LERATO MAKHETHA ON: Overcoming Drugs | Finding Identity | Receiving Grace & Acceptance

In today's heartfelt installment, I sit down with my husband of 14 years to reflect on his vibrant childhood and the choices he made in his younger years that led him away from his relationship with God. He has faced the difficult journey of drug addiction which led him to being a missionary at the age of 17 at an organization called Youth For Christ in Cape Town.
Over the next few years, he wrestles with issues of identity, belonging, and the challenges of receiving love and dealing with rejection. As he shares his story, he emphasizes that the strength to navigate these challenges comes from his faith in God.

[@Noza896]

Man I wish I could sit and speak to my Husband like this for hours…without it turning into an argument…😢

[@RichAunty1]

Fuzzy bear hug

[@vuyomtshali]

It takes time, you just have to give each other grace.

[@MamosaMo]

Hugs mommy 🫂🤗

[@VhugalaHaweM]

Hug

[@karabonkwateni8427]

Maybe start by watching these kind of interviews with him then hint that u like this

[@LindiNakedi]

Thanks

[@MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo]

The English in this family is englishing hey👌👌🔥🔥.. Mrs Makhs's has such an amazing interviewing skill wow 👌🔥.. Mr Makhs ke ntate o botlhale gore, his brain Yho wow!!

[@asiphediza5145]

All I’m saying is I have a new found respect for Mr Makhs, this was probably a very hard conversation to have but it proves how important it is to always recognise that you are destined for goodness and you are capable to be the best version of your self through God even in the midst of your actions deviate from that greatness ❤

[@LebsNdebele]

I am 41 years old and I still battle with condemnation. I’m breaking down as I watch this because I have never felt like I was good enough. I have 2 girls and I feel like I have nothing to offer them.but this conversation is so helpful to know that I’m not alone.

[@Me20243]

Felt validated, tharepy session I needed he has the wisdom to put things into perspective and I thank God for allowing him to share his story with us😢🙏

[@letshegomancoe4481]

The part where Pheto just says "I love you" 😢 agh that was so gentle and beautiful. I replayed it so many times.

[@lebogangboitshepolenkopane1477]

Been watching since the 7th minute and had no intention to comment but as a regular here since 2022,i am happy you are back mom and dad.Today's episode helped me to pause and reflect as Mr Makhs talked about his childhood. As a last born of 2 kids,i suffer from performance anxiety. Its like when my father died,all attention went to my brother who was 7 (and i was 2) because he understood death more. My young widowed mother would spend the rest of my life focusing on my brother along with relatives while i had to perform for teachers,neighbours and church to be recognised. I thank God this year i was intentional about finding my identity and it shocked me just how much i have been bending backwards for others so i can fit in. Knowing now that God is my father,Not one with a monster voice seeking to punish me but a loving,gracious,merciful Father helped me assert myself and after an ex told me am unlovable,now i know that Christ is enough for me.much love from 🇧🇼 Looking forward to the next instal

[@LebohangandKoketsoNaledi]

Such Vulnerability? Yoh, I am greatly inspired. By sharing you have motivated my husband and I to have these conversations on our channel. Truely grateful. May God bless and keep you faves 🤍✨🤍

[@royalqueen8679]

" God is Sovereign " The future is God's ❤

[@omphemetsemalinga5282]

Felt like giving Mr Makhs a hug after this, and since that's highly impossible hahaha, I proceeded to pray for him and ask our Father to hug him, prayed for his family...argh man God is good🤗 Let's continue to pray for them. They continue to hold the flag of Jesus up high with their marriage and it's beautiful to see. We love you The Makhs❤

[@dineomasetla3443]

Sundays are becoming better and better now🎉❤❤ Rea leboga hle

[@tebogomosinyi2683]

"I needed to hold on to something"😢😢😢. That statement can be dissected into so many layers..I thank God that you held on to the hem of his garment, and served. Indeed, broken crayons still colour beautifuly. In your brokenness, you still served. You still brought colour into someones life .❤ Train a child in the Lord and they will not depart from it. Parents, dont stop praying for your children. Ijo..Lerato my brother. Thank you for being so vulnerable. This is truly helping a lot of people. May the Lord restore ALL the days that the Locust has stolen. You are doing soo great! Warm regards from Botswana 🎉

[@dineomoaisi6724]

Now that’s a man with a pastoral heart 👌🏿 the call is clear, good sir! May the Lord bless you

[@candyKane117i]

So many gems in this. This is what a healed man looks like 🙌🏾

[@EvidenceofChange7]

You’re one couple that inspires me and I’m not married yet but wow guys 😭❤️love the vulnerability. beautiful as always❤😢

[@NeneShabangu]

As small KZbinrs, hubby and I are inspired by the Makhs. Love them to bits ❤

[@Sebongile_Baloyi]

The quality of the content 🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽

[@Miss_C-e5w]

Everytime I come here, I know I will leave with something.❤

[@HisPrincess_]

LITERALLY ALL THE TIME !!!!

