TOO STRESSED FOR SEX? | A Man's perspective

[@TheMakhs]

DreamTeam…We have received feedback from some of our subscribers regarding issues with Mrs. Makhs' audio quality. It appears that the audio may be inaudible on certain devices. We are committed to addressing this for future podcasts. In the meantime, we encourage you to try listening on at least two different devices before deciding to discontinue watching this important installment😢 Thank you for your understanding and support. With Love, The Makhs

[@thembatom8332]

This is one safe space, my wife led me here and I am glad she did. Guys we need a men’s conference here.

[@LuckyJudaz]

And doc wena I know you from TikTok your videos are so positive am also one of your followers

[@siamisangsia6840]

I can't get over how Pheto is such a beautiful woman... her hair, her nose, her teeth, her aura... Oh my goodness🥰. I can even smell her cologne from the screen 😂❤

[@gailmokwatlo]

She’s an absolutely gorgeous woman 😍

[@Nozipho_N]

Muhle lomfazi

[@nqobilemba10]

Oh girl...she's perfect 🥰

[@gracemokhele4896]

I feel the same , the entire video I'm just looking at this beauty ❤❤❤❤

[@MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo]

She's so clean👌 omg this woman is gorgeous 😍😍😍😍

[@royalqueen8679]

This video should trend it will save a lot of marriages

[@wisanibiko]

Been married for almost 20 years... we've had a lot of issues in our sex life until the day we became comfortable having a conversation about it.. with this podcast I've learnt that as married couples truly our challenges are almost similar... as a man I relate with everything the gentleman is saying and I can hear my wife through the lady. Keep on working on your marriage guys.. be blessed.❤

[@reneilwemawasha640]

I'm not married and turning 25 soon but really I'm learning alot and this conversation will help me when I get married. To have grace to my partner and to be aware❤

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Missed you guys🥺 Phetola is such a gorgeous woman, I never get used to her beauty.

[@CornerHouse_Media]

The maturity on here is out of this world ..Shout out to Pheto ,for Lerato to express certain things and actions in the past from her end ,and she doesn’t take offence or defend herself ? 👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌

[@doreenkarimi4572]

N still continue calling him her little pet names..such maturity n love up there

[@chumabanjwa4662]

The authenticity you guys bring is unmatched 🙌 . You 2 are marriage healers x

[@sweetnessgyamboe4897]

Their marriage will remain blessed.. indeed many marriages will take a turn.

[@pumzandziweni8434]

My take away, sex has seasons and it doesn't mean the end of your marriage❤

[@SomeonesTswanaDad]

Sheesh. Mr Makh, we need you to put together a men's conference. If I was on social media, I would reach out to you for some one-on-one time. Our churches don't do enough to talk about these things. And I find that even church leaders aren't always equipped to counsel us as married men regarding these things. Also, too many men are refusing to be vulnerable enough to have these chats. Society forces men into boxes and generalizations. It leaves no room for nuance/different experiences. Your sharing this convo is making room!

[@viwengcwangu8091]

Mr Makhs should write books or something 😂❤

[@TheMbudzeni]

My brother, churches are too "holy" to discuss these topics😂.

[@NeneShabangu]

I just made my husband watch this with me. So many things make sense now 😂

[@NdyebokaziNongogo]

The point here is not to give up on each other❤

[@shamiso_t]

Oouuufffff😭😭🔥🔥🔥the Quality?! What!?❤

[@N.e.n.e.z]

@@shamiso_t Hi Shamie. Are you Zimbabwean or South African?❤️

[@veronicafruitfulltv5641]

OMG!! Love this podcast. I’m a sex and relationships teacher and I learned from this. I want to praise your darling husband for this conversation Mrs Makh because this conversation will bless many men and women. One thing I want to Mrs Makh is your body was not betraying you. That is a negative term towards your body. Your body was and is always trying to communicate messages to you, if you don’t listen then the results will be painful. It’s like saying to a baby “why are you crying?? Stop it”. That won’t help you, they’re crying because that is how babies communicate their needs. I hope you get my point. Great podcast🎉🎉

