let a child live

[@yoonchii07]

"The children of the generation are not living, they are simply surviving" - a chinese businessman

[@JyotsnaPriyaE]

That hits me soo hard

[@yoonchii07]

@@JyotsnaPriyaE real

[@Lonemehtab]

probably yea 😶

[@HardWork-r8g]

It hits hard 😔

[@Not_normalme]

💖

[@StudyCafe9114]

"you are not allowed to take a child's dream" parents should understand that its like ripping wings of your child

[@AyushKumar-ni3yz]

🙂

[@archanasinha857]

I feel it

[@astro8833]

children don't have wings

[@Hrishi3969]

It's too late to tell them about this...they have grown in the same surroundings and are implementing the same to the next gen..so will have to accept it and move forward...We can't do anything regarding it..

[@mitanshchauhan9975]

As far as i know, human children dont have wings.

[@saswati9150]

I used to be in the same dilemma: If I study well, it'll be okay, and if I have good grades, they will love me more. But I never asked myself why. Why will they only show me appreciation when I study well? Why can't I be loved for just being their child? In this competitive world do I really need to compete for the attention of my own parents? But this video made me feel less lonely. Cheer up! You're not alone

[@sidxiosl]

Well said

[@Lorenzorobetro]

​@@sidxiosl I relate with u 100%, I have always been an above average student and always the overachiever In every academic subject. My parents (they are great I love them so much) don't put pressure on me directly they just put huge expectations on me. They never celebrated my marks just said "good, do more hardwork". But ever since I came in 12th everythings has been going downhill, my marks are deteriorating and my parents although never have scolded me about it but their disappointed gazes and silence just kills me from the inside. I really hate myself atp. I stopped going to coaching in from this year because it was too much to manage. So I don't have any extra academic support. I just do self study. Ever since I started talking all they said about me and my other sisters is that they want all of us to be doctors. They never gave us any other options, and we all were good students and acted accordingly. Most of the time I feel like they love me only for my marks. They never got happy when I did great in any other extra curricular activities and other stuff. We only had conversations about studies, neet, school, coaching ect. Their silent expectations and immense pressure is overbearing. It just makes me procrastinate and depressed. I just want them to love me for I am their child and not for my marks. I love them but just hate being loved for scoring good marks.

[@gaurikri4730]

But I get good marks still my family don't love me they have money but don't allow me to fulfill my dreams, don't let me do what I want I can't have any will of mine it is always rejected by them and I feel so dejected,alone and just want to go somewhere I can live alone in nature 🌿🍃they only make fake promises and later break it like nothing happened and due to this I get distracted and all blame comes to me even my birthday is not celebrated 😢 no one remembers it no one cares but everytime they taunt me and show that they love me to not to go into wrong path but why don't they think about my happiness why everytime being their child I will think about their happiness isn't their any responsibility to keep me happy they always demotivate me 😢

[@dreamstime..7894]

I relate to you mate , why I can't be loved for being just me from my own parents. Why I have to pretend to be someone else . Why I have to die inside to get noticed by my dad??...

[@Allena_boofe]

Womp womp

[@unkown_p.]

"Parents call us their pride, but sometimes it feels like we're just their project-our dreams clipped to fit their vision, our wings traded for the ones they’ve designed. They say it’s love, but love doesn’t suffocate; it lets you fly, even if the sky isn’t the one they chose."

[@radhikaawachar6685]

We are like lab rats for them

[@amalitad6459]

Completely relatable 💯

[@Pluviophile-i]

True but they think ...they are protecting us ...and giving us right guidance... which is also noticeable

[@vlogsandfunwithavni690]

so true and if we say that no thats not what we want then our dream is a failure or a disappointment for them😢

[@Nikhil-t7l]

​@@Pluviophile-i but bro when they give right guidance it gets too late cuz childhood is finished and we start getting more sensible and dependent on our mind First of all parents don't give good values to chile and when child grow up and start doing any wrong cuz of carelessness of parents then they blame the child and say you are a disappointment Well if my parents say sane i would also say that it was you who didn't care for me when i started doing mistakes

[@seasideontop]

"Who are you to decide? You are just a kid", the most annoying, depressing, heart breaking, disturbing, frustrating statement I have ever heard

[@itsbegula1745]

Yeah for real, kids getting to make a decision that dosent have to do with people is the most unbiased in any way. Maybe they can't read the room, maybe they can't read faces. But it is true

[@D.E.V.I.L_666.]

When I give additional advice to my father he says "ok, let's see" But sometimes my father did what I says if that's profitable for the family

[@D.E.V.I.L_666.]

And also he says you can do anything but that must related to Art Commerc Science.

[@fun_with_asita3639]

This girl’s words are so underrated..she should be viral..she spoke for every child out there..

[@Not_normalme]

No i dont want to be viral I am happy with you all

[@fun_with_asita3639]

But you deserve recognition!

[@PG_BTS]

​@Not_normalme It’s not about popularity, gurl. This video needs more recognition, these words need more recognition.

[@fun_with_asita3639]

Exactly

[@roshansrivastav6892]

​@Not_normalmeBut the message you conveyed is definitely needed to be viral... Didi, I'll turn 16 in Feb, I am feeling a little better, like I have crossed the most perplex path of my life.. When this video came to my feed, I was suffering with same thoughts as yours. I literally 'cried' while watching... But, Thank God!, I am also able to resume my studies after listening to you😅... Sending you lots of Encouragement and love from my side❤ I'll share your thoughts as much as I can...

[@StudyCafe9114]

people who are hating listen: She is 18 first of all you do not know how she feels not every person is the same different parenting creates different types of kids I had (touchwood) great parents and I am happy but that does not mean that she had the same parenting as she said she is envious of rich kids but she doesn't know their struggle People look at other people through their own lens of right and wrong. your point is correct, but you are looking at her from your perspective, not her's and you cannot look from her perspective until you know her story

[@pragathids1011]

👏 Required For This Generation.

[@Anushka-u6d]

Hiii pls share the app you use for subtitles

[@AryanM-xh7wq]

Struggle and rich kids??? Lmaooo u have got to be kidding here. Unless the so called rich kid is self made there is literally no struggle in their lives. They get everything they want so easily. Be it getting privacy and freedom growing up, be it memorable friendships and relationships in their teenage, be it good universities in the world, be it a car or a bike as a gift from their parents. They have zero struggle😂😂 Maybe ur one of them n trying to victimize them but trustme y'all have it much much much easier than us normal middle class kids with arsehole parents, be grateful instead of complaining.

[@unkown_p.]

@@AryanM-xh7wq bro I'm not rich but I want to I think everyone has their own struggle I have many rich friends and they all have very pressur by thier parents to become wealthy like their parents many of them have fights between thier parents for little things yeah maybe there is less struggle than us but there is I think so Just an opinion...

[@AryanM-xh7wq]

@@unkown_p. That's very rare. I have known enough PPL to be saying this. It is nothing compared to what middle class and poor kids from their childhood go through. Can u imagine being told throughout ur life that getting into a particular university only defines u? If u get in, good everyone starts praising and respecting u, but if u don't, ur termed a failure for life, it's like u matter if and only if u get into iit. Not just that, it's more like all the load for supporting ur household is on ur shoulders from as young as 15-16 years of age. Why do u think so many students of jee and neet commit suicides? Anyways to everyone their problems look bigger, but this is just the reality don't believe what u heat blindly.

[@nandikagupta_1]

girl you have grown to be so mature for an 18year old. you raised yourself beautifully. youre not alone. im proud of you

[@SameerSingh-Rajput]

😂jaa padhai kr

[@PG_BTS]

​@@SameerSingh-Rajput if u studied well, u wouldn’t have been like this.

[@Itzme_ana1]

@@PG_BTS real

[@gaabduberal]

I've always been an escapist throughout my life...I've created this bubble of happiness where I love to imagine good things. It really hits me hard when I get a reality check...the bubble you know pops and you realise you're all alone...after some time you heal yourself but due to the hardships in your life, the bubble of joy comes rebuilds itself.

[@sedlife8946]

I feel you. I used to be the top student. Doing everything i could to get the love i never got from my mother. You see, I'm the middle child. My older sister cleared JEE advanced, my mom absolutely adores Her. My younger brother is fully paralysed due to neurological problems. I love him too. But i feel that i never got the love they got. My sister's the perfect daughter and my brother absolutely deserves the love he gets, but there's a void surrounding me. My childhood was over at just 5. I'm always ignored during family conversations and overshadowed by my sister's achievements during family events. Don't get me wrong, i was the happiest with her achievement. But i never got the love she got from her childhood. My parents' marriage is falling apart. My dad is unemployed. He never spends time with us. He asks for money from mom and leaves. Coming home late at night. He almost got arrested for abusing mother physically. He provides us with nothing. I wanted to achieve something to make my mother smile. To see the same smile she has for my sister. I gave up dancing, my most favourite thing in the world. But she hates me and i can't do anything about it. Now, my scores are falling and so is my mental health. After achieving so much, I'm falling apart right before my board examinations. It's hopeless.

