Leaving a Narcissist- Biggest & Most Common Mistake

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[@PaulClipMaster]

The biggest misconception nice people have is that they have to "justify" leaving a relationship to others. YOU DON'T. Being unhappy is reason enough. You don't owe anyone a relationship and you definitely don't owe outsiders an explanation.

[@unapologeticella4540]

This is so true. 100% facts God sent message✍🏽🙏🏽thank you.

[@asyadelmont]

Wow yes. That's something I definitely needed to hear. Thank you for saying it 😊

[@rachelthompson7487]

Thank you

[@ellejay4153]

My thought of considering contacting the sister of my abuser to explain to her everything that her sister has NPD.

[@shellyspiropulos9456]

Thank you for saying this! I always go around and around in my mind trying to justify a “good reason “ to leave! When I know there is 100! I keep looking for cheating thinking that’s the only reason I would be justified 😢 I hate that I think that ❤ it’s so maddening.

[@sandradibiaso7316]

Narcissists lack both respect for their partner and empathy for their partner.

[@blisteredblues1255]

My narc used to demand that I respect him. He'd get so pissed off. The more he yelled and demanded the less respect I had for him. I said respect is earned. You cannot demand it. He was simply projecting his total lack of respect onto me until I had zero respect for him.

[@phoenixmode6909]

And, will accuse YOU of being the one who lacks respect and empathy, because you are done with them and are leaving. He says *I* am the narcissist, because of the way *I* am behaving.

[@unapologeticella4540]

Very true they treat their partner like sexual object's its disgusting wenever i refuse sex he gets mad & u useally agree to keep the peace its horrible😢

[@suziq1533]

Right! Mine actually says that the word "empathy" means that I agree totally with him. Doesn't get it.

[@jennyl7422]

@@unapologeticella4540 jup.. If I said no to sex my narc ex would accuse me of cheating on him "you don't want to have sex with me because you are sleeping with someone else" or he would say "you don't want to have sex with me because you don't love me anymore".. or his favourite "I bet you're actually a lesbian, since you don't want to have sex with me anymore"... so I ended up feeling disgusted every time he touched/kissed me or when we had sex.. I just couldn't relax anymore (why even bother to do some foreplay, just ram it in) and I ended up having pain every time we had sex.. so that resulted in me never wanting sex anymore.. it became a vicious cycle, caused by my ex himself, but he kept blaming me.. (and his ex lol, because what happened to me, happened to her too)..

[@davidwebb7179]

They push you to break and get upset then turn it back on you. It's so evil and messes you up so much. Will take me years to get over the pain and emotional abuse.

[@tishleigh7026]

Yes this is very true .They are from hell.

[@aspenivy3268]

David Webb rTold this bitch that I told senators to rejectkauvanough, she was talking about the good he has done @ 6.am on the too of her lungs.D ont kneed drama fm,cant vote and only care about policy.

[@stevenrafferty4985]

My brother tried breaking me when our father was recovering from having major surgery, just after our mother died. I am a single parent to a then 7 year old girl and my brother put all the responsibility for his care on my shoulders, whilst he would visit and do a 5 min tidy-up (hoovering to be exact) then go on his merry way, whilst leaving me to continue with my job (12 hour nights), a university course, caring for my daughter and now father, what the said during their visit really was an eye-opener, when he cornered me in the hallway and said 'if you cant handle it give me a call'. It was the way they said this that really gave me the creeps. There is much more that happened before this that was really disturbing such as walking out of my parents after trying to turn our mother against my daughter, her exact words and much more. All in all a really horrible and disturbing experience being around someone who's only goal in life is to see you suffering. The only option with these people is to go NO CONTACT.

[@ellaluvs21suarez32]

I left him after a 2 yr relationship and took.me.3 months to get over him because I was doing things he dint let me like going to the beach,museums etc.)

[@empoyvega6795]

They set you up to fail

[@teraclouse2766]

Bottom line is most people do not care about your marriage or relationship anyway. They don't want involved in your drama unless they can use it to gossip or feel superior. If you have 1 or 2 good friends to support you and share with them alone. As for the rest just smile and move forward. I just don't let people provoke me into talking about him. If they think the worst of you because of what he says then they likely don't need to be in your life either.

[@corsicanlulu]

exactly, people dont give a shit unless they are a close friend, and really u dont have to tell anyone ur business anyways since they dont care anyways and wont help u. its none of their business and i wish people would stop asking when they truly dont care

[@asiyasparkles]

This is such a truth, so well stated!

[@aspenivy3268]

Tera Clouse W, your drama is free entertainment for them. Don't change the program😮

[@loonylinn8824]

Tera Clouse it’s a narcissist why biggest mistake? she missed the guy’s narcissistic dick

[@user-zm9yc2kb8x]

Loony Linn get a life ffs

[@shoppersdrugmartcanuck]

Wow... so spot on. I've gone back so many times feeling like nobody else understands and doubting myself.

