Reacting To (and ~addressing~) My Old Bisexuality Content

[@toriw4103]

Keep it public. It’s a part of your story and shows other people that it’s okay if your labels change. Sexuality is a spectrum and a journey of discovery and it’s worth showing others that it’s normal and totally fine

[@ELoouise323]

I agree! It’s so important to see that there are so many roads to figuring out who you truly are! Not just with sexuality, but in general!

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

This is why I firmly believe that it should be totally acceptable even for people to just not label themselves at all and rather focus instead on simply just _being_ &/or being themselves regardless of what that does or does not entail. Labeling it should be optional, a choice[ or possibility] that is available for those who DO wish to utilize it and/or who do find it helpful or important, not mandatory and either forced-on or required-of everyone. [In my opinion.] 🙂

[@torib796]

As a bi person, I agree with this 100%

[@emmanuelruiz1000]

1000% agree

[@Notmyr3alname]

Disagree, I think her reasoning to private it was correct

[@jennifersitha09]

I think I have said it before but I don’t think there’s really a problem in your old content, anyone from the LGBT community must understand sexuality is so broad as a spectrum that it can be confusing at times. We do not live in a world where we are allowed to freely explore and define our labels as proper as heterosexual people. Your journey has been true and your identity is always real no matter how many changes or phases you go through, we’re human, it’s expected.

[@neallong2480]

Preach

[@torib796]

This this this

[@raapyna8544]

Heterosexul people aren't allowed to, why else would we be afraid to 'look gay' when we identified as straight?

[@neallong2480]

@@raapyna8544 interesting point

[@andreaf8404]

@@raapyna8544 because of homophobia and other straight people not understanding how sexuality works

[@ts9971]

I think it’s helpful to those who are questioning. That it’s ok to find different truths about yourself overtime. People change, and that’s ok.

[@snackysneaks]

This ^

[@jenniferchristian8115]

This super lovely x

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

Also, that even if someone doesn't necessarily change at all .. one's _understanding_ of themself can still, sometimes, change and/or grow. ^-^ (As well as that one's understanding can unintentionally sometimes be initially wrong &/or poorly informed, and that's totally human & actually okay too.)

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Yes, true!! Questioning is totally allowed and valid!

[@SpaceyD]

We all have our journeys. I am 52 and I went from identifying as straight, then bi, then gay, and now I've settled on queer. It's all love 🌈🌟💖

[@BaiLiStacey]

Definitely not. At that time this was your truth, so the content is still gonna be relevant. Another factor to consider: hiding it might add to bi stigma within the LGBTQ community. Keeping it is keeping an honest history. We all have different paths and many might share yours, so seeing it all is valuable.

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Keeping an honest history. Wow, yes.

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Also I hadn’t considered that removing that content would be like hiding a huge part of my life, and could add to bi-erasure. 💗💜💙

[@karinagutierrez7134]

As a bisexual, I agree with OP. Just knowing that there’s content supporting bisexuality (even if the content creator doesn’t identify with the label) makes me feel seen.

[@ihatemickiegee]

took the words right out of my mouth. there are so many beautiful reasons, @Alayna Joy , to keep these videos up, both for yourself and for the community, and your fans of course but. bigger picture, you know?.. it's such a fantastic story of sexuality and the ~journey~ of identity and transformation, both sexuality-wise and not! i 100% agree with you keeping the videos up and if you ever decide to private any, maybe you could leave them just unlisted and have a spot for the links so that maybe they don't come right up on the search but people who know the videos are VALID can still watch them? although again, regardless of your sexuality now, those videos can still help so many bi kids and adults because they ARE honest, informative, representational, and again, valid in your story, so that's just my stance! if someone can't understand that you wouldn't have made an entire series on a sexuality you weren't totally sure of AT THE TIME, hence why you even told your coming out AGAIN story in such depth as it happened, then they don't know you or care enough to even try to respect you + a genuine, extremely open/public journey that you had enough heart in to keep the entirety of it available online. it spreads representation, awareness, breaks stigmas(!!)(for ppl who watch the content + don't make assumptions based on titles), and again, keeps an honest history of you for people who appreciate you, and for total strangers who just get to be made _aware_ of _representation_ of the maze that is identity. because so many people have such a similar journey to you... it shows they shouldn't have to be ashamed either.

[@geasty8862]

As a bisexual person I’m really concerned that you don’t like ANY type of cake

[@milamandongana2109]

nooo lmao😭😭😭

[@Grace_Zandile97]

Lmao

[@alexthemole2987]

Thing is Alayna pretty much doesn't like sweets at all 😁.