[@lily-z6x9p]

bro i love dance too but because of so much academic pressure i too left it i can feel youuuu girl😭🙂

[@AYANOKOJI-h5d]

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. You’ve carried so much on your shoulders, and it’s completely valid to feel overwhelmed. Please know this: your worth isn’t tied to achievements or how others treat you. You are enough, just as you are. It’s okay to take a step back and focus on yourself. Try reconnecting with something you love, like dancing-it can bring a little joy and remind you of who you are beyond expectations. You deserve support, love, and understanding. You’ve been so strong, but even the strongest people need help. Take things one step at a time-you are not alone in this. 💙

[@DrEggCake]

Its alright, bad times are always there but good times exist too. I can understand feeling like not loved enough im same as you in this. I also had to give up football because of the pressure of studies, in just 5th class! But that doesn't mean you will lose all hope, there's always light in the darkest caves. Never lose hope. 💝💝 Imagine this, you are working in a movie/company wherever you want to go after 10 years, will anyone ask what your grades were in that class? No absolutely not! Your grades do not decide who you are or what you are going to be. Take your time and then come back. Even the strongest needs rest.

[@ARYANJEE-uu3qe]

Same situations but lets buckle up soldier lets do whatever we can lets walk slow but lets make sure we do walk because sitting achieves nothings kaam karte rho bro/sis jeena parega we have to get out of this he!! Hole

[@aniketsaju2127]

Stay strong , do what you can , talk to some close friends if u can , go outside get some fresh air , try to be more optimistic (I know its hard but you'll have to try)

[@bhutaturr1636]

i hit with same realization when i was around 17, from that moment i stopped demanding for my fav dish to eat(not like they gave wht i liked), stopped expressing my inner self to them, i realized i'm not getting to live my childhood until i create my own in this life time, i felt heartbroken at first but if that's wht my life had meant for me then let it be. hope to treat my inner child when i grow up.

[@treapisnice]

that's what i always tell myself, but then again i wonder, will it be possible?

[@bhutaturr1636]

@@treapisnice i try my best to align all my action that i tajen in a day from waking up to sleeping that benefits my goal

[@sakshikumar_17]

@@bhutaturr1636 I am seventeen right now and the same realisation hit me a few months back. Yes it broke me at first but now honestly I feel happy that I have realised not like I hate my parents/family I love them. But right... I have learnt to create a boundary and how to be happy with my own company. Also I know what I will be doing with my life unlike other teens. My mom taught me to do household chores at a very young age so that I could help her and also because I am a girl. I remember when in my school my classmates used to talk about playing outside in parks I only had the memories of working in the kitchen lol. But honestly even this is helpful because now I know I can live on my own and I really want to move out as soon as I start making money. I won't be ignoring my responsibilities as a child in fact I would love to provide for my parents in future but I want freedom and even the thought makes me soo happy. 💕

[@BluebellDraws]

you stated it so well, i'm 18 and i started feeling the same way few months ago. I hope we can all get to that point where we are can do things for ourselves and for our inner child happily. i wish you the best :))

[@Itz_a_me_mario]

@bhutaturr1636 Can you tell me what realization you had? im 17 and whatever you said has been the most relatable thing ive ever read ever since i was 15. I want to resonate with you and know what caused this, It makes me feel better when I realize im not alone in this

[@Samy7edits]

i don't know why i clicked this video but gurl i swear to god i can feel every single emotion, and when u mention about a dad hugging his kid that broke me, i still remember i literally cried after seeing a dad hugging and playing with his daughter and that made me think like maybe i did something wrong but what,, nevermind by the way i am also 18 and i am preparing for JEE and yes i am forced in this field by my parents, like dude i have so many certificates and medals in extra curricular from my childhood but from past 5 years i am just in my home preparing for a exam with dumy admission in school like i used be an extrovert and now i don't have any social life just because of MY parents and it hurts, it hurts way too much when u realize their blood is flowing in your body and you hate it, and you know what i hate the idea of love at this point cuz of them not only towards me but they are so toxic towards each other that sometime i feel like to do something wrong to myself so that their focus can shift to me rather than fighting with each other, even if that means to broke my bone or stuff, like i can put holes in my body if that means to stop my parents getting physical abusive with each other and i hate my self for hating them.. i also wants to live with a happy family a husband who loves his wife but no WHY WHHYYYY.... whatever i don't know why i am writing this.. i don't know what i am doing.. .anyways big hug from me bbg

[@Samy7edits]

it feels like i am numb, i literally lost my spark i used to be good at so many things and now i don't even try to do things that i enjoyed to, hell nah! i feel like i am surviving

[@Not_normalme]

It's never too late And you don't hate them You just don't like the way they behave

[@Kritika022]

You will break this cycle!! Your child will never face the worst things that you have faced . Your so strong girl . I'm so sorry that Your facing all this but it's not for the very end . I believe you will create the life you wanted ❤

[@swetham2944]

Juz pls don't do anything to yourself .... I was in the same position year back but please juz remember that u r important ❤ U can do it Ik it's hard but please u can do it.

[@Samy7edits]

@Kritika022 thanks for your words bbg but i don't think i want family of my own, i am way to scared of that and not mention the pain of f*king child labor like hell nah! and yes for sure i will break the cycle, i hope u also heal from things that u didn't talked about, lets work on becoming our best version 🫂

[@-c-8209]

"The more you suffer your kids, the more they create a world surrounding them and wont give you an entrance" That line hit so hard, sometimes they don't realise how much pressure they are putting. Yes they gave me money, food, shelter, clothes, but did they give me care, love, respect? No they didn't. This video made me realise I am not alone. I thank you for making this video In fact, love you so much.

[@chandrakala8648]

A job of a parent is to take care of their child who they brought into this world without their decision,so saying I pay for you,etc is just manipulation for the child to better in whatever dream they failed to achieve.A child should not be the parent or their extension but he has to be his own individual with a proper life he loves.

[@avika041]

"you are not allowed to take a child's dream" this hit home man. I'm sorry to every bright soul out there who relates to this, just believe in yourself I promise things will work out for you

[@CrystalAuraqueen]

Thanks, I have real dreams to achieve but its so hard that tears starts flowing just by seeing this comment and thinking about the possibilities of future. Its just took me a second to start crying.

[@Save_Nature-31207]

My child will fulfill my dreams which I wasn't able to accomplish. This is where the the wings are ripped off instead of taking control of the wings.

[@aryashuklas]

parents do every thing they can do for a kid but sometimes let a child live ... and then believe me they will find a better future.

[@AryanM-xh7wq]

Nah they don't. Most are selfish bastards who just think that they're doing their best for u and guilt trip u so that u think u have a favour that u must dedicate ur entire life to repay later

[@PG_BTS]

Some do it cuz they don't want to go to jail or sum. Like my mom, she became a bad person lately. She annoys me, she makes me even more depressed.

[@noturpatibtw]

When u realise no matter what we do nothing will ever change in this generation. Our only hope is the genz generation who know what parenting is.

[@piyushkeshri264]

You've saved a life today. I found your video highly relatable. I chose to prepare for JEE. I'm almost 18 and I heard some gossip between my parents and my elder sister who studies in JNU. My parents want me to go to the same college (which ofcourse is very hard) and want me to prepare for government job. They are literally kind of forcing me to change my field from science to arts. I also heard that they don't believe that I'd be able to crack JEE and also commented that they don't know what I do the whole day in the library. They said I always go to small trips with my friends(which I only did on Sundays for just 2-3 hrs) without telling them (I always told them before leaving but they made a claim stating I left from Library). I broke inside thinking that my own family doesn't believe in me, I was about to take my life a few days later because I wanted to meet my closest brother before it. I've tried to do it before in 9th and 10th standard because of family pressure and getting scolded for not getting enough marks. I've suffered a lot and my parents just blame me for my mistakes, never saying where they went wrong. The purpose of this video was probably to make people realise to not force their child on some decision. However I saw some comments including the pinned comment which I absolutely hated like why do you have to make everything men vs women? I see a lot of girls in this video, hopefully I'm welcomed. Lots of love, and thanks again. Maybe if your video didn't exist I would have...

[@AnishYadavvv]

Hi piyush Anish this side I read what you said , And I understand the feeling when parents say things about you which you didn't commit it makes you feel betrayed I completely understand that Even I myself am preparing for JEE and I also think I won't be able to clear the exam this time , but brother I want to tell you something that our life is really big a single exam CAN NOT be greater than your life . I understand the pressure you feel from parents I think that either you can just try to share your problem with parents or maybe your sister you mentioned earlier, you need to find a person or a friend whom you can share your feelings with if not parents , also I advise you to be strong which is difficult even I am trying to do that , but it will make things better, I hope you do good in life , Please respond if you read this

[@RonakSharma2525]

that trip line is relatable, buttt DON'T YOU DARE END YOUR LIFE, as ur a jee asp. like me i'll recommend u to watch life unplugged's 1st video.

