Let’s Talk: Why I Used A Texture Softener On My Daughter’s Hair | Naturally Sade

[@jvlovesk]

Thank you for being so open and honest!! I decided to texturize my daughter's hair too. It has been such a painful struggle for us too! I finally decided to use the texturizer because my daughter said to me "mom you want my hair natural but I just want my hair to stop hurting me". I was crushed. I finally had to see it from her eyes. So we are going to start this new chapter of hair with the texturizer and I hope it is ok, but most importantly I don't want her hair to be a source of pain for her anymore. Thank you again for sharing your video, it makes me feel like we are not alone in this struggle.

[@NaturallySade]

Omg yes!!! That’s the exact reason I was the one who wanted her hair natural but my daughter was the one suffering. It was definitely a hard decision but I have no regrets. It is so much better doing her hair now and she actually gets excited about hairstyles. I’m glad you’re able to understand the experience. You’re right we are not alone!

[@noelblackwell1908]

I felt this comment 😭😭 I’m there right now. My poor baby has long gorgeous hair to her tail bone but she also has the tiniest pencil curls. I’ve yet to find anything to help comb it out easier. She’s always in tears and it breaks my heart. I’m sooo against relaxers but at this point she hates her hair and that’s no better! My daughter is 10.

[@monaymonay7446]

I agree im natural and it hurts even doing nothing to it the way it feels is just odd from when id perm my hair im going to try the texturizer my daughters hair is too tangled if my grandma was alive she would be yelling “get that baby a perm” lol

[@oloriadeola3179]

I felt this , and this touched me and hits me different !!! My daughter is just 5 with a very full and long hair but when it's time for our Routine , I see the Sadneas in eye , the fear of pain !!! 😔😔😔😔 hubby said is there something you can do to make this girl happy she is carry a hair that she loves .....The way she cries break my heart and I just decided Yesterday Would go for a Testurizer for her ,seeing this video now brings joy to my heart , ... That I'm not alone and that I'm doing the right thing . ( Thank You ) ..I can't wait to see my daughter excited about our routine , Of what essence is it for me watch her in so much pain despite all the Hair Care Treatment .....Thanks Once Again

[@rebeccacorreia5262]

I am going through the same thing with my step daughter and we decoded together to do the texturizer this weekend. I hope your beauty journey went well.

[@dendenma08]

I am LITERALLY here because my daughter and I are both at our wits end. She begged me yesterday to just cut it all off and I can’t bring myself to do that as it’s been 9 years of me caring for it naturally through protective styles and with help, and it’s waist length when straightened. But it mats so quickly if it’s not in a protective or straightened state. All she wants to do is to be able to wear curly styles without us having to block off a whole day to schedule hair maintenance. So I’m researching and fighting some of the same feelings you expressed. We clicked on this because your daughter and you are adorable and it looks like you have similar hair textures to ours. Thank you for this. You have no idea how helpful this was for both me and her personally. She just turned to me and said “She’s a good mom- just like you.” 🥺 Your daughter looks so very happy. Good job mom ❤️

[@Mz_Brown_Suga]

Honestly, I'm really glad I came across this video. I was just having this conversation with my 9 year old who has a mix of 4B and 4C hair. She hates wash day and is extremely tender headed. She never wants me to style or wash it. She cries everytime and I really want to give her a texturizer. I have texturized hair and it made my life so much easier. Seeing you and your daughter have this conversation has encouraged me to go ahead and do it.

[@NaturallySade]

Yes totally! I know everyone is different, and it is a tough choice to make when it’s for your kids hair but for us it was worth it and I don’t regret it. Since you have experience with it then that’s even better bc you already know how to apply it and everything! Thank you for watching ❤️

[@Mz_Brown_Suga]

@@NaturallySade you're very welcome

[@gtawanna]

Thanks for sharing. This is so my story. My ten year old and I had the discussion after her most recent braided style and when I saw the pain she went through when the stylist was blow drying it-it brought me to tears. And still does not hen I think about about it. I feel the same way you did-like I’m changing her what she was born with-and I know I will be. I just don’t want her to feel tortured and me me feeling the pain as well. It is a long process on wash day. She wants to wear it down but I know the tangles will come back immediately. I’ll be taking the leap as well. Again, thanks for sharing. It’s a huge encouragement.

