Life Changes After a Spinal Cord Injury

[@sabastiantaylor7209]

My wife was such a strong independent person. When she got cancer. She withered away but I always saw her as beautiful as the day I met her. One day I was picking her up from our bed to put her in our bathtub. With tears in her eyes she turned to me and said thank you. I was totally confused. I didn’t understand why she would thank me. I thought I understood why she was sad. So I asked her. Thank you for what??? She replied for not leaving and staying with me. I replied with the only thing I thought which was, where would I go? Where would I be without you. I never understood why she said that at the time. But years later I see things like this. To me there was no option to not be there. I couldn’t imagine myself anywhere else. I would be by her side no matter what happened. I miss her. She was the kindest person I ever met. It was my honor to take care of her. I only wish I could have had more time to take care of her. I wish I could pick her up again. Hold her. Talk to her. Life is to short. Tell your loved ones how you feel about them.

[@heidiullrich966]

Your comment really touched my heart. Everyone should be so fortunate to love unconditionally. You are a good man and from what you described, you had a wonderful wife.

[@Brind-amour]

True love right there, you both were blessed to have each other. God Bless.

[@maryd7081]

May your wife R.I.P & May God Bless You always 😢

[@mybigyear]

You sound like an awesome human. Big hugs

[@meghanhuffman7772]

I teared up ready your comment. Really touched me. Thanks for sharing something so difficult😊🥺 May she rest is peace

[@effinyu9554]

Getting seriously hurt or getting sick with a serious Illness really shows you who the real friends are.

[@barrylyndon80]

Even with a minor knee injury some people avoid you, because they are afraid you could ask for help.

[@lockdown-vq5bz]

​@@barrylyndon80 like literally i got my acl fully torn and legit got to know who would actually care about me enough to help me out with basic stuff i was even scared of asking for help cause i have always been "oh so independent" and I'm just scared they would have to help me and just leave me if they have to do too much work idk maybe i don't wanna know who my "real" friends are

[@H4CK41D]

it's so painful when you are left with barely any support or friends because of something like this. it happens.

[@fenderOCG]

"why didn't you help me when I asked you for help?" "I knew you'd be fine" "I wasn't fine" "you're fine now" This was how it went with my family. And they ask me for help a lot.

[@shadyzz9549]

Oh FK off… I was paralyzed for a year with a spinal injury… It doesn’t show me who was a true friend of not, what it showed me is that not everyone is capable of doing certain things in life, and that’s totally OK, that I have no place to judge those who aren’t capable of doing things I may need when I need them… that they have their own things going on in life and might not be able to handle it, or perhaps trauma in the past, or maybe they’re afraid… Regardless, if things like this make you judge others because of where you’re at rather than open your eyes to everyone else’s realities in life, you’re a selfish, narcissistic, piece of SHT.

[@db3639]

God bless that mother. Husband left her while pregnant. Lost oldest son in a wreck at just 20 years old. Then almost loses her other...never once heard the “why me?” I think he gets his strength and positivity from his mother! ❤️❤️❤️

[@roadchickie]

Right? She's incredible and she raised incredible children.

[@arsonfly]

I'd definitely ask "why me?" Those are terrible circumstances.

[@HeartWorX.Creations]

Anyone asking “why Me?” Is playing the ‘victim’ & strong ppl -don’t play that role...DUH!!!!!!!!!!

[@tigergreg8]

I agree 100 % 👍

[@Sirmellowman]

almost as bad as his fiancee leaving him after his injury...what a pathetic person that girl was hes WAY better without her.

[@smb2265]

My heart aches for this young man...first he loses his brother, then his ability to walk, then his fiance because she couldn't handle it...if he can get through this, he can get through anything...i have a profound respect and admiration for him....God Bless

[@katydid1600]

What happen to his brother?

[@allthebest744]

@@katydid1600 They mentioned in the video that he was killed in an auto accident at age 20.

[@katydid1600]

@@allthebest744 thank you, I guess I missed that.

[@Rogue_Wave5150]

What happened to his brother? His fiancee left him like 2 weeks after injury

[@leanneadams2549]

Yes, I think the total same thing !!! 💯

[@copythat10_44]

There’s a young gentleman who was a med student after a car accident had the same injury. He finished his medical school, he is a doctor now.

[@meghans.7886]

I’m a T4 paraplegic. Paralyzed from my chest. It’s been 18 yrs. I hope for you to know that your injury doesn’t define who you are. And that life can be so full, rich and exciting. Stay positive!!

[@khongbietsao4846]

im C4 from 1997 til now my fiancé did the same to me.....but im never mad or sAy thing still live by my safe whjt my care giver happy for her

[@xantoniaxxx]

T8 paraplegic for 12 years now. You’re right.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you so much. That's very kind of you to say 🙏💙

[@verenavalo1030]

@@ashleytreseder9491 You're just an amazingly beautiful spirit and have such magical family and friends. I am really grateful to having stumbled upon your inspirational story.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

@@verenavalo1030 am blessed in so many ways 🙏

[@judygd8749]

You will find out who is sincere & genuine when tragedy strikes

[@rebornsnuzzles2573]

@Texas_Raised_ Texas _Made She's a garbage human.

[@johnv1684]

Texas_Raised_ Texas Made When you make the decision to spend the rest of your life with someone, you’re committing to _“... for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”_ the moment you say “yes”. People and especially women, have lost touch with the true core values of marriage. The social acceptance, of “keeping it real”, does nothing more but to make people irresponsible, weak and above all selfish.

[@rebornsnuzzles2573]

@Texas_Raised_ Texas _Made I keep my commitments. That's not how boundaries work. We set boundaries in advance, not after the fact. So yeah, the day someone comes home after an event like this, when they are the most vulnerable, when they need you most, to leave them and to make the situation all about you, that makes you absolute trash. There's no humanity in an action like that.

[@beelarehman5992]

Not referring to his ex but this statement is very true

[@andrea050405]

So very true people just disappear leave you on your own

[@DBLCreations]

When i got leukemia, my relationship didn't last long either, my friends stopped calling me, and suddenly, i was all alone. I had lucky with my mom though, even though she hadn't a driver license, she always managed to be there by my side every single day. She passed away almost two years ago and it's been very hard for me since then. But i try to move on, step by step, day by day...

