Let's talk about how white people should respond to racism they see....

[@BlacknessWirefly]

Thank you for this. When an angry stranger charged at me, as I left a grocery store, yelling the nword at me, every response I could think of in the panic seemed wrong. A total stranger ran between us yelling F*CK YOU! And bought me time to slip away to my car. I don't know what I would have done if he had attacked me. Thank you stranger!

[@snowleopard2257]

Sorry you had to go through that. Thanks for the story.... It’s going in my files in case I might need it somewhere.

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

Really happy someone had the courage and decency to intervene. Stay safe, and know that most people of all races are on your side. These horrible bigots are just losing their minds lately because they know they are a dying breed. It's not white people that are being bred out, it's the bigots that are being bred out. And it's about damned time too!

[@i-love-comountains3850]

@@aylbdrmadison1051 Here, here!!🤘😁

[@mjsvloging7397]

Thank God for that 2nd person!

[@mackhomie6]

"as i left a grocery store yelling the n word" i had to reread this a bunch of times to figure out you werent screaming obecenities after "every other response in the panic seemed wrong" lol.

[@jazzman.]

As a black man, me and my community of people living on the same street and coming from different ethnicities have always appreciated you. My whole street listens to you and we live in Texas. We are lucky people.

[@observerobserver6040]

Same here in the UK. 🤔🇬🇧

[@mikethompson2745]

You'd do better talking to your "racist" neighbors than listening to this racist Beau.

[@ariaflame-au]

@@mikethompson2745 awwww, did this video trigger you Mike, did it make you realise how racist you are?

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

@@ariaflame-au : Mike may be a paid troll. Paid trolls are paid per reply. They are even easier to debunk by replying instead to another commenter, or to OP. ^-^

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

@JW : Smart. Even non-paid trolls only care about one thing: getting a reply/attention.

[@timothymnemonic79]

"immediately" Don't leave it for the next human being to deal with. Very grateful for your words of wisdom and actions. 🌏🌎🌍

[@xanatax1844]

“immediately” is such a great answer!

[@enzomalena5334]

"The time is always right to do what is right." -MLK

[@GrandmaCathy]

We don't break out the cross or anything...I could not even say that. I'm probably less effective. I go with "that's not funny." Or "do you not know what x means?" Or "I can't believe you just said that."

[@brianwest2775]

I'd suggest that it would have been better for Beau's friend to take a moment to tell Beau what he was going to do but I assume that he didn't see the gun until after he got up, or maybe he felt that he'd already waited too long and had to truly act immediately.

[@timothymnemonic79]

@@brianwest2775 I don't get it can you explain it to me? What gun?

[@micemr76]

This should be daily curriculum for high school students...this whole channel

[@lmichelle80sbaby]

Agreed. The education recieved would be priceless.

[@micemr76]

@@lmichelle80sbaby always on point. Articulated better then most. It's what our whole system is missing... educational or otherwise. His sub numbers are a sad commentation on the state of our society when prank channels and video game channels have millions of subs. This channel has the ability to change society. He's answering all the questions we all have in a way most are unable. Tell everyone u know about this channel...share it. Get his numbers up. For all he does for us

[@micemr76]

@@lmichelle80sbaby the education I receive is priceless

[@isisnine]

I agree...whole heartedly! 100% Beau should have 3 billion followers that listen to him daily..that one things would make this world a far better place.

[@grannypeacock]

A lot of high schoolers know this. I've seen it in action. It's their parents who need the class

[@brendaalbaugh8927]

Excellent! Unfortunately these are situations we find ourselves in more and more. I’m 66yrs old and have not seen it this bad since early childhood. It’s shameful!

[@lsingstock1646]

I told somebody that exact thing a few weeks ago, and they tried to convince me I lived in a cave. Sometimes we just can't explain logic.

[@juliekaalaas9071]

@@lsingstock1646 ...and that is why I wish I did live in a cave. It's so difficult to deal with so many who can't reason, understand logic, or simply be kind.

[@scorpogee6280]

Include me as well. I'm 71 next month and not just the last four years have been bad. We can go back even farther.

[@nonyabidnazz7487]

I'm 60 and am so angry I could spit

[@cerob9612]

Howdy..yes in 78 I thought we had made real progress...I thought racism would fade ...then RR ran on the republican "southern strategy" of demonizing "welfare queens".. now look how far BACKWARDS we have gone...sigh....better days friend

[@janksh9739]

I like what you have said. As I have gotten older, my Response has gotten better. Normally, I would laugh it off or become very silent. Now, I am more to say something. Because Silence is not the answer.

[@muliefriend4785]

Loved Beaus talk today.

[@Mtnshell56]

Thank you personally for your courage. Responding is challenging.

[@jimmccoys5778]

I agree, as ive gotten older and more mature this response is how i will handle this in the future. I appreciate the knowledge Beau!!

[@davidhamburg7868]

Janks H: Right on! Silence is not always golden.

[@alscottpool]

Thank you

[@lir3379]

So this happened... Little old white lady (me) stepped up next to the black kids being harassed in a very public chain store & said 'you young people probably have a bunch of life to be doing. This person (the offender) seems to really need to be heard & I have time to listen. I'll stand in - sir, just pretend I'm them.' Anger fizzle. (A week ago tomorrow.)

[@grannypeacock]

😂😂😂😅 You're my hero

[@LeviathanLee]

Mama bear in action. Loving it

[@lisadilo9615]

That’s awesome!!!

[@kimroberts7006]

That's amazing--I love that!!

[@agnosticsister]

Freakin' GENIUS.

[@ichaukan]

That "pretend you don't get it" tactic is one that I've employed for quite a while when people tell me stupid racist jokes.

[@teresathomley3703]

Ichaukan So have I. Many times.

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

@@teresathomley3703 : Same here. Been using that since I was a child in the 70's.

[@tandt7694]

Do the people explain the joke? Apologize? Do they get mad at you? Ostracize you? Just curious 🤔

[@SciFi2285]

@@tandt7694 Usually they just stop talking to you. Because you are "one of those" (liberal, not MAGA, a decent human being) so don't expect a schmaltzy "very special episode" TV ending. But at least you won't have to deal with them anymore.

[@last2first167]

@@SciFi2285 Me personally I don't mind someone making racist jokes to me since I'm Hispanic 9 times out of 10 it's not racist. In my entire life time I've heard more racist things towards me from leftist/liberal than the right, I'm not defending nobody I'm not on either side its just me. Also intentionally racist is different which I don't like.

[@AD-wm5ju]

Yes, It is absolutely “exhausting explaining the basic concepts of humanity to people.”

[@Mister006]

I'm expressly exhausted trying to help someone understand that I actually have to believe that "race" is a valid social construct to describe them according to their various geographic origins, instead of simply describing the geography of their origins, in order to be "a racist." Calling you a European American isn't referring to you by your "race." Calling you a "white" person is, and you might not even be "white."

[@robertlowe1454]

Listening and learning. Appreciate you.

[@yuppiebrawndo8868]

I respect this so much. Coming from the south I feel this. I have some subconscious indoctrination and it's something that I try to find those racial issues in myself. I'm not perfect but I'm trying.

[@u.smarshallscommando5924]

🤜🤙👍

[@u.smarshallscommando5924]

@@yuppiebrawndo8868 🤜🤙👍

[@robertlowe1454]

@@u.smarshallscommando5924 🤜🤙👍

[@cheriann6461]

@@yuppiebrawndo8868 Try is the most that you can do. None of us are perfect. We all need to work at how we view and treat others. Being aware of this is a wonderful quality.

