Learn to say no AND set boundaries.

[@JeanandKenny]

My sister would give money, her car, anything to anyone at any time. She's passed now but so many ppl took advantage of her. She was the family humanitarian and always believed the best in people.

[@readin_ritin_rithmetic]

And if it steals your peace….its a firm No!

[@sam_and2020]

Well…when I came to your page this morning I did not expect to be called out! But this is exactly the advice I needed!!! My brother is always asking me for things. Sometimes I don’t even want to answer his calls because he ONLY calls when he needs a favor. 🤦‍♀️ I’ve run out of excuses/explanations because he acts like NO isn’t enough! I absolutely needed this video today ❤❤❤

[@pamdee8454]

I’ve already told my daughter I’m not buying gifts. She was relieved and so appreciative to agree with this.

[@AnnCashes]

Whoo! Truer words never spoken. Thank you!

[@madambillie863]

Jen, you better preach!!! 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@2SisterBees]

Haha! This was a good one, wasn’t it?! 👏💛 ⏰

[@moneywithjustliving5258]

I totally relate with this. Why do we justify our response. I feel obligated and that is a hard spot. Thank you for this video.

[@rachelleparish]

Hi Jen! Such a good topic. This just hits home 🎯 I'm a people pleaser so it's hard for me to say no to people asking favors and I tend to say sorry and explain a lot because I don't want to offend people and moreover cause conflict. And you're right, by the end of the day, I'm not happy and exhausted of living that way. So yes, I'm jumping in the wagon for NO-vember for my mental health to establish healthy boundaries for myself 😊

[@MysticBudgets]

Wooo girl! I am so guilty of over explaining myself😅

[@2SisterBees]

Same same same - I finally stopped doing it. It was HARD at first but I have gotten really good at it AND I’m teaching my youngest to do the same. She’s always like- “Yeah! You’re so right!” I love hearing her sound so empowered! 👏💛

[@MysticBudgets]

@2SisterBees I love that!

[@TheGeneralAnesthesia]

It’s fitting you bring this up Jen! I started a “No” jar a few months back. When I have a moment of total brutal honesty, either with a no to my less disciplined self or to others, I put some money in the jar. (I call the jar Brutus and I have to pay him like he’s my bookie/loan shark) The goal is to first and foremost, become confident and respectful of my own time, but also to learn to close my mind to that guilty feeling, and of course…save some money. I know it will be worth it to pull off the bandaid and be the leading lady in my own life instead of the sidekick,good-time, “Yeah sure” friend I’ve always been. Thanks for the video 💗⚓️🍁🧡

[@amandahaggan7062]

I LOVE this idea... I'm gonna need a "Brutus" too 😂

[@yesenia3491]

This is the advice I needed.... I always over explain myself and have a hard time telling people no

[@2SisterBees]

I did, too. And I still do sometimes. Saying yes feels GREAT - when you are able. If you aren’t - it doesn’t feel so great. 💛

[@themomlifeco]

I’m so doing this

[@PansyBudgets]

Hi Jenn! I love this we need to hear this … me especially 🩷

[@aprilbudgets]

My dear Sister challenge accepted you always inspire me my weak area is things I never say no but I’m going to say No in November

[@2SisterBees]

Hey! I was thinking about you yesterday! So glad to see you today! 💛

[@judimcintyre5350]

Thoughtful advice! It's great to see you evolve and take the rest of us along with you! Great work!

[@Rissascorner]

I have a difficult time saying no to people and things

[@conniekelly-hl5qr]

Hello Jenn, I just had to say no but i had lots of excuses as to why I said no. I have daughters like that.