[@dianalorenzi4272]

don't feel bad, I went back alot times and always pray for God to open my eyes.

[@stevenstevenson3]

Wow, didnt know this happened to super hot people too. Im still trying to get away from one but at least i dont feel so alone. Sorry for all u went through and know someone understands.

[@bombayallday4229]

U are not alone

[@tonykuli]

Diane God helps those who help themselves. Don’t play with the devil , let God deal with them, don’t get in the way and go No Contact!

[@lindajohnson3283]

I have gone back to many times they never change i also felt like it was me but now.i know better.

[@bredamoran7649]

Just came accross this video and all that you say is so true. My Narcissistic husband was such a master of manipulation and an abuser of myself and the children, he was a street angel and a home devil.When I left him he blackened my name so much that family, friends and colleagues rejected me , I did not speak ill of him as I knew how dangerous he was and no matter how alone I was in my truth I just kept myself to my self and created a lovely home for the children with peace, pets and friends. All the while I was self healing and practicising self love because I knew the truth. I stood in my self power and my strength lay in the fact that I survived the worst type of Narcisstic possible.

[@glenniirudman4609]

I learned the hard way about people not understanding narcissism and the abuse I was going through. I’m a guy so imagine the difficulty everybody had with believing me. I was treated like I was blatantly lying and that I was more likely the abusive one in the relationship. The frustration you go through makes it difficult to heal.

[@reettaelina1092]

Thank you ❤! Nobody still believes me.... but I'm happy to be no contact!

[@TrendingShots24]

I believe you i suffered

[@dianalorenzi4272]

I sure believe you, I happy tooo! finally!

[@pamelapowell2526]

Keeping preaching don’t give up

[@pamelapowell2526]

You hang in there sweet heart you worthy Iam going though same thing an it been ducking crazy how ever each time I remain strong don’t win calling then out soon come if pack shit call off paid dogs in gang staking including my ex husband who iam sure been paid fun fuck his time coming well

[@fumingsalmon]

You know what...if you believe that’s enough...

[@Mrsvshine1]

I've just realized what I was dealing with, 20 years in and I am exhausted!!! I'm in pain all the time always angry, people are always telling me how mean I look, so I might just look like the bad guy, but they don't know what I'm dealing with, Im a 40 year old depressed, broken woman living in hell!!! This video is so insightful. I sometimes think I'm the reason why he's this way because of mistakes I've made. But I've come to realize he will never change o matter what. I will continue to do my research and find a way to get out of this!!!

[@HelenMurray00]

Hope you got out.

[@larinammar184]

i am the same just leave please. I am planning to escape too

[@Sound_The_War-Cry]

We who live through this know a deeper darker side of hell that most cannot imagine.

[@pixelteriyaki3320]

Lost a lot of my university friends by trying to expose my Narc friend (who was actively playing Mind games and attempting to manipulate. Apparently I was the jealous , obsessed one and that "everything was in my head". After finding your channel , It really helped make a huge difference in the recovery process. Thank you very much!

[@dianalorenzi4272]

Pixelteriyaki yeah it like I was obsessed, but now I know better.

[@alinnepereda4345]

I believe you, we believe you.

[@khalidababaali2583]

Ooh I feel u 💔

[@aspenivy3268]

Pixelteriyaki truth must avail and the video should make you take your side Objective events ,they were never your friend Who knows your motives

[@ryanreagan2910]

Those people weren't your friends anyhow people come and go sometimes it's a big deal sometimes it's not there's a difference between friends and acquaintances

[@tem1465]

I have told my self its my life. One doesn't have to stay in the nightmare rollercoaster to please everyone... Who is everyone ANYWAY?!

[@manipumaster]

OMG, how does such a devil make himself into such a saint? I have been in this relationship for 31 years. How does a narcissist get to be so crafty, yet is able to paint a picture of beauty upon himself? Yes, I am proving to myself that I can get through this. Time for me, I'm on it! I send a big hug your way for the encouragement.

[@renaissance5300]

ka ta ra 32 years time for me too blessings on your escape good luck to us both

[@dianalorenzi4272]

bugs hugs for everyone in this journey and God bless you all

[@shadowkingbds]

In one word camaflouge

[@Sunshine-gv6nd]

✝️ II Corinthians 11: 13,14,15 For such are false apostles, deceitful workers transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. And no marvel; for Satan himself Is transformed into an angel of light. Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works. So now we know that these types of individuals who claim to be christians but yet behave like the devil's they are have another spirit. They are not the children of my Lord, Jesus Christ of Nazareth. They have their father's rebellious nature, Satan himself. As the saying goes, " The apple doesn't fall to far from the tree". Religious narcissist have a Jezebel spirit with Satan's sinister charm. Their day is coming. Be encouraged, Christ's servant ✝️🙏🤗

[@farfetched9296]

It's an act that crumbles in the end....

