Letting a Dream Die

Thank you to all who have supported me and continued to reach out to me over the past months. Though I wasn't active online I often read your messages and comments and they truly helped me during some really dark days. I am excited to be back and plan to upload regularly. I can't wait to create here again!

[@kaseyshen3819]

having a husband that respects you and shows you the love that you deserve isn’t an unrealistic dream.

[@bekka128]

kaseyshen THIS! She's letting a dream of having respect from her spouse die? She's an idiot

[@hayleypdowd]

I'm not surprised. This is what her church, and our broader society, teaches women. Do you think ANY fucking man would stand for what Shay did if it was in reverse?! Fucking never.

[@frosty129]

And she has it. Shay has been an awesome husband. The part where she was unrealistic was where she assumed nothing should ever go wrong and he's a prince charming and it would be this perfect flawless love story. Then life hit her and Shay's struggle with alcohilism comes and makes that unrealistic dream die. That's a good thing for her. She is maturing.

[@blownaway515]

@frosty Shay has been an awesome husband?? He sexted with a porn star. I don't call that awesome.

[@theadventuresofmeeee]

he admitted to it lul

[@elizabethbewsher7324]

who else watched the shaytards when they were younger and were obsessed w them and when she said hi and u heard it for the first time in a couple years almost cried

[@josie5877]

SMWD 123 DUDE THIS WAS LITERALLY ME

[@lillygumball]

For sure

[@gluccy2322]

SMWD 123 yeah dawg i grew up watching them and they made me believe in real love n shit n like watching them crumble really like shows me how shit everyone is

[@chaoswitheris463]

ME TOOOOO

[@aysharahman4284]

Me I loved them

[@dablux]

Why would anyone cheat on her she is beautiful and kind

[@TheSoloAsylum]

He didn't cheat...

[@kayleen5951]

iEnvyHD ikr

[@user-kv7rb1pn8q]

@@TheSoloAsylum Sending nudes and talking dirty to someone who isn't your significant other is cheating. What are you talking about?

[@ckblackwoodmusic]

@@TheSoloAsylum Nope; he just TRIED to which makes it not only wrong but PATHETIC. But you keep defending that goofy brute if it makes you happy!

[@marytheresadoherty2741]

Shane was going through something, Something else was happening. And I know you all want to but in but I think Collette is strong enough to fight for it herself

[@02goodProductions0]

She gets better looking as years go on wtf

[@moisturemaker]

She had a lot of stress that works down a person but I still think she is a beautiful person in and out.

[@Leroy1Jenkins]

She is smoking

[@dommywommy4837]

She's wearing heaps of makeup nigga

[@crockybird3287]

@@dommywommy4837 ikr lmao

[@legendarymooseman]

@@dommywommy4837 pretty much

[@sophiaforte6393]

Hello Colette. My name is Sophia and I am fourteen years old. Recently my parents had split up. My father, who I love dearly, unfortunately was not the best husband towards my mother. He was manipulative and a cheater. Even though he did all these things, I still find ways to find the good and I struggle with how I could not resent him. However, though I still tend to find love towards him, I look at my mom and see strength. My mother left him. No matter how hard she wanted things to work out, no matter how much therapy sessions and books she read about fixing her marriage, it just couldn't happen. She stayed with my father for years, for her children, till eventually she realized something. She realized that she loved her kids more than anything, and that staying with a man who disrespected her wasn't setting a good example. She wanted to be strong for us, and show us what an unhealthy relationship was, and how to leave it. She wanted to show me, she could make it on her own. So thats what she did. I am so thankful for my mom and what she did. It hurts me to see you like this, because my family has been through it. I hope you can realize what example you are setting for your children and change for them. Show them that you're strong too, and through this video I can see that you are. Best of luck.

[@alisonkraus8248]

My dad is kinda like that too. They got divorced about 4 months ago and I just turned 13

[@PoisonedLemonade]

That is a great amount of insight you've got there, I'm glad you shared it and I hope Colette reads it! We will never know 100% how things are in her life but hearing her talk about letting her dream of a perfect marriage die was pretty sad. Not that most marriages are perfect but she deserves someone who is faithful to her.

[@jibki3845]

Sophia Forte there is so much I can relate to you hang in there boo❤️❤️

[@PiggyAzaleea]

Collette is the victim. Don't bash her. It's her choice to stay and work on her marriage. Don't have to agree with her decison, but don't be so rude. She's clearly hurting. Shay was selfish. Just remember everything you see on the internet is most likely not as happy and perfect as it seems.

[@braydenk.8348]

so well said, thank you Kittycatmeow

[@dawit12k58]

Kittycatmeow Iiqaqq

[@kissedbythevoid]

It's her choice even though it's the opposite of a good one I hope he cheats again until she realizes she deserves better smh

[@14kekkaishi1]

Kittycatmeow Big difference, she's continuing to be a victim.

[@elkiepops]

Lauren Peralta she giving him another chance probably, but I'm sure that if there's a next time she will leave and know it's ok to leave xxx

[@christianaube3810]

I swear I haven’t seen her since I was 13 (22 now) and she STILL LOOKS THE SAME!! Honey you look amazing!!!

[@McKenzieCheyenne]

Christian Maynard almost the same lol I think the last time I watched was when I was 13 or 14 now I’m 19 almost 20

[@ChichiNaka]

You won’t look vastly different in 9 years either, at 31 It just seemed like a long time because it’s half your life

[@christianaube3810]

Chiyori Nakanishi I know but almost 10 years, this girl has no wrinkles. A lot of things can happen, aging wise, in 10 years. Let the girl have the compliment

[@dinaelmsri4997]

Me too

[@uui219]

@@christianaube3810 *You sound like a stupid kid. People in their early 30s SHOULDN'T have wrinkles. That's meth head shit.*

[@gretagoodworth9444]

who is here, rewatching this in 2020 because everything has gone to shit and Colette is literally the queen of keeping it together and turning shit into confetti... I miss her :(

[@Gymnastmonkey9696]

She has the most beautiful soul

[@phoebes9744]

She's a strong women

[@Shazoneable]

I respect Collette SO much! She's truly amazing ❤️

[@cindyherget5196]

I have wondered at random wagers this family went..... this is my first time watching a vlog about their family I just watched the skip school snow day with the dad and two boys around Christmas time.... I could never imagine this kind of life being out there for everyone to pick on and the world coming at them and then the world getting into their family. I have plenty to catch up on.