[@mariazebra47]

thank you for this Jenn, holidays are especially a tough time because my friends and I are in different places financially and I feel bad not being able to show up with gifts to everyone's house or not participate in every gift exchange

[@2SisterBees]

Don’t feel bad. It’s a season of your life. I think that we think - our family and friends care about that stuff. They don’t. They want you around and they want to spend time with you. If they had to choose between you or a present FROM you- they would choose you. Every. 👏 Single. 👏 Time! 👏👏👏

[@sandrac4244]

Good morning ☀️ wow!!! 🎉so good! 😢Going to be a challenge but I’m on my way with the No spend challenge days! I’ve actually felt a change especially when it comes to eating out at the end of the day driving home from work feeling too tired to cook and just wanting to stop and get something I push on and feel better when I eat at home! I’m saying “no” to that in which gets me into “trouble”. Love this Jenn💙☕️

[@2SisterBees]

I love hearing how you are taking on that challenge and changing your typical behavior! That’s HUGE!! 👏👏👏

[@plannedwithlove]

This was such an amazing big video and topic!! I struggle with all three!! 💕

[@bargainCocobudgets]

ty for sharing your blessings big hugs from Coco

[@Irene.42]

Wow really feel like you were talking to me I don't mind helping but a lot of times what I wanted to do never gets done because somebody else wanted me to do something else this may be the month I just need to try harder to say no more thank you

[@rezenaenendu6001]

Oh my goodness Jenn thank you For this video. I am 1 minute and 41 seconds into the video and this is me all day everyday. That just happened to me like last night. I feel so-so bad. And the person was not even asking me for money they were asking to exchange money. I really didn't wanna do it because they always do it for money. This was something that was I guess Talk to me as a young child to my adulthood You need to explain yourself. So I always do that. And I hate it about myself. Yes I will be in 30 days retrain your brain. And I always lend out money even when I don't have it at my detriment financially. Thank you so much for this video

[@angelbabe1977]

Thankfully its a extreme rare occassion one of our 5 kids ask for money....like $20 once or twice a yr. BUT i have a daughter who feels its ok to dump her kids on me whenever she pleases. And a husband who feels his time and money are much more important than my income making and time!!

[@Autumnbudgets]

Hi Jen 🍂 Its FIRM yes to saying NO this month! NOvember what a fab idea and its literally at the right time! Thank you 🫶🍂🧡

[@blessedbudgetsbyAbigail]

Good Morning Jenn 👋🏾 The title made me worried for you. Here listening friend…good it changed lol Great advice Great advice my friend 👏🏾 I need to start saying no more often to people

[@2SisterBees]

I think we all have certain people that “get us” every time! 😂 We need to be aware of them and their “requests” and put ourselves first. We can’t take care of anyone else without taking care of ourselves first. 💛

[@bratonyahines4761]

Good morning, Jenn 😊 I didn't have a problem saying no to anything, and I could honestly say 80% of the time I would stick to it, but at times, the guilt would get to me. But I started January of 2024 with saying no and sticking to it, and that 80% is basically 99%, and it has been great for me emotionally, physically, and financially!!!!! It's such a great video, and I am sharing it with many of my family members 😊

[@debrajordan5171]

I agree!🤗

[@irenegraham6135]

There is awesome advice. I am going to share your video with some of my friends and family. I love your channel. Have a great weekend!

[@bethbeckermeyer1732]

For me it’s things, I feel like I have to spend more than I should.

[@sarahhouk]

Great video and advice.

[@BOOTZIE13]

Good morning and Happy Friday ❤ I needed this today❤ tysvm

[@2SisterBees]

I’m glad it helped you. Today’s Day 1! 🤩👏

[@BOOTZIE13]

@2SisterBees tysvm for all you do. I'm learning alot

[@Glammmahgotguts]

Happy Friday! I’m so with you. I use to be a ‘Yes’ person, and most often, the ‘go to’ person. I now have very Strict boundaries that I’m so ok with. I learned it’s not me, it’s them. 🤷🏽‍♀️😀😀💜😄😄😄😄

[@jessicabell3125]

Boy it's been rough workin towards not being a people pleaser specially along the family I was born into line, one statement that really sickens me given by a "loved one" was that given how I choose to be respectful and show love towards others will have me amount to nothing 😞 yet this person has benefited alot from me not having boundaries. Thankfully I'm striving towards being stronger in sticking up for myself.

