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[@raechel0823]

Self care tip: watch Lucy moon.

[@abaddonnnnn]

Raechel P. Like a video on the different types of birth controls and their effectiveness

[@bitTorrenter]

Single until you were 20? How hard.

[@beckstyles3467]

for a loser maybe

[@ThePrimevalVoid]

"Sleepover Club is a series where we have some honest, some frank, some personal chats, me and you." Isn't that this whole channel?

[@GingerRootss]

YAY!! Such a solid vid! So not shame-y and normalizing!

[@miscellaneousemail3919]

OKAY LUCY BABE this is one of the first sex education videos I've seen (not from a trans KZbinr) with just like the casual use of 'person with a womb' etc. THANK YOU !!

[@lucymoon]

I’m really trying to work on my gendered language atm! Drop me a message if I slip up x

[@tonydimeo1882]

Lucy Moon You are amazing 😉 it’s a very important thing to do. Language matters

[@sophievega4637]

bless lucy

[@morgrugyn]

Hey would that trans youtuber be Ash Hardell?

[@sophiafinucane1724]

Earl grey with coconut milk is THE drink

[@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701]

Sophia Finucane ew

[@talkingtoalison]

Hahaha fruitless i actually laughed out loud

[@heylookitsrach8065]

YES THIS IS THE CONTENT YOUNG PEOPLE NEED 😍😍💕🧡

[@chiaram.1185]

This is why I get tested regularly. When I told my friends I was getting my first STI test they looked at me oddly. I wasn’t worried about having an actual STI, it was the point of getting into the routine of getting regularly tested. Not only that but I thought it would be good to get it out of the way now, so if an emergency was to arise, I would know the procedure and in general, just be a bit calmer. I also got tested around the time I became official with my boyfriend. Either way, I’m super glad I did it and I will continue to do so every year, despite the odd comments

[@shaniya_hope]

DID YOU JUST REFER TO YOURSELF AS TERMINALLY SINGLE 😂😂😂

[@thepostgradlife3598]

“Casual sex is an important part of being single”. I feel like by using the word important here you’re almost shaming those that are single and not having casual sex. If you’re single you can do what the hell you want and shouldn’t have to feel like what you’re doing is wrong. Just a thought....

[@littlemusic4x]

Since I only had "relationship sex" I always had the opposite feeling, that casual sex is the magical type of sex. Like it's so wild and hot and just woowww! But I just don't think that would be something for me. To each their own I guess.

[@AnaCarolinaRodolfo]

I was extremely lucky here in Portugal because in the school's I was in, the sex education was great. We had our school's concelour talk to us about consent, feeling comfortable/ready, the classic banana, of course, and she invited us to her office for any advice we needed or any questions we didn't feel comfortable asking in front of the class, and even if we needed condoms (this was in seventh grade). Then in high school we had a more serious discussion about domestic violence, rape in relationships, sex as a way with coping with pain, and most my teachers were open to any worries we might have had.

[@feelinginsaneisnormal2569]

Ana Carolina Rodolfo sex as a way of coping with pain? That is incredible, I wish I’d learnt about that! And rape within relationships, would’ve saved me one hell of a 2017!

[@palmy2299]

Evan would be so proud of that pun haha

[@aheddle1623]

Mark e-o evaaan x

[@cinemoni]

such a great video Lucy

[@marianafernandes4725]

love your channel!

[@skyrim_dragon]

Anyone else have a fear of getting pregnant? It's probably the only reason I'm still a virgin tbh

[@beliebersrock98]

skyrimdragon yes that’s why birth control is soooo important I know it’s not 100% but many many girls go years without ever having an unplanned pregnancy so those are good odds it’s extremely rare when you use your birth control correctly

[@cloudsofsunset7323]

Can you talk about communication in sex? i think is important, films, porn and no book talks about it

[@keepsusstargazing2505]

"I was single until I was twenty years old" And my eighteen-year-old​ self instantly feels so much better. Why do I feel weird about having never been in a relationship? I don't know, but I know that this video made me feel better.

[@OjaswiShxrma]

Great video Lucy! I agreed with most of what you said. I had really appreciate a candid chat about intimacy, cheating, staying together etc.