[@franklestellejr.867]

Greta Goodworth shay posted a new vid recently

[@Kingxadrian13]

I will never see Shay Carl the same anymore .. Colette is such a beautiful soul and you don't deserve her...

[@somebrowngirlol]

Having a husband who's faithful to you isn't a unrealistic dream , it should be an expectation , if you're letting go of that expectation you're just giving him another chance to do this again

[@14kekkaishi1]

Zunara96 Seeing as how she just accepted his infidelity he will do it again because he wasn't punished for it

[@BrookeBarberMusic]

Agreed

[@amyf7977]

Zunara96 Very well said. You shouldn’t change your dreams or lower your standards or decide crappy treatment is ok just to please your partner/anyone else.

[@MLBuckProductions]

I don't think that's what she means by letting her dream go. Everyone has the dream of a perfect life, including her. When life doesn't go perfectly, you don't give up. That being said, I don't know why any spouse would ever cheat on the person they committed themselves to in marriage that they love. How can anyone be so cruel? If you want to be with someone else, get a divorce, and end it. Don't sneak around behind someones back - it will tear people apart when they find out.

[@carolynschumacher4362]

Here's my take. I've been in a relationship with a man who cheated. I was early 20s, I forgave him and stayed in a relationship with him. It. Was. Torture. I was constantly paranoid that he was cheating all the time. It took time away from things that I wanted to do, because I was afraid to leave him alone. I didn't feel free until I finally put my foot down and LEFT. GUESS WHAT? he got another girlfriend, AND HE CHEATED ON HER TOO. SURPRISE! I know that Shay was exposed, I saw what he said, and I wonder...how many times did he do this before, before he was exposed? Caught? If she chooses to stay with him, she has to let go of ALL PREVIOUS EXPLOITS. I couldn't. I had to leave. I pray for her to have clarity.

[@iloveyourshoes9550]

It’s crazy how perfect she is, literally the wife everyone wants lol

[@jimmyspillpinchproductions6523]

literally

[@iracel92]

@@TeoZMuff313 and ur just being a bitch

[@Laura-jr5wu]

Robitussin Ethanol literally no depth I think that’s why she’s staying tho, she thinks she wouldn’t be anything without him 😂

[@fernthegreenfairy]

Robitussin Ethanol how do you know she’s dumb? From what I’ve seen she seems like a wise soul, being “ditsy” doesn’t make you dumb, and personally I think that being ditsy is endearing, however if it’s not your thing, then don’t comment on it just to be nasty.

[@lillygumball]

I definitely want to be like her

[@aplacetobewithmythoughts7428]

I just feel for their children... Like Shay put all of them out there to the world through their whole lives. Now they have to hear about it constantly at school, from friends, bully, online etc...

[@ArtIsDrawing]

Never support family vloggers!

[@dimmiecandy2928]

His fault. I wouldnt never talk to my dada if he did that

[@Literally_Kyle]

I hope they’d come out & talk once they got older but I’m starting to doubt it.

[@sevenhenrys]

What I got from this 💔 1. She is still healing 2. Maybe Shay is working on getting better 3. Long road ahead for all of them

[@ThecrazyJH96]

The 7 Henry's haven’t watched shaytard shit in years, what went down?

[@allip3170]

that is amazing

[@inspirenoelle]

Long story short, shay cheated on his wife and she's apparently just "accepting" it... I feel so bad for her and their kids. I hope she doesn't blame herself because it kind of sounds like she thinks it's partially her fault :(

[@nathanwwe]

She still had her wedding band on so i would assume they are working things out.

[@aw261]

I still don't quite understand what's going on with the shaytards xx I mean I used to watch them everyday but then they stopped xx what happened?!

[@YTKURT]

I just feel bad for the kids

[@fairyboats1163]

Kurt31 same

[@JadeDrawsAnimates]

Kurt31 Me Too.

[@ayymiiiee]

Same

[@miatalaugon9423]

Kurt31 sooo you don’t feel bad for her... her kids aren’t the only ones sad

[@CoolDrifty]

Queen Mia_ T yes but she is an adult and is able to cope with this. the kids are still growing, and their home environment that is supposed to protect them got ripped apart. it’s infinitely more damaging to them

[@ariadestiny3562]

“if my dream came true, i wouldn’t be who i am today” wow. so powerful. i love her.

[@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo]

she deserves for it to have come true.

[@-x565x-5]

Shay had everything at one point loving family,loving wife,loving kids and getting to do an amazing job but then throwing it all away in one act

[@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo]

except she stayed which is sad for her.

[@kaylacurtis4984]

@@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo They are doing great

[@shannonmoyes224]

You can see the pain she feels in her eyes

[@pagebypaige20]

When she said she was reading a book about co-dependency, and letting go of that bad habit, I was so relieved. I was always concerned about the dynamic of their relationship, and it's such a weight off to know that she's trying to exist as her own person, without the influence of her marriage so much. She always came across as Colette, the mum; Colette, the wife; Colette, the daughter. In this video, I saw Colette, the person. I hope this journey she's on keeps giving her strength and independence and motivation and self-love. So proud of you, Colette. Keep being brave, 'cause you seem to be really good at it

[@pinkgiraffe75]

Sian Hancock I hope your comment gets more likes because she needs to see this. I too felt glad she picked up a book like that - she is working on herself for sure

[@evamack80]

The best comment here!

[@mariag2643]

Hey, great comment! I'm seeing too much hate in this comment section and seeing yours was a relief. I agree.

[@Sammyymarie]

Sometimes I come back to this video to remind myself what resiliency looks like.

[@alexisweathersby1706]

Just the title "Letting a dream die" is so tragic.

[@jsan5878]

Alexis Weathersby when reality hits

[@FireFlysNeverDie]

Her dream didn't just die. Her dream was murdered, as harsh as that sounds. She has to accept her dream was murdered because her husband made mistakes? I don't know how you really forgive someone for doing that to you. I don't know how realistic that level of forgiveness is.

