Anti-Style Types: Messy Mommy

[@sheilabonus6232]

Rocked messy mommy from 2015-2018 with my second. Switched a minimalist type wardrobe focused more on good fit and jewelry and feel SO MUCH BETTER

[@sheilabonus6232]

Also, if you are a messy mommy you need quality items that hold up. Spit up, accidental spills, don't buy fast fashion unless it's an accessory, learn what fits, start all over with the basics. Create an after bedtime routine for yourself, or wake up an hour earlier to have genuine time to yourself. Remember to shower! Seems ridiculous, but your more in the mode to put on "real" clothes when you're already clean!❤

[@christinemontez5313]

Love this! I've done the same and it's changed my life!

[@Sllacy]

Thank you for this!!! This messy mommy needed your wisdom!

[@ivyedgington-rice6274]

How about outfit suggestions for each anti style type? Like easy comfy outfit ideas for new moms. Or retro inspired outfits for dated Debbie? Just an idea.

[@missmayflower]

Ivy Edgington-Rice Great idea! It would turn it around to end on a positive note. I’d love to see that.

[@almamater489]

The whole channel is an outfit suggestion

[@cindypalmer9353]

OMG. My daughter showed me this, she is twenty and I am sixty. You hit the nail on the head and now feeling aware - am going to do something about it. So grateful!!

[@kellidifrancesco6424]

This was a fun one for me. I am a recovering messy mommy. I relapse sometimes, but that is what I have Lauren Messiah for :)

[@DionneDean]

I fight every day not to be a 'Messy Mommy' :-( It's a struggle, but I'm committed to slay EVERY day! Thank you!

[@misslittledormouse]

Lauren, you are not old!!! Honestly, I hate how sociate makes women over 30 feel like they are old! (Rather not mentioning general views on being childless or sigle....)

[@clairekurdelak2913]

Messaging we can control! Yes! I decided long ago, as a mother, that I want to make a little effort to make motherhood look good.

[@cabinlifeatedensprings1710]

You just described me. Now I am well past being a new mom. My children are grown. But I have experienced a major life change. And not just becoming an empty nester or weight gain. I came down with a serious illness. It’s been nearly eight years now but i am not at all the same person. And I found as the illness progressed and I was in no condition to work , I was still hanging on to the hope of getting it together again. Time progressed and so did the illness and simultaneously so did my lose of identity. Acceptance has taken place. This is the new me. All the kids are making there way on their own. The downsize has taken place. And where I am left is realizing I don’t want much. I’m tired of taking care of stuff. I love clothes but as long as I have great jewelry to slip on I’m good. It’s not like I get out much. What I want , what I need is to keep it simple. A basic capsule wardrobe, great jewelry, lip stick and I’m good to go. As I get rid of each item in my closet I feel a since of freedom I have not know in many years. And as that basic simple style comes together I think I am liking the new me. Retired empty nesters patient equipped with knowledge to get through the difficult times. I can do this and still have style. Tomorrow will be better and if not then the next day. LA

[@teatodd2]

In was in that stage for almost 3 years for my everyday life. Now I add heels & lipstick to any look and look so pulled together. Some days are a struggle to put myself first & get my look together but once I do I feel great 😊

[@seventhsheaven]

The whole messy mommy thing didn’t exist when I was a kid in the early nineties. Most of the moms at the school gate dressed casually but the clothes were clean, fitted and had clearly been chosen with some thought. Nowadays women have it in their head that being a mother is about constant sacrifice and if they put in the effort to look nice then they are obviously a bad parent, so now I always see the (mostly middle class) women wearing the ugliest, most utilitarian clothing they could find - North Face jackets, t-shirts with milk stains on and shapeless pants. Like seriously, you wouldn’t let your child leave the house looking like that, so why should you? Have some goddamn pride in yourself and stop acting like some martyr, as if no one else has ever had kids before.

[@Elemiriel]

In the pacific nw, northface jackets are stylish, just not "trendy"... more semi-timeless. Because we actually do things outdoors besides picking up the kids... other than that, I agree with all you said.

[@sylviamann5090]

Awesome advice and series. Everyone needs to practice self-care and making themselves a priority on a regular basis.

[@tiffanygoodman7967]

This was me for the longest time! My daughter is almost 8 and I turn 30 in a month, I have maternity underwear I need to throw out 😆I've gotten too comfortable with being comfortable. Time to hit up Macy's soon! I need help with dressing my age.