[@cheriann6461]

Ya know, over the course of my life, because I've spent so much time in mostly white spaces, white folks have been my biggest tormentors and my most staunch allies and protectors. I feel all kinds of ways about this one. There hasn't always been someone there to help, but here are a few instances in which intervention was super effective: *When I worked as a housekeeper, a woman once called me the N word because I almost sprayed the wrong cleaner on a rag meant for her computer screen. Rather than address her directly, her wife looked at ME and said, "she can't talk to you like that. She won't do it again." The woman left the room angry, without speaking, but she clearly got the point. Along the same lines, when my boss (a white woman) found out, she didn't send me back (I got the feeling that they had words, and that no one from our company was going back). *In high school, a boy once told me to "go fry some chicken," in the middle of an argument about something which I can no longer remember. Another white boy from whom I hadn't heard 4 whole words, up to that point, then stood up from a bench, looked him in the eye and assertively demanded, "what did you just say to her?" The other boy just mumbled some insults (quietly), picked up his backpack and left. I could go on and on, but the point is, inteverne if you are able.

[@cheriann6461]

@Robert Plissken I've got similar stories in 'Repub' states too. Surely you aren't under the impression that prejudice respects political districts.

[@mackhomie6]

northern treeeees bear strange fruit

[@mackhomie6]

@Robert Plissken um. ok? was there somebody here other than you who was thinking that?

[@d123mahesh2]

👋🏾Add: I’ve had a couple of white strangers back me up on a flight. It was soothing. And touching. Hmmm…dust in my eye or something.

[@d123mahesh2]

@@jasonwhoever5528 Oh Hi!!! 🙂👋🏾 I thought I had run you off or something. How have you been?

[@randomthoughtism]

People showing their humanity and kindness tends to … kick up some dust. 🥲 Does for me, too. Be well, akka.

[@awareyah6146]

@@d123mahesh2 How are you I’m glad that they did that but anyway take a listen to something I wrote called ALL FOR THE LOVE

[@d123mahesh2]

@@randomthoughtism ❤️🙂

[@d123mahesh2]

@@jasonwhoever5528 Lol, jk. You are so kind to sincerely give me an explanation. ❤️🙏🏾 But good to know you had a grand time! And your team won!!! Definitely deserved a days long party. Sabotage Savant wasnt sure your team was going to make it (fighting words I know). Hez from Alabama. Sshhhh don’t tell him I told you what he told me. 👋🏾

[@mrpepperidgefarms]

Evil triumphs when good men do nothing

[@denisemcdougal6445]

Always

[@u.smarshallscommando5924]

🤜🤙👍

[@johanna-hypatiacybeleia2465]

And women

[@bkmeahan]

The amount of racism I see on a daily basis has just become exhausting. I have come to realize that it isn't that people are more openly racist, it is that I am finally more aware of how much passive racism takes place.

[@ijustneedmyself]

@John Smith You're implying that a ton of people are delusional/seeing things that aren't there. I have a much easier time believing people's experiences with racism as they tell it to me given the history of the U.S. and this world than I have believing that all of those people are making it up, exaggerating or being influenced to see something that isn't there. I have a much easier time believing that many people are completely in denial because it makes them uncomfortable to think that this country isn't so free and so great for everyone.

[@AA-BB]

❄️

[@helgabluestone2407]

I lost out on a job because the main doc and his scrub were always talking about "good Christians", knowing that I am Jewish. One day, after about 10 years, I finally said, "Aren't there good Muslims or Hindus or Jews?" Room went ice cold. Never worked in there again. That was fine with me Never worked with him again. Now, throughout that 10 year period, his private scrub would tell me how sad it was that I'd never know Jesus's love, etc My parents taught me not to react to that kind of crap. Mom was a Holocaust survivor, my father's mother as survivor of Russian pogroms. In that place, there was no support for the employees. So I put up with it until I couldn't stand it anymore. Tiny irritant compared to what black people experience, but they were never going to stop.

[@grmpEqweer]

That's still rotten.

[@JR-playlists]

Hypocrites. Unlike the Jewish person they worship

[@kathrynpupos9103]

Wasn't there an HR dept you could go to? You know it wasn't going to be just you. They need to nip that in the bud. It's still a hostile work atmosphere.

[@terr777]

When I left my career, I left two Jewish, one Catholic, and one Hindu doctor, the last came in after my first twenty years. We worked together for a total of 30 in a church affiliated hospital, adding Muslim to the staff to round us out...with none of the nonsense. You made me realize how fortunate that was. Yes, I heard some stuff from today's Christians thatmade me cringe...taking a weapon to church comes to mind, but there was no disrespect toward one another for their beliefs, or lack thereof. For that, I'm grateful. I'm also glad I left when people were still outside being appreciative. I'm too old to successfully care for someone who thinks I need a Nuremberg type trial. I'm afraid I'd tell them the feedstore is on the outskirts of town, GTFOH.

[@gmun2248]

@@robertbolstad9465 You should read about mansplaining - and stop doing it. 🙄

[@debrasmith4675]

Years ago while in a rehab hospital after a coma, I awoke in the middle of the night to the sounds of an old white woman berating a tender black nurse who was trying to help her I sat up and said “Gladys, that is a woman and not a dog. “ The next day Gladys was still angry with me and she to.d another black nurse that I deserved a spanking. I said: “good idea, Gladys! But know this- when you are all done, it will be my turn and I won’t stop spanking you until you find some manners.” True story. I never heard her being rude to anyone after that.

[@octoberschild3115]

Wow...how old were you at the time? Not trying to be a Snarky Troll or Anything like that, am just curious as to how 'Far Gone' Nasty old Gladys was. 🙃 Have dealt with her Type SO many times in my life that I just wondered...☮☮

[@debrasmith4675]

@@octoberschild3115 - I was 56. Sadly, she died before she could leave the hospital.

[@MsNickie1001]

@@debrasmith4675 but she died a better woman, because of you.

[@debrasmith4675]

@@MsNickie1001 - kind of you to say that.

[@gailremp8389]

Perfect.

[@riparianlife97701]

I'm a white guy living in Mexico. I was on a date with a Mexican girl, and she said she was happy to no longer live in Vancouver, British Columbia, because "There are too many East Indian people there." I responded with "It sounds like there were too many Mexican people there." She was shocked. I haven't heard from her.

[@gailremp8389]

Friggin perfect...

[@timothymnemonic79]

Well played my friend, well played.

[@riparianlife97701]

My (sad) point is, racism is everywhere.

[@90000cg]

So your a racist

[@sneedmando186]

Thanks for addressing the subtle jokes, everyone thinks it’s always someone chasing us and screaming the N word, but in reality it’s all that little stuff that’s intended to intimidate, exclude, or just screw over Take care y’all ✊🏽♥️

[@90000cg]

Right. Because there is no overt racism we now have to strain to find the “little stuff”. But of course we have made no progress towards equality in this country🤔🤔🤔

[@chillfluencer]

Indirect racism.

[@FrankBenlin]

You know it's coming when they pause and look side to side and then the stupid happens. That pause and look tells you that they know it's wrong.

[@victoriawilliams2786]

So true.

[@nickpacitti3247]

Right ???🤦🏻‍♂️🤙✌️

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

GMW is a troll that transplanted itself from Glenn Kirschners channel.

[@gmw3083]

@@aylbdrmadison1051 the troll is you. A Biden loving delusional troll.

[@FrankBenlin]

@@gmw3083 Just because you're a troll doesn't mean she loves Biden.