[@royalqueen8679]

Eish Bafethu what a subject Ziyakhala la This has been my cry to the Lord that Daddy this topic is so ignored in our churches.thorough attention to this most significant aspect of marriage is so inadequate We need to explore it more,it is so deep qnd has caused a lot of divorces and adultery in the body of Christ. I thank the Holy Spirit who always help my husband and I to navigate this aspect especially when I found myself not desiring him 18yrs later but God intervened and helped us find the root cause of the problem,I tell you in such seasons love is tested and it is love that Prevails and causes us to win and come to the other side. Indeed Intimacy is emotional,intellectual and spiritual connection more than the physical connection. Asisizaneni ucantsi lubalulekile emshadweni,asifundisaneni sithole amandla amasha. Siyafika kwi season yokungafunani sidlule through God and Intentionality. May Men understand women in this subject and May women understand men in this area of our marriages.

[@sweetnessgyamboe4897]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@zikomokaliwo4977]

We don't deserve you .. ❤.. May the Lord pour into your life

[@TheMakhs]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo]

The chemistry in this marriage is so tangible, you guys like each other Yho what a beautiful union 😊😊😊

[@allymarie8027]

I saved this to watch with my future husband when he arrives! This blessed me in so many ways as a woman who is preparing for courtship and who is healing from childhood SA trauma and struggling to build confidence in Godly sex after therapy and time of healing and still feeling somewhat uneasy about facing it. I am trusting God and praying a lot about my future sex life but appreciate conversations like this so much! There's layers to every marriages unique sex life and we can't give up and continue to communicate! ❤ I love you guys. Thank you so so much.

[@Mercy2421]

Contraceptives are the culprit when it comes to women performance 😢 I am glad you touched on this topic because yay it’s hectic to navigate marriage and sex.

[@nankihoaeane4396]

Was just reading about it

[@nosisasharon3534]

And we can’t skip adverts guys😃

[@NeneShabangu]

Most def

[@ALoverOfTruthAndArt]

Yes ma'am 😅

[@NeliswaPhiri]

Don't act like you don't😓

[@Nozipho_N]

Yebo lapho🎉

[@NatashaShapolaMwamba-ny9vy]

Yàss🎉dream team members could never❤

[@mbuedzedzondou9259]

This marriage neh! Lord! Continue to Bless them….i love how open and honest you are with each other.

[@tebogomashilo6]

i missed hearing "and im phetola makheeeethaa" thee ever so beautiful 🥺😍

[@lineaemvula34]

Yeeeeees please, I really love hearing such looooong ....gheeeeeta too! In this life, certain things may sound simple but they truly make someone out there excited and happy!😅😅😅😅

[@Mystic_Paths]

This topic is so real and often overlooked in relationships. Many married couples struggle with stress impacting their sex lives, and it’s important to talk about it openly. Life’s pressures-work, kids, financial worries-can drain emotional energy and leave little room for intimacy. Sometimes it’s not just about physical desire, but mental and emotional exhaustion. Understanding that stress can kill the mood is key, and working together to reduce stress, communicate openly, and prioritize connection can make a big difference

[@phumzazozi6934]

I could cry because this conversation that you guys are having is soooo good , sooooo needed!! Whether single or married, male or female everyone needs to listen to this!!

[@sbongilemakubela4351]

Thank you for saving so many marriages through this podcasts... May God keep pouring his wisdom and knowledge through the both of you😊

[@progressrak5728]

I feel like I'm watching my marriage being discussed 😢😢, especially the lack of sex sometimes and the reasons, but very difficult for us to talk through the issues, thanks guys, needed to hear this ❤, I don't why, I feel a bit relieved ❤❤❤.

[@Happiness-yd9ie]

Oh these are some of the most healthy conversations that I wish couples were comfortable to engage in. Many marriages would be rescued from the route of divorce...if only

[@yandie_z]

Missed Phetola’s laugh. So happy to have both of you guys back ♥️

[@yolisalisanqari]

😅❤❤ Me too yhoo.. 😆

[@laureenkanyume7945]

This makes a lot of sense. I wish more and more couples should listen to this. It answers a lot of questions.

