LGBTQ+ Baby Journey | Choosing our Sperm Donor!

[@behoour]

My Wife and I did this 22 yrs ago, damn time flys, now we have 22 yr old grown ass twins who are both Graduating from college this year! We chose to have a known donor, but they still aren’t interested in knowing who he, but it’s nice to have to option if they ever do. Good luck!

[@rosemargriffith]

Sending so many positive baby vibes on your beautiful journey! Side note - your hair and makeup is looking gorgeous, both of you.

[@AlexisLilian]

Aw thank you ☺️

[@danellemoore1461]

I would love to know how many of these personality characteristics end of revealing themselves. Biology plays so much of a role in our personality, but nurture puts all the love on it and makes it shine. I am sure being raised by you two will result in an absolutely amazing, creative, kind human. It's so interesting to think about all of this.

[@josepha133]

I can't tell you guys how valuable all this information is. Thank you for sharing.

[@81suze]

I have quite a few patients who are donor kids and most of them search for their biological parent at some point. Often when they become parents themselves! So a known donor is important I think! Identity development etc but the family they grow up in is their heart family !

[@arialba7890]

It feels crazy, I am watching your videos since years and now this, I am so so so happy and excited for you!!!!

[@danidorsey679]

Omgosh my wife and I just started the RIVF process too 😁😁 so excited to follow this with y’all

[@fenjakl.b9280]

1:08 this one made me chuckle. Music taste would absolutely be a criteria for me too😂

[@robinhazen8034]

I'm so happy for you both!! Best of luck as you start your new family! 🍀💖

[@youknowg001]

Wishing you all the best ❤ congrats on this amazing milestone 🎉

[@Betsy1403]

Good luck. I jope everything goes well.

[@AlexisLilian]

Thank you! 💜

[@elisamusic1303]

I'm so excited for you guys 🎉

[@mariecolard9036]

Merci de nous partager tout le processus pour la fécondation. Vos explications sont très claires et complètes. Vous serez de merveilleuses mamans.

[@RikkeGade]

Thank you for bringing us with you on this journey. It really helps to demystify the process of having a baby as a queer couple. I also hope everything goes well. It sounds like you found the perfect donor for you guys! Love from Denmark

[@adriannabureta9071]

Sending you lots of love, take care girls and good luck with the whole process!

[@marycanary3871]

I am not donor-conceived, but I am adopted (with 2 biological siblings who have very different experiences than I do) and I am an (lesbian) OBGYN. I would love to reach out to you with the advice I have based on adjacent personal experience, professional experience, and research in the medical and alternative family communities. What is the best way to contact you with some information?

[@AlexisLilian]

That would be amazing! You can send us an email to [e-mail], thank you! 😊

[@mickeyvranic6709]

Excited for you both 🎉. Thank you for making is video, my wife and I are just a couple years away from this journey and also want to so reciprocal IVF

[@ShrubabotiBose]

So happy for you two, make sure you both get enough rest in between the stressful time, it would be undoubtedly an emotionally overwhelming ride for both of you. Wishing the best!

[@magbower4686]

Wow! Smart way to choose which one for the best to have baby! I wish you guys lot of luck!!!

[@franziskaprz8581]

All the best for your journey! Thynks for letaking us with you!

[@richardbrooks7157]

You both are an amazingly great couple you both are so so happy and great xxx

[@annajones2232]

How did you decide who would carry the baby?

[@moonbeam2951]

How sweet. Good luck!!

[@claireglendenning1]

Wishing you the best luck! Love your videos and thank you for sharing.

[@starr_wolf-c6h]

Weird factoid here, but a German friend wasn't allowed to donate sperm in the US because of fears of the transmission of Creutzfeld-Jakob Disease (Mad Cow) resulting from the previous consumption of raw red meat (a Bavarian dish). He is perfectly healthy, well-educated, successful and a long-time vegan as well but he was restricted for this reason. Useful info to show just how careful they are in the screening process when accepting a donation.

[@infinitelove6622]

I hope to see me and my partner picking donor in future like you guys 😅i love you guys ❤

[@shalenah]

aw thank you for sharing this journey with us. so beautiful

[@gillianslattery1765]

Wishing you health and a successful journey, lovely girls 🥰

[@sylvialambley2585]

I was donor- conceived, and info about the donor is/was not available to me... but I am trying to find some loopholes to learn more. I'm curious where you found "feedback from the donor conceived community" through your research? Would also be open to chatting if you have questions or want to talk about what I wish I'd been told etc... Love your beautiful content! Xx

[@shopofhearts]

Sending good vibes to you both and sending lots of loves from Albany Oregon USA

[@scubagoldfish45]

So excited for you!!