[@targaghjj]

Ha ha, I overheard the joke thing done at an establishment run by a middle eastern guy. A man said "He's a camel jockey. Get it? Get it?" and the woman said in an ice cold voice "No, I don't get it." Being from the middle east myself, this was somehow the first time I'd heard that slur and I felt weirdly embarrassed. But that woman's icy disdain continues to inspire me to this day.

[@Andrea.1tree]

🌻 Love that tip! Force the racist to clarify their stance, and stand alone..good bye!

[@LazyIRanch]

I'm a 3rd generation Texan living in Southern California for the last 20 years. I've been using this technique for awhile when some white person hears my Southern drawl and says, "Oh, you're Southern? Then you're gonna LOVE this joke..." and they proceed to tell some unfunny racist crap. I just give them an expression that's my best Tucker Carlson impression, you know, that deer-in-the-headlights look, and say, "I don't get it". They usually avoid me after that.

[@michaelmartinez3674]

@@LazyIRanch It's called embarrassment. It happens to them from time to time because they are forced to look at themselves as what they mostly claim not to be.

[@Andrea.1tree]

@@LazyIRanch It’s so odd how the ignorant racist makes assumptions based on geography. I’m not too shy, and I will set them straight. I like Beaus method better though. Make them say out loud what they’re hinting at, and it’s less confrontational. 😄

[@randomthoughtism]

@@LazyIRanch um…… isn’t that just about his only expression?🤔 hehehe

[@Andrea.1tree]

@@randomthoughtism I can’t decide if his boxers are starched, or something else. 😂🤣 The vacuous/confused stare of perpetual “innocence”, because he’s had to explain himself a lot. Guaranteed lol.

[@TravelingHat]

I've been using the "I don't get it" tactic since I first heard you mention it a couple years ago. It works. Make them explain to you why they think their racist joke is funny and you will watch them lose all their gusto and smugness in an instant. Makes them feel about an inch tall and shuts them up in a hurry.

[@princessnahema]

South park once again ahead of it's time. We dont know. We will never fully know

[@u.smarshallscommando5924]

🤜🤙👍

[@Octoberfurst]

I love the "I don't get it" response. I had never thought about that option but now I'm going to use it when someone makes a racist joke around me.

[@TravelingHat]

@@Octoberfurst It really does work. I live in a very conservative place. I hear a lot of racist jokes. Or I used too. Turns out when you embarrass racists for being racist they will stop saying racist things around you. They won't stop saying racist things but they will stop saying racist things around you and that's a start. If everyone did it then bam, no more racist jokes.

[@gmw3083]

Was this supposed to be a joke. . kzbin.info/www/bejne/qJTLmIyJiJeCoLc

[@LeoDomitrix]

My mom taught us that "we all bleed red". I can't be color-blind. I can remember that the color that matters isn't *skin*. When a car plowed into a crowd in Charlottesville in 2017, all the blood was red. And that's my new response to racism. On that day, no matter who got killed or injured, their blood on the sidewalk was... red.

[@05Matz]

I wish more of it was spilled from Fascists and racists, rather than decent people, though. It's a tragedy that the government keeps trying to help monsters get away with hate crimes like that.

[@MasterWolf73]

Years ago I had to go to the county courthouse to pick up some paperwork or something. They had just recently installed metal detectors in the entry to the courthouse. Now I tend to look like a typical biker type, lots of leather and chains etc. No matter how hard I try to remove all the metal from my person I'm going to miss something. In line behind me was a young black man, he was dressed in a suit and tie, looked like a nice guy, I didn't talk to him but I remember he just gave off a friendly vibe. After waiting in line for some time it was my turn to go through the metal detector. Of course the thing goes off like someone scored a goal in hockey. The Deputy just looks at me and asks "you got steel toe boots on?" I said yes and he said "go ahead". So I go to pick up my things from the plastic bin and the black guy goes through, again it's a hockey goal. No one asked him if he had steel toe boots on. In seconds about 12 deputies were on this guy, they had him stripped to his boxers and socks right there in the lobby. They didn't find anything on him and eventually they let him enter the building. Watching this go down I was just filled with a sense of this is wrong. I wanted to do something, anything, but honestly I was scared. There are a dozen armed deputies in a courthouse lobby, what could I do? To this day I am ashamed that I did nothing. I still don't know what I could have done, but I feel that I should have done something, anything. It's been almost 30 years since that happened but it still sticks with me. It still bothers me. Even though I'm ashamed and embarrassed by that story, I still tell it. When people don't believe in systemic racism, I tell that story. I don't know if it helps, but I hope at least some good comes from that day. I don't think I will ever forgive myself for doing nothing that day.

[@makelikeatree1696]

I can’t absolve you, but I can tell you I understand your dilemma. That it still bothers you speaks highly of you.

[@ladydi1079]

Living with regrets means you learned something unforgettable that day. I think now that you know better (and have Beau's tactics to use) you won't be silent ever again.

[@grannypeacock]

Telling that story to folk who don't believe in systemic racism is doing something. I don't know that it would have been safe to act in that moment. These days you would be able to record the situation but there were fewer options back then. Everyone getting home alive is a very real concern when a bunch of armed yahoos drunk on their limited power are involved.

[@Snapsepaven1]

Prevention is the best cure. Raise your kids well

[@baie_nuuskierig]

Round here, racism is expressed in small groups of people. I have several times had to step up and then out. I am not as calm as you are when I see this happening. And when you face 8 people at a tea party, replying "not all blacks are as good as the ones you know", the only reply I could come up with was "not all whites are as good as the black people I know, so I'll just go do what black people should do, according to you" and I buggered off and did the dishes. Didn't change a whit. I still run into those people now and again. They still talk shit about black folks. I still give them the 'that's racist and I don't have time for it' reply. I wish confrontation did not scare me as much as it does, and that I could stay rational when angered.

[@autumnleaves8553]

Every little bit helps.

[@baie_nuuskierig]

@Robert Plissken and you would know how? The norm for adult working women where I come from is to celebrate birthdays with cake, coffee and tea. You do not know the origin of my country, you do not know our history. I am NOT American, but we face many similar issues as Americans do. Also. "full of shit"?? Who taught you basic respectful communication?

[@drawingdraws618]

✋🤞✌️the asking people to explain the joke works best when your camo is as good as Beau’s… Be safe internet people ✌️

[@d123mahesh2]

Fifth! At the Fifth Column!!! 🥳💐👍🏾 and Hi 🙂👋🏾

[@d123mahesh2]

True…the being safe is a very important addendum.

[@sarahdixon1943]

Gotta remember your "your here early" come back for next time it happens. That's a good one. You'd be surprised how some women are too. It's just so low class to go that way. Do something, yes. We're all just humans trying to get by.

[@user-qo7dy2ih7s]

Beau was in this video?!

[@ninefingerjack]

I work as a welder and machinist. It's super fun to have people explain their idiocy. Especially when they realize it. Now I work quietly and on my own. Perfection

[@TerminallyOnlineLeftist]

This is a really great video. Kind of a hard topic to put to words. You're a really good speaker.

[@Brainhoneywalker]

There was a guy (white) at my job who used to tell racist jokes about all other non-whites to me (black). One day, he asked me why I never laughed at jokes about other races. I told him, “I know that the “n-word” joke is right around the corner. We spoke very short and quite frankly to each other for months. I had to deal with him often. We came to actually love each other. When he passed, I attended his ceremony. He taught me so many things. I will never forget him. When ever I feel hopeless, I know there’s hope and that we can forgive each other and move forward in a powerful way as Americans.

[@erinmcdonald7781]

Thank you for sharing that experience. Talking and education can work. Like you and Beau, I believe the time spent is worth it. 💚🌎✌️😎

[@ijustneedmyself]

@Robert Plissken You are such a bad troll. Get a new hobby.