[@asiyasparkles]

Oh my ...spot on. I think it shows the only person who matters, in this situation is *yourself. Just get out . Even in domestic violence, it is the exact same scenario. Don't expect or hope for others to validate you. Just realise that you deserve better.

[@ajitkumardas7561]

Very difficult to escape or leave a narcissist. Fight him/her out, the right. Beautiful video.

[@saranicole5440]

I need to just say how thankful I am for you and your videos. I’m 33 years old , lost my husband to a car accident 2 years ago (almost exactly, on the 19th of this month) and I began dating a friend of my late husbands about 1 year ago. I just had my ah-ha moment. This man has put me through hell. I just want to say everything you’ve said in the vids I’ve seen has been spot on to my life. This video especially... I feel so hopeless because I don’t have anyone anymore. The very little family I had has turned on me and i don’t understand what I did except date this man and fight to survive it. I feel myself pulling away from him but I feel his magnetic pull and I don’t know if I’ll be able to break away.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Excellent insights! When you're standing on the truth, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, even if the whole world is against you. Everyone has their karma, including the "perfect narcissists."

[@dianalorenzi4272]

Breakthrough Moment Amen

[@conniethecactus5148]

Like Gandhi said, "The truth is the truth, even if you are a minority of one !!" x

[@Rosesandpearls_]

Yes!

[@laurachevalier4756]

ive been keeping to myself. I dont want to emotionally dump on others,. Ive been through hell. i will soon change my stars and heal without the need of others or there validation.

[@monicacruz4407]

Such a great piece of advice. This is just so true, the narcissist has charmed everyone around you, it’s so easy to make the victim (survivor) look like the crazy one. Thank you!

[@deeflowers6096]

I am glad I am no contact, going back with him I might as well get ready to leave this world I am actually scared of feeling like that ever again in my life, I don't think about that price of shit. I thank so many people on u tube narcissist is a sick personality disorder I thank God I am narcissist free.

[@dianalorenzi4272]

dee flowers you and me both, I will never to talk him ever, I don't trust him. he is so evil, I thank God he opened my eyes, I'm so peaceful now.

[@pamelapowell2526]

You stay strong that what they do

[@tonykuli]

You have seen the face of evil!!

[@jeaninezanocco1385]

Good timing on this video for me. The very thing that put us in this situation in the first place, looking for validation and support is keeping us in a mental prison after the nightmare has ended.

[@mecsekiagnes296]

My friends hated him, they saw him abusive before I was awakened 😊 Good Friends I have!!!

[@peanut9863]

Such a powerful video; Mrs. Michelle. It is mind over matter with the narcissist. The best thing you can do is move forward with your life. His “friends”-birds of a feather flock together! We become so emotional from being manipulated that the narcissist will continue for as long as we allow. This is why we must love ourselves enough to say no more!

[@trixiebell62]

J.C.D. Amen, T y.

[@dianalorenzi4272]

J.C.D. well said. thank-you

[@pamelapowell2526]

Amen only feed off what given , truthful don’t understand how can you want one feel so far less then other r one self then be jealous over the one you so tried put down

[@tonykuli]

Cast not your pearls unto swine!

[@sarisigmund2115]

So true on the “birds of a feather “!

[@warrencardwell6706]

Thank you Michele your videos help a lot of people and we all appreciate what you do.

[@Katienin23]

I just left 2 hours ago. There is a heavy sort of sadness, but I feel empowered. I have to hold on to the belief that my future, however uncertain, will be better for me than this last decade was. I know this is the right decision.

[@alexraptor4684]

Michele, spot on! I have learned that the only thing that matters after living through narc abuse is that you alone have to accept the truth as YOU understand it. There is no use in trying to get others to see it from your point of view, because they have not lived it. To thine own self be true. Believe what you know, and don't worry about what others think. Remember, the narc always sells themselves as wonderful people to the rest of the world. Let them be fooled! Stay focused, get strong, and be you,,, again! Love you Michele!!

[@alexraptor4684]

@@iniubongnkanga9390 Thanks for the information, I am sure it will help others in need of closure and the truth As for me, I simply don't care what the hell she is doing, has done, or will do. I am soooo over it, and so thankful that I discovered this community to help us all deal with it in our own way I revel in knowing what I have learned, and I am delighted to be in and to stay in no contact FOREVER!

