College Life & Social Anxiety Disorder | Dr. Russ Morfitt, Learn to Live CBT

[@bunnyhillrock10]

the actual anxiety dosent bother me what does bother me is being so nervous and so much anxiety that i act like a creep and talk so weird around people and sometimes skip class if im late because i cant walk in with all the people sitting

[@Carlos-bb1im]

Oh my god same! I hate how I can't act normal around people! Like at work I'm super quiet so I'm afraid people think I'm some creep or murderer or something😫 and dude I do that too! I hate entering a class with a lot of people.

[@amna927]

same! but I dont skip classes.

[@austinhernandez2716]

raymond perez Omg another GUY with this problem?! I have the same problem. My voice sounds so deep and quiet and monotone when I'm around others at college, but at home, I'm a social butterfly. I don't think of people judging me like of I make a mistake or something. I used to but that stopped like a year ago. Now I just feel regular anxiety, I'll be shaking and feeling really nervous and my heartbeat will speed up. I only think of how people are judging me now because of how my voice sounds, and I also worry about how they judge me as being that shy, quiet guy(even though I'm not). I don't worry about messing up and embarrassing myself or anything.

[@bunnyhillrock10]

Austin Hernández yeah man lmao this post old as hell but still going through this sucks.. for me its just no confidence from being made fun of so much i usually get girls im not ugly if you see my pic but it damaged me but yeah it would be good if i could workout and play basketball but i stretched a muscle that dosent let me wich sucks if not id be trying to do that and play baksetball to help with it but yeah in physical therapy now Good luck tho

[@austinhernandez2716]

raymond perez Due I've been fighting it for 3 years!

[@newleft2254]

My social anxiety is extremely high which makes me extremely good with people. I can see and analyse things that other people just don't see or understand because they are not sensitive to others and I can relate to people in a way most people cannot. I listen, empathise and hit them where it is deep. However... when I cannot contain my anxiety, which is half of the time, I cannot be around people and that is extremely confusing to my friends and family since I don't look like I have a problem.

[@iamsunshine86]

Intelligent Dating ❤️

[@i0073]

I can’t even physically speak to people I stutter, I try so hard to speak normally and I just sound like I’m lifting weights and trying to talk at the same time, when it gets really bad I sound like I’m about to cry it is extremely embarrassing. But I can relate to you I feel like I am good at understanding people too.

[@newleft2254]

@@i0073 You should try a beta blocker (propanolol). It really helps with stuttering and heart racing that comes from anxiety.

[@i0073]

@@newleft2254 I tried propanolol it did lower the physical symptoms of anxiety and helped with speaking but only minimally. I also tried lexapro but the first day I took it I started getting muscle cramps in my face, jaw, neck and diaphragm/abdomen. I took them for 6 months but my anxiety would fluctuate some days I could speak perfectly other days my anxiety was worse so I stopped taking them and I still have those muscle cramps but they only occur when I try to relax, so trying to fall asleep is harder now. I’m just waiting to finish this semester of school so I can go see a psychologist.

[@yugeno]

@@newleft2254 does it have to be prescribed by a psychiatrist?

[@jaybrick8973]

I dropped out of college and did very poorly because of my social anxiety

[@pineapplequeen9582]

truthseeker89 for life :(( I'm sorry to hear that, Where are you now?

[@painexotic3757]

Same lmfao I dropped out after 3 weeks. Its pathetic.

[@khiemluong-c6f]

What college?

[@MegaXwillx]

i dropped out after my 4th year of college...

[@rdx1972]

i dropped my college because of social anxiety I can't beat this i lost my life is totally destroyed thank you God for giving me such type of life

[@austinhernandez2716]

I've been fighting my anxiety for 3 years now and now I realize that I can't beat it by myself, I need help. It has certainly gotten better, for example I have a few friends and gave been socializing in class and hanging out with a few, and even have two friends as roommates next semester(and having friends like this is a completely new experience to me). But my anxiety isn't won't go away. I used to be nervous just to be in social situations, but it's gotten much better. I just struggle to talk. My voice sounds very deep, quiet, and monotone. I worry about how people are judging me off of my voice. And that's when the anxiety starts. People think I'm just quiet or shy, but that's not true at all. When comfortable, like around family, I'm very social with a loud, confident voice. I'm also very humorous and act obnoxious sometimes. I want everyone to be able to see who I really am but the anxiety is preventing it. I found some local therapists but they're so expensive I can't afford it. I got fired at my first job because of my anxiety affecting my work performance, but I did good at my second one, but the anxiety makes it very hard to work. I'm going to try to start back working for the summer, but I'll be only like on minimum wage, and most of the money will be going towards college. No one, not even my family, knows about my anxiety. I told my mom once and she thought I was lying. My dad doesn't believe in mental disorders. My family is so used to me be like the most social person there that I know they won't believe me. I also don't want them to be involved or know anything about it because it's embarrassing to me. That's the main reason I want to use an online therapy program.

