Ladies, How Did A Guy RUIN Their CHANCES With You?

[@bubblewrapwallpaper]

Why am I paying more attention to the gameplay than the stories?

[@MikeyCaruana]

You have dhd probably

[@bubblewrapwallpaper]

@user-ut4xx2lt7s yeah that's probably it. Alot of people tell me I have dhd

[@Mr-Fancy-Pants]

​@@MikeyCaruana dhd goes crazy

[@TuskyBaby]

Low attention span

[@aryaganne9364]

@@MikeyCaruana they put the gameplay right where the words. are how could anyone not notice lol

[@SodaDragon64]

Not a lady, but a guy kept asking me out while I was dating someone else. I let him down easy but he kept trying to guilt me on it saying stuff like "it sucks you're with someone else since I really like you." The thing that got me to not like him was when he threw a chair and screamed all because I talked to a guy friend... Glad I rejected him

[@RufusStories]

Dude threw a chair? Major red flag. Glad you dodged that.

[@baldxiao]

​@@RufusStories I hope OP also dodged the chair

[@finndemoncat9379]

​@baldxiao 😂

[@naomisennett4081]

​@@baldxiaoLmaoooooooo

[@epicsshadesmaster-animatio4398]

Jesus Christ 😭

[@saparapatepete]

"i would threat you like a human being" who says that sentence like it's a perk and not the bare minimum????!!!!

[@rayzhang8085]

for anyone wondering, the game in the backgound is called townscaper

[@EwanMacTavish]

Thank you brother

[@alextrill1746]

Thanks!

[@princessmarlena1359]

He was a cop. I wasn’t interested in him, and politely but _firmly_ let him know that I wasn’t interested. He persisted, but I always gave the same response of “No”. One day he showed up at my _home_ and tried to drag me to some Fast and the Furious movie sequel with him. I refused, he got really angry and punched a hole in my screen door. I reported him for harassment, and even showed the damage he caused.

[@alixthompson2836]

And I bet they did absolutely nothing about it

[@princessmarlena1359]

@@alixthompson2836 The most he got was desk duty for a week, but only because I had a security camera showing what he did.

[@coolwhipwills8365]

@@princessmarlena1359 Come here Marlena right now or you gonna miss these 4 inches.

[@fubufb420]

Narcissist, most people in positions of power and status are narcissistic A-holez!!

[@mikaeloverfjord9047]

Houses spelling out "RUFUS" was pretty funny

[@KeffMiller]

How is that “funny”?

[@Pe_iki]

@@KeffMiller it was funny tho

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Right?! I had no idea what he was spelling until he started making the "U"! 😆

[@gamma2816]

The first guy was just protecting her against those CIA spies! 🤣🤣🤣

[@beth-af]

I really liked him, we finally share our feelings with each other, he then went on for 2 hours straight about how the rest of our life will go together. I couldn't get a word in. It was over before it begun

[@kagekun1198]

The waitress that gave the dessert on the house is awesome

[@JustinCollier-rd4fs]

Story #2: he was supposed to ask "Why haven't we been on a date?", make eye contact with her, and chuckle after a moment of silence. I honestly can't comprehend how you go from that to full agro.

[@venomousbunny9875]

Obviously hasn't heard the phrase "silence is golden"

[@Jia-zr7zl]

the pigeon one is so embarrassing lmao what possessed the guy to do that

[@theillustrious_angel]

Probs thought "real men" hurt animals

[@waltuhwhite1234]

​@@theillustrious_angel Yeah, I will never understand why people hurt certain animals? Like if they see an ant they'll just stomp it for no reason at all..

[@briannadickson2884]

They're an invasive species like cats

[@waltuhwhite1234]

@@briannadickson2884 Dude to be able to make a believeable ragebait you'll need to not make it too obvious, but this Is just too obvious

[@theillustrious_angel]

@@waltuhwhite1234 it gives them a sense of feeling bigger than something

[@onionbubs386]

I heard it secondhand from a trusted friend, but I found out he took a sick pleasure in internet shock sites that featured real gore, torture and death. I can understand having a morbid curiosity and wanting to test your limits, but he got a legitimate kick out of these videos. Apparently he gathered a bunch of his buddies around his computer one day to show them One Lunatic One Ice Pick and he was laughing and smiling the whole time. In less than a minute I went from being incredibly attracted to him to being outright terrified of him.