[@piyushkeshri264]

​@AnishYadavvv​ Thanks bro. Like i said, I can't share these things to my parents, as they have already dont have hope from me in science field despite me performing well enough. I understand well that I shouldn't end my life. I had people who cared about me but I've lost contact with them and yes they were not from my family, they were my random online friends, because at this time people you know only know to give solutions and won't think through your perspective. Hopefully I'll continue to live longer. Thanks a lot, atleast someone did care ❤️‍🩹

[@piyushkeshri264]

​@AnishYadavvv​ Thanks bro. Like i said, I can't share these things to my parents, as they have already dont have hope from me in science field despite me performing well enough. I understand well that I shouldn't end my life. I had people who cared about me but I've lost contact with them and yes they were not from my family, they were my random online friends, because at this time people you know only know to give solutions and won't think through your perspective. Hopefully I'll continue to live longer. Thanks a lot, atleast someone did care ❤️‍🩹

[@piyushkeshri264]

I don't know why the replies aren't going

[@ManlyEdits7]

The parenting our parents got is the one we expect, like they used to run in fields, bunk schools, climb trees, play with their friends, swim in wells rivers etc. The way they tell us "In our childhood we used to do these things blah blah.." WHY RESTRICTIONS ON US THEN ??

[@susme2888]

I’m 16 and although I come from a background where my parents have been able to provide me with good financial support. I’ll always be great full for them. But i still can’t forgive them for failing me as a child. I’ve been bullied not only at school but also by my parents. They never tried to help me. They’d always demand more even though I was only a child. And now I’ve reached a state where my parents don’t even care about me. We have a bad relationship. I thought they’d guide me through some of the toughest years of my life but I find myself alone wondering what I want to do in the future. I’ve been forced to grow up faster than I need to. This video speaks a lot of teens minds. I’m sure it’ll get better for. Your strong. Please never lose yourself

[@OtakuTracks101]

I'm 16, opposite on the financial things. And same in the 'Parent's'. Personally, it's easy to overcome them. Just follow your dreams without letting them know, also study side by side in order to make them feel you are doing something for them, most of the time stay silent. One more thing, most of the parents are dumb actually so it's easy to manipulate them. This is my experience but I don't go like very far on this yk, just some a bit to make them realise what you are doing. Don't try to lecture with them argue etc. Break your conversations, say smth a good point then stop. Wait for them say smth. Then say smth, make them comfortable. Know psychology to understand what your parents are thinking on anything, learn to control your emotions as well as their. But don't go blindly, and maybe this is too much for some people to say. I hope you find this helpful, if you wanna talk more about it I am here to talk. I help others to be better and do things I couldn't do. Take care of yourself

[@sakshikumar_17]

@@susme2888 I hope you achieve everything you want to in life. We all deserve love and happiness. I am 17 rn just a year older but I can confirm this was me at 16 but honestly the last few months have changed my life a lot. Nothing has happened if we look at it from outside.. but from the inside I have never been happier because now I have learnt to ignore and move on in life. I have learnt to love myself and I only focus on making my life better ❤️ I hope you can see yourself on the same path too. Pls don't give up

[@PushpanjaliPandey-kc8lc]

Girl I can totally relate to your situation sometimes it feels like why my life is like this whenever you saw other people with supportive parents but you only got comparison all this shit leads to lower your self-esteem.

[@violenaaa]

I used to think that I am living the best life, fulfilling my duties as a good, obedient daughter. I used to score good and give my everything to studies. I used to make my parents proud and I thought that was life. It made me happy that I could make my parents happy. I was so content, studying every single day. I was always in my circle. And I thought that this circle was life. I was taught to be organized and disciplined. Never stepped out of my boundary. Never really brought trouble to my parents. I never really mingled with anyone. I was that smart, quiet and introverted kid. And everyone thought of me as 'The Perfect Daughter'. I had no real long term friend. I wasn't even close to my parents. Yes, I care for them. Yes, they cared for me too. But I thought that every parent- child relation is like that ; not being close but still tending to all their needs. I didn't have my own likes and dislikes. I had no hobby. I used to think studying was my hobby. I didn't know how to enjoy life. But I was okay with all of this. Or rather, I didn't even know that there existed a life which is not similar to mine. I was taught to be that well-mannered girl. And I was like that. Until 2 years back. I came to India with my younger brother for study purposes. My life was in my hands now.There was so much to explore. I slowly slowly learnt how to be with others. How the world is. How close children are with their parents. Especially their dads. When I saw children my age hugging and cracking jokes with their fathers, I was broken and I felt that longing. That longing for my father. I could not imagine being that free with my dad. Plus, if I stay this free with him, he might not take it in a right way and think I'm spoiled. But there's another case. He is really close to my younger sister. Then why is their that barrier between us? Just because I'm the eldest? Why do I hesitate to hug you? Why...why was I brought up like that? Everyone over here have soo many fun stories to share at a gathering. What do I have to share except my all A+ report cards. Why don't I have a fun story to share? Where is my childhood? I started living when I came here. I have real hobbies now. I am getting to know about myself finally. I had completely lost in fulfilling your wishes. I don't even know anything about me. Why is it so hard to answer the truths in truth and dare? I don't even know what I like. Why was I snatched from my childhood? I'm going to turn 18 this year. When should I live my childhood when the responsibilities over me keep increasing day by day? When do I get to live...?

[@Not_normalme]

Oh my sweet lord here. A hug i haven't given to anyone here but here for you 🫂🫂🫂💗⭐️

[@violenaaa]

@Not_normalme This means a lot to me. Thank you so much. 🫂

[@shishyaarts]

Oh dear. Your story is just so similar like I must say its exactly the same except the part that finally u have discovered your hobbies. While me just thinking to work on myself and get to know about what I like, what I want, and what are my hobbies all in IIT for which I am preparing now. I relate so much that my father share such a beautiful bond with my elder sister who is three years elder to me and even with my brother one year younger to me. It makes me feel so awkward when he hugs my dad so casually and I just watch them and feel emotional asking myself why can't I? Many a times on comparing myself with my brother and sister, I just start hating myself accepting that the fault would have been just in me that they end up being so friendly and open with my parents while me on the other side just so lonely..even hesitate to say the simplest things to anyone. Few months back I used to hate myself because I didn't like my parents and would always think negative about them unlike other children of my age..and I now I hate myself just for being so different from others, being so introverted, so shy, so emotional, sensitive, for having failed to make a single friend in these 14 years of school life and just for every quality of mine because of which I am today what I am

[@AnujMaitra-yk2bn]

"Hey sweetheart! 🤗🥰🥰💖 I can feel the weight of your words, and I want to say that your feelings are valid. It's okay to question the way you were raised, the choices you made, and the life you lived. These reflections are an essential part of growth. Life is a journey of self-discovery, and sometimes, the path we take feels predetermined by others. But here's the thing: life isn't just about fulfilling duties or meeting expectations. It's also about finding joy in the little things, exploring your passions, and embracing who you truly are. Happiness is not a destination but a state of mind. It comes from understanding yourself, doing what brings you peace, and connecting with the people who make your heart smile. It’s okay to start now. There’s no 'right age' to live your childhood. Joy and playfulness aren't bound by time-they're always within your reach. The responsibilities you feel don’t have to be a burden. Instead, they can coexist with the moments you carve out for yourself. Start small-do things you genuinely enjoy, express your feelings to your family, and let them see the person you are becoming. You deserve to live not just as 'the perfect daughter' but as a whole person with dreams, hobbies, and stories of your own. Life is a balance between giving to others and giving to yourself. It’s never too late to rewrite your story, and it’s perfectly okay to seek happiness for yourself while loving and respecting your family. You are already on a path of self-discovery-keep walking it with courage. I’m here for you if you need to share more or if you need someone to listen."

[@singhvasu2475]

What country did you grow up in?

[@Sadaf_gazala]

My little sister.... Your existence is for you, do great in your life...and free yourself from everything..... remember...when nobody loves you, your creator does... We cant describe or judge his love based on what life he has given....but the existence of our very self is the proof that he created us out of love...meditate and have a great focus of life ahead.... It maybe tough now, but later.....your situation will take a 360 turn.💞

[@Someone_-_-_-_020]

🥺

[@demoaccount2392]

360° turn mean a full circle, are you saying she will be back to this shit? Sorry, I mean it in the nicest way possible but had to say it XD

[@aedilhaimushqil]

everytime if i reflect upon studies.. this is the exact thing i initially think of.

[@stoicsets-v1w]

"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present."

[@HardWork-r8g]

But buddy you know life is not that simple so that it can solved by just logic and motivational speech. Sometime needles of past turns into sword that cuts you through out your life time.

[@stoicsets-v1w]

That's also true.....