[@frankemmanuel8776]

Smart thinking of his friend, to get the guy with the gun out before he might do something wrong

[@donaldfrederick1557]

I do the same thing when someone talkes about bad political info.

[@krisfrederick5001]

Hey there, nice name

[@MsNickie1001]

I do it when people badmouth gays.

[@IMJwhoRU]

Are you referring to a specific tactic that Beau mentioned, or saying you do something immediately? (Just wanting to learn, not trying to make it a “gotcha” question. Thank you in advance.)

[@grmpEqweer]

Get them to break it down to you? That's actually really good. If you dig into the far right propaganda, it's pretty nonsensical.

[@speedymax1818]

Doesn't add up to racism. Thanks for trying to change the subject on something that's had a negative impact on folks lives for years!!##

[@Anonarchist]

the process of making someone deconstruct their joke and explain their puchline is an antijoke that's funnier than the joke was.

[@aazhie]

it really is! next level comedy IMO.

[@mackhomie6]

rip norm

[@travelingwithrick]

That reminds me of stuttering John ( think howard stern show) going up to celebrities on the red carpet and asking who they are.

[@tamearaharris63]

I just ran into Beau this morning.....NOW I'm addicted smh

[@LazyIRanch]

Welcome! You're going to love this community of folks who don't follow the herd

[@angelinabrown3142]

Welcome. Beau has a lot of sense. Mrs. Beau is the queen of snark. Enjoy.

[@deanvaillancourt2881]

🤗 Welcome. Let the binge watching begin.

[@nickpacitti3247]

👍🤙✌️

[@d123mahesh2]

Welcome!! The water is fine and the company is wonderful!

[@mackthenight]

I always liked, "How sad is your life that you have to blame others for your short comings?"

[@xHarpyx]

Daaaayum! Ice cold! Lol

[@grmpEqweer]

Ooooh...😈

[@erincaitlin1655]

Yeah !!

[@georgejay5006]

Mostly, don't gaslight by telling POC that we didn't experience racism when we tell you we're experiencing racism. We know racism and are the one's who decide what's racist.

[@humanistwriting5477]

@666.SleeperCell humans in general, as an entire population tend to be quiet in the face of systematic issues like racism. If someone says it's racist then it has over a 99% chance of being racist. And the 1% chance it's not it unusually ends in a hilarious story of misunderstanding anyway, and you don't want to be the jackass in that story do you? Always side with the minority or you'll forever be *that guy*

[@jayands]

@666.SleeperCell The overwhelming portion of us in the black community turned on him immediately when that BS came out, though; it hurts further cases of blatant racism because of what you just did

[@mistercarousel1872]

As someone not from the US, isn't POC like everyone except white people? If so, what do i do the 5 millionth time a POC is racist towards another POC? Who do I believe if I havent seen it happen? Is there like a chart on the level of believability correlating with skin tone? Seriously though, what you are saying is self-defeating. You are obviously, like every nice person, not a huge fan of racism. I mean, yes, institutionalized racism tends to be good for white people and bad for everyone else (not everywhere though). I am usually not that easily offended, but what you are saying is insinuating that white people, by the nature of not being subjected to the same institutionalized disadvantages, are incapable of forming an educated and sound opinion on racist incidents. I however think that all it takes is empathy, some experience and abstract thought, to know how and why someone says something is or was racist. I am not saying I can relate to being subjected to racism on a daily basis, but i am also not so numb that i cannot grasp other peoples feeling, reactions or motives to a decent extent. I am also convinced, that every single white person I know is very much capable of recognizing racism, its just much easier, sometimes beneficial for us, to act as if we didnt or dont recognize it. So, what your comment read like to me, was something like "this group of people is, by consequence of their ethnicity and the privileges that come with it, incapable of forming sound opinion on racist incidents" When you could have said "while all people, regardless of their ethnicity, are able to recognize racist incidents, some people are assholes, and some privileges make you more inclined to be an asshole."

[@humanistwriting5477]

@666.SleeperCell you have one example of crying wolf. Out of millions of legitimate racist actions that occur everyday in the usa. Again. Well over 99%. Your nuts if you think otherwise. And more nuts if you think *you* know what racism is better then a minority.

[@humanistwriting5477]

@666.SleeperCell good for you. I'm Middle Eastern and Jewish. I'd never once suppose I would even know what racism against a Korean immigrant would look like, and if you try to tell *me* what's antisemitic I'll punch you in the throat. You have a very clear case of too big of an ego and too small of a cranium to house it *and think*

[@angelinabrown3142]

I've done the "Don't talk like that in front of me" and it works because it makes the speaker stop and think about what they just said. I've also said, "I don't want to hear that kind of hate" and that puts a check on them, too.

[@magnanimus9692]

Only when they're around you.

[@SerenityMusic3]

Thank you so much.

[@IMJwhoRU]

@@magnanimus9692 true, but it’s a start at least.

[@victoriawilliams2786]

I've had to do that a time or two myself. Unfortunately my usual go to is "Exactly who tf do you think you are? You have no right to talk to/about another human being like that." I'm not known for tact when it comes to bullying.

[@u.smarshallscommando5924]

👍

[@davinanderson2003]

One of the greatest thing about the younger generations is they’re way more likely to speak up and act on racists in public. My generation and the ones before it were mostly accepting of all kinds of racism.

[@grmpEqweer]

The kids are alright ☺️

[@RonSparks2112]

Getting into an altercation with a bartender is a bad idea in my experience. Most of the ones I've known have a .12 gauge under the bar, and there is usually somebody in the back ready to back him up.

[@davinanderson2003]

@@RonSparks2112 getting into confrontations with anyone in the US is playing Russian roulette with your life with the amount of morons running around with guns and in some cases the law on their side as well.

[@darleneh608]

@@RonSparks2112 it's anecdotal, I know, but I have never heard of an instance where "stand your ground" or any similar rule worked for anyone but a white male. Since the bartender was a person of color, I don't give him great chances of being exonerated if it came to that.

[@RonSparks2112]

@@darleneh608 I understand, but the difference is that the bartender was being harassed and potentially assaulted while running a business. The law, as prejudiced as it is, takes a dim view of that. Juries do too.

[@Mt-ue9qz]

I once warned my then boyfriend to tell his family ahead of Thanksgiving that I would not tolerate any form of hate talk while there. I don’t know if he did but more importantly they didn’t. I didn’t realize I was dating a bigot before a certain point. He told me he couldn’t wait to fly a confederate flag on his new Harley and I said that won’t be happening if you ever want my rear on that seat. Needless to say the relationship didn’t last. I’m great with that. ❣️🌎 ☮️

[@last2first167]

Sorry to hear that i experience racism almost everyday my parents are racist i love them but they have falsly views. I dont get much money and the rest of my family doesn't like me the way i am. Im very reserved because i want peace so badly in this world for all of us in the future.

[@CSXIV]

Also remember that it's not just racism that needs to be responded to. This Asian American wishes he stood up for a white, bisexual friend when another friend made a vaguely homophobic comment in front of him (not knowing he was bi). I wish I told her that isn't funny, instead of sitting there, not sure what to say and then passively responding by making a humming sound that was supposed to be interpreted as "I get you find that funny, but it really isn't."

[@rdean150]

That sort of response is still a response. If these friends knew you well enough to know how you react when you genuinely think something is funny vs when you disapprove, then that sort of reaction can still be meaningful. Sometimes just looking someone in the eyes so they know you were listening, blinking, and immediately changing the subject without acknowledging their comment at all can communicate a great deal, so long as your body language displays an absence of amusement.