[@NaturallySade]

Oh mannn yes I know exactly how you feel! I’m glad you got some encouragement out of the video!! I just want people to know that of course the choice is between you and your daughter and it’s okay!! Don’t let yourself or anyone else make you feel guilty. We don’t regret our decision. I hope it works out well for you both!

[@rebeccacorreia5262]

Thank you for your videos. My step daughter had gorgeous natural hair but just like you the process of styling it causes her a lot of anxiety. We have gone to salons and tried to find lots of alternatives but she really wants to wear it down with confidence and with less of struggle with styling it. I believe this is the route we are going to go with. We have spent a month researching and watching videos. Wish us luck on our beauty journey.

[@TheAnanda83]

Thank you girl! I’m going through this with my princess. Zenobia is so cute, thanks princess!

[@NaturallySade]

It’s a tough decision honestly but I have no regrets at all. Especially our experience now is a much more positive experience when doing her hair. I hope it works well for you!!!

[@TheAnanda83]

Yes.. I’m going to try the silk press first.. her ends are really an issue and they wrap around the comb. I think if I straighten it real good I can cut her frayed ends and maybe that’ll help! Wish me luck

[@his_beyonce]

Omg, I can't resonate with your tears enough. The fact that I don't feel like I'm alone in my feelings or my decision is a blessing. I never realized how many mommies struggle like I do with their daughter's hair and that struggle does kind of feel like failure but I know it's not. Thank you so much for sharing your story ladies.

[@oloriadeola3179]

@Naturally Sade .....I felt this , and this touched me and hits me different !!! My daughter is just 5 with a very full and long hair but when it's time for our Routine , I see the Sadneas in eye , the fear of pain !!! 😔😔😔😔 hubby said is there something you can do to make this girl happy she is carry a hair that she loves .....The way she cries break my heart and I just decided Yesterday Would go for a Testurizer for her ,seeing this video now brings joy to my heart , ... That I'm not alone and that I'm doing the right thing . ( Thank You ) ..I can't wait to see my daughter excited about our routine , Of what essence is it for me watch her in so much pain despite all the Hair Care Treatment .....Thanks Once Again

[@mommyquispe650]

I can relate to you! From one mommy to another you have to do what works for you guys! ❤

[@kikievans9639]

My daughter is and was diagnosed with autism. She would cry to a point of nearly passing out because it is SOOOO extremely thick and curly even before the diagnosis. Her father would have hold her down and sometimes we would just send her to school with her hair tangled. She would yell, kick, fight and scream even after I was done. I cried and he felt bad he had to hold her. I felt that on top of what she is already dealing with I was adding to the problem. I didn't cut her hair, she did. She would not let me braid it or even touch it No matter how I tried to bribe her. So I asked my husband can If I could texturize it. I graduated from Barber/Styling school so I was aware that the chemicals would alter her natural curl pattern but I also knew how to apply it. I looked for the pressing comb in a jar that they no longer make but then decided to go with the Just for me texturizer. Thinking about what other women would say (because men don't care about all that) I was reluctant to do it at first but I asked myself how would it benefit HER. Does the looks and voices of their opinions outweigh the tears and screams for help from our daughter? Ah NO! So I texturized it. Period. She still cried but it mainly was because of the previous times I combed it. I guess she prepared for torture. Is it HER hair YOUR hair just because I made a decision to texturizer her hair??? No! ITS STILL HER HAIR! Just like we have to take care of natural hair, same MUST be done for chemically processed hair. That's the thing with SOME of us African American women. SOME think ppl like us are trying to be like them. That's not so. Ppl like us are trying to do what we feel is best. If someone of a different race want to make their hair a Jerri Curl it may not be because they wanna look black It may be easier for them to manage ESPECIALLY when they are older. My biggest advice is if you don't know what you are doing,GO PRO! This stuff has to be applied at the times it said. No more. You have to be fast with applications smoothing and rinsing. GO head sistahs with the movement . I did what would help MY baby and make the diagnosis she was given less stressful on her. AGAIN, ITS STILL YOUR HAIR! Ppl will know we are black whether we wear our hair natural or processed. Do what HELPS you. Shoot we alter our natural beauty by putting chemicals on our faces so what's the difference that's why we moisturize our skin before and after applying makeup. My advice is do the same with your hair. Even more after the texturizer or relaxer. Just my OPINION. GOD bless you Woman of GOD

[@adriennekirkland719]

Aww, young as me in tears 😭 too. I think you’ve made a great decision. I’ve been wanting to do this to my granddaughter, with the permission of her mom. We’re going to figure it out because her is stays dry and is breaking off. And she doesn’t like wash day, as a grandmother I make it as moisturizing as possible. Thanks so much for sharing, this should make it grow also..

