Lesbian Reacts to ~Straight Men Kissing~

[@wynn_xxii]

THE WAY I STOPPED WHAT I WAS DOING IMMEDIATELY TO WATCH A LESBIAN WATCH STRAIGHT MEN KISSING?

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

YOU'RE DOING IT RIGHT

[@emilyviolet5435]

SAME LMAO

[@annajuliaxc]

THAT'S ME LITERALLY, i was going to watch a service on a church

[@incognitomode1700]

I was just about to get back to my Math homework

[@MJ-dw3zc]

THATS LITERALLY WHAT I DID

[@neilpeterson9195]

We need more open minded people like these man. Show affection towards someone doesn't define your sexuality.

[@lemongrassandsleep6352]

@Ville Bro get a life and stop commenting on every LGBTQIA+ channel. It’s giving “internalized homophobia and wants an excuse to watch gay shit”

[@asiancookrice9006]

@Ville Are you kidding me? is that a MAP flag in your profile picture?

[@raine_rainegoaway]

@Ville come on is it really you again

[@nin06]

@@asiancookrice9006 What does a “MAP flag”represent?

[@WHYISTHISNAMEINVALID]

@@nin06 It means Minor Attracted Persons, they define themselves as non-offending ped0philes hence the acronym instead of calling themselves ped0philes. They are not part of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community.

[@Wistful_Thinking]

This just reminds me of how when I was younger I literally had the thought of "I wish I could kiss girls. Too bad I'm straight." Bestie I was NOT straight. Long story short I'm now a proud bisexual who finds everyone hot. LMAO

[@theincredibleknuffibar4834]

Lol I find everyone hot too, it's exhausting

[@shaaylaaaa]

I unfortunately only find select men hot. This honestly sounds like the way to live a happy life 😅

[@theincredibleknuffibar4834]

@@shaaylaaaa mhhh combine it with the classic bisexual dilemma of not being able to choose and you got chaos total 😂😂

[@Wistful_Thinking]

@@theincredibleknuffibar4834 I currently have a boyfriend whom I'm very happy with. I like to see it as you choose a person not a gender. Though whenever I'm unable to choose between things it gives my friends a good giggle cause their like "Damn you're so bi" lmao

[@kaylanicole5126]

Omg I remember thinking in fifth grade “boys are so lucky they get to like girls cause girls are prettier than boys”😭and I don’t remember exactly how old I was but this was in middle school pretty sure, I was wondering if kissing a girl just once would automatically make you go to hell and even if it was something they just did as acting would they still go to hell😢 so awful having these thoughts because you’re so confused and alone

[@moleary42]

What this is so wholesome YES for breaking down stereotypes and gender biases! Kiss your homies! (With consent!)

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

omg I'm sorry I disliked your comment by accident!!

[@angeliconda123]

I want "Kiss your homies (with consent)!" on a t shirt tbh

[@purplelove14]

@@angeliconda123 I’d buy

[@Autumnnn_017]

@@angeliconda123 SAME 😭

[@mikeygarcia8271]

@@Autumnnn_017 homosexuality and promiscuity in public are an abomination in God's eyes. Remember Sodom and Gomorrha..those places were burned to the ground because of all sorts of sexual perversion prevalent in those places. Do not let your heart be hardened by sin that you can no longer recognize evil for what it is.

[@shaliekk]

Alayna: "Justice for male friendship affection" male streamers: "hold my beer"

[@hele_manzo]

The Click and OT have entered the chat

[@Wilderness-Autorka]

@@hele_manzo Omg you're also the Click spawn, I adore you

[@hele_manzo]

@@Wilderness-Autorka (demonic cute laughter) yes. I adore you too, cliccy spawn.

[@Wilderness-Autorka]

@@hele_manzo OwO wet's cuddwe wuddwe togeva ♥️ UwU

[@theirlmess]

@Dragonixa's Home Videos Heyyy ima cliccy and toppy fan tooo!!! I think I deserve lots of platonic cuddles aswell ✨✨

[@tizamel24]

As an aroace who thought I was straight until I reached my 30s, it felt really good to see you react to that cute guy and then say what you said about aesthetic attraction and how it had you confused for so long because sameeee

[@emilywilliams4296]

Same I felt seen

[@reb-chan5193]

Yeah

[@spicydramarama852]

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

[@missfeisty]

I have kissed multiple genders and honestly women tend to kiss softer. I just had a recent experience kissing a guy where it was soft and passionate and almost like the best of both worlds in regards kissing to women and men.

[@da009999]

How did you find him? Does he know you are bi?

[@missfeisty]

@@da009999 Yes, he knows I am bi. Found him on Tinder. We kind of went our separate ways recently and I'll miss him a lot.

[@thewebmaster2751]

Came here to say this! From my experience, women are just softer. I've had to tell men to loosen their lips, even my husband at times. It obviously depends on the person, like your experience reflects, though.

