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[@jampsonn1826]

I actually love this bc I tend to eat my meal (with some fruit on the side), and then "wait" to have dessert after. I end up trying to convince myself not to have the dessert even if I want it. 😅 thanks abbey, deff going to try this!

[@blueperson77]

“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” ‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭3:9‬ ‭NIV‬ Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” ROMANS 10:9-11 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame” “For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭19:10‬ ‭ God wants us to believe in His One and Only Son, Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, who died for our sins :D When we truly believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God, who died for our sins so we could have eternal life with God, we are saved, and have life in Jesus Christ 💗 Jesus genuinely loves you, and always waits for you to come to Him 🕊💞 May God bless you all ❤

[@zettagotbored9341]

I have also found this to help with cravings. If I buy something that's all sugar and chocolate and delicious I'll eat it in a day. Doesn't matter how much there is. It might last two if there's a lot of it. If, however, I make a point of incorporating it until a meal (especially if I have to pack lunch for that day anyway or something) then I don't want it outside of that meal. Not nearly as much anyway. It just isn't as fun and special and different anymore and it's kinda lovely

[@TheSpindlecat]

It's sort of like when our mom would send us to school with a little ziplock bag of chips for lunch. That little bit was incorporated into the meal, rather than giving us the whole bag at home and expecting us to stop

[@blueamber2726]

Having an ED is so hard! We got this. Thank you for your help with these videos!

[@Sassysonia1234]

This is actually so true and it helps me not binge. I am eating a pastry with my egg white omelette, fruit, and Turkey bacon every morning for a month and I have not binged for a while.

[@alyssaackerman3306]

I have to try this! Ty for posting things like this, you’ve really helped me improve my relationship w food!

[@huskydadtokoda]

Thank you so much for this. Everything in moderation right. I don't buy chips or cookies for the house because I'll night binge and eat the whole container and wake up feeling awful about myself. I'm gonna try this, make a plate with some fruit and nuts and one serving of chips inatead of sitting down with the whole bag

[@Trivia_Geek_]

I actually love doing this. It makes the healthy food seem more satisfying to my cravings, and the "junk" food seem more filling so I don't feel the need to have the whole container of cookies. My favorite is a cookie with Greek yogurt and some berries.

[@oliviaogden1101]

Where were you during my childhood (I know, not born yet). My baby boomer aunt struggled with an eating disorder her whole life and I think that this would have been a game changer not just for her, but for my relationship with her. I've always had a sweet tooth, and she just couldn't cope. I think that this trick would have been great for us both.

[@melody_shmelody]

We found we actually eat healthier in my house if we do this-we include dessert/a treat with every dinner and some lunches if we want. And often we’re full from dinner and don’t even want it. Or sometimes we start with dessert and eat less of the main meal. It really is genius

[@Diana-qp2rw]

That’s such a great tip, Abbey, it really helps a lot!

[@ashleymitrick2575]

Done this and it does work. After I struggled with ED. Less I told myself I couldn't have things, the less I craved them. The more I "pumped" myself up about the other foods being equally exciting, I looked forward to those as well. So having fruit as dessert was often a choice I looked forward to and didn't even think about a cookie but also some days I was like, yep cookie day. And I didn't feel any different ❤. Sometimes together ❤

[@mikafizz1022]

fruit as dessert?

[@EGGrun]

I tell myself I will only have one cookie, one piece od chocolate, or whatever. I serve it with more nourishing foods... But than I polish the rest of the cookies anyway.

[@Padraigp]

You need to get about four cookies and layer then up woth apples and chocolate nibs and penaut butter and whatever else ... or if your eally just want two cookies crush them up and make a sunday with them and fruit and like fill a bowl. Like whatever volume of cookies you normally eat say if thats ten cookies fits into a big bowl or 6 in a small bowl fill that bowl with bananas and apples and yoghurt and caramel sauce and like proer nice homemade caramel sauce and like make it a friggen amazing banana split cookie sensation. A bag of cookies is so plain and boring and kinda sad. Make it an amazing dish like you would with a salad ...you wouldnt just sit and eat the mayonaise out of the jar you crush this and chop that and arange it nice. Do that with the cookies. Or...make homemade cookies theyre so easy and when you spend time making them you dont just eat them all cos you reslly apprecoate each and everu one. Hope that helps!