[@romalay6516]

Send you a lot of love and support 💕 from Algeria 🇩🇿 Be Brave, you gonna be alright 💪

[@DBLCreations]

@@romalay6516 Thank you!

[@danao1796]

Sending love and big hugs from California. Keep your head up 🌻💙🕊

[@DBLCreations]

@@danao1796 Thank you! 🙂

[@DBLCreations]

@DEEPAK KUMAR Hi man, i'm okay, just needed a PET-Scanner where they can see if i have other tumors etc.. But the scanner was clean! So i'm pretty happy about that. The GVHD has relapsed a bit sadly enough, but i'm taking my medication. I'm always staying strong, or try to at least, and i try to stay positive 😎 Hopefully everything is okay with you !

[@bunnywardlaw4895]

Hang in there Ash - my younger sister has been paralyzed her entire life (birth injury). Never a "why me". She lives on her own in NYC. Doctors told us she wouldn't live past 16 - now at 68 she is still going strong. Love and blessings from Florida And God Bless your mum.

[@ChosenWon]

I'm sorry this happened to you. With your personality and intelligence you'll lead a great life despite your injuries. Best of luck to you.

[@lizdevich7192]

Some people can be so fickle and only think about themselves ( unfortunately)! I am a caregiver because my philosophy is this I don't know what's in store for me, I just want to share kindness and compassion to others!

[@ianmangham4570]

@@lizdevich7192 G'day liz mate ❤️

[@AttitudeLive]

We're happy that Ashley's story is having such a positive effect on so many of you. At Attitude, we're about supporting and encouraging others to live to their full potential so discouraging or abusive comments will be deleted.

[@elizabethmeyer7447]

This story will make people stay or become more optimistic, and content with their lives like I always say don't sweat the small stuff. Worry about the big stuff.🤗❤

[@elizabethmeyer7447]

I think ash is a star💫🙏🤗💝

[@ashleytreseder9491]

@@elizabethmeyer7447🙏🏼💙

[@LilyGazou]

Thank you❤️

[@roadchickie]

Please follow Ashley's journey and allow us to as well. It would be so uplifting and inspiring to others with spinal injuries. He's an absolute fighter and determined. His journey is worth following.

[@susanrapley3223]

I definitely see him with a partner when the time is right. For now, growing and learning and figuring out this new life. I wish him the best.

[@ThePHYL]

Susan Rapley My husband and I are old now, in our 70s married a lot of years....he does everything for me...a few years ago a. Friend asked me what she should do, stay with her husband or go live with this other man.....I told her to stay with the one who will be there to care for you when you are old or sick....she picked the other man....never told her she was making a big mistake.....he won't be there for her when she is old and wrinkly.

[@xtdycxtfuv9353]

@@ThePHYL Alpha seed beta need. You get that provider girl.

[@sugarpuff2978]

​@@xtdycxtfuv9353You sound like a hurt dickhead in your comments. Could that be why you are obviously single? Just wondering.

[@sconan01]

My college friend’s son had a stroke at 17 yrs old, and is a quadriplegic with minimal movement in his left arm. After hospital and rehab, he is now, 3 yrs later, a college freshman! Anything is possible! And yes, your princess is most definitely out there!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Send my love to your son 🙏💙

[@xtdycxtfuv9353]

Nah. Ur princess is being popped by better looking taller men with pristine spinal cords. Maybe at 40 if you can provide 😂

[@sfcdjday]

I fell 30’ from a tree 5 months ago. I had a L1 burst fracture along with SCI. I also tore my LCL, MCL and ACL. Had no bladder or colon control and totally numb through my entire hip region. It’s been a fight and will continue to be a fight as you know all too well. Still going through my PT but we are still here! Stay at it Bro!

[@duaneburr7342]

I fell 30' last August and landed on a sawhorse. T-12 burst fracture. I'm in the same boat with bowel/bladder and very limited leg movement. Stay strong, sounds like we're in this together!

[@riccotm1]

God is big

[@chrisvig123]

Why is everyone falling from trees ?😯

[@markmalaney5224]

Stay strong guys!!

[@travellingchef_]

You are a inspiration to humanity ....... ❤❤

[@Steamrollergirl71]

Seeing Ashley struggle to get in the car really hit me. What a lovely friend and friends he has. And his Mum is the best. This young man will achieve so much. He has a great support network around him.

[@tswaw15]

Heartbreaking his fiancée left him so shortly after. I just want to give him a big hug. I know he will find the right girl someday soon!

[@eljones930]

She actually stayed with him for several months while he was in rehab. It wasn't until he came home that she broke up with him.

[@rareELL]

Yea but months for your so called future wifely ain't nothing..... Or so they say.

[@marilynbarker8255]

tswaw15 I give her credit for being able to admit she couldn’t handle his disability. Better to be honest than to hang in there and be resentful. I hope she has no guilt for her decision.

[@hotinmybags]

chris Barnett it has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with attitude Everyone is different and everyone has different goals and dreams. I’m sure all of us would love to say we would stand by someone we love if they went through something like this but we have no idea what that’s like. I don’t agree with his ex fiancé but that’s life It is brutal and unfair but we all have to make our own way and live with our choices.

[@suzyqpublic9034]

chris Barnett - Most young men who are good looking would never even conceive of dating a woman of character who has a severely disabled body. I’m going to guess you don’t even know anyone who has pursued or continued a relationship pre marriage with a disabled woman. Ashley is an amazing man and deserves a woman who is his equal and loves him as he is. He has been forced in life’s pressure cooker at an early age and is an inspiration to those who are disabled, but more importantly is a great asset to all people.

[@luv2icesk8lots]

I would love to see Attitude turn this into a series that follows Ashley’s recovery. It would also show his journey as a newly disabled person learning how to adapt from being a disability support worker to being a part of the disability community. I think it would be quite interesting!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

I definitely look forward to doing follow up episodes in the future 🙏🏼💪🏽

[@6530517]

OK

[@elizabethgrieve6077]

My husband has recently had a C4 injury and would love to have follow up episodes as very helpful to watch and see others who are so positive in their approach to this type of injury!! Keep going, stay strong and believe!!