[@annmariejones4511]

Oh my gosh, I was just noticing this about myself recently when making an appointment with my landlord, like, he doesn’t need to know all my details! Just the necessary information!

[@2SisterBees]

I have been guilty of it my whole life. I would say the past few years I’ve really taken a turn. I hope everyone can do this in some way, shape or form to feel more in control of their own time and lives. 💛

[@patsteele2120]

Budgeting time is as important as budgeting money.

[@catherineh2630]

Thank you for this video. People. It’s all about the people for me. I find it difficult to hold my boundaries when it comes to people and their requests of me.

[@ruthking466]

Good afternoon Jenn. I’ve never had a problem with saying no to anyone. I don’t mind helping others but if the same person keeps asking and asking and they can never help me if I need help or anyone else then I have a problem with that person. I never explain why I can’t help that person, I just say no and I stand by it.

[@tammymeek8930]

I do it all the time with my son and grandchildren older ones. They also want money. I make up some kind of excuse.

[@michellelong5459]

I say things like wine and debt that I nned to say no on

[@shecanbudget1170]

"No is a complete sentence!" Love it & definitely need to use it more often! xx

[@mckenzieholstine9391]

thanks for this video. i am really glad that i took the time out to watch it. i will think about responding with the answer no more often then i normally do as i go through the rest of this month. happy early thanksgiving. hope everyone has a good one.

[@2SisterBees]

I’m glad you watched it, too. It’s a good message for anyone- IMO. We all want to help but there’s definitely a line that we have to be aware of.

[@BudgetwithAandA]

Jenn, thank you for the reminder to be strong and say NO. My biggest weakness is when my daughter is with me, I want to buy her everything. I need to put a limit on myself when we are together and let her know what my goals are in saving money for bigger things like my retirement.

[@kirstenprice8854]

Thank you for the great advice, I do not get along with my moms side of the family so I never go to any of the events they hold. Im never asked for anything from my immediate family so thats always a bonus. But I usually say no if I am asked for things.

[@HeyKayBudgets]

Hey Jen. Oh wow this is so timely! Great advice! Happy NO-vember! It’s definitely people for me.

[@choosetoshine2610]

No, it is a complete sentence. PERIODT ❤🎉❤

[@sylviasaldivar8652]

Great advice

[@2SisterBees]

I’m glad you found it helpful! 💛

[@flygurl60]

I have started the me year this past January. I decided to put me first as I have always put everyone else before me. I think I will continue the me year into 2025.

[@gretchenzalenski7539]

Great advice Jenn.❤👀😊

[@2SisterBees]

I’m glad you liked it! 💛

[@flygirl2447]

Great advice! This is so important. People care way too much about what other people think of them and it reflects negatively on countless aspects of their lives. A good example is the debt epidemic we are seeing in America. Alot of it is due to people living a lifestyle they can’t afford in order to impress people they don’t know. Expensive cars, clothes, the latest $1000+ phone. That leads to stress and feelings of inadequacy and depression when they realize those people only like them when they can keep up the facade. And then on to mountains of debt, exhaustion, health issues, medication and so on. Boundaries are good. When your boundary says that acceptance/opinion from others no longer matters, it is freeing. It leads to good choices that benefit your future self. It leads to your financial freedom. It leads to your peace. It leads to being able to give and share your reclaimed resources (your energy, time, and money) with those people and causes that truly matter to you. Best thing/lesson I learned in life is that what others think of me is none of my business.