[@dianeaishamonday9125]

I thought cake was for the aces? 😁

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Well okay maybe not ANY type 😏

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Gold star to anyone who remembers closet girl

[@jamielondon6436]

That's literally not what "gold star" means in these contexts. :-p ;-)

[@kam-lw4ez]

girl nothing about you is gold star but it's fine that slang is misogynistic anyway

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

@@kam-lw4ez bahahahaha

[@Raquel-gg2ez]

You’ve heard of “Is he gay or European?”, now get ready for “Is she a lesbian or just Canadian?”

[@acc45460]

I thought you were American?

[@LuciVMar]

Hahahhahahah

[@SylviusTheMad]

I think I first heard that comparison 25 years ago.

[@alainacorrell3461]

Lol I have this issue aka is she a lesbian or just Canadian and have made this joke before

[@crystalbethseizetheday8669]

We used to play ‘German or gay’ on the train

[@aliyasleeps]

I also used bisexuality as a stepping stone, I was cishet, then bi, now gay and non-binary. However bi people are valid and can be bi without it being a stepping stone.

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Sometimes being gay is a stepping stone to being bi. I have two close acquaintances/friends for whom this was the case, and know of others. Monosexism is a thing.

[@andreaf8404]

@@johnlondonbimeetup7961 true! they feel like they have to “pick a side” so they don’t even consider bisexuality. i think that it really depends on when you hear about bisexuality. if you hear of it before you accept you’re gay or lesbian, you’ll probably identify as such and if you’re bi and don’t have the knowledge of the label you’ll probably end up identifying as straight/gay/bi. i hope more people realize that there’s no problem with it and that don’t use the people who change our labels to invalidate people who are really bi/pan

[@jfm14]

@@andreaf8404 Yeah, I stayed thinking I was straight for longer than I would have because gay and straight were consistently presented as the only options. That and I had internalized a lot of homophobia growing up, I guess from being around other kids and their conservative parents. When I did first hear of bisexuality, it was always framed as fake, foolish, or not to be trusted... not just by cishet people, but by a small, loud segment of the gay and lesbian communities. I felt that hostility very deeply.

[@pansexualdickhaver6878]

I’m a masc presenting AMAB and went from straight to bi to pan and gender-fluid lol def a process but never been happier so def worth it ❤️

[@justicemarie82]

Alayna, I’m a bi+ activist, almost 40 years old. You were one of my bi heroes and helped me with my coming out journey. You’re still my hero as a bi person even though you’re no longer identifying that way. Positive messages about bisexuality are so valuable. I’d love to see you update the descriptions on those old videos but leave them up. It IS a phase for some people and we need to hear that.

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Another bi organiser and activist here, in my 40s; here to say thank you and sending positive vibes. Its good for us all to connect and chat more (btw there is a bi+ world meet monthly for bi group organisers).

[@Alex-ph5ir]

I'm bi as well, and totally agree! It doesn't ultimately help us to deny that for some the label is a 'phase' and they eventually realize they're not bi. That's a very real and valid queer experience, and bisexuality is all about refusing simple binary, black-and-white understandings of human sexuality. Just like it's not only "either gay or straight," it's not only "either bisexuality is never a phase or it isn't real at all." Many things can be true at once, and it helps us to practice holding those truths together.

[@thatfangirl1145]

As a fellow bi, I love this idea!

[@penngheeney]

Absolutely! Especially due to compulsory heterosexuality. So many people have the same experience as Alayna because they know they're not "just" hetero, but nobody has explained how to tell the difference between platonic/aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction, so they just think their attraction hits different for different genders instead of questioning which is which.

[@mrcase77]

You’re just showing a classic lgbt experience. It can be confusing to figure out who you really are when you’re not the default everyone expects. And you’re showing it’s ok to learn and embrace new things about yourself. Tons of us had to go through a similar paradigm shift at some point. You’re showing people that’s normal for lgbt people and showing it’s ok and can be scary but wonderful too when you realize and live who you really are.