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

Aw, I just read another comment saying that men and even non-binary people are different than women. And one of my male partner’s had the softest kisses. His lips were amazing.

[@kennyjac]

Oh my goodness, reading this just brought up the memory of one the last times I kissed a woman (6 years ago)... Yikes I miss that softness

[@NicoleDelvilleBurke]

As a bi woman, kissing women is definitely different than kissing men (or kissing enbies), in my opinion. Both are good, but definitely just different.

[@atlroxmysox98]

kissing women is just 😍 for me. like i have naturally quite full lips and so to me there’s no closer glimpse of heaven than kissing a woman who also has full lips that match mine

[@zackgeldhof1206]

Oh wow, I never even thought about how my (an NB) kiss would be different from a woman's or man's! Now I'm super curious if other people I'm with think the same thing! :O *MIND BLOWN.* But I do agree that men are different from women!

[@viki_1607]

@@zackgeldhof1206 what does nb mean?

[@ElleEstQueTropRoque]

@@zackgeldhof1206 same question here too ^^

[@wisorcrystalcrys3563]

@@ElleEstQueTropRoque it means nonbinary :)

[@wendyfrederick5965]

As a Demi Bi woman who has been together with my wife for 39 years ... my evidence for this opinion is rather old ... but here it is: I have kissed both men and women. With women it felt more collaborative. More of a giving act on both sides with less expectations other than just enjoying our kissing which could or not extend further onto sexual activities. With men it always felt like a direct warm up to sexual activities that were expected to occur rather quickly in succession from the commencement of our kissing!

[@pennyforyourthoughts4]

Thank you for stating this because I've noticed this as well and I feel like this is what confused me when I was younger. I thought I wasn't attracted to men because I don't truly enjoy kissing them, women were a breeze. Congrats on the 39 years!!! 💘

[@sannevanbeers]

Omg you are so right that is it

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

This is so accurate!!

[@Truska26]

I am a straight woman with a husband, and for me kissing him is the way you feel when kissing a woman :D It doesnt always lead up to sex, just cuddling...so it wasnt for all man I think.

[@fireruby1882]

And this my friend is why I wonder if I’m actually lesbian 🫠because I don’t want sex I just want romance

[@maeveorourke7966]

This made me slightly sad... But hear me out. This was very wholesome and lovely, a great video. As alayna said, so many important points were addressed. My slight sadness comes from the envy of how how polite and curtious the men were to eachother and how they had very good boundaries and consent. I'm envious because I wish more men would treat women like that and not assume we want something and make sure we are comfortable and not assume we want them to kiss or touch us (like these men were with eachother). I don't have the same experience of how these men were to eachother (nor do my hetero/bi female friends). Can this video be an example of how men should interact with men and women, I'm envious of the respect displayed by these men to each other! I wish men would interact with me like this! it was a great video, I guess it triggered how me nor any of my female friends tend to be treated like this by straight/bi men, it sets a good president tho, to any men please apply the same kind of respect to women!

[@purpleway1713]

good and respectful guys exist, they're just outnumbered

[@Steertanzer]

100% this.

[@ellouisebadger849]

Yeah with women they don't even think about it. A touch on the waist or leaning in for a kiss is considered acceptable for them.

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

I think I fell for my ex-husband because before our first kiss he asked, “Would it be alright if I kissed you?” Turns out, long term, he wasn’t respectful. But he certainly reeled me in with that.

[@janemandley4033]

I was thinking the same thing when I was watching this. Thanks for saying all this.

[@crazycatlady6226]

It is honestly so attractive when guys are comfortable in their sexuality and can just say that another man is handsome/attractive and as u said can be affectionate with their friends without it meaning anything sexual. And yes as a bi women I definitely think kissing a girl is different than kissing a guy. I mostly have experienced that girls kiss a lot softer, but then again I haven’t kissed a more dominant women yet haha

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Or a less dominant man? Or a more sensitive man?

[@crazycatlady6226]

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle also then in my experience

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

@@crazycatlady6226 also then what?

[@crazycatlady6226]

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle i still find it softer with a girl

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

@@crazycatlady6226 Okay

[@preciousonejewel]

Dudes kissing? I'm so here for it

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

same

[@mikeygarcia8271]

homosexuality and promiscuity in public are an abomination in God's eyes. Remember Sodom and Gomorrha..those places were burned to the ground because of all sorts of sexual perversion prevalent in those places. Do not let your heart be hardened by sin that you can no longer recognize evil for what it is.

