper super power right there.

[@sgd.6830]

A truly amazing and inspiring young man 💚

[@castawayonthemoon]

Hugs and wishing him all the best! ❤

[@GaserBeam-hi4ez]

I have perfect sight and no visual memory. I had no idea people had visual memory, that it was real, until 6 months ago and I’m near 40. My son is going blind, and he has a visual memory, that’s how I learned about visual thoughts.

[@leanderdato4764]

that's fascinating, how do you dream if i may ask?

[@GaserBeam-hi4ez]

@ I think I dream in like a movie style but I can’t see it when I wake up? When I try to rethink about the dreams I had, it can’t happen again, I only think my word thoughts. I don’t think my word thoughts when dreaming though.

[@carlalussini]

What a beautiful pair!

[@mjb6442]

​@@GaserBeam-hi4ezaphantasia

[@GaserBeam-hi4ez]

@ yep. I’m an aphant, and he’s a hyperphant.

[@pman3293]

What an inspiration! All the best, buddy!

[@sprintlifecamp]

What a guy 💪🏼🙌🏼

[@vincentcrow8992]

I don’t know you but you certainly seem to have compassion and I think you’d be a terrific parent

[@felixhenson9926]

Okay so I'm a wheelchair user but fully sighted and there are definitely a lot of things i feel like ppl like me have in common w blind ppl. Like i so fully felt the 'stop parking your cars on pavements' bc it blocks passage for wheelchair users too! The whole parenting thing too, and the fatigue thing. This society isn't built for minority bodies and minds so we all have to mentally and sometimes physically muddle our way through basically a giant obstacle course haha

[@sandrab.2646]

I really enjoined listening to you (with subtitles because I’m hearing impaired). I love you being direct in such a lovely considered way with a great humor. With love from The Netherlands.

[@Upuauta]

What a great guy!

[@sridharmallela]

You are super strong mentally

[@stenaldomehilli8809]

This video tells volumes about the extreme absence of knowledge public has regarding differing abilities in general, and blindness in particular. It tells volumes on the injustice of social justice. It all causes considerable barriers in all fields - from super shy and scared school friends who think 7 times before putting themselves together and daring to talk to you, to employers doubting your skills just because you live beyond their limits in a certain direction at least. It leads to people calling one a person with disabilities, forgetting that humans are this special because we, turn our disabilities to impossible abilities, and that's why, we, with not one feather in our bodies made it to the moon, and eagles haven't, well not yet! 😊 🦅🚀

[@_angstlust_]

Thanks Tobes, very insightful. And this super fast audio reader... amazing that you understand this

[@heathersmith1442]

What an incredibly grounded, nice person. Love his humor and his deep insights.

[@paulm3033]

What an inspiring young man .

[@Yvo19]

This is brilliant, i've learned so much. Thanks dude.

[@timnunley8358]

No super powers!?!? Dude having a hearing/brain capacity to process speech that fast is, a genuine SUPER power! Such a positive young man.

[@dewycol]

So intelligent and articulate, top man

[@roksana5805]

That was emotional for me - all the best for you Toby! You’re funny and very mature for your age. ❤

[@C6Fever]

Thank you dear Toby for doing this. I will pray for you tonight. All of us complaining all the time should be ashamed. You are so strong. Respect!

[@rexpayne7836]

What a wonderful young man. He lives his life with so much positivity. He seems to be enjoying life, regardless of his disability. Great video and presentation. 🇦🇺🦘😊