[@MarkmanOTW]

Great advice Michele! Because once 'the penny has dropped' and you've finally seen the narc's true identity, you feel the need to let others know as part of getting justice and re-establishing equilibrium, especially explaining the whole scenario to their family or friends who seem oblivious, and whose endorsement you relied upon when you first met your narc partner. ..... Listening to you at 3:45-4:30 really sparked this thought: - Having been discarded, encountering (illogical, smear campaign-fuelled) rejection from her associates, and then discovering that my former partner displayed classic NPD behaviours, even intellectually coming to terms with it, the emotional trauma bond still made me question it for quite awhile. The cognitive dissonance takes a long time to resolve, especially as you know you haven't done anything to deserve the treatment you've received, and you still haven't in any way tried to harm your former partner. - Then thinking about the subtle abuse only you as her partner would have experienced - I realised that her friends, followers, associates hadn't experienced the same and had only seen her 'public persona'. So why on earth would they even think that my revelations would be true? And coupled with the fact that you've probably been misrepresented with an 'unhealthy agenda', means you are pretty much on a 'hiding-to-nothing'. Withdrawing to a safe distance and not engaging as you work it all out and heal is def. the best advice in a situation like this.

[@almamia229]

Unfortunately, there a ton of videos about Twin Flames and a Twin Flame relationship. Most of these so called Twin Flame relationship, i would say 80% , one is a narcissist and the other a codependent. So sad that the codependent thinks or believes they met a TF. They are stuck, sometimes for years. I hope those people can find your video's.. blessings

[@bottlewaddle6677]

this happened to me lol

[@crysvicious]

I agree that whole twin flame shit is a lie. It describes narc/empath to a tee.

[@flamingsword777]

@@crysvicious sure does! I met a guy who claimed to be my "TF" and because of dealing with so many narcs throughout my life, i knew it was BS, and told him so. In fact, i told him specifically what you just said. He got SUPER pissed because after the conversation, i blocked him for life. Lol. Good riddance to trash.

[@crysvicious]

@@flamingsword777 right it's narc enabling propaganda. I believe in soul mates and true love. But twin flame relationships is just glossing over and repackaging and normalizing of empath/narc relationshits

[@bobbobby9798]

Oh no.... My ex used this phrase in the first months of our relationship... Im an empath, drained the life out of me.

[@violagentsch]

I suspected all along there's something not right in my relationship. Came across the word " narcissist" totally by accident while searching for "behavior in addicts". When i literally studied the word narcissism, it hit me like a train. I think God guided me to find this word. Otherwise I'll be still in this relationship and clueless. My mistake in 5 years was telling some of my friends and family about my misery with this man, just to find out i poured my heart to other narcissists. 😆

[@rochellesmith7215]

Love how you are speaking with so much compassion I'm focusing on me and mine healing after 18 yrs of being in a narcissistic relationship

[@trixiebell62]

Bless u... Very timely message! The past 2 weeks have been complete hell, compliments of the narcissist hiding in plain sight these past 22 years. Everything u have said rings so crystal clear & true, it is no coincidence that this popped up in my feed! Very useful, vital info here, and it is uncanny how similar many scenarios are compared to my situation...this resource is priceless to me & I am LEARNING that it's time to reclaim my inner strength! It is the most painful thing I've ever faced. Physically, mentally, spiritually...hands down! T y 4 doing what u do!

[@melinoesedah9762]

I endured my narcissist coworker for years before changing schedules. During our separation, she contacted me, and was acting nice. I almost fell for it and consider the idea that we could still be friends. Thank goodness, I kept reminding myself of what she was capable of and stayed away from her. She was finally fired after bullying new employees and not following her new supervisor's instructions. The women in our group, who she has victimized, see her for who she is. I swear she has something against certain women. Unfortunately, she had the men fooled with her sweet talk. I did the mistake of trying to expose her to our mutual male friends. I'm now view as someone with low self-esteem. After watching your videos I have a better understanding of the situation. I'll take the advice to heart and let it go.

[@annetteweber5796]

Hi Michelle! You are totally right. I tried to talk to my yonger sisster about the abuse my parents are doing to me. I got an aggressive response back. She said, yeah but you at least got a good childhood many other children got worse. She was not prepared to listen to me. And now I know why. Normally the abuse is done when I am visiting my parents alone with my husband she don't see what is going on. And also she is the golden child in my family. She got an much better treatment than I ever did. Now I know not to talk to anyone but my friends. Thank you for this information. Sending you my 💝.

[@totf6359]

Annette Weber secretly start recording your visits with them. Also, it may be hard to go no contact with your parents but you may need to seriously consider.

[@cali.songbird]

I wasn't the golden child and can relate with the affects of that mentally. But just know that you don't have to give energy to that family ordained dysfunction anymore!! You weren't born to be labeled by ANYONE, including your famjly!! With time and loving ourselves more, our family will not hold any power over us with that role play. Stay brave and strong!🌹

[@christianone6611]

Yes, and the golden child gets abused in a different way that is also very harmful. My sister (golden child) started to do inner work in her 40's and now she's very supportive to me (2 years later). She doesn't fully understand but she surprisingly looks up to me and looks to me for guidance because she knows I never conformed and called out the family crap. I NEVER thought that would happen!! Beautiful when that happens.

