Let's Decide - Is Flirting A Form Of Cheating?

[@nickywagner1703]

My rule is that if you wouldn’t do it in front of the other person it’s cheating whether a little or a lot. I’m loyal and respectful, I expect the same in return.

[@zariaeda007]

Nicky Wagner Yes thank you! It's true, if you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other then you know it's wrong.

[@kylesavage4525]

Also if u wouldn't want the same thing to be done to you.

[@nickywagner1703]

Kyle Savage absolutely!

[@tammyellaree6189]

Nicky Wagner I love that perception. If you know your not ever going to make that same move in front of your spouse you best not be making that move! Love it!

[@jenbradley4728]

Spot on!

[@UmmansamirasChild]

Yes it is in fact 100% cheating. If you have someone why would you go on making advances on someone else. That’s unacceptable.

[@callmemayhem6366]

Noor M if I may add something too right... Steve said in the beginning that ppl were forgetting to ‘mention their partners’ ...How do u forget that u have a partner??? 😂😂😂 If you’re in a relationship, the only reason for u to ‘forget’ about them, you about to cheat. Plain and simple.

[@Joe-wr9fn]

Noor M I can tell you're single

[@masanamabaso8728]

Ooh 😮 This other guy flirts with me and I blush 😊I don’t know if he’s got a g , I’m not at fault if he does 💅🏼it’s on his part

[@TheYokotta]

Jesus said : “ if you look at a women with lust , you already committed adultery . Best answer everrr!!

[@magicdinho107]

Amen!! It starts in the heart

[@alexandramateo4444]

🎤 drop !!

[@colecole3352]

It goes for woman also. The hot firefighter,dude on TV ect

[@tinaalbritton3450]

💯

[@williamrisbridger60]

That means that there is not a single person on this planet who is not a cheater.

[@AttonBrown]

Cheating needs to be defined within your own relationship, there's no black and white yes or no for everyone

[@starlitsunrise17]

The_other_black_guy I agree 100%.

[@naomia472]

I agree with this

[@chronobretz9511]

Well it is unfortunately cheating

[@AttonBrown]

@@chronobretz9511 how so?

[@valerielinares2068]

Oh, honey, you don't need to have a whole conversation about it. The answer is simple: Yes. Period.

[@valerielinares2068]

No, I haven't. But very easily, flirting can open the door to cheating. One thing leads to another, next thing you know, you're cheating. A forest fire starts with only a spark. Put that spark out before it has the chance to start a fire.

[@santriciajones2579]

Valerie Linares So flirting is not cheating in your opinion? Just asking

[@debyanggraini7034]

Because some people try to make up reasons that it is not cheating ;)

[@azzzie8908]

@@valerielinares2068 then why didint you just say that?

[@kylesavage4525]

All these forms of ''micro-cheating'' are red flags for me. They are clear signs that you are not honest, you do not respect me and you are prone to sleep around and i am not ok with any of that. For people wondering if it is ok they should think how ok they would be if their spouse/bf/gf do those same things to them.

[@mothergoose341]

Kyle Savage Red flags for not including your spouse in every convo? "I wouldn't go in there for a while.. My wife and I just took a dump".. "My husband and I can't swim right now.. Our monthly friend came to visit".. Oh the possibilities..

[@kylesavage4525]

No need to mention your spouse in every convo ofc but if u don't mention him/her at all to someone who is flirting with you or asking something general about your life is more than suspicious.

[@preciousadorable7416]

My ex defined cheating as "anything that you wouldn't do in front of your partner" and from this day, this became my definition of cheating as well.

[@Gigilovehugs]

Precious Adorable. I 100% agree

[@CK-wv5hg]

That's a broad term that can apply to pretty much anything. I wouldn't agree to that term.

[@matildamaher2650]

Exactly right

[@preciousadorable7416]

@@CK-wv5hg I think I understand your point, and I respect your opinion. I guess the word ,",Anything " seems to broad/generalized. But some understood what I meant.

[@CK-wv5hg]

@@preciousadorable7416 That's fair, looking back I'm not sure why I gave you a hard time. I still wouldn't define that as my definition of cheating but I can respect those that do so.

[@Christian80806]

Flirting is ALWAYS cheating. If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it's cheating!