[@inspiredtoenrich]

This is what I do for my daughter. We don’t have a ranking of foods and she doesn’t have to “earn” something that she enjoys. I do talk to her when I make her plate about having protein, carbs and healthy fats and then something for fun.

[@danielle4976]

this is so CBT and I love it

[@teamdream415]

This is a really nice tip, although I did the same and came to it on my own, this video made me realize consciously that I'm doing it 😅 (I always overate with muesli or cereals, because it was just never filling me enough...so I decided it's now gonna be part of my morning yogurt bowls instead of a bowl of milk, and now I don't fear them, and have found a new appreciation for the crunch)

[@NikitaHunt]

Thanks for the tip Abby I’ll definitely try it

[@dianedavidson5283]

Putting the crisp cookie on the plate with the wet grape lessons the taste/feel/pleasure of the cookie. I know that's not your point, but it hit me!

[@annakoszegi5176]

This really worked for me. It's just a snack in the end.

[@bottlecap6334]

This works! I had some struggle for almost a year with unhealthy foods, almost falling into an eating disorder, and I did this with chips! Yes! Potato crisps, I played my dinner and next to it on the same plate some chips, now I’m not scared of them :>

[@161290fer]

I am learning a lot from your videos about a good relationship with food (in my case sweet food! Thank you for sharing your knowledge, time and great energy!

[@justinhamilton8647]

This is so insanely true. I had a plate of normal savory food and just decided to stick a snickers bar on the edge because I didn’t have a tray. Suddenly the guilt I had associated with the snickers bar was just gone because it was on the same plate as like my casserole

[@yomi_ash6324]

This works great with kids too. All the food that we cooked for dinner has to be on the plate. No one is forced to eat it but my kids will mostly be willing to at least try it if it’s on the plate. Sometimes after the 10th or 20th time it’s on their plate they will try it and sometimes they actually like it

[@philmccracken2534]

Fear foods?? Never heard this term before. People should not be afraid of foods!!

[@carmengarcia508]

Great tip! I will do it for sure

[@Unapologeticalyme]

Love this idea

[@blueamber2726]

Also by getting to know the ingredients that go into the cookies and being more familiar with everything, you’re more thinking about the butter which are healthy fats, and the egg which is healthy and the milk which has good things that we need too. There is benefit to all of the ingredients in moderation - too much of anything isnt good. But getting to make it from home first helps you appreciate the ingredients separately as well. There’s much more I could say! Stay strong guys

[@LiaBella0921]

Marshmallows and Cucumbers. Not a great combo but I can eat both now. Also can work for kids who refuse to try new things.

[@hcure4003]

I hate being severely ill & insulin resistant with eating disorder 😢 I've got no option but to completely avoid the cookie every single day otherwise I'm in danger. I really appreciate these videos though because I feel less alone in my eating disorders. Maybe someday I'll get better and be able to implement these tips on some level.

[@beththegreen]

So so great advice

[@rxgaribay]

This is a good idea! Lovely dress.

[@user-fc4xg5ym1t]

Let’s not pretend like cookies and whole foods like vegetables for example are equal. Imo it’s way better to recognize that cookies are “fun foods” that are ok to have on an occasion while also being aware that there’s zero nutritional value in them and eating too many is just bad for you in the long run. Yeah you shouldn’t label them as fear foods either, but let’s be real there’s nothing valuable in them (nutrition wise) aside from them tasting good

[@Shayron1989]

She’s speaking to people who binge and/or restrict. Any labelling of food as good/bad, healthy/unhealthy, fun etc can trigger binges and/or restrictions in those of us who have disordered eating. Yes, we know that there is different nutritional values in foods, but ultimately that knowledge has not helped us eat in moderation. If you don’t get why this would be useful, you’re not her target audience.