[@ninakoch1799]

@@ashleytreseder9491 how are you doing? you‘re so inspiring!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

@@elizabethgrieve6077 hoping your husband is doing well 💪🏽

[@michelleparadis7284]

Ashley, I suffered a severe spinal injury and a deforming arm injury the same day. I am able to walk now after a long fight. I understand your grief and feeling the losses. One thing I'm grateful for, is the dramatic change in my heart. I'm a better person since my accident. Appreciate more, love more, more compassionate, empathetic, giving, understanding...so much more appreciative of everything. Would I change my injuries, No. Because I love me better now. Your making amazing progress! Keep pushing.

[@denisepaulsenful]

With all due respect your spinal chord injury was not that severe. You can walk. That's like saying others with the same tyoe of injury as your severe injury just weren't trying hard enough. And that's not true. I spent 6 months in a hospital rehab setting. If i had actually been able to walk out the doors i would've. But i couldn't. And my injury is permanent. Same as most of us SCI peeps. We will never be strong enough to walk. And i don't mean mentally. It's not even strength. My legs move. I can pivot. But the messages from my brain travel down the spinal cord. Since my cord has been permanently dsmaged there is no strengthening involved. The spinal cord is a nerve. You can't do anything physically to make a nerve stronger. I hope you take this message to heart. And think about your what words you can use to better explain your injury for i am convinced it was never a spinal cord injury. You were lucky.

[@michelleparadis7284]

You jump out a 3 story house trying to keep from burning to death n tell me what it does to your back. I already had damage, I hit so hard even the tissue around my spinal cord was destroyed. U think I walked over night? N when I was able, was told it only temporary. And it is. Because of the damage to my entire back, from neck to L2, it's all deteriorated. I'm ready to go back to assistance. Only vertebrate salvaged was L1. The nerve damage is crippling, my kids dress my feet and help put my pants on my legs. But, u didnt know that b4 u judged me. No one can be positive, u gotta see the negative in everyones comments when it wasnt intended at all. Everyone offended...but your implying I was being rude is damn offensive.

[@denisepaulsenful]

@@michelleparadis7284 a spinal cord injury has very little or nothing to do with your back. Your back is a bone. I broke my neck at C5/6 so my injury is quite high. When i broke my neck bone it punctured my spinal cord. Hence even tho my injury is considered incomplete - i will still never walk. Ever. And that's not because i'm not strong or i gave up. The outcome would be the same no matter what i did.

[@michelleparadis7284]

@@denisepaulsenful didnt say it was. But when u smash your vertebrates so hard against your spinal cord from the impact of a 30 foot fall, it damages your spinal cord. Dont tell me My injuries....we good???

[@michelleparadis7284]

@@denisepaulsenful did I ever ever insinuate anyone didnt try? Or was lazy? Nope! Read into what u want. Your negativity is a downer....try seeing the positive for a bit....might change your shitty attitude.

[@memyself7956]

I love the way he talked about his mum. She is why he's so strong.

[@terrykang5000]

Dear Ashley: wishing you the absolute best in life. You’re a blessing, and an inspiration!

[@twig265]

My SCI is C5/6 quadriplegic, I was told I’d never walk again and I’m paralyzed from the chest down. You truly are an inspiration to me. I really don’t know how to describe it. You have a great personality and your outlook on life is great. You have a wonderful mom that is always there for you. You have a wonderful group friends that have never left your life. I honestly don’t know where I’d be at if it wasn’t for my family. Just watching this video took like 20 pounds of bricks off my chest. Like I said I don’t know how to describe it but you truly are an inspiration to me. You should look up Project Walk. I think you’d really benefit from that. Keep that positive feeling you have and there’s no doubt you’ll make it far in their world.

[@virginiaperez1514]

Google Unique Access Medical for spinal cord injury. There are people with similar SCI who are able to walk again after undergoing surgery to implant an Epidural Stimulator.

[@twig265]

Virginia Perez, thank you so much. I’m going to look into this.

[@geometricart7851]

Sometimes I forget just living my daily life that the senses are truly a gift and not a right and to not take them for granted. So much inspiration in this chat!

[@geometricart7851]

Hey Twig hope your still doing great it's been 5 months since you wrote that.

[@GrannyJB]

His mom is so beautiful...so amazing. She gets all of her joy from loving her son and he loves her right back.

[@beelarehman5992]

Absolutely no way he’s going to stay single

[@jennifersinclair7249]

I know. Too gorgeous and too humble and too intelligent!

[@jessieely5363]

tonytrader I beg to differ. Some women seek money and babies, but not all.

[@drooshmaroosh8261]

@Journey B tonytrader You both are correct. It's a case by case situation.

[@xokizza]

beela rehman right!!

[@randiwright9624]

I know that's right

[@chezalepresents]

I just suffered an SCI early September. I totally understand your level of grief and loss. I was an active dancer, performer, educator most my life... and now my world has been completely turned upside down. 😢 Sending healing energy to us both. 🙏🏾

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Wishing you the best in your rehabilitation. Soak in all the little things that bring you happiness!

[@kkdoc7864]

I am relieved that you didn’t injure the cervical spine any higher because you could have lost your ability to speak and breathe without a ventilator. But, that didn’t happen. So use your voice that was spared to continue reaching out and teaching us all what it means to really live. You are an inspiration, my friend. Thank you, Ash.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you very much. That's very true! Means alot 🙏

[@jwilliams2632]

Australia and New Zealand have some of the absolute best para sport/special Olympics teams in the world. I hope he finds a way to get involved with them. Even coaching is an amazing thing he can do.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

I'll be getting into coaching next year and have already begun wheelchair rugby 💪🏽

[@jamielauro2623]

If that happened to my fiancé I would never leave him ....he has such wonderful outlook and you can see he will do great!!!

[@rareELL]

Never say never.