[@NaturallySade]

Thank you and yes I’m so glad we did it. I hope you are able to find a solution for your granddaughter!!

[@deitrawest4592]

Thank you for being so honest!!! I go threw the same with my daughter to the point she hides... I too had mixed feelings about the texturizer but after seeing your beautiful daughter happy, I’m sure mine will smile as well... thanks for making this video.. this has truly helped me out about my decision ☺️

[@NaturallySade]

I’m so happy to hear that!! It is a hard decision but I personally don’t regret it. It’s made our lives and our relationship so much better. I hope it works out for you ❤️

[@TheKellyrc]

Thank you so much for making this video. Everything you said is exactly how I feel. My daughter has 4c hair and I have struggled with her hair as well. I have went back and forth on should I do the softner and talking with others that say oh no you should not do that. But I feel like my daughter's hair is stuck and won't grow. I think I am going to move forward with the softener but I am going to let my cousin who is a licensed hair stylist do it. Again thank you so much for this video. ❤️

[@lucilleholloman669]

My daughter is 12 and she heard me speaking about it and bought it with her money and I told her dad he said no but she wants it done and started crying we are afraid her hair might fall out if we do it so what should we do

[@NaturallySade]

That decision is up to you and her dad. Whatever you think is best for her. I personally made sure to read the instructions very carefully and I asked my mom about it bc she did it to my hair when I was younger. Since you have to work fast with it I used gloves and applied it with my hands. I had lightly blown out her hair before applying to make it easy to section.

[@NaturallySade]

I had her hair in two halves. The front and the back. I applied to the back first, then rinsed and shampooed (making sure not to wet the front half. Then I applied to the front half. Hope that helps!!

[@mizkeyababy]

Same my daughter is 14 and biracial but she's taken on more of my coarse hair. I'm scared its gonna fall out

[@keandramcinroy3554]

At what age did you started texturing her hair?

[@LovingMeTNT]

This is exactly what me and my daughter are going through now. Hair day is extremely stressful for both of us and I had family members fussing at me for even thinking about perming it. But my daughter has autism and she literally screams when I do her hair, which makes me feel horrible. But then a friend at the beauty supply mentioned the texturizer to me so I’m praying it works. Thanks so much for sharing, I definitely can relate to how you feel as a mother 💛I didn’t want to feel like I failed my baby either. I have even prayed about this and tried different products, but they never really work so this has to 🙏🏾💛

[@NaturallySade]

I hope this works for you and your daughter!! I went through the same thing with my family telling me not to do it. But they aren’t the ones going through the struggle and pain. We have no regrets!!

[@LovingMeTNT]

@@NaturallySade it did, it worked beautifully and she loved it 💛 She really loves how her hair looks now and enjoys it. I just did it a couple of days ago, and since then she seems happier and has been having better days at school too, smh lol no regrets at all 💁🏽‍♀️😌💛

[@NaturallySade]

@@LovingMeTNT oh yay! I’m SO happy it worked out well for you both. It’s a game changer! I feel like at this time, we want them to enjoy it. When they’re older, they can decide what they want to do with their hair.

[@pinklight911]

You are helping so many women. Thank you

[@NaturallySade]

Omg thank you for that! It’s a tough decision, and might not be the best for everyone, but some of us it is so helpful and makes life (and wash day) so much easier. No regrets!

[@NNicholeHE]

I’ve been struggling with this decision. I have three girls 2 have 3C curly hair and my middle has super thick 4A/B hair. It’s war in our house when it’s time to comb, some days I don’t even do it because I know it hurts her. I didn’t want her to think her hair is bad because her sister and I don’t use them. I have done the braids, other protective styles and all it does is make it grow and makes the next comb harder. I’ve decided to use one and pray it makes her hair easier to manage.