[@zackgeldhof1206]

Didn't find it creepy at all! It's lovely to see people willing to try something! Even if they find they're not into it later, it's a really cool thing to explore! I'd also like to add: For so many years, masculinity has been defined by "no touchy" and just very stiff and rigid (and often toxic) traits. So to see people absolutely smashing out of those traits to something healthier and more explorative with safe and consenting boundaries is absolutely what got me so giddy about this video in the first place. :D

[@tals.8960]

Thank you for talking about aesthetic and platonic attraction! I feel like in general mainstream society, there's this false idea that all attraction is romantic/sexual, that men can't look at women without it being sexual, that men can't compliment women (or even just think to themselves positive things) about their look, their style, without it being flirting or "hitting on" them. I honestly don't know where I sit in terms of my sexual attraction to anyone. I think I am somewhere on the ace spectrum, demisexual. Demisexual when it comes to women, really unsure whether I could be attracted to a man. (There's your comphet right there). But! I do know that I have strong aesthetic / platonic attraction to women all the time (and sometimes men). I *love* people's styles, their fashion. Every day I see so many people I wish I could take a picture of, just to appreciate their style and add it to my knowledge of what styles exist out there in the world. What beauty, and awesomeness, and creativity, and coolness exists out in the world. But I'm far too timid to talk to women, even just to say "hey, I really like your style. I really like your dress. I really like your dyed hair. May I take a photo?" Because of this overarching stereotype that all attraction is sexual, all compliments are an effort to flirt romantically/sexually, and that all men are pigs. :/ Aesthetic and platonic attraction are real, folks!!

[@vincentnightray750]

This. This is all my life summed up lol.

[@luise5339]

I have to say, I've started making more compliments to people, just saying that I liked their hair, style, makeup, whatever I liked about them and everyone was pleasantly surprised I would say. I just always made sure I wasn't commenting on anyone's body, like you look skinny or something, because it could be triggering and that it was a genuine compliment. And I found, that as long as there are no expectations after the compliment, everyone enjoys it and one even said it made their day. So maybe just go up to these people, make that compliment but without any expectations and if an conversation comes up afterwards, maybe you have the chance to ask for a photo.

[@garyball5774]

Alayna, I'm your old straight identifying male; and yes I've kissed other males when I was pre-teen. (I'm 67 now). I often think about those time and believe it was me exploring my sexuality. Maybe I still am. After all I'm a patron and subscribe to all your channels.

[@HoodwinkFalls]

I remember, when I was a little one, I convinced myself I had a crush on this guy in my class because all the other girls in my year had a crush and I didn't want to be left out. I have realised since I came out to myself that it was not the guy I liked but his twin sister.

[@sharstic2929]

haha i saw this video and was like what?? but i guess its helping w toxic masculinity and guys being more comfortable showing their affection to each other without being seen as “gay” like redefining societal norms so that’s cool. one of my guy friends was talking about his “bromances” and how they gave each other sentimental gifts to show how they appreciated each other and i thought that was sweet

[@bingbongalong]

@Ville Whoa, why so hostile? Toxic masculinity is pretty obviously a thing. It just means that within the gender construct in our society, men are generally socialized to have certain perspectives and behaviors that are harmful to themselves and others, mainly coming from the belief that men are superior to women. So someone with toxic masculinity judges things associated with women/femininity as weak and inferior, such as having emotions, expressing affection or mutual respect, asking instead of demanding, being or seeming gay, etc. But to be clear, people socialized as women can have or support toxic masculinity as well, it's just not as ingrained by society. And people socialized as men can NOT have toxic masculinity or have it to a lesser extent, but this generally has to come from unlearning the toxic masculinity they were taught. It's something we all have to work on together!

[@Fluff_Noodles]

@Ville there's not a single swear in the polite response they gave explaining things to you? All your comments on this video seem really aggressive and rude I hope you have a better day tomorrow and start being nicer to people. If you're just a troll I hope you grow up and get more mature

[@candicecolvin4668]

Awww 🙂 They give each other gifts? That is precious 🖤

[@candicecolvin4668]

@ville you do know that your responses are proving @Jordan's point right?

[@satanslittleprince]

@Ville you are probably 13.

[@cacobapt]

As a queer person, I was happy just like you to see that The tenderness and the affection for the moment was something cute to see And o also think that as least a few gentleman there are now questioning themselves as straight

[@ellenmcdaniel4755]

“Negotiations” shouldnt just be a thing in the kink community. Verbal enthusiastic consent is the only way to go in every encounter!

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

Alayna, I never thought I would like this, but you opened my mind and made me see the world differently. Thank you! Really, thank you.

[@shelbyminer8105]

Sat down to eat dinner and put this video on, thinking "ehhh straight men, I guess so," and having very low expectations of enjoying the Cut video as much as I did. I nearly dropped the food out of my mouth at the dip kiss! 😂 What a cute, consent based, and emotionally intelligent experience!

[@proudredneck2061]

The Cut video was so fun to watch, but your reactions, were adorable at the same time being hilarious 😂

[@lolilo2759]

2:15. Her giggling about “boys kissing” is so cute! :D

[@Eyleenelly]

I spent years questioning whether or not I was attracted to men (answer: no), so I went to think that I was asexual. It took me another few years to realize that I was attracted to women but just never had questioned if I was (because of past internalised homophobia). It's the other way round than what happened for Alayna, but I think that the conclusion is the same: asking people when they realised their sexuality (straight included) would save many of us a lot of time.