[@bts4me]

I've used the Mom voice, which every woman has, to say "I don't want to hear that so knock it off. "

[@e-spy]

I use what I call "the Smith glare", which is so icy it always stops people in their tracks. Worked for my kids too, lol. They say my eyes actually change color! My father's eyes changed color when he used it too, lol, and I am told HIS grandfather's did as well. A happy genetic ability, apparently!

[@lineedemouy1047]

Beau, I was standing in line at the MVA for about an hour when the person at the front of the line began berating the black woman at the counter for giving the instructions in both English and Spanish. He had a Swedish or Nordic accent and kept saying she should only be speaking English. I was about 10 people behind him and I loudly corrected him telling him the US does not have an official language. He kept shouting at her, me and the mostly Latinx customers in line. They were all smiling at me and a cop came over, pulled him out of line and escorted him out of the building saying that I was correct. As he was escorted out everyone else in the building started applauding. When I see something I say something!

[@kathymacdonald9872]

How should I respond? IMMEDIATELY!! Exactly!

[@gsmith6595]

Goes without saying that men should also respond the same way with misogynistic comments from another man.

[@dlg5485]

This video is about a very specific topic and it isn't misogyny. Ask yourself why you can't simply absorb a message about being anti-racist without trying to change the subject.

[@gsmith6595]

@@dlg5485 it's not a change of subject unless you are narrow minded. The same way of thinking about racial superiority or gender superiority collide often and that is what needs to be addressed. Same way that someone saying a joke that involves both race and sex, would you then only point out one issue or both. The subject is not just about race, it's about the response. It's about good people standing up and saying that this "behavior" isn't acceptable. So if you didn't understand that then maybe you need to ask yourself why.

[@gmun2248]

@@gsmith6595 I agree with you. I just replied to another comment about a conversation with my dad (who is not at all sexist) where he had excused something someone else said as a joke. Asked him if he would say it - knowing he wouldn't. It became a constructive & expanded conversation about all kinds of inappropriate comments & what unconscious bias really is, generally. Sometimes the broader conversation that is more serious comes more easily from a small comment.

[@gsmith6595]

@@gmun2248 thank you! Definitely a great example of life not being a single subject interaction. We should stand united for all good of mankind. ✌️

[@dlg5485]

@@gsmith6595 Bullshit. I am so tired of people who just can't allow a whole damn conversation to be about American racism without pivoting to some other oppressed group. You may not be self aware enough to see what you are doing, but I see it as clear as crystal because I see it constantly.

[@sparkysmalarkey]

Racism, sexism, classism, good old fashioned bullying, the only way to fight any of it is by confronting it in the moment, and making it very clear which side you are on, and create an environment that is not conducive for that kind of behavior. The worst thing you can do is ignore it, it might not affect you then, but the longer the environment exists, the greater the probability that it will someday.

[@gmun2248]

All systemic 'accepted' (/silently tolerated) norms & I agree. Had an interesting conversation with my parents recently after a 'funny' story that was inappropriate misogynistic sexism. My dad - who doesn't have a bigoted bone in his body, would give anyone the shirt off his back, brought people into our home to stay if they needed it when we were growing up; who always looks for the best in people & opts to give them the benefit of the doubt (not always a positive) - was firmly on the "I'm sure [the comment] was a joke" side. (It's too long a story & not really necessary to elaborate to make the point. Not being deliberately cryptic.) My mum & I both talked about how uncomfortable such comments would make us feel. We asked him if he would ever say that - knowing the answer, but it made him say "no" & consider why not. I posed the scenario where the story was a guy making a comment to him about my mum... Different perspective. It led to a constructive conversation about 'institutional sexism' & what it really means. Different scenario than confronting something you see randomly, but it did make him see he didn't actually agree with it, and there isn't justification for it. My dad's 70, still bounces places, doesn't look his age, works with young people & kids, but in a professional sport setting that is very male dominated. Unconscious biased environment his entire life. When #metoo first made headlines, he got an education (again, from my mum & me) in things women do 'normally' to ensure their safety. EYES OPENED - like many men at that time. He was at the grocery store the next day, realised the same lady had been in front of him up & down 3 aisles, so he went somewhere he didn't need to go in case she thought he was following her. He panicked. I'm going with: never to old to learn, but I have to admit he can be (unintentionally) hilarious. Had to tell him he couldn't describe someone as a "queer guy" because he's 'weird' this past summer... 🤦‍♀️ It was brand new information for him. I'm not sure how he's so damn innocent & idealistic at age 70. It would be nice if the world didn't make that a negative thing; we could all just float along believing the best in people & it would be true. (Yes I make fun of him constantly. Obviously.)

[@sparkysmalarkey]

@@gmun2248 Thank you for sharing that story, it's a good example of what you can accomplish by talking to people instead of talking at them. Most people struggle to see things from another's perspective, to those whom evil is done, do evil onto others, but the same goes for kindness and love.

[@gmun2248]

@@sparkysmalarkey Thanks for your reply. My MSc is in psycholinguistics, language & cognition, with a research emphasis on Language Production ; theory of mind/ 'cognitive empathy' (ie how people see things from another person's perspective, or not) for my (unfinished) PhD thesis. It's not quite this simple, but one of my hypotheses is we should teach 'theory of mind' to kids as a communication skill so they are always aware of the fact whomever they are talking with will (likely) have a different perspective than they do. (Most naturally develop the ability between age 4-7, but like everything, some are naturally better at it than others - & that applies to adults too.) I think it would improve cognitive empathy scores, if taught successfully. Related research from other areas of neuro cognitive communication research support the idea. I also think it would be possible to develop adult workshops/ seminars/ team building days, etc. where an adult equivalent programme could be taught as a tool for (ANY) business; & possibly more generally. Effective communication is >50% listening - most people just wait for their turn to talk again. We use 'theory of mind' in every conversation we have, to some degree - we have to be aware of what they other person knows to have a conversation that makes sense. But if people were always consciously aware of HOW DIFFERENT our perspectives might be, as in what the other person is thinking & feeling during a conversation, even when discussing experiences/ stories about the same topic, it would go a long way in helping people be better, kinder communicators. And since we constantly communicate - verbally & non-verbally; linguistically, metalinguistically (tone, gesture, eye contact etc.) & extra-linguistically (more subtle 'communication' - one example: via the clothes we wear/ way we 'dress our personality' to make a statement about ourselves); we would employ the skill (/tactic) across so much of our lives. If we all considered the other person's point of view, we could _potentially_ make the world a much nicer place. The geeks are on it. 🤓😎😉. Seriously, lots of research exploding in that area at the moment.

[@karenjohannessen8987]

@Sparky's Imagination Yes - Ignore it, and it *doesn't go away*, it gets worse. I'm reminded of the small but mighty verse by Martin Neimuller - "First they came for the Socialists, and I didn't speak out, because I wasn't a Socialist. Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a Trade Unionist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a Jew. Then they came for me, but there was no one left to speak for me."

[@maureenmcgrath8169]

Here in Atlanta when ever I see a black person detained by a police officer, I , and everyone in my family pull over and record. I shop Black businesses, and support Black women. It’s a small start.

[@snowleopard2257]

Honestly, I think recording interactions between police and black folk is a big thing especially if you were just passing by.

[@stryfespoint304]

Observe, listen, learn, respond immediately (when necessary) and strive for a positive outcome where everything is clear and tragic free and everyone goes home safely.

[@Mtnshell56]

Beautiful response

[@LazyIRanch]

Does anyone else here watch Dr. Rashad Richey? I LOVE him, and his "I wish a Karen would" series. He also posts videos and commentary about the "anti-Karens", those who stand up to racists and haters that are very insightful.