[@queenlucysroyalmaid1]

I think when it comes to anyone who is underage, as in before the age of 18, a good rule of thumb is 'don't send/post/say things you don't want your parents hearing/seeing/reading', as putting things online can make someone particularly vulnerable, at that age especially. But it doesn't necessarily apply to adults tbh! It's a standard I kind of lived by when I was young, even though I didn't know I was living to that motto. Personally think the Internet is a more dangerous place now? Idk?

[@queenlucysroyalmaid1]

Also, side note: I was not mainstreamed as a disabled youngster. I was in a school specifically for disabled children, and provided NO sex education. This has SO MANY ISSUES. I think disabled people are in a position where they need consent discussions as a PRIORITY.

[@oliviamiller-davis4667]

queenlucysroyalmaid1 are you in the UK?

[@oliviamiller-davis4667]

Idk, some people have complicated relationships with their parents and it is normal to not want to discuss certain things with your parents

[@NeidaTeresa]

I kept getting distracted because I wanted to know what sweets she was eating 😆

[@hannahgill5449]

Yeah why was the packaging blurred out?

[@NeidaTeresa]

Lazy Days I assume it’s some sort of copyright thing so she doesn’t have to pay royalties, but I still wanna know cause they looked 😋

[@MsPointlessLife]

They kinda looked like the candy kitten watermelon sweets but idk

[@BeccaW]

Just a note for some people who might not be comfortable with going to a GP/clinic, you can order a FREE chlamydia testing kit straight to your door at checkurself.org.uk

[@DopeKiddish]

How does one not get attached to another when having casual sex

[@kcv0605]

Sex doesn’t create a long term emotional bond in itself. It’s just a mechanical act. If you’re having sex with someone you find physically attractive or that somehow turns you on, but that’s it, then there’s nothing about sex that will *automatically* elicit psychological bonds. The release of oxytocin post-orgasm isn’t a magic button, and it isn’t everlasting. People often bind incredibly tightly and passionately with people *without* having yet had sex with them. Sex can be incredibly bonding, but whether or not it is is dependent on a variety of factors, one of which is basically chance. The short version is that having sex can and very often does strengthen existing emotional bonds, but it doesn’t actually create them in itself.

[@Mxrlou]

"casual sex is an important part of being single" i'm single and i don't like casual sex ahah, not because it's not okay, but bc i'm demisexual. For me a big part of being single is crushes. crush crush crush.

[@lningja]

Girl this was so interesting to watch and you make it so accepting and safe. Could you please backtrack and do a Sleepover video about Losing Your Virginity? Love from New Zealand xx

[@georgie936]

Your hair 🤩🤩

[@amemey7899]

Yessss Lucy I live for your videos! I'm so excited to watch this I love that you're always so open to talking about sex and other similar topics! Always nice to see that you don't sugarcoat "taboo" topics 💕

[@talkingtoalison]

I can’t wait for part 2 of this!

[@TheMoreTheMary_]

I want to add something at 6:08 : Not everyone thinks this way. A lot of my friends believe sex is like half of the relationship, sometimes more, sometimes less, which is obviously absolutely fine. Whoever it can seem a bit difficult to find someone who also thinks it's just a "nice addition".

[@Margaret_Hemenway]

It's interesting how HPV is the most common STI in the USA but in the UK its Chlamydia? Why is that?

[@soymilksweetheart]

Margaret Hemenway it could be because we have the free hpv vaccine in schools that the majority of 13/14 year old girls have?? Idk for sure but it could be that!

[@elba2666]

I think HPV is just as common in the UK but literally no one talks about it. We get an HPV vaccine at school but it is only for the main cancer causing strains - most people still have HPV without knowing!

[@eleanorecn]

What is hpv?

[@elba2666]

human papilloma virus - its a largely undetected virus spread from skin to skin contact (condoms won't necessarily protect you, hence why so many people have it and often don't realise). Some strains appear as genital warts (which we are taught more about than hpv itself - in the UK at least). And some strains cause cervical cancer, which is why there is a vaccine!

[@eleanorecn]

El Budgie oh mad ok

[@lusy2402]

Can u do a vid about advise for demisexuals??? So many ppl don't know what that is and may be having forced sexual relationships. So unfair 😐

[@kayleighryan6583]

no matter what someone’s orientation is, forced sexual relations is never okay

[@racheljoy3104]

she’s not demisexual so i don’t believe she will be able to speak on it as she hasn’t experienced it

[@hannahdavies601]

Have to tried Evan Edinger, I think he talks about it sometiems

[@lydia129]

Yes yes yes please

[@alejandraperezcisneros2779]

Thank you for making this video Lucy- v informative!