[@shreyamsingh2605]

I have gone through the video and concluded three things:- 1. A child is not a product or a resource to use it as per desire. 2. His/her life matters too, it should not be traumatised by burdens. 3. Every child deserves love and that's why they constantly try to make others happy even sacrificing many things. Problem:- Overy majority of parents either in our country or Asian countries control their kids and their decisions. Solution:- 1. Start taking your decisions early, we can't expect to be loved. 2. Start earning even if it's too little, learning finance is needed otherwise in latter life we will be again targetted. 3. Never marry until and unless you earn enough to nurture a family of atleast 5+ members. 4. Be spiritual, optimistic, kind and understanding to every aspect of life. 5. Stop expecting and start accepting.

[@FatimaQazi-p2h]

I am also a 18 year old girl and I completely understand the position you are in as I also know of that pressure. It’s hard to think of a life for yourself when it seems like your options are limited. You want to be free, you want to be a kid, you appreciate all the hard work your parents put in for you, but then again that pressure just weighs on you and makes your life difficult. I know that it feels as though some,times there is no hope or light at the end of the tunnel but as we continue to go on in life there will be many smiles and happiness. Life contains these ups and downs, so always reminder that while you may be at a down right now the up is just on its way. I know how it feels to be in a finically difficult situation and then your parents having hope and reliance in you in taking charge and care of them. I know that this ends up stripping away the child in us and makes us grow up faster than we want to. As an 18 year old who also still wants to be a kid, I am scared of this big change and am also in fear of failure. This is where it it’s important to remind yourself that you can still take control of your life in many aspects and make your self happy while also fulfilling the dreams of your parents. Time is of the essence and as you said we must not waste any of it. We should utilize this time we have to put things forth for our futures all the while taking care of ourselves and living in the present. My dear friend, thank you so much for sharing your deep thoughts and crucial advice with us. I think it is absolutely beautiful how you opened up and shared such mature and much needed facts about the importance of raising children kindly and preventing it from feeling like a bird stuck in a cage. There is always a way to open that cage and let your wings spread! It is difficult for me as well as my parents want for me to uptake a certain path and I worry about having regrets of how I am spending my time in the future, but I’m taking it day by day and pouring my worries out to God. My dear friend, I hope that your situation is made easy for you and that you get the peace, happiness, smiles, contentment, and love, you are looking for. I love you ❤, and thanks for sharing once again. ❤

[@Not_normalme]

😭😭😭💖

[@FatimaQazi-p2h]

@Not_normalme 🩷❤️🩷🥹

[@lilmeowmeow9283]

I can relate to this so much. I have lost my spark, I used to be so creative, was good at art, and would write so many stories. I was good at studying too. But once my parents never let me do anything other than study all day I lost everything. So many class field trips, and meet up with friends...my parents never let me go. Now I am sitting in the same place for months preparing for NEET, while I see all my friends enjoying their youth. When I try to tell them I don't want to become a doctor, they get so angry and shout, making me even more stressed. I feel like I'm only surviving not living. Even if I pass neet, the feeling of studying all the time for 5 more years dreads me so much. This is why if I can, I will adopt a child and raise it with all the love I yearned for. I will never take their childhood away.

[@its.eshas_attic]

Aww-I feel the same! Except for me, it's engineering. The thing is, I'm just 15, and my parents have my entire life planned out for me-but something they never asked was where I wanted to do this.

[@lilmeowmeow9283]

@@its.eshas_attic 🥺🫂

[@singhvasu2475]

As they say that the Indian education system is designed to KI*L talent and produce robots who do tasks as per the wish of their master. I don't even think it's problem of the parents, I think it's the overall economic condition of the country. Slowly(that is 30-35 years), it will disappear if it's an economic issue. But if it turns out to be a social issue(which I doubt it is), then we are in for a big big trouble.

[@sillabellasworld2185]

Same situation here, age is 18. Preparing for NEET,but one month ago,I stopped studying and gave that pressure back. So they agreed to study agriculture, then for IFS and much more ( buisiness)in future

[@Pragya.loves.music2024]

Feels like u took a bundle of feelings from many people and created a safe place for us. My parents aren't abusive but it feels like sometimes they don't know what a parent is, I recently turned 12, and it's such a shame that even though I almost got whatever I wanted I never got, love. Times with them, my papa, is always away, and my mom is so weak and gets super dramatic and angry when something doesn't go in her. I wish I could do something about it. I know I have plenty of time but I have a little bro to save from their dramatic scary behaviour. thank you didi

[@aratrika004]

little one, you have grown into the best version of yourself and I pray you will prosper in whichever ways that will keep you happy. Life got millions of edges and curves and your task is to just choose the right one for yourself. More happiness and power to you. Your words provided a warm hug to my heart 🤍

[@Nana-r1w9k]

Girl i feel you and this video was so relatable felt like I was watching the reflection of me, as a 17 year old growing up poor and in a broken family I've always felt that I have the responsibility to fix everything I see my mom working so hard to provide basic necessities and a good life while my dad has been sick and in a complete bed rest since years, because of this and everything hes frustrated with his life he has anger issues and somehow takes it out on me and my mom, i remember recently crying in the new year because of and new year isn't a new year nothing's new for me.I can't imagine the pain my mom must go through everyday crying between the silent walls. I sometimes envy rich kids a lot wondering what did I do to deserve this, I've killed so many aspirations of mine, but as yu said it isn't my fault nor is my moms I know she would provide me the world if she could. I don't remember last time I've smiled genuinely and I don't remember any hobbies of mine, all i do now is worry about my future and the ways to earn money. My mom took 80k in loan to start her small business and somehow she's managing everything i just want to pay off her debt and buy a house we we've been living in rented house ever since I last remember. I just want my mom to be happy and now I've realised that's somehow my purpose in life. Also my dear girly i personally don't know you but I deeply connected with yu and if no one tells you iam gonna tell you I'm so proud of you for all the silent battles you're going through and there will always be a way and you're doing okay i love you take care ❤

[@Nana-r1w9k]

@@alien4320 wdym things had a massive turn? Things got better? Or worse ?

[@AP-yi2lq]

I didn't realise that people younger than me have reached that age of early maturity due to stuff happening at home .... I feel extremely protective of young ones going through this....I don't want anyone to go through what I went through. It's not about the exact event happening, but the emotions that we go through at that time. I didn't realise because I still miss my childhood, I still miss the young me, my time which was snatched away....I am still stuck there. Always remember...It's not your fault. Love yourself. You only have you 💜 it will get better... future's gonna be okay.

[@Monochromatrick]

I'm a boy but honestly, I have the same situation as you! I cannot stress this enough, if you cannot afford a proper future for your child then don't have it. When i see my classmates and friends having fun going out with parents, with friends etc. It just makes me feel empty and jealous that i had never experienced such things. They have just put me in this house and order me to study. I've also like almost never gone otuside to play or anything. Now, I'd be lying if i said i am not grateful to my parents, I 100% am! But, they've never given me the "love" or "affection" that you are supposed to have as a child. Now i've just lost all expectations and don't expect them in to giving me any gift or, show me proper affection. it's like they're emotionally unavailable. But, never lose hope! I myself feel hopeless but, we must struggle and bear with this part, because in future we will definetely be successful. Sending best wishes.

[@totalchaosd3si174]

okay so as a person older than you, you can see me as a older brother to you. I've experienced almost everything you spoke about in this video. things are exhausting when families expect more & give less. & i am grateful for whatever they gave me materialistically but they failed to give me the most crucial thing as a child, emotional support. cherry on top, i grewup with a single parent. my dad is great but there are still things that i wish he'd rather do for me. most of my childhood I've spent with my grandparents who were the best when i was little, but growing up & wanting freedom, to explore, to take risks. i was never supported enough. the point is i barely remember the good things they did for me in childhood because they always refuse to understand & accept me. i'm disconnected

[@VanshikaPichanot]

@totalchaosd3si174 I want to give you some advice You have given your best buddy please don't stress about the things that have happened in the past The thing you can do is to focus on your future how you can be happy in you future I know their is some fault in your father too but in the end the man was also suffering from his own problems too in the end I would say please be happy and focus on your future and the things that make you happy

[@VanshikaPichanot]

You can do it buddy please don't let stress take over you

[@Football__is__life-k]

C'mon bro plz keep your father with you...Just try to see from his POV...He also might be feeling lonely as he's a human too and Maybe he couldn't focus much on you that's why...Well there's nothing we can do here...Just focus on yourself

[@syedahkam7164]

youtube recommendations are getting good lately, I stumbled upon a gem of a video

[@Not_normalme]

This made my day ♡

[@syedahkam7164]

@Not_normalme Happy new year gurl :3

[@cersmyio]

this is definitely going into my favorite videos playlist here on yt, I've seen this w me too, my dad often says that "see, she doesn't talk back and stuff" and honestly, everything resonates with me. Parents k!ll us more that we think honestly.