[@WhereIsCynthia]

Abbey, I really appreciate you 🥰🥰🥰

[@nberkel]

I had a giant piece of cake alongside a giant salad and grilled veggies/eggs for dinner 👍🏼

[@llittlebunny]

I literally mix my fear foods with health foods like…rice…I would make a vegan vegetable risotto and it reminds me about my childhood recipes that my mom made me🥺❤️

[@abhrantapanigrahi3475]

“In moderation” that’s they key to everything in life.

[@keepernod2888]

How you define moderation is also important.

[@BrwnEydGrl878]

I LOVVVVE this!

[@nyokaarchibald-qb8vh]

This is so smart ❤

[@ZeroThe0ne]

Would this work for things like Pringles aswell? Have always had a habit of saying "I'll only have a few" then finish the whole can and throw up. I have tried putting them in a bowl by themself but I still go back to to can.

[@Rama-zg3tj]

Maybe you should intentionally pour the whole thing into a plate and enjoy each piece. Make the intention of eating the whole thing as a “meal” and give yourself permission to eat them. That way you can’t go back for the can and binge on it but rather eat and savor without feeling like an uncontrollable food monster (that’s how I feel with my binge episodes :( and you could also end up finding yourself feeling much more satisfied and fuller. but anyway, I’m no professional whatsoever but I truly do hope you find this somewhat helpful. Wish you the best of luck, stranger!

[@grinchy99]

​@@Rama-zg3tj Love that idea!

[@dariahollenstein8821]

Another idea might be to make a snack bowl. Like ofc the Pringles but also some string cheese, cherry tomatoes and some edamame beans. Therefore you have different nutrients,flavors and consistencies while still having the Pringles... Just an idea

[@ZeroThe0ne]

@@dariahollenstein8821 hey I read both your comments and they sound really amazing! Thank you so much for the advice! Have a nice day/night whoever you are ❤

[@Ravi0823]

Brilliant!

[@Mandassina]

gonna try this

[@suzq2744]

This is also why whenever I have cookies I always like to eat them with some soy-milk because then I feel like I’m getting the stabilizing fat and protein compounds, to keep my blood sugar from spiking too much and prevents me from wanting to go on an all out binge. Having a little fruit beforehand like you did here also helps because it puts down a base of fiber from the complex carbohydrates before I start on the simple carbs, aka the cookie💯💖

[@slavette]

that's great and all but I have ARFID and can't physically eat food that touched another food

[@kateri17]

This is what I do for my kids; I put their dessert on their dinner plate with everything else. Takes away the idea that desserts are a reward or some kind of extra coveted food. It's worked very well for us.

[@ashleypechin2066]

Ohhhh I’m gonna throw some of that cookie dough I have in the oven rn

[@lynnritchie231]

I have no fear foods.....😂

[@garlicbread9248]

I can eat dessert literally all day, even when putting it on the same plate... That's the only binge I really need to learn to stop😢

[@lousstylingplace4179]

Yes!!

[@fannyfish2205]

What if I fear all high calorie dense food😂

[@liloulux2739]

Love your dress

[@lexisinke2230]

How about just not eating the processed junk food and realizing you don’t need it or benefit from it to begin with. But I guess that’s eating disordered in your eyes because society puts pleasure seeking on a pedestal rather then discipline. There is a reason people don’t mentally feel good after eating something that objectively isn’t good.

[@jimmymacnutrition6628]

Stop encouraging people to eat this crap. Adding it on a plate with healthy food doesn't change anything. Eating all kinds of junk food in moderation does not make for a healthy diet.

[@Shayron1989]

For people who binge/restrict, this is good advice. If you don’t get why, you’re not her target audience.

[@michelleneal6954]

This sounds like my therapy regarding men 😂 I can see why I eat disordered and date disordered 😮

[@charliegroves]

What is a fear food?

[@selaserafin3798]

Bish I have insulin resistance

[@electrodynamicorb6548]

Lol fear foods. How about just hey these calories aren’t worth it foods 😆

[@gamingdisastercayla]

My fear food is anything that has cream cheese. I LOVE cream cheese and cheesecake and it’s so heavy in calories it’s hard not to feel guilt for having one slice of cheesecake 😭

[@nyorumi5221]

Okay but the autistic stress I experience when certain foods touch each other 😢 😅

[@ericmgarrison]

When I was a Manny, I had a child with autism, and I would lay out the plate, exactly as Abbey says, and it would be a bunch of little mise en place cups with items in them but all on one big plate. Nothing touched, and everything was of equal value.