[@harrietmabel6733]

YES Lucy, I’m so proud of you for doing this video. Sex is NOT a taboo subject, all us girls should be able to freely and comfortably talk about it x

[@femafull]

Great video, I love when people talk naturally about stuff like this! I'm 19 and still a virgin, but I really like to feel that sex is not a taboo topic anymore

[@alelovestea4755]

Never been so early for something

[@maelle.c.]

I'm still a virgin despite my age and I'll probably will be all my life because I look like a potato but hey this video is still really interesting ! This is an important topic and it's not discussed enough, and having you talking about it, really honestly and not how school or medias might talked about it is really great !!

[@xX-rh9nu]

I dont know how you look but I know that you're beautiful and someone out there is for you!! so dont worry and live your life babes xx

[@maelle.c.]

awww thank youuu

[@rubybond7888]

please do a lgbt one no one talks about it and its always age restricted xxx

[@babyyoucanridemybike]

This request seems creepy!

[@abaddonnnnn]

I finally made the decision to get an IUD after two years on the pill and continuously forgetting to take my pills. It’s been about a month now and I’ve had no problems with my IUD, the insertion of it was a bit uncomfortable but other than that I’m so relieved that I don’t have to take a pill everyday

[@gracedixey4633]

I’m certain this is the best video on the internet! Lucy this was such amazing sex education, not shaming anyone for having too much or too little sex! So brilliantly worded and concise, I’m so happy there’s a resource out here for everyone to learn about healthy sexual relationships!!

[@chloe01010]

As usual an EXCELLENT, informative and chatty video lucy, can i ask what lipstick you're wearing - it's stunning x

[@supermassivekathole]

being an 18 year old virgin is stressful

[@Royal_Fortune]

Katie Hughes try almost being 20 and an antisocial introvert 😕

[@hallieharmon701]

Try being....nevermind too embarrassing

[@matiaschacana5768]

Why is it stressful to you?

[@beckstyles3467]

no one cares

[@pika77289]

*likes video before watching it

[@ghostnotes.]

Deepika Parya same lmao

[@ghostnotes.]

I didn’t get the notification for this but, after a lot of random videos on KZbin, I found it. Thank god 😂 Loved this so much 💛

[@KD-oh3gx]

Incomplete or straight up incorrect sex education is a huge problem in the U.S. as well. Thanks for shedding some light on the topic :)

[@MegSays]

Super informative and you're just such a babeee!

[@oupsie9021]

so many different kinds of lighting in this video but all i can say is that all of them look great!

[@Sophie.L.H]

Yaaaaaas talking about sex is so important!

[@lotstannard8682]

a) great vid! b) love your pajamas​!

[@ravenblack5243]

I'm about to start uni in September and sex is the number one thing that I have been worrying about, over all the things that I could be worrying about and it's sex at uni. This video has made me feel so much better omg! Thank you so much!

[@SylviaVivian]

What ever happened to social Sunday’s?

[@sophiekatharina9655]

I’d love a podcast from you. Your voice is so soothing as well

[@LucywithinCapture]

Amazing video, Lucy! So lovely to see someone talk about this and be so gender and sexuality inclusive :)!

[@sarahdee8946]

I wish I had watched this as a teenager. This is a gift to everyone who is just beginning to discover and have sexual experiences. Well done!

[@maria.u.2221]

Thanks for the video!! and also u look so much like Keira Knightley in this video. wow

[@mattjordan8423]

This was pretty helpful for me as a 19 year old starting to figure out this portion of my life. It's something that I had been having anxiety about too recently. I'd really appreciate more stuff like this. Also, if you would have any advice for me as a guy in these types of situations, that would be wonderful. Thanks.

[@ALBUMOF2008]

I’ve never understood why being single is a bad thing????? Like why do ppl look down upon single ppl???? why if you didn’t date when u were a teenager is that considered bad??? Why if you’re in your twenties and you’ve never had a long term relationship is that bad???? If you’re 23 and you’ve had 2 long term relationships but are single now then why tf are you somehow better or more mature than someone who hasn’t and is single??? Y’all are both still single LOL. Idk I’m just over what the general public think. Why be in a relationship if it’s not gonna be amazing?? Don’t be scared of being single, be scared of being in a shitty relationship!!!

