Life after quitting my 9-5 | moving to Sweden, healing & honest reflections

[@osahayden]

In a book called 'Regrets of the Dying' by Bronnie Ware, one of the biggest regrets people had was; "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself." As mentioned in the video, it is a truly saddening idea that millions if not most people, live their lives unfulfilled, never reaching the dreams and aspirations they once had as children.

[@TikaGhafar]

wholeheartedly agree. that regret from Bronnie's book is something i think about a lot.

[@brianpun8028]

Yeah, it looks like most people sacrifice their youthful years working a job they don't care for to make money, and then only after retirement do they have time to start enjoy life. More commentary discussions on current social issues will be much appreciated. Thanks.

[@arcticxscythe]

So cool to see you're in Sweden! I think a mixture of this and sitdown videos is good so you can switch it up every now and then. Maybe more of your personal life as vlogs taking us around and sit down videos for serious topics that can be uncomfortable to talk about in public? Its awesome you took this leap to go out of your comfort zone and vlog, you should be proud of yourself!!🫶🏻 thanks for the inspiring content as always Tika❤️

[@Shadoow585]

I really like the idea of a solo date and just walking around or explore new places. At the end of the day it is the topic of the video that is interesting to watch, but I find it a lot more enjoyable to see more of the world :D

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you for the feedback! rly appreciate it a lot :) and yes, i thought it might be a bit more interesting to show you guys the outdoors/new scenery~ hehe

[@khaxandrakhaxandra1400]

loved it gurl…i was just stuck in this not 9-5 job but a freelance but seems like it wasnt enough and i wanted to switch to something that requires travel too…more of your Designed Life of your own Terms! just loved it!

[@hnnhml]

Loveeed this format!! And also the video quality looks incredible🙌🏻

[@TikaGhafar]

thanks gurl 🥹🥰 i have DJI's osmo pocket 3 to thank for that 😂✨

[@CaptainKram]

The whole video I was smilling, it was awesome. I visted Sweden November last year and it was awesome, got that same feeling of ease you were describing. Unfortunetly it didn't last long after I got back to work. Anyway you made my day so thank you. :) As for the formats, I liked both.

[@TikaGhafar]

aw nice! glad you managed to take time off and visit an awesome place such as Sweden :D whereabouts were you? thank you for watching and for the feedback! super glad you enjoyed the vid. and likewise, your comment made my day

[@CaptainKram]

@@TikaGhafar I was in Stockholm for 5 days. Spent every day walking over 20 km :D

[@SIERRATREES]

good sleep is a gift. I like phasing down in the hour before bedtime, with dull lights, and not doing anything stressful or watching any thing triggering, but instead meditating or appreciating what's good in life ( there's always something ) ....thinking good peaceful thoughts. I used to think being super stressed and going a million miles an hour was how to get it done. Its not. You have to relax and unwind. The subconscious mind is still quietly ticking away. Thats how you create and find good solutions. Great channell

[@VaniaGuerra17]

Thank you so much for facing a little discomfort to bring us this format. I am at a time in my life where I am interested in personal development and your channel inspires me in multiple ways! :D

[@FlorensiaDamayanti]

Thanks Tika, it's so inspiring

[@joepup8348]

I like this 'walk and talk' format, especially if you have a nice, photogenic, even exotic backdrop (like foreign city streets). But I think you need more walking! The moving around sets the pace and creates a sense of freedom and openness. Speaking of movement, I think the six months concept is sort of like a launch ramp to a new future--you just have to figure out which ramp is yours. Love the concept!

[@michaelaunohoo]

I really love this relaxed format 🥰🥰

[@TikaGhafar]

aah I'm so glad! thanks for the feedback 🥰✨

[@LaytonObserves]

Congrats on the NEW LIFE. Hope it continues to go well !!

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you so much! hoping everything's going well on your journey too 😊✨

[@jordan.parker]

Congratulations on the bold steps! Both in leaving your job and also trying the vlogging format. Appreciating your vulnerability.