[@WynnK_]

Yes me too!

[@s_o_f_a_l_o_f_a]

WHY IS THIS SO CUTE AND WHOLESOME

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

TURNS OUT NON TOXIC MASCULINITY IS BEAUTIFUL

[@s_o_f_a_l_o_f_a]

@@AlaynaJoyOfficial IM OBSESSED THIS NEEDS TO BE A SERIES WE NEED MORE GENDER IDENTITIES LET EVERYONE BE HAPPY

[@MsBethylou]

'I never asked myself if I liked men' ... never heard something so relatable!

[@TaschaMonique]

I loved the questions you asked at the end. When I was still convincing myself that I was straight but that I had just had bad kisses with guys my bestfirend a girl offered to kiss me so I could experience a good kiss. I was sooooooo uncomfortable with the idea that I froze and just let her do whatever. I can look back and see that I was terrified it would confirm what I had been worried about in the back of my mind and if I fell into the kiss Id fall for her. I have kissed multiple people of both genders and a few who identified as she/they and I can say the major difference is actually within myself and my own comfort. First kisses with guys that I initiated were fun but nothing like other people had described kissing. The first kiss with a girl however that we both initiated was everything I had been missing. She walked me to my car and said "I want to ask you something, I think you know what I want to ask..." and I instantly without hesitation had this wave of confidence and said "you want to kiss me." I stated it like it was a fact. I smirked and pulled her close and she didn't hesitate we kissed like we had both been craving it. Nothing compares to a kiss when you really want to kiss someone and they really want to kiss you. I realized I was GAY GAY then because that want to kiss her was more like a need stronger than any desire I had felt before. I wish I had listened to my body sooner because for the longest time I just thought something was wrong with me and that I just didn't like kissing or people in general. The key to having a kiss feel different for me is actually wanting to kiss the person.

[@Em-di3jq]

This is amazing and got me all choked up reading it🥺❤️ I completely understand what you mean. I’m so happy for you!

[@raydaveed]

I'm gonna cry 😭✨💯💅✨

[@fireruby1882]

ACK THANK YOU FOR EXPLAINING THAT😭💙

[@noa_thinks]

this whole video was so cute and wholesome! i love how open all of these men were with talking to each other, telling each other their boundaries and making sure everything was going okay. as a queer person, i don't know if there's a particular difference between gender when it comes to kissing, but after having only kissed women in the past, i recently had a fling with a man, and it was definitely a different experience, kissing someone with stubble

[@rebecculousrk]

I’m totally blown away by how happy that weird video made me. I think your reactions made it okay for me to feel charmed by their awkwardness. I NEVER would have watched it on my own.

[@EricaLaurenx3]

this is the cutest, most wholesome thing I've ever seen. 💗

[@dasiasaur]

I’ve seen another reaction to this video as well and I love watching it be received positively. The concept seems like it could end up problematic but it’s handled so maturely that it was just a genuinely good video

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

The video had a lot of potential for disaster, but they got it right.

[@maryelitherrera5993]

12:18 it’s not!! 😂😂 I understand your excitement because this video is super wholesome. They acted with respect to each other and openess, they got to know themselves a bit more and sent a good message: it’s okay to wonder “do i like (insert gender)?” No matter how you identify, and whatever the answer is, it’s okay and it’s beautiful ✨.

[@laragazzaviola80]

8:06 yes! That's why I've been following cut for a while, they catch you with some "funny/catchy" titles but then they present you with some really interesting discussions

[@mpkio]

I'm a gay man watching a lesbian women watch straight men kiss each other for the first time......AND I'M ALL FOR IT!!! :D

[@clipsocity.]

Omg this video made me realise that I too feel aesthetic attraction and platonic attraction to men but not romantic. Thank you so much !

[@Sophia-AS]

[@pnas812]

Looking forward to more of your the bachelorette reaction

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

it's coming 😇

[@expatmousse5196]

German princess charming please 👍🏻

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

If the host from that Bachelorette show had been there for the cut video, it would have been a disaster. Can you imagine, "We are pushing the boundaries. Navigating uncharted waters. Will these men overcome their disgust?"

[@pnas812]

@@AlaynaJoyOfficial can't wait

[@TransGuyShane]

This is essential research and we need more of these videos ;)

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

for science 🫡

[@Mkay420]

I love this! It’s so great to see men openly talk about exploring things outside of their heterosexual identity and how it makes them feel, good or bad. And they all approached it with such care and attention to things like consent and comfort which is so refreshing to watch! I have to say, as a trans person who’s gone on a bit of a gender journey for a little over a year now, my ability to identify my more masculine side has reopened some internal debates about my sexuality. I’m still figuring out what I like and what I’m into, but I love that I can explore that and be a bit fluid in my identity as I go about my life!