[@racerx9413]

Focus on becoming. Well said👍

[@divinadivina2017]

Thank you for sharing. You're simply right. I was in the past victim but also flying monkey. Dont try to convince people. Most wont believe. They are good at manipulating and masters of disguise and fiction. You're energy needs to be directed at yourself and people that reciprocate life with you. Your power and attention have great impact in the world. Dont waste in trying to change anyone but you, only you can change your world. Of course we feel lost and hurt, we finally got it after all this time but others are not inside of you to see it as you see it. We just want revenge, i know, they truly deserve it, yes they do and they will. If not in this life, the next ones will come so their soul balances what was created and other people will see what happened sooner or later, on this side or on the other. We are all connected, our souls are meant to evolve

[@katk3489]

They're good at planting seeds with people at a distance. It seems crazy to me that people believe what they should know they don't know about.

[@maryannesweet8824]

This is the strangest crazy making part of manipulation. Other people really are confident in their opinions about a situation they can't begin to make sense of considering the people involved are such a mess.

[@suzanneyager5231]

Yes! This video is great- every single video I've seen of yours has been great! Really, really appreciate that you make these. :)

[@PierreRicherOURSBLANC6]

The above video clip "Leaving a Narcissist- Biggest & Most Common Mistake" is perhaps the most important you have made to help me and so many others I am sure, complete their journey to solid recovery and reconstruction. I thank you for this extra effort and the extra care it represents on your part and your dedication to save as many as you can. This is what I call love, genuine love. ♥

[@dolphinliam888]

Really good advice! So true. Get yourself safe and healthy. It's a long process. You'll get to a place where you don't need validation.

[@abbylavoe1401]

I stumbled on this site, and it was very helpful in defining my world. Thank you so much for putting the truth out there!

[@semasariyildiz4346]

Because the human brain always believes the one who was first to complain.

[@amygraphs9292]

Worst parts of the whole relationship; ending it with no contact, I am at the mercy of others to NOT talk about me. Abuse is abuse but after a childhood full of abuse, family can not see that THEY were the reason I couldn't leave. When brother asked me "why, especially the 1st time he put hands on you." All I could say was "Look at how you treated me, and Mom was no help. Our own father used to hit us, c'mon, all y'all profess to love me too." So, really?! Why don't abused "children" grow beyond what they know? We are Loved by hands that do NOT love US. We are never loved by a hand that touches us, so we don't know healthy love as any thing more than a myth. FYI, Cinderella wasn't looking for Prince Charming, she was looking for a night off.

[@nishamariamjamaluddin1266]

Michelle ! Yes that’s what I’m going thru now. I nod my head when you were saying we try to share with friends .. yes oh yes !

[@JulioHernandez-hn5wf]

Thank you, God is good having you speak about such heartless peoplea year 3 months I understand now, it took me a while to reason take control of heart, keep up the good work

[@tinathompson591]

Exactly what my EX has done to me!!! Exactly 100% My life with my EX Omggggg!! Word for word!!!!! GREAT ADVICE!!! At the end of the video👍👍👍

[@donnabowman7448]

You are so right on ... it's almost impossible to explain the feeling and the situation! You do it so well, thank you!

[@daphnejohnson3851]

So on point, no one can understand unless you have been through it, they didn’t even want to see the videos and just said move on. I finally walked away from everyone and focused on me, I cut everyone off until I got the help I needed. I made the narc look like this great guy so of course no one really cared or believed me because they just heard how great he was from me. I had one friend who supported me and this was because of her knowledge of dark spirits and she said The was a stronghold, she just listened, encouraged me to distance myself when I felt weak and prayed for me. I have finally getting back to myself but not sure if I will be 100% me but I know I am wiser, stronger and so grateful for the Word of God, these videos and and that one friend.

[@bradmcewen]

A ephiny moment of many but most recent for me is that first round with miss narctriss is that I had to be discarded because she knew hers was coming. Not an easy thing to do for us, which also keeps you in too long. They know how shitty they've treated you...& don't care, your just a compliant supply mule. So knowing traits on round two & after a sincere effort made at reconciliation, the same DSM traits reoccurr. Ofcourse they do. So this time I call out the pathological lier, blah blah blah all that shit & ghost. Gone. The hoovering is losing its intensity, empath played out, target #87 says game over. 7 months past, your healthier, happier & slowly killing all the esteem erosion & evil projections of a self loathing soul.