[@jamielauro2623]

rare L but am sayin Never to that one

[@koriribarsosio4174]

I wouldn't either, but some would, and that's okay too. It's okay to not be able to handle this, and to be honest about it😊

[@jamielauro2623]

koriri sawar you could be honest about a lot things doesn’t make them good decisions...

[@ashleytreseder9491]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💙

[@Marina-pg6wx]

The story is so motivational. What I really really admire about him is that he may not be the most loud and outspoken individual in this video, but he’s got such a quiet confidence. And many people out there need to know that it’s OK to have that quiet confidence. I just know in my heart that he is going to do some pretty spectacular things. And this is just the first step. I have cerebral palsy myself. And I’ve learned that the biggest limitation in your life is you, yourself. He doesn’t have that limitation. At least not all the time. I really really admire him. You got this!!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you Marina. That means alot! Never give up 🙏🏼💪🏽

[@MrCmon113]

Is that why people kill themselves? To remove the biggest limitation?

[@oliviiaaach95]

What an amazing, admirable young man. If my sons grow up to be half the man he is, I’d be the happiest mother on the planet. A big credit to his wonderful mother who has held it down for him through the ups and downs❤

[@AmberKingmusic]

People keep craping on the fiance, though I wouldn't leave. It is probably better that she left rather than have things go south later on. Imagine if she stayed, was his primary care provider, and then left. That happens a lot, yes it's still a bad situation but at least he is learning to do things by himself and now when he finds the right person they will already see and know what challenges he needs help with and what he can do solo. I deal with a chronic invisible illness and my husband and I while dating went through the rough part of being a caregiver. We have worked together and with help so now we have good day tasks and bad day tasks. For example on a good day I am pretty self-sufficient, I need help with certain tasks but very minimal. On a bad day it's hard for me to get up to use the restroom. Now he is in the military and we have been setting things up for me to do things on my own on bad days as well as good days.

[@mollyhorse]

I agree Amber. Also we are not privy to how the relationship was going before this happened. Just because they were engaged does not automatically mean a great relationship...and hey...people handle things differently.We shouldn't bag her too much

[@christslove8121]

Ive heard of and experienced healing while reading the Bible out loud so definately do that every day. I had neck pain so bad I could only sleep on my back and it vanished while I was reading the Bible out loud. I felt so much stronger my bones , joints and every thing. You can look up healing scriptures on utube or maybe all the Bible is healing I don't know. 🤗

[@sabrinaricks7102]

Such an inspiring story 💙 He has an incredibly beautiful attitude. Mom, you clearly raised a good man xoxo

[@ashleytreseder9491]

🙏💙

[@royalblue5962]

I started watching this story feeling absolutely devastated for you, by the end I was thinking you’ve got this! You’re totally smashing it!!! Just proves that nothing should stop you from achieving great things in life.

[@thegroovyhead]

It seems that all tragedy is laid upon a huge range... I am a retired educator /counselor and end-of-life/ bereavement specialist for children(0-18, most being under 13) with cancer and for their families. Watching your story, I take a breath of relief that you are a survivor, Mr. Ashley, and that you are not battling the traitorous killer that put children through the hell of treatment, and at worst, killed them...some 3, or 6,, or 10, or 16 year-olds -- Many of "my" kids who are not here any more spent time in wheelchairs, and they would happily stay there in their chairs for the rest of their lives, if it meant that they could still be with their families, and the people they loved... You are a WONDERFUL example of independence, hard earned and absolutely deserved! BRAVO for simply...going forward without losing the spice and spark you always had, and more. Why? ... Really, who the hell knows. One plods forward, and takes the little beauties of life...there are so many. Many, many cheers!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏🏽

[@paraworth]

Just had a huge crash broke my back and ankle. I’m 60 years old, exercised compulsively for 35 years. So grateful I can still move my legs and arms. I’m in recovery. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@janekosola2056]

Gosh! If I was 40 years younger, I would marry him myself (not that such an amazing man would want to marry me). What a kind and sweet man. They are very rare these days. May God richly bless you, your mom, and all of the people who love you just the way your are!

[@sunshinemitchell935]

I said the same thing. If I was 20 years younger I would pursue this man. What a beautiful soul. He is going to make some lucky lady a wonderful husband!!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you very much 🙏💙

[@babycake2941]

Cougar detected

[@mollyhorse]

@@ashleytreseder9491 I was going to say the same things as these other ladies Ashley....I think the message is we more "mature" ladies know what true love is...and trust me when I tell you the woman who ends up with you is going to be very very lucky!

[@mimi111maryam6]

@@ashleytreseder9491 hope everything is going well for you what is your IG please if u hv any 😉

It just goes to show how rare true love really is.

[@EddieSpaghetti07]

Basse - hello handsome 😍😍😍

[@suzyqpublic9034]

True love doesn’t often happen in the exuberance and beauty of youth. True love is formed through life’s trials and tribulations and growing together. You absolutely witness true love on this video watching Ashley’s mother and learning a bit about her story. The fiancé is only a side note to his life.

[@harpsailorharp6716gg]

I met my bf after he lost his leg in a accident aged 30 .. hes now 38 .. hes amazing funny and sexy ...4 years together and still see no disability only strength and resilience

[@gustavocastro4313]

Truth!!

[@geometricart7851]

the truest-purest kind of love is extremely rare. Someone that you would devote your entire life, to basically become that persons 2nd skin, to live their life as your own. I don't know if I could do it. I think I could, but the person I would become isn't the person I am now. I would definitely need to mature and I would need to very quickly. . I hope I never have to make such a decision.

[@Brenzzy]

What a wonderful mom and son. Truly an inspiration.

[@cameronwilliams9307]

Puts everything into perspective for me and what I’m dealing with. Someone always has it worse. Be thankful every day for everything you have bc it can be taken away.

[@leanneadams2549]

Exactly ! I felt so embarrassed after I seen this ! I mean WHO am I to complain about my life when this guy isn’t ?!?!?!?! Shame on me ! 😞

[@mardedios9427]

As a doctor, I have seen few cases of young people with spinal cord injury. Of course it is difficult for everyone to overcome a trauma like this, but I think it is more challenging, emotionally talking, for this joyful people, who are adventurous and enjoy outdoors and extreme activities. . Also, I admire how they have this energy, strenght and wild spirit which continues fighting hard for life and happiness. God bless all people who are enduring spinal cord injury.

