Landmark study shows what makes a successful relationship

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[@cloroxbleach2520]

1. Sense of humor that you like 2. Ability to work things out together The only things you should be looking for in a partner really.

[@jessicaevans2564]

3. Are they trustworthy?

[@qjingram]

thanks, clorox bleach

[@djoakeydoakey1076]

@@qjingram I get all my relationship advice from cleaning products.

[@beefy45]

What about a big booty?

[@Griot-Guild]

Healthy

[@roofth]

Grass is greener where you water it ❤️

[@AnthonyInacayFitness]

In the wise words of Justin Bieber ❤

[@mragbangles]

to be fair, you would only be able to build a relationship in a satisfying way with someone you are compatible with on a core level.

[@LaceyJuk]

Yes. This.

[@EskiltheWanderer]

What you think is compatible with yourself on a core level vs What's actually compatible with yourself on a core level as revealed by the product, that being the functional relationship dynamic (not the personal profiles of the people in the relationship).

[@JohnWilliams-cr2sz]

I agree with Glasses Anna. Outside is bad, stay inside, hide from the daystar.

[@letsdomath1750]

Daystar, love it 😂

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

@@letsdomath1750 Ya, never thought of that...

[@francookie9353]

HIDE FROM THE DAYSTAR 🤣🤣

[@ElizabethDoloresee]

this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in the book Magnetic Aura from Borlest

[@rusinsr]

The large number of likes yet no replies on this comment + the website for that book looking sketch makes me think this is a scam. Stay safe Anna Akana viewers!

[@Sylkis89]

I don't understand how the type of interaction someone has with me is not a display of their personality. When I say someone has an incompatible personality I mean that we don't get along well lol

[@desireer6915]

Yeah I think personality compatibility is equally important too. ❤

[@BananaP1zza]

1. Trust 2. Communication 3. Boundaries 4. Humour That is all.

[@jeffking9202]

The grass IS greener where you water it! Very cool:)))

[@md-io4tb]

"Ew, he wants to leave the house? Throw him away." 😂 Love it!

[@dificulttocure]

This is partially correct. Compatibility matters in terms of values. Also, some people simply do not make good partners. They can be either too swallow, materialistic, insecure, controlling, agressive, deceitful, etc.

[@ArlenKundert]

Not being afraid to admit when you’re wrong (or able to recognize it in the first place). That’s much easier said than done

[@CronoCloudAuron]

GenZ Anna makes me want oversized sweaters, oversized glasses, space buns and a pink chair. I already hide from the sun.

[@Araretoy]

Heh. The hiss at going outside. That is funny. Love the back and forth dialogues.

[@chazzyloveee]

I’ve literally always done this and I’m still (happily) single. It’s just rough out there.

[@wilgarcia1]

oh lord, what did they define as personality? The persons personality is what dictates how they treat the other person and directly affects how the relationship develops.

[@LaCasaDeLaVerdad]

Anna, at 0:14 the paper that appears reads as follows: "The role of locus of control and coping style in predicting longitudinal PTSDtrajectories after combat exposure" not related to the subject.

[@HouseGecko]

I did some digging and the study referred by the skit is called "Machine learning uncovers the most robust self-report predictors of relationship quality across 43 longitudinal couples studies"

[@bhorza]

As the rock legend sang....Love is a battlefield. Hence, it's related.

[@KatzeMelli]

@@bhorza😂

[@Ali_forward]

Understanding and support are key to a successful relationship, which is why squarespace is the hottest daddy on the market.

[@T_kats]

As human beings we’re all nuanced. There’s only one version of us so trying to seek 100% compatibility with someone is unrealistic, even in friendships. This isn’t to say that compatibility is unimportant but it’s also not the end all be all. How you are able to navigate through your differences and understand each other encompasses much more of the relationship dynamic. This is why you hear the term opposites attract. Open paper, two things or two people may heavily contrast but in practice they may work together really well.

[@maura_the_rose]

As long as you’re attracted to each other and have enough in common to do some things together… it’s okay to have different interests. The lifestyle thing gets me though, I have a really hard time living with ppl who aren’t active or are messy 😬 It would be fine in the beginning but I think it’s important to know the things that you really can’t stand in a roommate… bc the honeymoon phase will wear off eventually 😂

[@naut_nigel]

But if I'm not attracted to the person, I wouldn't *want* the relationship to work. And attraction to me includes things like personality, shared interests, etc..