[@susannec659]

Brad McEwen You're so lucky you're free I wish I were you

[@bradmcewen]

Susanne C There reachs a time despite all invested to save yourself. One of us was going to be dead. When your emotionally attacked you are physically attack internally. Her emotional sub human passive aggressive behavior is pathological. To think another that you adored ( although that was my delusion ) is triggered to intentionally harm you is still astonishing. Through much research, she is not borderline by choice, she is borderline. The complete psychosis from fine to rage instantly. Scary as hell. Your traumatized. Your unable to react. I feel bad for those kids or married having to dissolve this union. As first line ssys again, there is a point in time you know your done. Once you've emotionally divorced yourself. Life will begin again. Heal self to attract someone real. You don't need to wish you are someone else. Be yourself. Be free Suzanne. I bet she's a pretty nice gal many would love....to love.

[@susannec659]

Brad McEwen Oh God bless you. You are so kind to reply. You are right. Thank you for the words of inspiration. You bring tears to my eyes but in a good way.

[@bradmcewen]

Susanne C. You can always vent to me. We are all here connecting in ways that is immpossible to do with those we had hope to with. None of us asked for this crap. But we shall beat it. A hug of encouragement.

[@marniepowell948]

Brad McEwen Brad, Thank you, reading your post is encouraging for me. I also reconciled after a 3 month break. Moved back to the house only to find out that he has been cheating. Probably has been our entire relationship of 24 years! When I asked him why he cheated he said " because i thought i could get away with it" WTF So then I asked him what lead to him wanting to get away with it and he said he was depressed! REALLY! If you have any words of advice for me I would so very much appreciate it . I am so worried that he has convinced my 18 yr old that I Am the crazy... she told me last night that she is worried about me.. i just dont know what to do or how to explain all this stuff to her.

[@reezysenchantedtarot]

Addiction to researching!! Oh so true - so much validation and finally understanding.

[@belleeebutton1022]

Thanks for adding the flying monkey explanation too. I always wondered what kind of stories he must of told about me to others, to get people I have never met/upset to dislike/hate me so much. I wondered and imagined really horrible things/ stories that he might have created and told. I need not of bothered putting myself through that torture; also. It appears flying monkeys aren't too bothered about the truth, just like Narcs. Narcs are a species of their own; if they think and behave the same then their evil doings make them a species all of their own!! We have monkeys,apes, humans and then somewhere in there are Narcs.

[@mistydmaddera]

Thank you so so much. This video is definitely definitely probably saved me from reacting in ways that absolutely I can see are not in the best interest for my recovery and especially not in the best interest for my future in rebuilding my status in the community or reputation. I really appreciate you and others who speak about, such a horrible place to be in.

[@danmartin982]

Thank you for being a light for all of us it's not easy trying to change a lifetime of bad thinking of yourself

[@JACK.DEATH-Sariel]

One of the best teachers of Narcissistic abuse on YT. Always insiteful,never bias to one gender or the other and easy to follow the flow of information. Divorced and Blocked the Narc 2 months ago and I swear I can feel myself slowing starting to come off life support and breath on my own.

[@VegasNid]

just ranting here, EVEN after my ex walked out on me and left me without rent money. People were still telling me, 'you should just talk to him, he feels really bad'. I couldn't believe it, i had to fight so hard and cried so much trying to make them believe that he was toxic.

[@jamiecronin967]

When the narc tells them they feel so bad that they are crying, they are crying trying to save their reputation. They only say they love you to make themselves look better. If you were to take them back they would get even more abusive, very fast, because they did not say those things cause they love you, it was to make them look good, cause they are ashamed to be exposed. You must realize their profession of love is not love, it is only to save face. A woman would put herself in grave danger to foolishly take a narc back, because he is a manipulator. It will make him have even more scorn for the victim if the victim is stupid enough to believe it when he says he is sorry and how much he loved you, Yeah right!

[@melanieo.1725]

Thank you so much for this video, Michelle👧. It helps very much👍

[@susannec659]

Thank you so much for this video I really needed this today I know it was here but I must have missed this one I really needed it today nobody wants to hear this stuff anyway but what you're saying makes a lot of sense

[@steffiebeffie3468]

You are perfectly right. Thank you for this validation. Highly appreciated.

[@Roro-vj2pd]

Thank you so much for this video i really needed it

[@sarahlowry9633]

Thank you so much! Your videos really resonate with me.

[@raychbaharuddin6910]

Thank you Michelle! I really appreciate your video. It makes my tears dropped. Tomorrow is my first day at work after so long been unemployed but I can see I’ve been focusing too much on him - to prove like recording his abuse, but I started doing that right after I returned to him because all the evidences of his abuse in the beginning have been deleted by him without my knowledge. I don’t feel excited for tomorrow especially he created another scene today and threatened me that I will never start my first day if I don’t cooperate. And I also can see how our mutual friends who were helping me getting out that relationship are now turning back on me

[@jennymkoyman542]

Thank you so so much for this video, it has helped prepare me emotionally &mentally for I'm on the verge of leaving my toxic Narcissistic Mother and going no contact and it was very helpful to hear this!❤❤

[@catcody3211]

Thank you again for theses videos..I think I always wanted that validation. Realizing that I don't need that is a happy concept.