[@chavale2]

STOP/ PREVENT the best Solution Dude

[@eileen1820]

Heartbreaking that his brother died. This guy is awesome. Super cute too

[@SPS_world_of_happiness]

Watching your story after my brother's spinal cord injury, I just wanted to know how a person can handle all this without any mental/emotional breakdown. Such a great story, I have learnt how to support my brother in future.

[@amandacook4144]

What an amazing story of perseverance! His mom is a true blessing and gift! The love he has for her says so much! I wish him the very best that life has to offer on this next journey of his life!

[@Wheelchairup]

I became a paraplegic at the age of 18, I turned 19 in ICU on life support in a coma. It has been 31 years and I can honestly say I’ve had a great life. Attitude is everything when something like this happens. I live independently and I do almost everything I did before. I may have to do things differently but I usually figure out a way to do the things I love. Honestly the toughest thing has been dealing with people that don’t know me. It’s the looks/stares and sometimes the words they will say to you. I’ve learned to just ignore it and show people I’m just like them, I just use a chair to get around.

[@matet1906]

Thankyou for sharing your amazing! I’m paraplegic about 1.5 years out from injury I’m 19yrs now and this is really fuckin tough idk how you do it 🙌

[@chrisreeves1547]

@@matet1906 I pray you are surrounded with love, encouragement, help ,and laughter.I pray God's shower's of blessings for your future.Amen.

[@xtdycxtfuv9353]

No gf?

[@Wheelchairup]

@@chrisreeves1547 thank you, I’m close to my family and they have been amazing over the years!

[@MrCmon113]

That reminds me that I should be pissed off more often. There's people, who lost the function of their dick right after becoming grown up and they still don't complain. I don't want to become like that. I want to be righteously outraged at the awfulness of the world.

[@kerrividler6571]

What a wonderful man, it warms my heart when I hear a young man say beautiful words about their Mums. He would probably never think he would experience both sides of the spectrum of disability. But also what an asset to the disability sector. An amazing spirit, an amazing man

[@chrissyandjanaable]

What an amazing man he is and so much love from his darling mum and friends and family.What an inspiration he will be for other rehab injuries and actually inspiring for people suffering from depression like me and learning to recover from 2year ankle injury.No doubt about having love and support surrounding you helps so much and of course our beloved animals.xo Kia Kaha from New Zealand

[@xscott4931]

Glad for you that you are in a place with such support. I live in the US and am my mother's carer. Wiped out every bit of savings any of us had.

[@joannewilson6847]

Ashley, you have a life to get out and live and you have a very special lady , your mum, whose got your back. Take care matey, xxxx

[@wazup80]

Go Ashley! You are such a bad ass! Your toughness mentally and physical is awesome! Wishing you all the greatest!!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you so much 💪🏽🙏🏼

[@biofreeze5232]

I give him a lot of credit he does better in every day life in a wheel chair then I do and I just have depression.

[@zerosleep657]

Keep strong my friend 💪

[@doxydad2818]

Sorry Tom. Me too

[@jodiliptrot8431]

Depression can be life changing too, as I’m sure you’ve experienced. I hope you’re feeling better now one year later :)

[@RedRose2355]

Its NOT "just depression"....my bf has it, I've seen it can be as debilitating as this, please don't discount your own challenges as "just", much live to you, please have a great life ahead of you

[@i.sybril]

❤️❤️❤️

[@brendas6509]

A friend of mine, close friend of my brother, a quadriplegic since he had polio at age 13, died recently at age 79. He was married to his second wife and had grown children. He controlled a huge, complicated wheelchair-type conveyance by blowing into a tube. He drew and painted-was a successful artist-by holding pens and brushes in his mouth. Used a computer. He was very, very seriously injured but with the physical help of others and the strength of his own personality , he lead a really great life. A man like you, with a zest for life, will too.

[@trav3104]

My brother just became a paraplegic after he severed his spinal cord a few days ago. I’m truly lost on how to remain a rock for him. But seeing this gives me hope he will find a rewarding life from a wheelchair. My heart is in pieces for him tho.

[@paulinemegson8519]

You be there as a sibling. Simple as that. You help if needed(ask first tho….ALWAYS ask), prepare for some explosions, and anger directed at you simply cos you’re there and just resolve not to bite back. You try to understand things from his pov, both emotionally and physically.

[@belindapaul9828]

So sorry to hear about your brother’s accident.❤ I hope the you are all experiencing a lot of love & support as you work through the trauma.

[@mememebeth]

It's great to see how much support you have!

[@g-bgcg]

What an amazing attitude this guy has. The love he has for his mom is so wonderful. Not sure if you ever heard of Joni Erickson -Tada from the U.S.A. She had a spinal cord injury when she was 17. She is a quadriplegic and in her 60’s now. She has a wonderful ministry of educating the world about people in wheelchairs. God turned her life into something so beautiful by looking at life and people in a different way. She has helped me to rejoice and be thankful when life seemed hopeless. Praying for you and your mom as your continue your journey. 🙏🏻

[@majoroldladyakamom6948]

Love, love, love Joni!!! She is the best! She also has a beautiful voice, sings, and is on daily radio programs around the U.S. and the World. Biggest heart in the World, and spreads God's love and the message of Salvation wherever she goes or you hear her voice. Would be awesome if they could strike up a friendship, even if only over Skype of ZOOM, as I didn't hear anything about God, our faith in Him, spirituality, Heaven, Scripture, Church, etc. Not judging, lest we be judged by the same mete and meter (measurements, same yard stick, if you will). Stay safe, from your eternal sister in Christ somewhere near Seattle and around the World, ok? Comment back, ok? 👏 🛐 ❤ 🛐 👏 🇺🇸 ⚘ 🙏❤🙏 ⚘ 🇺🇸

[@g-bgcg]

Deborah Kennedy: Hi Deborah, I hope you are safe living near Seattle. Jesus is coming soon!!!!! May we all be ready for that glorious day.