[@julieb6680]

I have never had a problem saying no. 🤣🤣

[@2SisterBees]

That’s so good! I am really teaching my youngest daughter to not be a yes man. She is pretty good at it ! She will call me if someone is pushing her boundaries and I help her stick with her no. I love knowing that both of my daughters are very strong women and won’t tolerate a lot of the things I did when I was their age. Know better, be better 💛👏

[@reneemesser422]

Im with you. My kiddos would be hard to say no to. But I am good about setting christmas limits on gifts.

[@thehopefulbudgeter]

GM Jenn!!! HAPPY NO-VEMBER!!! You are speaking facts here!!! Off topic, you are gorgeous! it's nice to see people's faces and not stare at "hands" all day lol. Continue to inspire! I am learning from you all the time!

[@conniekelly-hl5qr]

My weakness is People, Especially my daughters and Grandbabies.

[@deborahjanik1116]

What an amazing video Jen, thank you so much!! I am a total people pleaser-empath

[@amandahaggan7062]

Growing up, my dad would drop one of my sisters and I off at our grandmother's while he went to work. I knew he taught kids, but everyday, a little while after dropping us off, I would see someone on the TV that was JUST like my dad. Tall, thin, dark hair, big smile and would spend lots of time teaching me and reminding me how special I was, how proud he was off me... until I was much older I REALLY did think that my dad was Mr. Rogers. But my dad, like the big hearted man on TV, seemed to love everyone and wanted to help everyone. He would give you money to go buy yourself lunch and not tell anyone else how he already gave away his breakfast, and still had the rest of the day to go before dinner. He was always putting himself last for others. This was probably 30 years ago, but he was assaulted by other students while he was trying to break up a fight (this was when teachers could still physically pull kids apart from each other without being guilty of assault on the kids) he refused to press charges; he said he was a teacher and he was choosing to teach about forgiveness. His middle name wasn't "Empathy" but he exemplified it in everything he did. He taught us as kids about the Golden Rule- do unto others as you'd have done unto you- but showed by example that you should always strive to SURPASS that rule- do BETTER unto others than you'd have done unto you.... simple enough right 😅 Ironically, I have a problem staying quiet when someone takes advantage of my dad (everyone knows that I will happily be the first one to ring a bell and go to the mat for my dad) but when I KNOW someone is taking advantage of ME, personally, I stay quiet. I don't want to rock the boat and I don't want someone to feel bad. Luckily, I can say no to going to "places" as my hubby isn't a very social person so he's happy to quickly respond with a resounding "No" when asked. After 20+ years of marriage and refusing invitations, we don't really get asked much anymore. 😂😅 It's a combo of the "people/ things" for me. But honestly, the ones for the family friends are the hardest. Somehow, close family, coworkers, neighbors- they rarely ask for anything that impedes my time; things like pick up their mail if out of town or proof-reading an email first, etc. It's when a family friend needs help, almost always financial in nature, that I really struggle to say no. I will inconvenience myself, my husband, even my kids sometimes to try to help. It leaves me frustrated because it's normally not a one-off, feeling guilty about not saying no but also feeling guilty about even just thinking of saying no when I can see all my blessings and know their struggles, but it also causes strain on my relationship with my husband and kids. They feel neglected or, like me when it comes to my dad, overprotective and angry to see someone taking advantage of a loved one. Saying no is hard. But lots of things are hard- quitting smoking, sticking to a budget, getting up on a Monday morning....just life in general. So yeah, I'll take your NO-vember challenge for 30 days and hopefully I'll have positive results. If nothing else, I'll have a shorter list of people to send Christmas cards to 😉🤶😊

[@DeniseMeyerhoff]

Happy November 😊

[@2SisterBees]

Yes! Happy November ! 💛

[@LaineyBugBudgets]

This is an absolutely perfect monthly challenge! I can do most of this, but I do have a couple people that it's harder with! I will definitely work on it this month friend ❤

[@sisterseeker1]

My weak area is my own husband he will want to buy something even though I have told him to wait we can't afford it yet then when we a huge dr bill he wants to go ask his dad to give us the money even though I had already told him no we can work it out where we pay a little at a time till it is paid off.