[@opaul6051]

my goodness, did I just notice this(?) but you resemble (a little) lily james! Pretty :)

[@vatfp21]

Losing your virginity aka having sex for the first time should *not* be terrifying!! It's normal to be nervous but if you really are ready and you trust the person you are having sex with (which should be the only option), you should not be feeling distressed about the whole thing... Stay safe and have fun kiddos

[@leaeicher7134]

I really loved this and i would love a longer video on the same topic

[@sarahr6276]

You look so beautiful here❤ thank you big sis

[@oliviamurphy5542]

how much sex is too much? my boyfriend and I have sex or do sexual stuff quite alot, and we don't see each other very very often. I do enjoy it alot, and I'm in on the pill atm which is making me have a higher sex drive, but alot of the time after we do stuff I get kinda anxious about it. I asked him what he thought and he agreed that it is alot and we don't know if its a bad thing or not. should we cut down?

[@nospock]

Honestly, because of youtube and people like the wonderful Hanna Witton, I was able to be very comfortable and safe with a person I trusted for my first time. Being on the internet for a majority of my life and having a community that openly talked about sex and how to not have it be god awful physically and emotionally really helped me. So thanks lucy and everyone sex positive online!

[@atlroxmysox98]

I personally have not noticed a difference in quality between casual sex and relationship sex. What makes the difference is comfort level.

[@NoahAndABadger]

I have a question. I want to have sex but I’m not bothered about relationships. This is the only reason I’d want a partner. Does this mean I am aromantic

[@leannereilly]

great video girl more people need you as their sex ed teacher in schools!! Just subscribed :) Hope we can support eachother xx

[@cynicalcenobia]

Less hauls with useless clothes noone needs, and more videos like this pls!

[@alyannakristine]

i really wish you read comments because i just wanna say that i love these type of videos that you make and i really miss the time you made a bunch of them. i learn a lot from you so please make more and share more. you’re like the sister i never had. more power to you you beautiful soul. i love you 💓

[@danginghina8977]

ok..teacher lucy,your lesson is very instructive for us! Thank you!

[@fieldvole]

hahaa my first time was something i've forgotten the actual *sex* part of- i just remember the intense emotions either side of the actual event!

[@aheartfullofart]

I'm 17 and i've never dated a guy or even kissed someone! i'm so stressed for uni because i feel so unprepared

[@jeaniebest5974]

Same and I’m 20! 😭 #crazycatladyintraining

[@amulyasubhash7764]

My first kiss was when I was 18, I'm 21 now and sexually active. There is no need to worry, age is just a number and there are no rules to have experiences. I hope you have a great time at uni and don't forget to be yourself.

[@andreia7543]

Hannah i relate to your comment 100%! I feel like thats gonna make it harder for me to enjoy uni bc i feel so out of place! But hopefully it will go well for us both!

[@ewura-amaquarshie9278]

Same here but I'm 18, it'll be fine & whatever happens happens

[@janabkatzen]

Love the Video. Where is your top from?

[@laurak5724]

Yes to these honest conversations! Thank you Lucy xxx

[@Ingridlosneslokken]

I really don’t get the casual sex.. how can sex ever be casual?

[@sophiehowe1473]

you look like lily james in the guernsey literary and potato peel pie society

[@hannahevekilgore]

im so ready for thissss

[@jessicafinnerty8]

This is amazing!!!!

[@reginaphalange1990]

why do you remind me so much of keira knightley

[@paulbrown4850]

Love how you tell the truth miss moon

[@hanross49]

Went to a Catholic school so had abstenice only sex education

[@orlacronin4532]

Wow ur content is great thanks for doing ads (getting that coin) on things you actually want us yo hear about ily ok bye

[@emilyscloset2648]

drinking game: take a shot eveytime she says sex

[@Fenyally]

i love this!!

[@MorganGale]

I wish I could get regularly tested for STIs, but I live in the U.S. and my insurance doesn't cover it. :^(

[@camelio10]

You make casual sex sound so unsexy, constant testing for STI's, no thanks! How about just be in a healthy relationship with someone you trust rather than putting it about

[@robertwalker8202]

not if you wear a condom

[@danievankay878]

Just stumbled upon your video. YOU ARE UHMAZING.