[@koi2945]

chris mit well baby if you talk in front of yoour stairs

[@waynepayne9875]

I wouldn't whack off in front of my spouse

[@kbanghart]

When my wife and I are out in a club or something having a good time, especially in a place like vegas, I love it if she gets hit on and even flirts. We have even talked about having a threesome.

[@kbanghart]

@@waynepayne9875bummer. I would, and have.

[@waynepayne9875]

@@kbanghart SAD!

[@godlovescouture8605]

I disagree with Steve. Finding your “soul mate” will not stop a man from cheating. Fear of God has to be greater than fear of wife.

[@haileystarlight8376]

Finally somebody that gets it

[@michelesapone2104]

Women cheat to

[@fallguystester6029]

Why is the man always cheating dont women cheat

[@nellyc1002]

@@fallguystester6029 you’re right. It takes a woman to cheat with a man! Bottom line people cheat!

[@WARNEY2K9]

Won’t stop a woman either

[@helenntlokwana2652]

Flirting is cheating, period!

[@truth322]

If he cares more about making another woman feel good by flirting with her than he does about disrespecting or hurting you, the most important woman in his life...

[@chronobretz9511]

That works the other way as well if she is acting single she can be single

[@RicoLamar987]

You have to CLEARLY define what your idea of cheating is from the beginning....so both of you reach a reasonable consensus on what constitutes cheating in YOUR relationship & the consequences that follow

[@quitecontrary23]

RicoLamar987 I agree. Be specific.

[@NBaBall3r26]

Yes because flirting is the introduction to the affair. As people we need to set boundaries.. we need to let the other person know you are in a relationship & you wont tolerate that but we dont do that.......

[@markoperic5023]

I never told the one I love how jelous she made me when she flirted with someone infront of me. I just bottle the feelings and idk. when I tried to ask her out she woudl say she bussy. I assumed she isnt interested. and then when I went out with some other girl suddenly Im the bad guy, I broke the heart of that first girl that I loved. and idk why I dont talk to her about that, isnted of me going on comments and commenting everywhere. Im so idiot

[@abbadfatima1239]

for me cheating is everything that you know that it would hurt your partner’s feelings

[@onikagivans2524]

I dont know how to flirt with any man anyway so I'm good..honestly the thought of flirting would make me very uncomfortable to begin with

[@santriciajones2579]

onika givans Right lol.

[@ashjo2482]

Sad

[@MoonlightAmor555]

why is Bridget on the panel she cheated on her ex boyfriend twice on love & hip pop for no reason

[@TheRosaskye]

It's cheating. Anytime you need to hide or lie about its cheating. If you make your partner uncomfortable and you continue to do it it's cheating

[@joelvedamony]

I heard/read an excellent viewpoint on the "are humans really meant to be monogamous?" argument. I think it's fair to assume that humans are the custodians of this planet, inasmuch as we are the only intelligible species that can meaningfully impact our own outcomes. To that end, the values and virtues that we pass on down the generations directly impact the fate of our existence. Given that almost all studies point to the fact that children from loving 2 parent households fare better physically, emotionally and financially, and that humans have a long period of dependency of upwards of 16-18 years at the minimum, it is almost certain that a monogamous relationship is in the best interest of a better future for our race.

[@garygrant6987]

Monogamy = Maturity.

[@Christian80806]

If I hide my phone from you it's cuz I was talking mess and venting to my friend about you, not cheating tho lol

[@MissBlueBeauty]

chris mit lol! I have so done this! 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Carlos-Freeze-Tha_Hated]

You are contradicting what you just said. If you can't do it in front of your spouse then its cheating. Venting and talking down about your significant other to somebody else not in your relationship is actually betrayal. Why are you putting everybody else in your business?

[@Christian80806]

@@Carlos-Freeze-Tha_Hated yep definitely would be cheating on him with my mom or cousin 🤣🤣🤣 LOL

[@debyanggraini7034]

So orange and magenta match beautifully together.. Loving the elegant Ms Beauvais' outfit! ❤

[@jsmum196]

The new person should know within minutes that you are married or with someone.