[@Popopatop]

Love this comment. Makes me feel so valid

[@hannahwitton]

BEEN HERE SINCE THE STRAIGHT DAYS

[@sigh7909]

keep the videos public. you genuinely thought you were bisexual and spoke truthfully about the bi experience. not being bi doesn’t invalidate anything you said. your bisexuality videos made me more comfortable in my (at the time) new sapphic identity. then your coming out again video and the ones following that helped me realize I’m a lesbian. you definitely helped me get to where I am now. when I thought I was bi, it was hard to accept I was sapphic because bi people are constantly told they’re not queer enough and that they need to meet specific requirements to be considered a real bi person and not a straight person asking for attention. you have videos that addressed this and they helped me feel queer enough. if it wasn’t for you, it would’ve taken longer for me to realize I’m a lesbian because I would still think of myself as basically straight.

[@milamandongana2109]

The way you were cringing when old Alayna said she was bisexual and you're living the reality😭😭😭😭😭❤ You were like "uhm so....about that"

[@shannonlambert3562]

Hey Alayna, I think that sexuality is fluid and everybody's journey is going to be unique to their own experiences. Keeping your content as it is shows your audience that. I think privatizing your bi content may mislead folks into thinking you've always had it figured out, which while yes is a journey for some, isn't true to you. I love the new and old content, please keep it all. ❤️

[@tinakrisnaibot3233]

Hi! Sexuality isn't fluid for everyone. This statement is homophob. So please stop with your homophobia !

[@anngan5045]

The idea that "sexuality is fluid" has been coopted by 'conversion therapy' advocates in their propaganda, so it's really dangerous since when a gay person with internalized homophobia hears it they think that it means they can 'turn' straight or bi - and let's be honest, that's exactly what you guys seem to believe. Ironically, even the person who coined that term, psychologist Lisa Diamond, believes that sexual orientation is fixed, she defines "sexual fluidity" as something completely different.

[@shannonlambert3562]

I think this really could have been a productive conversation about using terminology until you decided to call me a homophobe. I once identified as bisexual and now lean towards queer & lesbian. I am a member of the community and I am not a homophobe for using wrong terminology. Perhaps step off the internet and take a step into my shoes? @ann gann @alayna joy

[@anngan5045]

@@shannonlambert3562 I assume your words are directed at me but I did not call you a homophobe, did you not notice two different people replied to you?

[@shannonlambert3562]

@ann gann the use of the word "you guys" after referring to internalized-homophobic persons carries the implication that you've called me a homophobe. Do you not read your comments before you send them?

[@themrs9407]

Your old content is a great example of how sexuality isn't always a clear line for everyone, and that's ok. You always maintained strong support for each part of the community even as you transitioned to different parts of it. Your content was the first time I heard about Aesthetic attraction, and that helped me learn my sexuality (Demisexual). Whichever you choose, do what's best for you.

[@ravenwolfkittyface1802]

For the record: I’m bisexual, and seeing your self-discovery process actually helped me figure out I was bi rather than gay. There might be some people who see your old videos and decide to let it reinforce their preconceived notions that bisexuality is a phase, but that doesn’t mean it’s your fault that they’re doing that. Frankly those people would have been biphobic no matter what. You can’t take responsibility for other people’s discriminatory attitudes just because you’re being real about your history. I think it’s totally up to you what you do with your old videos. Leave them up if it feels right, make them private if it makes you feel overexposed. This is about YOUR journey and comfort level.

[@liv0003]

more than anything else people can assume that "homosexuality is a choice" after all and that sexual orientation can be "changed", which is the mantra of any homophobe. However, it doesn't matter anymore at this point because homophobes will always exist and for them any pretext will be good for attacking homösexual people

[@MissMercyKay]

The bi content is still relevant to me! You introduced me to the masterdoc when I was questioning. You helped me know that if I was gay, it would totally be ok to change labels. And your content is funny and fun to watch. The whole journey™ is relevant to soo many people

[@mary_chase]

Same, it takes away the pressure of thinking once you label yourself you have to stick to it forever

[@octoberrose243]

YES! I remember putting away laundry while listening to Alayna react to the masterdoc because it was my 4th or 40th Alayna video of the day and I couldn’t stop watching this funny, beautiful woman who knew she was gay and was ok with it. I learned so much about comphet and physical admiration vs sexual attraction from her, and she’s helped me with my sexuality so much. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@ihikealone]

Keep it public. I used to be married to a man, but now identify as lesbian. Your content has been a great resource for me, and I would be sad if it didn't continue as a resource for others. Your entire story is valid.

[@malenafarber6281]

You're bisexual content is still so relevant for people (including me *cough* ~hey ladies~). Love your content as you grow and change

[@tris5602]

I think the biggest harm to bi people comes from the assumption that a current relationship can invalidate the label, not people genuinely exploring their sexuality.