[@SuperNaomi1979]

FireFliesNeverDie maybe not forgive but like she said accept..aspecialy sinds it was so public ...you know if you find out yoir husband cheats on you it hurts so much but to read what he saying an doing to the other girl must have been devastating..i still can't understand what happened..yet I think it's very strongthat she staying with him

[@iheartpinkandsparkle]

I have no comment towards Shay, my feelings for him now aren’t what they use to be. But I can see the hurt in her eyes. This woman and her kids deserve 100% happiness. She’s the most selfless mom I’ve seen on youtube, constantly putting EVERYONE first. She needs to be first for once.

[@CallieCrofts]

That's what she's doing now. Putting herself first. It's awesome.

[@kristasnow1809]

Are you still doing the shaytards channel

[@promisejrhodes]

Agree 100%. ❤️

[@promisejrhodes]

Agree 100%. ❤️

[@teaganshae1292]

I still occasionally come on here to listen to this once or twice and I just sob.. thank you for posting this. Thank you 100x man has it truly helped me

[@theycallmecamden2]

Shay ruined everything

[@ByMariaSimon]

What did he do?

[@christalordonez2470]

Mimi Simon idk if you already figured it out but he cheating on his wife and yyeeaahhhh there’s a bunch of videos ab it/:

[@ByMariaSimon]

@@christalordonez2470 really? Did they get a divorce?

[@jaylennicole4305]

@@ByMariaSimon they're back together now :)

[@casideehope5398]

jaylen gordon I wouldn’t say that’s good..their morman so I’m pretty sure it’s only for religious purposes

[@Veronica-wi9ku]

Oh, Colette 😞 I've been in your shoes. I had a cheating husband, I was trying to work it out so badly. As unhappy as I was I tried and tried. I read the self help books. I read the forums. But at the end of the day... or the months it took me to come to the conclusion, I decided my dream wasn't dead, it was just dead with him. I am so much happier now. And I have someone now who is my dream. I've been codependent, I've been terrified, I didn't even have my own car, and I walked away. I pray in my heart that staying with him will turn out okay for you. But I also pray that if you choose staying is not your destiny that you find so much happiness. I know you would.

[@jsan5878]

Veronica many people are different actually some do work out, but majority it is best to leave when it just seems more draining and unhappiness. Glad you're happy now :)

[@Veronica-wi9ku]

J San Oh yes I know! And I hope it didn't seem as though I was bashing those who do choose to reconcile!

[@carrotap3001]

well said

[@FlippinFruitFly]

Accepting and forgiving are powerful tools. But remember to not use acceptance as a mask for what you actually want or value. It's okay to accept, forgive and move on or let go.

[@coookei]

Hanna very well said .

[@iloveupapi07]

Hanna exactly my thoughts...she could totally forgive and move on..and I don't see her doing it..she is very dependant on Shay and stability with 5 kids is a major factor. 😕😕 prayers for her and her beautiful kids.

[@FlippinFruitFly]

Turquoise Cheetah Never heard or read about that limit... as far as I can see that limit is up to the individual.

[@maizilaa]

I’m crying so much, I miss my childhood and this makes me so sad. Yes I’m watching this during quarantine.

[@didi42195]

same im literally reviewing all my childhood memories and i just want to go back

[@rnbwlhc]

literally years ago somehow she became a second mom to me in a way because of how wonderful she genuinely is and that’s what i wanted in a mom .. that has not changed

[@JulietOriginals]

"I would not be who I am today if my dream came true" I can 100% relate!

[@DEATH-qf5tv]

You made my day by uploading thank you so much I have happy tiers

[@olivier2784]

Dear Young Women, Life is messy but it doesn't mean that you have to accept it. Know your worth. Know what you deserve. If your partner continuously disrespects you. Leave. IF you have children, set an example. Let them know that they should keep company with people who treat them with respect. Do not accept mess. Please.

[@MsDF936]

Amen.

[@pauline4412]

AMEN!!!

[@viankabarrios1976]

A little louder please!!

[@syadinah]

One more time for the people in the back!

[@annakatie7347]

AMEN

[@Kristin1]

These “dreams” are brought on by society. Relationships are hard and never perfect. Do what works for YOU. These hard times make you who you are.

[@nataliem.2651]

“You are not any less if you’re dream does not come true” Thank you

[@kathrynencardes5398]

Please don’t think you have to stay in your marriage for your kids. Pretending that everything is fine will destroy them more than you realize.

[@Diana-zl3ue]

Kathryn Franklin I know it destroyed my brother and I. I wished my parents were honest

[@phineas8386]

preach

[@Selena8461]

tbh I agree with this

[@jayburris6252]

I wish my parents had stayed together! If the couple both are in it for the kids and are unselfish for the SAKE OF THE kids, then it could work. Divorce is extremely selfish.

[@jayburris6252]

Nope. Divorce is selfish, period. My parents' divorce was the single most influential event in my life. It was not a positive.

[@racheallewis2316]

You can see how much she has hurt and struggled in the past few months. Even the makeup can not hide the way the under part of her eyes are. Not really bags it's something else and I've had them before. When she truly heals from her pain that sunken in look will go away. She is still beautiful

[@MerHadji]

Racheal Lewis I totally agree!! It looks like she’s suddenly gotten so much older.. Stress and pain will do that to you sometimes

[@saraH-yu1mx]

I was thinking the same thing. She still looks absolutely beautiful, but you can see the pain.

[@alexandracalin2875]

she's so badass

[@claudiaphillips7297]

Having a husband that doesnt cheat on you isnt an inrealistic dream

[@aiden395]

He didn’t really even cheat for one... and second addiction is real and marriage is meant to be for better and for worse highs and lows...

[@oliviagrace1930]

​@@aiden395 yes he definitly did cheat have you seen the dms

[@aiden395]

@@oliviagrace1930 yep I did, it is porn, and he was talking to a pornstar, while he was drunk. I wouldn’t necessarily call that cheating. He is an alcoholic and he is better now and they are United agian

[@Thehannahweknow]

@@aiden395 lol ew. I feel bad for whoever marries you.