[@ebriggs3498]

I was going to recommend Joni to him also. @Ashley go to Joni and Friends.

[@carlycharlesworth1497]

Ash, I too suffered from a spinal cord injury in my lower spine. You are the first KZbinr I have seen who has such an injury. When I was 18 I injured myself in an accident at home. The pain was unbelievable yet my legs were numb and difficult to walk on. I kept falling down or collapsing because my legs wouldnt hold me up. The doctors told me that my spinal cord was badly damaged and they expected me to end up in a wheelchair before I was 25. Well i have only just gone into a wheelchair...and I'm 57! All the years inbetween I WALKED! I admire your tenacious attitude Ash, you fight back and make your body give you every damn ounce of strength it can.miracles happen every single day. Never give up, never back down, and keep a smile on your face at all times. You're a winner, with or without wheels! God bless you Ash. I will be praying for you. From a fan in South Wales. UK.

[@oceanstaiga5928]

Makes you appreciate the family and friends that stick with ya. When I had leukaemia my school friends didn’t drop me, they made sure I was up to date on all the things and my family was in hospital every single day. Takes a village and I’m thankful they all stayed so close.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Hope you have recovered well mate 🙏🏽

[@junespencer8285]

What a beautiful relationship between mother and son.. She loves him so much so unconditionally 💗 ❤ 💕

[@ashleyparkhurst5005]

I hope I get a chance to meet this guy someday! I've never met a guy with the same name as me let alone one is also disabled like myself.

[@Jdjustsaying]

Ashley Parkhurst you could go to the Attitude website and contact them directly. I’m sure he’d love to meet you too.

[@ashleyparkhurst5005]

Janet Donald as much as I would love to do that… I would be worried that he would think it was a little creepy! I’m not really sure what I would say either.

[@blessedbeyond2118]

@@ashleyparkhurst5005 tell him your story and lift him up and let him lift you up...Your story is NOT creepy Ash...Its your story and I am sure he will embrace you Blessings sweetie ...I have a Ash too...they are beautiful souls

[@ashleyparkhurst5005]

@@blessedbeyond2118 Yes, but what am I supposed to say… Hi my name is Ashley too, I think your ex-fiancé is really stupid. It's humbling that you're able to admit that you were vein before your accident. And oh by the way I think you're super cute! So what do you think about getting to know each other. All of that just sounds really corny!

[@ashleyparkhurst5005]

I found him on Facebook and sent him a message. So we’ll see if he says anything.

[@amberspeacefulplace5803]

LOVE him ❤️ his mom is so beautiful and those are real friends 💗 he's so adorable too.

[@kerry2921]

I love you Amber with your sexy self

[@missmee7210]

Thank you for all you do to serve others. My son has autism and having someone like you in his life would mean more than words can say. We need more humans like you in the world.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

Me too.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

I was a disability support worker before my accident and cared for 5 autistic young men and have all the time in the world for them so please send my love to your son 🙏🏽💙

[@Dennym240]

The determination in this man's life is out of this world. Im proud of him. It wouldn't surprise me if he was able to walk in the future. Anything is possible

[@TheMilune]

I follow Micheal Jeremiasz on facebook. He started tennis at age 6 and became paraplegic after a ski accident at age 20. He is now one of the most famous wheelchair athlete. Never give up.

[@emilyalvey9025]

Thank you for this video. Your video mirrors my brother’s struggles following his SCI, as well as the active lifestyle he lived prior to his injury. It’s comforting to know we aren’t alone. 💚

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you. The SCI community has been the best to express everything too and vent. Wish your brother all the best for me! 🙏🏼

[@olgaharris1103]

Telling people about the dangers of “FUN” is a much needed conversation. The young feel invincible, while not realizing the reality of injuries. Here’s hoping for a recovery of miraculous possibility. 🤗

[@OCRay1]

If he doesn’t have nerve pain he will be ok, honestly. When they took me off pain meds in the hospital in rehab I noticed a little pain in my left knee. That pain was tolerable for about 15 years although it was getting much worse and spreading. After that point as the pain progressed I was no longer able to exercise or even sit for a few hours at a time. It’s 24/7 pain that is torture and hits all over my hips and especially thighs and knee. It can be so severe that i am hospitalized. I can no longer go out and it has taken a toll on my body which causes other problems because of the stresses. Many people with spinal cord injuries don’t have this severe chronic neuropathic pain and they can lead decent lives and stay active. If that’s the case here then I wholeheartedly believe he will do fine. It’s by no means a easy injury to live with with or without pain, but without the pain a decent life is absolutely possible. Best of luck.

[@kgspvgsp7569]

You are 100 percent right, nerve pain is so debilitating 🥲

[@jenniferruth812]

It’s been a year since you posted and I’m wondering how you are. I’ve been in pretty severe sciatic pain for 1+ yr now. (History of back and sciatic injury and surgeries but I had 2 wonderful, minimal pain years until a year ago.) You’re right, this nerve pain is horrendous. I’m mostly home bound, on meds that get less and less effective over weeks and months. I’m trying 1 more thing before doing a spinal cord stim trial. Have you been diagnosed with CRPS? It sounds like it with the spreading pain you’ve experienced. Please know I’m thinking of you and understand your pain.

[@catman8670]

Never ever dive into water unless you know that there’s no obstacles and it’s deep enough!

[@thomasaura31]

I recently broke my c7 by jumping head first into water. Seriously, you have to be careful. I hope many people see this video and take these things seriously. I got lucky, I’ll make a 100% recovery

[@suziecreamcheese211]

Yes they always say feet first!