[@Motomade]

A lot of your content has been about sharing your life and standing in your truth. People have been on your journey with you. Your reality does not invalidate bisexuality. It validates compulsory heterosexuality. That story needs to be seen and told too.

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

“It validates compulsory heterosexuality.” Oof. Yes. Thank you 💛

[@Cakingit213]

Hi, card carrying bi person. It’s your journey, I don’t feel like it creates trouble for us bi’s. If people want to be bi phobic, they do it anyway…

[@athenameeker8628]

Honestly seeing that progression and the acceptance that you can find yourself and say no I'm not what I said I'm this actually is really helpful to people figuring themselves out tbh. I've done it with my sexual and gender identities and I think... well, you have to find yourself, you have to explore, and that's okay. It was true for you then, but that isn't who you are now and sometimes we don't know who we are then and it might not be true even if it's true for who we are then if that makes any sense at all. It's just... the journey is important. The journey is so important. And you addressing them, I think, is enough. The journey is helpful. This is also helpful. They have their space.

[@Eli_Arch]

I don't think you should, it is part of the journey as cheese as it sounds :)

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

drink 😘

[@Rosie4148]

I agree

[@charli216]

I think it’s amazing ✨character development✨ that shows people don’t have to always know exactly what their labels are. Normalise questioning.🥰

[@ImTMZ]

Wow, seeing Ash and hearing Stevie referred to as SassiBob brings back some MEmOriEs

[@jujunew6003]

I'm 39. Its not a phase. You've been very helpful to many. Don't over think it. We all have a journey and you are not responsible for other people's lives...especially because you have always had a very positive vibe.

[@emmagrace289]

I watched your bisexuality content when I also thought I was bi and later realised I was a lesbian. It’s the journey of so many gay people and most importantly your truth. The vast majority of your content on bisexuality was really informative (and entertaining) and I think keeping those up will probably help some young bi people. But of course it’s your channel and I think you should do whatever you feel comfortable doing! 💖

[@esoren9551]

Your bisexuality content really helped me accept my own. I think it can still be just as helpful for others, regardless of the fact that your labels have changed and evolved. Also, your hair looks really good in this video!

[@julesaye]

Alayna, my forever favorite video of yours is the "Our Bi/Straight Relationship | An Honest Conversation (in a bathtub)" video. It helped me so much back when I first came out as bi. It helped me to see what standards I can expect from my partner. Dallas is an amazing partner in this video and a really good role model. I loved and still love this video even if its not up to date.

[@lydianotten]

as a person who has followed you since the 'straight' days, and who is also bi - your bi content was so hugely helpful for me coming into myself and understanding myself. I definitely understand how it can be cringe now, but the way you have validated bi folks for years has been so important for me on my ~journey~

[@andreaf8404]

as a lesbian who used to identify as bisexual, i relate to you a lot. thanks for sharing your journey with us!

[@samjamz02]

it turned out to be a stepping stone for you, and you addressed that that's normal! you're valid. you knew it then and you know it now. you haven't gone back on your words at all. baby alayna is telling you that you're okay, and that you're valid, every step of the way. you didn't change, but you've obviously learned plenty more, about yourself AND the community! 💓 keep learning, keep growing, keep being unapologetically yourself! and don't be embarrassed or ashamed of what baby alayna had to say because she was right and that hasn't changed. pls thank her for holding space for who you are today. 💓

[@GoldenSpaceDoll]

It's a healthy journey to show, and very relatable to so many people. So many people stress over labels and etc, but this just show how we all change with time. Labels can change, and there is nothing wrong with that.

[@SamantasinH]

I love her assistant,she is such a great curator, didn’t expect to laugh out loud more than one time 😂 In other note, we are here for the journey Alayna, don’t worry for how much of the things you said have changed, you are not the only one finding out things are way different that you used to feel 😌

[@macey1644]

it shows off growth and acceptance, and i love that. it’s not the same you anymore, but it was a journey you went on and i love those videos a lot! i hope you decide to keep them :)

[@mickeymouze3381]

Your channel is an excellent example of how sexuality is fluid. Thank you for being honest always

[@rachelmariemusic]

I love your old content and it still serves me! My thought is, yeah, it might confuse other people who aren't themselves bi, but at this point, it feels like it's _for_ the people who _are_ bi. If people want to find an example of a narrative they're stuck on, they will, and I don't think taking your really awesome old content will stop that. But choosing to remove yourself as a personal target of it is absolutely your prerogative. Personally, being a bi person who consumed a ton of your content when you identified and when I was learning to embrace _why_ my queerness is _so_ important to my identity, your full journey is a blessing. It didn't end up as mirrored to mine as I thought, but along my way, you helped me feel valid. And that can still be true for bi folks, lesbians, and other people still figuring it out. I think it's important content, and that baby Alayna being on point, even if she's in denial herself and maybe a bit defensive about it, is brilliant. And, again, I totally stand behind your right to private whatever you deem appropriate. I'll just miss it, and miss sharing it with people. You rock.