[@TikaGhafar]

thank youu for the kind words and feedback! 😄✨ being vulnerable is hard on camera but i think that's the kind of content that people appreciate most 😊

[@KT-rh7hq]

Hi there! I’m a new subscriber and have been enjoying all of your videos. You have so much great knowledge to share, thank you! I also love both formats and the variety keeps things interesting. Sweden is beautiful! 😍

[@TikaGhafar]

aw thanks so much for the lovely comments and for the feedback on the video format :D Sweden is beautiful indeed 😍

[@KenSam-x7m]

Love it a lot, kinda refreshing, engaging and learning at the same time. Whereas the previous vdos are hyperfocused but it's great too. I personally like them both. N.B. you look a lot different in here: very relaxing and you look very young, eps. your smile. Can't wait to see what's next. Take care and wish you all the best for your journey.🥰

[@TikaGhafar]

aw thanks so much for the feedback! I'll try to do a mix and match in future :)

[@michaelkelly3419]

So happy to see you absolutely crushing it!

[@TikaGhafar]

aw thanks so much! 😊

[@ellesai7611]

Welcome to Sweden! June, July and August lined up so you're about to have a good time if you like the outdoors. Autumn is also beautiful and I highly suggest going into the woods to pick mushrooms (requires knowledge).

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you for the suggestion and the warm welcome! 🤗 I'm really excited for june to come and rly glad it's already starting to warm up some days 🥰

[@Julia.Zykova]

I really enjoy watching your videos! They are always so interesting🧡 I think all formats of videos would be good! I also love solo dates and exploring the city! It's like a little trip when you don't have to leave the house) Thanks for your videos✨

[@TikaGhafar]

aah thanks so much! and really appreciate the feedback on the video format 🥰 glad you're enjoying the solo dates ✨

[@monicaptran]

welcome to sweden- neighbor. Im currently living in Norway. its cool that you have crossed the world to stay in Sweden with your sister. its good that you feel better after quitting and not regretting it. I would not say that I am in the same situation, but I did send my resignation and am afraid of how I will support myself financially. i love how honest you are. I cant wait for more vlogs from you. stay safe and continue to create. ❤

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you so much 😊✨ I'd love to visit Norway and might plan to do so whilst I'm in this part of the world! have you resigned from work to take a break or looking to change career paths? :)

[@monicaptran]

@@TikaGhafar you should visit norway one day. Highly recommend ❤️ i resigned because im going to move to another town in Norway. I have an apportunity to continue in that Company, but i dont know. I get exhausted after every shift. So im glad that i resigned. But the uncertainty future are getting me nervous. Since i have a marketing degree, i try to find something there. But the job market is hard 😅

[@xav9156]

Hey Tika, so nice to hear from you. You look very serene. I enjoyed the the walk around town video. Enjoy your day. Farväl...X

[@TikaGhafar]

glad you enjoyed the format! 😁✨

[@xav9156]

@@TikaGhafar Perhaps one day I will have the chance to see you in Canada...Farväl. Xav

[@luvyou-baby]

just found the channel. i like the outside vlogging style. subbed. good luck on your new life path

[@BeyCinema]

Love these vlog style type of videos! It's very refreshing and encouraging to see someone who's on a similar journey. For the longest time I've put off vlogging even though I've really wanted to try it, but I'm going to give it a go. :)

[@TikaGhafar]

aah I'm so glad you're going to give vlogging a shot! tbh it's scary and uncomfortable filming in public for the first time but you'll get used to it quickly 😊✨ wishing you all the best!

[@laizerwoolf]

livin the dream! godspeed.

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you so much! feeling very blessed indeed :)

[@manuelcamino4025]

Now that you are in Spain, consider coming to Spain! Málaga, where I live is awesome, lovely weather and warm vibes, :) Nice video, thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience, ❤

[@emmabe]

I just found your channel recently and now in your latest video you are walking around in my town! 😯☺️ Welcome and I hope you enjoy it!

[@TikaGhafar]

aw thank you!! I've been loving it a lot hehe. you live in a wonderful place 🥰

[@andrewbulanadi4299]

sentiments on the sleep and dreadful moments. same

[@PeterRobertsson]

Welcome to Sweden! Lovely to have you here! Enjoy! :-) Should you wish to see the area where I live am happy to oblige! Let me know! :-)

[@morgen2728]

Wow, massive life changes. Congrats on taking some big steps.