[@NaturallySade]

It’s such a touch decision but also worth it imo. We have no regrets about it. It has definitely made my daughters hair easier to manage and comb. If you do decide to go for it I hope it turns out well for you and your daughter!! ❤️

[@NNicholeHE]

@@NaturallySade I did it! She loves it she didn’t cry when getting it comb, was even feeling herself looking in the mirror. I made sure to tell her that her hair was still beautiful and extra special. I wish I would’ve done it sooner.

[@NaturallySade]

@Nyesha Nicole Harris omg yay! Im so glad you two had a positive experience with it! And yes I feel you girl bc after the first time I felt the same that I should’ve done it sooner! It’s amazing how much of a difference it makes. So happy for y’all 🥰🤗

[@leauhnabell6699]

I have a question. Did you wash her hair before you did it or did you do while her hair is dirty?

[@myriiisade3527]

I had to make the same decision and my daughter is so much happier. She can wear her hair and so many different styles now. A tip for everyone. Do not apply through the hair. Only on the roots. Try not to get a lot on scalp. It damage your hair if you apply through the hair to the ends. Lastly keep it oiled.

[@MsLopes327]

Do you use natural hair products have texturizer? thanks in advance ❤

[@nicsbailey3031]

Wow! I'm so with you girl! But I didn't texturize my girls hair until she was 7 years old. The struggle, the tears.. My daughter is so much more happier that she can do more things with her hair. No more struggle on wash days. I didn't feel guilty until I was getting side eye from other people. My daughter is happy and that is all that matters to me!! God Bless 🥰 your daughter is very beautiful 😍

[@NaturallySade]

Omg yes!! People are so quick to judge others, but they don’t understand the feeling in our shoes and how we don’t want our kids to suffer. I agree, no regrets, especially because my daughter is much happier just like yours. Thanks for watching and commenting ❤️

[@miyahmac554]

Thank youuuuuu for this video it sheds so much light on my issue that I’m not alone with my daughter whose alsobetween a 4a-4b and she’s 3 and her hair literally touches her waist. But honey you did what you felt was best for you and your baby

[@nailvixenkay]

Aw you made me cry 😭 lol I’m watching your video because my daughter cries and screams when it’s time to do her too. I tried Locs for 6 months but she said she looked like a boy so she didn’t want them. Now we are back at the stage where she just cries and SCREAMS and begs be to stop and it’s sooo draining...I know I’m gonna be sad and I already feel like you. Like I’ve failed at managing her hair but I also don’t want my daughter In pain...so I’m gonna do it today

[@NaturallySade]

It’s a tough decision, not gonna lie! But for us we have no regrets. I feel you and your daughter’s pain!! It IS draining because you start dreading the process before you even start. I hope it works out for you!!! ❤️

[@glorivelhernandez9751]

My 2 years old when I do her hair and see the comb she’s cry. She had a lot of hair and thick.

[@paulettecoleman384]

I used to use...my daughters hair was so long and easy to manage...then I stopped now it's braking and shedding to much...no curly product works on her hair they actually dry her hair out more...not worth it...putting just for me in next weekend...thanks for sharing

[@MsAJLJ]

OMG. Everything you are saying and feeling is a mirror image of myself and my daughter. My daughter is 11 now and both my girls have very curly hair and both have extremely tender scalps. the oldest manages her own hair she is now 21 but it was the same struggle that I have with her younger sister now. The youngest hates for me to touch her head. I have made the decision to also use the texture softener. It is a huge decision for us natural hair moms. Thank you.

[@RT-rj4os]

You are great mom and done the best thing for both you and your daughter...God bless your intent❤

[@monaymonay7446]

You think its okay for my 4 year old? She doesnt like it washed it tangles right after we tried blow drying but she doesnt like it combed at all or brushed we tried braids but its alot money the style only looked good less than a week before her hair was frizzy sticking out the braids plus took over and hour arguikg at hair salon to get her to get her hair detangled and the stylist not nice she wanted to cut half hair off claiming to tangled to braid i told her no i will just pull out the areas too tangled

[@crystallight328]

Awww don’t cry. You are doing a god job. ❤️

[@SincerelyBlake]

I’m here because I’m thinking of using one on my daughters hair. Wash day is rough for us 😖

[@NaturallySade]

Sincerely Blake trust me I know the feeling!!! I don’t think texture softeners are for everyone BUT I have no regrets. There are no more tears during wash day or whenever I have to refresh her hair.

