Lessons from love (ASMR friendly)

[@SpiritualUnfoldment]

This is a special ASMR friendly edit of 'In love with Love'. You can watch the full 45 minute conversation with Phil ad-free in "Feet on the Ground' supporters here - kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y3vJiWqZobpreNk.

[@charlheynike9619]

As I get older, I'm drawn more to the notion of general love rather than focussed love. It's possible to love people in general, rather than looking for romantic love from one person.

[@charlheynike9619]

@@laracrespo5786 ooh mad burn!

[@skyistaken1605]

Yeah. When I was 17 I did mushrooms and had a meditative and contemplative trip through my mind. And I realised loves strengths isn't in its target or source, it's in the person who holds it. You do need to find those individuals to love, but I'd you can't love without them, you are dependant and lost in a way that limits you. I feel most at peace when I can love for the sake of love

[@edwardgavin364]

A voice of peace crying out in a wilderness of noise and confusion

[@trudycampbell4962]

John is an embodiment of the love that God is. You can hear that and see that and feel that in his words and presence. I am this love and so are you. May we all be an embodiment of this love in everything we say and everything we do. That will be true peace in the world.

[@harrycorbiniv]

amen

[@RJH_LIL]

Good morning everyone. The sun is warm and here 🌞🌞 and so is today's message! Have a great day.

[@mmmfun77]

So nice to see so many people appreciating John and what he has to say like I do! Often I can see love / joy radiating from his eyes in these videos. Pure nourishment ❤️🙂

[@ThroughHisEyes444]

ME…he has brought me more into the present moment like NEVER before..I’m finally able to hear that still quiet voice within at just the right moment needed to guide me along. I never thought I would get there. It’s just Everything ❤️❤️❤️ so, so grateful.

[@jamesprez7296]

What a beautiful soul this man is. BEAUTIFUL doesn't do him justice. ONE of ONE.

[@amadahyrose]

My 47th year was transformational for me, too, John, but I didn't know that I'd survive it. Bless you. I could listen to you laugh all day. :)

[@trudesquires1089]

An absolute privilege to listen to and watch John ❤

[@foadz3021]

Thank you dear John!!! It is such a relief to hear that some of the painful aspects of earthly love is kind of similarly experienced by another human, and I'm not alone. 🌺

[@annettefoley2103]

Speaking for myself, being a woman. I do want love, I do believe all women do, but I do not know how many of us actually realise what true love is. I think it has been confused with equated with gifts. Payments. My ex told taught me (he was a lot older than me and I was very young) that every relationship is an exchange, the woman gives the man what he wants usually sex and then the man gives the woman what she wants which is usually gifts/money/security. However, now being older and hopefully wiser, I have realised we need to first love ourselves. Be able to provide and be secure in ourselves without any other human being. Only then can real love be found and valued. Because you are not in the relationship for gifts/money/security once you are complete as a person. You can find another who is also complete and then what you exchange is simply companionship because you enjoy each others company. Neither of you need each other to complete the other, but you enjoy each other. I suppose its the same similar thing to what you have said. But if a woman is complete and enjoys your company gifting would not make a difference. I do enjoy your company John even if it is only through watching your videos. I am sure plenty of other woman do too. You are romantic, honest thoughtful thought provoking and kind. What more could any woman ask for.

[@charlheynike9619]

Wise words! I'd say true love is when you see yourself in the other. It's easier with some people than others...

[@charlheynike9619]

@Liz I don't believe in opposites attract either.

[@cozicoops]

What a beautiful read that was.. thanks x

[@annettefoley2103]

@@cozicoops glad u liked it xxx

[@liubovnow7998]

True infinitive Love comes naturally when we are totally present in this kind loving moment.

[@scothohl4586]

Love your messages John! Thank you for your true wisdom!

[@ethangentry7508]

I'm only 15 but i have seen terrible things I wish there where more men like Jhon with love in his heart instead of malice I have recently lost everything now I am beginning to appreciate the little things ❤️😍🥰

[@benbrown4692]

Thank you for this. What I love about John's teaching is his sublime sense of loving presence. For me this is what is really rare about these videos, the sense of the divine. All our earthly loves can lead to this profound sense of divine love.