[@z.c.m9908]

Tiffany Goodman Yes...this was my problem for the longest time...I felt like I was still in my 20's...but knew I was in my late 30's...so shopping was either too dressy or too blah... I have been doing fantasy shopping since the fall on Pinterest, for a particular outfit ..fell into the world of capsule wardrobe and minimalist, and 10 items 10 ways... and I couldn't believe I had never knew or thought about this...anyway good luck, have fun finding yourself again...I'm still not where I want to be ..but sure not where I was!!!

[@tiffanygoodman7967]

Zoraida Magana I love Pinterest too! I was told find a celebrity that you like and how they dress, I love Jessica Alba. She's kinda basic street style, I do like basic, it's just finding the right kind. I don't want to be too bla or over the top.

[@jenniferrose6770]

Just because you turn 30 doesn’t mean you have to get dressed a certain way. It’s really no different from being 28 or 29. There’s no dressing a certain age. If you like wearing rocker T-shirt’s or shirts you liked in college and are an edgier person you can still wear that. What I do suggest is if you are in your 30s or even 20s, have appropriate attire for a professional setting like work or meeting clientele etc. You can still be edgy and professional. You can wear a blazer with a t-shirt just the way Lauren Messiah styles herself sometimes.

[@cherelled6419]

Gosh, this is me! I'm in a mission to fix this, especially dressing my age - how has your dressing been since you posted this comment?

[@lizyerolemidesemale5201]

Totally on the button - been through all of the stages you mention - now going through 70 year old ageing “has been “and getting a strong message from family and friends (and society generally) that they feel uncomfortable with a stylish grandma! It seems it’s ok for media personalities but not in reality! I don’t like disappearing into the wallpaper - what’s your take on ageing Glam-mas Lauren?

[@ocandro]

liz yerolemidesemale your family should be ashamed! I would be over the Moon if I had a grandma, and a stylish one? So lucky! Maybe you can tell these buggers really straight how you feel, maybe go a little bit dramatic? Like: it hurts me that you don't want me to feel visible and attractive, I am your mom and grandma, but I'm still a woman and looking good makes me happy (or something like that). Nobody wants to hurt their family, but sometimes they do that unaware. Straight up, serious communication (no joking and laughing) can resolve many problems.

[@joyadero8590]

Tell them off. Don't yell at them, but be stern and matter of fact. Tell them when THEY get to 70,they can wear whatever they want. One of the perks of being older is being direct and telling people how you really feel, no?

[@mlwilliams7959]

Tell them look at the advanced style blog!

[@alexisglover7628]

👏👏 cheers to the relationship status change. I became a complete slouch and depressed after my breakup. It's so difficult to feel like yourself, sexy, or even confident afterwards and that makes you not want to 'play dressup'. I went through a complete metamorphosis trying to find myself again. You don't realize how much someone had become a part of your life until it's gone.

[@lyndellwerling]

You're so funny! Loved your comment about babies wanting cool Moms. Lol!

[@kittydee4119]

I loved this! But please include what looks good not just the bad!

[@craftwhimsy4776]

Great video! I related to it so much because I spent 3 years having my kids and throughout the whole transition it was difficult to find out who the new me was. Because I certainly wasn't the old me. Fantasy shopping is the tip that resonated most. I used Pinterest to piece together pictures of looks I liked or certain pieces. And even when I finally did shop, some things just did not work out like I pictured. So still a work in progress but I'm ok because every wardrobe needs fine tuning.

[@donnaclark2068]

Thank you, Lauren. You are an inspiration.

[@filipinoamericanhomeschool5446]

You said "your kid's 10 and you're still wearing maternity pants" and I thought to my self "ugh! I resemble that remark!" 😝😂 Thank you for the words of encouragement in the rest of the video.

[@difordice]

Suggestions for a good mom uniform??

[@mumblesandwool1243]

Darkwash jeans, black and white striped t-shirt and olive green utility vest or jacket, suede booties or black flats.

[@labornurse]

Leggings and a crop top tee

[@MariMari-vq8hl]

Messy mom in recovery myself. Lol.