[@juliette4076]

Your old content helps me. I am going through the opposite of what you did (identified as a lesbian and realized I’m bisexual). Thank you for showing it’s okay to grow and evolve in your understanding of yourself 💗

[@samsonm.5372]

I just discovered your context 3 days ago. I'm grateful for your content & whatever u decided just know your fans support you ♡ thank you for supporting the LGBTQ+ community

[@AHeartlessGirl44]

Keep 'em up! It's still part of your story and you weren't lying. And they're still informative. You weren't pretending to bi, you thought you were! You could maybe link to your coming out video under the bi ones?

[@kierabelson4021]

the jump scare i got at 2:04 when you shouted my name but were just talking about your assistant omg

[@kaylahm9347]

Omg this feels like watching my past self… it was so obvious 😂 trust me alayna this is relatable for people with your same experience. Don’t get rid of it.

[@breatheandgrow4055]

This video is brilliant! I especially related to having not fantasised about your wedding until realising!

[@marti-ew6fm]

Don’t feel the pressure of privatizing the old videos! You talk about great things in them and you are a perfect example of how labeling sexuality is not so obvious to everyone. So many people on this platform have always known that they were gay or bi etc. you show the other side that it’s ok if you are still figuring it out or feel ok to rediscover yourself after feeling comfortable in another. Your journey releases so many people, including myself, from the pressure of labeling and feeling lost or unsure. Thank you so much for your videos 💕💕💕

[@DjurslandsEfterskole]

Your old videos are really valuable. You are not a stereotype, you've shared your ~journey~ and fleshed out what such a journey can look like. I do not think your story contributes to a misconception of bi people. Quite the contrary.

[@yoshieyodo200]

PLEASE KEEP THEM PUBLIC. I was/am in a similar situation and those videos make me feel less lonely about the whole process I am going through.

[@xFuzzyLove]

No. But you can include a small message in them about your update. This is still good to see that people’s sexuality changes and/or you get it wrong, and its ok.

[@katrinashaw2195]

I like that alyana wears less makeup now. to each their own but she looks so stunning and comfortable naturally and it gives me hope of feeling beautiful and accepted without makeup when its pushed so much that Were not beautiful without it.

[@nobodyhere22500]

As someone who came out later in life, I hope you keep up the messy content. I always thought people “just knew” from a young age and that kept me from exploring or really getting to know my sexuality. Knowing others had a similar experience has been very affirming.

[@kyokitty1]

I’m questioning a few things about my identity and it feels good to see your journey. To know I don’t have to decide today and if I feel different tomorrow or next year, that’s ok too.

[@Gandellion]

You talking about threatening the life you thought you were going to live hits hard for me right now. I recently discovered I’m aro as well as ace and this is kinda throwing me.. I’ve always thought of myself as a hopeless romantic and I’m unsure what my future is going to look like now because I always imagined a romantic partner would be part of it..

[@midnull6009]

You guys are brave. Putting your whole life for the general public to see. Change happens, and since we live in a cancel culture now...things from 10 years ago can be used against or for us, disregarding the fact that people grow and change opinions.

[@damekkoDark]

"it always made sense" resonating so much with ...me never having any crashes ever and not dating anyone and appretiating everyone the same way it took me way too long to find out aces exist

[@anniebananni]

I think you should keep them up, they’re part of your journey. Also literally a few months before you (re)came out, I did the same. I was out as bi for years before finally admitting to myself that, no, actually I am a lesbian. When I saw you went through the same I literally cried tears of joy bc I felt understood all of a sudden. I think the old videos (and obvs) the new ones could help so many questioning people

[@kargaaa7168]

Üzgünüm, sadece kendini kandırıyorsun. Bir zaman sonra tekrar kararın değişecek.