[@beans526]

I'm thinking of doing this for my 5 year old. It's horrible when I have to comb. No one wants to see thier child in pain and the frustration it makes you go through. You both end up crying. Until you have a child that goes through this you can never understand.

[@NaturallySade]

Yes I totally agree. I never thought in a million years I would use a texturizer on MY child but having this experience I had to rethink. As much as I want my daughter to love her natural hair I also want her to enjoy getting her hair done and it not be a nightmare for her and me. It was worth doing it and we have no regrets.

[@melelo3]

Thanks for this video! My daughter is almost 11 years old. Sooooo many tears throughout the years. She hates wash day, comb day, any day when we have to do her hair. We are going to texturize today. Hopefully this will help us enjoy her beautiful hair as well

[@AcieWHA]

How did it go? Are u happy with your decision?

[@prettybeatsbyeyez9608]

I wish there were something for little boys my son has 3c hair and we go at it all the time he’s had his hair since birth then I cut it off at the ageof five then we grew it out again then he had locks I took them out by hand two weeks ago because he cried so badly when I tried to re-twist them and they were matted really bad so we did a head full of conditioner and water and a comb and took them out now he just has two braids going to the back but it’s still a hassle and he doesn’t want it cut at all he cries when I talk to him about it so I’m just looking around to see what can I do for him

[@NaturallySade]

I’m sure you could use this for boys too!!

[@reginacrawford-moussa3400]

I'm looking at your video and tearing up as well. My daughter does my granddaughters hair and SCREAMS so bad I can't see her getting her hair done. I'm going to share your video with her 🤞🙏. Praying this will help my grandaughter.

[@NaturallySade]

@Regina Crawford-Moussa I hope this video helps because I know exactly what you mean. It’s a tough decision.

[@reginacrawford-moussa3400]

@@NaturallySade 😊

[@KJ-wp1fu]

They have texturizers for boys

[@tariromatova1465]

Im here because im thinking of making the same very big decision. My daughter said she wants to cut her hair because its so painful to braid it😫

[@Willpower1213]

Please answer I feel bad I should’ve done research first I never used texture or relaxers on my hair and I promised I’ll never do it to my daughter I didn’t know it would mess her curl pattern up and I heard it’s not good for her immune system.

[@dreyb2660]

I was on the fence about if I should do this or not with my 7 year old. After watching this, I think I’m going to try it. My daughter hair is so tangled and thick. It takes me hours to do and I only have 1 off day.

[@NaturallySade]

I know EXACTLY what you mean!! Trust me it took me a long while before finally trying this because I really didn’t want to put chemicals in her hair like that but we have no regrets!! It’s a tough decision but for us it has made wash day so much easier. I hope it works out for you and your 7 year old 💕

[@zaundriashanklin4147]

This video touched my heart and helped me to make a decision for my daughter 😢I felt the same way like I will be letting her down but her hair is soooo thick and curly, I’m going to speak with my husband about it and see how he feels and move forward with it because I think this would help tremendously, thank you so much for sharing !!!

[@sofiamarelin8570]

ase 1 mes utilize este producto. para mi hija y fue como una pesadilla. mi nena tenia su cabello risado" luego de ponerle este tratamiento mi hija perdio sus risos . ahora le quedaron feos como si la electrecida paso por ellos..ahora nose como recuperar los risos de mi nena ...

[@Zora_G]

I went through the same thing with my daughter's thick 4B/4C hair. I'm over joyed with the decision to texlax her hair. Best thing I could have ever done for both of us. It's actually healthier now than It's ever been.

[@NaturallySade]

I’m so glad that you had a good experience with it!! And yes I agree now wash days aren’t tears for both of us lol. We have no regrets either!

[@annabellbaker7866]

@Ms.Catalina How often do you do it?

[@drseidahood]

Do you use a texterizer for your hair? 😍😍😍😍 It's beautiful

[@ritaharris2778]

My daughter is 4 and I’m on the fence about it. Thanks for sharing!

[@kdg26cjd08]

Thank you for sharing. I go through the same struggles with my 9 year old to the point that i was ready to cut her hair. So i thought about doing a texturizer but was having the exact same feelings. I was really nervous about proceeding but watching this video helped ease my mind. Thank you so much.

[@chayxtwo3595]

Thank you so much for sharing. I have 2 year old twin girls and it is wash day. I just took their braids out something has to give lol ... I'm researching texturizers and came across your video.