[@snowflakesinthesun1116]

Your level of excitement is not creepy! I felt the same when I first watched this lol it just made me so happy that straight men would be so open to this and actually be sincere about it. Super cute ^.^ Also, I'm queer and although it's been awhile since I kissed a girl, I just remember it being so much softer and.. caring? Idk if caring is the right word but there was an element in kissing girls that doesn't often come through with men- I suppose maybe because most of the time men have a specific end goal they are trying to get to whereas with women, I've felt more presence, I guess.

[@manda0367]

I am a straight woman, happily married to a straight man and I don't know how I feel if I were to kiss another woman and I've never thought of it before watching this video. Like these guys, I wouldn't say no if a similar situation would present itself and if I had my husband's consent. Like you, I can appreciate and enjoy someone's aesthetic and I do think that women are sexy but I am not sexually attracted to women. :)

[@mikeygarcia8271]

homosexuality and promiscuity in public are an abomination in God's eyes. Remember Sodom and Gomorrha..those places were burned to the ground because of all sorts of sexual perversion prevalent in those places. Do not let your heart be hardened by sin that you can no longer recognize evil for what it is.

[@namjooningOT7]

That's great actually similarly id like to see what is the difference I would feel while kissing a dude

[@timjeffries9833]

I just came out as pansexual 2 months ago. I’ve never kissed a man. After watching this video…that’s all I want to do right now😏🥵.

[@sapphicsapphire82]

Do it!

[@mykidsdadrocks9341]

Lol.. at 16:04 .. that's me :-) I identify as straight, am a long time subscriber, ally to the lgbtq2s+ community, and yes, have kissed other men. I really enjoy your channel Alayna for all its honesty, insights, education and overall a safe place for all people to come together to learn more about one another! And of course with great humour too. Thank you!!

[@noah.rae678]

I literally cried and I wish more straight men were like this

[@kenziewenzieasmr9800]

This warms my heart 🥺🥺🥺 just to see straight men talking about consent and asking for it from other men it’s really a beautiful thing

[@mikeygarcia8271]

homosexuality and promiscuity in public are an abomination in God's eyes. Remember Sodom and Gomorrha..those places were burned to the ground because of all sorts of sexual perversion prevalent in those places. Do not let your heart be hardened by sin that you can no longer recognize evil for what it is. Jesus died for you that you may be freed from the slavery of sin, to save you from etrnal damnation in hell..He died for you ebcause He loves you..please go back to God for your soul's sake. Hell is real..here is proof: an atheist college professor became a believer after his near death experience where he saw hell kzbin.info/www/bejne/rofMYnp3fdd8gqs

[@preciousonejewel]

In the kink community having discussions and getting to know each other is "vetting" don't know if that's the term you were thinking of

[@Rising_Pho3nix_23]

Thank you. I scrolled the comments just for this

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

I think she's talking more about the discussion of boundaries and likes and dislikes.

[@internalfugue16]

I've heard vetting as a getting to know you stage where you figure out if you want to play with someone and maybe get references (as in vetting candidates for a job), and then negotiation for when you are sitting down to plan a scene, discussing wants and boundaries etc., with someone you've already vetted (ostensibly).

[@preciousonejewel]

@@internalfugue16 true!

[@Miniermotte]

Yessss!!! Thank you for doing this, I was one of the people recommending the video to you :D And to answer your question: I'm bi and to me there's no difference between kissing men and women. Only in the sense that it's always a bit different with each different person but I didn't notice a gender-based pattern for those differences yet.

[@indiabastien]

We need more like these men in our world. But also Alayna I wish we were in the same room talking about this! We have a similar coming out story and I LOOOVE seeing men kiss for the mere fact that it is societal unacceptable it feels like such a revolution. Great video!

[@alexanderoscar2623]

that was unexpectedly cute! I've kissed people of different genders and I think the kisses are different from person to person, more so than different according to gender. Also, I guess how the kiss feels depends on the dynamics of the particular relationship .

[@laurenlittlewood3913]

You’re literally the most relatable person to me! Thank you for being you and open!

[@louploup]

@Alayna Joy: I loved how you explained your attraction to the 'homies' guy. I would love a whole video on how you think back on your attraction to men and if there are ever moments you question your attraction to men. I really struggle with not mistaking liking a guy platonically with a crush. Thank you!!

[@WynnK_]

8:40 me too Alayna me too! It’s so nice having you talk about it! You word and explain things SO WELL

[@Cornflower20]

THIS WAS SO WHOLESOME ❤️

[@kitkatanne5436]

omg, this is such a good video! it was wholesome, cute, and had such a great message. even as a bi woman, this is amazing.