[@swhhorting]

I was about 13 or 14 when I started thinking I was not probably straight, 16 or so when I thought I might be bi, 18 when I discovered "queer" and that felt the most correct so far, and 38 when I figured out that "OH. I'm pretty fucking ace......?...! SO MANY THINGS ARE CLEAR NOW..." It turns out that my complete lack of physical preference did not indicate bi- or pansexuality, and that stuff in songs is meant seriously? (How do allosexuals function?) Anyway. It's never too late to discover more about yourself, and you don't have to hide who you were while you were figuring you out, because you will always be figuring yourself out. Your own self-discovery journey does not invalidate bisexuality, and anyone trying to say that it does would have said it anyway about something else - you can't control them. Best of luck to you!

[@lanik9764]

I’m still working my way through all your videos give me two weeks please

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

The dedication here is unmatched

[@kristinawilson9304]

Honestly watching your old content and then falling onto your new content I realized I wasn’t bisexual as well so please keep it up! It’ll def help other people on their own journey :)

[@kargaaa7168]

Size sadece acıyorum.

[@maggieskitt]

I've been here since your straight days, and it's been my pleasure watching you grow and evolve. Your bisexuality content is important regardless of whether or not you identify with it. I've learned a lot about myself and others because of you!

[@karissameyers8810]

I definitely think you should keep it up because it is a really honest representation of the fact that discovering your sexuality and your sexual preferences is a journey. That is actually one of the reasons I found your channel because I loved hearing a new narrative (to me) that not everybody knows with 100% certainty from the time they start having sexual attractions. You rock girl and make me laugh each and every time.

[@weewaa13]

It's so interesting noticing the overlap between gender expression and gender identity vs. sexuality. Because I relate, as a bi person who has no idea what is up with my gender, to some of the ways you express your sexuality as a cis person. I always appreciated how openly you talked about that stuff no matter where I was at with my own identity journey.

[@boland73]

This video seems like it was hard to make for you, in a way. As someone who’s been here since the straight days, I’ve always enjoyed your content & it’s been great to be along for the ride this whole time!

[@Lantern0897]

Not Alayna and I making the same face when she mentioned not fantasizing about her wedding 😂😂

[@TaschaMonique]

Closet Alayna! I love this video because I am one of the OG FenderrFam who has grown right alongside you I saw something in you that I was also hiding in myself. I am so happy you chose to share your life all those years ago and still do you make an incredible difference and are literal sunshine in my life and always have been even with the silly content like your punishment videos. I understand where you are coming from in your worry about old content but I think that content is important we are part of the change that is happening the change that says you don't have to pick a label and stick to it but the labels for that time was accurate to how you felt and that is valid and doesn't change the meaning of the label for others just because you no longer feel that label works for you. I just hope you know we are all here with love and support always!

[@juliamaia4107]

This reminds me of my journey with my sexuality. Before I realized I'm attracted to girls, I thought I was asexual. It made sense to me, it felt right at the time. I related to a lot of the content, comments and memes around asexuality. When i told my friends I had never thought of anyone sexually, I meant it. I realized I was not interested in seeing a guy naked, and that I was more confortable with fully clothed guys. But as I got more confortable with my queerness, I started to reflect on some memories and realize I have kind of felt sexual attraction to girls in the past. The funny thing is, since this discovery, I've become more aware of my feelings and more open to them, and that made me develop some (sexual) thoughts I didn't have before, which is crazy to me! Well, turns out I'm bisexual (emotionally attracted to every gender, but sexually attracted only to girls). That doens't mean everything I've thought and said before wasn't true, it just means I know more of myself now :) So don't be too hard on yourself, your journey is completely valid and you shouldn't be ashamed of it.

[@ashleyseaboyer6284]

Sounds like you’re a biromantic lesbian, like me! :) I understand where you’re coming from completely. I identified as asexual for so long. people like us tend to develop extremely close friendships and find ourselves romantically attracted to folks of any gender. But when it comes to sex, I am only attracted to women.

[@genericname8727]

I don’t bi it was a series where you pretended to be a lesbian in denial trying to find lesbians to interview. Great series btw

[@lizethviridiana4438]

Maybe not the most important part of this video to highlight but I love your sweater, the color, the seize, just matches you. Love it.

[@hannahjoyce3666]

I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE TURN IT UP!!