[@nettielange3276]

Saying yes,giving my time and space in my head

[@TheStruggleBudget]

Like you said, there are multiple reasons for doing it. Internal guilt, conflict avoidance, etc. Another big part is social acceptance. Coming from a person who has struggled in the professional field for a very long time because I am "abbrasive" I have learned that socially speaking a one word answer without explanation is perceived as rude and confrontational sometimes and makes working relationships strained. As is asking for something from another person without an explanation. " example: Would you please help me with this task? I am putting out another fire and can't get to it on time." as opposed to, "Would you please help me with this task?" People tend to over explain themselves all the time. I realized a few years ago that when people introduce people to other people they feel compelled to classify that person. Such as, this is Alex, my friend, husband, significant other, cousin, etc. I have tested this and found it funny how people respond. Hi Jane this is Samantha, and leave it at that. People expect a classification to be provided. Social queues and etiquette are what prompts this in some cases, but as I get older I no longer feel inclined to be socially acceptable. LOL!

[@GenXpressnG]

Yaaaay to that‼️

[@BudgetsWithELMA]

Definitely love this video & thanks for making it I love the concept of NO-vember❤ No🎶no🎶no🎶 in my Destiny's Child's voice🎶😊🎶13:25

[@2SisterBees]

Hahaaa! Yes! I saw them back in the early 2000s - they opened for Christina Aguilera! That’s so crazy…. 🤩

[@patsteele2120]

After the morning I had, a firm NO isn't going to be a problem moving forward.

[@theeclecticmemah]

How did you know I needed this today? Area I need to work on is people!

[@morethanenough6179]

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@2SisterBees]

💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@conniekelly-hl5qr]

I am with you on saying NO.

[@corinebeeckman9391]

coucou Jen waouh c est vrai j ai un réel problème pour dire non 😕😕mais j ai bien écouter se que tu as dis et aux lieu de faire passer les autres avant moi je vais d'abord m'écouter et dire NON 😋😋

[@cynthianieto6092]

Love the No-November. Hardest part will be to my grown children.

[@margowhitlock7933]

I am a no person But thanks for sharing

[@Beemybudget]

I am learning to say no.

[@rena_vations]

Im a yea person. My husband says 'like this..."noooo"' 😂😂😂

[@CameraQueenSLC]

It's good to help people, but you have to be careful some will take advantage of you. I feel take care of yourself and also when you can bless others.

[@shonnebailey]

Someone just asked me for money. I said no

[@jessicakoczwara4084]

I have a hard time saying no to Myself : I know I shouldnt but the soda and the coffee to get through work and then that candy bar but I do.. I justify it by stating that I need energy to finish my shift,. Then there's people : they get lunch when I bring lunch and I just hope onto yeah I feel like tacos too ... by the time I remember about my food its a week later and its garbage. Also I would like to re-build my credit .. are there programs to help with that ? its been 8 yrs since my Discover was a problem but I'm not really sure how to re-build that and would really like to .

[@latanyaneal4070]

❤ good evening how are you doing today ❤

[@traceydufault297]

Hello Jenn no is my answer not saying no to you of course

[@sherinamitchell]

yes, because the bible says if you give a man a fish he will eat for a day, but if you teach a man to fish he will eat for a lifetime.

[@2SisterBees]

That’s right! Show people! I love that you brought that up! 💛

[@TarynWestover]

I had to give this a thumbs down because its not the Bibilical way.

[@AEvans36963]

Ma'am, with all due respect, I disagree with your perspective. Jen's not being anti-biblical. The birth of Christ was about giving but ultimately His birth was about the holy sacrifice of the Savior for the world's benefit. Sacrifices require the ability to say no. Remember Jesus' refusal to give in to the temptations put in His path. You may not mind people taking advantage of you but most people do not care for that. Happy Holidays!😊