[@aiden395]

@@Thehannahweknow I don’t cause the person I am going to marry is gonna be equally yoked and In the same mindset lol.... keep being an insecure pussy though

[@katieallen8417]

Watching this is so... different. Watching this, I find myself thinking that this is not the Colette I remember. The Colette I am seeing now is stronger, wiser, and confident in her words. I can’t wait to hear how the kids are, and learn from you and your life experience throughout these videos. I am so glad you are back. Continue to be true to yourself. You are such a bright light. ❤️

[@g.t.7362]

Katie Allen I thought the same thing! There's something different about her but in a good wau

[@Bellishen]

Katie Allen - I totally agree with you. I was afraid she would be a lot more insecure but seeing how extremely strong she is makes me so happy 😁

[@Spottedfeather]

strong....but she stays with a cheater ?

[@talyla1396]

Katie Allen so true

[@jesskateb]

Why do the best people go though the worst things?

[@susannawright433]

jesskateboyd because god only picks the good flowers

[@cecisanru]

Growth/process= happiness. People go through tough trials because they are capable of overcoming it and to get stronger. Trials are meant for an individual. It's like what Les Brown said when people complain about their problems and say why me? "Why not you? Have any suggestions for somebody else?"

[@user-xm6cl4jz5o]

"god only picks the good flowers" don't you say that when someone dies and goes to heaven?

[@frosty129]

jesskateboyd there are MUCH MUCH worse things than what she's going through. TRUST me.

[@jesskateb]

frosty yep there sure is. That still doesn't mean what she's going through isn't terrible.

[@tdian]

I still continue to come back to this video so many times over the years. I think for the same reason Collette says, that we're all going through the same and this video resonates so much i've probably watched it a hundred times. This video is so powerful as she speaks with such strength and grace she is amazing.

[@christinestevenson4482]

Oh my goodness, bless you for this. I can’t even imagine how hard all of this has been for you. But I find it so inspiring that you have allowed yourself to grow and become more, and your faith to strengthen. You glow. And that quote struck me too. This past year, I’ve had to face some of my deepest fears and go through things where I could not see a way out; the light at the end of the tunnel was nonexistent. And just barely I’m finally seeing that light in the distance, and trying not to wear myself out by running towards it as fast as I possibly can. The dark times have been hell on earth. But oh, how I appreciate the sunlight now. I hope that even with some of my dreams dying, I too can find new growth.

[@Munkybumble]

Can we all just take a minute to appreciate how amazing Colette is and how much she has been missed these past 7 months ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@midge0214]

Anyone else just love Colette's laugh and realizing how much you've missed that and the familiarity of it?

[@jsan5878]

midge0214 yes that's Collette :) 💟

[@JanitavdVinne]

yes omg during this video I thought like: woah it feels so comforting to see her again and I didn't realise how much I needed to see her laugh

[@abbywitt7702]

yea... when i heard her laugh i just started crying because of how much i knew it... and it being gone for so long... and hearing it again.

[@katelynthebomb8173]

midge0214 nyes

[@somethingspecialxox]

midge0214 Yesss. I've been watching this family for so long and I grew so accustomed to the daily uploads and seeing their beautiful faces.. especially Colette's. She has that kind of personality that can just brighten anyone's day, no matter how bad it is. It made my heart so happy to finally see her face again 💜

[@dianag4344]

I’m going through a breakup and this made me cry I need to let my dream die. Thank you Colette you’re so strong

[@Hannah-bx2ve]

She is so amazing like she has been through so much and yet forgives but never forgets so thank you for being this inspirational figure for us to look up at

[@JoshPalerLin]

Can't believe I watched you guys since 2008

[@wingtip8354]

JoshPalerLin your content is fucking shit

[@Steel_gravity5]

Wing true...

[@21_Sandwich]

JoshPalerLin I can't believe you slept through all that shit

[@ronique7463]

JoshPalerLin me to 😭😭😭

[@savjde]

JoshPalerLin i havent watched then since 2015 and now I can't belive there back

[@selinashiny6343]

I'm crying. I missed Colette so much.

[@againstallodds0538]

Selina Ram Me too! I even kissed the phone screen!! It's so crazy you love someone so much who doesn't even know you! I lovw them all... They were my family for years.. They helped me get through the day..

[@trynitywalford961]

Selina Ram me too ❤️

[@jessicamartin8230]

Sameeeeeeeeee Love youColette just seeing you has helped me a lot xxx

[@jsan5878]

Selina Ram I am crying too!! 😭😍

[@lenaotx]

we will support you guys no matter what 😭😭💜

[@aleatuago2170]

Her inner beauty radiates. What a messy situation.

[@CharlesJohn]

Sometimes our dreams don't have to die, they might need a pause, an interlude, a refreshment, a time to reflect, and restock, they get amended sometimes, then they return even stronger and with more clarity than before.

[@genericname1666]

The amount of personal growth Collette has experienced over the last seven months is substantial. Although she didn't leave Shay it's evident that she is an independent woman who is in no way dependant on Shay. She is redefining herself, the Collette we knew in the Shaytards vlogs never displayed this level of strength or resilience. She is still with Shay because she didn't let this break her or the relationship she wants. She isn't overlooking his indiscretion, she is processing it and picking herself up again to work toward her goals. If one of her goals is to achieve a healthy marriage with Shay then all the power to her. She isn't naive or forgiving a cheater, she is working through her relationship problems and shamelessly acknowledging them to the public. That takes guts. Kudos to Collette.

[@SooBeautyFull]

Generic Name This comment sums it all up. Yes!!

[@Unveranosinmi]

Generic Name very well said

[@TheBugsShow]

Generic Name well said

[@demirose5683]

Generic Name This! Exactly this! You said it perfectly.

[@jsan5878]

Generic Name Amen. More people need to have your thinking! :)

[@shaysworld98]

Does anyone else keep checking back on her channel for more updates? 😅

[@melorderey6787]

Shay Alison Yup...…………….……

[@xxabjzj62894xx]

Nope. Lol

[@missgabbieqween7446]

Yup.....I miss the shaytards they are a strong and kind family no one will never stop that power

[@shaysworld98]

More power to them for working through it! It’s her decision

[@nicolewheaton8740]

yes

[@xseniitk863]

She's such a whole person. Like she's so smart, not many people can be self reflective and be able to bring themselves to self heal in a healthy way that works for them. She's such a warm and solid person, She deserves so much better.