[@karoscgot]

I’m a straight man and I have been kissed before, but not with my consent. Have to say though, this seemed really kinda lovely

[@allshookup1640]

Doesn’t count. Don’t let someone take that from you. Your first kiss is when you decide to kiss someone and they want to kiss you back. That moment THAT is what a first kiss is. Don’t worry about a non consensual/forced kiss, it doesn’t count. Do it when you’re ready, with whoever you want on your time schedule!

[@purplelove14]

@@allshookup1640 they didn’t exactly say it was their first kiss but I agree with what you’re saying 100%

[@allshookup1640]

@@purplelove14 you’re right. I just interpreted it that way in how they phrased it. You could very well be right though! Either way I say doesn’t count. Have a nice night 😊

[@bestabothworldz2766]

I am sorry that happened

[@LilyFinnic]

i was tearing up on how cute this was! Alsoooooo i think some of them might be bi now😉😉 also the fact i skipped going swimming to watch a lesbian react to strait men kissing must tell you a lot abt me lol💀💀

[@Emily_North]

Comment For Engaygement🏳️‍🌈

[@Arakiel9]

Here's me involuntarily saying "Negotiation... negotiation... it's called negotiation..." at the 10:32 mark. Edit: Oh wait, I was actually coming down here to type a comment about the content of the video rather than just outing myself as being familiar with certain communities. Yeah, 'famliar', let's go with that. I have been sex positive in principle for decades, but I've never been very promiscuous. I am supportive of people doing what they want to do, enthusiastic informed consent obtained, and have no guilt for whatever it is they want to do. Whatever gender. However many. There are some conversations about safety, legality, and all of that, but let's gloss over that for the moment and just assume that we aren't going too far down that particular rabbit hole, it would derail what I want to talk about here. I have many friends who identify as women who are in various places on the sexual preferences scatter plot chart (is there a "Sexual Preferences Scatter Plot chart? There has to be, right?) who share a fascination/interest/enthusiasm with boys kissing. To be CLEAR... not boys, as in minors... the term "boys kissing" among those I know is an enthusiastic battle cry, taken up on occasion, when the suggestion has been made that perhaps "this person" and "that person", both being male (the "boys" in question) might kiss. The loudly spoken, or even shouted phrase, "boys kissing!" or even "are boys going to kiss?!" has been heard more than a few times at gatherings I've attended, and to the best of my recollection it has always been uttered by women. Men might show interest too, but the women are vociferous. I've never gotten the impression of icky, creepy energy from it. I think that's why the word "boy" was chosen... it sort of brings in an element of innocence, as if to rein in the possibility of what might happen, or at least, what those enthusiastic speakers are enthusiastic about seeing... kissing. Not groping. Not sex. Not stripping naked. Just some kissing. If it gets steamy, well, that will get some hoots 'n hollers, but then it needs to wrap up or move to a private space (usually, depending on the specific type of gathering...) because the whole point of this is to encourage men to be comfortable showing non-sexual affection (not directly sexual, but a smidgin' of arousal is okay, maybe even great) IN SITUATIONS WHERE CONSENTING ADULTS HAVE ALREADY SET THE RULES THAT THIS BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE among other pairings of individuals (there is a separate conversation about PDAs and which behaviors are acceptable where, and by whom. As above, I want to side-step that conversation for now). It's important to some people that "these settings" be supportive for all. Not just men kissing women, not just women kissing women, but also men kissing men. As a guy who likes guys... I get it. I like watching men kiss from time to time. But this group of women include a percentage of individuals who identify as 100% straight as well as a smaller percentage who identify as 100% lesbian. I only point this out because it is not a phenomenon I've found strictly among women who identify a certain way, or even those who might find men interesting at all sexually, but all sorts. ... it's hard to find the right word to sum up the other part. Let me type some words to give you an idea of what I mean... Jackson Pollack style throwing words on the screen and we'll see what it ends up looking like: Patriarchy. Women have been objectified, idolized, and criticized for showing physical affection forever, now a man is doing it. I'm not the one 'performing for a crowd', he is, and I get to sit in the seat of the person judging/enjoying/criticizing/in control of my experience of the situation... and I get to express how I feel about it (as long as it's not harsh). They aren't staring at me, we're staring at them. Let's objectify men for a change. Let's do it better. Let's show them how to be enthusiastic without being creepy. I'm safe, they aren't all staring at me, I can relax and enjoy the moment while the focus is on people who embody the traits of those who have stared/judged/objectified me my entire life. This is the world I want to live in, where people can be encouraging and complimentary without turning everything into something that is overtly lecherous/creepy/dehumanizing. Those guys look hot. Would I like to be with them, kissing the two of them at the same time... I don't know... I don't need to know... I can just watch with no expectation of me needing to perform for anyone... but you know... the possibility is there... so I can just consider it without feeling pressured or expected to do anything at all. Nobody in the room is looking at me right now, thank God. That person over there is really enjoying this, I like them... I guess I like this too. So... what have we got up there? Patriarchy. Societal expectations. Some peer pressure to 'be enthusiastic about the thing everyone else is being enthusiastic about. Internalized fear and guilt around sexuality. Internalized pressure to act a certain way in certain settings. Relief when the fear, guilt, and pressure are removed. Freedom to consider what you want when not dealing with fear, guilt, and pressure. 'Screw you guys, let's see how you like it when we objectify you' doesn't really come into it within the contexts that I've experienced this behavior. I bet it's there for some people. It has to be, right? It's human. Probably under the surface, since the general vibe in the situations I'm referring to is uplifting, not degrading. Anyway, I love that you did a video on boys kissing boys... I know, I know, sorry, old habit... men kissing men. It was fun, and like you, I was impressed at several of the things they "did right" in the video. I almost starting crying happy tears when they asked the guy, "So, when did you realize you were straight?" Best. Question. Ever. Thank you and best wishes Alayna, I appreciate a lot of your content, so as long as you enjoy making it, please do! :)