[@d123mahesh2]

I do! I’m subscribed to him. There is so much rascism out there!!!

[@brendajo8589]

I'm at a "I wish a Karen would" position these days.

[@d123mahesh2]

@@brendajo8589 oh! How so?

[@ShelliBelliWF]

I'll check him out!

[@brendajo8589]

@@d123mahesh2 because people are unhinged and I have no problem standing up for myself or someone else. In fact, I have several times in the last year or so. The bullshit people have pulled of late is completely deranged. So to answer your question, yes...I wish a Karen would.

[@angelaroberge8155]

Addendum: After going through the whole "I don't understand, can you explain it to me?" tack on (with wide eyed innocence and dawning comprehension), "Oh! I get it! It's a racist joke!"

[@Jcewazhere]

Does this apply to cis people seeing bigotry targeted at LGBTQIA+ people? Yes.

[@gailremp8389]

I don't even know what a cis People is and I'm not trying to be weird. I just see people as people so I guess it should work if you know you're screwing up when someone corrects you when you should be very humbled and embarrassed. And I'm embarrassed and humbled to say I don't even know what a cod people is. So I will work on that. I've just got to get through the rest of the other craziness of the world. It's hard being a 71 yo broad anymore in this world. It really is sometimes....Thanks for understanding

[@dominicg11]

It also applies when you see someone on the end of sexual harrassment - let's be honest when someone is being shitty to another human being based on some arbitrary criteria let's not accept it. :)

[@Garfieldcfc]

@@gailremp8389 a cis person is simply someone who identifies with the gender that matches the parts they were born with, it's shorthand for "cisgender" occasionally people will use cis to refer to people who are both heterosexual and cisgender, as the comment above you did; "cishet" serves the same function. No worries on not knowing, new terms show up all the time and you can't be expected to know them before you hear about them! Asking politely for what a word means will very often be met with an answer, usually free of judgement.

[@princessnahema]

This cis thing is really stupid. We are just normal regular people.

[@50733Blabla1337]

@@princessnahema Implying that others arent normal great take

[@VengefulAngeI]

I actually pulled the "I don't get it" line for both a "joke" AND a comment all in the same general conversation. It was my boss's wife 😬 It was right after the Kyle Rittenhouse thing, she came into my work, and shows me this meme that "jokingly" suggested shooting BLM protesters. I gave her a confused look and said I don't get it. (I did). She joyfully explained, and I just made a face of both confusion and "that's just weird". She then tells me she's never been a gun person but it's considering getting one & taking classes. I said, "why?" I shit you not, she replied with, "These BLM protesters are taking over, city after city, and I'm not letting them take MY house". I gave her a blank look and said, "what do you mean, 'take your house'?" She FINALLY seemed to catch on that I was never confused to begin with, & instead was disapproving, and quickly explained, "It's not cuz I'm a racist, it's not about black people. Most BLM people aren't even black. So it's not racist. But they ARE coming, and you better hope you believe it before they get here" 🤦 UPDATE its about 15 months later and not only does she still have her upper middle class house that's worth more than 1/2 a mil, but it hasn't once been under any danger. Shocking, I know.

[@random23287]

The issue for me when confronting people I'm close to is they will complain about "political correctness" which really disappoints me as it shows they don't actually believe that racism is a problem or that there's something wrong with what they're saying, that's just a front to not get called out.

[@Rashas63]

I've sometimes used "respectfully correct," because that's fundamentally what it's about: addressing and treating someone as they have every right and expectation to be. For instance, it's difficult for me to fully understand non-binary terminology. But you know what I'm not thinking or doing? Saying it's ridiculous and that I'll just call someone whatever way I want to. I'd wager that there'd be a lot less sneering at and bragging about how you're not "respectfully correct."

[@IMJwhoRU]

@@Rashas63 When someone complains about “political correctness,” I say it’s really about empathy and compassion. I ask, “Why would you want to say something that you know will hurt someone else?”

[@FreebirthBoccara]

well, here's the thing. you don't need to be close to them. if they cared about you they would change their behavior if only around you. and worst case scenario... Noone has the right to be close to you. you can always exclude them. there are family members I do not talk to because of their personal beliefs.

[@Rashas63]

@@IMJwhoRU Exactly.

[@random23287]

@@FreebirthBoccara Bit harder to exclude them when these people are your parents, but I get what you mean.

[@TheMister123]

"Immediately"? Sure, but what if I'm the kind of guy who wakes up in the middle of the night, hours later, only then coming up with the perfect response? 😳

[@chezmoi42]

Aww, this is what we call in France 'l'esprit de l'escalier', or 'stairwell wit' - the perfect response always comes to mind after you're long out the door.

[@deanvaillancourt2881]

I tend to say "what did I just step in." Shake my head and leave. The worst part is if I run into this person again. They actually think I'm the one they need to apologize too.

[@nathanh6439]

Interesting. Mine is "I smell what you're stepping in."

[@tiffaniepowell880]

Thank you, Beau! I own a small business and (before COVID-19) sold at vendor events regularly. Sometimes I'd take a friend to help. People I'd sold to for years would always assume she owned the business. My friend is white. She always corrects them, but didn't realize it was racially driven. I had to explain it to her after the protests last year. The death by a thousand cuts that is the life of a minority in America.

[@tsts9459]

I've had a few good days were someone will say "can you believe all the mexicans moving here?" I return with "I know, I can't believe I've lived here 20 years The look is priceless 👀😳

[@antediluvianatheist5262]

@Reinhard Rockwell oh look. Racist talking points and bad spelling. Name a more iconic pairing

[@LouanneDalBello]

@Reinhard Rockwell How are you being replaced?

[@sarahte8154]

@@LouanneDalBello 'Reinhard' "Joined Sep 22, 2021" maybe he's his own 'replacement' 😬

[@LouanneDalBello]

@@sarahte8154 Ha! Yes! :D

[@epona9166]

I'm mindblown by the presence of mind Beau's friend exhibited in that tense situation. He (Beau) made his point but I'd love to know what happened in that hour.

[@Tmanz420]

I would bet the threat was disarmed.

[@laureth8]

I was wondering that pretty heavily myself, like, "what's the rest of the story, Beau?!"

[@fefe6995]

@@laureth8 So if you knew the rest of the story will it justify the racist rant? What scenario would it have been justified?

[@laureth8]

@@fefe6995 - Hi Internet Stranger, specifically what I wondered is what went down between Beau's friend and the guy making a scene after they left the bar. Did Beau's friend disarm the guy? Was there a fight? Was there enlightenment? I don't know, but I'm curious. I don't know where you are going on your tangent, but that's nothing like what I was thinking. Have a good evening.

[@jazzman.]

In 2010 I dropped my car off at the mechanic for service and took the bus the rest of the way to work. While on the bus, three young adult white guys were talking and using the N-word with loving bravado. As a black man and retired veteran I walked over to them and asked them, "Don't ya'll see me sitting here?" ....Crickets... "That's what I thought!"

[@saracruze2212]

I heard my son use the n word and I asked him you don't like to be disrespected do you he said no.I said well using the n word is disrespectful to yourself as well as to your friend... the look on his face. I no longer hear that word.

[@kristenpalmer7217]

THANK YOU! I'm crying. I have found myself in this situation more and more lately and have done my best. It's heartbreaking when the people close to you show this behavior. It's exhausting...I cant imagine how exhausted black people feel.

[@stevejohnson1321]

No idea where my father learned his racism. It took me over two decades to discover, people are people. Getting better is a life-long process, unfortunately.