[@phumzazozi6934]

Always hey, always!!!

[@xsikwana]

That's the thing about a godly marriage...if God is in, was in it from the start..you can withstand the storms together... Your marriage should be about purpose...it's not all what society says it's about ...this right is here is y'all's purpose...❤❤❤❤❤

[@fundiswanala7946]

Such wisdom!🙌🏼🙌🏼 I need a book from The Makhs!

[@tintswalomabasa565]

I share the same sentiment

[@moremiracle4279]

We really value his mind!! He’s truly very wise, you’re blessed to have such leadership Phetola.

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

“ The future is God the future is heavenly” I got goosebumps 😢😢😢

[@PayrollPhiko]

Very weird that this conversation pushed me to ask my self some of these questions...All I can say it, I'm triggered and very much challenged to sit down with my self and have some conversation....Thank you family and welcome ❤

[@TintswaloNguleleSanaa]

This episode is rocking me on so many levels. Thank you for letting us into your space of vulnerability and pointing it back to Christ. I am a single mom to a 3 year old boy and I find myself being so scared for him on most days. Questioning if I am strong enough to journey with him in this life because men go through many obstacles to find their identity. I am encouraged to keep Christ as a cornerstone. My heart feels torn at tenderness and hopeful after watching this installment. P.S. I saw you both at Awakened and I was moved by your words Ntate Makhs on the men's panel.

[@CathyforJesus]

yooooohhhh this episode is so inspiring. Mr Makhs just described me and inspired me to be a better version of myself. Thank you for doing the work and showing us the vision of a healed person.

[@lindelwamiya2732]

You guys had me crying my eyes out. Thank you for being vulnerable and telling your story ❤🥺🥺

[@chumajola2511]

❤ I am speechless. May God richly bless you for being open. Thank you for allowing yourself to share your story, it will have a huge impact on many people. It has touched me and I am reflecting back on my own experiences through this discussion. Thank you both.❤

[@elizankankha84]

The vulnerability and the honesty yooooo......this was deep

[@pumlakoltana936]

On the 3rd time listening to this this morning I cried , as I listened slowly internalizing every word, and Lerato's wife is soo intelligent and calm with lots of vocabulary that allows her to be able select her words in a subtly and good way. I love u both guys.

[@mphothibile4175]

Where do I even begin? I am speechless but so so grateful. Thank you for sharing abuti Lerato, this was so needed. Your story is shedding light, life is not easy but we thank The Lord for his vessels like yourself. Aus Phetola thank you for leading this interview with so much grace, gentleness and wisdom ❤ I am so blessed. Thank you both for your transparency, may The good Lord Jesus bless you

[@mbuedzedzondou9259]

We are broken and wounded, the difference is self awareness. I enjoyed this, we should all be able to have honest conversations with ourselves, but being able to have honest conversations with our spouses is top tier! Marriage should be this safe, all the best to the Makhs🎉❤

[@yoursTruly20711]

Haven't watched the episode yet. I'm just here to appreciate you guys for coming back, i feel so content that i get to learn, understand and continue to grow on this platform. I am one of those people who values mr Marks mind, both of you actually. I love how you two are free to share your thoughts with no judgement, but growth. Thank you so much guys ❤🙏 May God continue to bless you in all aspects of life. 🙏

[@mfundohg958]

This episode opened my mind and heart in many ways. The part about loving people. I have homework... what a powerful testimony ya Lerato. Siyabonga, you guys are amazing❣

[@MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo]

Veder this podcast neh? The authenticity here is unmatched, you guys are sooooooo real omg, omg.. This installment is going to heal so many people. Your union is exactly what God had in mind when he created marriage, we are undeserving to be honest because whaaaaat!? Such vulnerability for free? I love you guys ❤, thank you

[@MyLittleSteps_]

This was so wholesome and relatable...I love it here....so so so much💚💚💚🌹🌹🌹

[@davidzohove2407]

I have no words for this installment. 🙌🏾 Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerabilities, couldn’t have been easy. Sis Phetola you carried this interview very well, with the utmost empathy.❤ Thank God for God! For His perfect love, that we don’t have to perform for Him.

[@LethoHali]

As a middle child, I got so much of what was said! I am so similar to Lerato in the way I used to think of…. I think essentially LOVE!

[@Kamogelo_PhD]

"I got comfortable with beating myself up...." That was the word I needed to hear and didn't even know it.