[@alexm7562]

this was so well written! thank you for giving this excellent perspective

[@tessayo]

I love Cut and Jubilee I feel like they make such important videos that have the power to change things

[@wesnabell8843]

Alayna is so adorable I'm crying😭😭😭

[@tremkl]

BRB, off to watch you guessing people’s sexuality! 😂😂😂

[@palexanderrice]

i love Cut, they’ve made me be way more open minded to myself than any other channel. i’m pretty sure your channel was suggested to me after watching cut lol

[@DE-qz2el]

I probably wouldn’t have clicked on that Cut video myself but it was super sweet and your reactions made it even better!

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

In my family, everyone kissed other family members on the mouth (Covid put a kabosh on that and I don’t know if it will return). The whole extended family was raised that way in the same way some families hug. We kissed our parents goodbye whenever we left and goodnight. Siblings the same. Not in these way these men were, but there is a hand on the shoulder or arm. We also would easily throw our legs over any family member sitting on the sofa next to us if we wanted to lie on the sofa. We might also take the other person’s hand temporarily or walk with our arms linked. This was such a norm for our family that I found other families being so physically distant to be odd. Had to train my ex-husband on how to be close and have closeness NOT be sexual (not be an invitation for sex-gosh, the expectation that would follow by a simple touch was unnerving). His family was so enamored by my family easy affection that they-including his extended family-all learned to hug and be closer.

[@bloopbleep173]

may I ask what culture you belong to/where you come from?

[@valpulaski8298]

Girl we're all feeling the same way about this. It's not just you. This is interesting and open and wonderful all together

[@melindamcdaniel2479]

Thank you for sharing this! My generation was not exactly taught multiple forms of empowerment nor assertiveness and boundaries. More defense. But...conversation, preferences, honesty regarding teaching/programming/discomfort, conscious outside-the-box experiences for growth,, consent...this is empowerment at its finest! And, it is fun and beautiful. Thanks!

[@moonlightauras1]

I think this just shows that straight men really need more affection from one another. I really hope that more men can find that in whatever form they're comfortable with.

[@karen.johana]

I used to ID as bi and I’ve kissed men before. Men are definitely a little rougher to kiss especially If they have stubble. Not bad, but just not my thing. Kissing women and one afab nb person, however, has been the best experience of my life, they are soft as hell, it feels fluid and beautiful. But maybe I just say this bc I’m a lesbian actually lmao

[@turquoise4636]

I'm a straight man and I wouldn't mind giving this kind of affection to other men, like I don't know why people make it such a deal when it is normal for us humans to show affection to each other this way since ancient times without caring about if the other person is the same gender as us or not

[@AlieV1204]

I got SO EXCITED! Oh my gosh I love seeing such open communication and these conversations

[@tremkl]

“Hey, let’s watch some gay shit” is definitely my new favorite show!

[@avantikakulkarni5971]

I’ve been watching cut videos for a few years now and I love watching your reactions on them! They do some really cool ones

[@sadboy.c0ven695]

Pretty sure they made one where people are blindfolded and they kids a line of strangers and then they say they're fav kisser and then they do the same thing one more time and at the end the person who they chose as best kisser, they get to kiss one more time at the end

[@e.l.studios455]

kids?

[@sadboy.c0ven695]

@@e.l.studios455 CRAP NO I MEANT KISS OMFG THAT CAME OUT SO WRONG

[@kynahjai]

dude the waves alternating between excitement and second hand embarrassment watching this. fantastic

[@HiThere-yr9eg]

Men needed to be able to show physical affection to each other! I saw a study recently that stated there are straight men that have had no physical connection with a single human for years because they don't have a romantic partner. This is tragic!! Women are allowed to show physical affection to friends without stigma. Men should be afforded the same. ❤️

[@yanana7]

I identify as straight and I have kissed other straight women. The difference in kissing men and women for me is that with women it is more sensual and more about feeling eachother for longer... I hope that makes sense. With men it's like they are in a hurry to move on to other stuff and with women it is like "let's enjoy this moment for longer" 😁

[@platypi_otbs]

We need more of this. This should not be taboo.