[@maxdewaele9660]

It's very true that our earthly loves lead to divine love! I've heard before that we each have a tiny spark of divine love, and I think that must be true.

[@dudemonkfish4471]

Love brings out the best and worst in life's journey.

[@liubovnow7998]

Yes, John! It's a journey from the love (self love) to the Love to anyone, anything....

[@daanbos5918]

I just love the voice of a friendly old man

[@WhisperingJaneASMR]

It's so lovely and cute that this title says ASMR friendly. This really warmed my heart. And this man is just so pleasant. Thank you so much!

[@SpiritualUnfoldment]

Thanks Whispering Jane - you may like to watch John's recent discussion on ASMR with two 'feelies' Dave and Rebecca - kzbin.info/www/bejne/lWmbl4lrmtB4fac. Phil

[@beefbossfromwiisports3066]

I love this man so much

[@ajaysh73]

Love you John. Glad we don't get what we want so that we dig bit more to find that encompass all. Love of other gender, money, power etc.

[@DorothyPotterSnyder]

This is one of John’s best. What a marvelous exposition of the growth into an understanding of love in one man. ♥️

[@violungu3246]

Thank you very much!!! 🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@Goodlifelady]

I envy you, John. You are loved by so many.

[@mmmfun77]

Many love you. Close your eyes and just listen . You will start feeling that love the more you do it. Negative thoughts distract us. When those thoughts die down magic happens. I know this from experience! ♥️ from Phoenix, Az

[@svonkie]

We are all one. We are loved.

[@susansale3657]

I love John. Yes I remembering wanting to give total love in friendships but others were not the same. This led me to Jesus

[@caroledrury1411]

What a great question!

[@bratass7144]

I just lovee seeing him ride his bike 🥰🤍

[@Aum_shantishantishanti111]

What is love .. well who am I to know .. that was a good pointer . Your videos make me smile and laugh , usually both .

[@carolsudbury4692]

What an absolute treasure. ♥️

[@alexskinner66]

Thank you for your wisdom John. I find it grounding and reassuring through the uncertainty in life.

[@alternativevoice2541]

I am reminded of this quotation by the painter Barnett Newman: "When you see a person, you have an immediate impact; you don't really have to start looking at details. Your first reaction when you meet a person for the first time is immediate and it's a total reaction in which the entire personality of a person and your own personality make contact, and to my mind that's almost a metaphysical event. If you have to start examining the eyelashes and all that sort of thing, it becomes a cosmetic situation in which, ahem, you remove yourself from the experience."

[@JonLettsGuitars]

When we add any kind of story between ourselves and others we do not meet.

[@anonimo7544]

The best ASMR! ❤️

[@jerseyshorejack]

When you're not getting love ...you gotta give it

[@nicholaslong4360]

“What is love” Baby don’t hurt me

[@shanedawndusk3290]

Dang it😂

[@Aaron-ul1tp]

Don’t hurt me

[@mantia39]

"Complications"..yes....I understand that completely Mr. John.

[@Can-zu4ik]

Thanks for this wonderful conversation. Love you Uncle John. Best wishes

[@Mithridates_7]

14:46 Heart Of Gold

[@emzzzz905]

Such a lovely video

[@susgwin7987]

Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼

[@mzhavisham6738]

What is love if could be answered wisely would bring tears to the eyes I see God in everything John when I come across a sweet bird lying dead on the ground and as everyone passes bye I stop a moment to pick the little creature up and bring them home to bury them in my garden. Yes my garden is full of little dead birds buried out of the love of God and in thanksgiving for life. Amen Thank you John.

[@mzhavisham6738]

@ScriptureNest Amen Amen! Praise you Jesus Praise Thy Holy name Amen.

[@hightower6546]

Thank you, John.

[@alternativevoice2541]

I can identify with everything you say, especially regarding encounters with women throughout life. I'm 68 so maybe on the same trajectory to where you are now.