[@ambermoore8668]

I believe that flirting is cheating in the way it is opening up the way to the physical side and gives the impression that you are still looking and that the one your with isnt good enough or worthy enough for you to stay monogamous and faithful..even if you say harmless flirting isnt bad it still is and gives the other parrty the wrong impression

[@anonymousperson1327]

I love me some Dr. V. She speaks serious truth!!

[@lailahlyn9428]

It's only cheating is there's any form of intimacy outside of that it's all good

[@jenny-yn3lu]

Cheating is anything you wouldn’t do in front of your partner.

[@artistinme8049]

Respect the relationship,don't fall for the Okie dokie game if a man compliments you smile say thank you & respect what he has & what you have NEVER cross that line & it would be just fine....

[@santriciajones2579]

Hiding the phone? Something is up. I would love to find a man who would let me use his phone without him having a mini heart attack lol. I have nothing to hide so my SO can see my phone all day. They say its about trust in a relationship but your partner has to be trustworthy. As far as eye contact, there will always be someone else u find attractive but at least be respectful about. Lingering eye contact is rude and disrespectful. Its okay to simply look imo. You'll always notice lol

[@mohamedali-vp4bo]

Santricia Jones Why would you assume immediately that he's hiding another woman from you? You have your phone he won't be checking your phone...Why are Girls obsessed with their Men's phone? Please tell me isn't that not trusting your Partner?

[@santriciajones2579]

mohamed ali I dont understand being secretive in a relationship. If you have nothing to hide whats wrong with me using your phone to make a call? If he starts running to his phone if you go to touch it then i feel something is up. And to be honest it usually is. And i said nothing about "checking it."

[@kalvinsmith5723]

I dont hide my phone. But it would piss me off if I found out my partner felt she had to look through it. Also the way the women I have dated so far all seem to have insecurity issuses, displaying drama when another woman is associated with me. Never cheated on anyone in my life, but get ish when some chick hits me up on facebook. Or new co-worker text me with work related issues. Factors I don't control. Everything is all good when explained, but why do I need the interrogation initially? Just trust I am a good man, until I prove otherwise.

[@santriciajones2579]

Kalvin Smith That was my thing though. Feeling the need to HIDE the phone. I don't agree with checking phones either because that shows a lack of trust. But i can't help feeling a certain way if he purposely hides it from me. That is hiding something, whether its a woman, porn,etc. Its something he doesnt want me seeing. I wouldn't blame anyone for being a bit suspicious. As far as you mentioning the lady at work who texts your phone in that case i think communicating with your partner is a good approach there. I believe if a man has never lied or cheated or even gave you a reason to think he has then checking the phone is way too much.

[@mohamedali-vp4bo]

Santricia Jones you see baby its embedded in the new Age women's DNA he is cheating you somehow...subconsciously women overreact and choose to look for certain aspect of their partner's behaviour like taking the phone to the Bathroom or changing the passwords frequently or just like Kalvin said a Message from Co-worker. Hiding the Phone is a sure Message he is cheating you but certain behaviours should be regarded as Cheating. In my Dating Life i have seen it, experience it how Girls are Insecure.

[@dsolomon]

"Flirting is cheating's ugly cousin, and I'm not a cheater". - Dave Buznik (Adam Sandler in Anger Management)

[@genobourn7423]

I guess none of you know the Bible......

[@shontaewalcott2022]

I feel like when discussing these types of situations we only talk about the men cheating but what about the women they cheat with because some of these women know that the man is in a committed relationship/ married and sometimes they would still pursue these men. I'm not saying we let the men off but I would like to see them discuss this part of the situation also.

[@karenwellington213]

Well it's better to say it is a form of sexual communication/behavior, so would you like your significant other communicating or behaving sexually with someone other than you???

[@HabA-qn1nv]

He's only saying that cause of his history of cheating

[@josephBC3652]

Hab A I'm sorry I'm not a Steve Harvey fan but why do you think he's saying that because he have a history of cheating no I don't think so you talking about the past not the present so you could be wrong about the man something I did in the past don't mean doing it now in the present you have to evolve and I think Steve have done that what you see now is the man that the other women then get the chance to see he's a good man even tho I'm not a fan

[@tannermcalister7770]

Steve harvey- who admits😂😂😂 i feel you on that

[@colecole3352]

Flirting while with someone is cheating. This is from a man! When you are taken you stop the things you did as single. Flirting is top.the list.