[@remmirath42]

Do I see an Appetite for Destruction T-shirt? Maybe you could do a video on how to wear band T-shirts and still look chic :-)

[@LaurenMessiah]

Great idea! I LOVE me a band tee

[@jenniferrose6770]

If you like band/rocker T-Shirts check out my Instagram @jenni_willi I have different ways to style band tees and make regular t-shirts look comfortable

[@shoeboxenterpriseslinda3151]

Facial or two hour movie? How about a shower on my own, or a bathroom trip by myself! Seriously, me time doesn't really exist for many with children. I watch your videos while I breastfeed my baby, if my 3 year old doesn't also need my attention! My "style" has come a long way since watching your videos, but some days if its clean and comfortable and I can breastfeed in it, it ts going to be worn, regardless of whether it's particularly stylish. My biggest messy mummy issue is hair - I had it chemically straightened pre-children. I'm excited to get it done again once I've finished breastfeeding, as it's my main messy mummy issue (and me rarely wearing makeup!). I wore an unironed silk blouse this morning to my daughter's ballet lessons- I did feel like a bit of a hot mess between that, no makeup and crazy wild hair.....

[@clairekurdelak2913]

shoeboxenterprises Linda good point. Lol! I have several children and have had almost ten years in which style has had to bow to functionality- can I breastfeed in it? I still do try to look nice, but that functionality is #1

[@dashson7560]

shoeboxenterprises Linda I hear you but when my youngest turned two I put a stop to that madness. My kids clothes are more stylish than my mine. And they leave looking well put together but I would leave the house a hot mess! Never again. Yes I wake at the at the crack of dawn but it’s ME time. I love it. Home facials mani and pedi and make up.

[@shoeboxenterpriseslinda3151]

Dashauna Jimerson haha yes! My youngest just hit 4 months, so I am already up at the crack of dawn, without the self-care mani pedis! I will probably be back on track in about 8-12 months, though first time around I decided to work from home between about 2am and 7am, when my daughter woke up. I think self-care time will take precedence over working from home 2nd time around!! Girl needs a break!

[@dashson7560]

shoeboxenterprises Linda Honey I hear you! That’s why I said when my youngest turned 2. It took me THAT long(don’t ask me why). But you’re da bomb dot com you grew a whole human!

[@duct_tapeheart6484]

shoeboxenterprises Linda maybe make a uniform? Like, clear out one drawer for stuff you can just grab that doesn't need ironing or extra attention. That way, whenever you have to look okay you don't have to think about it! Also, I wear earrings 24/7. I sleep in some teeny pearl studs and occasionally switch when I'm feeling fancy... Maybe that would help you? Leave a moisturizer by the sink, so when you wash your hands or brush your teeth or whatever, you do the sunscreen/deodorant thing! Then, you can twist your hair into a high topkot and voila! Chic. I don't think looking/feeling good should take a lot of work. People who do are overthinking it imo

[@Honeypepper.]

loved this one! great tips in here, I can appreciate even tho, im not a mommy

[@jeny1312]

I’m not even a mom, but even though I have a master’s degree, my income isn’t that great, so I am cheap about clothing purchases. I throw outfits together for the grocery store that barely match and always wear sneakers because my feet hurt in most shoes. I’m a total mess. I can sew and would like to make myself some beautiful clothes but too tired and apathetic most of the time. You are giving me a lot to think about because I hate seeing my reflection when I’m out and about.

[@Onemorebookpodcast.]

Love this series & thank God for my love for Fashion that I have never been a 'Messy Mommy'🙏🏾

[@thelauralindachannel1149]

Ding. Ding. Ding. I think we have a winner! This is me!

[@scarlettsulu4907]

very good content

[@rhonda6492]

I'm in the process of getting out of the "messy mommy" mode. It's so hard

[@innerwilderness3028]

Anti-Style Types are a very good Idea to show the opposite of a perfect sylish social media fashion type. Knowing that now, I would be interested in a video about the "middle types": A Fashion tool about how to wear not total fresh and super fitted clothes. I mean the clothes we all "normals" have in our closet. We need help to find confidence to wear this stuff till everything is changed up. So how can we decide what is not perfect but ok to wear.

[@missmayflower]

A mom of young kids is often lucky to just get a shower or have a pee by herself. This one is a bit out of touch with reality for a lot of women. So many are doing it on their own in our isolated society. There’s no grandma or aunts on hand to watch the kids while you have a facial or manicure. You’ve obviously never been in a fitting room with a toddler and a baby and your milk comes down and/or one of them poops! It’s hard. Fashion is the least of their concerns.