[@becky7637]

Beautiful name, I use this on my daughter hair but it leaves it crunchy and hard after washing it out and conditioner ughhh help me

[@peaceinastorm]

Man! The struggle of long hair, thick headed, tender headed for girls. My daughter is 7. I'm so nervous to do a texturizer at her age. Thank you for this video. Still thinking about it 😭🤷🏾‍♀️

[@NaturallySade]

Omg yes! It’s a hard decision honestly. We have no regrets, but of course everyone is different. I will say I do try to hold off as long as I can between touch ups to see if she’s getting better with detangling and honestly she is. Might not have to keep doing it much longer.

[@zenariley2967]

Thank you for this, my daughter is 13 and I’ve desperately wanted to do this, I’m white so managing her hair has been a huge learning process. I’ve had mixed views from my husbands family but now that she is 13 she wants to do her hair by herself, it’s a mix of 4b and c and it’s long, super think and she has sooooo much hair that it’s not manageable for her.

[@suzanneford8623]

I am in the same boat. My daughter is 14 with dense, long, 4C kinky coiled natural hair. It is a struggle on top of a struggle. We are about to jump in so she can manage her own hair.

[@nadinegarcia9339]

Don't feel sad about your decision focus on your Daughter happiness, the main thing is that your daughter is happy

[@NaturallySade]

Thank you 💕🙏🏽

[@sjcannister3561]

Thank you for being honest. So many moms feel guilty for not leaving the hair natural.

[@meghanjackson8536]

Omgggeeee yess this is the video I needed my daughter is the same way and she’s five now and everything I do I can’t find anything that match her hair product wise as soon as I derange her hair it tangles back up and her hair takes 4 plus hours to do and it is a struggle but I will def try it loveee itt

[@robinstocking7878]

They still have JUST FOR Me... 😳

[@NaturallySade]

Robin Stocking Hahahaha yes girl. My mom used to use that on my hair when I was younger lol

[@anaestebanmartinez]

I was listening and this is what is happening with my 4 years old daughter. She is crying any time I have to wash her hair. It is really curly but i have this mix feeling. I am not sure if do it or not because he hair is beautiful but difficult and I am scare to make a mistake. I also scare about what do you say about the scalp. Is it too difficult? Thank you so much for this video. I do not want my daughter lose her curly hair I would like to do more manageable.

[@NaturallySade]

The directions say not to apply directly to scalp, so I left a little space at the roots and scalp when applying to her hair. And yes I totally understand. It’s a hard decision. We have no regrets though.

[@robinstocking7878]

Love her commentary and how she interrupts you!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@NaturallySade]

Robin Stocking right because she had to tell everyone how she can ride her bike without training wheels 🤣

[@Ms.C.G.B]

Thank you For this I too struggle with my 7 year old very thick curly hair that gets matted and causes extreme pain when detangling we cannot go through this anymore it’s mentally emotionally and physically draining my family is all natural my sister mom and significant other are against it but it’s my daughter and I that go through it. I too feel bad about putting chemicals in here hair but this appears to provide relief and lessen the time spent on detangling for me to wash it and detangle all over again I cannot! Thank you for sharing

[@NaturallySade]

Yessss 1000000%! Other people that aren’t dealing with always think they know best, but let them go through the experience and they’re not going to enjoy the struggle lol. I hope it works out well for you!

[@toyafoster3173]

I appreciate this video. I'm leary about adding the chemicals to my daughter's hair but l decided to just do it! I need this hair process to be easier for me and my baby...thanks for sharing! Zenobia is adorable!

[@NaturallySade]

Yes I know what you mean! It shouldn’t have to be so hard lol. And thank youuuu ❤️❤️

[@thekingsdaughter5404]

I'm not cryingggg😭😭😭 I am on the fence and afraid how I will feel about it afterwards. I'm natural and I felt like my daughter and I bond on that fact. My daughter and I watched this video together, she just asked me if her hair would no longer be curly😭😭😭

[@NaturallySade]

Awww I know it’s such a hard decision. Especially because being able to embrace our natural hair is not ingrained in a lot of ethnic cultures. It’s important to embrace our beautiful natural hair types. I know exactly how you feel!! I will say that we don’t regret it. My hope is that when she’s a little bit older she will want to be completely natural and want to learn about how to take care of her hair. For now I want her to enjoy it with minimal pain and struggle.