[@NicosW0rld]

xsenii tk wholesome*

[@ashleymillican3809]

@@NicosW0rld No...pretty sure they meant "whole". As in she's a complete person. She knows who she is. She is whole on her own.

[@victoriat.8092]

Bro she looks younger and younger every year tho😂

[@melissacea3844]

You could see the pain in her eyes

[@saharab5081]

There is no such thing as a prefect marriage but there is a thing as a faithful marriage, its also ok to leave him to show your kids its not okay to be cheated on.

[@frosty8765]

Except Shay never cheated. Everyone assumed he did, but it was an online rumor intended to make some cam girl famous.

[@kynicole]

frosty you’re incredibly naive if you think he didn’t cheat.

[@samh7580]

No , he did cheat on her

[@frosty8765]

ky cabello As far as I can tell there is no evidence that he cheated. All there is is a bunch of screenshots and an interview with the alleged cam girl. I call bullshit. The screenshots are fake and photoshopped. And I don't buy her words.

[@kynicole]

frosty there was a video leaked. and also she posted a video of her showing the dms. and he posted on his own twitter that he made mistakes because of alcohol the day that it got leaked. that’s proof.

[@maddytulafono229]

She is such an innocent beautiful wife and mother and doesn't deserve any of this. I truly feel bad for every single person in their family and sending my prayers towards them and their family.

[@iloveyewtewbs]

None of Shay’s victims deserve this kzbin.info/www/bejne/faXanI2aidGqi7s

[@lainporter6251]

I love you, Colette. 4 years ago I was 19 and I named my first daughter Avia, because your family love was so beautiful to me. But no one and nothing is perfect. I can still find strength and inspiration through your very real, very human journey. Thank you for sharing even through these hard bits. It makes me feel like if even you have to go through such things snd can pull through, we can too. Keep shining bright. A part of me is scared Shay felt like he could get away with it cuz you wouldn't leave him over it. But it's not fair for me to judge, and always I will be praying for you and your family, and all your loves, even the dumb-butt.. I believe in you Colette. Stay strong. Also the whole ordeal turned you into a hippie it kind of gave me a chuckle but I'm glad if it helps bring you understanding and calm.

[@eleanorcable7958]

I never comment on videos, but this really affected me. I've been following this family since I was 16 (I'm now 24) and Collette's strength and courage really touched and inspired me. You can tell that she is still hurting but it takes a lot of guts to stand up to your issues and not let them define you. I feel like I would have handled her situation in a very different manner which only inspires me more! I cannot condone Shay's actions and to be honest, I'm not sure I can be as accepting as some and welcome him back into my life (as weird as that sounds, I feel like I grew up with him) but I am so happy to have Collette back as a positive role model - she's the best XXX

[@kutekorri]

Marriage is fucking hard, and I 100% support her decision to save her marriage. Just because this happened and she chose to stay with him DOES NOT make her weak. So many people can say "wow she really deserves better" and "you can do so much better, you don't need him" and as much as she might want to listen to those people if DEEP IN HER SOUL shay and their marriage is her happiness, if she leaves she might not even be truly full filled and that does not in any way make her weak. Addiction is hard, and they/she has recognized the mistakes, and it is so unfair of the world to judge her for staying. 99% of people have nothing to say but "you deserve better" and she knows it. She knows she deserves better because she's a fucking catch if I've ever seen one, but shay can do that. He can be the better and it doesn't make her weak minded for thinking that. Good luck to you and your marriage. I respect it so so so much.

[@kutekorri]

People these days quit the first time a marriage goes sour, and it's just disappointing. There's a line between recognizing when it's a failed marriage and recognizing when it needs help and a S/O has a problem that requires both parties attention

[@charlieshowell]

Yes I LOVE this! Really portrayed just what I was thinking! It's so sad how people are so accepting of wanting to run at the first sign of trouble. That really shouldn't be how we work through and maintain relationship today!

[@lilmissmonsterrr]

I 100% agree with you. Those who run away at the first sign of trouble can be seriously missing out on the beautiful kind of marriage that *overcoming* can create. It's our struggles in life that shape us, and marriage works the same way if it's allowed to. Every situation and person is different, but if you're an overcomer at heart, then by all means stand up and fight 😊

[@scabiesandrabies]

marriage should be easy

[@eden1075]

Hey, I wonder what shay did?

[@RobertPattinsonnr1]

I lost my mom 2 weeks ago and you are one of the humans that can make me smile a little 😍 thank you for that

[@charlottefountain9495]

Sorry for your loss ❤️ I hope things get easier for you!

[@rileyoconnell1047]

I’m so sorry for your loss❤️ sending love ❤️❤️

[@emma9424]

my parents got divorced when i was 8. i feel the pain you were going through. my dad also cheated on my mom. they tried, but my dad was too stubborn to work it out. all i gotta say is men ain’t shit and you’re so worth it, colette. lots of love from a long time fan! ❤️❤️❤️

[@temonai8841]

I've accepted that my husband was a liar and a cheater and backed a few bags for the kids and I and LEFT!!! It was the hardest and best decision I ever made.

[@brookechristine2940]

Colette, despite what you say, we still see the true sadness in your eyes. That being said, I hope you eventually find ultimate happiness and peace.

[@courtneywright2549]

Coming back to this.. and I got to say, you are the strongest woman I’ve ever listened to. Your family is so strong. Sometimes rock bottom is the best place to build a new foundation. Thank you for keeping this video up, you and your family have come so far and it’s beautiful and real.

[@iloveyewtewbs]

I hope his other victims can recover from this as well #IStandWithDanna kzbin.info/www/bejne/faXanI2aidGqi7s

[@Cat-bd2wn]

i love her so much. she’s genuinely been such an influential person in my life. i have been watching the shaytards since i was very young. i didn’t have the best upbringing, and i will just always be grateful for her presence in my life. thank you for being honest and teaching us to accept what is. thank you.

[@joefedewa]

The thing you call a "dream" is just regular everyday life for most people. A faithful spouse is not a dream. It's the default. Stop settling for less than that.

[@walyduj]

her childhood dream was a fantasy that doesn't exist...