[@rattling.casket]

They're not saying it's Entirely unimportant,, the study is trying to show folks that it's not nearly as important as the majority of people believe.

[@Isredel11]

I think the study is more saying people need to adjust what their focus is rather than trying to treat it like a college application. If you’re being put off by someone because you have no shared interests and are having a difficult time creating a connection, then the important bit is the part where you’re put off, and not that you don’t have shared interests. Conversely, if you’re having a great time with someone and have a good feeling about them, don’t get bogged down by the details/checkmarks they don’t have. Don’t try to find an arbitrary reason you shouldn’t try to have a relationship with someone when you are having a good connection. Obviously this excludes red flags, which should be putting you off in the first place, or wholly incompatible life plans (such as children, or one person wants a serious relationship but the other doesn’t, with neither open to the other) The point is how you _feel_ about the relationship and the person is a better diagnosis and prognosis of your time together than how many personality quirks or interests you like about someone. Or really, the study is showing data that contradicts the toothbrush method.

[@Jordan-vc4cn]

Oof, that "fun fact" at the end about that doctor.... Good thing our society doesn't do anything like THAT anymore.... At all.... Ever!

[@Livingvapour]

He was shamed because every other doctor didn’t want to face the fact that they killed hundreds during their long careers because they simply didn’t wash their hands and it was either he had a mental break down from being told he’s wrong or everyone else had a mental break down for all the lives lost because of something so simple. Once that generation of doctors retired everyone basically accepted it. Was a weird time.

[@BladeRedwind]

I just need a whole series of this Gen M and Gen Zer living life together. Doing more than skits. lol

[@christophermahon1851]

Wasn't expecting a reference to Ignaz Semmelweis. Way to deep-dive history, Anna!

[@FangerZero]

lmao 0:49 that was great!

[@atiajanssens5654]

the older i get the more I realise how loyalty never seemed to be important but that it REALLY is. so what I mean by that: someone who won't drop you when you get seriously sick. someone who will defend you, when you're not there. someone who will stay with you, when times are fcking hard and they actually want to leave (because its so hard).

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Two minutes of content and one minute of Daddy Squarespace... Anna's got to pay the bills somehow!

[@JosefStepanek]

1:38 That laughter ❤😅

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

YES! Samantha Joel's research is amazing! I'm happy that her work is getting refrenced.

[@u4iadreams]

Best relationship is the one I have with myself. Other people get in the way of me doing what I want when I want and I love myself too much to let myself be limited by others.

[@juanmacias5922]

Sadly I'm the one limiting myself haha

[@jessicaevans2564]

Thank you, selfish people should definitely play with themselves!

[@u4iadreams]

@@juanmacias5922 Self-actualize, King. Find your joy!

[@u4iadreams]

@@jessicaevans2564 I agree! There's little more selfish than limiting someone *else* from living their best life!

[@alexis22712]

I imagine theres capability with someone, somewhere in this world, where you don’t feel inhibited in a relationship, but rather two individuals coming together through shared love that is freeing…crazy concept 😱

[@hermitkingtvking3991]

oh so a successful relationship requires two people that can ignore each others differences and have the perseverance and self awareness to focus on building the relationship instead of the little things, so toxic partners are out of the questions, they need to be reasonable, well tempered and capable of seeing the whole picture, huh it sure sounds like it matters who you choose as a partner, maybe "compatibility" is what needs to be redefined.

[@ShawndaDukes]

This content was super helpful and easy to grasp!

[@HaveYouMetDave]

Expert at concise info with gentle humour.

[@thefreshprince-t4m]

Simply be, in closeness sharing an undivided attention and love, with peace. Whatever will be, will be.

[@ziggyvoss]

That's good and all, but literally the apps are designed to just look at boxes and see how many check yours

[@johnrobinson4445]

Respect and appreciation openly communicated.

[@johnrobinson4445]

And, just for the record, I've been a satisfied Squarespace customer since 2015.😍

[@juanduque7983]

OFCOURSE! ask your grandparents as they most likely still together

[@GhostFoxMako]

Stop right there, bestie 🤣

[@keinusername6855]

Thank you Anna! Please do more videos!❤😢 #missedyou

[@johnwalker9098]

Your show in Dallas was amazing! ❤❤

[@devonbleck6639]

Her bestie is so cute.