[@Not_normalme]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@gunadhika]

Every part of this video felt so real and relatable to me. Growing up was incredibly hard, even though I was lucky to have basic necessities like a house and food. But one thing I always yearned for and never had was a loving and positive family environment. There isn’t a single moment from my childhood that I can look back on with happiness or gratitude. I grew up surrounded by harsh and abusive words from my family, except for my mother. Over the past 3-4 years, everything that could go wrong has gone wrong, and it feels like the storm hasn’t stopped. I’ve lost touch with almost all my school friends because my family believed having friends was a waste of time. I’ve heard words so cruel that no child or even an adult should ever have to endure. At this point, I don’t even know how to have a normal conversation with anyone. As a child, I had so many dreams, but I spent my childhood stuck at home, crying or questioning God, wondering when it would all end. I’ve always believed things would get better, that pain doesn’t last forever, but now I’m unsure how long this will continue. I truly believe that when couples are expecting a child, they should receive psychological therapy alongside their regular prenatal checkups to prevent harm. My father has been a terrible person, and I have no shame in admitting that he and his family ruined and traumatized 18 years of my life. I know emotions like trauma, hate, fear, anger, depression, and sadness aren’t meant for anyone-no one deserves to feel them. I hope my father feels accomplished when he realizes how much I hate my childhood and how I can’t think about it without a heavy heart. More power to you, girl i hope you achieve everything you’ve ever dreamed of. Love you.

[@Not_normalme]

You too my angel ♡

[@khushibhatia9584]

hey, i cannot express enough how much i could relate to this, ever since i was in class 5, all i am doing is studying, no friends, no breaks, all my parents talk about is marks and grades, now im in 12th preparing for jee and i have honestly now started taking a bit of time for myself because everything was exhausting man, and i feel better when i allow my mind to take breaks, everytime my parents see me taking a break or anything except studying, they scold me out for it but man, everything is getting very exhausting, i dont even know ki result kaisa aayega, it freaks me out, but dar zyada iss baat ka lagta hai ki Kahin mom dad ye na bolde ki maine unhe dissapoint kiya hai i want to relive my childhood and relax fr and make friends and have fun, im 18 and only think about the future, studies, marks, once my friend told me ki i need to start living like normal people, i had no words for that but sometimes, all i want is my brain to shut up and go somewhere jahan pe iss sab ka pressure na ho and i can do what i like honestly you are so pure and nice, i wish you all the best for everything you want to achieve, and honestly thank you so much for this video, i literally cried so bad ❤❤🤧🤧

[@Not_normalme]

Dont cry I'm always here Come back when you feel this world is being harsh on you

[@Ishitam06]

Yeah u are not alone i can relate to u it just hits harder when u want to talk to someone but u just can’t cause no one listens and also u can’t trust anyone it’s so hard to find someone who can relate at this stage of life I lost my all friends sometimes I feel so alone but I can’t do anything about it and have to move on and that’s life ❤

[@khushibhatia9584]

@@Ishitam06 I can totally relate I lost two people I loved the most this year, they couldn't understand me and my priorities, and it hurts till this date but I'm positive about the next and ready to do a fresh start, with all these exams and college admissions which freak me out, the only thing I need rn is mental peace and self belief And all the best bro You are strong and amazing Don't worry It's god's plan, everything will fall into place at the right time 🙂

[@Ishitam06]

@ yeah u too will do great I could sense that all the best for ur future and if u neend someone we are here for u❤️

[@navyblueskiess]

I'm in your situation rn but I'm a dropper and I'm 20 :) honestly I'm burned out I haven't been able to study anything for the past few months.

[@tasnimmalihahimi]

'kids create a world surrounding themselves and won't give you an entrance in that" is something I can relate to. Like i remember last year i told myself that i will live for myself now,i won't share my sadness and happiness with them anymore. They'll get to know about it from strangers,but never from me. Also girl i wish you the best in life. I don't know you but i can tell you're a kind soul🤍

[@frog1153]

Thank you for being so vulnerable here on this space. You are so brave for putting your thoughts here, I know this won't mean much coming from a stranger but I am so proud of you for being who you are. I appreciate you for being the voice of so many others who go through the exact same thing and for putting this experience out there so they can feel seen. This is truly the most profound form of love you are giving out to the society, one that stems from your own experiences and vulnerability. Thank you so much for creating a safe space like this on the internet.

[@shortwalenotes]

The "why not me?" Or "why me?" question always hits me hard, but my mentality was shaped in a way that constantly made me answer the question by saying "its not only me who's suffering" or even blaming myself for being the way I've become. I constantly think of myself as a burden on my parents because they spend alot on me but I can't get over the fact that they dont talk to me the way they used to talk to me when when i was younger and didn't have any study related or any kind of pressure, everything just changed so significantly yet I'm still stuck between whether the fault is mine or not, or whether its because of the mistakes I've made that I'm in the situation of not being love by my own, i just don't know!

[@vanshikasharma9099]

That thing hit so hard when you just realize that your own family and parents separated your childhood from you...we all know that our parents are working hard for us but sometimes it feel like they forget that we are just kids just humans like them...Pressure is not something like putting a gun on you but sometimes its their expectations that just making us soooo depressed and than they say we don't pressurize them at all.. I am 18right now and just living acc to my parents doing what they want ...I just know that if I fail in my studies in my career then I will surely fail in my life coz I also want to enjoy my life in my own way and it is only possible when I will make money nd will be stable financially ...sad but reality is what it is...

[@anshikakashyap2000]

I went through your whole channel. I don't know your name or from which city you come from - the only thing i know is you are an 18 years old and you are a way too mature person for being an 18 years old; and I definitely understand why you are like so at this tender age. I just want to tell you - 'god bless you' and 'thank you' - for making this video; so many children and adults deserve love, care, respect but these emotions get neglected like any other one; so many people are there who are stuck in a situation like yours but have no one to talk about; can't even talk to elder/younger siblings much regarding this as they are also going through the same in most of the cases and finding real friends to talk about such things is another struggle. Thanks. Take care. God bless you. Have a great life ahead!

[@avsrte]

"All a child want is to be loved." Absolutely right dude, like as a child that's what I want from my parents too. I can feel you, stay strong girl, you'll make it one day, for sure❤

[@yoonchii07]

This video is so well spoken. I'm chinese, teenager, and a few years ago my parents wanted me for do well in school. So my parents actually made me go to boarding school in Switzerland, I'm still in switzerland studying right now, but I get so homesick sometimes and wish my parents never made me go... even though I see the opportunity. I'm here on scholarship, I studied so hard to get here at young age, I wish my parents understood this. You articulate your thoughts so clearly, well done

[@SwJSnG_IITDelhi]

I have listened lot about gaokao there... Do They know about JEE there?

[@yoonchii07]

@SwJSnG_IITDelhi Yes, I think so

[@SwJSnG_IITDelhi]

​​@@yoonchii07 Your really Chinese? I am filled with many questions now can I ask? :)?

[@yoonchii07]

@SwJSnG_IITDelhi of course

[@Luv_Yourself7]

I realised this when I was 14, and really, it broke me, I always hoped that someday, just someday they'll love me, maybe when I get the best grades, maybe when I don't go out or talk to friends, maybe when I obey their every order, but no. Whatever you do, something will be there which will always keep you away from their love. I couldn't relate to this video more, the childhood part just hit me. They've always control everything, I ate a burger for the first time in my life 2 days back, it's not about a burger or pizza, it is about everything to which I've always been unknown and it's not good. Thank you for making this video, it felt home when you mentioned that your name is Ana because even my nickname is Ana. Thank you so much and dear I know you'll build up and live your childhood dreams. Love you.

[@anikchakraborty92]

I wanna share smth, Im 20 now. I have had a relationship, held hands and been in love, felt the niceness of it all and also how much it sucks to lose that. Im 20 now. I have seen JEE 2 years in a row and how much anxiety i have now its brutal. The constant nagging voice of "you are not good enough" and the hopelessness is brutal. Im 20 now and i have cracked IITJEE. I did so because i wanted to, i thought it would prove to make me ^good^. It didnt. I still will pretend that it did. Im 20 now and i never took extra lessons, took tuitions, never joined dance classes because i always dropped out, oh if some idioit would have told me hey.."maybe u have adhd, wanna try a different approach?" All my youth i spent feeling not upto it and much of it was just adhd, and ofc anxiety. Heck, im 20 now, im not a kid anymore, and life is not that bad for me. But still i feel not good enough.

[@yehaaina]

hey i hope you're doing well, i hope you believe in yourself enough. i believe in your potential too. of all that you've been through and that has made you feel extremely underconfident, i hope you realise that you're much more than the shortcomings you've in you. that you're a beautiful and kind soul, who can flutter around, laugh and giggle, eat and feel the sunlight caressing your cheeks, making your skin shine. I hope you fall in love again, and life feels bearable. I hope you do well. Sending much love and the tightest of hugs.🫂🌻

[@anikchakraborty92]

@@yehaaina idk when ill be not on the verge of tears every other day, but i have decided to persue a life of challenges, its difficult, but ik its the only way out of this, anxiety related thoughts would otherwise eat me up and leave me feeling down endlessly. Somehow i dont see myself fitting in, like ever. Im not a smoker, or a 'cool' guy, although im pretty chill, this insecure side of me, it drags me down and beats me up daily, BUT TO NOT FIGHT my thoughts would be a damn waste of life, i will continue to fight against depression and anxiety. Thank you for this heartfelt message, as Rilke once said "Do not assume that he who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, he would never have been able to find these words." Im unaware of ur story, stranger. But i know there is some story that has shaped u into the person you are today who could string together these words that this time did me good. Thank you.