[@Person-ip7iy]

How can you even get videos like that? Edit:well finding out what’s on the website that( don’t worry I didn’t actually go into it)didn’t make my stomach happy

[@Stellajh]

He spent the first half of the date telling me about his abusive ex, then asked ‘so what did your ex do to you?’. I told him I wasn’t interested. He is now in a relationship with someone who posts about their DV past. He was a professional victim looking for another one to commiserate with for life.

[@ErikAdalbertvanNagel]

the background game is an OCD nightmare fuel

[@Jesusfreak323]

OCPD but yah

[@ErikAdalbertvanNagel]

@@Jesusfreak323 just a regular OCD will do

[@acegamer7549]

These stories basically tell me what to and not to do, and I’ll gladly listen to them

[@TheRadFactor]

You’re learning your tricks from social media from of people you don’t even know where live. That’s how things go won’t

[@meow7192]

I'm glad none of these stories involved saying "hi" instead of "hey" 2 days after trading numbers instead of 3.

[@FairyGirlMagic]

He tried to Impress me with the wrong things. He was a skinny guy (ca. 1,85m/less than 70kg). I don't know why, but he had this mindset, that the only thing women are looking for in a man are muscels. I don't f* care how many muscels a man have. I am also not a Sport person. He knew that, but still tried to impress me with his (non-existent...) muscels and Training goals - no matter how often I told him. He failed physicly every Single time when he tried. Also his goals. So not only didn't he listen to me at all, he also all the time made a Bad impression cause of his failure 😅

[@shortysrule2592]

Good to hear you again, Rufus.

[@RufusStories]

thanks 😃

[@LunaP1]

Second story was a Nice Guy™️ dodge.

[@enriqueperezarce5485]

True, but the hesitation I would’ve taken it as rejection, if your a girl and you hesitate your most likely thinking of a way for rejection

[@MuddyAxolotl]

​@@enriqueperezarce5485thats just insecurity

[@theguywhoasked2957]

​@@enriqueperezarce5485didn't need to throw a tantrum about it like a 5 year old

[@enriqueperezarce5485]

@@theguywhoasked2957 I never added that part because it’s known that’s pathetic on that guys part. I just said that hesitation usually means rejection when it comes from girls. Hence why he thought he got rejected, what should’ve normally happened was him being dejected and sad, then cut her off or be able to stay friends

[@jasonblue8832]

Hesitation is not always rejection, it's going to vary by person to person, some girls are just really shy and nonconfrontational like guys can be, even more so as its usually us guys that does the pursing and the guy basically put her on the spot and caught her off guard with that question, And then just kept talking and digging a deeper hole and not just chilling out and be relax about it and self-sabotage himself Most people on average would hesitate If there hasn't been any previous flirting or hinting at during conversation between to the two and came right out of the jump with asking someone out or wanting a straight up Yes or No out the gate. especially If you're not use to it. For this guy ...At worst its a manipulative false Interest, at best it's just a lack of social etiquette / decorum and patience.

[@briannadickson2884]

Pigeons are an invasive species. I wouldn't really care.

[@anonymoususer855]

That game looks fun.

[@johnkroposki8957]

Dope pfp

[@tryingtofindlife189]

u find the name of the game?

[@kananis768]

@@tryingtofindlife189maybe Townscaper

[@aryaganne9364]

@@tryingtofindlife189 you can screenshot any paart of the video and image search it to find out where it's from

[@Frenchs_Mustard]

Townscaper

[@shootingbricks8554]

The pigeon guy funny😂

[@badcreations9527]

Always find it funny whenever you randomly spell your name

[@superbros64deluxe]

4:31 sis was dating J Jonah Jameson "I need those photos parker!"

[@wimsylogic65]

He took out the Dried chili pepper seasoning for pizza. And snorted it. I don't know if he thought it would be cool, funny or impressive. It just looked painful and really stupid.

[@heterosapiens_sapiens]

I have eaten spoonfuls of it. It's not that bad. However, consider the fact that I come from a country whose traditional cuisine uses ludicrous amounts of spice

[@NimbleSoulThief]

Story 14 is immaculate! Out-loony the lunatic! Lol!