[@ReignTravel-o4e]

One thing about the Makhs, they will drop 💣. They speak and you know it’s for a nation / for the entire world to learn . Such grace

[@jabuzwanetalks]

The Kind of Family Building Content I love. Thank you for iginiting crucial discussions in such a godly, safe, sensitive and yet very real way. Loving you two!

[@AluwaniNdou]

i am happy, you highlighted the fact as man we are not having this conversation amongst ourselves and even when we do try to have them, its always meet with all acting like we are performing like a stallion and everything is going well. our ego/pride is the problem when it comes to such topics and it doesn't help that its expected of us to be this high performing human when it comes to the bedroom. unfortunately until us 'gents' start opening up to each other, we will still straggle in silence while we are trying to figure it out on our own. Thank you for the conversation

[@lindyn4]

Thank you guys for standing in line for us the honesty is comforting

[@realtalkwithamu]

What a phenomenal, well balanced discussion this was, as one man to another man, you have represented us very well.

[@yvonnenosipho177]

So happy to see you back. We're watching from Zimbabwe 🇿🇼

[@percym8924]

As a married woman, m so grateful for conversations like these ❤❤

[@philasibonge.mkhize]

this space is so safe🥺🤍

[@officially_mrs_m]

Yaaay! So glad to have you back! Let's do more topics! Godly marriages are up!! You both are doing the Lord's work❤❤🎉🎉. Let's help reshape marriage and relief people from cultural expectations. Marriage was created by God, not culture and its precepts. So it is so important what you 2 are doing, 2 people whose marriage is centered in God, to speak on this, with God's counsel. ❤ Vulnerable, transparent, safe space and healing at the same time! Can't wait for people to be encouraged 🎉🎉Let's goo!

[@thenjiwebalano9714]

Thank you for addressing this topic. I resonated deeply with every aspect of the story, as we’ve experienced similar phases in my own marriage. Often, we’re unaware that these experiences change over time and conversations like these are essential in teaching and reminding us about the dynamics of relationships. I truly appreciate the insights shared..

[@thatomissteemusic6983]

I'm not married as yet but this is a good conversation and enlightening for some of us who are anticipating to get married❤Thanks for sharing❤

[@rosefumane8602]

Definitely 💯

[@masengateselepe7293]

Yoooooooo...Wow where do I start?...After she got pregnant,we went to zero sex and again when the baby was born, another 5 months,so i also just removed it from my mind... Trust me I made several attempts to have it but yeah...But we are now talking about it and we understand each other ❤

[@laurreinmaritz9142]

What an honest conversation! 100% relatable❤ thank you beautiful family and welcome back 🎉🎉🎉

[@nompumelelochirwa6193]

Can we talk about the quality?!👏🏽wow!

[@cupofchi_]

Great conversation! I feel like alot of the assumptions could be avoided if couples just simply communicated. Even if it’s embarrassing

[@reranirendani2418]

I am a man I am today because of you guys. I love you very much The Makhs. ❤

[@tlalanetsabana7463]

Bathong we thank God. Congratulations my brother, welcome to manwood🙏

[@tlalanetsabana7463]

Eish my English apologies. We thank God that you are a man you are today. English is not my strong point, I remember I once said Congratulations to Jesus . And some time ago I said Scape boat instead of scape goat.

[@Readingtogether.]

I love the closing Remarks of Mrs Makgetha😢😢I wish she can say that to man at Men's conference. It's hits different coming from a women's perspective.

[@pumzandziweni8434]

I did not know, when men are stressed can less perform too, thank you 4 shining that light❤

[@lebogangmodukanene934]

Bathong lona! Just yesterday I was watching some of your old videos. That’s how much i missed you guys.

[@TheMakhs]

Bathong Lebo!!!😆🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️. We are back hle!!! We missed you so much! It feels sooo good to be back!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@siamisangsia6840]

Same here😂😢

[@motheowalerato701]

I'll be back. Just wanted to check in 😅❤

[@TheMakhs]

Please don’t forget to come back❤️🤗

[@omolemo4160]

As a guy, performance anxiety really happens. It really messes us up in the inside. Thanks for this talk!