[@spacesofi4005]

As a queer Mexican American I feel like the video you should take down is the Mexico trip one. It was just kind of cringy/triggering to watch. Like the whole “I’m fluent in Spanish after one week” it’s just kind of triggering, because people always joked around with knowing how to speak Spanish. It almost trivializes the actual struggles of being a heritage speaker of an ethnic minority. That part was overall painful to watch

[@espribrockway]

Without even watching the video yet KEEP THEM UP. Not only is it your story (totally borrowed that idea from top comment and im not sorry) But it helped me accept my bisexuality. Theres no doubt in any of our minds that you're a lesbian, but you still thought u were bi for awhile. And you know so much about bisexuality, and the stigmas around it, and the importance of recognizing bierasure. I don't care what you're sexuality is, you're still an *honorary* bicon for helping so many us. Much love!!! xoxo -also i really appreciate your honesty and willingness to accept input from ur subscribers. like who else on this app would do that?! ur one rad dudette

[@hannahwilson-sc8um]

Just as you had once thought you were straight, and came out as bisexual, it's completely fine and should be normalized to view your discovery of sexuality as a process, not a direct definition. After all, sexuality is a spectrum and fluid! So Alayna, please leave your past videos public because they not only show who you are, but they also help other people like me to give courage to come out multiple times! 😇💞💞

[@phoenixflame9716]

There is nothing wrong with your content. Even I don't bi it, is a amazing segment, in the way of which it is very educational and informative for people, which can help others understand what it means to be and for some let them find a identity that matches them, like bisexuality did for you before you realised that you was gay. It could of lead them to paths they didn't know existed for them, letting them know there js a community out there, that understands and accepts them. You past shows yours story and so many people have connected to you through it, never be ashamed to show what you have overcome to be who you are today, cause many other can relate.

[@Eva6904]

I think it is good to show the whole journey, we all have one, this just happens to be yours. Leave it up. :)

[@cassv5619]

For people on the journey, seeing other journeys are important. Please don't private if you're comfortable enough. It's been helpful for me so far and probably others! ❤️

[@willow_rose]

I think everyone is saying it but I agree. Your content shows an important part about figuring out your sexuality you won’t always be right and it’s okay to change your sexuality. I really needed to hear that when I was questioning.

[@Louisyed]

Please don't private them! It's really good to be able to see your story and the story of someone figuring herself out rather than just knowing - not all of us "just know", it's so helpful to see the journey. Also I think there are a lot of things that are still valuable and relevant to others even if they're not relevant to you anymore.

[@anastasiasomeone5325]

You never were a hypocrite. You showed a great story of self development and honesty in accepting and revealing your journey over time. What else can be more a part of support of bisexual and queer comunity. You can change but your humanistic moral principles are the same. It's the most important thing to show everybody by keeping your old content in place. Thank you.

[@alysontackitt7736]

I think you should keep the content public. As someone who has questioned themselves and went from bi to gay, seeing others who have went through the same thing is comforting.

[@SB-lc5qg]

I love the hair and makeup evolution from more made up to more relaxed and natural! Makeup can be an integral part of some people’s self expression, but for me I love myself more when I accept my body in a neutral way and don’t change it.

[@albeenaalvi4712]

hey alayna! i just wanted to say that your bisexuality content is extremely important and close to my heart. your videos back in the day helped me come out as bisexual and i still go back to them whenever i am experiencing internalized biphobia or feeling like an imposter. please keep your old content public cuz someone somewhere must need some comfort and validation, let it be them using the label as a stepping stone or coming out as bisexual. love you loads :)

[@annamehta5057]

Alayna, earlier this year a friend who identified as bisexual and was in a long term relationship with a man was questioning their sexuality. I directed them to your content and they really connected to it and ended up coming out as a lesbian. And then here we are this year, where I, a bisexual of seven years, have also come out as a lesbian! I just want you to know that seeing ourselves reflected in your journey has power

[@aceelijah2886]

Keep your old content up please! Not only is it a part of your story, other people can have similar experiences and it’s comforting to see other people that have shared their own.

[@sanquel12]

NOOOOO! Pls! I love the I don't bi it series :( they're so funny uwu

[@Lesbiel]

i found you back in my baby bi days, have always loved you & felt so validated by you even back then! when you came out as gay, i found myself ✨ very intrigued ✨ by the videos & watched them multiple times.... fast forward to this summer where i finally came out to myself as a lesbian. rewatching these videos again & everything you're saying can not hit home harder. you're putting language to it in a way that i haven't been able to yet, although by now i'm aware of the feelings. thank you for all that you do & i love this for us!!!