[@theinfoman464]

hey all the best on your journey! it might be hard but you guys would make it im 17 and in the future i too would be going around this route if ivg hasnt been out yet(i hope it comes out soon have you heard of it?) anyways best of luck

[@lalanifaure744]

Courageous you two ! congrats!

[@alexarmstrong5235]

Thank you so much, this was such an informative video :)

[@aidanshaw3611]

Good luck :). How come this procedure is not legal in Germany? In which other countries from Europe is it legal?

[@veins2820]

How did the cyst removal impact you cognitively? Noticed any changes?

[@aurora3655]

It’s so complicated!

[@leahstumm9662]

Happy for you two💜💜

[@Kate-nr3fx3fi9o]

Savour and enjoy this very exciting time in both of your lives🌹

[@myflyingkidney]

do you mind sharing the clinic you ended up choosing? and some others you looked at? I am also looking at the same procedure you two are, but I need to freeze my eggs first (I might be potentially transitioning, and even if not I am old and don't have a lot more time). My theoretical future partner will be carrying the child since I am trans, so for me pregnancy isn't an option. But since biologically we are dealing with same bodies, everything you are going to will apply to me. I heard clinics in spain are also good as well as denmark but austria is closest to me geographically. And I need to choose the clinic first since I will have to store the eggs there for future. Thanks for any info! (even if it is in a private message)

[@mariammairis]

I too get emotional when talking about emotional things 🩵 thank you so much for sharing. When the time comes I will be so grateful to have resources like this video.

[@djilalimhamed5500]

Vraiment je vous suis vous super sympa très jolies reportages ❤❤❤ amitié sincèrement et vous jolies bises ❤❤❤🎉

[@FobDog]

Glad for you girls

[@aurora3655]

Is empathy genetic?

[@nihalhathaway4089]

german rap - out. I agree so much hahaha

[@barnaliadhikary9421]

All the best

[@rockydavis94]

Congratulations

[@SamarkandChan]

Just be very aware of the fact that donors donate globally. So try to look for clinics that have global limits

[@annajones2232]

Your child from a popular donor will have many half siblings, did you ever think that was strange?

[@marcelevitta1774]

Little Brilliant is coming...

[@lighthouse1136]

Please find someone who is willing to get to know your child one-day. I've watched several documentaries abt this and a high percentage of donor children, who didn't know who their donor fathers were, or could never meet them, felt a strong sense of loss/grief ..and confusion around their identity.. even when they came from loving homes. It sounds like you are sensitive and conscious around this..

[@nikid.9418]

what's wrong with a big nose...?

[@lesliemacmillan9932]

My great fear as a sperm donor for two lesbians doing reciprocal IVF would be that someday two crazy women, not just one, will be tracking me down to get child-support payments out of me.

[@jazmin6031]

Wooow, super expensive😮

[@nihalhathaway4089]

I don't think kindness is very genetic haha

[@kirsten7467]

Please get a known donor. Its very important to know where you come from.

[@pernilladomander7648]

Why not just adopt a child?

[@chocolateprincess2656]

Wondering the same

[@PandaEyez09]

I get it, I’m all for adopting, but it’s a personal choice. Otherwise, why wouldn’t we ask everyone (ie, cis-het couples) to adopt and stop having their own children? 💁🏻‍♀️

[@Anonymous-sb9rr]

Why is queer awareness a criterium for a donor from the sperm bank? If he's not gonna be involved in your life, then who cares what he thinks?

[@gurmeharsingh484]

You should consider lilians brother or first cousin for sperm so it fertilises with alexis egg and it will be the same as male version of lilian is her brother or male cousins

[@user-eu6wp6ws7c]

Poor child.

[@Applecider-Poetry]

As a long time childcare worker and lesbian, I need to warn you that all children want to know who they are. There is no such thing as an anonymous donor. The agencies will change, laws will change and your children don't have to listen to your opinions. It's much less stressful to pick a close friend or even a relative to be the third parent. That's what you're signing up for even if you deny it or try redefining what you are doing. Most kids want to know who they really are even if they wait until you're dead. Why hamstring them with something less than the truth. Anonymous donors are often lied about. The agencies often produce a hundred under recorded siblings per donor. It's SO MUCH MORE FUN to pick out a daddy. Some fine gay man with talent and intellect that you are close to and want to include. Or you can do the right thing and adopt an infant keeping in mind open adoptions when viable. I say it's better to raise a motherless child than to have a kid that has to check their DNA before having unprotected sex.❤❤ sorry my opinion only. Remember all chickens come home to roost. The truth cannot be suppressed forever...

[@lifter1000]

It's should be illegal everywhere ☝️

[@christiee_anneee]

@julieandcamilla 🫶🏻 so beautiful couple /mom & mom and the baby / from scandinav country🤍