[@omekanigerianprincess1560]

See something, SAY Something! It's that's simple bro. God bless you for talking about it. ♥️

[@awareyah6146]

Take a listen to my ALL FOR THE LOVE verse it seems like you’re a nice person MUCH LOVE

[@user-qo7dy2ih7s]

CALL IT PRIMITIVE when you see it. it works.

[@77Cardinal]

I've made casual missteps and been corrected. It's actually a bit of grace when someone gives me a chance to come correct.

[@mikejunior80]

Here's a thought: White people must be able to recognise the biases within themselves. I can recommend a teacher who could help with that. That teacher is Jane Elliot.

[@larrytaylor9954]

That’s the problem. They don’t want to hear the truth, even from Jane Elliot. They’ve been conditioned from birth to hate anyone nonwhite, Jewish, Catholic or Muslim. They live in a all white neighborhood and attend an all white church somewhere in the sticks. They educated them to believe lies and myths: The battle of the Alamo was a fight for freedom from Mexico. That was a lie. Mexico had outlawed slavery in 1829, and southerners wanted to expand slavery into their territory for which they objected. The rest of the story you know. Democracy is not a racist’s forte; authoritarianism is.

[@denisemcdougal6445]

Thank you

[@emjohnson7207]

@@larrytaylor9954 well, they sure don't want to hear Haiti's history and why they have a constant poor economy... we're told it's because of greedy politicians, but that's not the initial cause. Professor on C-SPAN explained how after slaves revolted, France demanded reparations... Haiti new government paid up, but every country (France, UK, USA) refused to do any business with Haiti and they never recovered financially. Now let's talk about the climate...

[@m.f.hopkins8728]

@@emjohnson7207 I just had a conversation about this with a co-worker a few days ago...

[@jo-annemuise470]

@@emjohnson7207 Countries run by white men could NOT handle the fact that these Black men were so prosperous... so they had to be destroyed.. Not just Haiti.. ALL black communities all across the US that were doing well... better then the white man wanted... Also First Nations people.. driving cars due to large fortunes made in copper mining .. but all were murdered .. sorry forget the details.. guess y'all need to do research..lol👵

[@machintelligence]

What is funny about that? Excellent response. Sarcasm also good.

[@Ash__Adler]

Yeah, I've had some good results using that one with people who I can't just avoid at work (back when I had to worry about sharing air in the same building 🙂)

[@grmpEqweer]

I dunno. My sarcasm is practically radioactive at this point.

[@jdnb86]

I’ve only had to deal with this once when I was younger. In my early 20’s at a Starbucks. Had someone berate me for speaking to my grandmother in Spanish. Seeing as she doesn’t speak English it would have been hard to do what they wanted. Im honestly proud of myself for how I handled the situation. Certainly wished I had gotten it on film though.

[@gailremp8389]

But everything in life can't be on film. But your memory and your descriptions don't go away. It's all good

[@bndllama9067]

I have a "friend" whose personality traits are "I own guns" "I'm a Christian Conservative" and "I make shitty jokes". Sometimes his jokes are funny, mostly they are just mean statements disguised as jokes. I've noticed however that mocking things that he cares about really bothers him, so whenever he makes a shitty joke I mock something he cares about. He got really upset when Netflix made a joke about Jesus being gay, so I use that to mock him, he has a problem with feet so I make feet jokes, etc.. Over the three years I've known him he's gone from an alt-right proud-boy to a pro-union libertarian, still a dipshit but he's making progress.

[@kennethellison9713]

I think you may be confusing "Liberal" with "Libertarian" which is an ultra-conservative, every-man-for-himself, no-government-restrictions-whatsoever political ideology.

[@olinewright6877]

another comment you could make about Jesus is that he was a socialist. He taught that it is the duty of the rich to help the poor in fact the general tenor of the Bible leans that way.

[@ariaflame-au]

@@kennethellison9713 he did say he’s still a dipshit, it’s progress not an end result

[@TheMisterGuy]

@@olinewright6877 "He taught that it is the duty of the rich to help the poor in fact the general tenor of the Bible leans that way." He also said it was OK to punish a slave for not making you enough profit on your money while you were away. That's pretty capitalist. And pro-slavery. God also acts like a North Korean dictator, too. He's always right about everything, he's infinite and perfect and gets all the credit for anything but no blame ever, he micromanages your life and is a huge bigot, that kind of thing. I would just not lean into it in general, it's too much of a self-contradictory mess and it's overall pretty evil.

[@rdean150]

@@TheMisterGuy Oh those are also good points to achieve the same objective as the socialist thing - that being to shut down a conservative from attempting to use the bible as a justification for... well much of anything, I guess.

[@nickpacitti3247]

Had this exact conversation with a guy about a football team, that was finally going to win, because they “changed” QBs I asked why ? And when he heard himself answer, his reply shut him up🤣🤣👍🤙✌️

[@kimandmiked]

Stuff like this is sooooo common. I went to an Italian restaurant with a woman for her birthday (20 years ago, September 7, 2021). She read a description she liked, asked the waiter about it, and ordered it; some Alfredo dish. She complained after getting it because there was cheese. It was Alfredo! The waiter apologized he hadn't mentioned the cheese--in an Alfredo!--and grabbed the menu to show her what Alfredo is...it didn't mention cheese either. We just kind of assume people know basic things. Like its racist to assume race is somehow tied to one's ability to play QB. But some people don't even know there's cheese in Alfredo. A lot of people don't even realize their thoughts and core beliefs are racist because racism is so a part of the American recipe that we don't even mention it, we just assume everyone knows it's there

[@_JayRamsey_]

I rewound a few times trying to figure out why Justin's friend joined in in the racism. Made perfect sense once I realised it was because he didn't want anyone to get shot. Good on him. I still can't understand how some people can hate others based solely on how they look. It's insane how little progress we've made, especially in this age of unlimited information at our fingertips.

[@druidictroy1157]

Yeah there came a point where I had to tell my brother in law (whom I loved dearly) that "I can't change the way you feel but if you want us to continue to hang out then you can't talk like that when I'm around. It worked.

[@---Dana----]

Great advice! I was shocked a couple weeks ago when my neighbor made a racist comment. I told him that racism is an insidious form of ignorance.

[@somebodyelse6673]

Okay, Beau's friend came back an hour later... but did they ever find the body?

[@sking5282]

lmao

[@ladydi1079]

😂🤣😂

[@Teeja1212]

Or give them a business card for Racist Rehab Therapy, while explaining to them with concern that racist thought patterns create neuropathways in the brain that lead to thinking problems that have been known to lead to senility.

[@lynn_thinks]

OMG! I might have a handful of those printed. - and another possible t-shirt for Beau’s store!

[@e-spy]

brilliant!

[@sharonburgher5278]

I LOVE THIS!!

[@CALFCfan]

Beau! You BEAUtiful human. Unrelated to this video's subject.... I recently had an encounter with an extended family member (wife's uncle) that I'd never met before after more than a decade of being with my wife. From what I knew of him, prior to the meeting, was that he's a biker in his early 50's, just a few years older than myself. He's the youngest brother of my wife's dad who recently got out of San Quentin, having run afoul of the absurd 3 Strikes law in CA for minor drug possession. I was very concerned that they might be of the Pseudo Libertarian ilk.....They roll up on their Harley's, all leathered up.... And lo' and behold we start feeling each other out about politics etc. In the course of the conversation we start listing the folks we listen to, media, etc. He drops your channel, and boom! I knew we were simpatico! Thanks for bringing people together who, on the surface, might not think they're allies 🤙✌️

[@ernestromero3631]

There was a white activist against apartheid in South Africa who said "The only way to show one does not approve of racism is to protest against it." I wish I could remember his name. Good quote.