[@nyorumi5221]

@ericmgarrison Yes! I try to do this when I'm not feeling lazy about doing dishes, haha 🤣 That's great childcare, though, man. So many people dismiss kids who have those needs or tell them to get over it 🥰 Appreciate you

[@audreynelson3997]

I ❤ chocolate chip cookies!

[@sharlesb7735]

True sugar addicts can’t have things in the house, just the same as alcoholics, you can’t just have 1.

[@BestLifeMD]

Good thing that there’s no such thing as a True Sugar Addict then! ( per the medical definition of addiction).

[@sharlesb7735]

@@BestLifeMD yeah well they’ve lied to us for yrs just to support big pharma, so nothing surprises me.

[@teacakes116]

Scientific studies show that the Alcoholics Anonymous method doesn't work and that a moderation approach is a more effective way to combat alcoholism and other addictive behaviors.

[@CLNSL8]

Love your top is that a dress?

[@ChadRD]

"Everything in moderation" is bs. Look at the state America. Does it look like people can moderate? That word means 10 things to 10 different people. Plus, if there are, say, 50 junk foods that you are trying to moderate, then you'll likely be eating one of these "foods" frequently, and hence, not being truly moderate with crap foods in general.

[@yellowskies2551]

Yes but I’ll still separate stuff like Mac and cheese

[@ericmgarrison]

Just put it in a small saucer on the same plate.

[@andrewgaudet9090]

Brutal.

[@allisonhunter1063]

ALL FOOD IS GOOD FOOD!

[@adriansverckov1862]

Just no

[@rebeccasinclair7672]

Wow

[@MissyBelleSYD]

Unless you’re a sugar addict, in which case skip the high sugar cookie and grapes and eat some nuts and cheese.

[@janetslater129]

I'm not sure how soda would work with being on a plate, but hey.

[@starberry22]

pour it in as soup

[@tigerlily3574]

Nah, I don’t want to get broccoli on my cookie🤮

[@indigobunting2431]

Shame eaters eat alone. Seldom meals on plates.

[@brians7100]

You all should count calories

[@RBray-vz4rs]

Just one cookie L O L

[@AmaiJanice]

I don't fear cookies I make thousands of brownies for my customers. I simply don't care for them. Now...dried fruit ...dates..Love those!!

[@odhinnswrath]

Horrible advice

[@Haexxchen]

"Hacks" don't sound intuitive...

[@michellerenee92580]

i fear eggs and i will always fear eggs!!!!

[@annjames1837]

Diabetes doesn't understand moderation.

[@CRG_]

I don’t think that’s how diabetes works…

[@kobaltkween]

​​@@CRG_ It's kinda true. You only become diabetic when your insulin resistance is so high that your body can't produce any more insulin than it already is, and your cells are so insulin resistant that they can't process sugar/simple starch. Moderation only matters as much as insulin sensitivity you have left. And your insulin sensitivity only increases after years of keeping your insulin levels low.

[@Beckiea1234]

I love all food and I fear nothing 🤤

[@uppermoonzeroo]

ur not helping ppl who are trying to lose weight

[@Sophie-bp9vu]

Why? I think she really helps people to stop binge eating and recover from eating disorder. That’s how you can fix your relationship with food and lose weight (if you’re not in your healthy weight).

[@secretadmirer109]

Thats not her job though

[@allisonhunter1063]

Her job is a dietitian. Her job is to help people get the most out of food by teaching you how to prepare things, what combos to eat together for the best satiety.

[@anufoalan]

@@allisonhunter1063 and all those factors can help you lose weight, but that isn’t her primary focus, and frankly I don’t think losing weight should ever be the primary focus with food, also it’s one goddamn cookie and saying it isn’t going to help with weight loss is super toxic and diet culture centred very opposed to the intuitive eating Abby campaigns for.

[@carmencorona8477]

that’s not her goal with these videos; she just wants to better relationships with food