[@princep6447]

Happy to see you Steve

[@tamiekaaugusta4058]

Well, the problem is that "men who are STILL ON THE HUNT" Have the audacity to tie a woman down, stealing away her beauty, agility, and her youth staying with her keeping her on lock & key EVEN MARRYING HER just to secure her ALL THE WHILE still hunting, cheating, and flat out sleeping around like HE IS STILL SINGLE. To be clear, THIS IS THE DISHONESTY that is mentioned in the above video, & THAT is what pushes a woman to snap.

[@forence29]

Why would you admit 😂

[@citydogpack]

No man is “ready” to be monogamous, it’s just something men do as a sacrifices have a family. People just don’t want to get real

[@wongpentelglobal]

This leads me to think people should be more open. Also what if u don't have a soul mate or what if they aren't legally allowed to be with u... so much tea

[@tashawilliams8093]

So every conversation I have I'm supposed to just be ready to say something concerning my mate even if they have nothing to do with the subject at hand? That's crazy.

[@fyuocuk92]

Only the conversations you have while flirting... to either keep you and or that person you are engaging with "in check" if you are in a committed relationship.

[@sophieluker4742]

My boyfriend (19) went clubbing and hit on a man he told me about this when he was drunk but he has a habit of just saying what he thinks I want to hear and we had an argument over it and he’s story kept changing. I can’t work out if I’m over reacting over the flirting but either way i can’t trust him to tell me the full story

[@iCrowLink]

I don't think it's okay, but I don't think it's cheating either. But either way, whether it's cheating or not, don't do it.. We keep inventing all these new terms that we don't need, microaggressions/micro-cheating. It's either an aggression or it's not, it's either cheating or it's not, we don't need the micro.

[@RosannaMiller]

Of course monogamy can and does work IF you love your spouse and meant what you said "I do" to you. Marriage to that one woman is a gift from God. Or it can become your worst nightmare.

[@MicLabTv]

Am I the only one who just keep looking at the blond girl and think .... something's wrong with her face but I can't figure out what lol

[@Neonusrat]

MicLabTv her top lip doesn't move, plastic surgery n all

[@grapejuice2819]

MicLabTv hahaha! Nope! I also think somethings wrong on her face!

[@ananyasahoo2615]

Lol, same. It's probably make up and hair

[@chrisgarzon7245]

@@Neonusrat nailed it lol

[@richgeanawhite3522]

Dumb ass question yes because a lot of times it leads to exchanging numbers then meeting up not in all occasions but many put yourself in the other person's shoes husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend if he or she was flirting with someone and that person caught feelings or wanted to start problems with the persons significant other just to break them up or cause a problem how would you feel about that

[@RuzzyID]

flirting is cheating, is this not obvious. if u flirt with someone else it means you're starting to get feelings for someone else and have attraction to them..

[@neisysimmons8468]

If only 40% admits, then the actual number is a lot higher

[@mysteriousman9295]

Interesting topic. Every person in this world only should have one partner...

[@solomonx2061]

Respect Mr Harvey from JM Loyalty straight no form of cheating

[@ohbbyilikeitrawr]

Emotional cheating is cheating.

[@markoperic5023]

I think its even worse then if its just physical

[@jenbradley4728]

If you have to go through somebody's phone then what's the point of wasting time and sanity being with them, relationships are challenging enough without all the extra. So thankful I am not a single woman in this day and age. My husband can lay his phone down in front of me when he gets in from work go take a shower or whatever he never has to worry about me looking his phone and vise/versa I have TOTAL trust in him and he in me. I have never heard of micro cheating, cheating is cheating point blank.

[@josephBC3652]

jen bradley. My girl used to always give me her phone I say baby I don't need your phone it wasn't no need for me go through her phone

[@RosannaMiller]

Adultery begins when you lust after another person that is not your spouse.

[@jessicaandjames676]

Ok so people get mixed up they get mad when you simply compliment another person that’s being nice and a decent human being

[@fyuocuk92]

There's a difference between being nice and REALLY being nice.

[@iris75434]

In my opinion it is and i’ve really tried to understand people who think it isn’t but i just can’t. it doesn’t make sense to me.

[@ajohonly3721]

Who admits 🤣🤣🤣 Steve lol 😂.