[@tocieie]

2:28 this guy is aizen sosuke everything is part of his plan and he would do anything for the plan to work

[@blank7818]

You were cooking with this gameplay

[@nicolassmithlemaire1232]

and i thought i was bad at dating

[@HighSirenPub]

He quickly became obsessed with me within the first few days of us knowing each other (we met on Discord, if that helps). One time, we were in a Discord call with maybe two other people, and I had to take my dog out for the night. I was on mute for a couple minutes while I was getting ready, and they thought I already left when I heard him say, "She is so fascinating, isn't she?" One of the other guys was unknowingly pulling a Professor X and was asking the same questions I was thinking of, like, "Who are you talking about?" When the guy addressed my Discord name that I knew he was talking about me. The other guy asked the guy I was interested in what made me so fascinating, and he followed it with, "It's another story for another time." It was another time I never got to know, and the fact that he was saying I'm fascinating after the 5th or 6th day of knowing me, I think it's another time for another break for awhile. Glad I'm with someone who took his time to get healthily obsessed

[@Nexus_Creationist]

The way he said "ya, they wanna see mine."🤣🤣🤣

[@nephalos666]

He had a mom. He wasnt 6 feet tall. He wasnt ripped. He was too ripped. He was rich. He wasnt rich enough.

[@DanielLopez-he2fq]

Yikes

[@judesmith7184]

Women☕️

[@potatogirlcultist19]

I was chatting to this girl just a totally normal conversation talking about what we did what we were interested in what we were doing etc. Then we started talking about animals. I showed her my cat and my dog, and then she said 'Oh yeah I love animals too! Wanna see something I saw outside my apartment a while ago". I said sure, and she showed me a dead pigeon with blood all over it.

[@Mezziuu5]

Damn

[@quinn2412]

She seems chill to me. I work in the wildlife field, plenty of coworkers who collect animal bones

[@ImportantlyNothing]

Rufus in Psych2go!?

[@Nexus_Creationist]

?

[@deleted_handle]

?

[@frankalphonso268]

Lmao the one where he can’t start a fire and chucks water on it when she does it for him what a loser

[@DOCTORmakenstuff]

the game is called Townscaper

[@ChouLord-qg5wc]

We need more of this

[@ssgt.johnnyvideos3619]

Ngl the movie one is pretty petty.

[@gnarled128]

Can you put the game in the gameplay in the description?

[@PoIiteCat]

Townscaper I think

[@mugglecatful]

He told me that he bought tvs at goodwill just so he could take them home and smash them in his backyard when he lost his temper. I'm all for therapeutic demolition but...that was just too much pre-planning and I still can't understand people who put their fists through doors and walls when they get angry. That just screams 'one day I won't make it to the tvs before I unload during one of our fights'. 😂

[@princessmarlena1359]

Did he have a motorcycle, by any chance?

[@thekiddphoenixx]

Story 13- friend was way too cool and hilarious "wanna race" YES I'm dying 🤣

[@DeafMan1957]

I'm glad I'm doing something right then LOL

[@odd-ysseusdoesstuff6347]

That last guy was bordering cute and sweet and creepy and horrifying-

[@kohinattosru8587]

Pretty safe comparing to others, but I would feel weird... Wich is hypocritical coz I had massive problems with revealing my feelings and would propably do the same thing to my crush. But somehow it's not creepy if girl is doing it... I don't know why

[@Bee-eautiful]

guy here, i ruined my chances with someone by accidentally stalking her i know it sounds crazy but it happened, and i'm not really proud of it

[@socramzetroc1535]

For the passed years I've been noticing if you don't have the fisical attraction factor (tall and handsome) you don't have a chance at all. Maybe a girl might give you a chance, a shittest, but if a woman shittests you, chances are you never had a chance.

[@nothitler941]

Whats the goal of the background game, is it iust make it look nice?

[@alextrill1746]

I don't care about stories, show the game more!

[@JoaoGabrielJF724]

Woah... some heavy and weird stuff... I was expecting, that we would see some silly stuff

[@ContinueWithThatStatement]

Yeah people are weird when it comes to relationships that are on bases of sex

[@oleg4209]

16:21 skrr, skrrr, in mei'm Audi, skrrr, skrrr

[@SmartyPants_nxt-in7kz]

What's the game in the background?

[@dwzaphod]

Always annoys me when they don’t name the game in the description.

[@goose7977]

I believe I found it, it’s called townscaper on steam

[@giuseppemaggio5894]

6:00 Am I the only one who got confused by story 6? I mean she said "I am pretty sure we could have a fun night together" and then she complains about the fact that "some guys believe that just because you say yes to a date, you wanna smash". Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with the 2nd part of the sentence...but then why did she say that first part?

[@80soa]

Told me i reminded him of a character from a Shakespeare i might not know, but her name is similar to mine. I know that play and didn't like the sneak diss, he probably thought I wouldn't notice, since he thought i didnt know the play. Weirdo.

[@XyzoPhan]

Natürlich Natürlich

[@josesebastiaofeio5171]

whats the name of the game in the backgound? Great video btw

[@channelnotreal]

Townscaper

[@josesebastiaofeio5171]

Thanks!