[@lpklpk4909]

My Daughter is turning 8 Sunday and I'm going to use Just 4 Me tomorrow for the 1st time!!!

[@valicia1140]

This is my same situation with my two daughters. We are going through the same thing thank you for the video. She is adorable.❤❤❤

[@radkayeboah7513]

Hi, thank you for your video. My 6 year old daughter has same beautiful very curly hair like your pretty little girl. She doesn't like to wash it or brush it.. she never likes to leave it naturally down. Only wears ponny tails which stays ok for max two days. Her hair gets very dry. I can't understand her us much as my hair is ,,just,, wavy and comper to hers is very easy to manage .. I am definitely going try it. Thank you very much for encouragement. You both are very beautiful 😘 stay safe xxx

[@NaturallySade]

Yes I totally understand! I’m glad you found the video helpful! It was the best decision for us and we don’t regret it! I hope it works out well for you both!! I just made a new video on how we apply the texturizer if you need a tutorial 😘😘

[@AshleyJones-ev3en]

Thank you so much, my lil girl is 6 and I’ve been debating on taking her to the shop or do the texturizing and she’s terrified of going to the shop because of how she says and I’ve been researching so I’m gone step out and try it

[@_NotDownWithOPP_]

Living the all-day nightmare as we speak. My daughter in tears has also said “just cut my hair then” 😢

[@candylicious3024]

Thank you for sharing your story! I’m definitely going to try this to my daughter because I go through the same thing and my daughter is 3 yrs old. I’ve tried everything ! I even put Aloe Vera in my daughter’s hair but nothing works!! And your daughter is too cute by the way !!! She looks so much like my daughter. That’s why I was bugging out when I first saw this video! Thanks again ❤️❤️❤️

[@NaturallySade]

Awww twins!! And yes girl I know the feeling!! I tried so many detanglers and nothing worked! We don’t regret the texture softener at all. It’s helped so much.

[@lindamzambianinaussie5482]

I just did my 3yr old today. Her hair is super hard to maintain and she does not let me brush it....whenever we try I always think my neighbors are going to call the police on me because of the screaming so today I finally decided to do it

[@subconsciousmomma]

Thank you 😊

[@brittanitenner566]

I am going threw the same thing with my daughter's that's 10 she has very thick and long hair. So I am thinking about trying this

[@NaturallySade]

Let me know how it works out for you!!

[@nathaliaholguin7311]

CAn i si this on my 2 year old Or I have to wait till he’s 5?

[@NaturallySade]

I’m not sure to be honest, but I think 2 might be too little for his scalp and skin. If you can wait, I’d wait until he was at least 5. I’m not sure what the box says about age.

[@Godswife481]

Am with you here my daughter is 2.5 yrs old and am thinking i will just do it cause she cries a storm

[@crystalcaston6005]

Love this!

[@21Shante21]

💖I'm going through the same thing with my daughter!💖

[@NaturallySade]

How do you feel now? It was kind of a hard decision but honestly I’m glad we did it. Seriously so much better for the both of us.

[@21Shante21]

@@NaturallySade 💖My daughter loves her hair and it's more manageable and I don't have to fight with her to do her hair anymore thank you Jesus 😊!!💖

[@NaturallySade]

Mrs.Hickz87 right?!?! Because we’re all on the same team lol. I would tell my daughter “I promise I don’t want to hurt you”

[@21Shante21]

@@NaturallySade 💖 My daughter used to cry so hard sometimes that she would get nosebleeds!! I felt terrible!!💖

[@NaturallySade]

Mrs.Hickz87 omgggg that’s horrible! I feel your pain. My daughter would make herself throw up smh. So glad to be past that though lol

[@NaturallyNesi08]

Thank you for this video.

[@sirennathequeen6198]

Omg I love her 🤣😍 my beautiful niece! So silly 💕

[@NaturallySade]

sirennaThequeen 619 she loves you more 😘

[@nellyluna2376]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sweetmango4190]

Having breads is not a torture, it's part of the blac culture

[@NaturallySade]

Yes you’re right. She loved having braids in her hair, it was the detangling that was torture for her not the braids. Her hair was super kinky and coily that it would just tangle right back up and she’s very tender headed. It’s much easier to style and braid now.