[@pattyhaskins9799]

Please make a channel, you have a story that just pulls you right in. I love your mom and your amazing friends. You are still here to motivate and help people all around the world! I can’t wait to see how that wheelchair doesn’t hold you back 🤩❤️

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you Patty. Am looking into it. Otherwise you can follow my progress on instagram @ashtheflash 🙏💙

[@grazialionti5677]

@@ashleytreseder9491 Hi Ashley, I want you to know that life is precious. You were put onto this world for a purpose and one day you will find out why. Don't let the wheelchair stop you from living life to it's fullest. Explore and find new ways to do things. Enjoy the little things in life, one day you will find yourself sitting back reminiscing. Never stop smiling 🙂 Sending you love from Ontario, Canada ❤ 🙏 💙

[@janjaf844]

I just want to hug his mom. She did an amazing job raising him. Im so Happy his buddies stuck around! You'll find love again because your an awesome genuine guy.

[@jaime-leeviney9835]

This man is so super handsome, funny and has such a kind personally 💜 What a catch! Any woman would be so lucky to have him. I hope he is still staying strong and positive today xo

[@clich126]

Whatever

[@xtdycxtfuv9353]

Not you though. Some other girl that definitely exists. Just like how all those girls existed for the men that die alone.

[@jaime-leeviney9835]

@@xtdycxtfuv9353 That's deep darling. No not for me, I have a lovely man and i am very happy ☺️💗

[@MrCmon113]

@@jaime-leeviney9835 I think he's alluding to many women disingeniously praising the attractiveness of men, to whom they are not indeed attracted to.

[@jaime-leeviney9835]

@@MrCmon113 Ohh i understand now thank you for making it clearer for me ☺️ I only say what i mean though 💗 I do hope he finds his soul mate one day. xo

[@hellohello4016]

What an incredible and inspirational young man, I'm so impressed. I wish him every blessing and happiness in the world :)

[@swyftninja8833]

God bless this man and everyone around him helping him acclimate to his new normal. My Grandad was a paraplegic so this really hits home for me. P.S. My Grandad was told he would never walk again, My Aunt was getting married and he was determined to "walk her down the isle and give her away" and by God!! He had a special frame made which he had to have physio for were talking months of intense work.. pain, tears, sweat... and he walked his daughter down the isle...

[@mjpartyof7784]

Just you wait doll- I have a good feeling you’re about to meet some incredible people and your life is gonna be completely different!! Just wait sweetie!! Good vibes headed your way!!

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Here's hoping 🤞 thank you 😁 🙏🏼

[@endeavouringit]

What fool would give a thumbs down, it just astounds me. What a wonderful story on a wonderful man, I wish you so much love and happiness in life !!! xox

[@wj5442]

I'ma Vegemite I think because they are sad. Well hoping that is that is why they do it.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you so much 🙏 💙

[@sherylbrown6943]

Beautiful mumma. You can have an amazing active life back to where you was .. ( just a little different approach to it ) mate . See you in the future hopefully cracking the records that You want to and can do . Love from Australia 🇦🇺 . Xx

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thanks so much Sheryl! 🙏🏼 I plan on it 💪🏽

[@robertwilliamson9255]

Ashley you are remarkable and amazing! After what you’ve been through your zest for life is incredible. You no doubt will overcome this handicap and will be an inspiration to many who don’t have your kind compassionate spirit!!

[@buglove515]

I'm a mother and the words about your mother brought me to tears. I'm disabled because of complications from a back surgery. My limitations are nothing compared to yours, I'm inspired by you for my kids!

[@pattykochenower4222]

God bless this mother and her 2 sons .... I believe Ash is so strong and so resilient because he’s doing this for his brother. ❤️

[@ashleytreseder9491]

100% I think of him constantly 💙🙏🏼

[@carolcarol3938]

Hi Ashley, I'm not sure that this will make sense, but you talked about something always happening for a reason....but still not being sure what that was. Watching your video I saw a man who put a lot of emphasis on physical strength (via working out/the gym/what you physically looked like).... Then I saw a man, after the accident, that grasped life with both hands and showed an enormous amount of personal/internal/emotional strength. I image that your video and your positive attitude to life will be something that will help many people who find themselves in similar situations, and perhaps the good you will do for others could be seen as the reason....that YOU are a man that is strong enough to take on the job of demonstrating to others (and yourself) that whatever the circumstances you find yourself in, you can make the best of it...and thrive. I wish you well in your continued journey in learning how to manage this next stage of life.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Wow Carol. Thank you so much. That means alot to me 🙏💙

[@vhead612]

24:30 "Mum's mum... Yeah, how do you say it? Mum's... I've always said it, never been afraid of, you know, being a mama's boy. She's beautiful. Mums my world. The most generous and kind, selfless person I've ever met in my life. She only tells me these things now that I'm older. But she would go years without buying a single item of clothing for herself. Just to give me and my brother everything that we ever needed. You know, LOVE MUM 😍👍" I totally agree. My mom is the same. She now has my kids for short term while I am going through debilitating mental illness. You are so strong and inspirational! Stay strong and continue to be an inspiration. Which is only natural. "Hit the ground running" is really what I see. Best of luck and well wishes to you and your friends and family.

[@drimonitiehome421]

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[@Hypnohealersarah]

To anyone suffering, May God bless you and your journey. May all beings be at peace and find love. ❤️

[@bulkbrit]

What an inspiration. I have a degenerative spinal condition that will put me in a wheelchair one day. But watching Ash deal with his situation, without time to prepare, gives me hope of something close to a normal life when my time comes. He’s a credit to his wonderful mother who obviously raised a resilient, resourceful and adaptable son. She should be proud of herself as well as him. Keep working, Ash. You’re a star

[@tiagoT_]

Stay strong Ashley! Wishing the best for you!

[@bekaanderson5122]

It's heartbreaking that his fiance left him. I'm just glad that he learned now that she wouldn't have lasted through the part of the vow that says "through sickness and in health". He'll find his Queen one day and she'll show him a love that he's never known.💜

[@kerry2921]

Women always leave at the first sign of trouble, they are evil creatures

[@annt7384]

I hope his fiancée didn’t feel pressure to be his main carer as that is a full-time job.

[@ellaella5537]

Honestly, I think he understood her. He stated that he was vain before, perhaps he thought he would have reacted the same way?

[@prplAlliekit]

You're an inspiration Ashley. I'm happy you're not giving up. I'm a paraplegic myself so I know how hard the struggle can be. I was injured in a car accident in 2007. It's been 12 almost 13 years now and sometimes it's hard but we just have to keep going and never give up.