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you! 😊🙏🏻

[@buntomat]

How I would love to be in Sweden right now, because every Sweden laughs and sings and dances non-stop in 40 degrees and sunshine. Oh, Sweden is the most beautiful country in the world - where the palm trees stand on the beach. That's where I want to go for a walk now, because I really like my Sweden.

[@worldview730]

Go Tika, Go Tika, Go Tika!🙌🙌👍👍

[@adammorra3813]

For someone new on the channel, I have no context of what you were doing before and why you quit your job. Would love a video on this.

[@TikaGhafar]

heya! thanks for supporting this channel 😄 i do plan on releasing a video on quitting my 9-5 and more context on that so stay tuned ✨😊

[@SomethingNick]

What did you use to film this? I'd love to see a video on relationships, but I like this kind of content too - the main thing I like to get out of KZbin is feeling either inspired to make changes or relatable in my struggles, quitting a bad job is definitely inspiring and something I eventually need to do when I'm ready to shed the golden handcuffs

[@TikaGhafar]

i used the osmo pocket 3! such a gamechanger for vlogging in my honest opinion 😁 and thank you for the feedback on the video format! rooting for you and hoping you can shed off the golden handcuffs too ✨🙏🏻

[@benturner52]

I quit my 9-5 recently too! Good luck 😎

[@TikaGhafar]

congratulations! what are your plans now that you've exited the 9-5? 😊 and thanks!

[@benturner52]

@@TikaGhafar thank you! I’ve moved home to Northern Ireland to focus on my business idea :)

[@rebeccal.672]

For serious topics like your relationship maybe an inside one would be good. I am ok with whatever you want to do. Never been to Sweden so would love to see some sights as well. Take care and enjoy.

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you for the feedback! 😊 that's a fair point on the serious topics. i did film the relationship one already in the same vloggy style 😅 but prolly will do a mix and match in future and experiment a bit more~ but maybe whilst I'm still in Sweden it would be nice to take advantage of the new environment/sights, so we'll see :)

[@SkyStepDrones68]

Love the content beautiful!

[@seankelly1366]

I'm looking forward to moving to Norway....I was supposed to move a few years ago but this ridiculous plandemic situation completely wiped me out and I'm stuck here in America..

[@lostinadmiration]

This is so exciting! Selfishly, I 'd hope we would manage to keep you in Europe long-term! :) do consider!

[@TikaGhafar]

aww tbh I love the idea of living in europe for a little while! and hope we can also meet one day and hang out ❤️🥰 will hit you up as soon as that happens 👀

[@andyn6053]

Really nice video format, hearing your thoughts. I can relate to your situation since I myself quit my job at H&M recently. Such a toxic workplace! Leaving and getting away from a micromanaging boss was the only way to save my physical and mental health! Working 9 to 5 feels like being in jail. I now gonna focus on sleeping, eating, going to the gym and reading books instead of having this constant low level stress keeping me up all night and anxious. I truly believe humans ain´t created to be working like slaves. It´s capitalism and people are slaves chasing money to pay their bills in a never ending rat race. That´s not life, that´s misery! Life is too short for being stuck with no freedom.

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you 😊 and congratulations on quitting! sounds like an awful work environment. totally agree with your viewpoint. health and quality of life are so much more important. do you plan on taking a break from work for a while or are you already looking for another role?

[@MN-gg5qk]

I have a random question for you, did you work in the shop or office? I’m asking because I work in a shop as well and would like to see how / if it’s possible to make the jump to an office

[@andyn6053]

Thanks Tika, yes I didnt know how much influence a toxic manager can have on ones health. I have colleagues who left before me and they are glad they got out. Im trying to recover but its a double edged sword. To not have a job can lead to isolation. I have applied for some jobs but will get severance pay during the fall and have salary insurance also as backup. But hope to get into freelancing. The 9 to 5 model has never felt right for me. Yet, society is built on everyone should live that way. No Wonder soo many get burned out nowadays.

[@andyn6053]

Yes I had many colleagues at the office who previously worked in our stores. We work in agile product teams which consists of a product owner, business expert data analysts, software engineers etc. A way in would be as applying for a business expert role. They need to have experience of the business side and be good at communication. But its not as glamorous at the office as it might look from the outside.