[@thetruth2487]

If they would be hurt by my doing the same thing then it's going to expose every other insecurity and defect in the relationship

[@al-han3804]

It is called DISRESPECT.

[@k3n972]

Imagine you telling your friends how much you love your partner and actually your partner is flirting with every one of your friends :( omg so embarassing

[@Kiahlaflame]

My boyfriend sent me here

[@Super19900991]

Absolutely cheating all of the above.

[@dannyd7239]

Flirting is the first step to a lot of other things

[@audreynorton6940]

Come On Mr. Steve Harvey Face The Facts. I Love These Ladies.

[@nataliewalters2759]

It’s so sad that many don’t know the words of Jesus with this issue. Sin has done a number with peoples minds in this world .

[@divyap4317]

I obey flirting is cheating

[@edisalaz1]

Yes flirting is Cheating

[@markoperic5023]

how do you know if it was flirting or just beein nice? cause the one I fell in love with, I thought was flirting with me. but then she was like that twoards someone else infront of me, and it made me so jelous. that I gave up trying to ask her out, after her rejecting me 3 times with "Im bussy" excuse...... and then later its my fault for braking her heart when I asked some other girl out

[@maankaannaoluuwwa7097]

The lady next to Steve is very mature

[@parulmathur96]

3:21 ❤️

[@lukegsfieldreview5039]

I love the term micro cheating. Its dumb to think if a men or women flirt they cheating. I believe its all or nothing. It is either cheating or not. The minute we start putting levels to cheating we are already failing. Both my girl and I flirt with other ppl and we do it if it benefits us. For example we went out for drinking and the guy was eyeing her he asked if we were together even tho it was just us two we said no he gave her free drinks all night when it came time to leave he asked for her number and she gave him the number to his own job and we left. I wasnt made at all because I know she is loyal to me. If I wasnt around i still wouldn't care because I dont have time to micro manage if she micro cheating. If she cheat i catch her she gone but of she dont im here til death simple. Women please dont buy into this micro cheating crap. I beg you its not a real thing.

[@quitecontrary23]

Luke G Glad that works for you. But WOW, not over here. My man would NEVER not claim me just for some free drinks. I would never be able to date a guy like that, and he would NEVER sit around letting some guy flirt with me in his face. But do what works for you... I wouldn't give advice to other people though if I were you.

[@lukegsfieldreview5039]

quitecontrary23 lol to each its own you clearly didnt get my point and thats cool. Your the type to micromanage your relationship and thats cool if it works for you. But ppl will be attracted to others even when in a relationship and he gone flirt but wont tell you and once he start lying he wont be able to stop because you cant be adult enough to understand there is no such thing as micro cheating. You cant understand my point because you trying to control what you cant control. The advise i gave was for women to not get caught up in this dumb belief of micro cheating because its a set up for a relationship to fail. No man want to hear a women nag about dumb stuff and if you think micro cheating is real i got news for you get use to being alone or dealing with a weak men who cant hold his own. I do respect your opinion but its your view that make guys sneak and cheat forreal because they will be accused for it even when they are not doing anything

[@quitecontrary23]

Luke G That's your opinion. There are many people--men and women--who are not cheaters and are respectful of their relationships with each other. You can't control attraction, but you can control your behavior.

[@lukegsfieldreview5039]

quitecontrary23 I hear you its just simple for me when it comes to cheating. If you cheated you cheated if not then you did not but I will never put a level on it and to prove it I bet most ppl wouldnt leave their Significant other for Micro cheating and you know why because its stupid just my opinion. I cant control my girl no more then she can control me

[@Super19900991]

Luke G Its not cheating if you both agree and do it in front of each other. I would not let any man buy my girl anything because I am a man and i love my woman. Problem is when your not there and a real man buys her a drink says the right things and you know the rest.

[@hotrodmama4911]

If you are not the one, the man continues to hunt~Steve Harvey

[@alejandrohernandez3422]

This depends on culture. In Hispanic culture we hug and kiss people we are closed to even if it's not our spouse. We have bonds that begin from childhood. Just because your childhood friends of opposite gender are in committed relationships doesn't mean we stop communication. Perhaps it's not culturally acceptable in America but more open in Latin America and Europe. Not saying is right to hide this from your spouse. If you invite your spouse to network of friends I think it's okay.