[@rubyquail]

I am as well... Seems like an age where everything shifts towards deeper insight and a longing for true love, divine love, spiritual companionship, etc. I'd still "love" to hold the hand of a life partner without disturbing the peace lol

[@alternativevoice2541]

@@rubyquail yes I agree there's a deepening of insight and a rearrangement of one's priorities.

[@angalmeida29]

This is pure bliss

[@tmalonso]

Love is wanting what is best for someone or something…everything else is just a business transaction

[@JonLettsGuitars]

Love is wanting nothing at all.

[@tmalonso]

@@JonLettsGuitars that’s called indifference…it’s the opposite of love

[@PigPenASMR]

@@tmalonso he means love is God. Love is the infinite stillness, wanting nothing, pursuing nothing, having nothing. Love in the divine sense.

[@JonLettsGuitars]

@@PigPenASMR yes. Impartial love. Not a love that also brings pain and requires other people in our der to seemingly be real.

[@reidspeed77]

Yes , ❤

[@mikro171]

Worm, simple, fanny, touching, beautiful, just like a Human Soul...

[@Fintan33]

Beautiful Thank you

[@shanedawndusk3290]

This is extremely insightful and meaningful. I love this.

[@nicolecorter3533]

John is so lovely.

[@liubovnow7998]

Oh dear John, look where you are now - You are Total Lover!

[@Sebi076]

John, all of what you said honestly relates to me. I suppose im also a romantic lover, not into 'fun' either! I'm 18 and do relate with you and your great words.

[@SpiritualUnfoldment]

Thanks for sharing. Phil

[@cozicoops]

Isn’t it sad to see a channel so beautiful as this with a few hundred subscribers and channels with people eating huge amounts of food get millions! X

[@Anthonyinkz]

Thankyou my friend ♥️

[@gregoryswanepoel6328]

Interesting that as soon as he can laugh at life/ himself..as there isn't really a world out there we can take seriously..that his voice become that of a much younger man

[@darmethisname]

John you met your other half at 47. Have you encountered Sri Aurobindo’s writings? He met his other half who became known as The Mother and through which he composed a version of the epic ancient song of conjugal love overcoming death, Savitri

[@tomekgorniak]

Thank you

[@trahnettilhcs]

how does anyone take this man seriously as a spiritual guide

[@robertsavage7599]

It baffles me too.

[@TheSoteriologist]

14:55 What a fool ! HAHA

[@mell1685]

Would you describe your views of life and death as eternalism? Or do you stray from giving it a name. Because to be honest there’s so many opinions out there, for eternalism, against it, and it makes me cry. I just can’t seem to get a grip sometimes on what is even real. - I had a bit of a crisis while writing this comment lol, I think I understand more but I have so much left to learn.

[@JonLettsGuitars]

Any ideas of eternity are just ideas based on our concept of time. Time is the illusion.

[@mell1685]

@@JonLettsGuitars thank you

[@JonLettsGuitars]

You are the only thing in this world that is real and timeless. Your awareness, not your or anyone else’s thoughts about it. I think timeless is the keyword. Eternal seems like it goes on and on. This moment is all there ever is and it is one single eternal and holy moment. Timeless.

[@mell1685]

@@JonLettsGuitars thank you, I find that hard to comprehend, but one can certainly try.

[@JonLettsGuitars]

@@mell1685 time only exists when you think about past and future. It is a thought. Science will say, well no, because look, here we can see time slowing down or speeding up etc due to the affect of mass. But they are still only viewing those effects in this moment. We have telescopes to look back in time but we are only observing light and vibration, radioactivity etc, in this moment.

[@JonLettsGuitars]

You recognise yourself when you look at others. If you look past the stories.

[@angelacardiff6746]

Who is the interviewer of John butler in bakewell

[@pandawandas]

Phil Shankland

[@alicewalsh1596]

L O V E Lots . Of. Vital. Encouragements.

[@marciacristinaluz1832]

John, um abraço aqui do Brasil..