[@MalvikaRao-SlowLiving]

You are awesome :)

[@TikaGhafar]

thanks for supporting this channel! 🥰

[@camnguyen1910TV]

i really love your personality and i can easily associate with you. So when u love someone, you love what they do anyway. Just share what you want to share if u think it is helpful.

[@TikaGhafar]

that's awesome to hear, thank you 🙈 feel free to leave topic suggestions too in the comments for future vids 😊✨

[@mart1n10601]

Damn, you're living the life. 27 and traveling the world. enjoy it

[@nitishnair89]

Beautiful places

[@cindyolson5849]

well if you dont have bills i guess its a good feeling . i love working though

[@Frendh]

*shrugs* If you can do it and want to do it, just do it. Doesn't really matter if no one else can.

[@joeynila7049]

❤

[@ShaneTSGTV]

Welcome to the club Tika!!!

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you so much! aw nice :D that's awesome, am happy that you took that leap for yourself. i've never been to malta but it looks absolutely amazing! are you currently working on your own business or working for a company there?

[@ShaneTSGTV]

​@@TikaGhafar I started my own business and I had to make a change in my life, so I just changed almost everything and now I'm building new routines and try to make the best version of myself and I love it! It's like playing videos games in the past but now its the real life game, thats awesome! I love to challenge myself so I stopped drinking alcohol, stopped smoking and I have way more challenges ahead! :D love it!

[@Felix_EN]

Great decision, make the most of it. And no it is not necessarily privileged to take a 6 months sabbatical, I think every young person can chose to do it. You've also worked towards building your side husle and youtube channel yourself. Greetings from Denmark with equally mediocre weather :)

[@TikaGhafar]

aw thank you for the encouragement ✨😊 sometimes the doubt creeps in so good to have reminders like this once in a while. would honestly love to visit Denmark one day as I haven't been (even if the weather is equally as 💩) 😂!

[@itsanishjain]

for sometime I skip your videos, seems not for me. this is awesome. like the format and yes no job is best job now things are getting real. haha now again Iove to follow your journey again.

[@TikaGhafar]

glad to hear and thank you for following the journey! will be releasing more content like this in future 😁

[@Huskarlz]

I... Have been delaying my resignation.. Hm Hey I love the solo date..

[@TikaGhafar]

hope you get to do it soon 🙏🏻 and thanks for your feedback on the video format :)

[@PeterRobertsson]

In terms of regrets I dont think one should have those as those are not healthy. Better to try to stay a bit alert and learn from one's mistakes but maybe more important to learn from other's mistakes and advise. We live here a brief moment on Earth and I think, if one can one should try if possible to experience life not just exist. That include, if one can experience other cultures, food, music, way of living and peoples and so on and so forth. I have and I continue to to do so with curiousity and with an open mind and heart. Being narrow and inward looking wont take you anywhere. Two of the most unintelligent notions of mankind that connects with the above are racism, and that woman and man arent as valuable and equal as human being (we are all different, but also the same). Keeping 50% of a population and brain power surpressed is truly idiotic and unintelligent. So is racism, as if I have a different colour on my skinn would make me less intelligent, capable and valued. How stupid! There are good and bad people in every country and cultures. You should choose hang out with the good ones as that is healthier as I see it. So after this rambling back to the "regrets" as it reminds me of an interview some years ago on Swedish TV of a 93 years old lady where she was asked if she regretted anything in life so far. She was quiet for a while and then looked up with a smile and said.."well, thinking about it, I think I maybe cleaned the house a bit too often and too much". :-)

[@ArifKhan-pz8dd]

Hello: You are beautiful and I am empty 🦋🥀 There is something in your magical face. Or why attract me like a magnet? There is a lot of calmness and innocence in your look. Which hits the very depths of the soul

[@chibiitachi7828]

Ooohh...org Malaysia!

[@edwingaray3960]

Nice views 🙃

[@stloh3475]

Perhaps you escape because you did see the big picture, why not be company saviour for better work place.

[@MartinLim-q3z]

Was your terrible job in KL ? Audit ?