[@gosiarudnicka4030]

Girl, if you'd only know how sex education looks in Poland. Oh well, wait. Sorry - there is no sex education here. When you compare it to uk or usa for example, sex education in polish school is a one, huge joke. In middle school all I heard on the lesson called "Rasing to live in family" (yep, that's how its called) was that we shouldn't use any kind of birth control CAUSE IT'S BAD. Now I'm in high school and we don't have ANY lesson on the topic (except the one time when our teacher told us that 'holidays start, hormones are in the air so we shouldn't go to bed with anyone and come back to school with a bump, but also there was some girl who graduated pretty well and she was pregnant so generally that's fine...') Thanks for the video, it's really great!

[@louds0ft593]

ok, so, idk if this is weird, but for some time I've been questioning my sexuality, concretely whether I might be asexual, since I am not only uninterested but entirely repulsed by sex and don't even really get when a guy is "hot" and stuff like that. but I'm only fifteen, so there's always the thought of "maybe I'm just a late bloomer", so I just wanted to ask: when did you guys start to experience sexual attraction or how did you generally feel about sex at my age?

[@softysos2786]

hey guys.. weird question i'm hesitant to ask, but what do i do with my pubic hair? i have really thick, coarse, brown, long, curly hair and i'm worried during my first time my partner will find it gross or it'll get in the way or something. can someone help ?

[@ellyhills5255]

I love you and I love this...I’m 16 and I’m shook but you know what I’m waiting until I feel comfortable..quite disgusting how now days pretty much every teen has had it young. This helped me loads thank youuu made me feel worth and makes me feel little less stressed about not having it because of my appearance xxxxx

[@mandafranco1]

Hey Lucy! I was wondering, I've had some sexual encounters (I wouldn't call it sex, but what is sex anyway?) and I'm begging to question if I would need to buy a loungerie because I haven't got any. Not really to impress anyone, just to make me more confident when it did happen. What do you think?

[@hannahrachel4494]

Just, thank you so much? You may not be able to talk to 15 year old Lucy, but there's a lot of young girls who your advice has really helped

[@AnnaMaria01937]

I always do this. I always watch your videos drunk. Now I have to watch this video again tomorrow and then realizing that I’ve seen it before. I think you are an amazing KZbinr. Much love from Holland, see you tomorrow.

[@xpledgeturnprestigex]

This was a fab chat Lucy :) (fun fact... you actually posted this on the night I lost the v card... haha very coincidental and wish I had seen this first to be frank!!) also, can I be extremely off topic here and ask where you got that lovely necklace?

[@christinaconath5325]

I think it is GREAT that you talk about sex. A lot of the things you mentioned made me really nervous when I was younger as well. I especially like how you worded things, it felt very inclusive and positive to me. One thing I noticed: around 3:46 you said "If you have a womb you could get pregnant and anyone could catch an STI." I think you should have added that if you have a penis and testicles you could get someone pregnant. It otherwise really shifts the responsibility to the person who is able to become pregnant. Of course, the weight of the responsibility often IS put on the person that is/can become pregnant, but it definitely shoulnd't be. If someone is able to impregnate another person, they have to be equally as responsible, careful and thoughtful about it. Thanks for the great video, I really enjoyed it and am looking forward to the next one!

[@macheriejupiter]

Lucy giving us the information school fails to give👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@SamarkandChan]

It's really important to be safe and test for STIs, but I also think we stigmatise STIs way more than other kinds of infections. Most of them are treatable, also even if you've only had one partner or you've had 100 you may get one or not. And I feel like we shame people a lot for STIs instead of letting people know that you're not "dirty" for having one and it's not a shame you need to carry. My partner has herpes, it comes and goes but he takes antiviral medication when it comes on we use condoms then. I've never had any symptoms of herpes, although I likely have it since I've been with him for 6 years. It's not a big deal, it's fine. Does he wish he didn't have to deal with it? Or course. But it's honestly not a big issue and he felt really ashamed of having a break out when we first started dating.

[@LauraGammack]

Thank you for this video! It was really empowering! Xoxo

[@hanolischi193]

I absolutely adore your videos. They're so helpful and calming

[@diaaablooo]

Im using the best method for no STI... no sex FeelsBadMan

[@peachylu]

this is such a great video! lucy is so wonderfully positive, it just makes me feel so much calmer and relaxed knowing that we're all not alone and we all have a voice. what a lovely human being she is x