[@j.chrisfairbairn337]

lack of love is reason enough. much less the emotional abuse. great video michele. thank you.

[@idiaz2521]

You are right. I came out of a 22year abusive marriage. It's really sad that one feels "nobody understands me, or nobody wants to hear. This is really hard because, as you say here and I remark, 1- abuser puts it as a one time even, or people do. 2- abuser turns into victim saying he/she pushed me to be mean, and even reinforces it "she kept pushing me...to be mean" and 3 - Because we thee victims were part of the problem because we kept hiding him / her and playing our role in his / her act.

[@SetFree2LiveNow]

I love the way you've explained this. I was a participate of hiding his abuse due to shame, trying to protect my ministry, and after several attempts to get others to empathize with what I was going through, and his constantly "shinning" , I just then tried to survive until he threatened to continue to use scare tactics to frighten my newly widowed mother if I did not reconcile and be at his beck and call. I managed to escape eventually but not without his making or getting the last lick, what I call exit wounds. Admittedly, I blamed myself for allowing myself to marry again a narcissist. They consume so much of your time via their acting out and constantly causing emotional upset, and physical trauma, all of which is staunchly denied. Thank you for encouraging to focus on healing and recovery instead of trying to convince others you are not the crazy one as the narcissists labels and convinces others concerning you. Not everyone is blind to them, but no one but you actually experiences the direct impact of their abuse.

[@PerilousXPrep]

A+++ video thanks for this info! Just found your channel and subscribed! I was married to a narcissist for 14 years ..... and unfortunately found myself in another relationship with one and am in process of disentangling myself from it.... as an empath I see now how I attract them like flies and must always be on the lookout for them. Thank you for sharing your journey! ❤

[@jennzenn971]

Thank you for doing these videos. I really needed to hear this right now. I'd been with my partner for2 & a half years & a friend suggested I look up narsisists because when she looked at the traits my partner was the first person that came to mind. And thank God she did because it was a lightbulb moment. So this is what I'm living with. This is the cause of the craziness. He is a narsisist. Iv been watching your videos & researching narsisist partners for the last couple of months. I now no he will never change. And today he got violent on top of him raging for an eternity & I said enough is enough. I packed all his stuff & left it outside the door. I'm done. I'm free of this bullshit. I can breathe. I can focus on me now. Getting myself back together. Back to me. Again,thank you your videos are so helpful to me. I would be lost without them. 🙂

[@norcabrera]

You are so right. I wish I had listen to your advice many years ago. Is taking me so long to understand why I was so cut up in this mess. You are so smart and so real. God bless You.

[@bigshay7855]

Your video are very powerful Miss Michelle.

[@ladya4776]

Thank you so much for sharing this, Mishelle .. you're miracle... I am so happyto know that i am not crazy, and not alone

[@gc0226611233dole]

So much of this is spot on.

[@gc0226611233dole]

I know that what I have gone through- is the same thing that countless others have gone through or are going through. I think there is a growing awareness in the world about this issue. Whereas, once evil could parade down Main Street in the middle of the day, hidden in plain sight by “normal” human nature... people in general are slowly (much too slowly in my opinion) seeing the methods and tactics used by the narcs...

[@penelopelambson9128]

You really nailed this one !!

[@BigCatSilver]

This woman is BRILLIANT.

[@Charlies2ndAngel]

Great video! Thank you

[@queentamara3114]

Thank you for teaching me how to heal..

[@go_off_Sis]

VALUABLE INSIGHT ✨🌟

[@lisatodd3420]

What an important message! Love your videos!

[@atomicpressure5112]

If you have depression and don't have any friends or family to contact Take 2 or 3 day is to meditate and that should help as well, and if you have weight problems just think about how much weight you lose and that should be a good thing.

[@Remendii]

This could not show up on my feed at a better time. Just a few days ago, I consulted a close friend about getting over being completely ghosted by someone I knew for seven years and she responded with the implication that his ghosting is justifiable despite indicating I've done all I could to retain the friendship (e.g. giving him all the space he wanted). Thank you, Michele, for uploading your videos.

[@brindagopal6862]

Thanks for the guidance. God bless you!

[@KLRJamz]

Thank you for your story

[@thedon8176]

i love Your Voice💫 looking Soo BeautifuL!!! and Wonderful Personality. Thanks for your Knowledge and time✊

[@allaudione]

Thanks - Great stuff - 3 years with a Narc Girlfriend and finally left - its so evil

[@jamieleigh807]

This reminds me of your old videos they were wonderful and so comforting because they were so causal and I could relate so much as you told personal stories that I really understood. I love your videos now but I also loved the old as they were raw from the heart❤ love you Michelle now and then

[@Truckingchallenges]

Wow I am currently going through this. I have only shared what I’m going through with a few close friends. The light bulb had gone off and you’re right it all makes since. I have played a major role in hiding who my husband really is out of embarrassment and wanting to portray a happy family. Thank you so much I will take your advice and continue to work on my goals.