[@YoDoc250]

What’s game is this

[@D.LeeFrey]

Dear ladies: As a man, I’m sorry. I’ve been awkward, try to go a little too fast (nothing about moving in even), but there are actions and words that make you uncomfortable or nervous. Again, I’m sorry.

[@unlimited971]

Ladies. I m not. When you keep asking for something then still complain when you got it, i ll stop forever. I ve been awkward. I ve been inconfortable. I ve been put on blast for just existing.when you keep saying you want men to behave a certain way yet refuse to be clear, because" i shouldn t have to say it", yet nothing is ever enough, all you say is you re a manipulative pos that enjoy controling and make others suffer. Men are not just born great, prince charming nor superman. It s learnable and not all learn everything for early. If you veleive you should just wait at some finishing mine because you re worth it, you re not worth it. You will deserve to be alone

[@onionbubs386]

​@@unlimited971jesus christ, no wonder women dont like you

[@onionbubs386]

I feel you, I don't have great social skills either, I think I may be autistic, but I eventually found the right one. And as long as you're respectful, empathetic and honest, you'll find the right one too :)

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

To be honest, a little: "Sorry if I X - I can be a little socially awkward so lemme know if you want me to stop X" can go a HELL of a long way.

[@unicorntomboy9736]

@@gokuxsephiroth4505 Why would you do that

[@Makoto69420]

whats the game called??

[@Lost4ever-y1q]

Ya all too sensitive

[@thekiddphoenixx]

That game is a damn pain it'll never give you a perfect square 😤

[@djodom3572]

Story 1: That's a man who will protect you in your darkest hour.

[@low-keydrama1260]

By…attacking a pigeon who did nothing to him…?

[@kohinattosru8587]

If "darkest hour" is being pooped on by a pigeon... I wish I had such carefree life

[@djodom3572]

@@low-keydrama1260 hey... fuck that goddamm bird

[@victoriahiromi2256]

not all men but it’s always a man

[@ContinueWithThatStatement]

Yess… sadly some men aren’t aware of social cues, especially when it comes to the attempt of initiating dating… The thought of reproduction comes in the forefront and logical goes out the window… Look how many single moms there are, they didn’t choose the right guy or judgement of the situation went completely side ways.

[@Pe_iki]

the video is so fucking distracting i have to go back every few seconds cause i didn't pay attention to what he was saying and lost track

[@gary9346]

Some of these sound a bit...well, fake. Especially the "wanna race" one.

[@RyzoidGaming]

Just wanna add, probably don’t be so hard on all these guys especially if they’re young. Dating is terrifying for men as it is for women, and some men just simply don’t believe in themselves.

[@onionbubs386]

Uh, I get where you're coming from, and I can empathize with guys who don't have the best social skills but have good intentions, but I wouldn't say it's equally as terrifying. Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

All of these guys? Even weird pigeon dude?

[@tomkelly00]

To be fair pigeons frickin suck

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

He told me he what he wants to name his kids. And it's ugly outdated names his dad told him to name before he passed away. Also, couldn't stop mocking me cuz he made more money than me. Next!

[@MrShadowThief]

The abortion guy dodged a bullet.

[@susanocrotty2009]

The guy ruined his chances with me by trying to gaslight me into thinking that Trannies are women. He told me how wrong I was and that I just wasn’t educated and needed a Book On how to Socialize with people without offending them

[@ForeverRancor]

Sounds like he dodged a bullet

[@susanocrotty2009]

@@ForeverRancor Look, I don't mind people like ya who want to transition to look more like a woman. But You'll never be a woman biologically, sir. The pink hair is very pretty on you tho.

[@susanocrotty2009]

@@ForeverRancor Hey, i don't think my comment went through in reply. I was saying that I have nothing against you or any other man who wants to transition to look like a woman. But you won't ever be biologically, sir. The pink hair you have is very pretty tho.

[@adomede]

11:40 you know what bro wanted. 17:57 is her fault.

[@emperorconstantinexipalaio4121]

Story 17’s guy was cringe but the girl was cringe too ngl

[@Del_xe]

Bro she gave him a back massage and let him lay on her lap. But she don’t like him? 😭

[@avroarchitect1793]

Alot of girls treat guys as toys and wallets/ATMs nowadays. She wants the BF experience without commitment and responsibility in the relationship.

[@kohinattosru8587]

Wierd "politeness" rule says you cannot say no, at least not directly. I had to train myself out of this crap...