[@swanandibhende]

hits home, i can feel your desperation. all i wish for is that all of us going through these emotions find peace within themselves, as there is no one that is going to provide us with this feeling of security. i hope we can break our mental cages and years of trauma and live the life we dreamt and worked hard for ourselves. thank you for having the courage to speak about this, i am grateful i could find this video to start the year with something thought provoking.

[@AmreenBinteMahbub]

Im also 18 years old and Ive got the same feeling as yours and I've never watched any of your videos but this one came in my feed. And know what? I really... dont know what to say, but its.... so good to see you're expressing this so good. Like you're letting yourself talk about these, you're bottling up and them letting at least some pieces out. So you're a brave girl, and im really rooting for you to have the loving life you want soon. Take love!

[@notsteppenwolf]

the honest reality is those rich kids or people who are generally okay with their lives are not gonna see your content or would have scrolled away cause its not relatable to most of suck folks. I relate to this alot , currently a dropper preparing for jee im stuck in this rut and both my parents are working , im home alone most of the times and the only interaction i have with is only em and i always get taunted and shouted at for not scoring good enough, i feel very miserable. They go to parties and events which i have missed out on. I did not even celebrate my bday this year and thats fine. Man idrk but im truly depressed. it feels like even if i crack iit or clear my goals there is always something missing from my life. those memories, those regrets are something which hit harder now. Loved this one. sending hugs love

[@Not_normalme]

Stay here ♡

[@AryanM-xh7wq]

I'm a dropper too bro. My parents have been really toxic too, before and during my jee journey too. I always thought and still think that in the end they're still my parents and I love them, but I just have had enough now and can't have it anymore. I'm confident about a good college this time, hopefully iit. I'm going to start earning some money in college and cut them off. They need to understand that I too have a life and I just can't keep surviving on how they want me to. My friends who joined colleges are taking trips, having fun, one of my friends went on a cross country bike trip which his dad got him, here my stupid dad is telling me to stay away from vehicles next year since my astrology isn't good. This was just an example, I'm 19 now and still they think of me as some child who doesn't know what's right and what's wrong and want to control my life. This is why that cutting off part is absolutely necessary for me. Let's see how it goes.

[@definetlymeehihi]

This is the first time watching your video as an 18 year old .. At first I thought ,fulfilling our parents needs and hopes towards us is what I want to achieve ,that 's all my job is to doo. but with times I realise that , you need to live your own life by doing things which you always wanted too.. even if your parents are disagree with that fact, when I used to score good my parents where happy and when I wasn't then they where used to shout at.... there was only love at a condition ...but there's always a need to love your child unconditional. Thank youu sooo much for this video ,you are not alone

[@swayammohanty5109]

You articulate your thoughts and speak so well!! I could never.

[@AnushkaKamble-r3o]

girl even i'm 18 and ik how it feels cause even i'm from a middle class family where i always feel the same as you tbh not a bigger youtuber had not spoke about these things you made me cry after watching this hope you and more teenagers whu have not lived there childhood will enjoy the most once they will start earning by their own just wanna say one thing to you never blame yourself for what has happend to you take care and always be happy ❣

[@shivangiisharmaaa]

I'm not forced to do anything, it's just about the talk of love between parents and by the parents that i found so relatable. it's about the constant questioning of 'will it be worth it?' 'will this pressure pay off?' 'will it all end good?'. it's about childhood, teenage, and the ages that are about to come.

[@emaans-studentdiaries]

these words like literally touched my heartcore. It feels like these are the words i needed to hear for so long. As a child, i have also gone through alot much but i still have the hope to heal from my traumas. As a teenager right now, i suffer from anxieties. But i still feel that right now its the best time. you can literally just get up right now and find a job even if its paying less. i think that it doesnt matter how much rich or poor you have, what really matters is the right support and if you dont have it, know that you have yourself.

[@MariamSabir-z6n]

Feeling the same, really poor financial condition and broken relationship and viloence in family affected me a lot and literally no one cared how it affected me, how badly i want family to stick together happily with cousins uncle other members of family. I may sound stupid but i am ready to forgive everyone on everyone behalf just on condition that we will live like before happy and together

[@microwave_jungkook]

It really hurts when you end up hating the blood running in your veins... And, when it wasn't even your fault. Ended up here without a clue, but you won a heart and a subscriber. My story if wanna read: I had always been the picture perfect daughter and the badi behen everyone admired including my little sis's friends, haha. Well, that was until I meant an accident in the beginning of my 11th during my summer vacation( I'm in 12th rn). Had to leave Aakash because I wasn't able to move around, provided my leg injury. Couldn't join school for a damn month after my break was over and was somehow still expected to know it all. I barely managed to do my work and then ofc, exams had to ring a bell. Did horribly in majority of my subjects( PCB) and even though, for an average student those marks would've hit the mark but for someone like me, a straight A student with 90% in Boards, it just wasn't it. From there on, I began losing self morale including self worth. Boom, after about five months of treatment, doctors claimed that I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis( joint inflammation in Lamen's terms). For those examinations, my parents didn't cater much because they had known my state. Because my base level was so incompletely curated, naturally it was becoming difficult for me to cope up to complete my 11th with at least...decent marks. Mind you, I'm not exaggerating when I say I was every teacher's favourite...who ended up failing her Physics final exam by 3 marks. Gosh, was that shameful but my parents decided to preach it like their life depended on it, especially my mom. Even now, when I'm almost on the verge of finishing 12th, whenever we have an argument she decides to nag at it. "Fail hogayi tabh bhi ghamad to dekho", was something I heard very frequently. I'm not the slimmest and though I had lost loads of weight in the pandemic, I gained it all back due to lack of physical activity because of my condition. That became another taunt. "Kha khake dhoose hogayi hai aur buddhi pe aur charbi chadhti ja rahi hai" or, "Bhais ki tarah itna kha gayi par dimaag nahi chalta iska. Sirf shareer pe nutrition dikh raha hai, bheja to wahi ka wahi hai." I turned to wearing kurtas because of how suffocated I felt under my own skin. But even that was problem...Apparently, I had turned into an 'aunty' for them. My sis is excellent at studies, no doubt and I feel myself at a loss of words when they indirectly compare me to her or boast her achievements in front of my 'loser' self. But do they realise that I was equally as bright when I was in 7th? No. Sometimes, self exit seems like the best option but the closest I've gotten to that is self-harm. I don't wanna do it but it happens. I'm losing myself day by day, a solution still unknown. Sorry for any beautiful butterfly who has ever experienced any of this. (PS: I'm crying writing this.)

[@Not_normalme]

Then let me ask a question Is this video inappropriate in any terms? Sm i telling you to hate your parents? Or am i complaining ? What made you think this video is nice ?

[@microwave_jungkook]

@Not_normalme For those who still live under the sickening shadow of their parents, it definitely is triggering. But for someone like me, it's nothing but immensely relatable. By no means are you provoking a hate train for typical Indian parents but to express an opinion in such a judgemental society, isn't always the easiest. I edited my comment after reading other comments where people were sharing their stories. I felt a burden lifting off of my chest which made me like this video. Thank you, didi.

[@microwave_jungkook]

@Not_normalme Also, can I know your name? You resemble one of my classmates a lot. 'Ana' is your name?

[@Not_normalme]

You won't belive i was on bed for three months this year from may to july I wasnt even able to stand up properly Barely walk due to muscles cramps and swelling And I am very well used to this weight gaining phase in 10th I. Understand you and I wish you the best for boards Its hard but you can do it Even i failed my exams this year My teacher was so disappointed because i scored barely in 60s it's always in wither 65-70 or 70+ But it's ok you have time Study well and dont take stress And are your legs fine? I took homopethic treatment Now I am fine I walk without cramps and pain

[@Not_normalme]

Its ananya I just make it ana 😑😭😭🫠they can't pronounce ananya and i dislike that very much

[@dogbushes]

it was like watching my younger self speak her mind. i wish i could give you a hug and tell you that you deserve it all. you deserve to know the taste of all ice-cream flavors. you deserve to dream. you deserve to keep your inner child alive. you deserve to get a hug. you deserve to have it ALL. i hope you throw that "i can never" out of your life. keep your inner kid alive. do it for her. do it for yourself. do it for all the things you couldn't see or experience. it takes a lot of courage to see your life for what it is. most people live in denial but you know you deserved better. and you do! do not think of your mother or anyone when you study. do it for YOURSELF! i am sure that is what you mother would want, too. the first step is to make YOURSELF happy. the first step is to live up to your own expectations. sending loads of love and hugs 💌

[@supriyaagarwal4962]

I don't know why I'm able to resonate with this video so much. My parents were never abusive, but sort of controlling even though I never committed anything wrong as per say. I wasn't the brightest of minds but I was decent in studies. The reason for this is that my parents are quite old for me hence, they are always insecure. I'm soon to be 19 and my dad is around his early 60s. My parents migrated so many times that I've always had to mould myself according to the people around me and the remaining child inside was taken from COVID and financial problems together. I just hope people have a decent amount of money between the ages of 25-50 and have the right attitude and have their kids between 25-30.