[@augustoraugust7493]

Great vid! Now every person who rejected me has to watch this too, then it'll be fine

[@進撃の花音さん]

The grass is greener in spring

[@aviralgupta393]

Ignaz Semmelweis was the doctor's name. Remember him.

[@Its1and2]

Adorable Anna in the thumbnail!!

[@emiliojosemedinarosado5503]

I'm thankful that I found this amazing Woman 💝

[@StacyKimberlyas]

this format really suits me

[@Sosapotence3001990]

Study is true

[@userMB1]

I don't think i'm agreeing with the conclusion that a persons personality only accounts for 5% but i'm not acquainted enough with scientific articles to challenge it. _"for a relationship to work"_ is not satisfying enough for me anyway. I want to be excited to see my wife/girlfriend every day and i think that much lower standards apply for the aforementioned conclusion.

[@hiraethari]

i second this!!

[@LuchM]

I would love if someone had a link to said scientific article, as i agree with you

[@juanmacias5922]

Idk, I think she has a point, we won't always be excited in a relationship (everyone has off days), so it just depends how you feel in the relationship. Safe, loved, etc.

[@ajregalia1334]

Fun question, what do you want to be excited for outside of the dynamic and chemistry you foster with her that you consider would be higher standards? (outside of obvious things like hygiene)

[@LuchM]

I think i found the article she's referring to! It's called "Within-couple associations between communication and relationship satisfaction over time" it came out in 2021, but i couldnt find a version from PNAS (Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences) FYI it's over 500pages long so obviously i havent read it all yet and so I cant be 100% sure that this IS in fact what she referenced

[@Emily_lloyd62011]

I love this vid!!❤

[@timsmith8506]

This makes a lot of sense

[@natuvampire]

This is food to the soul

[@Umbra_of_Emberspike]

Put in the work to see desirable results. That's always a key takeaway. The water is not going to ripple unless you test it.

[@Variocom]

I think it depends on the person. Some simply need emptional support, while some need someone they can love as well as work and play with. I personally know what i need, and I'm done comprimising my desires like i have in the past. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so i dont see why i cant find that person 🤷‍♂️

[@StarryDynamo88]

Wish you love and peace ✨

[@viiiRA_]

I vehemently agree, but frankly, it's adjacent to age old teachings. If we faithfully adhere to noble virtues, why wouldn't we be able to succeed in relationships? Honesty, courtesy, integrity, compassion, courage, wisdom, perserverance, self-control/discipline, humility, vigilance, patience. How does it relate? I wager that it's hard to deny that someone with these qualities would not value relationship over a, probably taught by social media, criteria list. They'd probably also fulfill the more meaningful items on that list as well anyway.

[@shemarlosscott2656]

It Makes Sence When People are Functional

[@joeschmoe-w8z]

that's how I've always felt. chemistry makes a successful relationship. If you enjoy talking to each other and you have chemistry then youll probably have a successful relationship. except if your ticking off boxes is a way of telling you you don't have chemistry that is an issue. if you have chemistry with someone you shouldn't need to tick off a box. men don't do that because chemistry is not an issue for men. men have chemistry with most women. they just don't have conversational chemistry with all women.

[@jmseipp]

I’m impressed that you know about Dr. Ignaz Semmelweiss!

[@FuzzyStripetail]

Anna telling her date to take a hike was actually what her date wanted to do but still wasn't compatible with Anna's grass watering policy.

[@LiamODonovan-l6e]

Always love your videos anna. Relationships are way overrated

[@Mark-eh3mv]

Seems legit. My favorite thing about my girlfriend is her extreme loyalty to me.

[@ArlenKundert]

I went outside once, but the graphics weren’t impressive. Probably why I’m happier in XR Metaverse platforms.

[@youluvana]

very interesting I have been wondering about that

[@Moike1981]

Great insight

[@samm3980]

Late bloomer here 🙋‍♂️ How do we know (if things like shared interests/lifestyles aren't reliable indicators) when it is worth our time to invest in building. When is it time to acknowledge, despite some commonalities/chemistry, that we ultimately cannot build a relationship like the one being described? Thanks!