[@Mauamone]

It might be for many but not for all people. And the ones without that issue can have different ones in their relationship. You Sound really immature and insensitive.

[@GamingMermaid]

You are an angel. God bless you. ❤

[@azaleanightwood7632]

GamingMermaid Omg I love your channel!!!😭😁❤️

[@kittycatlover6047]

I love you videos so much and she is a 😇 😇 😇 😇 😇

[@latileta]

McDnish Really on this video!

[@akcharali2875]

GamingMermaid love you

[@shylieghjoy671]

I love that both my fav KZbinrs are friends!!😘

[@blakedavies7798]

She was and still is like a second mom to me, she’s just amazing and i love her to pieces. So strong so inspiring and full of so much love and joy.

[@mtomaro9357]

You see the pain in her eyes❤

[@mrsub4subb]

I understand that this is your decision and hopefully no one (family pressures, religion, community etc) has influenced this. But I just hope that you know your worth, Colette. You stayed faithful to Shay when he was obese, poor and apparently couldn't even afford toilet paper. You uprooted your life, followed him to California when he wanted to pursue KZbin, and then back to Idaho again. You allowed yourself and the kids to be filmed day and night for his channel and gave him 5 beautiful kids. And somehow you managed to stay in amazing shape after giving birth five times. Not that looks are everything, but you're gorgeous, fun and sweet and there are thousands of guys out there who would treat you like a princess. Not to mention you're a wonderful mother and a very sweet person. You deserve your dream. And if you choose to stay with Shay, I hope no one is pressuring you to do so. It's okay to walk away from someone who has hurt you terribly, it doesn't make you weak, or a quitter. Put yourself first this time, and do what's right for you. Sorry for the long, rambling post, and I wish you the best in the future ❤️❤️

[@WhatWouldElleWoodsDo]

THIS. Exactly this.

[@ashtonisaacs]

You’re pressuring her to divorce him

[@WhatWouldElleWoodsDo]

She's literally telling her positive words of support, making sure she knows her worth, with or without Shay, and supporting her as a fellow woman. I don't think that she is pressuring her to divorce him at all.

[@tinawalter3038]

☺️💕😇

[@edm0360]

I agree so much with you.Collete do what YOU want to do don’t follow other people or let those people pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do.

[@chocoholic17]

Watching this reminded me of a quote from the movie the perks of being a wallflower- "We accept the love we think we deserve."

[@alliexoxo3261]

aneesah eysha exactly. i love that movie sm

[@nina-mb8vs]

EMMA WATSON

[@lifeisawesome12]

dammnm I hope she reads this quote!!! its soo true

[@lenaandbaby6055]

I watched this video the day it came out, not knowing that exactly 5 months later I’d go through it too and my dream would die. I’m watching this video again for the first time since then today and it is so true that that is how it feels, that’s what it is. Yes, it’s the pain of the betrayal and the lies and embarrassment and selfishness. But it’s also the personal pain or the life as you know it being destroyed and no way it can come back and being broken and no way to be the same you again and having to learn to grieve all that, then accept that and rebuild yourself. Looking back on this video now that I am healed I can say this is truly helpful to watch if you’re going through it. I’m so proud of her for making this video and I’m sure she’s helped so many, a truly amazing woman (who by the way, inspired by dream that I had to let day... yes my dream was to be like her little 12 year old me) who I only wish the absolute best. Great video.

[@mollygiven489]

shes broken...:(

[@lyingverat6097]

she’s a human not a robot

[@eduardomaria7673]

Molly Given she strong though

[@rachel7196]

She didn't deserve this

[@xavierdrayton-harrold4138]

Sbeve

[@tycheney3003]

Sbren

[@Gracie9656]

It's okay to accept the reality you live in, but never to give up on a dream. The person you've become has helped you grow Colette. That should only encourage you to pursue bigger and greater things that includes your relationship.

[@OurFamilyNest]

Haven’t even watched yet but I have to say WELCOME BACK!! Missed you so so much!!! Okay...off to watch now. 💕💕💕💕 - Candi Okay, I watched and now have to comment---> Amazing comeback. You know you are a strong woman and have so many people that admire you and feel like you're one of their friends (like me!) even though we've never met. The struggles you have gone through the past year just make you that much more relatable to people. We all have struggles and have gone through hard times and it's how we react to them that matters most. You've picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and are ready to be vulnerable to the world again. It's harsh here in KZbin land, you know that. But you will always have your true supporters who love you and have missed you so much!! Can't wait for The Mom's View next week!

[@missylewis7210]

If you look at her twitter, she actually hates her subs.

[@daisycollins9046]

Our Family Nest ❤️❤️

[@marybrophy5323]

I totally agree our family nest

[@ramanaem6483]

Our Family Nest Ikr btw I have been watching ur guys" channel since 50k subs and LOVE YOU KARLI ANDREW CHASE, BLAKE AND KEN LOVE YALL!!!!!!

[@marybrophy5323]

Rama Naem sme love all of them

[@CaitHoover]

Sometimes when I'm depressed I come back to this video

[@dayanacarrasco1341]

It’s been forever since I’ve heard you’re voice. I’ve kept up with your talks. And hearing your voice again brought up everything you’d helped me overcome. I could not be prouder of myself. And I can’t be more thankful for you

[@celina4540]

can anyone else just appreciate her hair???

[@heidiprotic1286]

Simply Celina yessss! I need to know what she does!

[@BeastInBlue120]

FOR REAL

[@daisycollins9046]

Colette. There hasn’t been a day I haven’t thought of you. My heart continues to go out to you. Your strength is inspiring. It is so good to see you. ❤️

[@tommiegirl2598]

I cried the whole time. This is such a strong, positive & honest beautiful soul. Just adore her.💖

[@genthedoll]

She so pretty! Still praying for your relationship! I've been watching you since 2011 ily so so much.

[@unendingupgrades7801]

There's also a difference between accepting reality and putting up with destructive things that are harmful to you

[@frosty129]

UnendingUpgrades yeah and here clearly the destructive, harmful things are these comments like the one you just made. So many people are blindly assuming things and trying to tear up their marriage based on their personal assumptions, this comment section is toxic and harmful to her.

[@unendingupgrades7801]

frosty I wasn't judging her at all I'm just stating a fact. There is a difference between those two things.