[@santanuroy3329]

This... has probably reciprocated some thoughts I have been having for quite a while in such a precise way I could never do myself. thank you

[@gauisameme8697]

I genuinely love the way you express your thoughts and that is something I struggle doing. I hope you have realised it but you have the skills of a writer; your words were so poetic. And your voice feels like a warm hug. And I know it must be really hard for you but don’t think what you’re doing isn’t enough. You’re doing amazing. I can tell you’re trying your best. You still have many years ahead of you, please take some time out for yourself and live your childhood. Take care love, sending hugs 🫂❤

[@ritikatripathi1286]

It feels like someone somehow reads my heart 😔

[@aarjachadha1295]

Related to this so much. As a fellow, recently turned 18 year old, i stand by everything you said. Some parents are great, but then some of them are not so much... I dont believe the fact that " you should always respect your elders/ be good to your elders" . Ik that the sentiment comes from being good to others but sometimes, adults in our lives such as parents and grandparents dont do the right thing, and they must be called out for it. Hope you're able to figure it out tho and become more independent as you grow. As for the part where you said you've never had ice cream... Unfortunately (or fortunately), you will have to earn and become your own person to enjoy these things. It will take extreme levels of hard work and courage but im sure you can do it :) it is totally unfair that other kids dont go through such issues but thats just how the world works... im happy for them. All we can ever do in our OWN lives is be good, love yourself, be confident, spread happiness and spread love . Wish you all the best Ana, and thank you for sharing your thoughts :)

[@parkjimin5125]

Hey girly, i see you. I share some common opinions about how not every couple should have a child. As i have observed all the adults around me,there isn't anyone that i look up to or would want to grow up to be like them. I tired my best to put myself in their shoes and understand their perspective in order to makes things easier for me. You see, the adults around that we see and are told to respect and take their advice on aren't even adults, they just happened to be on earth one day and are growing older in age without any idea of adulting or what parenting really means. They studied,got married had kids as expected by society without ever having a chance to observe and develop their emotional range like us. I know that no kid deserve to go through a tough childhood as every single one of us only gets to go through it once but that's just a hard reality to swallow. I would say you can stand rather proud as life gave you many instances to go down the wrong path and just throw it all away but despite that you are here, give yourself a little credit for that. The emotional maturity that you have at this age will allow you to experience joy in little things but also give you more things to be sad about as well. Anything can happen in life, you never know what lies ahead of you! Here's to you beautiful soul🌷 You are appreciated and have every right to express yourself

[@LonelyAmazon]

Sometimes life feels unbearably heavy, like there’s no way out of the storm. But even the darkest nights eventually give way to dawn. It's okay to feel what you're feeling,there’s no shame in pain. Take it one breath at a time, one moment at a time. Healing doesn’t come all at once, but it will come. You’re stronger than you realize, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.

[@shine-jj6ww]

If you come across this comment, I am sending you the warmest hug for enduring what you have endured. And no child deserves to feel that way. You already know about your life, you have more insight than your peers but let me tell you something as a 22 year old with more less a similar story as you, you are a child, you ll have more knowledge when you look back but right now you are not a adult and adult responsibilities are not something that you necessarily have to do. It's incredible that you have used this channel as your outlet. Best of luck❤. I don't know what I can say to make you feel okay about your situation when I literally have the same story. I want you to believe that it WILL get better. ❤

[@icandoitwithabrokenheartgirlie]

last day of this year.this year was really tough for me as my parents arent that understanding and my bsf just broke our friendship so i feel completely lonely dont know why i just clicked this video i dont watch these kind of videos tbh but this literally made me cry i have no motivation to do anything i just feel like a burden tbh but as i watched this video i felt like someone did understand me also im the oldest sister in my family so i have no one in my family to speak about, being the oldest hurts so much the silent expectations and all.this video actually felt so comforting please keep making these videos there are alot of people who needs to listen about this...

[@Not_normalme]

Stay here I'm always here

[@icandoitwithabrokenheartgirlie]

@Not_normalme 🙃💗

[@littlemeow6729]

I'm also turning 18 in December of 2025. I also had childhood traumas. I never told that to my parents. I think I have grown up and it will be pointless to explain my trauma to people because most of them ignore it by saying "you are feeling sad for those simple things?!!" They can never understand how we felt during the traumatic situations because they weren't in our place to feel the pain. I heard somewhere that it's better not to tell our pain to anyone and work on ourselves because maybe god wanted us to be secretive and be ahead of the people. You go girl, everything will be okay 😊

[@unrealhumaninreallife]

Girl , I am also 17 yo girl suffering from same !! Preparing for jee but i dont want too ! Smth out of league but my parents , I hate me when i hate on them but i cant do anything because i am just so sick , SO SICK of life and everything around you . I feel for you , and virtually I relate to you and rooting for you ! You go girl !!🌟🌟

[@vamakshitirole2001]

Same 😢

[@karthika921]

"I literally feel like crying after watching this. I wish you were my friend because I would do my best to make you happy and show how special you are❤

[@reigns0077]

I think that , when the child doesn’t get that love and attention in their childhood they get either awkward with love or simply cant express it… they then start feeling a big tide of emotions but can’t express it thoroughly and gets misunderstood instead and that feeling is just suffocating

[@Alona_thomas]

This made me cry and I feel you , you’re amazing please know we all love you, especially me ❤

[@Not_normalme]

Iam reading all comments ... I feel like posting these videos was a good decision I'm overwhelmed by now Thank you for watching Please come back again ♡

[@saulehasheikh7006]

At this point nothing is more relatable than"bachpan bi gaya jawani bi gayi ab ik pal toh hume jeene doh,jeene doh

[@VSS-w9y]

Sometimes it feels like We were born without our permission, we are facing all the problems without our permission

[@HabibaHayat-k6u]

From someone who went through those same thoughts, first of all a big hug. I can just vividly see myself in all those times asking and questioning the same things and I know how it feels. The things one goes through can only be understood by the person alone. It's been so long but the things that helped me the most at those times is 1.Stopping expecting anything from anyone 2.Loving myself cause self help is big help. 3. Healing or Focusing my attention to my wishes or dreams how to live them And again it was tough but the list goes on but the more I thought about the problems and focused on their behaviors the more messy or unhappy it felt inside so just turned my attention on other things that changed many things and I'm positive it's going to be good forward.

[@AratrikaLives]

same here friend. now that i am turning 18 soon, its doesnt feel like i really lived the last 2 years. kept preparing, failing , achieving, again failing and being stuck in an endless cycle of self hate and hopelessness to the point where i thought my family is the only thing worth living for. now after falling sick for weeks and getting time off from my studies finally after 2 years of endless trying, i feel like that cycle is broken and my expectations are gone. not sure if this the ideal time to restart, but its better to restart that to keep pushing towards something that has completely exhausted you and has sucked you dry

[@Not_normalme]

Stay safe angel ♡

[@mahipatil15]

you talk like valerie lin. this video is so calming and relatable

[@prasadbayaskar3630]

Made me emotional at 12 am. Take care girl, sending you warm hugs 🤍

[@acetrail5715]

this video was so raw. i really appreciate the realness. it must've taken a lot of strength and courage to say all of that out loud. i know a stranger's words might feel really shallow but for what it's worth, i'm proud of you and you should be too.

[@trashlax]

Stay strong. Ive been there, i can resonate with everything you just said. you'll grow up to be A wonderful person. Trust me. You'll build a strong and loving circle.

[@Not_normalme]

I appreciate that

[@insecureveluv]

real asf we need more content like this kudos to u for being so straightforward without the slightest bit of glamorisation

[@32.saibahelal21]

"never let your child be a writer, never let your child touch the ink" the greater undertones and implications behind this had me teary. I interpreted it as how writing has emerged as a mainstream hobby in the past 10 years or so just because of how broken we all are. But i wanna ask you, what exactly did you mean by this?

[@Not_normalme]

Ahmm It means to be solely dependent on journals , poems , expressing grief instead of sharing with people It's dangerous

[@32.saibahelal21]

​@Not_normalme relatable as hell :( thanks for answering tho!

[@ed22a19]

@Not_normalme ooooo now a I got it that is sooooo true I too had no one till now with whom I could share my thoughts with but from past 5-6 months I have got someone who is really a good friend of mine with whom I can share my feelings... I just hope u achieve everything you want in ur life n when u do u will be a wonderful lady becuz u can very well understand the deepest of feelings.....I wish u all the happiness ~ ur new friend (m16 didi)

[@skidzoskunk]

"never let them, to be a writer in their life."