[@Mercy-vq4ow]

Ausi Phetho l want you to know that you are an amazing woman and an incredible wife ,if you knew better, you would have done better in terms of how you relate with Mr Mahks at the early years of your life together, it's not your fault that you are worthy of such an incredible spouse with all your imperfections ❤️ May God truly bless your marriage ❤ To be honest Mr Mahks' life makes one confront their brokeness 🥲

[@basetsanaaa]

Thank you so much The Makhs for trusting us with your story. This instalment was perfect, from the interviewer to the interviewee. God bless you both and may He continue to work all things in your life for good 🥹🤍

[@yandie_z]

We are SO blessed and grateful to have you guys, this channel and all of your platforms. Such authenticity and vulnerability is rare. It is both encouraging and inspiring to see how God’s hand of mercy worked in Lerato’s life. It gives us hope for own journeys with Christ. ♥️

[@pumlakoltana936]

I am listening to this again for the second time, am paying attention to Lerato's body language and his facial expression , u could see his heart from his face, being bare, real authentic and speaking from heart wow, am now thinking of the womb that carried him , no wonder u were a middle child it was Gods'plan ,it was his Devine appointment of creating a man who will spread his word through what u doing, your life that u share with the world, your mouth that u open with such wisdom. Yhoo your wife is blessed , actually she was made or designed for u .I can write a book Lerato if wasn't scared .

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

Wow liking before watching first. My excitement right now, thanks for this nice treat beautiful people ❤️

[@letshegomancoe4481]

The setting is so beautiful, guys. The colours come together so beautifully. That room is gorgeous.

[@LucyBalimba]

Where can I like this again? Thank you Lerato and Phetola for being so generous with sharing God. This made me cry but most importantly, pointed me to the love of God!

[@MatshidisoMohale]

I am so emotional, the vulnerability in this episode 🥺🥺🥺, no words can be enough to articulate my love for you and how you allow yourselves to be used by God in here!!! Mr Makhs, thank you so much Sir!!

[@litebohoadonis4364]

I never ever comment :) Been married for 17 years, this made me introspect heavily, glad I listened to this, very much appreciated

[@joyshokes6182]

Makes me think of the verse that says, I would rather boast about my weaknesses. IICorinthians 12:9

[@Keletso_Tsosane]

Thank you for your vulnerability Mr makheta❤️🙏

[@PaulaModiba]

You guys are amazing. Thank you so much for ministering to us, gape this is a ministry ❤ I'm learning so much from you guys every time I'm watching your channel even the funky ones😊, don't take them for granted. You guys are changing people's lives for the better, I'm saying this cause you're changing mine. Love you guys and may God continue to protect you, elevate you, bless you abundantly ❤

[@Sebongile_Baloyi]

Aus Phetola you are blessed to have a husband that can be vulnerable with you like this.

[@boipelomodimola994]

I love how knowing Christ comes with deliverance from identity crisis because all things were created by Him and for His pleasure all things are. Mr and Mrs Makhs,your vulnerability on this channel has been such an effective ministry to us.🙏So grateful for you guys

[@NeneShabangu]

💃💃💃 the way I look forward to The Makhs content ❤😊

[@tintswalomabasa565]

Hey family 👋👋, nice to see the Makhs once again.

[@aphelelenosipho9345]

Wow, can't wait to dive into this. Such vulnerability and transparency. Thank you at the Makhs🙏🙏🙏

[@mosimamaheya235]

The vulnerability here Mr Makhs, today....oh my goodness, I'm so emotional. The honesty... we love you guys. ❤❤❤

[@Mercy-vq4ow]

Mr Mahks story gives me hope that although we are currently struggling with our identity in God, we can get to the other side where we fully accept our God-given identity

[@Phindu_M]

Such vulnerability Letato 😢 I was so touched by your life story it made me sit down and reflect on my own life 🥹 this is God

[@pumlakoltana936]

Lerato u are an amazing man, u really a man of God. I never knew there is a young man who thinks like u.

[@LifewithHadiyo]

Yoh, I watched this video the whole day hantle hantle. Had to pause, breathe, reflect and shed a tear 😢. Thank you so much for this gift, shuuuuu you guys are a blessing and are blessed man. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable, I am moved.

[@chumajola2511]

50:39 hmmm so good. You have been at war with yourself and you know yourself enough to take the feedback and yet approach the situation with love and not being vengeful and hurtful to the other person. So many nuggets. I will come back to this conversation again.