[@JLWorkshops]

The Grass IS Greener Where You Water It - Need to remember that more! Also, did you reference ULSTER UNIVERSITY?!?!?!?! Of all the things I expected to see today, that was NOT one of them

[@Aljamolu]

Love this ❤

[@goodfortunetoyou]

1. Checks important boxes? 2. Do you like them? 3. Are they real? Good?

[@wilgarcia1]

hugs, love your content. =)

[@rogeriofuruma7086]

Can relate

[@samhann1732]

The grass is greener over the septic tank.

[@則本雄大]

best!!!

[@ClintTzu]

Good advice. Those two actresses look alike. I wonder how casting found them?

[@ML-HS]

What if you have these, but your partner is ruthless. Has no empathy and can't see the other side. Not only for other's, but to you too and your friend's? Difference is they keep you around under their roof. They claim they love you due to your personality. Everyone else is cut-throat. All you need to do is not question them. Let them do whatever they want. Can you have a relationship with someone who has no empathy in this situation? Is this healthy? Female friend's claim you have to put in the effort even when you are presented with this.

[@PetrolJunkie]

We didn’t need science to figure this out. We just needed to look to our elders who are living examples. Not for much longer… so learn from your grandparents while you can.

[@Anonymous-vr6ph]

So… if he thinks I don’t deserve the same rights as he does, I should just ignore it?

[@iMoosker]

What was the actual study? The study you posted on the screen at 0:08 was about combat veterans.

[@AquafreshX]

1st: Act like a robot 2nd: Mate with an AI

[@skyleranderson7901]

So essentially who a person doesn’t really matter?

[@zyighzag4050]

I guess it just means that you don’t have to focus on your partner being another version of yourself or being the opposite, but more on what you can achieve with your partner

[@AllenCarloqa]

read the forbidden book Magnetic Aura on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.

[@ArmanZaidi]

Riley Rewind

[@MintiUnicorn]

Met my husband at 16 he’s my age my type my everything and always has been!! our love is seriously magical and we can spend entire lives together and never got tired of each other I love him and I am soooo glad he saved me from so much heartache by being his amazing self! We even have matching hair dye it’s the goals I never knew existed and I’m proud of my relationship 🫶😻

[@anilbalram7768]

But how do you get that when you start dating? People date and then don't make it to this point when they could water the grass

[@LegendaryNightfall]

Can we get the paper title?

[@jakeburns2012]

Nope I found my soulmate and it worked so naturally that we didn't have to build anything

[@elektrikmaus]

Studying successful relationships sounds like it’ll be subject to survivor bias❤

[@kojo7485]

Always Wash your hands because Science 🎉❤ 🤓

[@TheDigitalOne]

I don’t get it, how can a study show and or dictate what makes a perfect relationship? Relationships are personal and private, I guess, a relationship is only between two persons and or the persons involved in the relationship only. Why not have a cheat chat about what should be a perfect relationship? A walk to the park, a hike, a bike ride, maybe a game of basketball, etc. 💬😅🥰💫💎

[@letsdomath1750]

That study goes directly in the trash bin. 🤣

[@md-io4tb]

Poor Ignaz Semmelweis 😢

[@BkhammoYou]

Why would anyone want to go outside? There are people out there.

[@VeryBadPlayerTV]

Wish i built a better relationship with boo and i was more patient.... miss that girl to death.

[@imallergictotomatoes3369]

How do you still look 21????

[@succubus6759]

PLEASE LINK SOURCES! It's so annoying to have to find the data yourself. If you're referring to something, link it at least in the description. The picture thats shown in 0:07 isn't even the study thats being discussed... It's not that hard to link the proper source even if it's just through a picture. No hate to you but it's literally just a copy paste :/

[@VunahH]

can anyone link the source of the study?

[@jimdo9797]

What the shirts only meant for us to watch at brest hight???

[@filepz629]

❤️‍🔥ANNA💎AKANA❤️‍🔥

[@juanmacias5922]

If only I could meet people lol the apps are trash.

[@catsaresocute650]

I mean that study is bs. For once because that's more of a correlation. It dosn't matter if spending time thogether is nice if you don't like them romanticaly or are incompatible. And exactly for that are lists. Like he needs to match your wants for a family, but also your wants for chores splitting, the finaces you want to persue [if one person wants to be a millionar and the other just kind of vibe and have enogh money, they might be short term attractive but long term too different], same with just any goals that'll involve your long term parter

[@faridarahman2659]

le petit prince said it first