[@palesadolo7346]

Wowza!! Fam, you guys really went in with this conversation. Thank you so much for sharing. It has been very eye opening to hear this chat being had in this light. I will never pass the chance to equip myself for marriage during singleness. This is going into the volt♥️

[@kearabetswefaith6934]

OMG, it's so good to have you guys back fam. 🥺 LOVED THE CONVERSATION and hopefully a woman's perspective will follow lol. 😂❤

[@allthings_suzieq]

this segment was wholesome….l can’t get over how beautiful Phetola is❤❤❤

[@mazwihwonfila8580]

I am blown by the authenticity u two carry.. Abundant Grace

[@chukschukwuka5200]

Thank you guys for been so real and natural. My wife sent me this link and at first, I didn't want to open it, but all glory to the lord I did. Guys, you touch everything part ❤ Good work guys. Good work. Am looking forward for future good, informative, healthy topic. Thanks aging. Stay bless you too.

[@phiwo8998]

I cannot express enough the love and appreciation I have for you guys , thank you for allowing us into your journey, you guys are therapy ❤️.

[@adeolaojo4603]

I love the eloquence of Mr Makh and his wife, one word - Gorgeous...

[@princessmoeti3248]

Oh my gosh I actually didn't realise how much i missed you guys. Welcome back!!!!! 😍😍

[@nqwenelwandabba725]

I love how the respect is mutual between the 2 of you family. Allowing the other person to speak and express their thoughts, and there is no taking anything personal 9r feelings of judgement ❤❤❤

[@Lalee0412]

This was very powerful, raw and insightful. You guys rock

[@MandisaHanise]

So, we conceived our first born on a “flat tyre season” 😅. That’s what we called it. It was a funny space for us but I obviously felt like he didn’t find me desirable anymore. We thrived through the season until things went back to normal and I later found out I was pregnant. Now every time there’s a “flat tyre season” I’ll be scared that Jeso, I’m gonna conceive again 😢😅😂

[@pinkyfavoured]

😂😂😂

[@nolubabalowayiti2761]

Flat what!!! 😂So funny how you call it

[@ladyqngomane]

I am sending this to my husband to watch, thank you guys for speaking about things that are not so popular to speak about❤, May God continue to use you to save all marriages out there!! 🙌🙌

[@RendyLuna]

I'm so glad that you guys are back, can you please update episodes on spotify ,i have long drives to work and like to listen to you guys, you are literally the only SA couple i follow❤❤

[@dineomatolo7961]

You came back with a bang🎉🎉 Loved every bit of the podcast, you are a blessing ❤.I now understand that "there are seasons ".......

[@zinhle__z]

Shuuu, This is premium content!

[@simemaposa1123]

Missed you ,So great to have you back fam❤

[@ladyras]

Now this is what we call a podcast❤❤❤❤. This is a topic!!!!

[@sibuleledwakaza]

Phakathi inside 📍 the quality!🔥🔥

[@phumzazozi6934]

Right!!!!

[@sanelemjoli4877]

Yeyi you just come back like that? Lol you didn't even ease us back, wow these topics aren't covered enough out there. This is why I am grateful that you are back. Definitely going to have a chat about it with my wife. Welcome back Fam. The Great I AM loves you

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

Welcome back Mrs and Mr Makhetha❤

[@MaleboOldjohnTsindi]

Welcome back guys, yall feel so refreshed 😊

[@kelebogilemasigo1181]

Oh this episode hit home so bad….. I don’t know how to even act cause I have guilt trip my partner about this for so long and now it just feels like I have been unfair towards him. But I am relieved that I’m not the only one and I am not crazy.

[@Keabetswe.Sithole]

Such a beautiful conversation! Also you guys le a ratana it is evident in how you carry each other. Modimo a le etse gantle ❤

[@phethehojenifermoleleki3973]

I love the intro, it exudes so much power.