[@gretanavarauskaite2904]

🙏🏻❤️🌸

[@jcjs33]

looking good , John...Right On John...Santa For Springtime...i love you in non duality time tee hee...keep on truckin...marriage schmarriage...giving and receiving...there's just giving and intercoursing...you are a bright star emenating a giving nature endlessly enhancing the oceanic awareness we are...loves

[@onenessseeker5683]

My daddy just past away today suddenly. Please pray for him. His name was bill. I loved him so much.

[@jerrydrouinjr.6705]

Deepest condolences 🙏

[@onenessseeker5683]

@@jerrydrouinjr.6705 Thank you. I feel so broken right now. apart of me died today too :(

[@onenessseeker5683]

@@christy7344 Please could you also pray for my mum as she isn't coping. Please help my mum dear lord God. please. Amen

[@onenessseeker5683]

@@ravig1740 Thank you

[@ruwenzori1915]

Legend

[@westcoastveteran7429]

He was a wiseman

[@mik.3110]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@LillianKüstenfeuer]

✨🙏🏻❣️

[@TheBlackbirdii]

i was unable to understand him , any help please

[@TheBlackbirdii]

@@ravig1740 ????

[@TheBlackbirdii]

@@ravig1740 what i understand about just be my self do i m pretending to be something which is not? and what has to do with love ?

[@TheBlackbirdii]

@@ravig1740 that's how do i love my self by being selfish ? arrogant ? never understood this love yourself first . you are not helping me you are just keep chewing what the other says

[@ace89920]

Hi John! I love all your videos. My question to you is. HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH A BREAK UP?

[@meanstreak5453]

Who broke it off?

[@gratefulforeverybreath899]

Don't the invisible threads that seem to bind us with the person we broke up with eventually start to break? They always have for me. The "end of the world" just after a breakup and the incessant overthinking about it for weeks and months on end eventually leads to a point where you realise you've forgotten and moved on. Good luck!

[@FudgeTheFurry]

Is John doing ok? I've noted very little content compared to the usual cadence ..

[@Mrmz44]

It’s funny, the source of almost all misery in my life has come from love and failed relationships… it’s getting to the point where I’m questioning what is the point?

[@erikwestervelt6083]

“I always found it easy to love girls, but then the easiness ended…because it always seemed to run into complications.” Ummmm YEAH…lol

[@Untoldtruth._]

John, have you ever heard about XXXTENTACION? I think he was the deeper singer I've ever known, you should search him especially for his speeches

[@TimArrowsmithDesign]

❤️🙏🏻

[@Its_Me_Romano]

What is love? Baby dont hurt me, dont hurt me, no moreee

[@starsantasta4351]

at 24 going through the exact same events...

[@dcuo_godflash9575]

♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@bumper9429]

😊

[@eileen7466]

♡

[@gavinspeaks]

If you can accept yourself, you have learned the greatest secret of life, and then everything comes on its own. Just be yourself. Much Love from a Law Of Attraction KZbinr 💜

[@glisteningwaters3312]

What is love? That is easy! God is love, but He is true love. There is no wrath in Him. The ego is the wrathful one😳 To put it simply, love in the physical sense is illusion. Love in the spiritual sense is realism. Why is love in the physical illusion? Because we tell each other, "I love you." But, we betray each other or fall out of love, don't we? That's not true love. Love In the Spirit is eternal and it never forsakes. That is true love. Frankly, the essence inside every life form is love and light. This is the truth of Self everything else is illusion. Look and see through physical eyes, we see illusion. Look and see through spiritual eyes, we behold what is truly meaningful. This is what Christ means when He tells us to look past flesh and bones.

[@williamoarlock8634]

"Experience love" by sitting around doing nothing.

[@NoBody-ht1oh]

It just dawned upon that maybe I’ve been making the mistake of giving love to women instead of gifts and things. Is this what they really want?