[@trship6274]

The reason you are here my friend is obvious - you are a teacher. For reason only God knows, this is your journey. The wisdom, kindness, and understanding you can impart to others is your service and gift to your fellow people.

[@ashleytreseder9491]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Oxizee]

I am having anxiety/PTSD disorder. Through the years, i know how important mums are. Love them as long as you can. Time flies fast.

[@robertyanes4751]

What a absolute inspiration. Family, and good friends mean everything. Wonderful true Mother. Keep reaching it's there for you. Your incredibly positive outlook will carry you far. Bless you Sir!🙏🙋‍♂️

[@chilitocluclu]

He is so cute, I hope he finds a good girl

[@honeybuzzard2843]

He will

[@ashleytreseder9491]

🙏🏼🤞 💙

[@J.A.7]

YES HE WILL. HIS HEART HASNT CHANGED REGARDLESS OF THE ACCIDENT. PRAYING FOR A LOVE BEYOND ALL MEASURES FOR HIM. GOD WILL LEAD THE WAY JUST WATCH AND SEE. ❤💞🙏

[@ashleytreseder9491]

@@J.A.7 thank you so much 🙏🏼

[@higgaroc]

He definitely will. Such a cutie and such good vibes all around.

[@miamoore1666]

I’m in horrendous pain if I don’t move at all I’m ok, but trying to move is literally like being stabbed repeatedly in my back. It’s so painful you can’t move you can’t cry you just sob. I have a morphine pump that eventually will ease this but not take it away. But watching your story has made me want to try harder to Appreciate what I do have. I can go to the bathroom on my own when I want to, I can change positions on my own, I can feed myself all these things I took for granite. Watching your struggle is heartbreaking. But watching you Fight is Motivational and life saving For Me. I will no longer do optical racing I won’t even be able to walk around the block, but I Can Walk. You’ve really woke me up I was thinking about checking out. But now I’m counting my blessings. I’m sorry that watching you struggle gave me hope but I see you fight which shows me I can fight. Thank you for your video and don’t be crushed about your girlfriend your Person is out there and when you find her it will be unbelievable. I’ve been married 31 years and my person is Everything to me. Hang in there, please.

[@ven0006]

What a man, what a mum, what great mates. This guy has the total package. He is rich in so many areas of his life. Damn what a great story.

[@puppylove80110]

Ash, your positive attitude will carry you far. Continue being you and going and moving forward. Great mom! Great friend's!

[@lifewithduchenne3030]

Hi Ashley, I am so sorry this has happened to you. My son has duchenne muscular dystrophy and has slowly lost his ability to do anything it is definitely hard. He is now 19 and can only use his hands a little. I wish you the very best💚

[@ashleytreseder9491]

Thank you. All the best wishes in the world for your son 🙏🏼

[@Kriistiee]

Imagine leaving your fiance when they became disabled, I could never

[@Dawnie-bi6qu]

Kriistiee. The heartless bitch

[@TheBeingReal]

So easy to say.

[@Dawnie-bi6qu]

Thebeingreal yes it is easy to say! I should work on being less judge mental

[@Kriistiee]

@@TheBeingReal depending on the type of disability yes, but this person is still a functioning human being with thoughts and feelings. They arent defined by their wheelchair its just merely a future they have to accept.

[@khongbietsao4846]

@@Dawnie-bi6qu you can't say that when I was 22 have car aciden C4 my fiancé leaving me but I have to let her go is good for her but my fiancé keep the kid for me thanks her very much bcuz on that time she got the right to do anything whit her life

[@roslyndrayton6716]

What an amazing guy. I work in disabilities as a Support Worker and it gives me a Great feeling of gratitude when I give support to my clients. I feel you are such a positive guy, Ashley and you will make a Great advocate for your future clients. I wish you all the Best and your awesome Mum!

[@patrickwilson4902]

YOUR MOMMY IS THE BEST!!!❤ I LOST MY MOMMY OF LUNG CANCER!!! IN 2012.. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOMMY AND FAMILY AND FRIENDS...WITH LOTS OF LOVE FROM INDIANAPOLIS, INDIANA. GO COLTS💗

[@TheBroknPezDispenser]

I swear life is so unpredictable.

[@cherrybubbles2]

I’d love to keep following Ash’s journey. Does he have a KZbin channel?

[@desireeselim3219]

He has a fb page called Move mountains for Ash...

[@Nettiezoo]

At the bottom of the video description are links to his social media

[@kpwmini]

You are an amazing young man. It’s great to see your support system that is in place. I feel you will go far in life and not let this accident hold you back. God bless you and everyone that helps you. ❤️🙏🏻

[@heidimeinert9993]

Ash, I am writing you from FL, USA. I watched your story and it has inspired me. I have had my own struggles in life...some of which I'm still fighting to overcome and believing with the right people encouraging me I WILL be victorious. I have gone to nursing school and afterwards things just went downhill in life but I still feel called to that field and to love and help others. I saw something beautiful in your spirit and resilience and altho I am far from you, I would like to start a friendship with you and hopefully we can both encourage one another ...I believe you will be restored fully physically as tho your accident never happened and with the faith I have in my God, I will pray and believe for you this will come to pass. Your friend Heidi

[@dradkinschiro]

Ashley I am a TBI traumatically brain-injured person. My first one was October 11th 1978. I've had several since then. When I woke up from the first one I never considered that I wouldn't get back to some form of normal. I was a experienced special ed teacher. That served me very well. As I was going through therapy I did everything they told me and more than they told me. I never had a concept of not recovering as fully as possible. 13 years later I graduated as a doctor of Chiropractic. You can do and become anything that you set your mind to. I'm so proud of you for being that persistent guy. You are a prime example of an overcomer. God bless you and your mom and everybody whose lives you touch through this recovery.

[@pusongpinaysaamerica6485]

Keep on living to the fullest Ash!!! Don’t never give up? Learning the new norms now is hard; anything new is hard but positivity is the right attitude! God bless you and everything that you do!