[@LillyBlue1]

Please consider being marriage counsellors, you’d be perfect!!

[@therapynareva6511]

This episode is world class ❤❤so needed.

[@AishaandLife]

I really appreciate the honesty and openness of this conversation. Like you said, most of these topics aren’t spoken about and they need to! This will help so many couples. Thank you 👏🏾🙏🏾

[@Temwachii]

You always come back bigger and better!!! A1 visuals

[@HildahMolobane-dk4vk]

Welcome back the dream team wow, I'm so happy to have you back guys

[@royalqueen8679]

You guys are SUPER REAL

[@modiegimashamaite4704]

Oh yessss. Love this podcast. What a wonderful topic. You always get it. Here for the graphics as well. 🥰😍😍

[@pontshobolofo9541]

Yeeeeeee🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤ The Marks are back. I love your conversations hey. They are so matured and very enlightening. They are just blessing. You guys are really amazing. Thank God for you

[@pumlakoltana936]

U gutz u r sooo authentic, Ĺerato how I so wish u can organize men's Conference, guys u r amazing . Phetola u are real, sooo grounded and I love u.

[@Simz1061]

You guys look so good ! 🔥👌🏼

[@annasophiamdavid2260]

It's me liking 👍🏽 before I watch😊

[@AmeliaNyirenda]

It’s how these guys are matching outfits for me🥹❤️❤️❤️

[@nonjabuloshongwe1212]

Guys I missed you so much. Thank you for having this conversation although I was a bit skeptical because I’m unmarried so I thought it would be irrelevant for me. However as always I have found a very good lesson about communication, those tough conversations are necessary in a relationship. Also it sounds like it’s a normal thing that happens because in this life, all other factors around intimacy are inevitable to arise and it will affect performance one way or the other, we have to expect such that it might possibly happen. It’s a realistic expectation. I appreciate you ❤

[@katmodi]

I was skeptical too because I'm unmarried. I'm however so glad I continued to listen because there's so much value from this conversation.

[@nqobilemkhize8110]

I was sooo happy to see the notification 😍😭😭♥️ My favourite couple. Period💯

[@Phindu_M]

Quality conversations 🎉 love it here … dream team

[@ShaniceKamps]

Mr and Mrs Makhs, God bless you! My marriage needed to hear this, I hope my husband watches it ❤

[@raegreen1194]

Sharing this as we have to shine a healthy light on this. Love how you developed the conversation from both perspectives❤most appreciated

[@TeeRayLifestyle]

We really need these conversation, shuu wholesome content

[@theonegrateful-leper]

Am single but yoh!! I am learning there are alot factors that contribute to sex. We just think it should just happen. But this , woh!! So educative

[@phelokazimbazo9078]

I love it here man,i have bin married for 3years and few months and im learning alot

[@palesamasebe5661]

Thank you fam ❤shared with my hubby … # watching all the way from Qatar 🇶🇦 🇿🇦 # Rakgadi Pheto & Uncle Larry Y’all inspire me # I miss you Fam 😢

[@justruth6983]

It's awesome to see Africans sharing such topics thanks for sharing guys

[@khetsiwemhlongo5939]

Thank you for being honest and sharing such a profound part of your lives.I learnt alot on how to call the Periods in my life that were a frustration

[@MrJulz15]

Part of the problem is with the societal standard of calling sexual activity a "performance". We really need to find a better word to refer to it

[@Demru_1]

I agree with the two of you 100% on everything. I am happy you're Christians. I am happy you're both honest. I am happy you are also the best of best friends and you're talking. But I am also happy you are not modelling your relationship to some fiction out there. a) Why is 10 yrs in many marriages the tipping point, how did you deal with sin, lust temptations? b) For the longest of time as a Christian you were not permitted to have sex, suddenly you're married and what was sinful is suddenly holy? c) Why do liberals feel in a7 billion world how can you remain committed to one person only? d) How safe or unsafe is a virgin man marrying an experienced lady in the bedroom? e) Do parents deserve the voice to choose a family to marry from, they have a discernment because roots and fruits are interrelated ? God bless your marriage 🙏