[@noahaaron643]

TBH I never really watched the shaytards for shay but for Colette and the kids

[@carriek627]

A true example of power and strength. Thank you for sharing your heart with us Colette!

[@noraxbeth]

I am so glad to find this video! I was a fan of the family videos back in the day but I FELL into alcoholism for a few years and now that I’ve been sober for almost two years I really have to say I am GRATEFUL! People think I hate what I’ve been through but I have had that flip to joy out of sadness and I can absolutely relate to my struggles and the bad things driving the integrity I live with now on a daily basis. I hope you are still having these moments of clarity and gratitude!

[@Anne_Elizabeth]

You've always been far superior to your husband in every way. You're too good for him, but I respect your choice whatever you do. Just remember you could easily meet another man - you're beautiful, a great mother and truly kind. Been watching since 2008 so I feel like I know you. All the best ❤️

[@ashleyjason3798]

Until you are in her shoes, married for 15 or so years, 5 kids and a life built together. Do not ever doubt what she has to say. She has been courageous enough to come back to the internet and if you don’t like her decisions of staying with shay then DONT WATCH. This is her life, her channel and her family. We love you Colette 💗 whatever is right in your heart is right with me.

[@AmandaLynnnn]

Ashley Jason Thank you!! 🙌🏻

[@ashleyjason3798]

Amanda Lynn thank you for agreeing! My heart breaks for her; she was so courageous and brave to post this and the hate this beautiful woman is getting is heart wrenching. It’s comforting to her I’m sure to know so many people are on her side and want her to be happy, no matter how she gets there.

[@xHopshotx]

I see so much strength in you Katilette I can tell you are an old soul and have had many life cycles. Sending you and your family so much love and appreciation you are here on earth to bring the world into a higher vibration, continue to heal and Ascend higher beautiful soul.

[@DngrDan]

I just randomly got reminded of these people from like 10 years ago and decided to see if they're still doing vlogs. This is about exactly what I expected.

[@evalenasbabys]

I too loved a man with addiction and infidelity, I too let my dream die, I to wanted the perfect relationship and family. Over and over I let this man who I loved tear my dream apart because I loved him, I lost me I became a shell of a person I was empty, then one day I had enough and I left this man the man of my children my broken dream and you know what it was the best thing I have ever done for myself! It took me years after I left him to find myself again only I was a more stronger me. I had to learn how to love myself again before I could ever love another I had to love me first that was five years ago but I needed that time to reflect. Now today I am truly happy and guess what I found my dream I am in a relationship with a man who would never hurt me he loves me wholeheartedly I am his everything and he is mine, I am not saying he is perfect nor am I saying our relationship is perfect but compared to my last relationship it is perfect I would never been able to find this if I had just stayed with a man who couldn't love me the way I need to be loved. Never throw in the towel on your dream.

[@karinacazares19]

evalena griego i feel like that later on that might happen to her as well

[@navibailey3329]

evalena griego 💗

[@steph32588]

This is Great, I agree. Katilette needs to leave. This is not a good thing for her or the kids

[@mommawitchy]

Yeah my mom let that dream die too, she now has PTSD from the shit that was my father. And I' pretty sure it's the horrible Church they follow that has got her thinking she can't leave him, not even Shay. They teach it's a sin to get divorced and that you should always stick it out because you married them, it's so sickening. There are so many women in the Mormon Church in abusive relationships, then if they leave their husbands they get shunned.

[@alannahill1286]

My dad was a raging alcoholic, but he never had the audacity to cheat on my mom. Alcoholism is not an excuse for that kind of behavior.

[@evilangel030]

Alanna Hill ditto

[@TheSwiftSource]

Alanna Hill Mine did, and I never had the guts to tell my mother 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@frosty129]

Alanna Hill Neither did Shay. This whole thing was just a big rumer. He never cheated.

[@e.l98]

frosty Huh ?😂 r u serious

[@jan1ele599]

Alanna Hill eedi

[@texasgirly1979]

HUGS FROM TEXAS

[@phoebes9744]

I just wanna say that I came back here again to tell you that you've been strong. You're a beautiful soul.

[@juliac.8927]

First, I wanna say you can forgive someone but also not forget. Forgiveness doesn't mean to stay in a situation that is bad for you. Now, I understand what you are trying to say about your dream. You are saying the perfection you expected in a partner isn't realistic, and that you need to let that part go in order to have a healthy relationship... BUT, I'm sorry, cheating doesn't correlate with that. That isn't a flaw in a partner or something that is a part of them that you need to learn to accept and love. That phrase is referencing imperfections in a partner, not a partner who blatantly disrespects you MANY times. I understand wanting to try and make it work for your kids, but I don't like that you are telling young people to let their dreams die of being in a wonderful- not saying perfect - but loyal and respectful relationship. And in some ways, blaming yourself for having unrealistic expectations.... not wanting a partner to cheat isn't unrealistic. I hope this all works out for your family and that I'm wrong, but you seem sad and it's sad to know you are giving up a dream of love, cause of a cheater, and thinking that is what you need to do to be in a relationship. The question is: would you tell your daughters that same advice? Would you tell them to give up on a loyal, loving, respectful relationship with a man? And if the one you picked does cruel things to hurt you, would you tell them to just let that die and accept that cruelty? You are a wonderful woman, and I will respect your choice as a viewer, but I just wanted to say this all before that. I hope you have a wonderful day. Welcome back

[@Greeneyes831]

I just want to say thank you for taking the time to write this out and I hope Colette sees this. I to am going through something like she is with shay.. and the answer to your question I would not tell my future daughter to let there dreams go because of a selfish man. never. she would deserve the world and so much more. your right she pretty much is saying because of shay she have to let her dream die. that's not right. he doesn't deserve that kind of power over her. she needs more time to accept and rethink everything that has happened. love is so blind at times and love can make you do things you don't want to do. her heart still loves him and honestly theres nothing anyone can do about that. she just needs time and to figure out how much she is really worth. so do I, I wish I could just walk away but its easier said than done.