[@rifkasafira98]

Hey do u have instagram or email? I feel exactly the same way as youuuu and it sucks:(

[@haroldbubuli8718]

Hey how are you now?

[@BitZ948]

@@rifkasafira98 same...it is messing with my career big time :(..... wanna talk ?

[@mariaestrella5337]

This is really me, after 5 months we will defend our thesis thats why im here cause i want to know to cope it

[@kyoshiro420gamin5]

You're not alone. Me too, my antiety is on peak now.

[@Ruby95z]

I need help with my social anxiety but I'm to scared to say anything. How do you talk to your medical provider about it?

[@tayy2072]

You can call your doctor's office and schedule an appointment and tell them them that you'd like to talk about medication or therapy for a mental health issue over the phone. That way the doctor is already aware of the subject.

[@Ruby95z]

Tavon Walker thank you . I've been putting it off for a while now .

[@tayy2072]

You are welcome and let the fact that you are not alone comfort you. Trust me.

[@Ruby95z]

😊

[@makeuptutorials6300]

Talk to @mental_health_consultant on instagram

[@debielynclamosa6093]

Anyone here experienced mind getting blank everytime you're presenting to a crowd?

[@meklitmeklit5173]

It happens every time I have presentation

[@burhanmenekse853]

I had a group presentation but I didn’t go. I got a lower grade for my module because of it.

[@pineapplequeen9582]

watching this instead of attending my classes today.. good or bad idk. Anyway, hopefully I gain some insight on how to deal with my SA.

[@pineapplequeen9582]

Devin Goranson thanks, gl to you too ^^

[@LearntoLive]

oo oo Were you ever able to get your social anxiety under control? If you'd like, I'd be happy to tell you about some of the resources we offer for social anxiety sufferers, including our social anxiety test, our blog, and a community forum for anonymously discussing issues related to mental health.

[@pineapplequeen9582]

Learn to Live Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Oh, thanks for asking. I decided to push myself and use my s.a in almost every situation as an opportunity to grow. And I have family and friends to fall back on when it becomes too much, so all in all Im progressing ^^

[@sophiaisabelle027]

Just thinking about my own social anxiety is already too overwhelming for me to bear. I'm hoping that I could be a better person somehow...

[@JaronLukasXYZ]

This is a great resource for folks facing challenges with anxiety. Meditation has given me a lot of energy to face my own anxiety. That’s why I created short exercises for morning meditation to face overthinking, stress, and creative blocks.

[@i0073]

I have extreme social anxiety to the point I can’t physically speak. I am entering my last two college classes. I struggle alot to speak on class, for some strange reason I can’t say my own name when introducing myself and in my previous semesters when I had my classes from 8:00 am to 9:00 pm, I would go all day without eating, simply because I get really anxious ordering food and eating in front of others. In communications class my classmate told me “you clearly know what you are talking about, so why do you struggle to present?” I’ve asked myself the same question but when I get really anxious it’s as if my brain turns off I forget my words and make mistakes. I’ve come to just expect the worst outcome, in order to not feel so upset about myself afterwards. I also struggle a lot at work since I can’t communicate well. I haven’t made any friends in college, I just have a small group of friends from high school. At work I have had coworkers call me stuck up, but they just don’t understand how difficult it is to function socially, even though I want to be able to socialize and build relationships like everyone else, it is really hard to do so. Hopefully I can learn to manage better so it doesn’t affect my car once I graduate. I am proud of myself though I have gotten this far despite the struggle.

[@bintuae1]

Great insight Dr Morfitt! I really appreciate the hard work you put into educating and helping those suffering from such a misunderstood disorder. I'm one of them going to use your website and practise the cbt. hope I'll get better :)

[@mariaestrella5337]

after 5 months we will defend our thesis thats why im here cause i want to know to cope it

[@ethanSADTP]

ACT, acceptance and commitment therapy argues against CBT, and says that you cannot control your thoughts. It instead seeks to divide the observing self from the thinking self, since they are two different things. You are not your thoughts, you are the observing self observing the thoughts that you have. Thoughts are involuntary. Instead accept your thoughts for what they are just thoughts, and not reality.