[@Elemiriel]

It is possible to not allow the toddler and baby in the bathroom while you pee. Put the baby in a swing, let the toddler entertain themselves for 1 minute, and pee by yourself.

[@miriamoppenheim]

I hear you as a mom of eight aged 1.5-14 but still the goal for me is improvement not perfection...

[@spiritualconnection6289]

On point totally .

[@tiffanymichelle3130]

I like this series, but why not show comparisons with what not to wear and what you should wear? That would be more helpful as opposed to just talking the whole time. But dang I love your style, hair and the way you talk. You sound very professional and articulate.

[@scilines]

Awesome. Reinvent yourself. 😊

[@sleizyx_200iq]

Hi girl you made my day hhhhh you r right we get used to being messy hhh I used to look Sofia vergara bellucci hybrid after having 2 kids I lost my identity my body changed but it's not an excuse bc when I get serious in 1month get back to my shape , I still go shopping pretty good clothes but somehow I feel like I'm going to battle and my fancy designer clothes will get messed up , so i always dress down , I know I give the impression of having financial crise hhhh people ask me about it even thought w r still pretty In good place

[@BonitaaFuego]

Listen... I have an 11yr old daughter and I am only 28. This! Is! A! Battle! Some days you really just don't want to give a shit. Lol The first 7yrs I always managed to keep it together and be the 'Fabulous/ Fancy' mother. Nails, Hair, Clothes, Shoes, Everything You can name. Lol But as they age and gather their own identity, especially rebellion phases, the stress can weigh on you.. Also external things like relationships, jobs, etc etc... But only If YOU allow it. My mother always told me "You are a Queen. Do your hair and get dressed. Always get up and put your best foot foward and everything else will follow". That is the cure and Messy Mommy wisdom. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR DOING THINGS FOR YOURSELF. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR SELF FOR YOUR CHILDREN. YOU BOTH CAN COEXIST IN HARMONY. YOU BOTH CAN BE FABULOUS. YOU DONT HAVE TO CHOOSE. BUT IF YOU MUST, CHOOSE YOUUUUU FIRST BECAUSE THEY CAME THROUGH YOU AND YOU WILL STILL BE LEFT WHEN THEY MOVE FORWARD INTO THEIR ADULT LIVES. !!!! Life lessons from a 17yr old mother who has grown with her child on her hip EVERY SINGLE DAY. In 2019, We BOTH are on point. YES It CAN BE DONE. You have to see yourself as a glamourous woman and mother in order to be and become one. Much Love and Many Blessings!!

[@ayannafrancis7835]

Look at that wack mom ... lol

[@fahimahhedar1503]

Dang my mom's cool xD

[@z.c.m9908]

Omg...okay that Lady with the double stroller lmao...with the hat...Yes!!/that was me all last summer...except wearing yoga pants....trying to lose weight... 10 of which I gained back during Christmas, thanks mom for those delicious tamales.....but yes...omg....lol....that lady looks exactly how I felt(feel) with two young boys!!!!

[@z.c.m9908]

Ohhh here I am....lol...or was....who am I kidding... I can still be found this way most days..... even though I have been cultivating(vegetables) my closet....lol....speak to me Lauren!!

[@rayy2670]

Window (online) shopping is self care?! Haha got to tell that to my husband. I always feel like it's a waste of time. But so is youtube..

[@mena5192]

Oh my gosh your not old at all 😂😂😂😂

[@nataliashine]

"...putting clothes on your body so you are not nude."

[@stardusstie]

Lmfao tell me why I'm messy mommy and I have no kids

[@miriamoppenheim]

Korina 😂Lazy Lucy perhaps? Seriously moms don’t have a monopoly on messy...🤗

[@Itsellasky]

Guilty

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

You’re right about kids wanting cool moms ! My cousin lived with his aunt for some times. He said “ I want my mom ! You’re an ugly lady with saggy boobs falling on the floor ! My mom is pretty” This kid is such savage 😂

[@krm6029]

This was disrespectful and ignorant

[@bellatcup8]

K Mejia how? This is not for you...

[@MamaWhit87]

K Mejia i guess you could relate

[@CARIBLOVE]

You must be a messy mom then

[@seventhsheaven]

You‘re not some sort of martyr for having kids. No one expects a mother of very young children to look like a model but if you wouldn’t let your kids go out dressed like shit, why disrespect yourself in that way? It just screams “I have no personality outside of my kids”.