[@mell1685]

Not necessarily, everyone wants to be loved in one way or another. But people also don’t want to give out their love and then get hurt or abandoned. Sometimes giving something material shows that you’re invested and really do care enough to give them something thoughtful. However, I think if you truly find the right woman, there’s not really any need for gifts, because love will come first. - coming from someone who’s never went through this so take it with a grain of salt

[@alicewalsh1596]

If you spell Jesus. LOVE If you spell Devil. FEAR. so then if you're in LOVE you know who's in you.!!!!!! Or if you're in FEAR you know who's in you.!!!!!!

[@lauriemoore7220]

Sorry, I thought John was all about the spirit... but then he says he believes that the reason he was so unsuccessful with women was because he never had enough money - is he seriously so proud that he thinks that the only reason a woman would ever turn him down was because he wasn't RICH enough, and that it couldn't possibly be anything to do with him as a person, or that simply love and affection is not something anyone OWES us. His lack of self-knowledge is astounding. Either that, or he's just a misogynist - which seems unlikely given that he genuinely seems like a fundamentally kind person... and maybe, at the end of the day, that's all that matters. Lecture over.

[@danilodroghetti6427]

I too felt a bit discomforted hearing that women want bathrooms and other material things. But I realised it was a problem of mine: John is not the spring of Truth, just as anyone else cannot be it. He spoke out of his experience and his opinions. Surely I do find more comfortable when he talks of spiritual things, but I 'love' him the same. Love is (also) compassion, not only longing (fulfilled or not).

[@gratefulforeverybreath899]

"His lack of self-knowledge is astounding." Is your self-knowledge infallible?

[@lauriemoore7220]

@@gratefulforeverybreath899 by no means - but then again, I'm not on KZbin with millions of admirers, dispensing advice in spite OF my lack of self-knowledge. I've got no reason to be believe Mr Butler isn't an essentially good person, but I do take his words with a pinch of salt, that's all.

[@gratefulforeverybreath899]

​@@lauriemoore7220 I see your point. Is there a person on youtube you wouldn't be able to level the same criticism at though? Is anyone perfect online or off? I don't see his lack of self-knowledge here, but we can agree to disagree. I've just noticed people tend to enjoy picking holes in John as if he presents himself as some untouchable authority on all things and asks to be put on a pedestal. Is his lack of self-knowledge really astounding? Compared to who? Have a good day, we needn't go back and forth and I'm not trying to argue for the sake of it. All the best!

[@danilodroghetti6427]

​@@gratefulforeverybreath899, Mr Butler does not "present himself as some untouchable authority on all things". I ask myself if it was him that decided to open a KZbin channel. I don't think so, but here we are: there is a KZbin channel named "Spiritual Unfoldment with John Butler" and not "Conversations with John Butler"; there is an old man who speaks of spiritual life, inner self, sins.. he do not tell us about his life (if not rarely and only as an example in order to explain his opinions about meditation and his spiritual way), his ideas about organic farming, his favourite sports... so, despite what is in the mind of Mr Butler (only God knows), the intention to present him as a "Maître à penser" (one of the many, on KZbin) is obvious. I don't know if Mr Butler has realised what that means - because we ever must think upon how the people perceive us, when we meddle with spiritual matters on a media such as KZbin. I'm certain, in my heart, that Mr Butler have no interest to be put on a pedestal, but if you read people's comments about his videos, you can see with your eyes that this is what happens, at least for the majority of them. So it's absolutely normal to pick Mr Butler holes. Not out of malevolence; simply because who is perceived as a spiritual mentor must tread carefully, not to contradict himself. If this is too much to ask to Mr Butler, I think it will be better to downsize the entire channel.

[@darrylschultz9395]

I can understand his disappointment over rejection from the ladies, but I doubt the greatest line for inspiring love would've been to mention that they're ultimately food for worms. Just my opinion.

[@alicewalsh1596]

1 Corinthians 13.

[@randybackgammon890]

Is a 99% love invalid? Not in this world...Hang on to it!

[@nvyll]

recognovit

[@martaaldama6419]

“I thought women wanted love.” So funny. Women want money 💰 lol

[@ole-johnnywerner4350]

Needs to loose the intro music.