[@Trys_Kapeikos]

ethanSADTP for various stress or fear disorders cbt has the strongest scientific evidedence, thats why its the number one therapy suggested by psychologists for these kind of problems. And cbt is not aboyt controling per se, its about noticing that the thought is not logical and changing it to a logical one.

[@felixjohn6324]

Sociophobia is such a bad disorder as it leads to very low self-esteem, poor grades, and even depression.

[@Hiphop101ize]

this = my first 3 years of University. Still there but not as extreme

[@m2sotolopez]

My family has a history of mental illness and anxiety in our past and present generations. I have noticed that as the younger generations grows up they also become more atheist and if they have anxiety they struggle immensely with their illness to the point of suicide. My faith has strengthen me and many in my family and we do well in life despite our setbacks. However, when my younger family show signs of struggles they want nothing from prayer and faith and the anxiety overcomes them. Have you made studies on how faith can help people overcome anxiety? I truly don't understand how my young family members who are struggling with this conditions only seem to rely on themselves. I thank God that in my worst moments I could turn it over to him in prayer. God Bless everyone struggling with this but leave it in God's hand and pray and trust.

[@judymaerodas124]

I completely agree. When we have God, we have Him as our anchor. Thinking that He's always with us makes any mental issue a bit bearable and that is a great thing for me. We still have hope somehow that all will be well at the end of the day as long as we trust in Him.

[@dynamict4722]

It’s hard for me to go to the cafe to eat in front of ppl

[@kay8x]

Very good presentation

[@LearntoLive]

kay9x Thanks very much. We're glad that you found *****'s presentation helpful!

[@kyoshiro420gamin5]

Because of social anxiety my grades getting low, cause I don't participate on group activities involve talking. I try to convence my self but drat it's harder than I thought. 😅Now wasting time to this video hoping can learn something...🗿if you're reading this pls wish me a good luck.

[@itstonycia]

29:00 so true

[@ayeshakhatoon9461]

Iam also severely suffering from this give a short video wat to do

[@LearntoLive]

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[@_ayushyadav_]

6:15 this had me crying because of that I have dropped my college in my first year all my previously friends, family, relative's make fun of me which I am observing and suffering from it but i can't even able to explain what I am feeling in my head idk why this happened to me but it ruined my career & ruining my social life ( I've heard about professional help and cbt but can't even afford to go their clinics as well ) i wish god was given me death instead of this shit inside my head

[@MaddieFishblob]

Bruh Ik what u mean - mega struggled to meet ppl and feel comfortable my first yr because of just the large amount of ppl and the stress of speaking to them. Ur career isn’t ruined tho - it’s all about baby steps. For me it was going to stores on my own with self-checkout, then branching out to asking employees at the store for help finding things etc. Going to one school club meeting, than trying a second. Maybe think abt a community college or a place close to home, so you can study but still take breaks at home to recharge. It takes time, but push yourself slowly out of your comfort zone and you’ll be shocked with how far you can actually get.

[@_ayushyadav_]

@@MaddieFishblob Thanks for concern brother I'll try my best

[@CharleneNicole67]

Do you do skype CBT sessions ?

[@lisaalfonso6163]

Lovely Video clip! Apologies for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - t.co/SShXwevAHG ? It is a smashing one off guide for getting rid of panic attacks minus the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my work colleague after a lifetime of fighting got excellent results with it.?

[@debielynclamosa6093]

Like as if you don't know what to say even though you prepared well for it

[@pilly3815]

Yes, very often. Highly often.

[@debielynclamosa6093]

@@pilly3815 In my case, always. Rarely that I am able to say the words I wanted to say. But then you know what, I tried recording myself and I found out it doesn't sound as bad as I thought (i.e. the pauses, the jumbled words). I suggest you try it yourself too And thanks for responding

[@leonardohosier2607]

Nice Video

[@LearntoLive]

Leonardo Hosier Thanks for the kind words! We hope you will take a look at some of our other videos as well. All the best -

[@kac327]

You look and sound like the bond experience

[@Novak2611]

I should stop the over preparation.

[@mohamedramadan8028]

I've been studying treating shyness naturally and discovered an awesome website at Seans Shy Program (look it up on google)

[@sisterluke]

the volume on this video is giving me anxiety.

[@sayyidtawaqal1754]

Sure we suffer

[@coraconvay8724]

Just wonderful, I've been looking for "coping strategies for social anxiety disorder" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my m8 got great success with it.

[@itstonycia]

I don’t believe mental disorders especially like depression are based off “a chemical imbalance in the brain” That’s pathetic. It’s basically saying you can’t help the way you feel bc of science