[@mellil8295]

It's sooooo cute!!!!! The way some of them hold eachother 😍

[@ellaronci2703]

8:41 that confused stage is exactly what im in right now, and what you said really helped me.

[@bryanguillen2937]

Dude your reaction was so funny hahahaha I love that you pointed out some important details

[@zeskiyo]

My faves are Dallas and Brian. 🥰 I'm not surprised that the guys defying expectations of "masculinity" (dyed hair and nail polish) were super comfortable with it. (I honestly wouldn't think they're straight if I were to meet them either!) Omar (NASA hoodie bloke) and Don were the ones that gave me 'straight but chill' vibes! I also didn't feel the discomfort from them that I got from the lad with the bandanna, for example.

[@shelbysilk663]

Alayna i just love watching your videos here and on IG. Your bubbly personality draws me in and that infectious laughter is just soothing. I also love when u collaborate with @makingemi..u two have this bff vibes that's just so awesome..much love🔥❤🇯🇲

[@SpaceCaat_]

This was a great video for me to be introduced to your channel, definitely subscribing ^ ^

[@loupelizzo2399]

Love the question when did you realise you were straight and they answered, and wasn’t sure about this video first but there was a lot of communication and how you want to kiss. This was an interesting video and we need to open our minds more and yes kissing whoever you ask permission doesn’t define your sexuality

[@MokePops]

I cant decide what's better - the video itself or your reactions LMFAO

[@sksunshine4860]

I am a straight, Canadian female, Christian, leftish conservative but follow you because you are hilarious while helping me to understand more about the LBTQ+ community. I don't believe my personal views or ideals should be forced upon others but we should listen, learn and love with open hearts. While I may not always agree with your view, I appreciate you and the insight. Life is an entwining of views, agreeing or disagreeing but taking the time to listen and by doing so, learning. I also believe in bodily autonomy, for all, but especially people with uteruses who may have to make challenging decisions.

[@Supercocono6]

Yes yes yes more of this. Sending out massive respect to these guys.

[@ellisszatmari4492]

Ayyyy the best KZbinr posted again

[@drskelebone]

Me: HE DID A DIPPY-DOODLE! Alayna: He dipped him! XD Thank you for just making wonderful wholesome videos!

[@drskelebone]

As "bi, but kind of corralled by the heteronormitivity of the world", it's mostly been one of those "What if we? But no. But maybe? But no (unless maybe??)" kind of thing that hasn't really panned out so far. 😕

[@DrBanan431]

Norwegians listening through the ad be like "Oslo, oslo, oslo.... ye i guess that's the way you say our capital in english?"

[@davidself5235]

You should be able to see beauty where you find it. It shouldn't matter the gender, colour, age or sexual orientation of them or you. I'm a white, heterosexual, older male and know quite a few beautiful males.

[@matthijsclaessen8152]

There’s a lot of beauty in tenderness. As shown by this episode. And I could appreciate it as well. (cishet old male, though in my heart probably bi, the hetero thing seems cultural but I have no urgency to explore.)

[@emilybahu8375]

I’m just trying not to scream and worry my family, I love this! This is how I feel when I read fanfics! Also, this is my first time watching you, and I just wanted to say that I think you look beautiful!

[@nicolestone4009]

No because the attractions hit HOME with me in this video. I also always confused my aesthetic attraction of men as romantic attraction but I just wanted a mentor or a friend. The struggle is real out here 😩

[@tatsf]

I had watched this Cut video before but it was more fun watching you watch it! I agree with all of the points you made. They made sure they captured a respectful, non-homophobic set of dude kisses! No laughing hysterically as soon as they stopped or weird comments. They were understandably a bit cautious, if it really was their first male kiss, but also it's on cam with a crew around them. I feel like in real life situations men often kiss harder, wetter, and stronger as it is the lead-in to sex. Here they knew that was not the case. Oh yeah, I'm a gay cis man BTW.

[@nootjulli]

omg this video just popped up and i think i already like you sm, i agreed to everything you said

[@shaliekk]

Yes I'm straight, but I want to kiss a girl... maybe one day...

[@kalijnhuibregtse]

HAHAHA you're reacting the same way I did the first time I saw this video😂 I've been following Cut from the start, and don't think I missed one😅. I love their content because it's cute, weird, exiting, inspirational and awkward at the same time. They really show how it's like to be a human being😂😍

[@AdeleMoravcov]

"I feel warm and fuzzy.... IN MY HEART" looool

[@pagteneie5104]

As a straight transman, I very much enjoyed that

[@acisverycool]

I want it to be more normal to kiss people platonically. It took me awhile to come to terms with the fact I’m aroace. I honestly really do like showing physical affection to my close friends. I truly believe in kissing and cuddling the homies.