[@juliac.8927]

Sincerely Wow, thank you so much for this message. I'm so sorry that you are going through something similar to her, right now. I'm happy that you liked my message, because I really wanted to make a point, without being cruel. Love is VERY difficult. Add to that financial connection AND children, and it is almost impossible to see ever disconnecting from your partner. A part of you can't and a part of you doesn't even want to, so it is hard. A lot of people are being really mean and think it's so simple, so I didn't want my comment to come across as nasty, just kind-honesty. It's hard and a choice like that shouldn't be made overnight. AND when that choice is made, people should have everything in order for them. Not just jumping off a ledge. I believe we need to accept flaws in our partners and the not-so-pretty parts of them. But when those flaw hurt you, whether emotionally, verbally, physically, it becomes more than an imperfection. I think we all need to see how we treat ourselves and ask ourselves, is that how we would want our children to treat themselves? And if it's a no, then why do we feel we deserve less? Ya know? Love is a beautiful thing we humans are privileged of feeling. A gift. But people forget that privileged feeling isn't just what you feel for another person; it's the love you feel for yourself that is a gift as well. And at some point, in order to reach that love and respect for yourself, you need draw a line in the sand. I'm not saying to walk away the moment you get hurt, but when you feel that it's changing who you are, then you need to. The only person that will protect you from pain and give you strength, is yourself. People need to be their own shield and sword. They're worth it; you're worth it. I hope your life works out the way you want, whether that is with the person you are with now, or not. Just make sure you're your own protector. And are as happy as you can be. You deserve it. Good luck to you ♥️

[@Greeneyes831]

thank you so much. i really appreciate people like you. and i thought your first comment was perfect. you weren't coming off rude at all. just simply giving your advice. thank you again for taking the time out to write it all :) i definitely was able to take something from this. and i hope others will to. good luck to you to in life and take care sweetheart!❤️ !❤️ ❤️

[@JoshuaDTV]

This video meant so much to me. So much of what you said resonates with my heart as well. I know how hard it must be to put yourself back out there, but by doing it, you're helping others heal right along with you guys. Take care Colette.

[@sappyabbey1018]

So true and my heart gose out to all hurt by these types of situatons❤

[@hiitslaura8254]

I hope you're doing okay josh and hope that you have found happiness within yourself, there's someone that will always care, whether its one or hundreds x

[@SyntheticGhoul666]

Josh! It made me so happy to see you comment on this video! I hope you're doing well.

[@katelau5352]

Josh

[@sydneyjames1632]

Daniela she didnt cheat

[@kenapres1298]

I was bawling the entire time. This exact thing is happening right now to our family and this helped me so much. And most of these words came out my mothers mouth. 😢😢

[@josie5877]

Dude I’m literally sobbing, you guys were my whole childhood and now he cheated...I’m sorry for what happened I love you guys 💞

[@MagiSanVlog]

You are such a wonderful woman, a fighter, a lover, a seeker! I admire you! Many people would walk out of situations like yours but is this the solution? Thank you for coming back, tears stream down my face, I have so many warm feeling toward your whole family! I love you

[@nich0le87]

Turquoise Cheetah You don't know her, you can't say that she isn't happy. Breaking up a family isn't "the sane thing to do". Please don't speak to what someone should or shouldn't do in their own life and relationships. Everyone is different, every situation is different.

[@marcirobertson1323]

You think if Colette left would be breaking up the family? I don't think you realize what Shay did. Shay broke up the family. Yes, maybe she is happy and maybe she isn't, we'll never know. But don't make a woman feel bad if she wanted to leave her husband because of the shitty decisions he made and then call it "breaking up the family". He fucked it up. That family will NEVER be the same ever again and that's all his fault.

[@jsan5878]

Magi San she's incredible :')

[@SEPICGAMER]

Beginning of every single more serious video: **pause** **sigh**

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

KanadonMuhedad lol true

[@Rachhlaur]

KanadonMuhedad yes! Even though I love Colette! It drives me nuts when every KZbinr does it! Just get to the point!

[@Iriecool]

Who’s watching Augustus 4th 2020?

[@solocomics1820]

Please no. This is annoying.

[@lattymom1]

This is the second time I've watched this video. I get it. My dream was basically the same. To meet my prince charming, to have lots of kids, to be that family who laughs together and shares their hearts. It didn't turn out that way. We've had children with disabilities and mental illness. The dynamics of our family life is forever changed and shifted. I never thought that I was strong enough to deal with the things that I've dealt with. But at the end of the day I have become a different person. Someone who I can say I'm proud to know.. Thanks for sharing Colette.

[@jaelleerica]

Susan- I can't believe how similar our dreams and our real lives are! I had the same exact dream as you- and instead of a million kids lol- I was very very blessed to be given three living children- one who was born with no immune system and basically we jokingly call him bubble boy- and his life so far of 17 years has been filled with illness and diseases that have almost killed him multiple times. My next child my beautiful daughter who is now 16, was born with autism and at age 8 we finally found why she would randomly throw up- she had massive kidney stones blocking her little kidneys and she couldn't tell us that her tummy hurt! That started a life full of pain surgeries hospital admissions frequently and passing kidney stones every single day- with no cure. Around age 12 ..she blossomed as far as the autism- goes and most people would never know she has it. She is incredible, full of grace and faith, never complains about pain or her situation and is generally an incredible example to our family. Then theirs my youngest daughter- she used to be a littlr fireball- of joyful fun energy- but a couple of years ago she was in a minor car accident that caused severe PTSD and a massive anxiety disorder. Life is pretty wild- definitely not what i dreamed of! But im so thankful that its my life ands right now the reason I came Back ti this video- was because i'm in the midst of trying to change many things about myself so that I can be proud of who I am. Your comment gives me so much hope that you have had the same hopes and dreams and you've been given the same type of difficult exhausting sometimes scary life that I've been given- but we are blessed and you have become a woman that you are proud of and I have hope that i can become that too. ❤

[@LilyRose_Tiger]

​@@jaelleericaAutism isnt a disease, and it is something you WANT to be able to "show", since it can be so invisible. I have autism and I hate when people think I'm "cured" one day when I'm communicating better or not stimming as much ect. That is not healthy for me or anyone to try to hide it. But as far as the other struggles in your comment goes, I can definitely understand that all that must have been very scary and hard to go through, you sound like a strong mommy and you can be proud of yourself❤