[@jennymaher7126]

​@@avroarchitect1793she probably felt intimidated about how he would react if she said no

[@adamhero459]

The number one thing that almost every woman would answer. He guy stood up and was 5’11”

[@theguywhoasked2957]

Holy incel stop projecting bro

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

Pfft, bro, my husband is 5'5. Tall is not my preference and I am not the only woman like that. If you're not getting dates, it's not because of your height.

[@MuscleLineRailfan]

"He breathed" -most of the women in America 24'

[@zerofreespeech3002]

Okay so these guys get rejected but guys from prison get all the women's numbers

[@beksfue5937]

Well, if it's that easy, why don't you get yourself in prison, bro?

[@cooperchance7720]

Are you by any chance, an r/NiceGuys user?

[@MikaelWallentin.]

Sry what?

[@jestosebno666]

Guys never ruin a chance, they dodge a bullet if a girl rejectes them.

[@TheRadFactor]

Story 1. Dropping a guy cause he chased pigeons. The guy is the one who dodged a bullet.

[@carbonn5998]

nah the dude tried to kill the pigeon 💀

[@saparapatepete]

that dude went on a cartoony war with a pidgeon in the middle of a date. Shooing it away if it gets too close makes sense to some degree, but doing a full chase sequence and trying to murder the bird and forget what you were doing is just bananas.

[@kohinattosru8587]

I chase pigeons with my husband almost all the time, but not to kill them... And pigeons are never more important than the other person

[@unicorntomboy9736]

Having children is tne end goal for any romantic relationship. It is not worth it otherwise

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

Speak for yourself. I don't want children. I want to be happy with my partner for the rest of my life, specifically without any children to mess with the romance, adventures and finances.

[@unicorntomboy9736]

@@gokuxsephiroth4505 You can do all that with children

[@cooperchance7720]

@@unicorntomboy9736But he doesn’t want children.

[@unicorntomboy9736]

@@cooperchance7720 For me, it would be a massive deal breaker if a partner of mine didn't want children, ideally two or three.

[@unicorntomboy9736]

@@cooperchance7720 To me, it would be a big deal breaker if a partner of mine didn't want children. That would be grounds for a break up. Ideally two or three would be ideal, kids need siblings, after all.

[@TheNotSoRandomDude]

Number 3: more like the woman ruined the chances with the guy. The guy wanted to take the lead and be the man, but she did not allow him. If I was him, I wouldn't let the woman I was meeting on a date pick me up.

[@cooperchance7720]

The point was that the woman didn’t want to give away her address…

[@TheNotSoRandomDude]

@@cooperchance7720 yes, but if she was so reluctant in giving away her address, she could've just have agreed with the guy a place where he could have picked her up. It's that simple.🤷‍♂️

[@cooperchance7720]

@@TheNotSoRandomDude Yes, get into a car driven by a stranger you have never met before. And before you bring up cabs and Uber, those have tracking methods in case the driver turns out to be a human trafficker.

[@nleem3361]

The problem with assuming he's a nice normal gentleman is that if she was wrong and got in his car, her life would be could be over. Clearly, you've never had someone physically over power you because you made a bad choice to trust the wrong person. Her getting in a car with a stranger would be considered one of those bad choices. There are a lot of strange people online dating who can seem like a dream date at 1st. Here's one other thing to consider even if he's a gentleman. The date conversation could go badly and they find out they strongly dislike each other. So, at the end of the date, she'd have to get in his car again or find her own way home. Maybe it goes so bad that he leaves her there. 9:10 times it would be fine, but that one time when it's not, makes it not worth the risk. If you're a guy and worried about dropping a lot of money on dinner when you have not met her before, meet for a coffee 1st and go from there.

[@jasonblue8832]

@@nleem3361 Exactly, I've done both, and the first thing I make sure is If she's comfortable with that rearrangement, If not no big deal. like you said, if the date ends early or goes south, both partes have an out and can do so safely and without the awkwardness. If someone who is a complete stranger is getting upset or offended by someone else's reassurance to be safe and comfortable, they need to really reevaluate how their mind works and interact with people before they even try to be getting into dating prospects.

[@joylatoya9830]

All of the above, plus kiss and tell bragging fools ...

[@itznotfunnehbruh4206]

8:05 dude, you can’t use group B humor with girls bro 🫵😭

[@christymcdonald3711]

Can you add the game name in the description each vid? I seen some games i really wanna play but dont know the name🫤

[@HardcoreMC1]

Yeah I really wanna know the name

[@sonicthehedgehog6505]

Townscaper