[@royalqueen8679]

" BELONGING IS A DRUG,YOU WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET IT" YHOOOO THIS IS POWERFUL,SO LIBERATING

[@nelisiwenene2428]

What a deep conversation im in awe....Thank you for being so vulnerable

[@muzo2024]

I feel sick but this video got my spirits up

[@lesedimofokeng_]

This conversation is healing a lot of us.Thank you Mr and Mrs Makhs.❤

[@MapulaRamokgopa]

Aaaarg this is so beautiful. Love is beautiful. Jesus shines in all this.😍

[@kananelomohlalisi4049]

This conversation is so therapeutic, thank you so much for your authenticity guys. You are so blessed to have each other, I pray that God will strengthen you to continue to create a healed generation. This is really an eye-opener on how to approach humanity❤

[@nwabisasophazi]

Thank you family, this was the most relatable and real conversation, thank you for your vulnerability and for modelling young love for us❤ we love you, we are inspired and edified because of your contribution. This was worth every second of my time. God bless you.

[@sebenelemazibuko4602]

Mr Makhs spoke to my soul,uncovered some things I never knew, and understood about myself...aaah man,I love u guys...thank you❤

[@charletmokomele2452]

This conversation Blessed my heart! I intent to do better, now that I know better. 💜💜💜💜💜 bless you guys.

[@AkhonaFani]

All that we go through in this life is for the glory of God.. Beautiful interview.

[@Astridah_M]

Thank you family for sharing the vulnerable side and liberating manyb❤

[@lebomuchmoney7886]

Wow...this gave me some goosebumps. God bless your marriage

[@prettymngomamngoma6461]

U healing souls here🎉🎉🎉

[@simphiwemathobela8968]

OMG such vulnerability, you guys are so blessed. We need God in this life.

[@nyikoshihlomule9265]

Learning a lot from you guys. Thank you for sharing your lives with us

[@motlatsikgosieng1704]

😢😢very relatable to so many of us,thank you Lerato and Phetola.

[@candyKane117i]

37:05 thank you for being honest and vulnerable about this 🙏🏾 sooo many men struggle with this but will never admit it as openly as you just did here

[@busisiwekhumalo7571]

Look at what God can do, you guys are a living testimony and God put you both together because he knew hey

[@joankyalisiima8242]

AMAIZING

[@koketsom3840]

Such relatable content in Mr Makhs story! It mirrors the journey of many men, and many Christians

[@dorcushatlane9525]

God bless you my children. I love you both❤❤

[@nadia_manjate]

I’m blessed by the vulnerability from you both. God continue to bless you both!

[@TshidiMolefe-c6q]

Thank you so much for being so raw and honest and vulnerable. Sometimes I watch you guys and think you must have done everything perfectly right all your lives and then met each other and got married.

[@sonniemn]

I really loved this episode..

[@potsompandawana3986]

Beautiful episode! So open and vulnerable! Amazing testimony!!! A reminder not to judge but to love others and see the best in them

[@gontseraphunga5745]

A conversation I didn’t know that I needed to hear . 😢 Thank you ❤

[@Ms._seraphic]

"You're gonna work to earn acceptance "😢that hit hard Mr Makhs❤

[@saneliswamagagula9781]

We definitely value your mind Mr Makhs❤️ 3 minutes in. A little late but within!

[@phelokazimbazo9078]

I love this couple so much,we are learning iyoh

[@PalesaV]

Thank you for your vulnerability ❤️❤️

[@sips_mkutukana]

Almost halfway in. This episode is soooo necessary 😭😭🔥🔥🔥. Thank you so much for the vulnerability Mr Makhs. ❤❤❤

[@sbongilemakubela4351]

Wow ,God chooses his kids and when we sometimes get so wrapped up in our struggles,we tend to neglect him and his word. But listening to you Mr Makh still going back to church and serve regardless of your inner battles,that Is a revelation of God chosen child😊😊 May you continue being honest with yourself ,as you are helping men out there that struggles with self reflection,and dealing with the faced truth. God bless you abundantly

[@KatlegoPooe]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your guys’ marriage is truly a blessing from God. May God continue to bless you and keep you. I couldn’t stop crying.❤😢😭❤️ beautiful black love❤

[@poppymlotshwa9032]

Shooo this was a hard episode so listen. So many lessons to learn and pearls of wisdom. God bless you fam ❤️❤️❤️

[@jemimahmukombo6638]

I have watch this 3 times Thank you from this zambian girl ❤

[@asiphediza5145]

It’s amazing how you did always reminded yourself of your essence even in your lowest moments, what a beautiful instalment. One for the books definitely

[@maliileramashamole2004]

Didn’t expect this depth but I love it. Freeing. God bless you 🙏🏾

[@faithlebone3675]

Yoh this episode ❤❤❤ thank you guys for the vulnerability. I love seeing God’a deliverance and restoration in people’s lives

[@tsebedaphney2678]

Ooh my God 😭 this was beautiful to watch🙏 we got to cry and laugh all at the same time.