[@muliefriend4785]

🥰 love it. Too bad most churches don’t teach instead of entertain.

[@appalachianqueen8369]

Religion like racism needs to foster a false sense of superiority.

[@marshcreek4355]

@@appalachianqueen8369 Yep. Who's up vs who's down. Who's in vs out. Who's got the power vs who doesn't. It really does get tiring. Religion seems to play the same games as culture does. The irony is that in the true spiritual journey it's about smallness and few want that as you can't be better thsn other people with it. I guess that's why so few people want to go there.

[@muliefriend4785]

@@appalachianqueen8369 True that…

[@appalachianqueen8369]

@@marshcreek4355 exactly....spiritual journeys are seldom taken with the same passion as journeys of righteousness and greed. Spiritual journeys bring enlightenment and peace and the realization of oneness with the universe.

[@miknwv]

Beau, I used your tactic of "i don't get it" and it worked, I even asked him not to use the N word around me. He respectfully agreed. A year later, we were around some more of his friends and one used the N word. Before I could step in, my friend asked him not to use that word. Thank you.

[@briancrossman8419]

Just like observing abuse of any kind. Say something or do something.

[@cindyneeper]

I joined your channel for a sanity check. Thank you Beau

[@Niarbeht]

"We had been celebrating for a couple hours", "I probably was not as aware of my surroundings as I normally am" Ohhhhh, we've all been there!

[@4rah46]

Zero Tolerance as a baseline, support ALL people’s rights

[@beautybycrystalmckenna966]

Also a good tactic when you hear veiled sexual harassment. "What exactly did you mean by that?"

[@Ash__Adler]

Yeah, it works well for calling out all sorts of bigotry and discrimination (plus there's less chance of looking like an idiot yourself if you thought something was offensive but it turned out to have a reasonable explanation 😅)

[@BlacqueJacqueShellacque_]

I'm glad you address the people that may be "good people" but may unknowingly make some racist statements or just jokes. Many of these people just need a gentle reminder that racism is never acceptable or funny. Maybe they won't stop right away but after a few reminders they will learn.

[@LexYeen]

And? Asking them to explain why what they said was funny can help them realize the degree of hate that was baked into what they've been repeating unknowingly their whole lives.

[@antediluvianatheist5262]

@Reinhard Rockwell natural inclinations are not good just because they ate natural. That's a fallacy. Policing your thoughts is how you policevypur actions. It's called 'self control.' And its a mark of maturity. Just because you are naturally racist/sexisy/homophobic does not mean that you have to stay that way.

[@RonSparks2112]

When I was a child, I made a racist remark to a black person my family knew. It was something I picked up in school, I'm sure. My father applied some "direct correction". I don't mean punishment. He sat down with me and carefully explained exactly why what I did was wrong. I never forgot.

[@madeleineprice9645]

@@antediluvianatheist5262 Yonder Reinhard joined this channel on 22 September 2021. That can suggest he's a new troll. Jus' saying.....

[@lyndayoung2000]

My father once used a derogatory term about men who wear turbans. I told him to never use that term in front of me again and he never did.

[@paleface4388]

Man you always talk about the hard topics with good insight that’s neutral . Just facts . Thanks for being you

[@brianleffingwell1060]

I heartily agree Beau is spot on

[@chcknpie04]

I love this. It’s actual self-defense. This video could very well prevent many fights

[@GregAkers]

Great idea ! When you are around a racist, don't get mad, just do things, that hopefully will make him/her feel stupid !

[@waterwitch8902]

Ive always found there is a way to do it, but there isn't 1 right way. You have to go with the situation at hand as to how you handle it. However immediately is a must.

[@janebirdsong8949]

I once had a very interesting conversation with my late father-in-law. He was an agronomist for a very large sugar beet processor. Somehow the topic of affirmative action hiring was raised and he tried to defend himself by saying he could never find qualified minority candidates. I looked him dead in the face and asked him have you ever considered recruiting at Tuskegee or Howard. The blank look on his face was priceless.

[@2chuck]

Sadly with some of the MAGA crowd telling them something is Socially Unacceptable is taken as praise.

[@justsayin8734]

@Robert Plissken BS

[@freedomofreligion3248]

Super value, thank you.

[@MiMi-og4wx]

Spot on Beau, and I do speak up. Everyone shsre the shit out of this!

[@BarryWynn]

Thanks for this. For the black (or non-white) person present, responding immediately is a huge boost. Because when you don't, it's very isolating.

[@magnanimus9692]

Education is exhausting, but it's effort well spent.

[@gogiggs6416]

I've been in that situation and it's tough, but you have to stand up for what's right. The approach I've used when someone dropped an N bomb is "that kind of language isn't okay here, You get one free one, you do it again I'm going to ask you to leave". Every person I've said that to has been shocked, none of them have gone to step two.

[@olinewright6877]

When I was in the 4th or 5th Grade (don't recall which as I just recently hit 63 figured it out that I was 8 or nine at the time) one of my teachers gave us something that I consider a valuable lesson. There was a squabble between a black girl and a white girl don't recall what started it, but the memorable part was that I guess the black girl told the white girl to do something and the white girl said "Make me" and the black girl said "I don't make trash I burn it" which resulted in the white girl saying "Maybe that's why you're so black". Our teacher at that time was a really nice black lady (my opinion anyway) who immediately upon hearing the conversation told all of us to get into a small circle and hold out one arm. She told us to look at our arms (the ones held out together) and told us that no one was the same color (she was right about this). She basically made it apparent that comments on skin color were not acceptable and that everyone was different.

[@davidlodge681]

Love your work. My wife and I live in a homelands, a traditional home of Aboriginal people in Australia, I wear the colours every day to very visibly declare my allegiance. Few will be openly racist when they see me, I’m clearly not their ‘kind or Allie’, my wife does not always wear the colours and is ostensibly a blonde, blue eyed white woman, she is not. We speak up, every time, it can and sometimes does lead to confrontation, but we’ve found that by standing up and speaking up it empowers others to do so and the support we get is astounding. Your advice is just what is needed, give people options to confront this illogical, horrid behaviour and the beliefs that underlie them.

[@sarahgupton2552]

After a racist remark to me, I responded, “Have I showed you pictures of my beautiful grandchildren?”

[@kathryncasey4114]

I don't have any children but I am going to get some pictures of beautiful grandchildren just for fun. Wait a minute, that might be exploiting children. Dang it, it does sound like fun. Oh well,. sigh,,,

[@sarahgupton2552]

@@kathryncasey4114 It was the pictures of my adopted grandchildren that shut him up.

[@grmpEqweer]

@@kathryncasey4114 Yeah, unless you know a black family well enough to get their permission for this use.

[@cheriann6461]

@@kathryncasey4114 That's hilarious. I'm so amused that I'm tempted to send you some pictures of my neice, nephew and cousins as babies. Some are near the color of carmel, because my relatives had babies with white folks. The looks on people's faces would be priceless. :) You're always so fun Ms. Casey.

[@cheriann6461]

Very cute. And amusing.

[@gregweatherup9596]

Where I grew up we had “Portagee jokes” used rather like “dumb blonde jokes”. Once I learned that “Portagee” was slang for “Portuguese ancestry” it put a very different spin on what I had thought was simply harmless jokes. An example of how racism can very subtly infect anything.

[@cheriann6461]

I'm sorry to be so late to this conversation. That was good advice Mr. I want to emphasize that doing ANYTHING, even just speaking up, can help.

[@andrei1971]

Remind me never to go to a Florida bar if they allow drunk people to have guns at the bar.