[@ashleysapuppo4894]

I found you through Ash, so apparently 2013. God damn. Your growth makes me so so happy 💖

[@waltermachnicz5490]

I enjoy your sharing your life and experience. Not gay, but the trials and tribulations of teen and early twenties are classic. What to be, who we are, how to communicate in relationships, all "growing up" is many difficult andconflicting. Thank you. You can laugh and share your experiences when it is so easy to internalize them.

[@imogenvanderhoeven654]

I think your journey is important, it shows that not everyone wakes up and goes yep this is who I am. It takes some of us time. So identifying as a bisexual is apart of your journey, for others the journey is to bisexual, for you it wasn’t. And that’s ok.

[@leonieh5985]

Alayna: _Journey_ ..drink. Me, who wanted to make herself a cocktail this evening anyways: Thanks for the reminder Alayna XD.

[@AyceMcGee]

Nope! I think it's not only a great way for other folks to see how identity can naturally change over time, but you have so many amazing videos for bi folks that are validating as heck even if you aren't bi.

[@bohemelavie1]

In terms of the video about bisexuality not being a phase and also defending people that use it as a stepping stone; I think it is actually a helpful video to keep up. I was watching your content back when you ID’d as bi because I was coming to terms with my own bisexuality and I remember when you first came out as gay I actually felt hurt. (Obviously that was a me problem, and I have grown since then. Being hurt by someone else’s sexuality is weird place to be in) But I think it’s helpful to have these reminders that bisexuality being a stepping stone on someone’s journey is just as valid as it being the destination. As a bi woman I find I can get frustrated by bi erasure in circumstances where bi erasure isn’t actually happening and it’s important that I learn and grow too.

[@sonnybear5029]

The content you made about bisexuality helped me and others discover their own sexualitys. You were acting authentically when you made it, and I feel like people respect that (or at least they should)

[@gpmetheny]

1. "Be Kind, Rewind" is totally a movie and like you I absolutely remember video stores and rewinding the tapes. 2. Please don't make your old bi content private! On some especially cringe-in-2021 videos you could give a little disclaimer, maybe linking to a current video explaining how bisexuality is real, just not the label that you currently identify with? I'm bi, and I found you when you still identified as bi, and I think you still have some of the best bi content on KZbin. I'd want someone like me to still be able to find your old content and know that they are valid and that they aren't alone. ❤️

[@dsalazarm]

Seconded yesss

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Yes! I started getting into KZbin more than just random linked videos in 2017 and quickly narrowed down the list of bi/queer people I wanted to watch regularly who talked about it (say, instead of Shane for instance) to a small handful. That included/includes Alayna, Melanie, maybe Connor, the odd bit of Rose and Rosie, Fiona. Alayna's videos have been a really affirming, friendly, educational and entertaining part of the years since for me (I Don't Bi It is still about my most memorable YT series by any vlogger/creator here, even if occasionally hard watching/cringe-making).

[@Delorkay]

I know this is pretty cringe but it's also absolutely hilarious, and your explanations never cease to bring me comfort. Your channel is honest about where you are and that's of a lot of comfort to us on the journey that its okay to be there. No matter the end destination.

[@juliapritt5487]

You’re bisexuality content helped me figure out who I am and I have continued to utilize it as a resource to help educate people who wish to better understand me and people like me. I also feel like even though bisexuality wasn’t the answer, it did help you get there, which I think a lot of lesbians can identify with who have had, or are currently having, similar journeys.

[@bsoldier5]

Gotta say Kira seems to have a good eye for interesting content to react to.

[@the_rest_is_confetti]

I'm Alayna's age (29) and I LOVED going to blockbuster with my mom on Friday's after school and picking out a VHS for the family to watch that night. Such a fun tradition! I miss those days...but streaming is pretty cool too haha

[@rea_keebz]

if you really don't want to have that content out there, then you could unlist them and put them on a playlist? that way your fans can still watch them knowing the full story but strangers can't stumble across random videos and make quick judgments?

[@lilyfry8309]

It is 100% valid that you’re worried about these videos perpetuating the stigmas around bisexuality to biphobes!! But I think it is far more important to provide representation to people who did use bisexuality as a stepping stone and are now scared to come out as gay for the same reasons. This is coming from a bisexual who wants there to be room in the future for me to change my label as I discover new things about myself. Leave the bi content! Love you sm

[@lindseythew2585]

i LOVE this and am excited for more

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

I’ve been here watching your videos since I was in junior high (I’m almost 26 now) (hello from Nova Scotia🇨🇦❤️) and have witnessed every phase so far! Those experiences are what made you the person you are now !! And they will always be there to help other people in their journeys! ❤️❤️