[@rociovelazquez4676]

Thanks Michelle! Gracias! Super useful as usual!!

[@DerAua]

The core of this is we don't need anyone else's opinion on our side because we have been taught that by the Narcs. We can learn to trust our own judgement again.

[@sharleengraybill2803]

Such a good video. I needed to hear this today.

[@runwiththewind3281]

Thank you for helping me understand

[@SS-in1ts]

Yep! That’s part of the reason I kept going back. Friends saying he’s a good person and hope it works out.

[@TheIlluminatedOne_1969]

People believe them until they slowly but surely gets every last one of them. Then, they'll see you and tell you their story. My example, his employer didn't believe me. I warned him of the narc being a thief because the narc stole my diamond ring. The guy laughed in my face and said, "he would never steal from me." Almost two months later, last week, I seen the guy. He said he fired the narc for stealing, smoking drugs and selling them on the premises. Ladies & Gents, there's no way in hell he could be doing those things and being with me too? Hell to the naw. I'm glad I left him. Oh, the employer stated that narc went off on him and tried to get violent. The narc has someone else. She's stolen, quite a bit of money from him and giving him, the narc, the blues. I love her so much and don't know her. I want her to be everything he lied and said I was when he knew I was good to him and Saint like. Let's send the other chick cyber prayers by liking this post. Trust me, she's going to need them. He's known for beating the hell out of women. NOT ME THOUGH!!!

[@carolm.9738]

Thank you for all your advice, guapa! Very true! You helped me a lot! Kisses and hugs! :-)

[@sarahp1010]

Thanks dear. It’s sad even my closed ones won’t believe n tell me instead FOCUS ON URSELF 🤷‍♀️

[@anewlifestirring]

Thanks for these wise words Getting into backbiting on a narcissist is detrimental to the victim

[@screamingiraffe]

This video is spot on, thank you for sharing - sub'd

[@susannec659]

It's so embarrassing to have to tell some people what's going on as you mentioned in your story Michelle you have to tell some people even though you don't even want to

[@risingeagle6332]

Wow!!!!!! I could have used this knowledge earlier. Michele, you are totally right about this to the hilt. Once I figured out what was going on in my marriage. I tried to share my discovery with everyone. I did not try to smear my wife, who is a Covert Narcissist. I just tried to disclose the toxicity of my relationship by sharing the videos. No one truly believed me at all; especially those who found my soon to be ex-wife charming. The evidence was clear in the videos, and matches my life experience throughout the years. Yet most people (including my direct relatives) found it incredible. I only have one supportive friend who has stayed in my corner to date, everyone else has basically abandoned me. This has been a very painful journey for me, thus far. My own twin brother still gives my soon to be ex the benefit of the doubt and chooses to reverse the content of the videos against me every time. This is so frustrating. My twin and his wife are my Covert Narcissist’s biggest advocate. Next to my narcissistic wife, they cause me the most emotional trauma and harm. (It doesn’t matter that my wife physically bit me on my lip one day; my twin saw the results of the injury. I still can’t make sense how I stayed married to my narcissistic wife after the assault. My twin says this incident was my fault.😩) I always thought my twin brother would be my biggest supporter. In reality, he is my worst detractor during my healing process while I’m on this road to going from “surviving to thriving.” I’m having a difficult time going no contact with my twin; I’m breaking free finally. This is hard, after all I have known him all my life, and yet he is the last toxic person I need to separate from. I realized I was just looking for a crutch, which is not good to have, if one desires to become truly healthy. Yes!!! You are absolutely right! All that matters is that I know the truth, and I just need to focus on me and my own personal healing. I do not need others to believe the truth that I experienced. I’m just glad that I figured out what was going on in my toxic relationship, and found your channel and others to help me to put words to the situation. Now I’m healing and on the road to recovery after 32 years in a nightmare with Jekyll and Hyde. I’m not crazy!!!! Thanks!!!!!👍🏾😀

[@audraromero334]

Excellent video Michelle, so so spot on!! It's almost always this text book reaction---to try and explain & validate yourself and save others now that you "see the light". Narcs seem to always be 2, 3, 20 steps ahead; they implement their damage control scenario when they smell you're on to them. Thanks again, God bless you and yours.

[@pamelapowell2526]

Amen , but think little slow on me kinda return gas lighten thing !

[@ananyajain5189]

How true u are telling, I am also facing this and feel so alone

[@Rawyalty220]

Thank you so much for this video. This video really reached me and helped me. I appreciate it

[@daimonmarioperez9501]

Michelle you are absolutely correct. I'm watching your video and doing research...