[@saramokwena4499]

when you crazy like me. Everything be cheating

[@eldanno5970]

Yep of course it is but what defines flirting? Everyone is different eg if you don’t generally compliment your wife but you compliment other women I’d think that would be flirting and vice versa.

[@missvegan2607]

I totally agree with them especially with lady in red👍👍🏿👍🏽👍🏻♥️💕

[@jeupshaw]

Steve was married 3 times.

[@cutiepie0330]

monogamy issue comes from psychological issues. there are many studies that have proved this, but most eye opening study was done by doctor/scientist Dr Sue Johnson, she opened her own research facility in uk, 20 plus years of research findings have proved cheating comes from psychological unresolved issues, trauma and pain that have not been properly worked through. mostly from childhood upbringing. but also bc the sexual partner becomes the projection screen of the other partner’s parent’ drama and wounds. im actually amazed in a negative way that the so called doctor on the show did not mention this knowledge and research findings.

[@raekembabazi8947]

Dr. V you look great

[@jjmm7533]

Some people say that monogamy its imposed by society. Bullhshit. when you're old you will end up alone. lets see how you like it

[@kvs7876]

When you are having discussions such as this with women, it’s always one-sided, isn’t it ladies

[@mellanatedrichly7305]

Men aren't made to be monogamous.

[@ed3523]

Excessive Eye Contact...... Really? This sounds like a new level of insecurity. Everything else is planting the seed but the Eye Contact thing is O.D. Ladies. If you have NEVER mentioned your woman/girlfriend/WIFE, that is a problem.

[@chronobretz9511]

It is flirting is how it starts so it's 100% cheating

[@omarw007]

If anything you do that your spouse might think is wrong is cheating then every man even jesus would be a filthy cheater. Not bringing up my girls name during a conversation is not cheating it is simpky having a conversation if it turns towards something more it is my job to remove my self from the situation before it escalates into something which is indeed. Heating

[@destroyedyouth2638]

Steve is a Great men 👍👍 i think the same

[@caucasianafrican1435]

#! that one survey of "people" doesn't mean jack squat. We don't know how they defined "an affair" in the survey.

[@2centsfreelancer]

The woman with the glasses is right

[@hanam3589]

This gone tooo far. What kind of world are we living in. Where is humanity. This is sad.

[@indigobeauty1]

Honestly...when in a happy relationship, someone wouldn't feel right or get pleasure from flirting. The guilt would be too strong to even enjoy the compliments.

[@travis6694]

But you are blaming more of the relationship than the actual character of the people. It’s faulty character if you are always a flirt.

[@lilmakori]

I don't think not bringing up your partners name in a conversation is cheating.

[@kylesavage4525]

They didn't mean a random short conversation. They were talking about cases where somebody is obviously flirting and/or hitting on you. Even if u don't mention him/her on your own in such cases the other person usually will ask general questions about you during which a mention of being married and/or having kids is a must if u want to consider yourself honest with both your spouse and the guy/chick you are talking with.

[@tashawilliams8093]

It really isn't. I agree with you.

[@ENFPerspectives]

Yes - the end

[@poorcreations9198]

Who's the woman with the glasses and fake lips?

[@marywrenturman3306]

Poor Creations 😂😂😂

[@karenwellington213]

It looks like someone hit her in the face with an ax where her mouth was supposed to be.

[@josephBC3652]

Poor Creations how can you have fake lips please explain and forgive me for being ignorant please

[@karenwellington213]

Joseph Hughes it's called injections.

[@nocheblancamusic]

And women

[@MeHaveDonuts]

These ladies first went from "but if you're not exclusive..." to "men cheated in the 50s and 60s" lol so obvious to see which of these ladies cheated on their husbands with the dumbest validations they could think of.

[@etf42]

Bridget Kelley has admitted to cheating before.

[@nothumanff5900]

Bruhh stop property rights we men are okay

[@jilllibertucci9304]

Yep my husband who did had Lloyd of affairs

[@EPICWILDETAILING]

What's wrong with her lips? She definitely cheated

[@MugenTJ]

Honestly? What is that ?!

[@tiffanyc8307]

That's the start to some shady behavior

[@dumanayo]

Yes it is