[@shinaissante]

I’m 18 too, and I really feel you. Life has been so different for me as I reflect on my childhood. I’m deaf since birth and my parents worked incredibly hard to make sure I had everything I needed. I went to many special schools, and they were always there for me because I needed therapy. They cared for me deeply. Later, I joined a regular school. I couldn’t speak at first, and I always wished I could communicate like others. But over time, I improved my speech skills and worked hard at school. I even became a classical dancer by third grade. Things started to shift in 7th grade when I had a teacher who was very toxic toward me. It was really hard, especially since she had personal struggles of her own, but she took it out on me. One day, she hit me with a stick, and that moment was traumatic. Then came the lockdown, and I started noticing my hearing getting worse, even with hearing aids, which made me rely more on lip reading. It became increasingly difficult, and by 10th grade, things were unbearable. That same teacher became my class teacher and was extremely harsh. She yelled at me all the time, and one day, even the manager yelled at me in front of everyone. It broke me. I spent many nights crying, and my mom felt so sad about it. Eventually, in 10th grade, I found a true friend who cared for me deeply, and that gave me some peace. But in 11th grade, things got tough again. I moved to a new school, and I tried to love my classmates with all my heart, but I started to feel alone when my best friend left for another school due to the toxicity of my classmates. My classmates began ignoring me, and things just kept getting worse. I couldn’t hear the announcements during school events, and I felt so isolated. Some classmates started spreading rumors about me, saying I was rude and seeking attention. I felt like I was losing everything-my friendships, my confidence, and my academic performance. I was overwhelmed, and I even gave up on my Instagram, where I used to be popular. They even told me I was just looking for sympathy. Eventually, I found a few new friends from other divisions in the same batch, but even then, I was afraid to trust them. I started to realize that people are different and have different views, but many of them just used me. My classmates always gossiped about everyone, including me. I was frustrated with everyone and society. One day, I cried so much. I was treated like trash by people I cared about, and it hurt deeply. My mental health became very worse. I felt like I was going crazy. Everything changed me. I wish I could be the old me, the one who was good at everything. Now, I’ve cut out toxic people from my life and focused on becoming more productive. I’ve got two or three close friends now, and I’m learning to be okay with that. I can feel your pain, girl. It’s tough, but I know we’ll get through it. Don’t give up. You’re strong, and you’re not alone. Big hug from me 💗

[@Not_normalme]

This brings tears 🫠🫠🫠you know stay here and come back again I am always here for you And now i think putting my words as captions was not time consuming. I hope you can speak and listen one day . Please dont loose hope I am always here You know sign language?

[@shinaissante]

@Not_normalme Thank you so much for your kind words. They truly mean a lot to me. I try my best not to lose hope, even though it’s challenging at times. And yes, I know sign language, but only a little. I’m happy to say that I can now speak normally after years of speech therapy, and my family supports me a lot. They are very patient and understanding, and I’m so grateful for that. Unfortunately, my old friends weren’t as patient. It was hard for them to understand me, which made things difficult. My accent is also different from others, which sometimes makes people hesitant to communicate. There are no other deaf people in my surroundings, and people often lack the patience to understand me. But finding the deaf community has been a huge comfort, and it helps me feel more connected. I also speak two languages, which makes it easier to express myself in different situations. Thank you again for your encouragement and support-it truly means the world to me!

[@enigma5837]

Girl I've been suffering with this feeling for months and years.... Lately it really burnt me out..... You are saying it aloud, you gave those emotions words!

[@nrm5581]

today's the last day of the year and i clicked on this by chance yet stayed until the end, so, let me tell you that i not only hope but i believe you will have a best year because i really want you to 💗💗💗

[@dreamstime..7894]

You know what I want to share this to my dad , but i know nobody cares at the end of the day it would only make me feel emptier inside . You spoke everything I wanted to scream . I'm 20 , studying till I feel numb but it's not effective and productive because, everything that ever happened or resisted me from being free and alive , just starts replaying and half of my study time goes into sorting , rearranging and forcing my thoughts . I will never let my younger brother and my kids to go through this . I've lost myself majorly along the way only to get appreciated for once, and I miss my old self . The family trauma , failed relationship has made me something I never was 5 years from now . I found you today and your videos are as if I'm writing in my diary !

[@Not_normalme]

You're not alone 💖💖💖🫂

[@suyashtiwari1431]

It's commendable that you're expressive of however you feel about your situation, and I wholly encourage you to utilize this platform to let out stuff that consumes your peace, and you can't express it with the people closest to you in terms of blood relationship. And when you present your vulnerability on a public platform, you're bound to face scumbags scavenging around, spreading hatred everywhere, but you shall not take a glimpse at them, for there's so much positivity to look at; let the hatemongers blab. You keep growing and keep doing whatever feels like a good vent whenever you need it. God bless! ❤

[@Not_normalme]

Thank you ma'am

[@Florence-iu4fv]

All children deserve love and happiness. Children with diseases or disabilities are still good not wrong or damaged. Your communication and speech is awesome.

[@medhamish24]

right when i thought i was so alone with these feelings

[@mjahan_]

every single word.....felt! I feel heard! you're an amazing young woman!

[@highvalue0]

girl you randomly came into my fyp i have never clicked a vedio this fast tbh i dont know you but i wish you the best ❤ a lot of things you said i have felt to.. all i can say be strong trust the universe everything will be just fine❤ god bless youu

[@Not_normalme]

Thank you! You too!

[@Voldamorthasclamidiya]

Bro the way you speak is so powerful, your aura is brighter than any human being I've ever seen

[@AbhikaMahawar]

And hey i'm very proud of you cuz u took the step to make this video and share that means a lot i just turned 15 and i gotta say i can relate thank you sooo much

[@sarikasrivastava3556]

"sometimes all a child want is to be loved " that hit me! It's not like I'm not close with my parents I'm really close with my mom yk emotionally connected but tbh I'm connected because she's an introvert and I feel heard but not understood! As an 18 year old I've recently realized all of this what u just said! Feels like my self worth depends on my grades feels like I'm worthless and will initially fail at anything and everything! That's what I feel when I'm home The worst part is when u realize these are your own parents who used to buy u anything and treat u the best when u were a kid! And now it feels so distant feels like I belong somewhere else and not here!! At this point when as a teenager we want some love we don't get any all we get is so called materialistic thingss which won't even matter tbh after a point I'm not bitching abt parents but the voices in my head are just not getting quiet! Heartbreaking to see so many 18 y olds already losing from life! DEAR PARENTS , ALL WE WANT IS YOUR LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE 💫

[@ananyagoswami-us9fw]

I just hope that you know.... never let go of the things you think you deserve. You WILL find people who love you and you WILL find people who you deserve, even if it takes long. Don't try to change your feelings about things and behaviors for other people. You will be out of this one day. I believe in you.

[@ta_worldz]

girl, you spoke my thoughts , my feeling , someone please make this popularr

[@tippytoes__]

You just gave words to my emotions . So much love to you ❤❤

[@suriyanazmin1739]

Whosoever is reading this or relating to this video here's a pov of mine.I can deeply relate to what you're expressing in this video. I went through something similar where societal expectations and family dynamics left me feeling emotionally conflicted and drained. For a long time, I struggled to feel love or connection the way I hoped, and it took me years to realize that the love we receive isn’t always what we need. Over time, I learned to accept that some things may never change, but I also found strength in deciding how I want to live differently. It’s not easy, but this realization gave me clarity and hope. I just wanted to share this in case it helps you reflect on your own experience. Sometimes, hearing another perspective makes the journey feel less isolating. Keep sharing your thoughts-you’re helping others process theirs too. Mould yourself no one's gonna do it for you.

[@kittu.jain2008]

Hey gurll I love you.🥺❤️ I accidentally clicked on your video and I don't regret it. You are such a pure soul more power to you.🌻 As a 16 year old teenager I agree with your thoughts sometimes I wish I could go back in time and re-live my childhood days better. But that's the harsh truth of life time gone never comes back. From past few weeks I was dealing with so much stress and self doubt. My parents provide me a healthy lifestyle sometimes I just get afraid if I'll ever be able to fulfill their expectations from me. They randomly say things about the future they expect from me and it just makes me doubt myself so much. Life was much better when we didn't not everything. After spending weeks in self doubt I've come to a point that never let your inner child die I say NEVER. In the race of becoming successful and achieving our goals never forget to enjoy being yourself. You should not be blank when a kid asks you : Didi aapki hobbies kya hai? I don't really know why I wrote this down here it just felt safe. I've hit the subscribe button. May God bless you girl. 🌻❤️⭐

[@khushibhatia9584]

i can relate so much man each and every word im 18 and scared of what the future will be but honestly, life is for living and idk in what position i am rn, but itna ik its not living, hopefully everything works out

[@kittu.jain2008]

@khushibhatia9584 You will be fine. Don't ruin your present in the worries of future. Enjoy everyday and do more of what you love so that atleast you won't be regretting when you look back. Take care angel.🌻

[@khushibhatia9584]

@@kittu.jain2008 this means so much, thank you so much and may god bless you